What Psychologists Know About Decluttering Success (That You Don't)

[@MendeMaria-ej8bf]

According to my observations, trauma and poverty are the main obstacles for moving ahead. Thank you for your tutorials. ❤

[@cherdonovan]

terrific info of how to apply psychology to de-cluttering. 1. Acts of Mastery: I dog a "10-minute Tidy" with the timer when a space looks cluttered which gives me the feeling that I CAN have a tidy space. 2. Vicarious wins: Your de-cluttering community and classes are my ground for role models, knowledge, and inspiration from others 3. Verbal persuasion: I Like affirmations and basking in the success of others. 4. Psychological arousal: I practice mindfulness daily which opens the space for creativity in my life (vertical rather than horizontal thinking) There is a positive feedback loop when I pay attention to improve my home environment with baby steps. I watch for negative triggers and turn them around with positive self-talk. thanks so much for this forum to discuss the "mind behind decluttering" I relate to our childhood home environment influences. The "deprevation" of my childhood was actually positive. I grew up with parents who had more cleverness than money. I wore used clothes my aunt (a seamstress) would mail in a box. One of my favorite childhood memories was Mom and I modeling the "hand-me-downs" for Dad. As a result, I love vintage, thrifted, and castoff clothes I grew up with a house full of furniture that was either free, from auctions or thrifted. Mom and I did a lot of refinishing and painting. The house was charming and eclectic. My Dad got a free house from the state when a highway was built. He traded a mover to get the home to a lot they purchased and did the foundation himself. that was the family home my whole life. As an adult, I adore remaking outfits from thrifted and cast off clothes and now it is a THING:-) Very little of our furniture was bought new and if it was, it was assembled by DH. Those lessons of thrift and being clever with castoffs really stuck, and I have made peace with this. BTW, once in a while since I now have more money , I do buy something new...trying to break out of my old habits:-)

[@MiaDanielle]

Thanks Cher! Miss seeing your face :)

[@carlienvandernet7902]

This makes a lot of sense to me. Most things I really don’t care about all that much but I also have a lot of trouble getting rid of my clothes. When I was young I always had to wear old clothes from my cousin and I hated that and now I have a problem with throwing out all the beautiful clothes that I bought for myself even if they don’t fit me anymore. I already started over decluttering a room that I did before but I just don’t start on closets with clothing.

[@edennis8578]

I am sooo with you on that. I had very few clothes growing up, and my mom bought the cheapest. Some of the things were so cheap that they didn't survive the first wash. A couple of times, one of my aunts (her sister) gave me some nice stuff, but mom wouldn't let me wear it. When I grew up, I bought nice stuff. I have 30 years of beautiful clothes in my basement, most of which don't fit anymore, but the quality is much, much better than what we can get anywhere at any price these days.

[@CarolynJohnson-fi3ot]

Thank you for your comment, it really helped me understand why I struggle with clothing the most!!! My clothes were all worn by my THREE older sisters first plus they all had hourglass figures and I have an athletic build. So clothes were worn out, ten years out of fashion and hung on me. Lots of comments from the mean girls at school. Also my dad grew up during the depression and thought a new pair of jeans should cost a nickel. I never connected these experiences to my inability to get rid of clothes that no longer fit (lots of Tory Burch 😢). Your comment really helped me!

[@Tyndalic]

It would be a blessing to give your old clothes to Women’s shelters.

[@openhearts5000]

Totally off topic, this hair length looks so good on you!!

[@MiaDanielle]

Thank you! Hair is never off topic ☺️

[@ArtingFromScratch]

Selling off entire collections is a huge hurdle for me. If I could just sell it all to one person right now I'd be done

[@WishIKnewMyName]

I feel this so much :/

[@edennis8578]

I decided not to sell anything. I leave some stuff on the curb for people to take, but clothes don't go. Furniture, appliances, set of dishes still in the box get taken, but not clothes. There used to be a lady in the neighborhood who took clothes and nice fabric length, but she doesn't live here anymore.

[@cassandraknight8804]

I get that

[@jeanettedorfman5872]

I think it’s difficult because people actually prefer the act of collecting things. It doesn’t feel as special just acquiring a windfall of things. It’s harder to appreciate the individual things this way and sometimes the collection is just “too big” to store, keep or manage.

[@QueenMegaera]

If it's stuff that might actually have some value (it doesn't need to be Picasso's, but maybe not plates from IKEA either - just things that may be worth 20 bucks or more) there are sometimes auctioneer firms that will take huge amounts of wildly different things all at once. The kind of firms that buy up entire households after people have died. (except you ideally don't have to die first ...😅)

[@carolyn8683]

Definitely furniture has an effect as done all small items nut realised after doing workshop most of my furniture has the scarsity mindset of being given or a bargain. Once I am out of debt will have more intention to replace anything I keep with more function flow and the right size ❤❤

[@sarapawsonherrington2595]

Thank you!

[@EnjoyingYourLifeWithJesus]

Thanks Mia!

[@ginalibrizzi5204]

Thank you for offering some really helpful tips that I’d never heard before. They make sense, so I believe they will work.

[@MiaDanielle]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dianasonabudget]

What a fantastic video Mia!! Thank you for all this information ❤❤❤

[@MiaDanielle]

Glad you liked it!!

[@kennethbailey9853]

Thank you.

[@sinisterkitty8411]

This was so helpful and refreshingly something I hadn't heard before. The theory and then actual strategies and examples of what to do were much appreciated!

[@MiaDanielle]

Thank you! I'm so glad you enjoyed it and learned something new :)

[@lauraartuso6982]

What a beautifully made video. I thoroughly enjoyed watching it.

[@MiaDanielle]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@leonieapps5927]

Loved this video Danielle - thank you! Truly helpful & motivating indeed! xo 😘

[@MiaDanielle]

So glad you enjoyed it! :)

[@edithcunanan8908]

Thanks for sharing,on awesome video❤

[@MiaDanielle]

Thanks for watching!

[@lauraartuso6982]

On a side note, does anyone know where I can get those spice holder, containers, and labels? My spices and herbs drawer needs an overhaul!

[@MiaDanielle]

If you peek at the description, I have a link to my Amazon store which I try to keep updated on all of the organizers I use (those should be in there too) :)

[@mariateresarueda4079]

❤❤❤

[@murranz]

You have great hair

[@MiaDanielle]

Thank you! I just got it done a day before recording :)