What Single Women Can Learn From Miserable Housewives on TikTok

[@itsmsbryan2u766]

She should have talked about her issues with a therapist and not the internet!

[@Nina2598-k5x]

Why can’t she tell her story to help others ?!

[@simplybri3608]

That part!

[@JuniperMoonshine]

@@Nina2598-k5x This isn’t helping anyone! It’s opening the door for JUDGEMENT . So when she does try to help, she will hear “Wasn’t your husband at the stripclub?” 🥴 “You can’t talk to nobody when your marriage is messed up. “ 🥴. Especially the YOUNG women.

[@jeralinsunflower7300]

Exactly what I said. She needs a therapist, not TikTok.

[@stopthelightskinguilt.3775]

@@Nina2598-k5x thank you. These men are making it seem like single childless women are miserable. Here is proof we are making the right choice.

[@minae9935]

You could not pay me enough to come online and air out my business. I like to take my L’s in silence. Also, if I’m going to be a stay at home mom best believe I’ll have a separate bank account with my own money.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

This! There are too many women airing their business on the internet & that's dangerous! Why can't these women get a proper hobby!?

[@emilbulaba]

Exactly.

[@BackStreetChippets]

I agree with you. I will not embarrass myself on the internet for nobody!

[@noothankyou]

Yeah as a SAHM having my own bank account is great, didn't realize so many women don't do this.

[@Aniexo_]

Same lmfao I hold my L in silent, eat em up and do better.

[@bkchic8824]

I always wondered why my grandma stayed single after my grandpa died. But it all makes sense. She traveled often. Had a home in two different countries, was active, and always had her own money. Singleness suited her so well. 😊

[@keranichell3]

Your grandma is the standard ❤

[@LotsofLisa]

Same here. I’m in my 40s and my mom in her 70s. My parents divorced in the 80s and my mother never remarried. She had a friend here and there but that was definitely it!

[@Deanna0456]

My great grandma lived for 20 years beyond my great grand father. She had his military, work pensions, and social security plus all of her own. Needless to say she spoiled us and lived her best life. My granddaddy used to cheat on her but she got the last laugh in the end.

[@jdeux3677]

My mother as well, she's been widowed since I was 16, now I'm in my late 30s, she's still not interested

[@silverlegalservices]

Go Granny!

[@JadeScorpion31]

I agree with this message. Ladies, stop oversharing online and in mixed company. There’s always a cost when things get out.

[@missmack2328]

Only be open to ppl u trust, and even then…

[@JadeScorpion31]

@@missmack2328 Even then we still have to keep some pieces to ourselves. Everybody don’t have to know everything. It’s a good thing to be lowkey and/or reserved about our personal business.

[@stargates9993]

@Qween Jahsie Oh! No baby! NO! Please don't say that. We just have to help women understand to always preface what they say instead. But please do not muzzle us anymore. We need to share our stories, it's the only way our daughters are going to avoid falling into those traps. The men's games are too tight & well refined over the centuries. We need time to figure out how to protect the next generations of girls. Young girls don't listen to their mothers, because they've been encouraged to see their mothers as competition. So our lonely voices on the internet is their only chance. Men are relentless & busy conquering & what are we doing? What have we got besides this brand new ability to share our experiences in real time, in a way that previous generations never could. We have to speak the truth before they will shut us down, because they will silence us again.

[@dlc2479]

​@Stargates999 I'm 27 and I'm so happy that women are coming forward and sharing their realities because naturally this topic is so touchy & ppl only share the good times

[@susanplatt5331]

As an older woman, people have forgotten the mixed company rule.

[@sha2596]

My ex husband wanted me to want to stay home with future kids… 1 child, a grad school degree with an almost 20 year career, and a divorce later. He’s PISSED that I’m not financially destitute without him. He hates that I can afford a household, travel, and to treat his son like a prince without him. He HATES that my son loves living in my household without him. He also hates that I’m doing all this without a partner. I LOVE living my life as an unattached single woman. My son is an only child and we remain connected to my family and his friends to give him the best childhood experience. You’d need to pay me A LOT of money to get married again.

[@nell_uhh]

This sounds lovely! I’m planning my escape right now. I have 2 kids, and I HOPE to be as stable and as happy as you seem to be. 1st things 1st though, I MUST make more money 😅.

[@ieshjust16]

That was your experience.

[@seabreeze4559]

you're outmanning him, he's that dumb

[@sonialinsey8083]

You want back pats because you got a job like a normal person? Lol.

[@tuushietime]

I can relate.

[@braidslikebrandy]

What I learned is to never tell a woman to leave her man. That's her business and the minute they get back together, you are the mean, bitter, single feminist friend. I will listen to my friends complain but i'm not offering any advice or talking about the man even if i hate him. A lot of the time it's fake news and they will go right back to their household of a 100k income, in comfort, and post their christmas pics bragging about being together for years. I actually had to ask someone to stop telling me how bad marriage is and told her the reality of all her privileges in society being a married woman. Overall, I mind my business over here and work on myself lol. I am by no means saying being married is easy as a woman because I see it is not. But there are a lot of social and financial benefits to marriage-- and the truth is-- many women are not raised to be sure of themselves enough to be single, self-sustained adults for an extended amount of time. The pressure and sh*t talking gets into their heads causing a lot of depression for single women.

[@mi3helle707]

You already know 💯

[@Lisette121]

Agree. I never tell them anything. Just listen

[@Sasha-eo6jz]

Everything you said, is very true! Best to just listen. Don’t let yourself be bated into the “hater” role.

[@kkibela]

I will slowly back out of that friendship.. they dont want a friend they want a wall to vent to everytime things get too much at home.. Im not enabling that

[@attitudeproblem6462]

I won’t tell them to leave, but neither am I here for them to trauma dump on.😒

[@fiyahtribe7210]

She’s crying but not one tear dropped. It’s giving staged

[@africanglobalnomad]

Some people can’t cry even if they lose children, parents, siblings or spouses

[@LotsofLisa]

I don’t know if she’s crying for real, but what I do know is that she looks like Skeletor in that second backtrack video. That chick look absolutely sick. She looks truly affected by her situation! 😂😂😂

[@justsaying7789]

And she said "Imm Im in (dramatic pause) Imm in this with you" staged. How YOU in this with ME? She messed up and made the audience the main character. How the audience getting a divorce? She definitely Peggy the Puppetmaster.

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

@@africanglobalnomad True , but they don’t go through the motions as if they are crying. 🤨 Where are the Critical thinking skills 😒 People just love to leave comments that don’t even make sense

[@chocolatebunny3221]

After you’ve cried so much for so long, there’s literally nothing with to come out. All you can do is whimper.

[@xpnn]

Y’all are going to learn to keep your business to yourselves. If you’re that mad, take his behind to the cleaners in COURT. If you’re gonna stay with him, then zip it.

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

Exactly! Never understood why women complain or rant about how shitty their partners are and don’t leave.

[@wildcatste]

Therapy would help them more but frankly the rest of us are benefiting from them being open like this. Especially when so many people are claiming that all single women are miserable.

[@spacebars9677]

my sister told me that if you find out a man is cheating and you want to stay with him, don’t tell him that you know bc he’ll look at you way less than he already does. i’m sure the same goes for telling everyone else outside of the relationship

[@Freya1412]

​@@devoutmisanthrope5687 I think putting an abuser on blast to the public is extremely dangerous and not effective at all in getting the victim out of that situation. Once the abuser has been exposed they have lost control and that's all that matters to them. Once they have nothing to lose they will retaliate at the victim. Best advice I'd give to a victim as someone who did counselling at a crisis center is to document everything and get an escape plan going. Tell your trusted people what's going on but please don't let the abuser know what's going on. Once you've escaped take your evidence to the police. Stay offline. If you post anything online about your abuser they can use this against you in litigation.

[@greatgownsbeautifulgowns]

Took the words right out of my mouth! She should have kept her mouth shut while she stacked her evidence AND THEN took him to court!

[@taz9234]

So basically she was going to stay with the cheater 😂😂😂

[@f3042]

Because that’s the reality for MOST wives. And if we had more elders keeping it 💯 about what marriage is really like, young women would be picking husbands/partners based on more than just “love”. It certainly isn’t all about money, but the older I get the more I realize that the women described as “gold diggers” have a much more realistic view of men and their behavior. Because the truth is there are plenty of women going through this who work FT as well.

[@CadillacBoss30]

Even if she didn't, she can't get spousal support for someone with no job.

[@beemocha]

@@f3042 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@xo1762]

​@@CadillacBoss30 I don't think he'll accept being jobless for too long or intentionally not get a job just so he doesn't pay child support. So, he'll get back to paying asap.

[@CadillacBoss30]

@@xo1762 If he is shamed out of a job, you don't know how that can damage a career. There is no garuntee he will land the same kind of jobs. Stuff like this would show up in a background check.

[@stilljocelyn_]

That’s why I stay outta married folk business and never give relationship advice…. “Do what makes you happy love “

[@MsLolaTaylor]

💯💯💯

[@fixthatface483]

Exactly “you’ll figure it out girl”👀👀😂

[@mi3helle707]

💯😅

[@stargates9993]

This is why women have had to be silent over the years. It's very complicated for us. Especially because of the children. The reason why men want kids & marriage is exactly for this reason here. Because they know the woman will think twice before talking or leaving. The burden men put on women is just unbelievable. You sink them, they take you down with them. It's not easy!

[@YouYou-sm8tf]

This is why they try to cat-shamed women who prefer being single. Because they have nobody to take care of them. Men are much more scared to die alone than women. So they project their own insecurity on us. Since more and more women are leaving marriage, they try to guilt us that nobody will date a divorced woman or single mother.

[@KeraBear28]

This right here!!! Men know that having children puts women between a rock and a hard place. Women historically have compromised themselves in the most egregious of ways just to keep the marriage and family together.

[@veggiezz]

Well put

[@natillefoxy9881]

That's why young single women must run!!!

[@freckledfacedbeauty151]

This !!!!

[@Aniexo_]

Lol idc what anyone says being single and Childfree is the biggest accomplishment for me. I see what these women are going through. I’ve seen what my mom went through. No matter how they try and flip it being a SAHM looks unappealing!!!

[@MsElizaRae]

I agree. 24 single n childfree 💁🏾‍♀️🥂

[@funsize5441]

Making deals with the patriarchy will get you got 🤷‍♀️

[@Aniexo_]

@@babyyloverk2565 I’m from the Caribbean heavy Christian base. (Which I am as well) my mom was married divorced the. Remarried.

[@dlc2479]

​@Aniexo I'm Caribbean too and feel the same as you. I've seen every iteration of womanhood in my family, single/ childfree, SAHMs, working mom etc....the single childfreee women always seem happiest, look the most youthful/ glowy and seem the most excited about life...

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

Single and child free at 26 🎉😊 I’m abstinent too so I plan to stay that way until marriage

[@naldof6732]

Never understand this trend of everyone just vomitting out their personal lives and problems into the sphere of the internet just to be surprised when they it doesn't respond the way you want. Seriously why wouldn't you talk to a therapist? friends? family? or even in a private group. But PUBLICLY? What are these people thinking? seriously....

[@katlennat1680]

It’s a double edge sword….it’s tacky but it’s helps others be aware of the downsides of such situation.

[@otterlover3399]

Because the literal whole thing is staged for views. Yes the whole thing both Videos, the bitching about her husband and then "crying" about him getting fired was probably all fake

[@ecclairmayo4153]

What did she expect!?

[@tiffyq7794]

When I stayed home my husband sent me money every month for me to save for myself, said he never wanted me to feel trapped and now that I work I still get that direct deposit. I don’t understand how anyone could leave their financial security up to anyone else.

[@phenitagomes1292]

Dose your man cheat too?

[@tiffyq7794]

@@phenitagomes1292 he doesn’t

[@user-mt4fw6sh9e]

​@@tiffyq7794 Are you advertising your man for other women?

[@tiffyq7794]

@@user-mt4fw6sh9e if you can find him from what I’ve said and if u can take him you can have him……….y’all weird af

[@user-mt4fw6sh9e]

@@tiffyq7794 you mean you are weird. He might as well be snatched because What does your man have to do with this Topic?are you using him to discredit what is being said?

[@rainbowbrite9780]

Look, being married has its pros and cons, being single habits pots and cons. To each it’s own! I just recently got married and had my first child at 40. I enjoyed being single and traveling and doing what I wanted. Obviously things have changed as I am now married with a newborn - it is a HUGe adjustment from my previous childfree life. That being said keep your business to yourself and enjoy life regardless of your status!

[@sarkie3927]

What exactly are the cons of being single as a woman? Especially if you have your own source of income?

[@Bri-nc8yp]

@@sarkie3927 Huh, so you never think your ever gonna be sick and can’t work? Do you think you will always have your health? It’s great to have your partner there when life happens. And life happens for all of us. EDIT: That’s why you let GOD give you a spouse. A KIND man. There is a difference of being KIND vs being nice. A man could be nice but he’s not kind. But too many women marry a man who it’s clear doesn’t even like them much less love them then wonder why in your time of need he abandons you. He never cared for you in the first place but you ignored the red flags 🚩 and still married him just to say your married. If your partner leaving you while your sick know that YOU picked that man not GOD. That’s not the person God intended for you but you put your life in your own hands because he checks certain boxes on your superficial list. Then you wonder why you got the man you got. I seen men in my church grow closer to their wives in their time of sickness. I seen one in particular care for his wife: drive her to all her appointments make her meals and fed her. He did everything to take care of her while she was dying of pancreatic cancer that came out of nowhere. I’m sure as she was dying she was happy she had her husband who was stead fast and devoted to her. I also work in healthcare and seen older men come day in and day out to care for their wives with dementia. To the person who said build your own community and not depend on one person. A Godly spouse can’t compare with your mom/dad Aunt/uncle grandma/grandpa friend/sibling Everyone meant to play a different role in your life. The Bible says to leave your parents and cleave to your wife and no one else. To the person who mention having to care for a husband while he sick what’s wrong with that? God FORBID you have to actually lay aside your selfish desire to care for another human being. “OH the HORROR my life should always be about ME ME ME!!! MY WILL BE DONE” Not only is that a selfish way of thinking it’s also demonic. You forget That’s what marriage is about. Two people being ONE FLESH. BOTH submitting to God and each other. It’s a beautiful thing to see in person. A lot of you are OUT of order. That’s not God design.

[@Deanna0456]

@@Bri-nc8yp exactly folks always think they are gonna be young,spry, and travel the world. Good marriages are an excellent source of support. Whatever you choose accept that the bumpy roads will come and prepare for it.

[@funsize5441]

​@@Bri-nc8yp plenty of studies show that men leave there wives once they get sick..🤷‍♀️

[@Michelle.1952]

​​​@@Bri-nc8yp You do know that men tend to leave their wives when their ill right? Even if that doesn't happen, your husband could be un/underemployed and then YOU'D be the one carrying the burden for two (or more of you have children). It's also more likely that he'd be the one to be ill and you'd be the breadwinner and caretaker #dontbeahospicecarewife. It's about building a community around you and not relying on any one person, not even a husband.

[@tashaybrown9879]

As a single mother/married down divorcee, I agree that I wouldn't do it again. I love my kids, but even though I was married, I was still a married single mother. I tell my childless friends/family to enjoy their lives and just wait. And don't marry only for love, make finances a priority as well

[@mammajamma4397]

Or don't get married and don't have kids. No need to shackle yourself to any other human.

[@sipiwemutemwa4733]

Thank you so much for this

[@aneshalove226]

Not her crying and saying don’t mess with her money 😂😂😂😂 love that for her

[@szaszathebore8096]

Just goes to show the hypocrisy of race and hypergamy as well!

[@aneshalove226]

@@szaszathebore8096 I noticed

[@Waters..]

Like girl you don’t think you messed with your own money by running your mouth? Lmao

[@aneshalove226]

@@Waters.. how?

[@aneshalove226]

@Love Goddess Breeze she’ll cry and beg

[@patchdoodle1144]

We are a one income household,here come the tears 🙄. It’s all entitlement until the purse strings are threatened. Be VERY careful who you listen to on the internet ladies

[@dreyaleigh]

☝☝💯💯💯☝☝

[@Nat0528]

yea she’s wild!!! I would’ve never opened my mouth to the public given that he’s the breadwinner! omg! sis should get a wfh job, to stack her coins

[@GhislaineMutombo]

But he was entitled to her womb and body to create and produce care for his legacy? Funny thing is apparently when she is earning men deem her undesirable anyway. Isn't the conversation the character of the man instead?

[@a.h.2667]

A good therapist is the only one who should be hearing all this.

[@patchdoodle1144]

@@GhislaineMutombobut that’s the position YOU are taking. SHE has chosen to stick by her man when things got tricky. Don’t project YOUR feelings on HER decision. This is why I say, watch out who you listen to online. She needed to unpack this with a good therapist not on tik tok. She has NO desire to leave or change her life . She was just venting to feel better. She not looking to be saved or challenge the patriarchy or any extreme views your mentioning. WW are VERY good at this. Complaining day and night about everything under the sun but doing absolutely nothing about it!

[@ElaineLoyd]

People act like I'm so crazy for saying I don't want to get married. That marriage isn't my idea of happiness or fulfillment. I'm not bitter or mad haven't had my heart broken I don't have kids. It's just the happiest marriages I've seen I don't want it.

[@The.Whoever]

Same. I've never had a desire for marriage. I don't see it as a prison or trap though. I can just recognize that it isn't the end all be all. Plus most husbands don't even provide sufficient emotional support. Wtf is the point? Lol I just want to be happy and have peace of mind.

[@dlc2479]

Exactly, I'm a very rational person I use evidence and observations to make decisions. For me it's the fact that I haven't observed a SINGLE marriage that I'd want to emulate combined with stats like the divorce rate, the rate at which men leave their sick wives, married single moms rates, old age poverty for SAHMs etc. None of that sounds fun...

[@lavender123u]

Facts I'm 37 no kids no husband. Ppl think I'm lying when I say I'm truly content and happy. Women all around me are miserable. They chose the married life. It's not all that they thought it be

[@cjpark1461]

Yes I've watched in the last 7 years closely. Those married women are not happy and their husbands are mostly overweight perverts.

[@RampagingChipmunk]

I’m reminded of my aunt staying married for like forty-plus years as a SAHM to her jerk husband. I think it was a “for the kids” sort of situation, but in any case, she has long since lost the ability to provide for herself and now is stuck now that she’s older and her health is declining. Full of bitterness and regret. Definitely always be able to provide for yourself and be willing to leave when things go bad.

[@deasyastarr]

I wanted to be married and never have to work again but I realize how risky it is to do that because if shit hits the fan, who’s gonna hire me if I haven’t worked in several years? I’ll at least work part time and use my off days to do what I want.

[@kkibela]

Someone should make a horror movie with this as the main plot. Shut down the misogynists once and for all.. especially running stats at the end

[@Maderlololohio]

That is scary. My aunt stayed and neglected her health, died way too young. Did everything for her 4 kids, watching and helping w the 6 or 7 kids of her daughter. There for hee cheating husband. Did not get regular checkups and died of wombcancer.

[@KamalaDiddycratsLOST]

Omg, my aunt TOO. She divorced her jerk at age 70! She cared too much about keeping up appearances. She could have left him 20 years ago, when she was healthy, more attractive now she’s lonely & has nothing. Her daughter takes care of her.

[@yobiwolrd07]

@Transformers are coming for your kids I love that you mentioned the "more attractive part". Don't wait until you grey and old

[@omowhanre]

As a housewife I HATE housewife TikTok. Happy housewives don’t put there business out there. Yes, get your education (you can continue it while at home) and always have your own bank account (it doesn’t have to be a secret). I just hate that it’s a only craziness of housewives you see on tv or social media. I just can’t. Also, we invest in real estate together. Our first investment I wanted only my husbands name on it because I just had a baby and didn’t want to go to the bank to get my name on said investment. An older black man pulled me aside and tilde me to get my behind over there and put my name on that ish. I appreciated it. Now even if I have breast milk dripping down my shirt I look over EVERYTHING.

[@EstherMburu-k3r]

Are you okay with him cheating is that something that you signed up for??

[@pink_magical_girl]

I think it's ok to be married and or a stay at home mom but also always have a back up plan and a career of your own. Have your own money. My abusive father treated my mom like a doormat and made it hard for me to ever trust men. Let me tell y'all that if you have your own then you won't be at the mercy of these men.

[@sonialinsey8083]

I’m not sure why you wouldn’t be your own person, but “not ever trusting men” is a problem with you, not with men.

[@user-wt9xm6xz6l]

Just because a man have money doesn’t mean he’s a provider, you also have to look for someone with integrity, someone with good character will naturally want to treat you with respect.

[@f3042]

That’s the reality for MOST wives. And if we had more elders keeping it 💯 about what marriage is really like, young women would be picking husbands/partners based on more than just “love”. It certainly isn’t all about money, but the older I get the more I realize that the women described as “gold diggers” have a much more realistic view of men and their behavior. Because the truth is there are plenty of women going through this who work FT as well.

[@funsize5441]

If we had more elders keeping it real most woman would opt out of marriage

[@f3042]

@@funsize5441 No, because marriage serves its purpose. What, you wanna be intimate with different men, get knocked up and be the only one truly responsible? OR understand that men won’t always control their urges, and because of that you make sure you marry a man who has the ability to provide and take of his children so that when you possibly face disappointment, major things like bills, household, responsibility of children, etc aren’t also going up in flames?

[@fixthatface483]

@@funsize5441 exactly lol

[@dlc2479]

​@F Firstly, not all women want to be mothers...Second, not all straight women are interested in pursuing relationships with men like that. Finally, "understand that men won't always control urges", this logic is all fun and games until he brings home an STD or outside baby, I hope it was worth it then.

[@f3042]

@@dlc2479 Girl- women of all races have been arguing about this stuff for generations. Our mothers got divorced, our grandmothers suffered in silence, or poisoned them lol, our great grandmothers…etc. Women of every background talk about this stuff. Do I want it to happen? No. Are there faithful men? Yes. Do you have to stay if it happens? No. But life be life-ing. When you’re young and in love at 25…things can change 10, 15, 20 years down the line. Things you didn’t imagine or expect can occur. The truth is we all get old one day, and unless you have a community/home filled with other older people and you’re all there for each other forever, you will need someone- a partner in this life who will be there for you and support you and care for you during life’s tough times. I’m just saying a lot of us weren’t taught to look at the big picture. Everyone isn’t miserable, but, as evidenced in this video, even some of the miserable ones find their situations better than that of women doing it all alone. When older women are completely honest, you find young women who are better able to select actual nice guys because they’re taught which qualities/traits to look for. They understand how important it is to align themselves with an actual provider and know how to put his resources to use to better their station in life (while married). They understand a man’s purpose in a woman’s life, and how to move if that man was isn’t fulfilling his end of the deal. What I’m ultimately saying is when we are taught to move strategically- not just off of love- we tend to fare better in the relationship world. Avoiding love and companionship because someone may cheat is kind of sad. I just think it’s better to be realistic about what could possibly happen and be prepared as opposed to avoiding partnership altogether.

[@LadyDee_09]

I really needed this. I'm 35 and don't have the urge to have kids. A lot of people are so bothered by it and I just start saying "You got some baby money and time or what?"

[@Laquia]

😂😂😂😂👏👏👏👏

[@ecclairmayo4153]

And nerves?

[@DoingMe686]

I totally agree with everything you said Chrissie. I'm married to a very high earning man who takes care of all the household finances. I make close to 200k per year, which is nowhere close to what he makes. Even though he has always told me that I can quit or take an early retirement whenever I start complaining about it, I will not do so. I will be eligible to retire the end of next year, and only then will I retire and not a moment before. Gotta always have your own funds and a nice bank account.

[@cmendy1809]

Exactly! I’m a bit worried for the the coming generation, they are filled with all the red pill nonsense who tells them they should not work, not finish their school because it is so much better to be married with 19 because you’re still young and “valuable”, and no man cares about your diploma or your business. Young girls will follow that, and then wake up in their 30’s without nothing and emotionally broken.

[@SweetestGyrl]

❤❤

[@danaso2567]

Smart, always have an out

[@SolitaryGem]

I'm childfree and hypergamous. Just wanna travel the world with a husband. I have a good job and I'll always keep it just in case tho.

[@MsLolaTaylor]

Same

[@BASSFZz]

What do you need a husband for then? Why not just do it yourself and not have to manage being in a relationship at all?

[@BASSFZz]

@@MsLolaTaylorfor what reason?

[@SolitaryGem]

@@BASSFZz because like most people, I desire companionship. Don't desire dealing with kids lol.

[@Morenita570]

You’re so on point Chrissie. I love my lifestyle. My mother was an upwardly mobile struggle housewife with our dad, so she helped my sister and I navigate. She also helped my older brother be a traditional man too, because he’s in a nice upper middle class marriage with his fully b l a c k wife who’s a nurse. I have my degree, quit my job after the wedding. I pretended to look for a job for two years. My husband believed me and told me he loved me being at home. I control the finances, so knew we could afford and had a couple of babies every thing is still great. Got a trainer, chef and now a MUA. Im working part time less than 20hrs at a dream job from networking with other moms. My husband has also met husbands that have helped move his career along. You have to be strategic with this lifestyle. It’s not forever as kids grow. It’s 100% less stressful, I’m having a great time.

[@BanCensorship]

I love that for you! That’s the way to go… use your marriage to your advantage. That’s not saying that you don’t love and appreciate your husband, but what is the point of marriage if you can’t benefit from it? You can get the sex , kids, etc. without marriage.

[@Morenita570]

Exactly!! Keep your figure, have great sexy time (I’m never tired) grow your network with dinner parties and mommy and me play dates, use part time high paying nepo jobs to pad your resume and have references.

[@c45177]

MUA? Damn that’s a flex.

[@CMarie.]

Do you think your husband would have opposed you staying home if you had expressed that's what you wanted? My husband and I both were raised by SAHM's so it was an easy decision for us. I love it! We don't have children yet but we're trying.

[@Morenita570]

Now I know he would not be opposed, but I was scared to ask at the time.

[@simplybri3608]

I barely share with my family issues my husband and I are having. There’s no where in hell I’d tell the internet. People on the internet are crazy! She should’ve thought this through. This just wasn’t smart.

[@AndriaaLeoLove]

Why Do We Have To Have “Issues” With Our Significant Other? I Am Just Convinced That More Than Baby Conflict, It Just Shouldn’t B That Hard.

[@Waters..]

I never understand why people rant and out the very same people they’re financially depending on. Like????

[@simplybri3608]

@@AndriaaLeoLove it seems like you have a fantasy view of marriage and relationships. people and relationships aren’t perfect. Disagreement arise, you get upset you annoy each other at times, etc. it’s not rainbows and butterflies everyday

[@niratomas579]

@@Waters.. You’re so right! Not strategic at all!

[@alexisc7565]

See this is why I can't fully depend on any man financially...it's not worth getting dragged through the mud. To each her own though.

[@gmylap7344]

Agree. I have a very conservative dad who preaches that a man is the head of the family BUT he also taught me to work hard in school and make sure that I dont depend on any man financially

[@amirahannah4410]

Why would you go online and state your grievances knowing that he pays ALL your bills. Smh play it smart.

[@missmack2328]

Im glad we talking about this. Another creator really said that women who aren’t married and don’t have kids are more unhappy than wives

[@pumpkinspice213]

Lol! I know who you’re talking about.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

Well that's a lie cuz I'm living my best life w/o any of that 💅🏾

[@Tiredttttttt]

@@pumpkinspice213 is it the one who’s last name rhymes with booker ? 😂

[@pumpkinspice213]

@@Tiredttttttt bingo

[@TaureanDreams]

Child…I’m still trying to figure out the reason for those videos 😵‍💫

[@pinqfriday2490]

Being child free is amazing. Only have to worry about myself 🥰

[@Dontgiveup964]

Amen

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Facts

[@ADanielle18]

They want to feel empowered By single women and heard one minute and then look down on single women the next 😂😂 I have absolutely 0% sympathy for them and I do not give advice or advice these women theyre beyond help. It's nothing for you to do but let them spiral and hit the hard cold concrete and let these men humble them.#BanTikTok

[@thefrenchsocialite4062]

Thank you!

[@naeneco]

This !

[@funsize5441]

Girrrrrlll I love your ruthlesnesss 😂😂😂😂😂

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

AGREED! I said it once and I will say it again, married women always try to live through single women, just for them to turn around and criticize them for being single.

[@fixthatface483]

PeriodT

[@kemi1486]

I don’t know who asked her to come on the internet complaining. Blk women we need to remember to have our own minds and stop going whichever way the wind blows on the social media. If you want to be single then be single, if you want to be married with children then find a suitable partner and be married with children. Nobody on this internet will be harvesting my good energy.

[@ChocoLatinaAdiccion]

*THIS! The ONLY comment that matches the energy my fingers were too petty to harvest online FINALLY* ❤

[@TheePrettyGirlSwag]

All of the social media attorneys tell you not to become a dependent. She comes off as classless.

[@niomicristina2885]

I’m divorced now but I always encourage my single and child free friends by telling them to live their best life. I remind them that they are not missing out on a damn thing and that most married women wish they were single most times. Ladies your happiness is not defined by another human being. It’s only defined by you. You don’t need marriage or children to be fulfilled. Live your life how you see fit!!!

[@venusvicious4446]

True. They’ll complain about being married and tell us not to have kids but yet they’re not leaving their man anytime soon & steady having more kids. Don’t believe the hype, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

[@MsLolaTaylor]

💯

[@yobiwolrd07]

Don't forget to add complaining about cheating but steady having more kids.

[@niratomas579]

Yes! Those are the same ones that will protest with BW then go home to their hubbies!

[@floraishtar4772]

I absolutely agree that there’s been an uptick in this kind of content. BW need to understand that WW will bash their husbands, burn their bras, protest etc. But only a fraction of them will actually remain single. And a smaller fraction will be single moms. BW are so committed to “keeping it real” it bites us in the end. I know so many feminist WW who own their own businesses and they can do that because their husbands make enough money to cover their expenses while the business gets off the ground. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. But believe me, it’s a good economic and comfort strategy.

[@NalloryLove]

Also for a lot BW marriage is not necessarily an advantage if nothing changes but you acquire another person to take care of. There have been statistics done with data that supports we usually end marrying down from a financial standpoint. I can’t speak for all women but I can definitely say I did not get those perks while married and it was truly exhausting. 😢

[@jesycaj9621]

Thank you for keeping it real! They will talk the talk but not walk the walk. They stand besides their white men.

[@bea3045]

You’re absolutely right about them ww. Some of them will get married 3,4,5 plus times! Because they know the financial benefits that comes with having a man provide for them, even if they complain and hate on their men nonstop.

[@libfuzzy4629]

​@@bea3045😂😂😂

[@melaninpink92]

These stay at homes wives/live in girlfriends on Tiktok won't say to the girlies watching is the same men that they are on TT making content about complaining and crying carrying on, they are going right to sleep next to every night. Many things on Social Media is smoke and mirrors. I think many of them just want to hop on the liberating single, drama free woman. Not centering your life around a man the healed woman movement that's going on.

[@Ms.MD7]

God this woman is soooo stupid; you blast your husband online knowing how crazy ppl are when trying to get a person fired...the whole putting your business online esp marital woes is just plain stupid and cringe.

[@beemocha]

Princess Love has entered the chat…

[@Ms.MD7]

@@beemocha 😂🤣 lol true that

[@Waters..]

Like girl eww. I don’t feel bad for her at all. Stop publicly ranting about people especially if you’re financially depending on that person. Like girl do better.

[@brittneylamar9864]

I think being a stay at home parent with no education or skills LONG TERM is a bad deal. Keep something part time or per diem at least for the long haul. Married or not, if you have children you both need a way to support them. What if someone dies or becomes disabled? You can become a single parent in many ways other than cheating/infidelity.

[@missyk2984]

I support BW not marrying or having children. We have the worst group of mayles and mayles can’t really be trusted no matter what rayce tbh. The only thing we should be concerned about is money/ resources as well as protecting one another

[@dlc2479]

This I'm low-key divested from pursuing marriage or motherhood but it's VERY hard to find other women to form community with bc soo many of us have lives that revolve around men or the pursuit of them

[@avolution1660]

We can also date out too. Most black celebrity females have good marriages when they date/marry out.

[@Somcognito]

​@@dlc2479 SAMEEEE

[@AfroGirl5852]

Just curious why did you type it as “mayles” instead of “males”?!? Just curious!?

[@missyk2984]

@@AfroGirl5852 KZbin deletes our comments.

[@purplescorpio4456]

I agree with you 100% . I would much rather be married and do some adjustments then be a single mother.

[@Nina2598-k5x]

Yep I’m a single mom it’s the opposite for me I’d rather be a single mother and live my life than a single married mother that’s just me I have my village soi have enough resources enough like my college being paid for and family and friends who help me with my one son etc so I’m very lucky ❤

[@topnotchnotch7676]

@@Nina2598-k5x There’s no such thing as a “single married mom”. 🙄

[@lifewithangelina92]

@@topnotchnotch7676 and it is

[@Michelle.1952]

​@@topnotchnotch7676 there absolutely is.

[@thesovereignwoman]

@@topnotchnotch7676 Actually it is…. Most married women are “ married single mothers” They get online and complain all day everyday, come to work, go to the gym etc, about how they do EVERYTHING, complain about how their husbands are never home to help them and when he is, he’s physically present but not mentally or emotionally, they weaponize incompetence … If you’re married but doing the majority of all the cooking, cleaning, child rearing, errands, making all the Drs appts, PTA meetings etc, then you’re a married single mother… Operating like a single mother but just have a piece of paper saying they are married!! 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@imjustsayin34]

Yeah being a SAHM may have been cool before 2020 some may even call it necessary but in this day and age it’s obvious that men know there’s an advantage to being a SAHM especially with all the ventures you can do online. Men are naturally envious of women I can’t imagine a man willing to provide the SAHM experience without wanting to knock that woman down a peg whether it’s through direct abuse financial abuse or cheating.

[@incognito3599]

And a lot of men nowadays regardless of race, want to be stay at home wives themselves😅with wives who mule and provide for them...Honestly I don't judge, whatever works best for those couples, but could never be me😅single life for life for me✌🏾

[@jesycaj9621]

Agreed 😢

[@Liyahw2326]

from experience, if you are allowed the privilege of being a stay at home mom, you have to control your emotional state. When you are always at home, you have so much time to think about the cons of your marriage and the relationship itself. You can feel trapped like you have no life outside of your kids. I went through the same issues. I had to learn to appreciate the fact that I would much rather be in the freedom of my home raising my children than in the work force. Having a man who is willing to marry you and take care of you is a blessing.

[@NalloryLove]

Yes, it’s a HUGE blessing and honestly most women wish to have this with a mentally stable man. ❤

[@alyjahflakes]

SAHM here and I agree with all of this verbatim. There are miserable men and women that are both single and married and there are miserable men and women in marriages where wife works and stays at home. As for me, I’m grateful for the privilege of being a housewife after struggling as a single mother.

[@laniyastroud8808]

Being single is a blessing marriage shouldn't exist it's not about love it's about controlling

[@EstherMburu-k3r]

Even if he goes on trips to cheat and go to strip clubs???

[@glamorazzi0035]

Girl!! Please say it again!! They complain about their husbands and marriage but wouldn’t trade lives with us at all!! Very telling

[@thetruth7968]

I wouldn't want to have their life either. How pathetic

[@WesleyLindsey]

Chrissie really hit it right on the head. IMO modern feminism only really benefits WW that are "othered" by their own community -- gay, non-binary, fat, ugly, non-select by WM. Those are the ones that are loudest about it but now with this modern era it's convinced a lot of WW that actually benefit from white supremacy/ white patriarchy that they have to fight the power too. A lot of them are bored and just want a slightly better position in white patriarchy and some get too full of themselves like the lady in this video and it messes their standing LOL. 55% of voting WW voted for Trump in 2020. They can do all this warring if they want but the system benefits them more than it does anyone non-white and the ones that aren't getting caught up in modern feminism know it too. A lot of WW "fighting the power" is just like how it is in this video. They'll bicker about it but then if shifts, they run back crying. That's my cultural observation.

[@ajh.4131]

Damn! And YOU hit the nail on the head with this comment. I’ve observed that in WW in my personal life. Especially the first part of your comment. How modern feminism only benefits the ones who are “othered”. Yikes! I don’t think I’ve ever read anything truer 🤯

[@munequa81]

I agree! A poor white woman said that's the main reason white women don't like black women because they know they don't have power without the white man, who has the power and position they want, but won't ever get. So they're resentful about being completely dependent on men.

[@aryclai]

you actually hit it on the nail perfectly. Feminism is a white woman game. It doesn’t help black women what so ever. I think the same way with white patriarchy because honestly patriarchy is rooted in racism as well yet some BM want that same right. When in reality it won’t and never will work that way because as BP we were seen as livestock with no sense of power or humanity but only a mere object to be used and slaughtered.

[@auroramokey8270]

Yea I really cant take them seriously atp

[@squarebear619]

Always remember that yt women sat pretty during enslavement and participated with their wrath mostly at Blck women due to their jealousy over their men S.A'ing Blck women. They used Blck women during first wave feminism to gain suffrage. Blck feminism and yt feminism are completely different and even don't really intersect in any real way.

[@chonmonlon2728]

Every day that goes by, i am reaffirmed that i made the right choice in being single and childfree 🍷💅🏾

[@attitudeproblem6462]

Best decision I ever made❤

[@angiefromnairobi]

Same!

[@Kat3369]

Thank you for uplifting being childfree! It's been a rough weekend for us in these YT streets

[@greenytaddict]

🤭oh yes

[@Michelle.1952]

Giiiirrrl. I unsubscribed to you-know-who with a quickness 🏃🏿‍♀️

[@jenealeverett2269]

​@@Michelle.1952who?

[@dlc2479]

What's been going on?

[@misslashaybay]

👂🏾

[@xarablack]

Never marry down. Never chose a life of struggle. 🆙⬆️

[@niratomas579]

🗣

[@LotsofLisa]

This is so sad, but, I have a hard time feeling sorry for any white person. But as. black women, unfortunately, a lot of us grew up without fathers or in families with a lot of broken households and abusive relationships. We grew up knowing we have to have back up plans, jobs, careers, a paycheck because we can’t always depend on our men. That’s why black women are the most educated demographic with the most college degrees in the US. We know. My husband makes well over six figures as do I, but I will never a day be on this earth without a paycheck with MY OWN NAME on it… I learned that from my mother. As far as my father, he wanted to escape so bad he killed his self. He abandoned his second wife with three kids under 10 and I was around 18.

[@islandgirl8067]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@ethioluv1dalluS]

Correction, black women are not the most educated. Black women are the most educated compared to black men. We have the widest gap out of all races between genders.

[@tracyctsl]

You told EVERYTHING, we know 🙏🏾

[@MsInsaneNMembrane]

Wooooow

[@kkibela]

Yup

[@vondrena]

Omg the botox, the cheek filler, the lip injections. She can't even move her face to cry.

[@briantbmoth6472]

I was wondering why she couldn’t fully emote 😂

[@keranichell3]

I want to get married but I don’t want children. I can exit peacefully if need be

[@missyk2984]

Periodt

[@keranichell3]

@@missyk2984 💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿

[@lululemongirl00987]

thats the goal!

[@Bloombaby99]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@islandgirl8067]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@libfuzzy4629]

It is so important for woman to have their own money! This is why dusties get mad when black women choose to be single and have money. Women with money who choose to be single can't be used

[@larissalaflore7202]

Judge Judy said women are stuck when they don't have money of their own.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Just a recipe for abuse

[@shayemoore]

Say that again! They can't be used, and they will cut you off quickly if you f'k up.

[@AshleyDoll89]

Chile I don’t take married women serious they want attention and be coddled then will stay and be quiet. I had coworkers who aren’t even on mortgage fixing up home and helping pay bills like dam fool just to be told to get out when house ain’t clean or dinner not hot enough

[@moni5567]

Yeah she definitely overshared she should’ve went to her girlfriends or a therapist and made a decision on whether she should stay or not. Because whether she stayed or not just by doing this not only did doing this put her family’s lifestyles at risk but also but her own bag at risk!!! Plus y’all see how many married women still would never wanna be single moms. They don’t wanna struggle or give up the trips and the nails. Hell I’ll admit I rather not be a single mother and struggle I like my life too🤷🏾‍♀️

[@celchai]

The REAL victims here are the kids. Imagine being in school and hearing from other classmates and/or teachers that your mom went viral for airing your dad out online. SMH madness.

[@AlexaGoldSoul]

Ladies, everyone online isn’t looking out for your best interests. A lot of people will use your situation as a way to release their own pent up aggression, cruelty and destructive behaviors and claim it’s in solidarity. Be careful out here and STOP OVERSHARING!!!! 🙏🏽

[@niratomas579]

This is one of the biggest lessons I learned from Chrissie! They’ll tell you one thing but in their personal lives do the very opposite! My eyes are open!

[@f3042]

THERES BEEN A SERIOUS BREAKDOWN. Where are the older women keeping it 💯 with their daughters and granddaughters about men and their proclivities? ESPECIALLY if you’re a housewife depending on your hubby financially. The other women going through this just sleep with their personal trainer or spend too much shopping 😂

[@chanson8508]

exactly lol.... maybe she will get a clue from the comments and realize how to betta handle this in the "old way" of get even and keep it movin ; pp

[@f3042]

@@chanson8508 ☕️🙌🏾

[@f3042]

@@chanson8508 That’s all I was trying to say. Every woman isn’t miserable when she understands human nature and how to operate to get exact what she wants out of life. There’s a reason men dislike cold, calculating women. Because they know those women will use reason and logic over emotion at every turn. Do I go crazy when I find out my man went to the strip club during a work trip, or arrange my own “trip” when he next leaves town? Or do I spend a chunk of change on some courses “for fun” that will allow me to learn a skill and make good money while I quietly plan my exit? Etc. Sooooo many ways we can move, but these are things that are usually taught to us by women who came before us. As I said, not all of these married women are miserable. They see marriage as an institution and use it to make moves. Yes love, fidelity and trust are important, but if parents, friends, family, etc can disappoint you, why do you think a husband can’t possibly disappoint you?! Lmao This is why you marry for more than love so that there are other things in place when he DOES disappoint you.

[@tenwaystowearit]

Just being realistic I feel like hypergamy is no longer an option for me. I’m attached and I’m ok with that window being closed BUT even if it were still an option I will always have my own income. I just don’t trust men enough to ever completely depend on one. Also I like spending money way too much. Lol. I need my own money.

[@dustslayer1480]

There is more to life then worrying about a dam man

[@Therell98]

I'm sorry but I laughed when she went from talking ish to crying

[@sabir1208]

People keep trying to get me to get re married, and I'm just uninterested. Actually kind of terrified. Men have shown time and time again that they don't care about or value women, wives, or their own children as a collective. Why would women keep subjecting themselves to what's tantamount to slavery just to say, "I have a husssssband."

[@rah.alexzandria6995]

I still value marriage and family. I also know that these men need to get it together before I share my body and time on a WHOLE FOOL!!! We have to understand marriage is not the final destination, there’s life after the ceremony. Furthermore, these men have all the signs before saying yes or jumping the broom. I say this as a divorce lady ❤.

[@sevena.channel]

I'm just here, a peacefully unmarried, childfree, Antinatalist woman who plans to stay that way forever. No attachments, no issues like these poor suckered mothers/wives.

[@AminahMight]

It’s a blessing, sis. I wouldn’t change it for anything because the peace is just undeniable ❤

[@missti7063]

A big blessing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽, I thank God everyday for this!

[@marcanthonysalon]

There's nothing wrong with being single or married. If you choose to marry, make sure that your mate meets *your* criteria and you'll be fine, just as you have to intentionally design a life of singleness. Just be smart, ladies. Let's not create another divide between Single and Married Ladies, because there's beauty to be found in both.

[@gmylap7344]

@@marcanthonysalon well said!

[@dlc2479]

Not suckered mothers and wives ☠️ Ngl I'm childfree, unmarried and I love it that way🥰

[@annie22krm]

Im married and I agree with the solid advice. The over sharing and being bored, having your own source of income.

[@cherryivana1129]

I’m ngl I’m glad they posted this so I can learn of how not to live my life in my adulthood!

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

Yes! Proud of you. There’s a proverb I think that says “WISE people learn from OTHERS mistakes “ that’s very true. I’m probably older than you , I’m 39 and back in my teens I used to watch talk shows they were very popular back then. I watched them and learned WHAT NOT to do .

[@cherryivana1129]

@@PettyIsMyMiddleName it’s okay I’m 22 years old (23 in July 15th). I’ve never been shown what a healthy loving relationship between two people is like so I would hate to repeat that cycle in my adult life. Plus I don’t want to be a bitter black woman.

[@cherryivana1129]

@@PettyIsMyMiddleName and thank you!!!!

[@tren6893]

@@cherryivana1129 we are in the same boat, but one day I want to be married and have children. I’m currently single and focusing on myself. Dating seems dreadful nowadays. God will send the right person when it’s the right time .

[@cherryivana1129]

@@tren6893 I wish you the best of luck!💓💓

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

Being a SAHM was the most difficult, depressing, exhausting thing I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. I absolutely hated it. I’m so relieved that I’m divorced and my children are happy for me. They’re adults and they all have come to me and said that they are glad I left. That they’ve never seen me this peaceful, content and happy. Btw their dad was not physically abusive. He’s just a miserable, horrible person.

[@seabreeze4559]

covert NPD

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

@@seabreeze4559 are you saying me or my ex husband?

[@seabreeze4559]

@@TheOriginalScorpioBelle him

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I'm so glad you are out of that situation now

[@marcanthonysalon]

OMG I can't imagine sharing the inner workings of my marriage on social media. I'm the most *secret squirrel* life partner of life! If I can't handle it on my own or with a therapist (note that I didn't say friends), then it simply won't be handled. I've been married for 20 years and trust me ~ the internet is NOT your confidant. Trust me.

[@ButterflyBree]

Thank you for sharing another thoughtful commentary Chrissie. It's not healthy to become emotionally attached to the stories/lives of strangers on the internet.

[@JuniperMoonshine]

Here we gooo. Now because these attention-seeking strumpets are on here complaining about their husbands, people will assume anyone that is married is miserable. 🤷🏾‍♀️🙄.

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

No assumptions, data has proven it countless times as well as divorcé statistics. All? Of course not , but a very high percentage.

[@munequa81]

Right, being married to HIM is miserable. Thank God it's not me.

[@demoisellejoli91]

Seriously what happened to Diaries? The obsession for attention on social media is ridiculous

[@PinkTaurus93]

😂 great point

[@BASSFZz]

Hilarious. I keep saying women use TikTok as their diaries all the time

[@niratomas579]

Exactly! Get a journal and get to writing!🤦🏽‍♀️

[@CynKelson]

She 💯 correct. Marriage not easy but life is easier with two especially with building a family.

[@Bri-nc8yp]

It’s only easier if that man is a KIND man. Notice I said KIND not nice. Anything less you might as well stayed single and done it alone.

[@Fatima-kp8hi]

I wish I was the man in the marriage. It way better than being the wife.

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

Yeah ok! Go read data and statistics regarding single -married women. A lot of them are miserable, I rather be alone and living my best life , instead of being married. I have a easy - stress free life !

[@Jenny-fl5cn]

@@Bri-nc8yp my mother is one of those women who are happily married. She has been married to my dad for about 35 years. She told me the first quality to look out for in a man is kindness. Not niceness. Kindness.

[@investirenafriquedepuisloccide]

​@@Jenny-fl5cn my husband is just like me a very KIND man and he would do anything to makes me happy.

[@jaytruth6503]

She knows these people on the internet take s**t to the extreme, now she's crying about being a stay-at-home wife...😂😂😂😂

[@Ninasimonemarie]

My mother and grandmother are single mothers and I’ve seen their struggles with raising children on their own especially at a young age. Even though they had the support of the family it was still hard. And I told my mother I don’t want to have kids and she was perfectly fine with it and supported me on it, because they know the struggle of it. Even if you have a husband there’s still a chance he could leave and you would still end up a single mother.

[@mooncat4376]

I gotta say, this comment section has been a little disappointing. If you want to be married, great, choose the right partner for the job. If you want to be single and/or child free, great, live your life accordingly. Regardless, every choice you make has its pros and cons no matter what, and I wish we could have more comprehensive views on whatever lifestyles ppl choose. I know Chrissie is, esp in the second half, but many sure aren't getting the memo. Stop allowing these clearly embittered ppl (whether they're SAHMs or unhappily married women) to dictate and motivate YOUR life choices. As she mentioned, it's such a trend now to try to "relate" to ppl by constantly complaining about your life. Be aware, be prepared, but you don't have to internalize their b.s lives.

[@mahlatse8605]

They didn't get the message at all

[@ogolden8315]

I don’t know why Michelle Obama is being used as an example, lol. I guess too many BW just read into extremes into things. I’ve watched her interviews about her marriage and she’s just talking about the reality of marriage and also I think for people to stop idealizing her marriage to Barack bcos they/she had to go thru ups and downs to get to what people currently perceive their marriage to be.

[@ChrissiesWay]

I used her as an example because black women on Twitter and elsewhere are using her to promote the idea that single motherhood, hypogamy etc. are better options than marriage and hypergamy. Statistically that is false so it’s actually them taking what she’s saying to the extreme. I agree that the reality of marriage should be discussed but I still think some married women complain and pander to single mothers especially when they would never trade places with them. Black women especially need to realize this and move accordingly.

[@Janna_Ash]

I’m only a couple minutes in….what did this woman think was going to come of her putting her cheating husband on blast? People really lose all kinds of common sense when it comes to the internet. 🥴Obviously she’s not responsible for his bad behavior, but she didn’t know that online people exist in the real world? She didn’t know people will go after him or his job lol? I’m a fully sahm. We are also a one income family (for now). It is risky to depend on a man, but of course some are riskier than others lol. I see too many women that are also in my position, but feel trapped and miserable. Something I’m always telling these women is to stand up for themselves when they have a partner that is unhelpful, unsupportive, neglectful, etc. To stop myself from writing an essay, I’ll wrap this up by saying if you’re already a mom and/or coupled up, if there’s something you don’t like you’ll have to make a move to change it. For the ladies that choose to stay single or be childfree - I totally get it. Enjoy your freedom lol. I love my family, but there’s something special in having the ability to prioritize yourself and not be responsible for others.

[@ariadnameza6594]

This is why cultivating relationships outside of romantic ones is very important. Women are given this idea that your strongest ally will be your partner when a lot of times, throughout a lifetime, you cultivate longer and deeper relationships with your family and friends. Yet you’re encouraged to trust a stranger that could stay a little and cause a lot of damage. Time and time I see women distance themselves from friends and family because they focus their time and affection to a partner only to come back later with health and emotional problems that their support system has to help clean up, only to do it again. That’s why I’m not sure I agree with the phrase ‘if you won’t leave them hush’ because it encourages isolation, I would say ‘if you feel embarrassed to talk about it to someone you trust, it’s a sign to leave’.

[@missskinndeepunapologetically]

I'm glad this shows the dark side of being a kept wife without any fall back plans. Marriage is not guaranteed a lifetime warranty. You'll be with them kids. Also, if you are not prepared to leave them hush🤫

[@ThatEducatorChick]

People really need to stop trying to get people fired.

[@haryel5058]

Lmaooo true

[@SuperStella1111]

In a country with no social safety net, it’s a real punishment. This doesn’t happen in places where losing your job isn’t a big deal. That’s something Americans can’t imagine. Even their healthcare is tied to work, which is unimaginable in lots of countries. And in those places, women are far less dependent. Lose your job? Big deal. The state (your community) steps right in to take care of you and your children.

[@sheritownsend5359]

Why can't we teach or encourage people not to be totally dependent on ANYONE! There are so many variables( anything can happen in life) but persons who knows that they are confident, competent and able to rely on themselves, when the going gets tough, is the person who is not needy, not afraid to leave a relationship and not afraid to have standards.

[@glambyportia3100]

Every married woman/mom isn’t unhappy, broke, and desperate🥴 Happy/healthy marriages do exist! Sorry if you don’t have any great examples around & I’m not encouraging anyone to get married because I’m happily married but everyone isn’t in the same boat. When you are truly blessed, you’re busy cherishing and nurturing what you have. Just be happy and don’t compare yourself to the next! 😉

[@BanCensorship]

@@sugarysweet5674 and if you want to self promote your single status just say that. She can comment on her relationship situation just as well as others, it doesn’t mean that she is self promoting. Some of you are so stuck on “ I’m single and happy” that it’s gives off miserable and unhappy.

[@Maderlololohio]

​@@BanCensorship well she got me for sure. I al all for seeing it done well. So it worked on me.

[@jorjao3319]

What do you guys think about the buffalo shooter getting the death penalty at the federal level?

[@sr7701]

​​@@BanCensorship It's wild how quickly you rode to defend this stranger you know nothing about. Probably single as a Pringle acting hard for a married wm that wouldn't even be your friend 🙄

[@gravityclarity]

This is why women need to get their education and make sure they can make their own money and support themselves. I wish for love. But it's not easy to find a good man.

[@libfuzzy4629]

Most males are trash regardless of race

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

I mean lady what did you think would happen by airing it out on social media…. And then she said “there’s other ways to support me. 🤔🤔 followed by “cutting off my only source of income”…. Ma’am are you looking for financial donations???? Idk how to feel about this.

[@Janna_Ash]

I assumed she meant support with kind words lol. But don’t be surprised if there’s some cashapp tag in her profile. 😆

[@niratomas579]

I’m convinced they get on TikTok TO make money and monetize their lives cuz how Sway???!

[@BadGirlMimi94]

If you're not going to leave, shut up and leave that man alone ‼️

[@loveandjoy810]

Yikes. My mother was married and divorced multiple times and she was left destitute each time. It taught me a valuable lesson, never ever depend on a man for money. Now, I am married. Been married for 26 years, I have always worked and kept my own money separate from my husband. We have one shared account for bills, but everything else is separate and mine. Just this morning my husband asked if I needed any money, 😂 I said no baby, I am my own rich man. LOL! Yes, celebrities try to keep their private life private for a reason but us regular folks want to put all our business out there. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@rolandom29]

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side

[@rachelmaddowswife8713]

Chrissie, I feel like you're the only rational and balanced voice on the internet sometimes. Everything else is so extreme these days, probably just to get clicks. Like everyone just wants to "own" the other side and go "see, single feminists are all desperately unhappy!" or "see, married mothers all regret their choices!" There's a lot more nuance than people are comfortable admitting. Probably they aren't happy with their own lives and are trying to prove that everyone else is just as unhappy as they are to make themselves feel better. Case in point is Pearly Things, she's so wildly unhappy that all she can do is attack other women.

[@mayaayaya]

There is so much pain in this comment section. I pray for everyone’s healing and happiness. Before dating, I wish that more people would heal themselves or be aware of their flaws and learn self control. It would help in many ways. Social media is ultimately so toxic and feeds delusion.

[@BoujeeGrapes]

Nah! Keep bringing it to the internet. Cause I'ma watch it 🍿. Because ya'll gone learn. OAN: Everybody telling you to do the same thing (don't get married, don't have kids, don't date black bm, divest, be hypergimist, stay single, be a housewife, be a boss chick). All these different messages are kicking ya'll ass trying to keep up. DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOOOOOU!!!!

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

LMAO facts. You gotta water the grass where you are otherwise you’ll always have a problem. Be content where you are at in life bc social media advice will have you spinning

[@BanCensorship]

😂😂😂 it will have the weak and easily led in a chokehold

[@BoujeeGrapes]

@@BanCensorship That part!

[@jorjao3319]

What do you guys think about the buffalo shooter getting the death penalty in federal government?

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

I know happily married women but they are not the majority. I want to be married BUT it has to be the right one!! Mama didn’t raise a fool so I’ll need a good lawyer too lol

[@mi3helle707]

💯

[@Damnsaburna]

The interviews are deff worth the price

[@TsahaiLayne]

Hold on, I work in the building materials industry and I know the convention the first creator was talking about because I was at that convention. And it is known that a lot of the guys do get out of hand and get into trouble even though it’s a work trip. Interesting. I even made a tiktok about how draining the convention was. Kinda unrelated but I was shocked to hear that in the first minute of the video.

[@niratomas579]

Yeah! She gave out a LOT of info🤦🏽‍♀️

[@royaltiri]

I really don't understand why any woman thinks being kept is the best possible option. Who doesn't want their own income and the satisfaction that comes from earning it? 🤷

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I will never understand it. It doesn't sound appealing. Just a recipe for abuse

[@callmecanolli322]

Her yt tears and carrying on fell upon deaf ears with me. These people on line calling her husband job is showing how protected yt woman actually are. They would have never run to protect a sister like this.

[@ieshjust16]

The older you get, people will start to judge you for being singe and childless but don't let it bother you. You only have 1 life so live for YOU and whatever you believe in.

[@alienunicorn4178]

Also live your life. You don’t want to look back with regret

[@susanclark8578]

LMAO there's miserable people on both sides of the married line. Both sides triflin spreading it all over social media cuz sometime spread their legs that shouldn't have! Keep it to yourself or on the DL to some friends/ fam🙄