What Most People Get Wrong About Success & Happiness (Interactive Exercise)

[@lavendaire]

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[@Syedakhizra1998]

I am happiest when i feel peace in myself and around me. I am successful when i feel kind to myself and kind to others and help them to grow in their life.

[@lukemiller_6]

I am happiest when I can value the small things in life and good people. I am successful when I know I have given my best.

[@Lester-ht2wj]

To be happy and successful is to be honest with myself and accept who I really am. For me, I value the freedom to live a simple and slow life that allows me to wake up anytime I like, sit at a nice cafe reading a book / people watching, taking relaxing walks in a park, garden or beach enjoying the sight, sound and smell of the things around me and spending time with my loved ones building our relationships.

[@lavendaire]

sounds amazing 💗

[@subhalaxmi111]

I feel the happiest when my health & skin is at best internally & externally. I feel successful when my relationship & finances are growing healthy everyday.❤

[@yonbonny]

I liked the addition of, "what does happiness/success look like to you right now, in this current stage of your life?" It's a really good detail to ask or think about, especially as someone who is going through a hard time right now, what is actually viable or reasonable to expect of myself and what can happiness/success look like for me given my circumstances. Thank you for creating and sharing. ❤

[@sarrahvee]

I am happiest when I am able to provide for my family in limitless ways and I am most successful when I am able to multiple my wealth to provide fully and limitless for my family. My family being healthy and together is really my definition of success and happiness.

[@moonlightbxe]

My affirmation is I am happiest and successful when I'm healthy, positive, and joyful

[@shiningstar1ho]

I wanna share it here hehe. I am happiest when I practice and feel grateful for whatever happens/given to me in this life. I am successfull when I thrive, I survive, I practice patience, I go along, I enjoy and grateful in this life journey.

[@angelagrimes8237]

I feel happiest when I experience a flow of joy moment to moment. I feel successful when I am present, focused and finding joy in what I am doing, feeling, saying and giving. Thank you for this! I need to re-focus on my goal which is to flourish each day, and each moment no matter how mundane or routine it is or special.

[@lavendaire]

Love that so much ✨

[@GalinaMalakhova]

I’m happiest and successful when I’m surrounded by my loved ones, am confident in myself, and have the freedom to take care of my needs. PS your makeup is gorgeous!

[@sereneadair4941]

I had the day from Hell yesterday and really needed this. Thank you.

[@mohsinamansoori5512]

I REALLY CAN'T TELL U HOW I AM FEELING RIGHT NOW, I AM FOLLOWING YOUR POINTS, I AM JOURNALLING RIGHT NOW AND I FOUND WHAT REAL SUCCESS & HAPPINESS TO ME? THE REAL HAPPINESS TO ME LOVING MYSELF, WALKING ALONE SUCCESS FOR ME IS TO BECOME KIND , LEARNING MORE ABOUT SELF IMPROVEMENT, CONTROLLING MY ANGER TYSM DEAR AILEEN U HELP ME A LOT ❤😊

[@freefirelover22770]

I happy when... Iam successful when... Finding these answers is not so easy like only materialism comes in mind . But I want real happiness self-love, self belief ,confidence ,peace,wisdom, Education ,knowledge ,walking, selftalk,reading books,travel,freedom these can make me more happy than anything

[@lavendaire]

There you go ☺️

[@KushQueen9]

I will definitely reflect today on what i define as success and happiness. For the past three months, i have been in my home country South Sudan, i quit my job to start a new project that has been on my mind for quite a while now. Since being here, I've realised that i have truly been overwhelmed over the past few years and emotionally exhausted when i was in the UK. People here know when to slow down, which has really helped me to find peace. I no longer feel the need to force myself to do anything i no longer enjoy and that to me is what true success and happiness is. I guess i am also trying to figure out what brings me true fulfillment. Your channel is so enlightening Lavendeire thank you!

[@podcastsbytk]

I am happiest when I am peaceful, calm, free and well. I am successful when I help others grow in their life while I am improving myself.

[@caorui-e4y]

I am happiest when the effort feels positively correlated with achievement. I am successful when I don't take everything for granted.

[@justduyanh]

I feel happiest when I get to spend time with quality people, doing quality and creative things and having a splendid time. I am successful when I can make a lot of money by helping people achieve their goals and positively influence them and got recognized for it. Thank you for a wonderful video 🌷

[@mariaiftene5593]

You are the best self development youtuber out there. The energy you have, everything you say helps and heals so much. Thank you 😊

[@lavendaire]

thank you ☺️

[@Rie_Bell]

I'm happy when I enjoy the process of working towards my goals Success to me is being my most authentic self and feeling content in life

[@lavendaire]

✨✨

[@alyssasolis897]

My definition of happiness and success is being in a job that I love and sticking to it. For me its to become an ASL interpreter so I would be find happiness in Interpreting ASL and perusing that job.

[@libragem]

Thank you so much for the prompt, "What does success FEEL like to you?" 💟 In my hypnotherapy school, we're also trained to ask clients, "Why?" and, "How does that make you FEEL?" when they tell the hypnotherapist what they want (and also what they don't want, but we always direct our clients to focus on the positive, what they want, pretty quickly).

[@lavendaire]

Amazing ✨

[@Syafire]

Thank you so much ❤ this channel is a blessing to myself and so many others. Thank you for sharing your light and love with us Aileen. I hope to continue to watch your content for years to come 😊 I feel happiest when I feel connected to myself and to others. I am successful when I can be with myself and accept me for how I am in that moment as well as others. ❤

[@Dvbmf-222]

Aileen, can really tell the difference when you prioritize your well being . The glow up in you this year previously u look tired. Can't agree more Success n happiness is internal more than external, fulfilling life matters more. 💯❤

[@Daveeff]

Aileen u are the only person I look up to in my life. U mean so much to me u are like a teacher

[@umchileanywaysso]

AiLEEEEEEN your hair looks incredible, as always. Love the side flicks ,and bangs! I have similar hair type as u (long, straight, dark hair) and im taking your hair as inspo for my next haircut!🎉❤😍

[@lavendaire]

Hehe thanks!!

[@MindfulMomentsZenHub]

00:05 - Your voice at the beginning is so calming! Instantly sets the mood for meditation. 🧘‍♂️

[@CrumbsofJoy1M]

For past 20 yrs, I have been living around with people who used to deplete my energy, scheming behind my back. But I have been so ignorant , staying there doing all good for them. Suddenly one day I was diagnosed with cancer. Even then nothing changed much. Then I realised, it's time to live atleast for my kids and my happiness. So I started to set boundaries. Happiness - I have started a youtube channel to share my art content. Art makes me happy Getting like minded community makes me happy. Success - financial independence How much I'm able to give out to my kids with my health condition and my youtube community. Freedom to do whatever I wish without anybody 's permission. Surrounded with only people who uplift me.

[@razitatebug7067]

You have always encouraged me Your ideas and words become my healing I feel better I love better Thank you ❤❤❤ Much love from Africa ❤❤❤❤

[@AkriteePathak]

For me success is living happily in the present and cherishing it to the fullest. I have one story to share that when I was in school I was preparing for my final exams in the final year of school and I was receiving some extra help from my maths subject and I was working towards being good at it but I was actually enjoying solving the problems every single day without pressurising myself to score well I was just happy solving problems everyday without even my parents telling me to. I was self motivated because I was having fun and enjoying myself and whenever I couldn't solve some questions I always asked for help. That feeling of enjoyment, that flow state, that just being in the moment without rewards was one of feelings I am struggling to feel right now. That was one of the happiest year of my life. I loved that year from the point of view of studying maths. Others subjects troubled me a lot though😂😂😂 but I was not interested in them at all so I didn't care at all😂😂😂 Praying for that behaviour to come back

[@tyqonysus]

i am happiest when when i feel like good things come my way i am successful when i feel like somebody - a human, etc.

[@TI-bq1cg]

I am successful when I can showcase my creativity and arts. I am happiest when I am present and don't have resistance in what I do.

[@ChildofGod98765]

Thank you. I needed this. Heavenly Father protect my children. I’m overwhelmed because I’m on my own as a single mother. My husband passed many years ago. I have no one to turn to, but you. Heavenly Father. Give me strength Lord my sons are both special needs children. Guide me as I struggle to buy groceries, and as I struggle to pay rent every month. Please keep my sons safe and protect us from the evil ones of this world.

[@satisfyinggift1013]

🙏🏽

[@swiftmarie]

Wish you as much hapiness as possible❤

[@Mar-ME-s3h]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@annoar9776]

I wish you the best!

[@fatimar3276]

You are not alone in this.

[@SameerSagar-sr2ht]

May it is like asking yourself a question 'What makes you happy?' And then write down your answer. And then asking yourself a question 'Why?' Why those things are making me happy? And again asking why to that answer and keep asking 'Why' to the answer you are supposed to get each time. I think this method really works when finding out what is the real cause of a particular thing in the first place. And it is true here the same way. Brilliant !!

[@lavendaire]

Yes!

[@lavendaire]

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[@prathibhadias6905]

I am really grateful that you made me do this exercise. That was a much-needed self-reflection.

[@tailynhudu2306]

I started doing your journal prompts and they really helped me out and so did the meditation challenge

[@essence____beauty_92]

I enjoyed doing this exercise thank you so much ❤❤❤❤ What does happiness mean to me ? - peace of mind / state of being - gratitude - thankful - being okay where you are in life - taking care of myself What does happiness look like ? - pray more , worry less - being in the present moments - being helpful to others - encouraging others - self care - setting boundaries What does success mean to you ? - your daily efforts from small wins and big wins will compound over time lead to great successes - having a winners mindset - high expectations, high standards - confidence - high performance - High achievers What does success look like to you? - high self esteem - high self image - helping others become successful as well - great people skills Affirmations I am happiest & successful when I am personally growing and helping other people grow & successful as well ❤️🥰🌸

[@산림치유]

내 안의 평온한 삶을 기원합니다. 외부의 상황에 사로잡히기 보다 자신을 돌보는 마음챙김이 중요할 것 같습니다. 항상 감사합니다.

[@nainamathur33]

1. Happiness is making absolutely funny memories with fellow humans, just enjoying the moment. 2. I'm here to explore and experience in this lifetime and this is my success because I have the freedom to so, I am free, I am limitless and I do what makes me happy💗

[@lavendaire]

💗💗

[@barbyasma4894]

Im asma from gaza l love you l can't understand English very well but l enjoy when I listen to you I live in abad war in gaza😢

[@arie1578]

all the love in the world for you Asma

[@Syedakhizra1998]

All the love and prayer for you Asma❤

[@satisfyinggift1013]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@lavendaire]

sending love & prayers for you 🥺❤️❤️

[@Mar-ME-s3h]

🙏🏻

[@hadjerridiir7484]

I think i really need a video like that.. thank you 💗

[@SapphiSapphi]

I am successful when I provide a place for my family to thrive and grow. I am happy when I take care of myself and my family.

[@tyronecrossman7519]

Thank you Aileen for this! You're doing amazing work!

[@cristeens_garden]

I'm happiest when I feel peaceful in presence, alive, fascinated and connected to the universe I'm successful when I cross my limiting thoughts and comfort zone to reach my healthier self and fulfilling life

[@ciciesra]

Right, coming to same point is great in spite of living in the different places in the world.

[@johngomes4278]

Thank you for your channel 🎉 I ve returned to watch and missed your videos

[@Sharon_In_The_City]

I am happiest and most successful when I am carefree with no worries and no outstanding tasks because I kept all the promises that I made to myself.

[@Mar-ME-s3h]

As always, valuable content delivered in your own unique, powerful & endearing way 🌸🌞

[@edele24ballet]

SO HAPPY seeing you so chill that you almost forgot to promote your number one product, the Artist of Life Workbook!! 📖📙📘🌟👏🏻👏🏿👏🏽👏🏼

[@annalitvak1358]

What is success for me? Leaving in a paradise-like settings (warm weather, beach/lake, boating), with passive income and running businesses, own real estate, go to the gym, love myself and give free love, enjoy the amenities around me, don't have negative thoughts, be thankful.

[@vincentlofaro8500]

Yeah, you are on auto like my friend. I have had amazing academic success, grad degree, currently practicing clinical therapist and mobile therapist, and that makes me feel unhappy! I love working in the helping profession, I'm thankful but the corporate side of it has robbed me of my passion. I feel inauthentic. I need to learn self care!

[@kukukaka2729]

I am happiest and successful when I can help someone to improve something in their lives and get back compliments or appreciations from them.

[@Daveeff]

Im sorry and im NOT in a place to tell u anything but try to make it about yourself. Im not judging its completely up to u

[@AmelieGrange-ml3zj]

I'm happiest when I'm with my loved ones. I'm most successful when I reach a physical goal (like run 10km o do a pull-up). 😊

[@Davi_Cosmo]

If success and happiness are walking on the same side then it's ok. If not, you have to prioritize yourself.

[@lunalyn25]

Thanks for your message 💖 it shows me my old me and also future me ✨

[@KimberlyFederico-v5m]

I also completely agree with you. #nidhikapoor

[@Nisha-ik1ue]

I am happiest when….i am living in balance I am most successful when….i am able to do whatever i want, whenever i want

[@HIBATALLAHBENALI]

This video helped me so much, thank you so much

[@mothercoyote351]

Happiness mean freedom to be myself. Success means to me is when I completed my medical assistant certificate.

[@gyongygyongy1314]

Thank you.This inspired me to make a pyramid of happiness and success in my journal. Very interesting insights.😂😅🤔

[@gyongygyongy1314]

And now I will make a pyramid of gratefullness

[@lavendaire]

Love that!!

[@amnasyed1173]

Really needed this thanks ❤❤

[@jennadoan9228]

❤❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing✨

[@rupachemudupathi9569]

Loved it you made me really realise a new thing again

[@caorui-e4y]

I am successful when any effort to take my mind off the depression is success.

[@Mel-nx4yh]

Hi, first of all thanks for sharing you wisdom... second I LOOOVE THAT PAINTING in the backgroung. I want it! any idea where to get it?

[@Leanne__]

00:48 Out of topic, what's the shade of your lipstick? :) Thank you

[@johngomes4278]

Happy mid - autumn festival lavendaire 🎉

[@SkipThuHa]

this format really suits me

[@DeppheadYogiGirlofUniverse]

you are very valuable for us, your videos help me ❤thanks

[@Moorkralle]

I realized that, it seems like success doesn’t really exists in my mind at all. I do not have any goals I guess because I have disappointed myself to often, I could not fulfill them anyway because I have a perfectionistic tendency, an all-or-nothing mindset that I can not seem to shake. Being happy is the nicest that can happen but it is always brief, so I am kind of in survival mode and can not enjoy more than tiny moments of happiness. I am not depressed but I am not good either.

[@remuspierre7573]

Amazing information

[@sophiavalente3797]

Did anyone else had to take a time to rest the mind before doing the 3rd exercise? Im liking a lot but going to take 30 minutes to process better before continuing, but also don't know if it's better to just answer it now🤷🏻‍♀️💫🌸💖🙌

[@lavendaire]

Take all the time you need to process! You can always come back to it later

[@edele24ballet]

At least for me, I think the problem is, the word "success (in life)" is taught to us as external approval by others... Despite the fact that there's (almost?) nothing which all human beings agree on: "I got this degree," "I won this contest" vs "That committee (or education system itself) is rotten, so the degree/trophy is worthless." Happiness, though, comes easier to me as something genuine and simple, non-self-contradicting (is that a word?!) 💜

[@Wisdomstory52]

Thank you so much❤

[@caorui-e4y]

I am happiest when I am about to recover from the injures.

[@annebellamy]

I love watching videos because i just feel ok but I just got to been happy because anixty ❤️😔🤝

[@daisydreamm]

Love the earrings, where are they from?!

[@vkkuzma]

amei o conteúdo!

[@AkriteePathak]

I don't mind doing a desk job I love it and I want to become a corporate employee but I want to work from home so when I will work from home basically I will travel around the world and stay in some cities or a country for 6 months for example 6 months in Norway 6 months in New Zealand 6 month and Australia then 6 months in Denmark then 6 months in Sweden and just go travel around the world while working 9 to 25 Manifesting the dream

[@Confortzoneservice]

Hi I feel the same as you. what kind of business did you grow?

[@irissweet_7655]

Very useful ❤

[@HoKienDuoc]

really liked this video

[@zamayrabrunson1729]

How do you rank your response/thoughts on the given prompts?

[@Vibes_ventures]

out of context.. i love your house though its beautiful ❤

[@NgôAnhNghị]

best!!!

[@Soulmate-vt2rj]

Love you❤😘

[@unknown1234k]

Hello lovely lavendaire, can you plz lower the music just a bit because it is hard to focus on your voice❤

[@DoHaiKhai]

awesome

[@jessicaxsmith1]

I am happiest when I move with intention I am successful when I can be 1% better each day (kaizen)

[@SharangurveerKaur]

❤

[@ArunKumar-VideosCollection]

🎉

[@vLovedkate]

💖

[@caorui-e4y]

I think that someone else has to be faced with pressing economic problems and sacrifice their health to pay the price for money.

[@daliadalelak]

Why l feel you are so sad ?😢❤

[@libragem]

GUDETAMA 🍳🤣

[@PeterKim666]

美

[@leiwah]

I am happiest when I am with the ones i love, spending time with them laughing over something silly or goofy. I am successful when I am making progress in my field of work and also have financial freedom. This was such a nice video to watch, it came up right when I needed it, thank you!

[@LittleSanch]

Thank you for this video dear Aileen 🥨 It was really helpful! Here are the definitions that I crafted:- 1. I am happiest when I have the leisure and freedom to create while soaking the love within and without 💗 2. I am successful when I earn money doing what I love & enjoy and sharing it with the world as a gift 🎁

[@lavendaire]

Amazing ☺️✨

[@annoar9776]

This is so helpful. Thank you. 🤍

[@AkriteePathak]

For me success is living happily in the present and cherishing it to the fullest. I have one story to share that when I was in school I was preparing for my final exams in the final year of school and I was receiving some extra help from my maths subject and I was working towards being good at it but I was actually enjoying solving the problems every single day without pressurising myself to score well I was just happy solving problems everyday without even my parents telling me to. I was self motivated because I was having fun and enjoying myself and whenever I couldn't solve some questions I always asked for help. That feeling of enjoyment, that flow state, that just being in the moment without rewards was one of feelings I am struggling to feel right now. That was one of the happiest year of my life. I loved that year from the point of view of studying maths. Others subjects troubled me a lot though😂😂😂 but I was not interested in them at all so I didn't care at all😂😂😂 Praying for that behaviour to come back