What It Means To Be A Gentleman Today

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The term gent or gentleman has become ubiquitous in magazines, blogs and on TV. Overall it is used for all kinds of men and it’s very hard to tell what the meaning actually is and what it entails.
The Original Gentleman
1. A man of high social status and wealth
2. A polite or formal way to refer to a man.
3. A man of noble birth or someone of a royal household.
4. A man of good social standing or a member of the House of Commons.
5. A man with a general good societal position.
We came up with 11 hallmarks of a gentleman today.
02:23 A gentleman is imperfect.
02:36 A gentleman has high standards.
02:48 A gentleman is well dressed.
03:08 A gentleman has good manners.
03:30 A gentleman is open minded.
03:54 A gentleman is interested and informed.
04:18 A gentleman’s actions match his words.
04:35 A gentleman treats people with respect.
04:56 A gentleman recognizes the difference between arrogance and confidence.
05:16 A gentleman wheels his power purposefully.
05:31 A gentleman gives the benefit of a doubt to other people.
Being a gentleman sets a very high bar and it's not a definitive thing. It’s a lifetime pursuit of self-awareness, motivation, and improvement. Now all of that comes with challenges. Even though we have the best intentions, sometimes if we are stressed or if we get up on the wrong foot or in a bad mood we may treat people in a way that is not gentlemanly. If that happens, own it, apologize and be sincere and people will respect you more for it and understand it.
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[@Wondering_Ghoul]

A gentleman follows the campsite rule with everything: leave it as good or better than you found it. This goes for all aspects of life.

[@drewabbott6993]

I was raised with this as a rule

[@brutustantheiii8477]

WISDOM, right here. Very glad to be the 200th like

[@olbradley]

In that sense does being a Boy Scout make me a gentlemen by default?

[@eliegbert8121]

but what is "better" defined as? it is a baseless and meaningless word if you have no moral standard.

[@James_Tharp]

@@olbradley as a fellow scout, you decide. Do you follow the oath and law? If so I’d say yes. A scout is morally straight, if so then you’re a gentleman.

[@studiomucha9965]

A gentleman doesn't say he is a gentleman but he tries to be one

[@Eric-sy1xu]

"A fool thinks himself to be a wise man, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool" - William Shakespeare. Thought it was quite apt.

[@Eric-sy1xu]

William Holden :p

[@jonathanthethird52]

Layton disagrees.

[@nicholaswood821]

That is so important; you’ll never hear a truly humble person say “ I am humble “.

[@artemis2545]

Yes i agree, actions define that

[@gnahapet]

You might like The True Gentleman by John Walter Wayland (Virginia, 1899): "The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe."

[@MikeDubya]

In my book, this is the best description of a gentleman.

[@Dominik-kx6il]

this text is too long, otherwise i would put it on my shoulder as a tattoo :)

[@scottalbers2518]

Great quote.

[@dr.s.p.]

That quote succinctly defines a gentleman more than the video.

[@ZunarZulfiqar]

I've been this way my whole life. Even when walking through junior high. I've gotten quite a bit of nonapproval through my years about the way I am. People often say that I "should just be a kid." As you might expect, I've been the lone wolf my whole life.

[@MrToftheL]

If I were a father I would show this video to my son.

[@rizwanalikhan1755]

yeah me too

[@anonymousmessenger23]

I'll share this video to my little brother when he gets older. He'll learn a lot from it

[@Ingrid0410]

Consilium i will show this to my sons thank you

[@123bojac]

I loved this subject. I've been called a gentleman throughout my life (I'm 63 now) and I can give the credit to my father. As a young boy and teen I would always observe how he treated my mother and others. Although he and I didn't get into many conversations about character or such I still learned a great deal. I plan on leaving a letter to my 7 year old Grandson with these words of wisdom, to be given to him when I pass away. I consider my son to be one also. I believe he did like I did. He learned and became one through observation. By the way, I certainly don't hit all 11 points on the mark but I do try. Lets spread this to our younger men when ever the opportunity arise.

[@natpadget]

Write that letter today! Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

[@MuhammadAamir1]

Can you share it with us too? Thanks in anticipation

[@yashuacanno8019]

"A gentleman doesn't argue simply for the sake of being right." I believe this to be one of the most important lessons everyone should learn. If you are correct that's fine, however, if you are wrong, then you need to be able to accept that and rethink your current belief on the subject, keeping the new information you just learned in mind.

[@babbar123]

Arguably one of the best videos I have seen in a long time. Very decent and very mature messages are presented in this video. Keep it up.

[@kathrynpasteur8131]

I do wish there were more gentlemen these days. Great job Raphael!

[@MrJackrockerman]

i become..

[@axelmohammad5864]

Yeah... On these days now it's Just fuckboy and rude boys

[@NTHNCSGOContent]

Dilan Matthews Yes, lets be plain racist for no reason :>

[@cm725]

A L Vo it really goes both ways Men and Women would have to work together on this. We have to acknowledge and reward the good things about each other and get rid of the negatives which will be hard because anything negative gets all of the attention these days.

[@orbitingsentientsatellite4361]

DI ON i as a man usually will have to lead the lady into acting like one, and please dont get offended, its basic biology. If a man leads a lady, the lady will follow, however there are women out there who are leaders and can inspire a following, and i applaud those women.

[@charlotteice5704]

Honestly, I really, really appreciate you showing a more positive version of masculinity (instead of the bossyness and toxicity often perceived as masculine) as well as its cultural roots on your channel. I think that the concept of the gentleman is not old-fashioned and backwards but instead a vision of masculinity perfectly suited to today's world and as I said, I really appreciate that you showcase how this vision of the old-school gentleman suits today's ideals.

[@LittleLouieLagazza]

“The True Gentleman” The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe. - John Walter Wayland

[@AD-gp8fq]

Watching the gentleman's gazette is a real gamechanger for me. Working during the day in pyjama's at the operation room is fine, but dressing up the rest of the time, at home, or on my way to work has become a lot of fun lately. Thanks for all your superb videos!

[@slavestanchev1518]

I must add this to the list: A gentleman is not defined by the clothes that he is wearing, because i have seen many well dressed individuals but they were not even close to the definition of a gentleman

[@terrywestbrook-lienert2296]

Agreed

[@thejohn6912]

Ivan M thats not entirely true though, a gentleman may care about his appearance more than others, but don’t pretend like you’re going to get dressed in a full suit just to go to walmart

[@dandysmecatholique]

@@thejohn6912 lol I did that last weekend

[@neitherlink6612]

The John being well dressed also implies being able to dress according to the occasion.

[@lamedrawings]

@@thejohn6912 I wouldn't wear a full suit, rather a nice and ironed dress shirt will be more than enough.

[@piyakhebisonii1001]

I'm a big fan of of being a gentleman! It fits my personality smoothly! Team Gentleman all day and tomorrow!

[@Jessie_Helms]

One thing I disagree on. A gentleman doesn’t pursue perfection, because perfection is a bad goal. Excellence- doing the best you can with what you have/know- on the other hand is a great goal.

[@yunarukami14]

I agree. Perfection isn’t possible realistically

[@lvch1560]

A female version of your channel would be dope. Might get a lot of criticism but it would be cool to see

[@hotcoffee6911]

Lance Evangelister you are spot on ,,,,

[@garlicgirl3149]

Lance Evangelister I have asked once. No response. I asked my friends why I found on You Tube 6 channels on being a gentleman and zero on being a lady. I don't care if feminist are offended. There are those of us who are confident in our skin of being a lady and be a woman who accomplishes goals at the same time. I can only hope.

[@masontaylor7708]

This kind of thing has been on my mind too. I went to a fantastic barber the other day that was the true, A1 gentlemanly experience. Wood paneled room, fireplace, complimentary alcoholic beverage. I then found myself wondering, "what's the womanly counterpart to this?" There such a cult of personality around the idea of being a "Gentleman" but I struggle to think of the female equivalent. I feel like there's a really good discussion here as to why isn't a thing, or, if there is, what even is it? Everyone deserves to take pride in their gender identity.

[@dandysmecatholique]

@@masontaylor7708 being a lady?

[@gazebo9730]

he could have his wife do it and call it the ladie’s tribune

[@paulbyron1359]

Your values and advice are completely correct. I agree and try to do those things. I just find that society and history judge people by broad social class based on wealth. Somebody like Sir Alex Ferguson who is wealthy and knighted will be remembered as an upper class "gentleman" whereas he is pretty much the opposite. And, say, our poor grandfathers as working class "men" even though they may have been the epitome of polite gentlemanliness but happened to be poor.

[@Cuervi617]

A toast to all of the gentlemen in the making (incl. myself). Thanks GG!

[@MrShinobi797]

Own your Wrongs, Apologize and be Sincere #Gentleman

[@marekeos]

That's not being a gentleman. That's just being a regular, decent human being.

[@neoyum9699]

One measure of a gentleperson is how they behave when noone is looking.

[@PlanetYokoshima]

A gentleman is one who's self-assured and respecting, reserved and cool, calm and gentle. Pleased to always be of help and to do goodness.

[@henrygergis6494]

This is one of the best vids made by you in my opinion. Thanks

[@christophercarnahan922]

If only more of todays mondern men took note of such things, i'm a patient man but even i get fed up with the lack of respect these men have, no only for themselves but those around them.

[@RedcoatsReturn]

A very well considered and comprehensive definition of a gentleman for the modern context without losing the most important elements of good behaviour and taste. Well done!

[@sandyschannel6917]

I salute you sir, you have just perfectly described a gentleman by conduct. Well done!

[@aldoholladay8025]

This is my new favourite channel. Keep up the good work sir.

[@arthurveo3500]

A gentleman is a gentle man

[@MegaTubetiger]

A very admirable exposé on who and what a true gentleman is. I especially appreciate the spiritual dimension of your reasoning and encouragement to others via this particular video. Thanks so much and keep the great work up!

[@SeanCLewis-qp6xn]

Sven, I've been following your channel for a few months now and I will say it is absolutely fantastic! The information that you provide and the manner in which you deliver it is perfect! This is my go to vlog for ideas. Thank you for what you do.

[@glenbobnick4192]

I really appreciate your message. It’s timeless but especially important today.

[@IntendingTruth]

Great video, Raphael! It's nice to hear your view on the modern gentleman.

[@gastondeveaux3783]

I think this is very well presented. This would be a nice guide for any father to teach his sons.

[@-smp-scientificmethodpersp838]

"Money and position can't buy you class" yes, indeed. thank you. This is what separates us socially. Your video is... Excellent is the right word to use here. Excellence inspired; the virtue of excellence.

[@JM-jd7yp]

What an uplifting video. These values are timeless are the true mark of the civilised individual. A very worthwhile project. Thank you for making this short but important film.

[@steelhere5519]

What it means to be a gentleman - "Respect yourself and others."

[@avpimdb]

Sven, thanks for the upload.

[@rabbitgregory9289]

Excellent guidance for everyone.

[@FenxFX]

Nice video Sven, I agree with all your points.

[@een_schildpad]

Really love these thoughts on what it means to be a gentleman! It's something I've been pondering recently and this is resonates with me. It seems that the mark of a gentleman is in how they treat others. I aspire to be a gentleman that can both show respect and empathy for others while also having grit, determination, and strength.

[@nikcertified8778]

very good video as always! very true on many levels as I have experienced many of the same things you mention!

[@dionaditya3820]

thanks sven for reminding me to always keep on my character. because when im stressed and angry, i tend to be more aggressive and hostile towards people. it is a good advice to own it, apologize and be sincere even though it is hard sometimes when your ego got between you and the people you love

[@bryangarza5585]

This is a very brilliant interpretation of a modern-day gentleman. With how things are in the world treating others with dignity and respect goes a long way especially to those who are less fortunate than others be humble and grateful for what you have.

[@benandrick4870]

Awesome definition of a gentleman.

[@Mestrinox]

I just found out this channel. Its amazing all the tips you give. It brings joy to my heart that there could be more good men nowadays.

[@steel4331]

I love this! I have so much to work on, but I definitely want to be a good man, an Honest, Integrital, Virtuous, Christlike, Polite, Loving, Genuine, and True Man.

[@williamcreitz7759]

Fantastic-and oh so needed-video Sven. This should be required viewing for every young man.

[@davidalen9279]

excellent...just lovely...one of the more positive clips I have seen and with excellent points...thank you kindly sir!

[@wilhinds8144]

I totally love this video. Amen you are a true Gentleman.

[@tulsiram6144]

My life realling changing by seeing gentleman's gazzate , now I am seeing difference in me , and also people around me .lots of good wishes and love from india

[@NochSoEinKaddiFan]

That is very very close to my definition of a gentleman and I aspire to master the individual parts that make you a valuable person to your environment. Still, I strive for this kind of perfection for the sake of it, not to gather compliments. What makes it quite hard to keep this kind of composure together is an environment that mistakes this for being reserved, a snob or sees a less agressive way of communicating as a weakness, not an unconditioned toll of respect towards the conversation partner. Being respectful in my eyes is one of the most important and at the same time one of the hardest things to master. :) Thank you very much for this video, it was very uplifting and reassuring!

[@rennyzero420]

I like this mans delivery... Very Smooth operations. Thanks

[@Rafael-dt8uy]

That was a great speech Raphael, congratulations.

[@thomynator6002]

Das Schönste auf KZbin! The intro makes me so happy!

[@rojoification]

thanks for the lesson- striving day to day to spread the gentleman philosophy- thanks Sven!

[@glduncan68]

Outstanding video! Really appreciate your posting this. Points #1 and #9 are particularly important to me.

[@lindombatha282]

Great job Raphael, thank you for the advice.

[@Ivan_savior]

Your videos have been outstanding lately, Raphael! Keep up the great work!

[@davidhardwick3816]

Excellent video, definitely something to strive for!

[@oliverkey1435]

I'm glad that I have fit approximately half of these traits. As an early teenager, I intend to culture and improve myself as much as I can before the age of 18, so I am ready to become a fully fledged gentleman during the course of my career. Thank you for your guidance, Raphael.

[@christopherfoley2819]

Love it when you illustrate using the Apparel Arts images.

[@harveygoldberg5817]

Amazingly succinct summary ... Bravo! And I think every word should go just as true for the ladies .... 👍🏼👍🏼

[@airnashville3883]

Just discovered your channel and I enjoy your insights! Keep up the excellent work.

[@michaelg8066]

Well said, Sir!

[@felixmarklund4794]

Excellent! I love this. Thank you!

[@b9904]

Thank you for this.

[@Michael-xl8dz]

YES!! YES !! VARY, EYE OPING! SO MUCH TO WORK ON FOR MYSELF. Thank you, Sir.

[@gentlemansgazette]

You're welcome!

[@martinmoore8216]

Beautiful. Aspirational. Thank you. M

[@frankbruno7122]

I've Been enjoying your work Sven. Many thanks for doing this! Very best regards, Frank Bruno from Boulder, Colorado

[@zohaibasadacademiesofficial]

Great video Mr. Raphael!

[@user-Jon526]

Thank you for the amazing knowledge good sir.

[@TimberWolfsDen]

Love your channel, my man.

[@xiomaradickison2272]

What an amazing video, it could only have been created by an amazing young gentleman as yourself! I am a mature lady and can say that these guidelines apply to both genders. I wish there were more people like you in our world, maybe you will inspire a new generation of real men. I have already subscribed and will link your videos to my son. Wishing you the very best in all your endeavors.

[@gentlemansgazette]

We are grateful for your kind words and support!

[@jamesthacoolcat9926]

Awesome video this was on another level from anything else on youtube

[@pcarmical]

Great video, Raphael.

[@pepperwdr]

Nicely done Sir, nicely done..

[@christophercadenhead4430]

Great advice sir!

[@jean-lucdefreynes7745]

Thank you to teach us how a gentleman should think.

[@TheBartLEGEND]

Great video Sven!

[@TKnightcrawler]

Great video and subject matter.

[@PlanetYokoshima]

I'm homeless and more a gentleman than many... proud to have chosen this path, of knowledge and sincerty, goodness and kindness. Never felt better about myself until I decided learning to be decent. Needn't of money when you're decent a man.

[@sonyfrancois9647]

Great video, you nailed it. Thx

[@jeffhreid]

Good video. Well said

[@jonkomatsu8192]

Excellent and well voiced ideas. Mahalos!

[@TheTimeDetective42]

Mate I don't need your tips, just listening to them, I was born a gentleman. Love ur channel btw. WOW!... can't agree with all of them, its hard to save the world but i like the one about being imperfect.

[@kevin-jg5nq]

And a gentleman looks dapper!

[@JohnnyC10071959]

Well thought out and well presented.

[@lucasjordan8105]

I agree. I am a person who is constantly trying to improve my personality so I can be more respectful to others. I remember one girl told me “Lucas you’re not like those guys, you’re a man Lucas, a gentleman.” I felt very good and flattered m.

[@dlee645]

Wise words.

[@beckettchawla_6339]

Thank You for the excellent video old sport

[@carlingas666]

Excellent advise

[@pandaxxgamming2761]

this was a great veido ! thank you sir

[@anthonydaquino6934]

We need more voices like yours reminding us of these timeless values that are being lost in a post-modern maelstrom of selfish decadence and PC tyranny! Thank you!!!!

[@JeffToorish]

Very well done.

[@georgemanning6217]

With a nod to Hemingway, my own working definition of a gentleman is being superior to your former self.

[@dagmar-wg8mb]

You are a gentleman!

[@Ben-wz3mk]

“The forebearing use of power does not only form a touchstone, but the manner in which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is a test of a true gentleman.” -Robert Edward Lee

[@stephenharper5160]

Excellent. It's what I strive to do.

[@brettthorndike1079]

Raphael is a True Gentleman😊

[@LitlleBBoy]

Nice Video Raphael! What I see is when you act like a gentleman you also get treated different. For example when people know you and see you're in a hurry they let you pass waiting in line. Just to mention being a gent isn't just about working for all the others, no you also receive specal treatment. It's probably because you also treat all the others different than expected. Over all being a gent is most of the time a win-win way to live.

[@JamesRDavenport]

A gentleman strives to attain wisdom throughout his life, as well as the good sense of when to offer what he has learned to others.

[@sub222marathon]

They need to show these videos to high school students. They would be a great teaching aid for HS seniors about to head out into the world, and who have probably never had any lessons like these before.