What to do if you think someone is avoiding you

You should never keep approaching this person and barrage them with texts or emails, because then it makes you look desperate. Instead, ask him/her what it is that you said or did. And if she comes out and tells you, that is a good sign. That means she thinks the relationship is worth saving. At that point, you need to admit if you did something wrong and apologize. But if she denies there is anything wrong, it could be that the friendship/relationship is over in her mind. And that could have nothing to do with you. It could mean her life has changed and she wants to change her friends. You don't know. Just take a step back and distance yourself a little. Be friendly and polite, but that's it. The ball is in her court. Maybe three, six months down the road send an email, just to see how she is doing. And to keep the lines of communication open. Down the road, things could change, and she could look back at the situation objectively. But don't try too hard. It makes you look anxious and desperate. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
Marie Dubuque is a life coach who loves to give advice on everything from dating dilemmas and tricky social situations to drama-filled friendships and romantic relationships gone south!