What Men Consider AMAZING Sex | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

[@matboggs]

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[@ednahledesma4157]

wonderful advice

[@AriesRising4444]

I am 73, my husband is 77 and we have bern married over 40 years. We love each other more than ever and totally enjoy our intimate times. These tips are great!

[@ArmOr_of_the_Alpha_and_Omega]

That's amazing

[@kristalgic1534]

Letting go of your shame and insecurity around sex will improve your sex life exponentially.

[@x1985]

absolutely!

[@rezotydnic]

1. Unexpected foreplay days in advance. Appreciate your man. He wants respect. (So does she!) 2. Show your desire for him. (He should show her too) 3. Show your pleasure. Be verbal. Vocal. (He's got to contribute) 4. Taking charge in the bedroom. (Switch it up, variety) 5. Anything new 6. Mutual effort. 7. Communicate exactly what you want.

[@johnjaso385]

Feminazi alert

[@carolinareaper8089]

Woman: be vocal , show your pleasure. Men:completely mute and whatever woman does you never know if he likes it or hate it … no connection at all 😮 Ps. Changing positions for most women is like “ starting over again” so if we switch every 5 min they will never come

[@skoolie_life3261]

Very true about changing positions.

[@ssiegreen5292]

Ditto the position changer!!! And agreed upon the men being silent - no moans, groans, twitching or toe curling = no idea if he likes it or not??? Men need to make noise - ask for it!

[@apriljohnson1067]

This is the thing I hate the most. It takes me 10-15 just to start feeling good in any position.

[@susanhaines7358]

😂😂😂 it's over in less than 3 LOL

[@L-M-O-1]

Just switch while he's still inside you. It's not hard to pick up a leg for a few strokes, move that leg over to the side for a few, turn sideways for a few & finally end up on your stomach and/or pushing off the mattress into a seated position. Those all count as a different position. Boom! Variety & satisfaction without starting over

[@desiemehrabian1133]

I think some men are oblivious regardless of how many compliments, hugs, suggestions of things to do together, 2:49 etc they don’t get it and are so wrapped up in their world. It takes effort and openness from both- it takes two people to have a relationship

[@maria-lena5919]

Mat: U always explain even the most sensitive issues eloquently. Love ur enthusiasm. 💗

[@mariaj4]

With passive men its a lot of hard work for the woman to turn on passion etc.... some don't even want to involve their hearts just to avoid from getting hurt.

[@bbw8384]

They are not emotionally mature. They need to grow and involve their hearts if they want a fulfilling long term relationship. What is this guy’s credentials??? So many people on the internet that think they know what they’re doing.. and have no credentials!

[@brandeecrooks8842]

I’m baffled by the comments saying men need to hear this. You clicked on a video about what you can do. If you’re struggling w/respect & desire for your man, there’s probably a deeper issue. I listened to this from the point of view of “what can I do?” Not “what can/should he do for me”. I loved it! There are things I already do & things I can add to what I do. Thank you!

[@matboggs9517]

I love the higher vibration perspective you're bringing here -- because the truth is we can't control other's behavior, but we do have 100% control over what we do in a relationship and what we "give". And when we focus on that perspective we not only feel empowered but the relationship as a whole has the best chance of improving.

[@Portia620]

Not all men care.

[@jasmineleigh328]

100%. Glad someone said this!

[@lovepeacejoyhappiness]

Personally, I'm tired of the stress of needing to give a man constant variety. People place too much emphasis on sex, and have too much of it, in my opinion. If people had sex less often, not only would it be better, but the pressure for variety would not be there.

[@triciaudavcak7221]

Amen I think because my guy had drunken sex so often, and looked at porn, he doesn’t even know what real sex is supposed to look like. We have to schedule sex once a week and usually in morning. It feels so robotic. We’ve only been together 3 years, he’s 39 and I’m 51. We don’t even have busy lifestyles to have to schedule. It’s so awkward and uncomfortable for me. I feel like I’m stifling myself when it comes to sex . Such a stigma around it

[@FriskyTendervittles]

Too much intimacy and emotional closeness… yea that sounds healthy lol

[@lovepeacejoyhappiness]

@@FriskyTendervittles if you can't have intimacy or emotional closeness without sex, then I'd say that's the thing that's unhealthy.

[@annealcantara6952]

... not much or close to no sex isn't good either. Look at Japan.

[@FriskyTendervittles]

@@lovepeacejoyhappiness where did you hear or read any of that in this video? Did you even watch it? 😆

[@heatherlynne7322]

I'm 46 my man is 61, we're going strong and love that variety and openness. Communication is key and let's that closeness, vulnerability and safe place come through❤ great advice!!

[@uczucz]

I'm 44 and the man I'm dating is 61. We are not a couple, we don't want a relationship, but I can truly say that I'm having the best sex in my life with him and vice versa. We are open, we know exactly what we like, want and what we don't. We know giving and receiving is the same important and we just love to play and enjoy. And you right, communication, respect and "safe space" is fundamental. Best regards for you too💕🥰

[@hopeinhumanity.]

I heard some good wisdom in that if a woman doesn’t feel safe with him, she will lose attraction for him.

[@bl7817]

I just love the way that great sex in your twenties is high testosterone in the man. Nothing about what it is for the woman. Like technique. Like knowledge of our anatomy. Like caring. Like asking what we want.

[@heatherwest7615]

You're not wrong 😂 But this video is about what men consider amazing sex. Not what women consider amazing sex

[@bl7817]

@@heatherwest7615 I get that. It's the way it's phrased, though.

[@TheRoxinatoR]

I'm 65 dating a 58 year old man. Everything's falling in place so naturally we actually have the chemistry. And with me learning a lot from my marriage I just treat him like a king and he treats me like a queen and that makes us both happy.

[@JustMe-xt7gz]

I’m 57 and my long time boyfriend is 72. We’ve both had 2 failed marriages. I watched this video to get ideas to make sure I continue to work with my partner to make the most of our relationship. I was surprised at how many we do and got some ideas on how to make things last longer. Thanks Matt.

[@soul-etude]

I don't know why so many people confuse respect with admiration. Respect is literally just respecting the other person's freedom and rights to exist, to have a different opinion, to fulfill their mission of life. You are talking about admiration. And this is what we all look for - men and women. The ability to feel and show it exactly is the driving element of a loving and passionate relationship. Talking about our needs and our feelings are the key ingredients of emotional intimacy, the glue that holds it all together.

[@Ann963]

YES!

[@Cantetinza17]

Back when I was with my former husband. We were military members, so when we would be apart via deployment we would start a week out with cheeky warnings like, "4 days and a wake up; HYDRATE"! He would say, "4 Days and a wake up HEARD; I'm gonna need you to stretch". It was fun. However the first thing we did with each other was nap! 😅

[@RadicalValkyrie]

*Takes notes 😅

[@marthatowler3057]

“He’s got to contribute” 🤣😭

[@dianep3071]

Hahaha that dont happen after 50’s

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

Try 68. I do all work. Lmao

[@kimasp7482]

I'm 54 and my man is 61......we may get that "shift" when we hit 100 ...but I doubt it😁We both love a good adventure

[@cmuir6757]

Let people work it out by TALKING TO EACH OTHER.

[@laurakello8526]

Truth

[@donnacampbell4216]

Goes both ways respect earns respect !

[@ThingsILove2266]

#8. Don’t watch porn so that you don’t expect your partner to equal the 10,000 people you’ve experienced virtually.

[@asmith1181980]

Amen!

[@kaflight6331]

THISSS!!! You said exactly what i was thinking

[@LynnPayne-x8m]

Open Communication VERY TRUE

[@eliza6470]

Thank you...that was a great reminder. ❤

[@remarkable937]

#5 anything new, made me think of an All in The Family episode where Gloria (who is a blond) decides to put on a brunette wig for her hubby for something new and it turns him on so much she starts to get jealous of the wig 😂

[@discodeb6162]

I remember that!! 😀😀

[@remarkable937]

@@discodeb6162 😄😄

[@amc3964]

That was a funny one.

[@jojose417]

Omg that’s hilarious 😂😂😂

[@Portia620]

😂😂😂

[@hollywisconsin]

rewatching this after watching part two...great tips and tools for me to keep in mind for the future committed relationship I'll be in!

[@rekanagy4609]

Respect has to be Earned

[@novacatscratchfevr5325]

If you don’t respect him then divorce him but don’t use him for your convenience. That works in both directions.

[@elizabethbaker2131]

Me 67 and my fiancé is 45 we have a lot of fire and passion when we love on each other every day and night

[@JodeeMeyer-s3i]

My fiancé and I are the same ages, the key for me is no inhibitions. He's a little shy but I find that adorable

[@tiffanie.sparrow]

#3...i battled here for years (trauma). Instead of helping to unpack and heal with me, he turned to p*rn. That was awesome 😔

[@Portia620]

🙏😢

[@karenmarr7266]

If I had a partner, I'd want to watch this with him. It could be the start of great conversations.

[@deniseunknown4576]

Love this advice. I’ve done some of these things. My ex now never stopped talking about the new spicy ideas in our marriage. Now I have more insight. Thank you.

[@vickiebickford9283]

Hey Matt I’m married now and I’m very happy

[@kimfrederick7710]

Love the advice, very helpful

[@thedolandwhite]

Great video .. and at 71 ... TRUE !!

[@helenahlstrom2418]

True about respect … but men also need to earn it !!!

[@HeartsDesire77777]

All great advice!

[@laureenm4878]

GREAT friendly reminders!!

[@gailflora1835]

Quite frankly I’m glad those days are behind me. It’s one thing I don’t have to worry about anymore.

[@Suzette-gb7uj]

I feel sorry for you.

[@Suzette-gb7uj]

I feel sorry for you, and if you have a husband, I really feel sorry for him.

[@gailflora1835]

@@Suzette-gb7uj I am happily divorced and doing just fine thank you.

[@sharonmccartney8866]

I always make sure I give him every day compliments ..and let him know he's so wanted needed and loved and I'm so proud of what he does .. I know he loves to hear me say these sweet things .. 💕

[@kaceemomof3]

The open communication, I love. I love giving it & hearing it. The problem is that my man is an introvert, doesn't need sex, & is an avoidant (Im an anxious). I brought up fun bedroom ideas (some old school to bring back, some new). He gets defensive like he's not giving me enough, & I'm over here like,"WTH, I'm just voicing things that sound fun. We still have fun in the bedroom even after 20 yrs....he just barely wants it. We're 4 yrs apart but I swear that I'm my age,46, & he's like an 80 yr old 🤷‍♀️

[@Kelly-n2z7q]

Sounds like you are married to my former husband...

[@angelicaposas-f2k]

Maybe he’s watching porn

[@Roxanne-k4s]

Testosterone can be helpful

[@strawberryme08]

I understand this

[@kitikiti6246]

Wow I'm going to follow this advice though I'm not yet married

[@ansmi2009]

For a woman - giving less sex, especially if it’s not earned, and for a man - staying away from pornography.

[@novacatscratchfevr5325]

Your attitude is exactly why men avoid relationships. Sex isn’t a carrot and stick alternative in a committed relationship.

[@gayschaye4600]

Great post

[@paris-xq1pp]

Just feel the moment and focus on enjoying without worrying about anything. You both will feel perfect while and after it

[@JenHistoryFuzzAdmin]

Spontaneity.

[@dannettepeters1507]

Sex is NOT love, especially for men! In a relationship/marriage, focus on caring, honoring and respect for each other. Good sex will follow.

[@neniaemat1079]

Thank you for good Advice 😊

[@DarlitaStephens]

Interesting. Great advice!

[@rosec8101]

My husband is 40 I am 30. We have 2 kids under 3. When both are asleep at the same time we finally get time together to connect. Honestly sex is always great just less often in this season.

[@lynnita321]

Mat you did an excellent job explaining this very delicate, vulnerable topic. Thank you!

[@sueellenblubaugh934]

So soo sooooo true

[@littysavior9181]

How do you get past the initiating barrier? As someone with anxiety, and who is really indecisive, its very difficult for me to take initiative, even though I want to. The pressure society puts on it, the fact that my partner requests it, and the factor that I just melt into a puppy when I'm around him makes it extremely difficult. Do you have any advice for tackling the issue of initiating with anxiety?

[@jamieswanson8828]

Flirt

[@littysavior9181]

@@jamieswanson8828 Its not as easy saying flirt as doing it, especially with executive functioning issues and with autism's verbal barrier

[@moniqrupley6019]

Can you be direct? Something like I think you have beautiful hands will you roam them over my body? Or take his hand steer/show him where you want to be touched. Or have him guide/steer your hands on his body.

[@BeautifullyModest]

Sometimes we overthink things to the point of creating fear around it, hype yourself up overtime and you will just naturally end up initiating it

[@nightskylights4501]

Dude you need to tell this to men and not us women!

[@tam8479]

More things women have to do…

[@remynansubuga380]

❤❤❤ your advice Thank You

[@carolinareaper8089]

The difference with initiation is simple - woman can do it any given time, men must be ready. So when woman starts and he is not ready it puts him in a hard position and can intimidate him. I know - foreplay but we are all humans. One men is tired and stressed with work and sex makes him relaxed while the other one have trouble to be aroused . But with men it is very obvious and even if he wants he might not be able to perform and I assume it makes him even more stressed and pressured maybe even embarrassed 🤔

[@FloANDRADA]

Thank you🌸

[@joconna]

New relationship, can't wait to try it. We are waiting awhile, to get to know each other better...but when it happens...!!!!

[@KH-nt7ej]

Very happy for you. I am single and still waiting for the right guy☺

[@mariacarrasco9066]

Thanks for the tips 😏

[@antinancy]

Well, now I know why all my relationships failed.

[@RMwangi37]

Expressing pleasure can even be in the form of dirty talk. Try saying things to each other that would be highly inappropriate in any other setting.

[@latashaallen2575]

This advice should be for men & women ijs

[@inspiredmenow5053]

I get attach with people easily and if he go away than detach... than i dont want him ahh its tough for me

[@Kelly-n2z7q]

I appreciate your comments about trying to let go with how many women were raised to curb some desires, etc. I can relate. Or when I initiated intimacy with my husband and was often shut down. I haven't found the right man yet...

[@jonquailboston4067]

Soma fiance thanks. That is weird if I say I want to make love or have sex. Belize did I have to happen naturally when we both feel it. What does usually how love making starts for me and my fiance what should I do about this

[@dianep3071]

Im almost 60 hes 60 and our sex life is non existing for 10 plus years And im fine with it i was doing everything and he was not trying any more due to me gone threw menopause So at that time i said why try any more so i stoped

[@jenshaw8085]

That’s sad. You only have one life.

[@anneu9158]

Get hormone therapy it will bring you back to life.

[@Jude-y3p]

Get your hormones checked and adjusted. Menopause doesn’t have to mean the end. Speaking from experience here. You can get it back and then it could very well get him back into action as well. I’m 73 and my libido is returning. 60’s is too young to give up!

[@ColleenGallagher-b2i]

Great

[@ladycassielubban7764]

What’s dose it mean when he says his in control in the bedroom department? He won’t let me go on top 😫

[@LindaLinda-yd6ti]

My husband suffers erectile dysfunction we r together fr 7 years😢😢

[@cheryljaggers9883]

Get the toys an start something new 😊

[@laraoneal7284]

It should be organic otherwise it’s too much effort.

[@dianep3071]

Sorry matt It takes 2 not 1 doing it all

[@sassygal4727]

He says multiple times that the onus isn't on just the woman.... he says it takes 2....

[@FriskyTendervittles]

Your black and white thinking is showing

[@CorporateQueen]

He didn't say that it was. 👀

[@AngieMartin-t4c]

Absolutely LOVE this video! I realized that I do most if not all these without having been told to do so. I had wondered what exactly was so attractive to my guy- and this explained it. Thanks so much for your content! It’s very reassuring and extremely helpful!

[@Sustainablewealth777]

Your points are great but it's directed to the wrong audience (women). this should b for men. I AIN'T DOING NADA!

[@brightemerald3924]

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@daphannerobbins4285]

What if they want respect but don’t respect you Honesty is communication lol

[@Queen_Ejededawe]

Then you walk away 🚶‍♀️

[@DouradaBambina]

Please consider cultural differences as well. What you’ve presented is just the natural common approach among latinos when comes to s3x.

[@ayoungerwidow]

He definitely needs to be wanted

[@leyaclark9200]

I gave those things to my man but he still didn't want to be with me. It sucks.

[@BeautifullyModest]

Start healing and move on, you deserve to be loved and appreciated!

[@leyaclark9200]

@@BeautifullyModest thank you. I just don't want to date anyone. They only want the same thing, one night stand. But I always wanted a commitment. There doesn't seem to be anyone for me.

[@BeautifullyModest]

@@leyaclark9200 I definitely understand attracting the same type of person, it's almost like different man same spirit

[@leyaclark9200]

@@BeautifullyModest this is just sad

[@sydoly123]

Don't keep chasing someone that doesn't really want you. It will only get worse with time. There are 2 types of men the one that commit and the ones that still live as a single guy even if they are in a relationship. Move on, find out why you choose to be with someone that doesn't really want you, you are codependent, think you deserve the bare minimum, work on it and when you are ready get to know someone well before you two have sex.

[@colleenward1287]

HTR just sayin'

[@tamarar.8179]

"Grab his ass!" 😂

[@nailaniyigena8102]

❤❤❤❤

[@jacquelinewenceslao4539]

❤

[@savannahjoseph4968]

This is hard when you're married you're married to a passive guy

[@marthatowler3057]

Hot Topic 🥵

[@Rose46846]

Why is it all about what he wants?🤔

[@joanmu1053]

And if you want sex with your Ex? Ex and sometimes not. Hot cold hot cold. Out of sight, out of ❤ I am still remembering the good times. He is keeping his options open. This makes all the advice useless at this point.

[@tandty321]

I'm single and why am I here 😭😭😭😭

[@user-us3xx5aak69]

that's fun to know I always do that to my man when in relationship and I always thought I was to much open,,I have a big sex drive and when in a long term I always want to try new stuff to not have a sex routine that I hear my friends talk about so sometime my exes always made me feel like am to much so all this time I wasn't the problem,, thanks for the advice I'll continue to be open and let them know sex is more then just coming but actually injoys every pieces of our body mind and soul and connection makes sex feel better in a hole other dementia 😊

[@Citrusfruits50]

I’m to shy about my body to take off my clothes if I lost another 20 lbs I think I’d be fine

[@simply-living8523]

Why me a virgin watching this 🧍‍♀️

[@CareBear1394]

You're preparing so you'll know what to do lol

[@marileesears6982]

I had to stop this video halfway through...even though this meant getting out of the shower and getting the bathroom floor all wet. It was that bad. I don't know you/this guy well enough to judge the quality of his general information, but this one video was off the mark. I found it to be performance based advice without much substance. Here's an example... For tip 2 , Show Your Desire, he says, "A lot of times, we [I assume he's referring to women based on the video] were shamed growing up for having sexual energy. Cast that aside." Oh, okay decades of shame that was engrained in me and many women through culture, church, and family - just cast that aside! Got it! (Please read the sarcasm) If you're going to address shame, please do it with at least an ounce of compassion. Telling any person, regardless of gender to "cast all shame aside" without any ways of how to do that is unhelpful at best. He then goes on to suggest things like "Grab his butt", etc. This could easily have been, "What are you most physically attracted to in your partner? What are some ways you could show that to him outside of the bedroom to express your attraction? For example, if you love his arms, you could squeeze his biceps and tell him how sexy you think his arms are." Maybe I'll keep this video saved for any time I want to lose my desire for at least a few hours. In that way, it was helpful.

[@annarichardson8284]

my partner does not like anything sexual and finds it annoying that I am interested in it at all. I was previously married for many years and started a relationship with this man three years after I lost my husband. When we first began this relationship he was interested. Now, not at all. It;s awful.

[@susansampson3488]

Sigh. When my ex was like this, he had a side chick and a porn addiction.

[@marinagarcia4262]

Yup, keep an eye on him

[@Jude-y3p]

Leave!

[@lisacatherineoblsb]

I 66. Time for younger Men wake up. Sex ?? YES.

[@seedsoftruth57]

He said or always says I’m to loud and I feel like instead of being into the sex and enjoying one another he is in his head thinking about or worrying about me being to loud and to me I don’t understand what the big deal is. I don’t really care if someone hears like so what I’m gonna adult like we’re in our 40s who cares they should be happy for us right or if anything I told him if someone does hear what are they gonna do that? What are they gonna do nothing but they gonna do be jealous wishing that they had it like I told him don’t shush me ever again it’s so annoying he still does it I know I guess I have a little bit of a weird relationship with him. He’s weird I think it’s weird. He worries about things I think you’re dumb man instead of enjoying life like he could. He spends a lot of it worrying about stupid shit instead just saying.

[@janiescanlan4146]

That sounds like everything I want him to do. He loves routine, same same same old.

[@triciaudavcak7221]

My man says he doesn’t even understand the first 4 … he doesn’t relate . Says he never thinks about it . Obviously, we have issues. Defeated

[@CorporateQueen]

Is he neurodivergent? Or asexual?

[@annarichardson8284]

I understand Tricia. It really is awful.

[@kaflight6331]

Not much he hasnt done already with other people 😕 which is a bit of a turnoff.

[@dannmurray1199]

There's a reason why there will be no sex in the coming Kingdom. Until then...those consumed, enjoy the struggle.

[@klbnofg]

Sex is completely overrated...

[@smilez4us]

You know you are speaking about yourself... you cannot possibly speak for all men... things you're suggesting are quite aggressive and not all men like that

[@AnnaMarieDuplessie-ke3sk]

Lies

[@ed000]

I do not care at this point. Exploring the world to gain more knowledge...not what you talking about. Bye