What Southerners Really Mean

Oh, bless your heart... 💖 But seriously, tell my neighbor it's not a cockroach. #comedy #south #midwest
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WHAT SOUTHERNERS REALLY MEAN
Written by Ann Marie Taepke, Kim Holderness
Produced by Penn Holderness, Sam Pressman
Edited by Sam Pressman, Penn Holderness

[@user-jt7ou4rv4c]

As a born and bred Southerner, not every "bless your heart" is an insult. Sometimes it's a way to express concern

[@pep590]

True and that northerner is from way up north like Minnesota or Wisconsin, NOT the Midwest. A few screw ups in this video.

[@nohaboy100]

Yeah, in my day that phrase was very, very, rarely an insult. And still is not in most of Appalachia. If it was meant as one, the insult or words to that effect followed the phrase. The Palmetto bug one is often true. Them bugs are much bigger than most cockroaches.

[@carolcole570]

TOTALLY used out of concern ! 24/7/365.

[@toddseales8222]

Bless your heart. 😂😂

[@carolcole570]

@@toddseales8222 Todd…….I looked at your words and my heart said that you totally understand and are so sweet. However, then, next to it I saw faces that were LAUGHING and had tears on the faces. Immediately, I thought that the faces were mocking. One face laughing is one thing, and faces with tears is another thing, but together ? Oxymoron. I live in the South and AS a Southerner, “ Bless your heart “ means just that…….NEVER to be mocking. Bottom line on YOUR remark, Todd ? You are not a nice boy.

[@colleenwilson6869]

“We just do it behind your back and then we have to go to confession”-truth!

[@AB2B]

Just for edification, "bless your heart" can mean many things. It can indeed be sweet, like, "Oh, look at Timmy helping his grandma with the groceries; bless his heart!". It can mean you poor thing, like, "Lisa's car had a tree limb fall on the roof but insurance is refusing to pay, bless her heart." It's all in how and when it's used.

[@cynthiasnyder1561]

Exactly!

[@arianekelly2633]

Yeah there's a ton of meanings 😅 all depending on context and tone.

[@kimrowlen6017]

Yes! I’ve lived in the Deep South my whole life. Bless your heart means so many things!!

[@rachelmartin5187]

Yep. Tone says EVERYTHING

[@jasonavery]

It depends on the context, the situation, and the tone of voice. It can be very sarcastic or genuine.

[@trentrice6977]

“I’ll wash myself with Dawn” was actually the most Midwest thing.

[@bernardrichards9247]

Mary Anne having to flip thru her clipboard to find the right insult is iconic. As well as her bodily fling into poison Ivy😂

[@tiffanypontierk4tsp842]

And her accent just dropped away at the end 😂😂

[@jessicaloree9033]

I love her!

[@m_n_a_b]

I love Mary Anne! 😂

[@beckybaessler7153]

Love it 😀

[@page-turner]

Ain’t none of y’all true Southerners, and that is a fact. Bless your heart is not nasty. Katty-wompus means and crossways. Fixin means you tend to do it directly and directly means in a little while or soon as you git to it. We also tote things in gunny sacks and furthermore know that ain’t is accepted and proper Southern English. If you need any more clearin’ up on Southern stuff let me know.

[@Valpo2004]

As a mid westerner with a southern wife, my wife insists to me that her mother is not trying to insult me when she says "Bless your heart". But I am suspicious. . .

[@eobrien1]

Lol depends completely on context. For example, if you’re sick & just can’t seem to get better, “Bless your heart, you just can’t get well!” = totally sincere but the way they’re using absolutely does mean “you’re an idiot” 😂

[@mannfan12]

@@eobrien1 Yes, exactly. Context is everything.

[@ThubanDraconis]

Really it is just saying that someone is dealing with some troubles and you wish them well. If the problems are self inflicted as a result of stupidity then it's absolutely an insult. Otherwise it's probably not.

[@gandolfthegardener]

Mother-in-laws will do that. 😉

[@reikicowgirl9817]

I grew up in the South and the Bless your heart thing is getting totally blown out of proportion on KZbin.

[@rinforthewin-ks1vk]

As a Wisconsinite who married a Virginian, I relate to this so hard. I don’t care what the intent is, I will always take a heart blessing as a good thing. 😂

[@briesullivan883]

Where in VA? I’m in NOVA and I’ve been told that I’m in ‘Northern Occupied Virginia’ and not the South.

[@blam9360]

Well bless your heart, God love ya! 😂

[@paigehowey2549]

From Illinois, live in North Carolina now.....all so true!!!!!

[@joshmusser9284]

​@@briesullivan883 as someone from the Shenandoah Valley I can confirm that assessment, and that I'll pray for you

[@larrymo49]

I am a life-long Southerner and Saying "Bless Your Heart" simply means you care. This crap about it being an insult is the real insult to true Southerners. So, stop it.

[@kathyleslie73]

“Bless your heart” is way more nuanced than Kim is presenting it here. As another commentor said, it’s all about context. Example: “I have to have surgery.” “Bless your heart!” is a genuine expression of concern and empathy. “I made this paintng in my adult-ed art class!” “Bless your heart!” is not. “Bless your heart” and its close cousin, “God love you,” always depends on what was said right before it. Always.

[@brn2863]

I just said something similar lol Yes all of these things can be insults, but most of them are contextual.

[@devonwilliams3886]

Exactly. I am a southerner born and raised. BLESS YOUR HEART meaning changes depending on how you say it.

[@singingtick]

Nail on the head

[@DanasGardenRetreat]

As a Midwesterner living down here I agree, but most of the time it’s an insult😂 you can usually tell by the person if they’re kind or a pain in the ass lol

[@darlouthia5153]

😂😂😂😂 and don’t worry, she’ll wash herself with Dawn. Bless her heart ❤

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Bless her heart - it worked! No poison ivy!

[@lucindalandauer1691]

Whoa! That’s an amazing trick!

[@debidallacosta5736]

Yep! Dawn dish soap…if it removes the grease from your pans, it will remove the poison Ivy oils from your skin…I wash head to toe with it after being in the forest, no poison Ivy for me anymore. Just don’t forget to wash your clothes in tecnu, would hate to get it from your clothes after that have already been washed.

[@victoriamahon3765]

Oh my God I love the bit at the end about the dawn it's so true to hundred percent fact it's the oils in poison ivy that make you break out so if you and immediately go wash with degreaser soap, usually a dish soap, a lot of times you can avoid getting the rash but you have to make sure not to touch your clothes or anything again after that, those have to go right in the wash too. A lot of times people will pick up a second-hand poison ivy rash from garden tools or clothes that aren't cleaned yet. I have really sensitive skin and I'm prone to bad poison ivy rashes and this has always worked for me. I used to keep lemon dish soap in the shower just for that situation.

[@daisyorpington784]

Dawn and Tecnu! Don't go out without them😂😂

[@erincounts8209]

When I moved to Mississippi my neighbor said “oh lord the Yankees are coming”. Um. Ma’am, I’m from the cornfields of Indiana. May I interest you in some sugar cream pie? And that was my Hoosier hospitality version of flying the peace flag 😂

[@neals8752]

I love how fast that Wisconsin accent dropped in the poison ivy. 😂

[@christyfield1792]

Mama says it all comes down to the tone and how it's said. Could be truly heartfelt or could be biting sarcasm. That is also my experience, mainly with the "bless your heart". I have used it both ways all my life. Parents are both Southern. I grew up in CA.

[@terrimcnutt7968]

Exactly, I say Bless your heart all the time and 9 times out of 10 I mean it for good. Also, when I say I'll pray for you, I mean a real prayer. I honestly feel like most people I know arnt being sarcastic when they say stuff like that.

[@normaforsyth7950]

Exactly

[@bethprather9241]

I agree totally. Bless your heart, I don't use or hear much anymore because originally we never thought of it as mean or sarcastic, a go to phrase .. another story. But when she said, " God bless um," I knew immediately that it is how it is stated. The voice of sarcastic sound.. ,Actually, is a good chance many don't even realize they said it that way..lol

[@postergmail6202]

You call your mother mama. Says it all.

[@terrimcnutt7968]

@@postergmail6202 my mama saids...Waterboy...hahaha

[@TheNerdistheWord]

“Bless your heart” can mean that someone feels bad for you because something bad happened to you. It’s all about the context.

[@raea3588]

It's like when Midwesterners say "Good luck with that."

[@TheNerdistheWord]

@@raea3588 that just sounds mean 🤣 people in the south say that too

[@Happywarrior100]

Yes. I grew up in the South and there are multiple meanings for some of these sayings.

[@cinnamongirl3070]

Exactly!!

[@cinnamongirl3070]

@@raea3588 HAHA! We said that in the North also. Just saying "good luck" usually meant we were wishing them luck. But added "with that" usually meant don't hold your breath. 😆

[@logicandlaughs]

When we first moved down here from the Midwest, a waitress came up and said, "Sweety?" and my husband was so confused. "Dear?" He asked her back. She then looked confused. Eventually we figured out that she was asking if he wanted sweet tea.

[@kathieb6443]

😂

[@marykuettner752]

No, she wasn't. She wanted to take his order.

[@tao4mike]

Bless your heart!

[@mars7612]

I'm pretty sure she was just calling him sweetie.. 😂 It's pretty common down there 🤷‍♀️

[@what8562]

​@@mars7612It's insanely hard to get rid of this habit. I kringe every time I say that but keep saying it anyway.

[@lisamarie06]

As a Wisconsinite who just recently moved to Tennessee, this is valuable information!

[@skoltrollkallamik4450]

I'll pray for you.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

​@@skoltrollkallamik4450 😂😅

[@marykuettner752]

Bless your heart.❤

[@1m2rich]

I a Yankee was insulted so many times in TN. I should have called them Rednecks. Hey we give you tax money. Leave me alone. Do you know manners?

[@dedhampster4730]

Not an insult, but I had a coworker once come in grumbling that the breakroom toaster oven burnt her biscuits. We all misheard her as " 'Yall know what burns my biscuits?" and the whole department popped up like prairie dogs out of our cubicles to get some of that good, spicy drama. That day going forward we started all gossip about annoying people and things with " 'Yall know what burns my biscuits?"

[@melissacooper8724]

Sometimes I use the term "burns my biscuits" and I'm not a southerner!

[@PatMcFadyenGrowingGradeByGrade]

Kim's quiet warning, "Leaves of three..." cracked me up. Then, the automatic subtitles translated Mary Anne saying, "I'll wash with DON"! Naughty! 😂

[@CaptMortifyd]

DAWN as in the dish soap.

[@PatMcFadyenGrowingGradeByGrade]

@@CaptMortifyd Yes, I caught that. I thought the subtitles made a hilarious mistake!

[@SecretSquirrelFun]

The subtitles can be so wrong sometimes it’s hilarious 😂

[@piiinkDeluxe]

The subtitles also called Penn a pen. 😮

[@kathrynpotter1797]

She said wash with Dawn, bless your heart😅

[@robbymounce5764]

“BLESS YOUR HEARTS!” “Okay! No need to get NASTY!” lol! This line………..… this line makes me very happy……………… lol ❤

[@holidayphotomagic]

As someone born and raised in the North and living in the south for over 20 years, this is so spot on. It took me forever to learn 'southern' sarcasm and charm/hospitality. Although I no longer have my northern midwestern accent , I still say things like 'for funny', 'ya, sure' and 'ya, no' - my poor husband has no idea if I am saying no or yes. 🤣

[@pixelshocker7775]

Northern expat here, and a guy...totally agree with this. A Southerner will put a knife in your back with a friendly smile on their face. Not a blanket statement, but that's how it often happens. At least up north, if someone didn't like you, you knew. Of course, I've found that some grumpy northerners who aren't that pleasant to be around can turn out to be the most reliable, steadfast friends you can find...as long as you don't talk too much!

[@abstract1dea]

If that goes on, you may just have to "pitch a fit"

[@trinaq]

I love your neighbour's Midwestern accent, she's so lovable and naive!

[@alicemaggio8854]

Bless her heart!

[@cmm5542]

​@@alicemaggio8854 ❤😂

[@Iluvchknz]

Except that is a Minnesota accent which I guess is the upper Midwest, but the rest of do not sound like that.

[@patkern185]

Apparently you haven't been to the Upper Peninsula. I used to have a sales territory in the upper Midwest. I asked my boss why I got all the "ya, hey dere" states. He looked confused and I said, "Whenever I call them and say, HI, this is Pat from (the company I worked for), they would say "Oh, ya hey dere, Pat..how ya doin?" 😂

[@nleb1993]

The best part she isnt even Midwestern.

[@jamesblanton3744]

I’m a north Florida native and I love the reaction when people from up north see a palmetto bug fly the first time

[@getreal200]

😄 I know! It's like a VW Bug bouncing down the runway. 😳

[@AdamWaffen]

I would love it if they just stayed north.

[@woofer77]

But then there are the no-see-ums. I'd rather have my mosquitoes like in TX where you can see them coming. I'm happy I'm back up north where they die in the winter. I'm filet mingon for mosquitoes. I also like to say that I'm mosquito repellent for others.

[@skoltrollkallamik4450]

Oofda! As a midwesterner married to a southerner, this hits home. Nice thing is we're up here and I learned bless everyone's heart.

[@dianabouvier4718]

I just love your “neighbor” skits. She is exactly (except the exaggerated accent) like people I knew in Nebraska.

[@RamblinRick_]

Actually not really exagerated. She's on Charlie Beren's channel. Same accent.

[@lapurta22]

You need to meet some Minnesotans

[@amytarvin2776]

I live in Nebraska…and I resemble that remark!😮😅😊

[@btetschner]

I live in Nebraska (have for about 90% of my life), and 100% agree with that.

[@amyhull754]

Yeah...it's not exaggerated. It's just not a "midwestern" accent, but a *northern* accent: North Wisconsin, Upper Peninsula Michigan, Minnesota, North Dakota.

[@katrinawinbornmiller4820]

Hey, ‘bless your heart’ does sometimes mean ‘bless your heart,’ like feeling empathy or sympathy. It’s all in the tone and the context.

[@Vipre-]

"So if it sounds too nice I should be suspicious?" Never heard it put so perfectly. Yes, yes you should. "She also told me, 'Someone's biscuit wasn't done in the middle.'" That is now my new favorite insult.

[@patkern185]

Mine too!! 😂

[@nybsbfan18]

😆

[@eggiesammich]

"We just do it behind your back" is very true in the midwest 😅 I live on a cul-de-sac and everyone is very civil but there's so much drama behind the scenes.

[@karenanderson5482]

It's called Minnesota Nice.😂

[@trainerstone]

I did a lot of business in VA. I began to realize the "Southern compliment" wasn't such a compliment. "You don't sweat much for a fat man." Well thank...wait a minute!

[@patriciadurham643]

Love these videos!! Midwest neighbor is the best! When she is paired with Charlie Berens it’s hilarious!

[@vxskud]

Midwest manners and Southern Manners are like two alien cultures meeting for the first time

[@ryanworkman3032]

Her response would be appropriate once she realizes that Palmetto Bugs can FLY!

[@JonathanJONeill]

Eff those red bastards in SW Georgia. If I hear one of those things that sounds like helicopters flying around my room after the lights go out at night, I'm entering seek and destroy mode because I'm not going to sleep until it's dead.

[@fourlittlebirds6166]

“Bless your heart” in a sickly sweet tone basically means “awww you’re an idiot, but at least Jesus still loves you!” 😂

[@lesilemccravy5172]

Or bless your pea pickin heart and bless your soul

[@Tasia71144]

Oh my Gosh, can’t stop laughing! Good one!

[@sonnymominc9483]

I love Mary Ann! I'm a displaced Midwesterner myself and everyone tells me I have an accent. I never knew! "Thank you for blessing my heart!" "She thinks you're an idiot."

[@ChristianSouthernGirl]

My husband found a palmetto bug (also known as a tree roach but not the same as a German cockroach) that fell from a tree onto the roof and then down the outside of the stove vent into the house into a cabinet. When he went to remove it, it moved so quick and ran at him, that while jumping back and hollering in surprise, he almost fell off the chair. 😂😂😂 They are big and much faster than you think!!!

[@DaveM-FFB]

And they fly!

[@missyyy-]

Just wait till it takes to the sky…

[@pakviroti3616]

And they can fly.

[@patchdavis35]

Stepped on a palmetto bug in the dark kitchen. Felt it squish and fluid came out. Turned on the light to get a tissue to throw it away. Bug got up and ran too fast for me to get it! After the apocalypse, there will be only roaches. Well, roaches and CHER! Love the channel!

[@raffriff42]

Bless his heart. One crawled up my pant leg. I did the craziest dance.

[@camelgirl65]

We moved from the Northeast to North Carolina 15 years ago and boy was I unprepared for the fake sweetness. Took me a couple of years to get that my "sweet" neighbors were anything but! After someone who I really like went all in on the sweetness & compliments then after the person left the room she said, I hate her, it finally hit me. The 'bless your heart" was so confusing to me. Now I know they all think I'm Yankee who has different values than they do...and they are right! Bless their hearts 🙃😁

[@alphabetsoup6681]

NYer in NC. Bless ‘em all.

[@amandajohnson6662]

Michiganders who lived our first 2 years of married life in NC...bless their hearts

[@SarahSmith-ff6yy]

Omg. I’m from the Midwest and had zero clue. I honestly thought they were just being sweet. 😂

[@amyhellerford9422]

​@@SarahSmith-ff6yy , Yep, bless their hearts lol ! I know 2 women from the south that moved up here & they said they were fake & snobby. If you weren't dressed just so, you got looks ! I hope that's not true !

[@SarahSmith-ff6yy]

@@amyhellerford9422 Sounds stressful! I'll just stick to my Midwest no style but nice vibe. lol

[@GinkoYoki234]

Remember: "Bless your heart" is not as bad as "Bless your little heart!" 🙂

[@cf-kw5qo]

My grandma always told me bless your little heart ❤️… she said it when I did something good

[@mackiemadepapercreations]

Did she get poison oak diving into that pile??? Bless her heart! 🤣😂🤣

[@justaworm1]

Bless your/their heart can actually mean it too, especially if the person is struggling with illness or something. You have to pick up on the context.

[@terrimcnutt7968]

They need to correct that in this video. It isn't always an insult

[@ChicagoSports_81]

I would like to applaud ANN MARIE's full on committment to throwing herself onto the ground, full of poison ivy, and then just saying she'll use Dawn. As a former midwesterner, thanks for educating me on some new southern insults.

[@roya7961]

Bless your heart has many meanings. I say Bless your heart and I can assure that it does not mean something rude. I have lived in the South most of my life.

[@33nlg]

Depends

[@Sahmgirl]

Okay, I get that this is funny, and I don't want to be overly sensitive. But as a born and raised deep southerner, this simply isn't true. "I'll pray for you" and "Bless your heart" are not insults. I say these expressions regularly from a point of sincerity. That may not be true for all southerners (especially big city southerners), but it is for most. The kindest, friendliest people in the world live in the American south. It's the way we were raised, and is an expression of our belief in the Christian principle of "doing unto others as you would have them do unto you."

[@33nlg]

Born and bred in the South and all of this is true.

[@raymondlussier3920]

Love the videos with Anne Marie. Love seeing the two of you hanging together in your videos instead of you trying to avoid her.

[@patkern185]

"Do people NOT Insult each other in the Midwest? "OH gosh no! We just do it behind your back and then we have to go to Confession." 😅

[@Fox-Mann-Fam]

This is delightful. We use "kitty wampus" in Minnesota to mean both disarray and askew. Like after doing cartwheels the kids were all kitty wampus.

[@raea3588]

That's one of my new favorites. I'm going to start saying that 😃

[@wartgin]

Ditto in NJ although we have always spelled it cattywampus. Merriam Webster does list catawampus as an alternate spelling but I don't know if they get into regional spellings.

[@borntoteachw4028]

we've always said that in MN !!!

[@marykuettner752]

Kittycorner and Cattywampuss

[@maryohare4141]

DOWN SOUTH IT'S STATED AS "CATTY WAMPUS." It means "you are toppsy-turvy...or "ass over head" in a mess! My Daddy was Southern mountain man...my maternal grandmother was a Northern Irish redhead! Yep, heard alot of colorful sayings and it was more inventive and amusing than actual cussing!

[@kiragarvie]

So. True. Moved to Georgia from Indiana and had some major culture shock. Before that I grew up in NY and MA and honestly I sort of miss the sometimes brutal honesty of the Northeast

[@LS-sg8rb]

New Englanders are far kinder than Southerners, by a mile. Southerners hide their daggers in flowers, and New Englanders hide their flowers in a pile of pinecones.

[@Mari-cre8s]

At least you know exactly where you stand with someone in New England!!🤣🤣 Here in the Pacific NW, there’s so much ‘political correctness’ you often don’t have a clue!🙄🤣

[@joeblow5087]

​@Mari, you said that before.

[@donnaleeah5075]

Indeed. I'm a Mainer, there's never any question. Lolol it's so much easier.

[@jindejak93]

My mom lived in GA for a few years when she was a kid. She picked up a slew of these. And passed them on to me. I'm sarcastic and southern insulting it confuses the hell out of people. Lol

[@Grim_Sister]

Even I know “That biscuit ain’t done in the middle” and “I’ll pray for you” are southern insults. And I live in Israel!

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Bless your heart 😂

[@Grim_Sister]

@@holdernessfamilylaughs did I say something offensive? I’m sorry!

[@osmadchlo]

@@Grim_Sister No, you did not say anything offensive! That one was heartfelt! That one was sincere!

[@patbullard9276]

When she fell on the ground getting away from the palmetto bug, roach, I think she fell right into a patch of poison oak.

[@lavenderperidot1359]

Please, please, please.... Bless your heart (spoken by a southerner) actually does mean bless your heart. Come on. So tired of people (usually Yankees) saying otherwise.

[@33nlg]

I grew up and live in the South , it can definitely be an insult. Denial is a river in Egypt. Same goes for the phrase “ I will pray for you “.

[@princesskateforthewin]

I have lived in the South since 1978. My family and I moved South from Long Island. Believe it or not, I never heard of hoe cakes. Bless my heart, what rock was I born under, y'all? But I digress. Holderness Family, y'all are right funny! I pulled a mouth muscle from laughing.

[@lesilemccravy5172]

We call them pancakes others call them flapjacks

[@trebmaster]

"And thank you so much for blessing my heart!"

[@Oneir0naut]

This is the craziest thing, I was in the woods playing with my dog just to the left of your opening shot- I live in that area. I heard the screaming about cockroaches in that exaggerated accent, never saw you, and I seriously worried the rest of that day that I might be losing my mind and hearing things - Amazing Race is my favorite Reality show and you all are probably my favorite team to compete. Had no idea you were in the town I live. Thank you so much for what you do and thank you now that I don't have to go see a doctor 😂

[@jessica8815]

Also very southern. She wasn’t worried about the poison ivy. She’ll just wash it off 🤣

[@chickie8252]

I accidently brought one of those palmetto bugs home to Jersey in my suitcase from Tennessee. Yeah they do look like a roach. The biggest roach you ever saw! It was on one of my posters in my bedroom and I went to hit it with a shoe and it flew away! I could never find it in my house or in my room. I did not sleep in my bedroom for the rest of the summer, because I couldn't find that stupid thing!

[@misspersnickety3674]

Lizards eat them

[@reikicowgirl9817]

We had one on the ceiling in our dorm room and I handed my roommate a textbook and told her to whack it. She missed, it fell onto her head and the screaming…! It was epic! I still remember that and laugh.

[@annaburns2865]

Lol. You safely avoided the cockroach, but now you have poison ivy. That “leaves of three” part should have been in the main episode. Also the dawn. It was just too funny not to add at the end 😂

[@Nurichiri]

I don't know if this goes for the entire Midwest, but in the Chicago area insulting with sarcasm is an art form.

[@cmm5542]

Nice!

[@debidallacosta5736]

@@cmm5542 only if that nice is dripping with sarcasm…we can pour it on thick here in the Windy City

[@amyhellerford9422]

Sarcasm MUST be a Midwest thing. I learned ALOT of it from my ex !

[@artsfarmstudio6405]

When I first moved to FL from up north, I was talking to a couple of local women, and mentioned the 'southern hospitality' you hear so much about. One of them said "Oh honey, nooooo. That's just a myth; it's not like that here at all"

[@anthonymendez1997]

It depends on which part of Florida you went to. Jacksonville has southern hospitality and Miami has Latin American hospitality.

[@artsfarmstudio6405]

@@anthonymendez1997 Neither, I'm on the central FL Gulf coast. From what I've experienced in the past 8 years, they don't much like 'Yankees' here. There are a lot of transplants from the northeast and midwest here. It seems similar to how in NJ, people living 'down the shore' don't like visitors from the northern & central part of the state. But, like in Fl, they like the tourist $$$ though lol.

[@anthonymendez1997]

@@artsfarmstudio6405 So I was talking about the two extremes of FL and it seems like you in the middle. Tampa and Orlando are considered to be the end of what is southern.

[@artsfarmstudio6405]

@@anthonymendez1997 yep, pretty much right in the middle here. We evacuated right before Hurricane Irma, and went to Pensacola. I noticed a real difference as we made stops on the way north; people were definitely different--nicer and more laid back.

[@Vipre-]

@@artsfarmstudio6405 "Neither, I'm on the central FL Gulf coast." Oh see that's the problem, that part of Florida isn't in the "South".

[@rebeccaherman2894]

Here in VA, (or maybe just my house) when someone says or does something SUPER stupid - we just smile at them and say "you're pretty" 🤣😂🤣😀

[@cmm5542]

My brother does that to me. 😁 And then my sister says to HIM : 'It's a good thing you're cute.' 😂😂😂

[@gpmoore]

I’m so southern that my high school mascot was the “wampus cats” Bless our hearts

[@maryohare4141]

I laughed my head off when I moved South and my Southern neice said to me, "Look over there, its a blue tail skenk...dont touch it or its tail falls off!" She looked so puzzled at my laughing. I learned a "skenk" is a small blue lizard...and I explained to her the Northern word "skank" was slang for a lowly ill-repute woman...who probably had wagged her tail too often too! Lol!

[@dancingrl7350]

It's called a Blue-tailed Skink, because there are other varieties of skink, which (obviously) is a type of lizard. There are over 1500 different skink species.

[@jenniferbates2811]

This is wicked funny! I live in Rhode Island, and we're so direct with each other. When she was like I've been taking notes!!!🤣🤣

[@galamander_1327]

I grew up in New England. I could never relax in the southeast. They're so vicious and always covert about it. With folks from the Northeast you more or less know where you stand with them. Yet Northerners are often characterized as rude. Maybe with their backwards Southern context, genuine pleasantries sound awful to them? And playful teasing like "Ain't got the sense god gave geese" sounds horrendous?

[@jenniferbates2811]

@Galamander _ Hello 👋🏼. So true, I'd rather be honest and not waste anyone's time. Where do you live now?

[@borntoteachw4028]

I need to move to the east coast. I am born and raised in MN and I love love LOOOVE the directness of people from the East Coast. I think they're "my people" ! I never have to worry or wonder what anyone is thinking.........passive -aggressiveness is sooo alive and well in the Midwest and Minnesota. It's craaaazy. I feel like I "fit in" the few times I have been in New York, or seen New Yorkers - act - or behave. My Dad's side of my relatives are Jewish and from Cleveland and although I was not raised with that, I adore the sensibilities of the straight-forward culture, and I have always loved my relatives amazing and dry sense of humor. I am all the characters in movies who speak their mind !! (It's just not accepted here in the Midwest!!) Oy and OHHH Myyyyy Gaaaaawwwwww sh !!

[@jenniferbates2811]

@Borntoteach W Does your dad have any family on the East Coast? I couldn't imagine not being able to be honest with people. Being passive-aggressive is like unnecessary mental Olympics. Hopefully, one day you'll make it here.

[@trinaq]

Haha, the best way to insult each other is to make it sound like a compliment! 😅

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Right?

[@noahpartic7586]

Southern Sarcasm😏.

[@myblacklab7]

I immediately thought "what foliage did she just jump into?" and couldn't stop thinking about that until the end of the skit. Thank you for the closure.

[@terrybeasley5931]

"That so?" means " You're a damn liar". 🤣🤣🤣

[@LadyBeeSting2434]

“Bless your heart” is how the tone and context is. Not everyone is out to getcha. But yes, they will insult you nicely like a comment like, “their biscuit batter (family) came out sour. “Meaning they aren’t nice folks. 😂 I

[@bobbigirl9983]

I am from Washington State and moved to Tennessee about 7 years ago. It took me a year to realize the whole insult thing. My favorite is, "Bless your heart". Lol

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Bless your heart

[@bobbigirl9983]

Lololololo

[@bonnieweeks7601]

I was working as a travel nurse in Charleston, SC. One nurse told me not to get stuck in the pluff mud and to zig zag if I got chased by a gator. Good things to know.

[@omiai]

Penn's baffled face at the end xD perfect

[@sarah-phillips]

Northern California enjoys “I love that for you!” which is a “that’s a terrible idea but please go ahead because it will be a delight to watch you crash and burn.”

[@cmm5542]

I just say, 'Huh, go for it!' and sit back and observe 😅

[@JLuVeeGee]

As someone who moved out of the Midwest for the first time and ended in South Carolina, I relate to the cockroach v. Palmetto bugs thing. They're roaches

[@sararampton654]

Amen

[@JJLewis-so1iq]

GIANT roaches

[@lunagrace2872]

Palmetto bugs can fly and cockroaches don’t.

[@noel7777noel]

A bug that if you spray them; they come flying after you; deserves their very own vocabulary word. The "why" we give them their very own vocabulary word. When my aunt first moved here, her first meet and greet, after spraying it, the thing flew in her long hair and got stuck. She had no idea they can fly and came that big. And how they react when spraying them... She was never the same after that day. She did move back north. No. They are not the same. And they deserve respect to give them thier own name.

[@mars7612]

​@@lunagrace2872 Look it up, palmetto bugs are literally cockroaches. There are various types of roaches so, the ones that don't fly aren't the only ones that exist

[@Thelongmanable]

*_HR did a whole meeting about me saying, "I love you," and "I love you to" because they believed it meant F U!!! LOL 😆 🤣_*

[@HollyT01]

My mind immediately went "POISON IVY!" when she threw herself in the first one. And this is all true. We southerners insult so sweetly!

[@whychill4377]

I don't?

[@lsharon2175]

Grew up in Arkansas. Living in Wisconsin for 27 years now. ALL of this is entirely spot on! I have to show my mom this.

[@justnerdystuff]

Back in the 80's I was in a ministry that was originally from the South. They started a church in Arizona. I am finding out now that all the time, which was almost every day, they almost always started a sentence to me with "Bless your heart". And all this time they were calling me an idiot. Yah, I'm going to get ahold of those people (cuz I am still friends with them) and confront them about this. Because I honestly thought they were "blessing" my heart. TBH, I am on the spectrum and I have grown a lot in maturity. (my kids who are in their 30's are still older than me, but I think I'm in my 20's now) Not going to lie, this kinda stings.

[@ChaliceFlame]

Bless your heart at the beginning of a sentence, especially, can translate to "oh, your poor thing!" and be genuine empathy.

[@ChaliceFlame]

Also, kinda weird if they always started sentences like that. It's a common phrase, but not every sentence common!

[@justnerdystuff]

@@ChaliceFlame Sorry, I should have said reply to me. It was always after most things I said. Growing up in Arizona, they mostly replied "Space, the final frontier" At least I knew what that meant. Or they would hum the tune to "Twilight Zone."

[@guppybill]

My dad's family are all Texans. Uncle Tony was my favorite. He asked for a signature by saying, "Draw me a picher of yer name onat line."

[@mpbarber12]

The accent that Wisconsin is known for all depends on where in Wisconsin you are. (Obviously it's just a caricature here). I grew up and live in Southeastern Wisconsin and not many people I have ever interacted with speak that way. Oh we ACT that way for sure , but not everyone has the nasally upper Midwest pitch. The whole "be nice to your face but talk about you behind your back" thing though, yeah that's totally a THING. Family gatherings are one big event of silent judgement. Ahh memories! You guys really need to do an episode where the neighbor is out in public and asks people where the bubbler is.

[@oscarthomas9130]

That girl's got a hankerin' for a ruttin' buck to ride down at the fishin' hole. That feller took off like a scalded kitty cat He's been sparkin' that old gal 3 ways to Sunday Y'all knock off so we can take some rations Don't step in nothin' you can't wipe off 🙃😁🙃

[@raea3588]

😆Gold! I learned so much ❤I feel a little stupid and I don't know how many times I've been insulted 🤗But bless your hearts! 😁 No yeah, I was going to say that I would be a whole lot more freaked out by that poison ivy and oak than a cockroach.... I mean a palmetto bug 🤔

[@Canadianbatgirl62]

Yesssss! When I was 6 weeks old my parents flew down to Florida with me to show the family there. My mother went into the bedroom one morning where my bassinet was and she let out a blood curdling scream. The family came running and there on the hood of my bassinet was a humongous cockroach. My aunt Caroline said, "Oh, that's just a little old Palmetto bug". 😂😂😂

[@aliceglazner1538]

I was watching this muted, it’s so much better with the accents.😂. Thanks for a Sunday laugh!❤

[@brandonhughes179]

I'm a lifelong Georgian and I just learned a couple! Never heard of ho-cakes or the "biscuit not done in the middle" phrase

[@tracyg4660]

Yes. In Georgia we say elevator doesn't go to the top floor or not the brightest bulb in the bunch. First time hearing biscuit not done too

[@dancingrl7350]

Also Georgian here. I've always heard it that their CORNBREAD is not done in the middle, which makes more sense, as cornbread is a larger amount of batter, and so might not have baked all the way through. Also, hoecakes are so-called because, when they were first invented, they were cooked on a hoe over an open fire, which is how they acquired their smallish shape. They couldn't be larger than the blade of the hoe. They aren't made of flour batter like a pancake. They are made of corn meal batter.

[@tammys5687]

I'd be more worried about snakes in the bushes than a Palmetto bug. 😆 We moved from Michigan to South Carolina, this is so funny.

[@kynn23]

Yeah, I can't imagine jumping into the bushes (let alone poison ivy) upon seeing a bug on a trail.

[@jessicaloree9033]

Lol the roaches & size of bugs freaked me tf out when I first saw them but I felt like it was how huge they were as apposed to what they were so that was definitely something that took awhile to get used to. So yeah I can totally relate to the reaction because that's how I spent that first summer. We arrived in Cary NC on the 4th of July in 1996. & When I say that first summer, I mean the first couple of years because there's only 1 & a half seasons here so yeah no. I'd say that was portrayed extremely accurate lol 😆😆😆👏👏👏

[@cristiewentz8586]

"just cause I talk slow don't mean I'm stupid."

[@RedDogMamaHD]

Last year, I was working as a volunteer, feeding 200 people (4 meals a day) with The Sacramento Mandarins Drum and Bugle Corps. While on tour, they flew me into Gulfport, MS and we spent a short while at Hattiesburg. We stayed at a High School, and the women working in the office were amazing women! So friendly and warm. And so polite. And helpful. And no one blessed my heart! 🥰🥰

[@Corrosion15]

What a great way to start my morning. Have a nice day yall.

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

You too! Thanks for watching

[@anthonykuns1032]

I simply love you guys! Almost as funny as your Hallmark movies in less than five minutes.

[@MrsCutout206]

I did not know caddy-wompass was a southern thing. I thought everyone said that.

[@saramitchell2020]

This has me laughing everytime I watch... I asked my grandma if she dealt with this when she moved here down south. 😂

[@lhs1221]

Sooo true! When we moved to the South from the Northeast, our realtor called them palmetto bugs. I then pretty much had the exact same convo as is shown in the video!😂

[@donnafrei8062]

When I moved to FL in 1986 I was disgusted to see cockroaches. Only to discover that some could fly....palmetto bugs. But the best are these spiders with long legs that move super fast...we call them "wacky wallwalkers" after the sticky toys Kellogg's had as prizes in their cereal boxes years ago. If you are old enough to remember them, that's how big these guys are!

[@lesilemccravy5172]

We just call them cockroaches or waterbug

[@ChristianSouthernGirl]

Leaves of three... I'll wash myself with Dawn... I think she's going to be fine. 😂

[@bestany5517]

My favorite part of these videos is the self-promo song at the end. Not even lying.

[@LiterallyCensoredDaily]

We northeasterners are much more direct. "Bless your heart" definitely sounds a lot kinder than "Geez, what a dumb bastid."

[@story3877]

proud NYer here but my relatives are from all over the US and so I already know most of this shit. It's hilarious when my aunts come to visit from NC and FL and friends are like, aww you're aunt is so sweet and i'm like dude, she just called you an idiot. lol! Also nothing is more satisfying than getting my uncle to say, "I'll pray for you." means i'm doing the right thing (he's a bit of a bigot lol). But even in the agricultural part of NY that i grew up in, we used these terms. I've heard "give me some sugar since i was kid" (ew) and "Aren't you precious" (which i've noticed in my friend group has shifted thanks to GOT to "Oh my sweet summer child." lol!). ya know when thinking about this, i see that a lot of our terms are only half expressed thoughts like "the hell?" as in what is going on, what have you done, what is that and why would you do that (it's very expansive) and "ohhhh son," (or girl) which is similar to aren't you precious. The rest of the time we're your stereotypical new yorkers, even when not living in the city. We have southern politeness to a point then we tell you where you can go and how fast you can get there. It's very cathartic. lol!

[@vanessasetford-smith8074]

I held the door open for an older guy carrying a tray of coffee (I’m from the uk and was in Florida) and he said ‘bless your heart’ and I was thinking ‘isn’t that an insult?’ I still can’t get my head round why he thought I was an idiot. This was last year and I still wonder what his problem was. 😂

[@llamasugar5478]

Midwesterner here. It’s confusing, isn’t it? Sometimes BYH just means BYH. I guess it’s about context.

[@papercraftingmom98]

I've never said it as an insult!

[@vickyb9918]

I don’t think it’s always an insult. Have to see what context it’s in. In your case I think it was something nice.

[@Jake-Drake]

@@vickyb9918 Definitely

[@mistygrider7825]

Sometimes it really does mean just bless your heart !!! I say it all the time to nice people !!!

[@jennykonrath6011]

I'm from Chicago, I wish I had seen this when I first moved here to S.Carolina 8 years ago.😂😂😂😂

[@donaldlewis567]

Moved to East Tennessee last year from Minnesota where we have been the last 20 years...I was thinking how nice everyone was down here...now I know what they really think of me :) Still prefer it to Minnesota!

[@finkjeb2779]

Hurray a new Holderness family video! My weekend is almost beginning what a great start! Thanks ❤

[@Kneon_Knight]

I took Basic Training and AIT at Fort Benning, and fortunately had someone who explained all this to me. Y'all just earned a like and a new subscriber.

[@robbymounce5764]

Yeah………… lol whenever a Southerner says “BLESS YOUR HEART” what they REALLY mean to say is “OH, WHAT AN IDIOT!” …………..… lol ❤

[@Bakerybeach]

A palmetto bug is a large flying cockroach that makes loud ticking noises. Biggest reason I don’t like the south. The other is the lizards and snakes

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

So many reasons!

[@llamasugar5478]

Humidity is top of my list. 🥵 Boo!

[@jennchubb3200]

Yep between the heat/humidity and the gigantic bugs I'll always be a Northern girl...Viva la Mitten❤

[@llamasugar5478]

@@jennchubb3200 Yay, Mitten! Born in IL, but Michigander by the grace of God.

[@adria89]

You forgot about the spiders too! Just too many creepy crawly things!