what it’s like having the rarest personality in the world | INTJ

[@thelydshow]

Thanks for watching! Let me know if you're a fellow INTJ ;) also kind of random but check out my music on soundcloud: soundcloud.com/thelydshow

[@smalltownautosalesbg]

It’s interesting how few INTJ’s there are. I am an INTJ and I have never met any others.

[@jankovac9165]

my dear, I've listened only first minute of your story and immediately went here to write my comment. Because you are telling MY story, word by word and the same "awakening" happened to me in march 2020. i am the male intj in my middle age btw. Now back to video

[@jankovac9165]

well, remember this: you are not to be a one-woman show for the rest of your life, because you are a Woman Intj and you can do your own child anytime, and this is all what you will need in your life to feel true happiness and satisfaction. Dont miss it, career is only 2nd priority later!

[@TheOctodread]

Intj here, in which one of your 4 current job you sliced your finger? XD

[@thelydshow]

@@TheOctodread HAHA nah that was just me cutting bread... how stupid

[@jorich9176]

true intj's have taken the test multiple times because they don't know if it's 100% correct or if they messed up while taking the test

[@imshawk4282]

Exactly

[@concii888]

THAT'S ME AUSHAHAHBA

[@saraferreiraelmoustarhafir8275]

MEE

[@H0wlrunn3r]

Facts. I’ve taken it dozens of times over the years... never got anything but INTJ every time.

[@dg798]

Omg that's me I've taken tests likes 4 Times same result imma take it again

[@yvnor]

Most frustrating is when it's your family that don't understand you.

[@madbros5613]

I can relate, because I am the but one only introvert and the only intuitive in the whole goddamn family. Life was hell for me.

[@rvp9978]

Hell this is it

[@roumaissavds8606]

@@madbros5613 i'm an INTJ women my dad an ISFJ, my mom an ESFP

[@sevgi6026]

My family often says that im annoying, that i think im smart when im actually not, or that i flex to much my logic. They literally have ENOUGH of me, and thinks that my taughts make no sens. Now i know why, but im going to keep this a secret before they tell me to be more modest-

[@madbros5613]

@@roumaissavds8606 I am INTJ, my father ESFP and my mom ESTJ, my older brother ESTP and my younger brother ESFP XD. Makes no sense!. Funny enough I am really close with my younger brother(esfp) we really understand eachother well!

[@BrandonDeon]

"If you're a waste of my time I won't spend time with you". As an INTJ myself, that just made you so much more attractive

[@marvindroid3865]

Oh you are an INTJ as well... I guess that explains your death stare

[@ThirtyAughtSix]

Can confirm

[@jasonwilson1981jmw]

#AccurateAF

[@xarcalone5040]

yup....

[@pac-sk9tn]

hey brandon I typed you via micro expressions ur actually an entj

[@eden8743]

The worst is when you get stuck in a class or new job, you analyse everyone and realise you cant vibe with anyone. Not that they suck, just not feeling it you know. Man its a drag.

[@thelydshow]

i relate 1000%

[@ginaladosinsky7038]

No, they suck

[@red-headedabigail5794]

@@thelydshow I’m an ENFP and INTJ is that even possible I only like to do work that is for my benefit.

[@chicxulub2947]

@@ginaladosinsky7038 They should vibe with us or be boring standard NPCs. That's reality. No wonder it's called natural born leader.

[@samanthanchabeleng4617]

I relate... because I don't vibe with anyone in my class

[@mamu7976]

'Most annoying employee in the workplace'. LOL. You are 100% INTJ. Trying to change the system, pointing out the flaws. Telling the brutal truth.

[@heidi1111]

Sounds like me! Lol

[@crit2074]

Yes, in my last job I was almost fired multiple types. And in the end they kept me because, although I was very "annoying" it showed that I really cared for the company. Except that later I fired myself to do what they did there with, less people, less resources and thrice the productivity.

[@crit2074]

@Maria jose sometimes people will think that we are showing off "how smart we are" by making this sort of questions and then proposing sollutions while everyone else either is angry that we are exposing problems or does not see the point we are trying to make. After all what is a 0.05% cost reduction per week in 12 months of operation, right?

[@mamu7976]

INTJs (2.5%) can learn self development and learn emotional intelligence and this will help them with others at work though: -Find INFJs and ENFJs (people high in emotional intelligence) and copy their style. - smile more (counter act the INTJ stare). - slow down when discussing your ideas- take people with you. If they understand, they won't misjudge you. (intuition makes leaps and some people struggle to follow INTJs). - compliment people more. - telling the truth is important, but pick your battles. Some people won't change, so you may be wasting your time. Also, the truth hurts and some people take things personally (particularly managers). - for every negative criticism, state two positives -Listen first. -Aim to gain rapport first before making your points. In the words of Theodore Roosevelt : “People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care” -More empathetic statements like, 'Sorry to hear that' (make sure you mean it) -Don't speak in paragraphs. Speak in sentences, giving the other person a chance to speak. Keep sentences short, particularly with sensor people, as they may find it difficult to make intuitive leaps - After speaking, ask 'does that make sense?' - don't ask the 'why' question. INTJs love this question but apparently the masses find the question too intense? Apparently it would be better to say, 'it seems like you are doing X this way, can you explain your thought process?' Gosh, the excess words really goes against everything about INTJ efficiency. LOL

[@pinkmiiho]

Wow i just did part time in a restaurant and i keep annoying all the workers because of the truth i told about those flaws in their ways of working

[@NedZarathoustra]

Fellow female INTJ here, the worst for me is when I try to actually try some of the other people's zones, I just sit and analyze how empty their conversations are, and then just head straight out back to my den, to feed my brain and restore the lost neurons...

[@carolyngarman1422]

I hear you. 👍🏻

[@Zen36977]

Agree 100%

[@yasyasyasssiii]

10000000% relatable

[@YoursTrulyThelma]

👌🤣 When I go to a family function etc, on the drive there I run conversations by my husband like a plan to somehow fit into the boring topics I could care less about. I randomly blurt out "did you know sharks have two stomachs?"🤣🤣

[@Prometheus7272]

😂 As an ENTP I can relate to this. I sometimes hear people speak and think what are they actually talking about right now. I always try to spice up small talk beyond the boring stuff. People respond pretty well to it. My casual conversations might seem to lack content but for the right people they can intuit the deeper meaning hidden in them.

[@doosek7]

Lydia: „INTJ women usually wear all black or gray” Me: “wtf that’s not true, how would it be possible???” * i look down and realize I wear all gray and yesterday wore all black” Me: “oh sh*t ”

[@alizlovescherry]

Invalid for me. I wear the brightest colors possible to mask my black as coal heart 🤷‍♀️

[@WhiteSakura59]

I hate the color yellow

[@ryynsic]

I always wore black clothes😂

[@vsneagaa2345]

wow thats me now

[@LilZen101]

My roommates once told me that my wardrobe was the color of a bruise: black, navy blue, gray🤣🤣🤣

[@dimaalobaidy9973]

I think "feeling someone's energy " is an INTJ thing , I do it too

[@DanielTunnicliffe]

I do it all the time and I'm pretty sure I'm an INTP.

[@staerfish]

bruh. yall generalize everything u do. any type can have any traits, any motivations and any quirks

[@littlelaurwashere]

Fellow female intj here, I feel like I'm watching myself.

[@harrietmcgonigal9436]

yesss it's so nice knowing there are other female intjs who understand bwahaha

[@Yourfeetarestinky155]

Exactly

[@Es-jr2fh]

Fellow female INTJ here as well, you were so right when you said how we kind of know when we gonna vibe with others, like we don’t know why but we just know

[@staerfish]

@@Es-jr2fh That’s not an INTJ trait. INTJ collect data and generalize the concept. If you’re unable to analyze the reason then how can you say your strongest functions are the same as INTJ’s?

[@CarlosRodriguez-nj6jp]

INTJ here. I'm just glad there are other annoying people like me out there somewhere.

[@bloodybunnieb6349]

I’m a 15 year old INTJ girl. And while I’m proud of being different and weird, I do not enjoy the extreme stereotypes that INTJ’s can’t have empathy or emotion. Cognitive functions are a thing.

[@Sophisticated-Alien]

@@bloodybunnieb6349 yes and feelings do come at the third slot for intj even tho they're introverted feelings but like ... they're there

[@Itzme_Shinyyy]

Yeah you're right! Even if I am an INTJ, I am emotional and empathetic. Maybe I use my Fi more than Te, so I am way more introverted than normal INTJs and more emotional. This gets me into depression many times and I get out of it through Se or Te. Maybe I am a more mature INTJ.

[@gdusbejdjdjhd]

​@@Itzme_Shinyyy, bro, same...

[@staerfish]

These personality types are overly romanticised

[@Fluffytiger-qp4xo]

Ngl I'm feeling at home in this comment section

[@lilag8535]

It’s a safe place lol 🙂

[@mainecoon5459]

Same 💕

[@maisalbalkhi4939]

Same here. I’m like I have friends now 😂

[@infiresbaby2859]

Same...

[@cherryspice1011]

same ikr? These random people know me better than my own family and friends

[@astra_elysian]

As an intj woman, people always address me as a weird person. Im always moved a lot so i have to build many personalities everytime. Old soul, masculine woman, shy to socialize. Its hard. Also, every place I've been i see no good friends for me to be with. I never had a bestfriend. Ending up making me hate people with too much feels-radiating energy. But i found a group of good friends still in contact, i will never forget them. Right now depression really hit me hard for years with crushed dreams.

[@requiemforanali]

“Masculine woman” yeah now I get why everyone assumes I’m a lesbian 🙄 help

[@andreashalay7473]

I find it very easy to connect with INFPs. They tend to be genuinely curious about who a person is beyond the facade, and can challenge me with different perspectives, particularly around feelings. (Of course, it is very INTJ to try and find a pattern to solve the 'social problem'.)

[@apea9117]

Let's be beasties

[@RougeLesbian]

INTJ here. It makes work interesting. People either love me or hate me, and theres no in between. I didnt realize this was all based on my personality which is comforting actually because its literally something I cant just fix, so I can give myself a break.

[@greenhoodie]

Storytime: I got accused at work by my manager of "always needing to be right". I updated her that it wasn't that I always needed to be right, it was that what she said needed to be factually correct. There IS a difference. Yeah, we don't play that well together.

[@joniheisenberg6691]

Exactly.

[@kenji3110]

I love the response! good luck with that))

[@LilZen101]

Story of my life.🤦🏻‍♀️

[@ginaladosinsky7038]

Rozy I feel you. If someone showed you by facts you were wrong you'd be happy to be wrong. It just needs to be correct what they are saying. It's so exhausting, just tell them to shut up. Im with ya

[@flipflopflapjack]

Story of my life. Yes I’m stubborn but I am (usually) happy to be wrong as long as the answer is correct and logical. (If it’s someone I don’t like I will refuse to be wrong and find some loophole that makes me right)

[@lunaxoxo6893]

You are not a narcissistic emotionless brat because you're an INTJ...those are just shitty behavior and traits that shouldn't be justified by personality types. They're in no way linked with MBTI This video is just encouraging false stereotypes about INTJs You did not even type yourself using functions

[@clearskies2434]

pretty sure she doesn't even know the existence of functions

[@igalaviz]

Male INTJ here... been wearing mostly ALL Black since I can't remember, and yes... Independent work is probably the best way for Us.

[@topsu8283]

me my self jeans 24/7 and black or gray hoodie does that count

[@littlemorven8992]

Male INTJ here, does making myself blue count?

[@wesley6442]

It's how I have made the most money honestly, I studied and practiced skills in electrical and it paid off and I do my own work because of it. I have many different talents in mechanical engineering and 3D CAD modeling, among others I am always able to find work but it has to be solo I have never liked working along side co-workers they quickly begin to irritate and annoy me

[@lindawolffkashmir2768]

I like the grey palate myself. Something about being in all grey just feels right.

[@Sei1989]

The most attractive traits of a INTJ is their clarity in their complex psyche, their self sufficiency, fierce independence, most of all how upfront they are as a person with no bullshit filter. -INFJ-T/A

[@kristinlarson311]

Unfortunately for me, that upfront honesty you mention, always comes off wrong to others. Because of this, I have trained myself to physically restrain my words (mostly at work to keep my job; I don’t care what others think otherwise) and apply filters that are very difficult for me to implement. This makes me often feel fake? Don’t think that’s the right word but... -INTJ-T

[@Sei1989]

@@kristinlarson311 I think the word you are looking for is, "Disingenuous". What do you think? I can extremely relate to you on this one when I was younger by just telling people, "the way it is" What I learned over the years before confronting a person is: Is this the right thing to do? Will they be hurt if I tell them? Will this fix the problem? Will this be worth my time? What is the most respectful and effective way to approach them about it?

[@_InsertName_]

Yes, as an INFJ I agree with you.

[@carolyngarman1422]

I wish more people felt the way you do. Not into the bullshit.

[@leroygordon9989]

Im a gay intj male, and this was funny AF to me. "If i think you're going to waste my time, i wont hang out with you" lmao my famous words.

[@thelydshow]

may as well print those words on a t shirt and start selling

[@michaellevi1474]

This was always so obvious to me. I even believed, or expected that all people thought the same way about it. Boy, was I wrong...

[@amystery9028]

INTJ female here, I have trouble having female friends also because of the """emotional burn"""" LOL we are definitely not those girls who say 'I only hang out with guys aha' for the sausage fest, I hate to say it but you just know that hanging out with guys is not going to be emotionally taxing. It gets tiring trying to be the ditzy I talk about my emotions uwu girl, you know :/

[@nailshinyshiny]

Me too! Most of time can’t get involve the little chat with insignificant issues, even don’t wanna open my mouth.

[@oleh2792]

Oh man...I'm an ENFP male and I've social interactions mostly with females. For me it's just easier to understand them on emotional level.

[@chicxulub2947]

I got to figure out how the world, the universe and understand how quantum mechanics work but it's still a mystery to me how to get to the "sausage fest". People are very complicated. I even got to understand how a thermonuclear bomb works to make fusion out of the energy of fission by figuring out even what secret ingredient what that "styrofoam" they put in the diagrams is. Some things are very interesting. Chernobyl for example was the main cause of the fall of the Soviet Union. I think the only way out for people like us INTJs is to get rich.

[@louiselarc9180]

I think it’s not about the gender many men are told and taught by society to suppress their emotions and that’s why you stereotype them as the “thinker” gender and I’m sure there are a lot of “feeler” guys out there more than you’d expect maybe

[@j_bubblez279]

Yh I agree

[@elisethomas4613]

Who else feels like they are in the minority in a minority when it comes to being a INTJ but not being academically “smart” 😔

[@patatas_0]

hi

[@requiemforanali]

help that’s my problem, I’m not smart at all (at least that’s what I think)

[@michaellevi1474]

Success in life is the measure of being smart, not success in academia. In fact, the system of academia is not made for us.

[@audiofeinz5754]

School is a form of programming. School kills creativity. Standardized tests measure memory not intelligence

[@abbeyc3307]

As a woman who falls into the INTJ personality, I'd like to remind people that personality psychology is a lot more complex than the meyer briggs personality tests, there are some parallel factors similar to how I identify. Being introverted, intuitive, thinking, and judgmental are just ASPECTS of who I am, but they are rough equivalences by which pop-psychology likes to understand me as. We are all more complex than these tests.

[@katarina2438]

Yes thank you was just thinking about how this soon with become a cult

[@ravenortega829]

Being an INTJ makes me anxious, it seems like never ending being misunderstood :(

[@ashleyredsheep]

INFJ, I totally relate to that

[@noamanpatel3784]

Focus on what you're doing, not the people

[@christinaromero8597]

Just stop caring what other people think and you will be fine. Fuck them and get that to do list done. 😂

[@jennychan99]

when you’re an INTJ and a capricorn... i’m the queen of being a standoffish, unemotional, and judgmental workaholic. woohoo

[@jennychan99]

@@agape4umoe wow that’s wild, i’m also o-neg!

[@thelydshow]

ooofff i get it, im a cap rising

[@shintasaumapuspitaningtyas4153]

oh hi there

[@kaamos1243]

Yes. I'm INTJ, Capricorn, enneagram 5 and if someone is interested, I'm o-neg. BUT only MBTI is somehow scientifically proven.

[@requiemforanali]

LSKDKSKSKSKS intj aries here 😭✋🏻

[@emiquintana509]

I love being a female INTJ. Honestly I wouldn’t trade it for any of the other personalities

[@estheradao]

Same

[@dromedaii8618]

As an INTJ, I’m 100% certain you’re not an INTJ. I recommend reading up on the cognitive functions because the test is extremely faulty and can’t type something as complicated as the human mind and persona. I sense strong Fi (probably an Fi dom). Maybe ISFP or INFP. Also, this entire video screams ‘look at me’ and ‘I’m so different’, while listing common traits and behaviors many of us experience, regardless of type.

[@Liensy]

As an INTJ woman I agree, I am not seeing anything of myself here

[@PlagueKing_LordFalix]

People fear my mind. They have no idea... It's my heart that's the scary one. - A true intj through and through.

[@HarishGibsonAxap]

XD

[@ashuranero5721]

What do you mean with that?

[@ashuranero5721]

@@Gsscvgggfdertfffhhjiuytdsss I am an intj and i still don't get it. Can you give an example?

[@LilZen101]

@@Gsscvgggfdertfffhhjiuytdsss That’s not just your heart. It’s your mind too. It’s the raw power of both of those things together in an INTJ that make us formidable foes. I’m currently facing a divorce with someone I believe to be a cluster B personality, so I completely understand where you’re coming from.💪🏼❤️

[@ginaladosinsky7038]

I feel you like i relate to her so much. I would be an awesome serial killer but I'm too nice and I don't really have time for it

[@carterg6401]

I feel like I just found my family in the comment section. *damn, did I just feel something?*

[@cherryspice1011]

sameeeee

[@Sophisticated-Alien]

@@carterg6401 bro same

[@lujung12]

The fact that when I first learned about my personality type (INTJ), everything made sense... Than I read somethings about it to my mom and she basically said, "that's you, no doubt..." By the end of the article I was reading about INTJ, it was written "you are finally feeling like someone understands you." And I was literally surprised and relieved at the same time... So it's really good to know that are more people like me out there... 🥰

[@thelydshow]

awww yeah we are super rare but makes us unique :)

[@lujung12]

@@thelydshow Yes! And that's really cool

[@teghzz]

hope u researched the cognitive functions bc there is a high chance ur mistyped,

[@leilaleila523]

I can relate a lot with what you said in this video. Analyzing my classroom, talking to new people ect. I feel like I want to meet new people but as an INTJ female I can't really find someone who fit my lifestyle ( it's weird to say that lmao). I have one true friend and that's enough for me. Nice video by the way and sorry for my poor english.

[@thelydshow]

Aw so good to hear that there are similar people out there :)) glad we can relate haha

[@dirhems6756]

Me too. I analyze all ppl then i dont find any mutual interests. I only have 2 true friends

[@juliengaspillo1876]

When you said that who care what filter they use. That's so true. I'm just in highschool right now, and sometimes, or most of the time, people are so interested in useless things, like, what color the hair, who have boyfriend is that, I just can't. I can't. That is so much emotional stress I can take on. If ever I hang out with them I need a day or two to personally recharge again before meeting with other people again. Oh my gosh, thank you, I have somebody who felt the same way as me. It is so frustrating that someone never gets me or understsand me. Or when I talk to them, they don't get me at all

[@lollalofi3933]

i am a infj and i understand you! i never liked making photo's, i don't care about boyfriends, i didn't like to gossip since it is awful i just don't like the typical stuff everybody loves

[@nouhailaeddahmani6200]

I don't like it when ppl use their personality type to brag / justify their shitty behavior/think that its an achievement itself . NO OFFENSE -INTP

[@dreamwish286]

Agreed. Your personality isn’t an achievement, because it’s not exactly something you can control.

[@rcks3842]

I agree

[@benediktwalch1605]

lydia: "INTJ' s normaly wear black or grey " me " No that's not me " looking at my clothes after the video mostly black grey me " oh for f***s sake !!!"

[@thelydshow]

love that for you

[@stevenjackson2799]

Me closet has been black and grey since forever

[@Fluffytiger-qp4xo]

... oh ... how ironic i only have black and grey on

[@kelseyhayes718]

Oohh damn, I can’t fully express how much I’m vibing with you .. Is it jusr me that still has that feeling that you can’t really be yourself around other ppl, especially women ,because they would think you don’t like them or don’t even want to talk to them based on your “emotionless “ reactions? Like I’m myself only when I can be chilled,don’t really give a s**t and rule my space.

[@thelydshow]

this is me 10000% haha

[@LilZen101]

I have spent a lifetime collecting a small group of female friends. I just rarely feel at ease with the pettiness. Guys are so much easier to talk to...🤦🏻‍♀️

[@sarahbeancarney]

INTJ females don't like to go shopping with friends. They make a list and go on their own. Thanks for this video from a fellow INTJ female.

[@thelydshow]

ohhhh yes very true

[@aikleios]

Intj me: * can't handle other girls' drama*

[@lmitchell3604]

This is literally why I have only one female friend. Come to think of it I don’t really have friends at all other than that. I tested 89% introverted.

[@hnyii]

I'm more tolerant of female drama than male drama.

[@Yourfeetarestinky155]

@@lmitchell3604 exactly

[@theno-one3198]

Thats fucking true

[@Samiksha3Naik]

@Conscious Ki yes we should.

[@hannibal9503]

As an INTJ-A myself, I can relate so much, I only become friends with people who can challenge my brain or else I will just be polite and say yeah cool

[@SanaUllah-sx6mm]

"We're the only people who understands each other" 2 much true.... 🤕

[@CrownedChristian]

INTJ here 🙋🏼‍♀️ if you ever want to connect, let me know. I now I have three clients who are INTJ (out of thousands), and the laughter and jokes themselves are worth every second of socializing lol

[@CrownedChristian]

You also need to work smarter, not harder lol (that part just passed)

[@HarishGibsonAxap]

I'm an intj as well and recently started making videos about it.

[@hamzaejaz1648]

Hey @Beautyblossoming I'd love to connect to another fellow INTJ😊

[@ginaladosinsky7038]

I want to connect, do I fill out an application...ha!

[@dirhems6756]

A young INTJ is here

[@Hereticked]

The "J" in INTJ stands for Judging, not Judgemental. It isn't about the tendency to judge people. It's about our need to plan, employ structure and be decisive. It means we need a well-ordered outer world to truly flourish and keep our stress levels low. This is in contrast to the Perceiver/Prospector who don't value structure as highly and like to go with the flow. A young / underdeveloped INTJ might be judgemental, like many other types, but that's something they should grow out of.

[@basic-mbti]

Uh uh, the J doesn't stand for "judgmental", it's "judging" and has nothing to do with being judgmental.

[@modelphotographyisart3456]

OCD to analyze everyone, everything, the world, dead stare, and psychic powers of observation.

[@MoPoppins]

I actually love all kinds of colors, and used to buy colorful clothes, but I'd inevitably outgrow the phase of liking/loving that color, and I also realized that for my skin tone, I need to stick w/ muted tones. Grayed-out hues and neutrals work best for me, and as someone who doesn't wanna be wasteful, my wardrobe can remain timeless. I've actually had people go out of their way to compliment me on how good black looks against my skin, so it's definitely not a "boring" or "safe" color. Not everyone is meant to wear brights. We all have colors and shapes and patterns that suit us best. AVOIDING the looks that don't flatter us, or clash w/ who we are, is key...and we often reach that through trial and error during our youth.

[@jess-tl1hp]

Oh my god. Thank you for this. As a fellow intj girl, this really hit. It’s so bad but sometimes I become so annoyed and out of place with my friends whenever they discuss boy stuff and it just frustrates me. I don’t get it. To me, they don’t appeal, are just a waste of my time and I’d rather study hard for myself. They come to me with all their problems and it’s so repetitive over and over again. I just say leave them it’s not that hard, they never take my advice and I have no patience. Saying that, I can cut off people so easily, if they’re a waste of my time, I just drop them without having to think twice. I am blunt and do not like to waste my energy on useless people. I analyze everything I see, and everyone I meet, to the point where i can read some individuals better than they can read themselves. I just decide to keep my mouth shut. Although I have absolutely no issue with being extroverted when the time calls ( etc. counsellor, leadership, etc. it gets so draining), I love being alone. If my friends don’t text me for a month or two, I probably wouldn’t even notice because I’m so preoccupied with myself. You’re right, we come off as cold, narcissistic, and extremely intelligent. INTJ’s keep their circle small, but real. Tie this in with my tarus horoscope and I’m loyal to the core.

[@thelydshow]

you sound exactly like me :))

[@DvorahDavida5778]

I laughed out loud when you said we like to have a uniform. As an INTJ female of an advanced age, I admit that I have always looked for my uniform.(Styles chance, garments wear out!) Right now in my closet, I have three dresses of identical style in three muted colors. They are my favorite things to wear. Everything else causes anxiety of one degree or another. As a funny aside... some years ago I attended Weight Watchers meetings. We had a great mixed group of men AND women. I sat with the men. Yep. And when I moved away, I gave a short little farewell speech where I let everyone know that the guys were conducting interviews for my chair in the 'man corner'. Yep. It's real. We are weird. And rare. :-)

[@reinaam992]

I totally agree with you on how we just don't connect with women and we're more in our element with men, also with having a rather masculine "thinking" or a way to be. And the thing with analyzing people,That is so true.

[@ginaladosinsky7038]

I'm gay and I like men better. I get it. Women are so chatty and waàaa all the time

[@alexmangiagli167]

7:04: Yeah, that are actually a intj thing. Is because we use the dominant function "Ni", that means we absorb the world with intuition, the subjective and abstract way, and that's not something we can explain in the physical world, is like a 6 Sense

[@alicexx6260]

At 7:05 yep... I now believe that is absolutely a personality trait. No kidding we are the only ones who get it, mutual understanding haha. It's a beautiful 99% gift, as a female it has its awkward points.

[@Avllia]

As an intj, I would say that If you're an intj and you don't fit on stereotypes of intjs and those all bullshit, then it's all right because there are only 16 mbti types and you don't have to fit 100% into that. For example - I love colors. I don't mind wearing things that aren't in black and don't have monochromatic pallets and it goes with many stereotypes as well as not having emotions, being effortlessly intelligent, being a narcissist, being rude, etc.

[@oliviabrittney9839]

Love this and it’s so accurate. My was blown when I took the test (I’m also female intj) and realized why I am how I am. This past year I have searched and researched more and more on intjs and it’s scary accurate. Thank you for sharing!

[@BabeKay01]

Can u share the links/books u did research from

[@christingrady2133]

So spot on, especially the picking out of the person you know you will be friends with. I do this in every class/group situation. The not wanting to waste your time with people that you know you won't vibe with is totally something I do as well.

[@nofoetusleftalive]

this video is so apt. as an intj scorpio woman i actually do resonate with all of the things you've talked about. plus the need to be an overachiever is so spot on!! :)

[@name-jz1bn]

are female intj scorpios a thing, bc itd make so much sense... (speaking as one myself)

[@GIGADEV690]

You aren't intj if you follow bs astrology.

[@rocksta201012]

The amount of "not like other girls" energy this radiates is astronomical. The video is so cringe. These comments are so cringe. This is all cringe. Y'all are leaning waaaaaaaay too far into this and are swearing y'all are the most unique people in the world, when in reality, most of the INTJ's I find on videos like these are pseudointellectuals who are way too far into this pseudo-science. It's a fun hobby to learn about and read about, but y'all taking this way too far. And this is coming from an INTJ female.

[@thelydshow]

hahaha thanks ROCKSTA for the most useless comment, can't imagine a real INTJ female wasting her time to actually write this

[@laurenrussell8299]

@@thelydshow I can't imagine a real intj making a youtube video to let everyone know they're special. From the video it sounds like you've only typed yourself from the 16personalities website and don't know anything about the cognitive functions or theory. Your research is entirely based on behaviour and therefore inaccurate and you are spreading misinformation (albeit unintentionally). I recommend looking into cognitive functions to learn more about your type. From this video I'm guessing you're a high Te (extroverted thinking) type meaning you value efficiency. If it's your dominant function then it could explain being highly efficient and a natural leader. I like this article here: www.careerplanner.com/8CognitiveFunctions/Extraverted-Thinking.cfm#:~:text=Dominant%20Extraverted%20Thinkers%20tend%20to,world%20to%20suit%20their%20needs.&text=They%20use%20their%20energy%20to%20make%20an%20impact%20in%20the%20real%20world. - intj female (as if that even matters)

[@thelydshow]

@@laurenrussell8299 didn't know we were treating youtube as a source to write a research paper on the INTJ personality type but I appreciate the article :)

[@laurenrussell8299]

​@@thelydshow If I were going to write a paper I certainly wouldn't use youtube, but I wouldn't use 16personalities to make a video like yours either. I'd be surprised if an INTJ didn't do any further research to develop their understanding (as is the nature of our dominant function) and ran with what an online quiz said.

[@kyebronwyn2980]

@@thelydshow A "real" INTJ appreciates intellectual stimulation and would at least humor a critic with a logical rebuttal. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like you've only taken the 16personalities test. Try taking multiple to make sure you're typed accurately, and examine the cognitive functions for different types to see what fits

[@joielives1131]

Omg 😲 listening to you was like the honest me that I keep inside because it can be so hard to find people that understand these characteristics. I seriously don't mean anything personally ever but I feel like I'm such a difficult person for others to be around. But I literally care so much. I needed this honesty thanks for sharing.

[@antoinette4995]

You're really pretty. Also well put together (at least in this video, this is the first video I'm ever seeing of you). Thanks for sharing, I'm an INTJ female and can definitely identify with everything said.

[@realKrovax]

I can relate to a lot of stuff and I also can tell you that it gets less awkward in the future. Maybe it's because all the other types grow as well or simply because we INTJs put in a lot of work into ourselves. Still the part about others not catching your drift still is annoying AF. 😂👍

[@roumaissavds8606]

Same i'm an INTJ women. Already since i was a kid, i always was different from other children.

[@aylinyakhyazade2433]

Omg I just feel so liberated when people say they have the same issues as I do. I just can’t do this anymore. Whatever I say or do gets criticized because it is unusual. To the point where I start to question myself and doubt my abilities. I always wear the same clothes, usually always black and I HATE wearing something out of my usual style. It just makes me feel gross and less in control. I also wish of talking to another intj female because I am so over talking to these people that just don’t get me or that talk about some stupid non important stuff. While I am writing that I already feel like someone got offended because usually that is what happens even if i don’t mean to hurt anybody

[@jakemon4550]

As a male INTJ I've always wanted to play a strategy game against a female INTJ. Like starcraft. Just to see what it's like to play against a female that cares so deeply about winning that they don't talk while playing against me because they are try harding so hard. Not to dis other female personalities but I've yet to play against a female that takes strategy somewhat seriously. But I imagine a INTJ like me could possibly be super fun to play against.

[@LocalBoyPhotography]

INTJ-A here. The best part of being an INTJ is the fact I could not possibly care if anyone likes me or not. The funny thing is, before I found out I was an INTJ, I tried like hell to be liked and fit in...and was miserable and now, knowing what I know about my personality type, not only am I more comfortable, but allowing me to be myself and not give a shit has led to people gravitating towards me. TL:DR - INTJ good.

[@lmh-9367]

i don’t know… those personality tests can be a true result of confirmation bias. if intj’s make up so little of this population there’s no way everyone in the comments happens to be an intj… might just be a perfectionist lol

[@zvbxxmkd]

yeah thats right, most of them are mistyped

[@MusiXificati0n]

this checking out who I am vibing with happened to me also when I started my exchange semester. I singled out the only male-INTJ and decided that he would be my friend. He sometimes remarks that he "still doesn't know why I wanted to be friends in the first place" and "what I want from him". Really, I couldn't give him an answer, because I just wanted it :D It became clear later, that he is also an INTJ and know seeing your video I know why I did what I did. Great to have an explanation! I am looking forward to August, where I start at a new work place and hopefully I can find someone to "vibe with" :D Additionally, what kept me from recognizing this INTJ status for a long time was that I am also German. The stereotypical german is no-nonsense (just shy of being rude), efficient and doesn't do small talk. So it was for a long time just kinda "yeah you are quite a proto-german". On the other hand, if you are an INTJ, you will probably like living in germany :D you should try it out.

[@grey9915]

I want to point out that it is really questionable to put down females for being generally more on the emotional side! It is only more difficult to work with women ((if they are generally seen more excelling at emotion related topics/situations)) if you are not that good in handling social situations which is more common among INTJs! Emotions are important. They play a big role in life. Relationships (to yourself, friends, family, others) really profit from the emotional development of INTJs. This is also from my personal experience as an INTJ. Having a rather analytical mind or intellegence doesn't excuse being not able to care at least on a minimum level about other peoples feelings. INTJs are hyped because our current society values rationality over emotionality. And it is probably arrogant to push a certain "type" higher in value than an other. Only because a large group of people does something, doesn't mean that the stuff they are doing is always right. Other topic: I wonder if being INTJ as a female is really that rare. Being told that a part of you is rare and you are "special" just pushes your self esteem but you are not doing anything for it. It can those who are not "that special type" feel even unworthy. It is also common among the life path numbers in the spiritual community. i wonder if there are people who read this..

[@thelydshow]

Hey I did read this comment! So it's not that emotions are bad. I just find it unnecessary to include emotional side comments in professional situations just to get a point across. Again this is definitely not true to all women or to just women, but from my experience this is a common tendency. Could just be me though... INTJ females are quite quite rare according to meyers briggs. I don't consider myself highly because of a rare personality type. It doesn't really give you any leverage. It's more of an interesting observation as to why we behave so whack sometimes.

[@YusraWaseem-u6f]

Oh my god! Yes! This is all so true. When I started uni, I didn't talk to anyone because I didn't want to rush into any friendships. I took my sweet time to analyse everyone. Their behaviour, humour, tome, talking style, body language. To judge who's gonna be my friend. And if I didn't get a "nice vibe" from someone I put no effort into entertaining them. So much so that this one girl said "oh I'm hearing your voice for the first time" after a whole year in uni

[@cssghostPL]

What im wearing now: black t-shirt and black sweatpants. What i wear when going outside: black trousers and black/gray hoodie. What i wear as formal outfit: black sweater or black polo and black suit trousers. yeah, as i think now, i need a black jacket :D

[@theBradlands]

We INTJs live in a world of hunches. Explaining our reasoning can be difficult to outsiders. We can see the forest where others can only see each tree.

[@linggafadlurazaq2900]

as an INTJ, we know we have our own world and our own terms.

[@helialycoris4464]

I'm so glad that I'm not the only person like this. All my life I've been trying to "be like everyone else" because I thought I wasn't normal. I tried to make myself have a different personality while also staying in the shadows. Now I feel like I can just be myself because there are people out there who are similar. Thank you.

[@user-yc3gk6rk7k]

I’m a female INTJ and I can relate to every single thing you said.. Also on my first day of school I did the SAME thing I observed everyone and I was like "well, I’m sure this girl will be my best friend " and it actually happened! ( we’re still friends until now ) Btw love your channel 💕❤️

[@m4lev0lentdem0nknightamv5]

True AF . As an INTJ I value the Team only if I'm calling the shots...if not I'm doing shit Solo . That's been my Motto in life since Highschool.

[@darklydreaming2193]

I have a love/hate relationship with being an INTJ. I love how rare I am but at the same time I loath it. INTJ woman especially suffer a lot more from society in comparison to INTJ men because the INTJ archetype is more "stereotypically" masculine. I wish that there was not a bias in concrete types (SJ types and SP types), as they are unfortunately estimated to make up 70% of the global population! For your information, I would advise you learn the functions of each type and the four sides to the mind which is part of Union Analytical Psychology as it is far more accurate than the MBTI letter dichotomy.😈

[@thanapatsongsaeng5823]

As an INTJ, I'm crushing on an INTJ girl. She's so really attractive and rare. I just know she is an INTJ so i imediatly understand why she react very difference from girls i ever met. Thank you for explaination.

[@staerfish]

different = INTJ ?? 😭 Girl could just be a weirder ISFJ

[@bestyful103]

This is so true. Recently, I have a talk with my classmate about my future career. She said that I am suitable for her previous position as a project planner because I love to analyze things and judge people. And she said that the other employees always hate the one who does this position. This is so freaking piss me off. Why INTJ needs to be blamed for their skills and deserves that hatred?

[@TheTechMargin]

Feel you, INTJ female here :) I think I am expressing myself but am misunderstood by just about everyone.Sigh. Engineer + Artist + Founder + Designer + + +

[@simianinc]

I’ve taken the myers briggs test over decades and have always come up with INTJ. I relate to nothing in this video. I think the presenter is attributing way too much to an assumed personality type just as people find reasons to correlate their lives with the star signs

[@Lu_cidshere]

i tested as a INTJ, and Im in a weird limbo. i understand people and try to be helpful and I never go or say with what I like better, but i believe the reason why that is because I find being nice a strategy not a moral. Ive always been told being nice will get you further in the end, so I really did take it to heart, I try not to stand out from others and I always tell people what they want to hear while simultaneously wanting to really express myself its tough man, being a INTJ, I end up just feeling like a stranger to myself with my personality shifting ways.

[@AnconiaLp]

I know that feeling. In the first ten seconds spending time with someone, you instantly can see through them and know, whether they match you or they dont. Theres no in between. For me, people with high sarcastic and humourus skills are interesting. My partner has to be intelligent and i love to discuss new theorys and ways to solve problems. On the other Hand im always lazy except for things i 100% burn for

[@Mahilovestea]

As an intj teen, I think I'm watching my future self 😂

[@千晴-n6k]

Hi.I’m Japanese female INTJ 🇯🇵 Now I am studying English so it is difficult for me to understand well what you say ...but when I completely understand what you say I think I will agree you❕

[@leticiasilva9282]

I'm INTJ and you are 100% right in EVERYTHING you said. I remembered when I was about 9 years old and went to a new school. On my first day I analyzed all the girls in my class until I found one that identified me and thought: we will be friends. And just a week later we were best friends. Sometimes I find it very strange and unhealthy, but it is part of being intj.

[@2twentysix]

Can relate to all you mention as another INTJ female. The small talk and reality shows are the worst for me! Or is it the fragile male egos I meet while trying to date? Or is it the women I have to work with who celebrate if they think I’ve made a mistake? This behaviour only shows me how truly amazing I really am 😂

[@lydie8060]

i’m an INTJ and i found your video very interesting! i can relate so many things you said especially when you told about the feeling of wasting your time. it’s like the worst thing for me ahah! Moreover, i’m french and i’m learning english and your accent is really easy to understand for me so if you do more video about INTJ, i would love to watch them :)

[@thelydshow]

merci Lydie!! si vous avez des suggestions pour videos sur ce sujet j'aimerais les entendre :)

[@yanae.yanakieva5199]

As an ENTP, I just love INTJs and everything abt them. I need a person working 5x harder than a normal person bcz I want to but never get to it. And I want the deep talks and the straight up personnality. :)

[@lauraswoboda6265]

I'm ENTJ (thought I was INTJ, until I realized I'm not an introvert, I was just depressed and I surrounded myself with very toxic ppl). I've been watching your vids for some time and found many similarities between us. I wish we could meet and discover the differences that this one letter make!

[@Suzzers]

I'm an INTJ and ENTJs are by far my favorite type

[@Leakost]

I just found out that I am an INTJ. At first I felt relief, but now a lot of uncertainty invades me, because I feel even more alone than I already was.

[@chriscivarra471]

INTJ - totally agree with the ability to know who is going to be your friend. I was just talking about this with someone. It is a weird gift. Or a self fulfilling prophecy, as you said. Which is still a gift to be able to enact :)

[@saik.o3o]

please refer to the function stacks, there's a lot of mistypes in this comment section. i'd recommend to watch LiJo's channel as she's very good at explaining how a female INTJ would behave based on their stack. i'm not an expert at typing but i sense a lot of Fi from this youtuber (sorry i don't know her name) so i'm guessing she might be an ISFP instead.

[@MB-or8js]

You are not the only one feeling the energy/vibe of people. I experience(d) the same - also INTJ. But I admit that I had to learn to adapt in corporate environments.... It's not easy especially for INTJs. I also believe that INTJs have huge untapped potential to camouflage/adapt which is rarely mentioned as characteristics of this type. It was the only way I managed to have a successful career: otherwise I would call out BS every day when I see it.

[@cailarchitectatopks]

I am an INTJ-A Architect and also a licensed architect in my career. However, I don't think architect is a career path recommended for INTJs. Because being an architect needs to have a skill of salesmanship and engaging people (clients).

[@RetroXRicardo]

An interesting take on this rare female INTJ type! Thanks for sharing to inspire my MBTI channel. Randomly discovered your channel through the KZbin algorithm! 🤟🤟🤟

[@jonjuul4276]

tell me that you are sexist without telling me you are sexist. I know we all are sexist, the world is sexist...but you might wanna check those biases

[@thelydshow]

and perhaps you want to check your biases when you claim I am sexist after seeing one ten minute video ;)

[@hanant1188]

huge not like other girl vibes 😬

[@mor3085]

Thank you for the video! I am totally understand your perspective as an Intj too:) I am going to say uncommon things- we have some gifts as this types and we need to keep them, but at the same time we should use this information about our type to work on ourselves and try to be better people. This is possible, we can be more friendly, truelly love and helping people, it wont be easy but it can be doable... As an intj we have the power to make big changes in ourlives and behaviour. remember it.

[@Riri333_]

why did this give me “i’m not like other girls“ vibe

[@jonjuul4276]

it really does give that vibe. it kinda surprises me someone who's not 14 thinks like this

[@BlackSailPass_GuitarCovers]

That doesn't mean she's wrong though.

[@lynnbilbrey8823]

Dude yes!! Literally you know people in such a deep way for talking with them for 30 seconds and get so much from who people are by scanning the room

[@snugglyduck6534]

I'm an INFP, but I believe that only in the sense that someone found a way to market and profit off old psychological studies much like they do with Eastern Philosophy in the West. My most passionate relationship / love was with someone similar to you. Loved hanging with the boys, hated hanging with women, rarely wore a skirt but would wear tall boots if she did, work was always a focus, yet so passionate and expressive, and we just had this energy between us where others noticed our attraction wherever we went. But she was also a pathological liar, that was her superpower when it came to her comings and goings specifically (always fun when that had to be confronted). And in all fairness to her, she did remark early on "Do you ever notice how we all wear masks?" I think her big attraction to me was my open and honest (and fun loving) nature. So what I came to realize is she just has some Lilith in her and I am a masochist at heart, and now I always check the canine teeth at a glance on people to see if they're still protruding to know just how much vampire is still in a person genetically, or if they carry crystals around, or like to pose by pools or mirrors, oft all three correlate. There's a little Introvert in all of us because people are dangerous and annoying and time away from even your closest friends is like the awareness scene in Home Alone for a few hours.

[@adriennel8830]

INTJ here. I am the “intimidating, unfriendly” girl at work. I don’t think about it. I just do my job. I’m in IT which is great. I don’t have to talk to too many people. No friends- don’t have time or want them. I spent most of my life wondering what the hell was wrong with me. Late 30s to finally find out I’m INTJ. There’s nothing wrong with me. It’s just my personality. I’m rare. And no one understands me. Finding out why was incredibly freeing. Now I don’t care.

[@zionnoel]

Hi!! I'm an INFJ:) Cool and really interesting to hear from you! Thanks for sharing:)

[@esther2853]

I’m an IATJ, and man, everything you said in the video, just make senses, a lot of sense, but no one understands