What The First Month With a Baby Was Like | Reflux, Pacifiers + Bottles, Clusterfeeding, Sleep

[@caycestager1269]

I would love to see a video talking about you and Michaels relationship and that transition into parenthood. Like how he has been able to help out and ways to give you a break while breastfeeding/mom-ing. I am due in May and i'm very curious about the dynamic shift in the relationship and how to make the partner involved to help share the tasks and keep everyone sane in the hard newborn months!

[@cschrock2]

I love that you address the fact that babies fight being swaddled! I'm a NICU nurse and often parents tell me their baby doesn't like being swaddled. First of all, your baby is a newborn and doesn't really like much! As parents we get to teach them! Second, while they may fight it , it really is GOOD for them! It is developmentally appropriate, helps them feel nested and safe like they were in the womb, is crucial for temperature maintenance (I've seen many readmissions for low temperatures), and promotes healthy sleep. I love that you were so open to being educated and changing you practice. Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@ElsaRhae]

I don’t have kids, may not ever, and I watch every one of your videos. Thanks for all your hard work.

[@eclectica1389]

My beautiful boy is 2 now. Looking back on all of the beginning weeks stuff feels like a dream now. It seemed hard then, but it's memories I cherish now. Wouldn't change being his mom for anything.

[@brandyvankampen5378]

So so helpful! I have a 2 week old at home and hearing what you went through with makes me feel a little more sane lol

[@anaritamartins3890]

I don't have kids and don't plan to have at least for the next five years, but I love to watch these videos to imagine how it can be like and be more aware of other people in this situation! I feel like I'll re-watch this in some years time :)

[@tamryngobatti7307]

I love that you are always so genuine... Your content isnt just a spit up of cliches.. Thanks Victoria!

[@gchristine2583]

Thank you for being so real about the recovery process. I'm going through it right now and my mother region is so raw and I just wanna cry because of the irritation.

[@FemmeHead]

The healing process is ROUGH. You're not alone. Hang in there!!

[@jilianrose5180]

This video is so helpful. I’m due in December and crazy worried about the adjustment to life as a mom. You’re videos are always so real and honest, thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@kirstencooper193]

This video was so helpful. I feel like you talked about things most moms don’t when they do in one month update. I am seriously scared about being sleep deprived, because my sleep is so important to me to function. Thanks so much for everything!

[@giorgiaperotti9517]

I had the exact same experience with the bottle nipples! I wish more people would talk about that. I remember having alarms set in my phone for every two hours (per his doctor) for the first few weeks that was so brutal! You are bringing back so many memories!😭

[@martadolinska8267]

My baby is 3 weeks old. This video is so helpful, thank you 😍

[@courtneymfultstaylor]

Wow, I can’t believe how different parenting can look. For instance, I co-sleep with my 2 month old and he just finds my boob in his sleep and we sleep throughout the whole night. No bottles, no swaddles, no timed feedings, or diaper logs, and I can’t bring myself to leave him asleep in a different room because I don’t have a monitor 😂 it’s so cool how many different choices we have as parents! I love it! I’m about to order some of the diapers that you have btw!! Thank you!!

[@rayy2670]

Yes, it's amazing how many ways to parent there are. I co slept for months, but we never slept well when close. At 4months or so she started to sleep much better during naps in the crib, to the point of sleeping 4 hours vs vaking every 45 min next to me. We don't have a monitor either, she sleeps next door, like 1 meter away feom us.

[@courtneymfultstaylor]

RAY y wow!! See, everyone is so different

[@amberwuollet]

And how different parenting can look from one baby to the next! My first I tried all the swaddles and read all the sleep books and logged every poop. My second just slept next to me and snacked whenever he wanted to and I think I logged one diaper before I abandoned the app.. 😂 I feel like I’ve had two very different parenting experiences and they were only 2 years apart!

[@FemmeHead]

I love how many different experiences there are and how everyone finds what works for them. And cultural differences are really cool too!

[@death2theworld]

It might be easy for you but you are increasing risk if sudden infant death manifold. You can sleep with baby near you in a crib by your bed. Not trying to be judgmental or anything but that is the safest option for your baby! A 2014 study found that 69 percent of babies were bed sharing at the time of their death.

[@nanaronhano337]

Is the Spectra nipple fast flow? I exclusively pump (baby won’t latch) and used Spectra bottles for a couple days. I heard the issue with comotomo bottles is that they encourage more of a straw like suck. The nipple is sooo long.

[@leahlane6506]

Yes swaddle the baby! I get anxiety when I see newborns not swaddled. My sisters-in-law thought I was nuts every time we would visit her new babies and I’d swaddled them immediately after arriving 😂

[@FemmeHead]

I do too when I see people post pictures of their sweet babes unswaddled and then say "I can't get them to sleep longer than 45 minute stretches at night". I want to drive to their houses and swaddle them up haha. It's true some babies sleep better arms out (my nephew) but a lot of babies sleep better arms swaddled in.

[@karandang9352]

This was so helpful!

[@paigealexandriax]

I love your insight! My baby girl will be 2 months soon and I can relate to a lot that you have said. Just wondering what was the way that you have began to swaddle your baby that works?

[@FemmeHead]

I found a swaddle that he can't hulk his way out of 😅 and then it's all about what you do once they're swaddled to soothe them. It's very similar to the 5 S's if you're familiar with that. But I think each baby is unique and as we all know what they like and don't like changes day to day.

[@choueresa]

i love your videos

[@amandacornett5919]

I slept w my baby on my chest the first few weeks too.

[@missloretta]

Wait, what was your baby's favorite pooping position? Lol The video kindof cut out and it seems like that's important information.

[@FemmeHead]

Haha it's kind of hard to explain, but sitting on the couch I would put my legs up on the coffee table and lean him up against those in a reclined seated position and that what his go to position for some reason. He poops a lot while on his belly these days.

[@missloretta]

@@FemmeHead thanks!💩

[@AKM8829]

It’s funny how complicated you make it sounds. I am pregnant right now with my first child and have not one of your concerns. It’s just a baby. It will be fine. Trusting instincts is usually a pretty solid thing

[@margeauxeatsushi]

Anna Kerbl no offense but you haven’t had your baby yet so you really don’t have the same perspective as someone who has already been going through postpartum and newborn stage. Come back after your first month with a baby and then tell us how easy it was! 🤣 Seems to me like she’s talking about some pretty normal newborns topics, not sure what’s ‘complicated’ about it.

[@surlespasdondine]

Lol how on earth.would you know what it will be like? Damn, you are in for a ride if you don't expect it to be complicated🤣🤣🤣

[@surlespasdondine]

@@margeauxeatsushi right? Just normal newborn stuff. But you know what they say, the perfect parents are those who haven't had kids yet🤪

[@lauriejane]

Being supportive and non-judgemental is usually a pretty solid thing... I sincerely hope you have a safe, healthy and enjoyable transition to parenthood. But when you inevitably face the physical and emotional challenges of that journey, I hope nobody rudely shames you in the same way that you so freely shame others.

[@surlespasdondine]

@@lauriejane 👏🙌👍