What To Do If A Guy Is Stressed And Pulls Away

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[@perfectcatch24]

IF HE PULLS AWAY: Let him go and give his space, let him see your value through your absence. Focus on being the best and beautiful you, be your best self all the time. By letting him go or allowing is to have his space to show you are confident, secured, and someone who knows his/her worth. Do not try to push yourself or chase, because that lowers your value.

[@wheatstonebridge]

Thanks Sean

[@marylcampbell2409]

Well said 💕💯

[@missbrown5609]

Needed to see this. Thank you 🙏🏿

[@patriciaearley4177]

It's hard not to feel insecure when a man does that :(

[@deljean]

VERY

[@yasminbagley8826]

Yes!

[@ReneelovesGod]

Yes!!!!!!.. it is hard ..so hard..

[@ricesenpai]

mmhmm :’)

[@babysab8013]

Yeah but not impossible

[@imbonnie]

Let him go -- it demonstrates self respect and respect for him.

[@deanarodriguez4258]

Going through this now. It hurts. Guys need space when they're dealing with financial, family and divorce issues. It's not about me. I have to respect and love him. Thanks Elliot. Great video!

[@Youtouwbe911]

Same here now! Any update on what happened in your situation?

[@nicoleflusk5434]

@@Youtouwbe911 me too!! Been a month and I miss him so much

[@songchunxue]

I see this was from 4 years ago, do you mind sharing how things ended or what happened? i'm going through this right now.

[@reclusivelovey]

Thank you for saying "I love you ladies" each time. It's important.

[@DarknessIsThePath]

He is lying! He is trying to move too fast! Lmao joke :D

[@myfairhousewife]

It’s this simple guys. Women, thrive on communication. I get masculine energy. But if your woman is feeling insecure, then at least give us the courtesy to not make us feel crazy and as if your behavior is in our head. Acting like that, will make your woman pull away or even leave you. That shit gets old. You want women to tell you what’s wrong and open up, it’s a damn two way street. So maybe we just stop telling you if we are feeling upset. We just become passive aggressive and decide to give you a taste of your own medicine.

[@mariekhela5122]

When my guy and I had long distance relationship he became stressed due to not being compensated for 5 months of contract work had to shut his company down he told me he was going to village he needed to see his family mum dad siblings I said ok greet them for me. He was gone six weeks YES I missed him mostly the attention and communication. I had to be strong to allow him his space. I did he came back. LEARN TO BE PATIENT WITH POSITIVE ATTITUDE..

[@missc2091]

How long did u know him then?

[@gu2755]

Thank you. I will be patient with my man😘

[@LK-fn1nk]

How long did you wait him to come back? Because mine said he was dealing with problems and said "i will call you" but he does not. I responded "i dont know what is going on right now with your life, but when will you" (i asked that because he already flaked on me the day where we had to see each other for an appointement of mine). He did not respond. I am in a state of waiting (i poursue my life as well) and i stopped sending him any messages, because i don't wanna be clingy. The same story already happened 2 months ago, he said it was his way of dealing problems. Our relationship is 4 months only... Same like your story, he leads a company and has a lot of responsability on his shoulders. However, i don't know the nature of his "problems".

[@swayze2403]

This sounds fine and dandy BUT I'm just scared that when the man pulls away, during the time that he's away, he might mess up or cheat or something =/ All I need is for a guy to say "hey I'm stressed about THIS and need time alone to figure it out but me and you are GOOD!" Is that too much to ask? I'd feel less worried and insecure.

[@patriciaearley4177]

I agree 100%!!

[@bridgetmary9867]

When he does that, take care of ur emotional health such when he doesn't come back, u're good to go

[@danam358]

I’m with you 💯. But men generally don’t like to seem weak and by saying it to you makes them feel less masculine. We just need to be patient! I’ve been in relationships short and long term and almost all of them did that. Some of them don’t come beck but the genuine ones do come back.

[@missc2091]

@@danam358 how long do they take to come back

[@andrew-isac]

@@missc2091 good Qs : crickets hahaa

[@priyankachauhan3443]

He pulled away like thousand times during our 8 months relationship. I don't think it's still me who has to understand, if he can't even talk to me about stuff why is he in a relationship with me? He had been ignoring me for 10 days and didn't even tell me what was wrong, i just let him pull away, but this time it's forever! I was hell crazy and emotional for him but I'm not gonna take shit nomore!

[@rizacas8664]

okay pulls away is fine but when he pulls away with another woman is a different story,...

[@rosemariecooksey4524]

riza cas true

[@phoenixrising8860]

😂😂😂

[@bridgetmary9867]

Hahah

[@amienadir]

😂😂Yeah

[@susanabaci2800]

But how do you know???

[@kresivarivkah612]

My man had a stressful period. I knew him thirty years before we started dating. I called him and offered him support. That created strong emotional intimacy between us.

[@The64v]

I think it's important to emphasize what you touched on briefly here, this only applies if the guy is decent, and you actually want him to come back.

[@eso8171]

To let him pull away is fine but the hard thing is when he stops all the communication and doesn't say he needs space to work his stuff on his own. Specially when all goes well and you have no idea what's going on I think this behaviour is very selfish and traumatic for women.

[@miriams9415]

This is really true. Its something I've been dealing with recently and I realized if they are stressed and want to pull away, let them . Like you said, if he wants to pull away he will anyways, so there's nothing you can do to change that. At the same time, I do think the person should still be respectful and respond kindly about it. Of course any negative response shouldn't necessarily be taken personally, but people should all be treated with respect and kindness. Obviously, life isn't like that but people should keep that in mind. If you need to deal with your issues on your own that's fine, but don't take your stress out on the other person!They don't deserve it.

[@fonzyrivera8775]

Miri S Thank You this is a new perspective. 💕

[@charisse234]

know what I like about you Elliott. its the way you always try to be polite. when a guy is pulling away due to stress or whatever.leave him the fuck alone. end of!!!!!

[@surviveit4230]

Absolutely you should let him have him space. A guy i was seeing has an incredible amount of stress at the moment. Hes aware im here if he wants to talk but im not going to go to him. If he comes back great. If not then i hope he resolves his issues

[@ericaDanielle134]

Survive it hey so what was the outcome to this? Did he come back?

[@heatherann4390]

Hate seeing him so stressed i wish he'd let me be there for him but he needs his space. Hes always been a very independant man and he likes his time to himself "to deal with things in his own head" as he put it.

[@kathleenvenese]

I guess men are like that. I’m experiencing that with my bf now too

[@bailey1493]

Watching these videos back to back. Trying so hard to not end the relationship completely with my fiancé

[@drownedhorses]

My long distance boyfriend did this recently. He pulled away for about 2 to 3 weeks due to work stress. He went camping with no outside influences and came back happy and back to me

[@kathleenvenese]

My bf asked for a space since last wendesday bcos of the new transition of his work and workload it made him so stressed. I hope he comes back to me soon and less stressed 😢

[@ReneelovesGod]

I like the way you explain this about men energy .. other coaches don’t mention when a man is stressed. The just say when he pulls away..

[@TheCynthiaCT]

Elliot can you please talk about how to support and deal with men when they are having downs in life? (family member is seriously sick, living overseas and in poor condition, physical injuries, stressful at work...etc.) how to show supportive and make them feel better?

[@lisaj1615]

I can't f****** believe this, I literally was going to email you about this, lol! I just started reading your book and I felt in my heart that I was doing everything right till he pulled away due to stress, haha!

[@priscillasalas3136]

Going through this right now & my emotions keeps trying to tell me it’s personal when I know I didn’t do anything & it’s most likely work/fish tank issue related. Thank you for the advice.🙏🏽

[@songchunxue]

what happened to the fish tank???

[@maimakeupartistry3145]

Love this! My man is going through tough times and this has been an eye opener!! Xx

[@chelseaeberhardt]

so my boyfriend says i add stress to his life but his life is already stressful. i told him that i’m going to give him the time and space to figure out what he wants in life besides me and to get his future on track because that’s what is stressing him out. but being with me is another stress added bc he can’t be the guy i need is what he tells me and that i deserve the world and he’s gonna be extremely busy and not be able to give me it. i told him that i love him and that i’m willing to focus on myself and give him the freedom to do what he needs to do but we can still be together and i feel like it will work out update: we are so much better now

[@deljean]

This is scary because im going through this exact same thing. He told me yesterday tht ive been stressing him out about me constantly stressing about everything in our relationship. He's stressing about not making enough money andvhe told me he loves me and tht i should have no reason to be insecure. So i gave him space starting today.

[@chelseaeberhardt]

trust me, avoid conflict and just roll with his vibes. if he doesn’t text you back, remember, he will come back if he loves you and the space will end. be the emotional gate keeper of your relationship. allow time for coping and then work out stuff and tell him your sorry for adding extra stress. you are like me and we’re always gonna add stress to people’s lives bc we stress daily, but we can’t change the person we’re with. no matter how much stress we cause, we’re pushing them away. let him come to you and y’all will prosper.

[@deljean]

@@chelseaeberhardt yea i apologized to him for stressing him out. Thanks girl. Appreciate the advice.

[@chelseaeberhardt]

Rasna Bharadwaj The space was more like me and him still talking but not doing anything together. It wasn’t a real break. However, in total things started getting better in September for sure and it started after our first huge almost breakup moment in June. So I would say 4 months. We took a lot of off and on breaks, and now we’re doing so much better. We rarely fight anymore and he’s in love with me again and making the time for me that I deserved in the beginning. The hardest part about this whole thing was giving him time to reanalyze whether he wants to be with me long term or leave and break it off.

[@chelseaeberhardt]

Rasna Bharadwaj i’m not an expert on dating and stuff, but my advice is if he mentions at all to you that you are stressing him out and pulls away from you, let him. If you give him the space to deal out things on his own, he will more than likely see that you are not the problem and recoup and mend things with you. Sometimes we can be the problem though. for my case, I wasn’t the main problem. It was how I dealt with things that made our relationship have a rough patch. I let him have control over me and i have stopped allowing it. Now we are happy

[@KISHEEME]

This advice was extremely helpful and let me know I was doing the right thing but letting him go and handle his business. Thanks!

[@katherinebrown2841]

O MY GOD!!! every word in this video was so relatable! with the apologizing for being needy and the forcing him to talk about stuff because i want to solve things my way etc. etc! thank you so much. You have no idea how much stress you've relieved off of my shoulders!!! I will forever be greatful for you and these videos but especially this one! I will be watching this over and over again when I start to freak out and overthink about these things!! thank you thank you thank you!!

[@Coupdepied]

Hi Elliot. Thank you for your video. I am unfortunately going through this situation right now. He has been pulling away, we have talked about it and he has told me that it doesn't have anything to do with me, that his feelings haven't changed, but he is going through many problems in his work and needs some time to figure things out. I've told him that it hurts me a lot he says he's very sorry, he knows it's a problem that he pulls away when he's stressed and that he is working on it but can't avoid doing it yet. I would like to be patient but I can't avoid feeling extremely hurt and that, despite him telling me that he does like me and wants to continue our relationship, the fact that he is so distant and doesn't really seem to "need" me is a sign that things will not work. So when he does contact me, I'm so hurt and resentful of the situation that I cannot act happy as if everything is ok, I just feel like shutting down myself, and tell him how much he is hurting me, despite knowing I shouldn't do that. So bottom line... I am very confused. I am able to control my behaviour, not texting, not nagging, giving him space, but I am not able to control the pain and anger that I feel due to him pulling away like this. I feel like there is nothing I can do and the waiting to see if he solves his issues and comes back is killing me (I am super anxious, not sleeping, feeling extremely sad, having very low productivity at work)... I want to be understanding of his feelings and needs, but what about my feelings and needs, shouldn't there be a balance between his and mine? Could you please give me some advice on what I can do? Thank you very much for your help.

[@amandapanda345]

Coupdepied OMG I feel you completely! Same situation in my life right now and it's driving me crazy. I want a happy medium but I doubt I'll get one.

[@Coupdepied]

Well Amanda, I'm sorry to say but my story had a very sad ending, I eventually found out he was actually seeing someone else at the same time, an ex-girlfriend, so basically lying for the whole time. I do hope your story will go better, but keep an eye, just in case...

[@bloodyfries8421]

I just read your first comment and I am going through the same thing. He told me he wanted space yesterday to solve his issues and I told him I will wait. Thanks for the update, you must have felt so betrayed...

[@mahnoorshoaib4199]

my exact situation right now. i dont know what to do.

[@missc2091]

@@mahnoorshoaib4199 what happened

[@jacci7776]

I trawl through your vids looking for the life advice... 🙊 its sprinkled throughout them here and there.. its the wisdom of who you are.. it's gold!

[@smooy1000]

Thank you so much really needed this and appreciate you for taking time to talk about it ❤️

[@jannatara6923]

You're videos are just awesome. So much thoughtful and educational. I need your guidance in each and every step.

[@202020morehourstogo]

This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the good advice.

[@Eliza_beast]

Great! He had so much going on w depression, his parents aging, works 2 jobs etc. very helpful

[@MissLilli]

Thank you so much for this video - it was exactly what I needed to hear right now 😍

[@juuustpeachy]

Thank you for all these videos!

[@reby1583]

Woow Elliot just when i need it this. Thank you!! i'll now let him fix his problems his way

[@shiemiermunroe8532]

Thank you for this information 🤗☺ you're like a best friend to me 😚 your dating advice always comes right on time for me as I am faced with the topics you discuss and give me the answers I need. I appreciate it! Keep up the great work!

[@susieqnigmatov8317]

you're absolutely right doing just that letting my husband solve his own problems

[@TinaTortugita]

I started watching your videos because I was confused about a guy I thought I liked. Now I realize I’d be better with a man like you instead. Thank you.

[@daniellemedine8]

Absolutely great video. This makes so much sense Thank you!

[@heather5391]

Yes I needed this video so badly thank you 🙏 I’m learning to just let the guys I date honor the masculine energy ❤️

[@tshwanelomncube6951]

this is exactly wat I needed... thank u Elliot

[@asmakahtani8871]

Thanks man .. it helped a lot , my man is going through shit with his family and I wanted to help but he shut me down and now I know why🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Withloveariaxo]

this is one of your best videos!

[@simrank5190]

What do we do when he returns? I dont even know what to say to him now

[@moonriver4275]

This exactly, as its hard to not feel resentful towards him, and therefore being 'off' with him.. How do you move forward when he comes back?, but still doesn't want to answer why he pulled away in the first place.

[@moonriver4275]

I am trying to understand how this behaviour from a stressed out man has become somewhat 'normal', or should i say, accepted? When someone is stressed understandably they may be experiencing a range of emotions, but since when did stonewalling become something nonchalant to do to someone you care about? What happened to basic communication? " I am stressed out at the moment, everything with us is cool, but please allow me some space". I feel that when some men shut down and don't provide their loved one with an explanation, it's a form of control, a way to keep in control of the last remaining thing they have good in their life. By pulling away and becoming silent, It keeps the woman feeling insecure and even more clingy, worried, anxious, and uncertain, thus keeping her there, and keeping her confused and wondering. If they gave an explanation to you, they would perhaps feel vulnerable, and also feel that their woman may start seeing them as weak, worthless, pathetic etc, because this is how they view themselves due to their already plumetted low self-esteem. This will then create feelings of inadequacy, shame and embarrassment. By pulling back, it saves them their vulnerability being shown, which will only increase their anxieties about what you may be thinking about them (and how they are handling adversity in their life). Pulling back may be for space, but you also have to consider whether this unhealthy feeling it creates for you is something you would be willing to put up with long term due to the fact that your partner is unable to communicate effectively and convey their emotions to you, in order to share what ever issues and circumstances in life they may be facing. Usually if a guy is like this in the beginning, this is how he likely will remain (unless therapy is involved).

[@liltsummerlin423]

You said my Exact thoughts

[@lyrics7706]

This actually helps a lot, thank you! (:

[@anasousa6425]

The exact video I needed.

[@madeinhisimage3447]

The problem is how do you know when the pulling away is an official need to gain some personal space to problem solve and recalibrate as opposed to there being others that he could be also involved with on some level? I’ve experienced both of these scenarios sometimes even simultaneously where they need to pull away due to stress but then they are also carrying on and juggling other connections to stave off feelings of vulnerability in the primary relationship. Whether it’s a true cheating scenario or an attempt on the mans part to not feel so attached and vulnerable by keeping his options open even though he loves the primary woman. With long distance dynamics it’s very hard to know all that’s really going on behind the scenes. Being in the dark when behaviors like this happen make it very hard to trust and when so much is at stake.

[@risaseww]

Thx for ur video. It really helps me. Love it 💕

[@EstellaRJF]

thank you, I needed to hear this.

[@lexyladybug81]

How long is this "time frame" ?

[@eddajustice8345]

Brilliant advice thank you

[@monikathomas4985]

Bun's lookin frisky today 😎

[@nirlamejia9033]

SO good. thanks elliot

[@Cutiepie-mf4ht]

Thank you for your videos ❤ love learning and watching even at 52 yrs old

[@aflynn6987]

Let him go, that's what you do. I gave mine space because he was stressed out. He ended up being "tempted" by someone else and now I barely hear from him. If your man needs space from YOU because he's having a hard time, it's an excuse to go out and find someone new to bone.

[@csstardew]

yup

[@April-201]

Good video dude, Great advice!

[@sarahstrickland5329]

I'll never understand men period

[@mandyg6265]

This is GOLD!!! 🙏🙏🙏

[@MandyJRoss]

Thanks E! Divine timing :)

[@hayatm2677]

you are the best!! I love your channel .... greeting from Morocco :)

[@elsie132]

This is just what I needed.

[@angellavocals2147]

I really needed to hear what you said because my guy has been stressed about his job and I've been doing just what you said you did before. I don't want to come across as uncaring and im always saying ive changed but showing otherwise. What you said has helped me face myself and truly give him the space he needs. I completely respect what you said about how things could go either way when I give him space. This video was the best I have seen so far out of all the ones I've watched on KZbin. Thank you.

[@Jensenia11]

Best advice for right now! thx!

[@mycleancoach5233]

this is one of THE BEST vids.......on this topic. well said boo. and yes..... keep saying "love you ladies". its darling and we need to hear it. #womenfolk#strongfemales#realmen

[@ar.jinkyb.oliveros4140]

Best explanation ever!

[@Miaii_]

Even if I’m few years late. Thank you this really helped me. I’m now gonna change how do things and let him have space and time to manage his own situations. Yes I am insecure and I want him to talk about but thank you!!

[@taetae4508]

Thanks that's what I needed Very logical explanation I would sat

[@blessingsbest6838]

Thank you for being objective!

[@vickidoor1891]

That is such a good demonstration. You would make a really good actor. You be who I want you to be or you are going to make me needy and sad. You are responsible for my happiness or you will make me needy and sad. How can someone love if you hold them up for ransom to fill in the holes of yourself. That's blackmail not love.

[@farfromaverage_5333]

Loved this, thank you.

[@ErikaBzphib]

On point! I've learned this....everything is not about Me. I get "a project" to focus on when my man interest pulls away: work out, clean a room, cook a meal, hang w your girls...but let Him solve his problems alone or you are just adding to it

[@irishcarezubieta150]

thanks scott u make me smile ...

[@nannyboo9832]

he speaks the truth… most men I’ve dealt with do withdraw when stressed. it sucks :((

[@babysab8013]

thank you for this

[@shellysandi]

I've been watching your videos for a month or so now and I'm learning a lot about men AND myself. Thank you for making your videos...sincerely. I'm wondering when you'll do a video with your hair down🤔🤓

[@jen4yahwehsal176]

I just said I'm here and I'm praying for you and that was it

[@Theonethatgotaway-dk4tu]

That intro is ADORABLE lol

[@SaaBl-wr4te]

So on point

[@DatDyme980]

The whole point is You DON'T KNOW WHY and you need to know. Closure is very necessary. If you love somebody it's NATURAL to have those feelings when they suddenly pull away especially, when you both were in love. I am not that type that's hung onto a man. I DO have my own life. I Do let him do most of the calling and texting. "NEEDY AND CLINGY" IN THIS SITUATION IS BULL! Just say, "It's natural to feel the way you do but, let him have his space to solve things HIS way as a man and don't bombard him by letting your emotions drive you because that feels like nagging to him and you'll risk turning him off!" - THAT'S more accurate than labeling a very NATURAL reaction as "NEEDY AND CLINGY". I'm sick of people not acknowledging the way GOD (not the universe) made women. Obviously, something is going on here because everybody can't be NEEDY AND CLINGY. It's just the difference in how we respond emotionally. Thanks for the advice but please, going forward, acknowledge the obvious and don't sound so insulting to a womans natural makeup.

[@liviantus]

Thank you I was emotional and needed to seek validation and wanted to make sure he has me in his future plans ...but I’ll try to play cool with him I’m not sure I can as I’m not emotionally mature yet and this first relationship sucks mostly fighting and bad words here and there

[@carinavalencia415]

thank you!

[@ativan_stan]

I just wanted to tell you that you have been really helpful, I've been watching your videos for a couple weeks now and you have helped me understand so many things! And you are so right! Thank you for being awesome!

[@nelixe1078]

This video was very helpful thank you 🤍

[@budgetingwithtiaranicole9276]

My bf well now ex broke up with me because he's stressed about everything his job , car, insurance, and college he stressed about all of that because all those things are going down hill. So I'm giving space not texting him or anything. Day 4

[@laurahamid1764]

Tiara Nicole What happen ?

[@budgetingwithtiaranicole9276]

laura hamid we haven't talked since the break up and I'm fine with that I moved on and focusing on myself and college. He'll never find another like me which I know 😊

[@l.b.1952]

You made me laugh with your personal story. I used to be that we too. Even offered 10 time: maybe I can help you solve the problem. I am in this sitaution right now with a man who has a whole lot of problems at the moment, fm-amily aswel as professional stress - working 22/7. He told me whats up and he told me: I will come back to you with my answer when I have more "space". Ok thats fair enough. So now I just lean back - send 1 little message with "good morning" or "good night" to let him know I am still thinking of him and wait until he has the time to respond properly to me. Let the magic work. If not, its not meant to be, and "stress" is just an excuse (you ll never know if someone is playing games, but you will find out soon enough). This video was very helpfull, down to earth and "mature". Thanks for this!

[@hukeaz]

I love that coat on you! I hope you feel valued, I paused my stranger things binge to watch this 😝

[@ElliotScottDating]

haha I feel loved

[@vickidoor1891]

I think he needs a cool man transformation, slick, hair cut, beard trim, sports car. Hhahahah. Seriously he's a very nice looking man. I like the coat too.

[@vickidoor1891]

You must want him for yourself. Don't blame you.

[@vickidoor1891]

I love him, he's such a beautiful hunky sexy man. He teaches old dogs new tricks. Thank you Elliot.

[@vickidoor1891]

You are such a great girl for standing up for your hero, a woman with a sword. I love you Lily Rose

[@xbooobiex4410]

My boyfriend and I recently broke up and after that some things happened in his life that’s he’s stressed about and he’s told me he will be dry because I’m not his main priority rn. And we kinda argued and I told him say he doesn’t want me anymore so I can move on mentally. And he said “I don’t want to be with you and deal with these problems at the same time it’s too much stress” and he hasn’t texted me back after that. And I kept bugging him. And I’ve realized now I need to stop. And actually let him handle his emotions on his own. And I need to handle mine and be okay with being alone and not be worried about him because he has it. I just worry about him and I know he wants to be with me I just don’t want him to be stressed.

[@Adv18]

Did he come back then?

[@xbooobiex4410]

@@Adv18 we broke up eventually cause he cheated on me and my dumb butt started to talk to him again and we talked for a while but he just was using me at that point but I learned a lot from that relationship and I’m currently with someone who makes me more happy then he ever did and loves me unconditionally

[@Marie-hr3jg]

Your channel helped me. A co-worker of mine does the mind games I fell for him. It's hard getting over him. Thank you for making these videos. And you got any advice for me. (About said co-worker?) 👌😘

[@KYRA_FX]

Thank you

[@bloodyfries8421]

My BF of 1 year is in the process of selling, buying and moving homes, his uncle also passed away a week ago. Just last night he said he wanted some time apart because he's mind is not at the right place for a relationship but he still loves me. I said I wanted to be there and help him get through it but he couldn't accept it. So at the end I told him that I understand and if he wants time apart and do his own things I'll wait for him. I told him to text me when he's ready. He cried and said that he's sorry and thank you. I think the part I said correctly was when i said "I understood and i'll give you time to sort things out and do the things you need to do." But the part where I said "I will wait and just text me when you're ready." I also said "Just let me know if you don't want to be with me any more". Is that some thing I shouldn't have said and showing him I'm always available and giving him all the power? He's a nice guy and has good intentions but he just doesn't know how to deal with stress very well. Any advice?

[@2twentysix]

Lurrrrve your accent and the way you speak...which part of the US is your accent from? Aussie gal just wondering. You're so down to earth and wise, I really enjoy listening to you, thank you for doing these vids :)

[@saharakangke714]

Okay thank you

[@subzero7217]

Exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thanks! Btw, when you say wait for him to come back, is there a suggested number of days before reaching out or wait until he sorts things out? My guy's work issues could take a while. So far, we haven't talked in 4 days... your thoughts? Love from the PH!

[@nicoleflusk5434]

Any update?

[@nagiasweetnice]

This video has been very helpful imma try that with my fiance and see how it goes from there

[@mimomango4617]

Literally in this situation but I messed up completely and did exactly the opposite of what Elliot is saying... Wish I saw this video 2 months ago... Would've saved us and we would still be together 💔

[@leslie3263]

Very helpful! Now to wait and keep myself busy, it is hard since he we would fill each other’s days...

[@ElliotScottDating]

Glad it was helpful!

[@millymoolemos]

Are you psychic Elliot?? How did u know this is just the video I needed? Thank u!!!

[@lauramci22]

you're looking gooooood today Elliot

[@ErikaBzphib]

Da truth!