What Makes A Guy Commit To A Relationship - 3 Traits That Men Crave in a Woman

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Here are the top 3 traits that make a guy commit to a relationship. These are the 3 things that men crave for a woman that you can develop.
The first trait is having contrasting qualities. I mean you fulfill his fantasies while giving him the good girl vibe. Being a social butterfly who is also a hermit. The reason why having contrasting qualities is important is because it gives you an edge.
Women believe that to get a guy to like them, they have to be super nice but the truth is that if you want to stand out from other women then you have to start embracing some other dark qualities about you. If you're too much of a sexy girl then you have to start putting up the funds of the super nice girl. This will balance all your personality and will give you the edge to stand out from other women. It will also make the guys see another side of you that he would not expect to see.
I'm telling you guys this because these are some of the qualities I saw in women that made me want to be with them even more.
It makes your "boring" traits attractive and interesting. The women who caught my attention were always the ones with the edge. They were always the ones who looked one way and were the other. The ones that appeared to be the nice girl to everyone, but a bad one in private. I remember I once met a girl who looked like she was going to church service, only to find out that underneath her clothes she was tattooed.
The second thing is having the challenge of wanting to tame you. Whenever you give off the vibe of the fun girl who's the social butterfly or the one who's hard to get, it makes him want to make you hi,s just for the sake of the challenge.
The third trait is taking on the motherly role. Make strong eye contact, caress, show attentiveness while remaining sexual. This adds a BIG emotional boost. Trust me when I say this to you, it works. It regresses the guy and brings him close to the warm feeling of being embraced by someone who cares, and in this case, someone who displays a gentle yet sexual touch. It makes the world fade away whenever you give a man this experience.
I don't believe you can make anyone fall in love with you who was never going to love you otherwise. So these tactics are more about speeding up the inevitable process of the guy falling in love with you. The reason why I say this is because love is an organic process. In a world where we have so many options, it becomes harder to love one person. These tactics are there to help the guy keep you in his mind long enough to grow the seed of love. But if the soil is not meant for you, then it won't truly grow no matter what.
By applying these tactics, you'll be able to make the guy see how much he truly wants you. It'll also help him see more parts of you for him to appreciate and above all, become fascinated by.
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[@LonnieBhi]

Here's all that ya'll need to know: 1. Respect yourself and put your needs first, not his! (If he oversteps his boundaries, let him know. If he doesn't change, leave) 2. Believe his actions not his words 3. Trust your intuitions (If he sends red flags, for ex. You always feel insecure because he doesn't reassure the relationship, then he really doesn't care about you. So don't second guess yourself) 4. Have a life that doesn't revolve around him (This makes you confident, which will naturally draw men into you without trying) I wish someone was straight forward with me when I was young and dating, but no most people beat around the bush and feed you a bunch of silly theories about how to change yourself so men can like you.

[@Girlintheewild]

AnastaziaU wish I could love this!

[@elainehope7625]

bless you.

[@aracelisfrias2454]

It's easier said than done but that's how it is

[@4gma59]

@@aracelisfrias2454 It takes practice and self-discipline. I can speak from experience. :)

[@margotmaven1052]

Amen. Thank you!

[@anewloveofficial9137]

Tell him straight what you want and let him decide to commit to you because if he's really into you, he'll be afraid of losing you.

[@sanharrison7533]

Love This 💜

[@bunnyrivera765]

I like how you talk to us like we're your friends & have known us forever. Your style reminds of how it's easy to fall in love with a person that's really comfortable with themselves I've been enjoying your videos Very helpful Thank you for all you do

[@miava1031]

I’m 100% sure Alex has ADHD - he is funny - unorganized - distracted easily - think outside the box - creative - intelligent - all over the place

[@godseed79]

How's this for contrasting traits: I love you but I'm letting you go.

[@empress_highpriestess3307]

godseed79 yes ma'am..i so hear you..

[@chara4rmsj]

Lmao

[@siennamillerbroadcast]

godseed79 If you love them, you will let them go. If they come back it was meant to be...if they do not, it was not meant to be...

[@svasianfilipiname6603]

"Don't forget to pay the Child Support"!

[@vinnie_s8328]

@@siennamillerbroadcast if you love em let em go , if they don't come back it was never meant to be , if they do -SHOOT EM..they din get nothing out there

[@lovelystorm891]

That's what I did. I ask God why I always attract Narcs/Sociopath/ Physcos. He told Me I sent you GooD men + you weren't interested......... But you lowered your standards + pick the bad boys. I was too nice , now After the last N/S/P, + learned about their mental illnesses I'am staying clear of them!! Got a list of qualities I desire + qualities I RUN from. Found a gem of A real Man! Started out as friends

[@LonjeMarie7]

Mary W unfortunate for a lot of those women when God sends us something very very nice we're not really ready asked God to get us ready so when we do we can receive it you're absolutely right

[@richa4976]

True but by then you're in your late 30's close to your 40's sadly but true. Before you realize oh crap what am I doing?!

[@mariahonez2379]

Lovely Storm that waz deep

[@Apricot90]

Oh trust me, those "good" guys ain't that good either...

[@JustaCutegirl1]

How to get a guy hooked/wanting to commit: 1) Have contrasting quality- the appearance of innocent girl but for eg. very sexually privately, or a very smart girl but a party animal 2) Being a challenge to the point that he wants to tame you 3) Taking on the morherly road: while you are sexual with him, caress him, make him feel like you care for him, look at him differently, be sweet yet sexual.

[@chrissyvaught4043]

You gotta be "a lady in the streets, but a freak in the sheets".

[@KweenSheba]

And they still will cheat. Lol.

[@ToriH]

@@KweenSheba lollll

[@Catswithmeimei]

This is literally me

[@sophiemason2585]

I would argue that it’s being feminine not motherly 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@elizabeth0813]

I agree 👍

[@SuperJaebreezy]

And they say women are complicated asf Lmao

[@Xhellfiire]

Same

[@DallasJayCook]

Contrasting qualities: Rose: I won’t let you go Also Rose *let’s go of Jack’s hands

[@annekoosed8868]

I really like you groomed this way. White shirt, slicked hair. Elegant.

[@sisbev6153]

Liar he looks better with hair

[@awesomelyblessed1848]

He has hair its in a ponytail

[@emmasnow9264]

@@awesomelyblessed1848 no? He got a hair cut

[@alaasalah5882]

😂😂😂😂

[@paolanamuncura8879]

He looks like he is ready to go on a date (with me lol)

[@ShaunaFox]

a "motherly role" that I have found that guys love is running my fingers through their hair while we're cuddling on the couch

[@SR77736]

Yes! I had an ex who use to love me rubbing his back. He said his mom use to do that to him to make him fall asleep.

[@Rhodah_Musonda]

What if he is bold(doesn't have hair)?? Lol

[@sweetvonbettie1]

@@Rhodah_Musonda lmaoo u still can caress his head thry love it girl , massage his head too u will make his eye roll bak..lmaoo n ears

[@TheRealKCKay]

Oh yeah! Works every time! 😂 💯

[@unique_queen818]

@@Rhodah_Musondagirl rub that scalp!

[@girllilio8026]

That microphone 🎤 lol 😂

[@Jamilah1117]

Starts at 3:13

[@lisathomas2835]

Jamilah1117 lmao lol 😂

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

ppl don't believe her!

[@itsjuliam]

thank you

[@samanthasieuchand3558]

Thank u

[@vairaworld]

thank juuuuuuuuuu

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

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[@brunosantez6334]

I'm not sure but ,if anyone else trying to find out how to make a man want to marry you try Covert attractor audit (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my friend got excellent success with it.

[@rebeccaperez3264]

LOL I feel like he's a legit player, he's been with so many girls.

[@bria.elis_]

I’m a stripper but Im also monogamous, never drink, got no tattoos, and I’m Catholic😂

[@beetlejuice7064]

how??😂😂

[@bria.elis_]

@@beetlejuice7064 exactly.

[@alinan4320]

Girl , you are a dream !

[@madisonrose1977]

These traits are 100% true. I got the man who I've been in a loving and committed relationship with for the last 8 months, with these traits. All his friends and family wonder how I got him to commit, since he was always known as a player. But here we are 8 months later lol.

[@lisacastro3899]

Madison Rose Hi. I know it's been a while since you wrote this comment, but I was really curious about how you portrayed these traits, and, maybe, elaborate the steps you did for your "player" to commit? lol I was dating this emotionally unavailable guy, and I didn't know he was in the beginning, but long story short, we parted for a few months, he got into a rebound, and now he's single, and made sure to tell me that, but I he only contacts me a few times a week. Obviously, like a player, there is concern and fear with commitment. He has asked me to go over and such, but I've learned from the past not to just give in, and make him work for it. I do want commitment, or at least to make him invest and put effort into me, so I was wondering if you could spare some insight lol I'd appreciate it :) Thank you!

[@lisacastro3899]

Madison Rose I wanted to add that I do have the above traits (I'm one of those book/writer peeps, but am a freak in the sheets lol), and have also displayed motherly qualities, especially with caressing and looking into his eyes. I think being emotionally unavailable has made him very afraid for something real, as he's told me in the past, but at this point I just wanted some pointers, because there's so many contradicting things online lol

[@Makeupandfashion-l2q]

Madison show me your ways !!!

[@mvpglam8018]

Mike Jones no response means they broke up. He showed his real self within a year

[@khloe38]

Pebles25 I agree. 8 mos is not a Long time

[@niamhemilie1857]

Just found your channel and i love the way you just ramble but still get your points across literally feels like I’m having a chat with my best friend xx

[@tulip6043]

what if I don't like partying or drinking? Does it mean no guy will ever like me just wanting to watch movies at home?

[@azgal2289]

Just go along..I do. Be the driver.

[@brujalinda]

Yes take the wheel

[@laurasuazo4494]

Just be busy yo have ur own thing/schedule going on. Talk about ur male friends. It’s the balance of work hard play hard. Consider watching movies your me time. The highs and the lows will seem mysterious. Remember, sometimes they just won’t like you and that’s ok(:

[@ShawnnaJohnsonPublicFigure]

Your hair looks REALLY GOOD LIKE THAT! :) Your techniques are CRAZY ON POINT!!! TY

[@NDiaz-et6hc]

Alex you are so hilarious when you get distracted, and start reminiscing and grunting ;) But seriously this was an eye opening video. Really very interesting and a lot to think about! Cheers dude

[@rebeccag9976]

The best one- and you keep getting better! XO

[@carismaonika]

Oh Ok so men want a woman who is like a mother that they can sleep with...sounds like a complex to me

[@Krismkm]

Quiet Storm I always say it’s not sex men want, it’s a mother.

[@qiela9595]

A man wants a woman that can be his own exact "duplicate" mother.

[@lollypopvstootsirool]

Don't bring freud into this 😂☠

[@gretchengeorge5302]

Most men have complexes

[@crylopez33]

it's the vibes you send out. all about vibes and body language;)

[@paulababi7517]

Your awesome 👍💜😁😁your advice is not only true but very effective when applied the right way. Keep them coming and thx again from Cali😘

[@pikapants2894]

These are great tips for getting someone to like you more, but for a man to commit, above all else I think he has to be good and ready to commit. I've had guys dump me and then come back literally years later with a whole new vibe because now apparently they're ready, maybe their options are wearing thin or they're just lonely or they want something long term. It's annoying af, but just how men are.

[@leannehickey1986]

I'm a Gemini I defo have contrasting qualities 😇😈

[@kandidlykladija2854]

Leanne Hickey word!

[@teanna4569]

iam a pisces with my moon in Gemini, and mercury in aquarius so yes very contrasting,

[@berguzarkorel5350]

You have a very intuitive understanding of women! Amazing!

[@xw6475]

Very very good quality video, have not seen you updated for ages. Looking forward to see more videos from you! Stay safe

[@mashudakarbary1470]

thank you so much alex for all your hard work in making these videos! i really appreciate it

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

it's my pleasure

[@mashudakarbary1470]

ooh alex you mention you into quantum physics, im from south africa, doing a degree in physics and statistics, just shout out if you ever have any physics ques

[@LexaTerrestrialx]

insightful man... you're speaking on some hard to explain topics in all actuality.

[@liberatatorlontano3286]

my favorite video, for the content and for your way of presenting it, great expression..you communicate great vibe..

[@vairaworld]

Imma friendzone this mafakka as fuuuuuuuuuck xD loool

[@svasianfilipiname6603]

Don't...you might develop feelings!..

[@pocahontas330]

Believe his actions not his words! This!!! Thank you! Some of them are so good with their words.. 🙏

[@ashyoung9286]

Omg I do this subconsciously especially now that I have fully embraced who I am growing into. I know I come off innocent initially oh but ya girl gets a Little crazy if I feel disrespected or lied too... So I literally was dating this man, very handsome might I add... very, great personality and really good potential. Long story short I find out he was a major ladies man. I pulled back completely and told him I would never be in a committed relationship with him because of how he was with women...however I remained friends with him and I let him know I was dating other men while talking to him still because I wasn’t taking him seriously. I never called and we never spoke unless he called me and now we have fallen in love and we are in a fully committed relationship. Lol so crazy how men’s minds work lol.

[@lisaliousify]

i just started watching you and im hooked.

[@meforyou8600]

This is totally brilliant! SOOOOOOO resonates with me. Thank you Alex! ;) Anouche.

[@MarilynSal111]

Love it! And so true.

[@ligayalowe]

I just found you. Don't delete the channel.

[@MysteryUnfold]

great video, it made me look at myself and see what I was missing.

[@cleovintora59]

True I did that to my boyfriend...but not on purpose I went out on 3 dates with him spent the night the third date got drunk grinded up on him .. didn't have sex with him he was mad and confused!! Stopped talking to him for almost 2 weeks and now we are together!! Cooked for him twice and baled on our plans went out parties with my classmates than stayed home did some paintings and studying for finals ...went to work out with him and now I'm working on giveing I'm the cold shoulder again

[@pumpkinlover5640]

Thank you Alex

[@SpiceRadio504]

That setting is intriguing and inviting...Great job! Would love to be that blue flower right about now..

[@SpiceRadio504]

ooops..thought that was a flower...

[@SpiceRadio504]

Aww...You loved my comment...how sweet..I didn't think you cared..lol BAHDAHBAHBAHBAH...I 'm lovin' it!

[@clarys0622]

I love love love this video ..... :) ur an amazing coach !

[@ayopryor8498]

Well done Alex.

[@tulip6043]

Alex. Why didn't you last with the girls that caressed you and cared? and do you have a serious relationship right now?

[@jillmariaplatteaux6083]

Tulip offcourse he hasn't ;) no more videos than :)

[@JaneDoe-jm2kr]

Tulip because he is a player, and thinks he is all that. But I am older plus being able to see that. Not my type of guy.

[@azgal2289]

Players love to give women advice on men...lol

[@Nathaly0886]

@@azgal2289 😂😂

[@Mindsetolympics]

Glad hes got this dreamy music back in his new stuff

[@pocketofcreativity]

so glad I found your channel :)

[@labonipaul8423]

Dude you just changed my life... Thanks a lotttttt.

[@Mia-sp8jc]

Hey Alex, great advice, I'm in a position (haha) to try out your words - giving myself 2mos. you are handsome, however I miss your bubbles - hair - such a positive and unique statement, that makes you stand out from the crowd. Xoxoxoooooo

[@minamio3628]

i love your Videos! im so glad that i found your channel !! :-)

[@HairWeaveKillerrr]

This man DON’T MISS 😩🗣🗣

[@shinypurplecurtain8615]

I like your videos. You give really good advice 👍☺️

[@ruthiec4464]

I love seeing ur videos Alex :) I hope I find somebody like u :)

[@vanhnaamphonephong7705]

😁😊 I love it!!!! Thank you so much:)

[@user-pn6qh7nk5q]

Just discovered you! So brilliant.. everything you say resonates!! Bravo 👏🖒from south africa! :)

[@nonimi2037]

I like how the music randomly matches the subject you talk about in 9:52 lol

[@sylviadomerese352]

In summary...be a mystery ♥️ and love yourself first

[@allisonbennett9209]

Alex's réactions are the best 🍷

[@elsiequinones9325]

you r great and entertaining. thank u for making me understand the pounding my neurons have taken.

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

lmao No problem my puerto rican friend

[@m_christine8777]

Just amazing!

[@liztavares8755]

Thank you, I like the background and the shirt...

[@AnaLozah]

There are alot of dating coaches out there and they dont make sense the way you do. You're more of a sociologist. Keep up the good work!

[@elenap2215]

I love your cute furry mic haha

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

+stelena paul it's for wind reduction lol

[@elenap2215]

I thought its a snow cone at first haha it's cute haha

[@sonias9722]

I bet he likes it natural & furry lol o.O

[@THARVEYTV]

He talking about me! Much love 💜

[@naotemnada7586]

Anybody knows the song played from around 10:00 onwards? Please let me know the title...Love the song...

[@ritidavid6852]

Love the haircut

[@hannahperkins9886]

his eyeeeees...they are friendly and seductive at the same time. i cant ahah

[@dollynina8992]

Right?!!

[@LonjeMarie7]

I like how you said when I guy is wishy-washy more than likely he doesn't really want to be with you I totally understand that and I'm OK with it and ready to move on I'm learning from your videos

[@elliejoanna5925]

liking desperate housewives is a crazy trait? i didnt know 😂😂

[@Nyuffykah]

Hahaha. He said evil😂😂😂i think the ones he listed wasnt evil at all😯evil is something like..hurting animals and your smaller siblings.. but Desperate Housewifes?😂was such a great show😋

[@magdalenapikor863]

Hi..you mention a book in one of ur video...psychosabo...by Martin??? Please can u respond with full title and authour...give thanks

[@nouraal-zarif4230]

the way he talks about women is just ...àggghhh🙈😻

[@marylcampbell2409]

For us ladies we are turned off if a guy is too "party boy" and too "gym freak"🤦🏻‍♀️😖 balance is the key

[@Ladyday8508]

That's why I run into problems friend zoning guys I really don't like that and they never leave me alone.

[@liberatatorlontano3286]

I always like watching this video, it’s the synthesis

[@user-92099]

Love your videos. Every video I lean something and it helped me a lot. Thank you so much xX. you're the best Alex ☺️

[@Nicole2023]

This was uploaded on my birthday

[@justshae]

I'm those 3 traits with my boyfriend.. it was crazy watching this lol It's only been 5mos.. but he's overly protective (aka jealous😃) Sometimes I wonder why.. I guess I know why now!!!

[@BanaMSahli]

Shantell Rodriguez is your boo a Leo? 😅

[@SouthernBelleBEE]

He's gonna be so confused....what have I done? Friend zoned 😳him after making him feel comfortable. Is there any order to this?

[@shifakanwar7686]

I don't know why but when you talk I start laughing. Don't take me wrong I feel connected with your word you speak truth ..

[@tinafurlan162]

Because watching Desperate housewives is really crazy. :'D

[@MultiDevastating]

When i think of it, thats actually how my bf got attracted to me and decided to be in a relationship with me.

[@sangeemenon5920]

Hey boy thanks a lot for the beautiful classes that you give us gLz... thanks much babe...

[@obetaiwo3608]

Luv ur Style,Man

[@fwuejz9885]

Ok but what is the name of the song playing in the back in the end of the vid

[@TransactionalAccountant]

Love you 😘 and I actually do all of those traits

[@helentona86]

I posses all of those traits and felt there was a deep connection between us but he still dropped me for another chick. Hmm 🤔

[@nofybn7794]

Woman not chick, your a woman not a guy who says chick out of disrespect.

[@sweetvonbettie1]

It happend to me before as well..sucks but on to the next who will appreciate those traits... im like bye... u will be back ..kid u not 99.9% of them have tried coming back... saying that i was the most passionate woman they have ever known.. and miss it and wanted me back..nope u lost yo chance booboo..haha..

[@margaritam.9118]

nofy bn So men are allowed to say chick and women aren’t? What’s next, white people being allowed to say n-word and black people not? Cut this bs.

[@whiterose6806]

that's why we should upgrade our looks, always, continuously

[@larisamilliondollarbaby]

So happy to have all these qualities 😍

[@TMRuggiero]

Your hilarious but so true! You HAVE to hv Spanish/ Latin / Cuban in you ! Omg they got this shit down 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@elizabethseiden8386]

Hi Alex! Great video! I'm a firm believer in reverse psychology. Do you think that by giving men the cold shoulder n being kind of a snob works? For me, when I ignore a guy n treat him bad, he can be a better friend. However, if I'm nice, I don't get what I want. I want to be the alpha female! How do I make this happen with guys? Big hugs n love! 😘💓💕💖🕶

[@mymayapapaya]

Spot on

[@h.a.i6851]

I love that every time "mind fof attraction " is written nonsense in the subtitles 😂😂😂 In my fraction "" 🤣🤣🤣

[@quennierhizabelldinhayan2819]

I'm new here✋🏻I subscribed because I learn a lot.. Just continue doing this..

[@Starray5757]

I wish I had male friends like you.

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

I’m good. You ain’t friendzoning me on MY channel

[@deborahthomes3383]

You sure are finnne! baby and sexy!!!!!!

[@sincerelysophiak]

you speak so many truths

[@kendraphic87]

You look a bit like The Weeknd. Definitely a skinnier version. You’re handsome and insightful. I’ve been binge watching you. This information is much needed.

[@syreethakosoredjo]

It is human nature to want what we can't have

[@LonjeMarie7]

Go handsome now that's what I'm talking about you stepped it up about 2000 matches I love the background you look very very handsome just do the damn thing and do it very very well just like you're doing carry-on young man your information is valuable valuable I'm learning a lot

[@0925nohemi]

You make me laugh so much you should be a comedían besides