What's it REALLY like to date in China? | Interviews with Expats

[@AleeseLightyear]

Dating in any country isn't easy--but in China it's basically an extreme sport for us expats! This is the first in a series I'll be creating and posting about dating in China. One video will be dedicated to LGBTQ+ dating, another about dating as a Black expat, and the third......?? ?🤔🤔 Not totally sure yet so drop some ideas below!

[@baphithi]

LOL, extreme spot. Sounds hectic!

[@kamontasmith5044]

Do a video on dedicated to dating while being a “BBW” or Man. I know most Chinese are on the smaller side. So it would be interesting to get a video on dating and shopping as an bbw. I loved this video. Love how everyone kept it real. You should do more of these types of videos. Love your channel

[@whitneyhouston9879]

Thanks for highlighting so many different types of people

[@namastewoke5197]

I totally have that constant question of how the day is. I have dated several cultures of people and I have to say by and large the most favorite has been the Chinese and Vietnamese men. I am currently dating one that was so out of character forward for a Chinese man, I just had to see what he was about. We have been dating for 3 months now and so far so interesting. Funny thing is, he doesn't speak very good English, but at least I am making headway with my Chinese language. And so the adventure continues.!

[@mandikreisher6058]

Mandi here (I start at 16:06) I said “Chinese guy is only interested…” when I actually meant “foreign guy is only interested…” GREAT VIDEO ALEESE!

[@unknowguy7604]

Huh i wonder how chinese men can attract foreign women then. Seems impossible when all foreigners don’t find asian men attractive.

[@sleepyjoe4529]

lol you're so mad that white guys won't give you the time of day -- why don't you try dating a Chinese guy instead of throwing shade at Chinese girls/white men?

[@harryyuen8499]

Great content and honesty from gay and straights expats. Good job Aleese.

[@AleeseLightyear]

Thanks!

[@ahhhlvin]

Such an informative video, Aleese! Thanks for including the LGBT perspective as well and keeping it real with diverse perspectives!

[@AleeseLightyear]

Representation matters!!!! It wouldn't be right for me to share my views on what I think other peoples experiences have been like.

[@AleeseLightyear]

Representation matters!!!! It wouldn't be right for me to share my views on what I think other peoples experiences have been like.

[@Xan3130]

Dating in China was a wild experience for me. An expat/Chinese couple that I was friends with tried setting me up with a Chinese friend. He was really shy but was generally nice. However, he just kept saying I was pretty and asking every 5 minutes when we would see each other again. Added him on WeChat to consider another date and his entire feed was of naked women. I’m not a prude but there were SO many (almost every picture on his feed). He was also very pushy about meeting again without our mutual friends. So that was a bit of a turn off and disappointment. On the flip side, I went home with a foreign guy. I really had no expectations and made that really clear to the guy so there wouldn’t be any pressure. I just thought he would be cool to hang with and have some fun with in my last months. Next day, guy texted me that he has a Chinese girlfriend that lived in a different city 🤦🏻‍♀️.

[@AleeseLightyear]

OMGGGG!! Thanks for sharing your experiences!! All these damn men are crazzzzy!! The amount of cheating that happens is insane--especially in the expat community!! I guess we gotta have faith, there's someone out here for us!

[@Xan3130]

@@AleeseLightyear I know right?! I didn’t even know the expat cheating was a thing until after that and his friends didn’t say ANYTHING even though they knew what was up. This guy was holding my hand a good part of the night and walked me home 🤦🏻‍♀️. But that being said, I did make a lot of amazing friends, both Chinese natives and expats while I was there. I no longer live in China and have since found a great partner in the US. Also, thank you for sharing your experiences. It’s nice to know I wasn’t the only one with the dating struggles out there! I hope you find a great person too that sees how awesome you are. Love you and your videos!

[@charliely1833]

Good luck with the dating Aleese. Didn’t realise how hard it is for expats. I say, keep the faith, one day somehow you will find a partner when you least expect it. Your happy, lovely personality always shines through ☀️☀️

[@AleeseLightyear]

You're totally right, one day my prince will come.....

[@ThrivingNotDying]

Funnily enough, after living in China for YEARS, it took me moving back to the states to actually date Asian men. Dating in China was extremely difficult as a foreigner. Its one of the negatives when considering moving back. Do I want to deal with that?!

[@AleeseLightyear]

😂😂😂 funny how that happened! Yeahhh dating here is pretty awful....but you can see there are some stories to give you hope!

[@munangiwaC]

Great video.. it’s such an honour to be featured on your yt video. Indeed dating in China isn’t easy🙊

[@AleeseLightyear]

Thanks for taking the time to film your part!!

[@misscidella]

Interesting video Alese. I like hearing different opinions of you and your friends

[@fdoctor79]

Dating seems to be really SPECIAL in China especially if you're a foreigner. Wonder what are the similarities and differences b/w Chinese vs Chinese- American when it comes to dating? Tfs

[@DualityIsAThing]

So glad I have this amazing video to send when people ask me about dating here! I don’t! Here’s why!

[@EverythingSomeGh]

Are you still in China?

[@raymondlianto9882]

Great collaboration. So many foreigners gave their opinion👍👍👍.

[@AleeseLightyear]

Thanks!! I think it's important to hear lots of different opinions!

[@kesea5454]

FANTASTIC video. Easily 1 of your best. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@AleeseLightyear]

Yay! Thank you!

[@annk.5251]

Reminds me of dating in Costa Rica! Wishing everyone the best of luck. Before meeting my husband, dating was Russian roulette.

[@bakytzhantursynbek226]

It's same like in India

[@malcolm1896]

So good #1. Keep it going.

[@missmillsarea1749]

Great Content Aleese🔥😘

[@MeredithP1878]

Hahaha! I resonated SO MUCH with so many of these reflections! Valid valid valid!

[@AleeseLightyear]

I'm so happy to hear this!!

[@LwaziMM]

16:52 when I tell you homegirl was going IN 💀😂

[@AleeseLightyear]

She wasn't holding back ANYTHING!

[@FreedomWriter3]

18:40 is what took me out. Sis was over it! 🤣

[@bakytzhantursynbek226]

It's almost true for all asian countries. When i say asian I mean from China to Japan n India to Indonesia not your Arab world or turkey n soviet countries. Been to Japan, Korea, India, Thailand n dating is pretty much the same. They see foreigners as a status symbol or some easy sex n yes they do prefer whites over black but still they would prefer their own race over any other race.

[@AleeseLightyear]

ughhh that's an unfortunate reality

[@FreedomWriter3]

3:09 Why you put dude picture up there like that? 🤣 Dating in America is challenging enough, so I already know China is a whole different level of craziness! But I hope you meet a wonderful person who is worthy of you one day. ❤

[@AleeseLightyear]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I hope I meet someone toooooo! Just don't think it's going to be in China!

[@kundainyamaharo9230]

As someone who's in China, I confirm all of this😂

[@AleeseLightyear]

The dating struggle is real for us out here!!

[@noelgrey659]

Wow, I live here and I learned so much, didn’t know the dating world here was like this

[@AleeseLightyear]

Happy to be educating the masses!

[@haydenwarren3018]

Tried this, and most of what you said is just legit facts hahaha

[@AleeseLightyear]

😂😂😂

[@jellibear2011]

Nice video Aleese. I've been in China 4 years now and I've given up on dating or finding a partner. It's just too challenging and stressful. I'm gay and went onto Blued App. First question I'm always asked: how big is my D and can they see my naked picture. Also 90% of people on the app are married guys looking for some action on the side. It's just not for me so I've deleted my profile. Another challenge is the communication/language barrier. It's too frustrating to keep using translation software. Luckily my job keeps me busy and I have many friends so I don't really miss dating or being with someone but I can't see myself dating a Chinese person.

[@AleeseLightyear]

We are the same!! Totally given up for the exact same reasons. These damn dating apps are filled with people who want to fetishized you, it's very discouraging 😫 Glad that you have friends and a steady job to keep you busy and unbothered!

[@misscidella]

Dating is already difficult add China to the mixture 😂😂

[@AleeseLightyear]

As you heard-Not easy at all 🤣

[@johnrogermaghuyop6106]

Nice video indeed! :)

[@HanC.]

Wonderful wonderful video ! It's hard to be young and dating outside of your culture. But I'm one of the lucky ones. 20 years and married to my chinese hubs.

[@AleeseLightyear]

Congrats to you!! How did you meet your hubby?

[@HanC.]

@@AleeseLightyear we met in South Africa....luckily

[@ykl8924]

Did you use google translate or something😂😂?? The translation is a bit weird and it is obviously translated by some app😂lol btw,nice video!

[@lpgilber]

It's interesting how the guy that is a part of the LGBTQ+ community was saying that there is a top and bottom in China. I find in many Chinese and Japanese BL literature, they have a top and bottom and preconceived notions of what they look like (especially since a lot the literature is written for the female audience who have a certain bias). In my opinion, that's unfortunate.

[@cccb2878]

COME TO SEE THE WALNUT DUDE BUT NO WALNUT DUDE😩

[@AleeseLightyear]

Lol I said all that needed to be said about walnut dude😂

[@ace6608]

IF you want to date Chinese or Asian men try the ones in America or Canada they understand more and are open minded people unless he/she is a traditional person

[@AleeseLightyear]

Keyword- IF

[@رزيئة]

Can you please make a video about what one night stands are like in China? And if sex workers are a thing? I heard since sex work is related to organized crime, it's cracked down on. So is there any legal sex work in China?

[@AleeseLightyear]

No, I'm not making a video about one night stands. I'll leave that to someone who's more experienced in that field.

[@SSUYuu-m1o]

在中国任何的性工作者都是违法的，警察一直在打击这种犯罪，但是还是有隐藏的性工作者

[@Jaxfl32204]

Seems like some of the ladies are angry. That’s my perception. The one young lady was talking about white men having options and dating around like it’s a bad thing. I found that very odd possibly hypocritical.