What No One Tells You About Attachment Styles

Attachment theory has been trending on social media for a couple of years now. As a therapist, I have mixed feelings about this 🥴
I've noticed a lot of misinformation on attachment styles being thrown around on social media and I'm legit concerned that it's leading people to sabotage their relationships 😬
Because I want the best for you all, I wanted to make an entire 3 part video series debunking the attachment theory trend and breaking down the truth about attachment styles. I hope that you find value in this series and that it supports you to have better, healthier relationships with others. 🫶
Please note that this video and my channel is for educational purposes only and it is not a substitute for therapy nor does it establish a client-clinician relationship. For support that is specific for your unique case, please seek help directly from a licensed and registered therapist in your jurisdiction.
As always, thank you for watching and I hope you are staying well 💛
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0:00 What's wrong with the attachment theory trend
1:56 Introducing the attachment theory series!
4:08 What is attachment theory?
8:07 The 4 attachment styles
22:50 How to find out your attachment style
24:39 The anxious-avoidant loop

[@jasonfanclub4267]

Glad I found your channel 🫶

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you for being here 😊

[@TBrownie]

Happy to see you uploading again. Just today I was wondering why there hasn’t been a video in so long :)

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much for your support! it feels good to be uploading again 😊

[@cassclaire]

Hello, Audrey, a mutual gave me your KZbin channel link. I am loving your content. I am a therapist as well and would love to connect sometime!

[@whfh178]

A therapist once said I have anxious attachment style, because I do call my bf out when he starts to act distant and cold. I don't do it because I am scared he is leaving me, I do it because I hate it that he changed his personality amd became super selfish. I am noy afraid of losing my partner, in fact, I try to end the relationships when I notice we are not compatible. Does it really count as anxious style?

[@amele820]

Can you share the link to the attachment quiz?

[@fromaudreykao]

yes! traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/

[@jasonfanclub4267]

I have a strong feeling that I have the disorganized attachment style

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[@tristecherie7464]

how are you a therapist without having studied attachment theory yourself and having to rely on huberman as a source lol?

[@ijustneedmyself]

She literally said in the beginning that she's studied it ad nauseam 🤔

[@ijustneedmyself]

Unless you're talking about another therapist and not Audrey...

[@J0VIN]

dumb comment 😊

[@fromaudreykao]

Great question! In university, I studied attachment theory from a psychology lens so it was very theory-heavy. Once I graduated from my masters and became qualified as a therapist, I decided to specialize in attachment-based therapy and completed trainings to learn about the application of attachment theory to support individuals to have better relationships. On the side, I happen to enjoy Andrew Huberman podcasts and I stumbled upon one of his episodes where he packaged the neuroscience of attachment theory in a way that I had not come across in my trainings thus far and that I found very easy to understand, so I thought I'd share in the hopes it would help others understand as well. I hope this helps clarify things 😊