What to do if your father do not accept the marriage because of rase? - Q&A - Sh. Hussain Yee

[@hanaoxo5967]

I wish the caste system didn’t exist and my parents feared god not people

[@samahamara8543]

Same

[@lt2053]

Are you desi (Pakistani)?

[@farazahmedbaig6361]

Same

[@msstarjames6668]

Same!!! Racist parents are the worst!!

[@muhammedfaisalresturantand3463]

Brother same here waiting since 4 years

[@nazimrashid8611]

A lot of cultures need to listen to this. Culture and religion has become so mixed, people tend to follow culture over religion. Allah created us and to him we return.

[@sean87arnaout]

Sadly this is so true. Muslims come from all nationalities and races. Islam is for all.

[@hansguenter6263]

Who the hell is Alla ???

[@lauraedginton1532]

I’m south Asian and want to marry a black guy, my dad won’t let me marry him because he’s black. He cares about what others will say. Please kindly make dua for me that Allah does what’s right and best for me and I happily get married one day. I wake up feeling suicidal because my dads so upset and hates me. The guy I want to marry is a good Muslim man ما شا ء الله

[@Erockyy]

Sister same here, I feel suicidal all the time thinking about this it makes me so depressed. I want to marry a Pakistani girl but her father said “no he’s not Pakistani” and only the mom accepts me. I’m making so much dua and if freaking hurts everyday. I wake up crying and depressed I go to sleep having a hard time. This girl makes me a better muslim and has me praying everyday. I want her more than anything and anyone. May Allah guide both of us because idk what’s gonna happen but we are trying our best and it hurts so damn much

[@Erockyy]

@Romeo •12 years ago• oh really?

[@mrsr7954]

@@Erockyy brother this is not a valid shari reason for her parents to say no, the guardianship of the girl can be passed on from father to grandfathers if they don’t agree or she has none alive then it’s uncles starting from dads side oldest to young and then the mothers side uncles oldest to young to her brothers oldest to young. if all persist because of race then u can go to an imam inshaallah he will help you out. i hope inshaallah things have been sorted after all these months though but incase it hasn’t, may allah grant u sabr

[@Abasi.Amin242]

This is not complicated. Your father does not have a valid reason so you may replace him as your Wali.

[@crazyibby41]

How did it go for you people? Did you finally get to marry?

[@bollywoodtvshow8868]

Pray for me please I been in depression and I don’t know what to do anymore my parents don’t want me to marry the man of my choice he is not from the same race but he is Muslim But still they disapproved and my dad is trying to force me to marry someone I don’t want and my mother on the other hand wants to find me a man of her choice kindly keep me i your prayers I want to be happily married to the one I love

[@Leoandkayi]

BollywoodTV Show! May Allah make it easy for you sister I am currently in the same situation for over 3 yrs now. Keep me in your prayers too.

[@Mocroskate]

Whatever the consequences are sister, you MUST deny and reject the forced marriage. For it is made haram by Allah to have a marriage that is not legit (batil). Forced marriages falls under that category. Your father will be punished by Allah on the day of judgement and in the grave and possibly jahannam if you allow this to continue. Even if they kick you out of the house, accept it and say Alhamdulilah. Allah will take care of you. You are allowed to disobey your parents if they ask of you things that are against Islam. This is against the teaching of Allah and his Rassull. Do NOT go through with this, even if it means if your life gets in danger.

[@YallaBitlBitl]

This is so wrong. I left my house when they tried to do that. I'm now on my own and about to marry the man of my choice. Its difficult but you cant let them abuse you. I learned the hard way and I am still traumatized. Good luck sister and you must speak to an imam. He will protect you

[@khoshalpashtoonmal1845]

This is a sign that Allaah azawajal is closer to you then u think. Your sincerity in your faith is pleasing Allaah Swt hence this test he has put you in. Aslong as your intention is to marry for the sake of Allaah Swt and and it doesn’t change then if this is written for you it will never miss you sister. Stay patient for the sake of Allaah Swt stay steadfast for the reasons of your choice of marriage for the pleasure of Allaah Swt. Remember Allaah azawajal is with the patient and those who stay steadfast. If you want to marry someone for the sake of Allaah Swt and his religiom then stay patient Allaah Swt is the best of planners. Increase in your istighfaar and salutations upon muhammed salalahu alayhi wa salam during times of distress the doors will open for you In sha allaah

[@YallaBitlBitl]

@@khoshalpashtoonmal1845 thank you so much jazzak Allah. As I mentioned before, I got disowned by my family so my friends and coworkers are taking care of me until my marriage day which is in 3 weeks. Thank you again and alhamdulliah for everything and my faith will remain strong because I am truly marrying for the sake if my deen and to avoid haram activities

[@nabeelahmansoor8804]

If only my father believed i have a right

[@Penn.obsessed]

Aww, I'll pray 4 Allah 2 ease it 4 u.😟😕

[@sabrinayounisaden7238]

Sorry about that.

[@samahamara8543]

Do it against his will , do it and leave !

[@oneida271]

SHOW HIM HADITH AND QURAN VERSES!!! This is against Islam!!!

[@Tayralmusafir]

Same. It's so sad. My parents are acting like they would live with him. They just believe that men from another culture would lead to a divorce one day. But thats false. False thinking!!!

[@abdullahamoudy899]

11 dislikes are racist fathers

[@angelanyambura2843]

I was just passing by I would think its offended Africans

[@michaelnance8319]

I don’t normally say this. “That Preacher Rocks!” “He tells it like it is!” “That’s True Islam!” I wish he could of help me years ago and been there to talk to my school girl friend family. If I had converted to Islam, I would most definitely go chill out in his Mosque. It’s unfortunate that my friend’s family just didn’t have the heart or patience or the willingness to accept me. I would have converted and enjoyed my life with Sultana. Sultana Mahmood will always be remembered in my heart as my dear friend!

[@ayubnasir3788]

you still have a chance to marry Muslim and revert to Muslims if you already get married, bcoz at end , our goal is paradise.

[@AbdulRahmanAlMubaarak]

@@ayubnasir3788don’t speak without knowledge

[@aneesakhan6292]

Subhanallah x33 Alhamdulilah x33 Astagfurallah x33 May Allah SWT grants us all jannah . Ameen❤️

[@floydbanks28]

So many people struggle with this

[@mediaanalysis4708]

Our parents have destroyed our life. THANKs for such fucking rule.

[@majdevelops]

Indeed when Culture is prioritized these sorts of issues arise and they conflict with our faith. I relate to your comment 💯. Also let's be more aware of using the F-word, may Allah reward us all for all our efforts and worship.

[@yousraadly7341]

In islam you only reject baised on a person not religionly commited .in other reason is a sin to reject or interfear a marrige and you have the right to go against parents if they hold back a marrige for any reason less than a reason Allah ordered .obeying family or friend in a matter Allah allowed and they dont like or approve is big sin only Allah to obey and to reject according to his laws only .

[@Risanaification]

My son wish to marry a Hindu girl. We fear he and his children may loose Islam if he marry her. What do you think?

[@raisamuhit9989]

@@Risanaification hopefully you have raised your son in a way where he believes it is important not to lose faith in Islam. If he finds it important to his identity I am sure he will pass down his beliefs to his children to the best of his ability In Sha Allah.

[@Valtyir]

@@Risanaification haram, it's not persmisable for a Muslim man to marry people out of the ppl of the book

[@Yaniistheshit]

Was he described as ugly in the narrations or is the sheikh describing him as ugly because he’s black? I’ve noticed it is very common to see islamic lectures were they equate black with ugly and white/light with beautiful. I hope that he’s not describing the sahaba as ugly just because he was black because that highly offensive and racist.

[@leanshotsauce]

Because back then a lot of the slaves were brought from Ethiopia. Many of the Jahiliyah back then think that they are they above race or the much better race. That is why in the Qur'an it was made clear that an Arab is not above a non Arab, and a white is not above the black, and vice versa. The only difference is taqwa. Allah knows best. Let us practice husnuzon.

[@clearmann]

that's not the way to judge it, the point is Loyality, human equality.. be smart !

[@karendent6043]

Shade does not make a person beautiful or ugly, Dispositions r ugly and that can b found in all the races. There r many who r endowed with Black Beauty!

[@MotorStorm66]

which 'islamic' lectures did you see that in? Mind sharing, please? I've never seen that in Islamic lectures. Also, it would make 0 sense for this sheikh to be intentionally racist in this video

[@clearmann]

@@MotorStorm66 🙏 this not full lecture guys.. this's call Himah.. learning from history for next better our mindset , easy n wisdom..

[@roohichaudhary977]

great scholar

[@filledepremee9739]

Pray for me, my father doesn't want to accept the man I love, because we have different religions. But the man I want is willing to convert to Islam and study Islam even though I didn't tell him to convert, he really wants to. Even if the man I want converts to Islam, my father still doesn't want to. Even though he is still a scholar of Islam, my father still doesn't want to. It's a shame for our family so my father doesn't want it. He threatened our lives because of our relationship. If he showed up to my father, he would kill the man I wanted. But we want our relationship to be Halal, but my father really doesn't want it. So please pray for us.

[@rhimjhim6495]

May Allah make things easy for you both.... how are things going now?

[@Abasi.Amin242]

No, this is a different situation. A Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man. The Wali is just not allowed to reject a suitable Muslim man because of racism but he must reject a any non-Muslim man.

[@taimurahmad]

Muslim women cannot marry non muslim men. This is zina. Allah says this in qur'an. Willing to convert doeant matter

[@clearmann]

amazing story.. how do u think if this happen about us ? (we'll be ready insya Allah..

[@fatimanoor201]

Going through this problem 😪 😕 😔

[@preciousxxx5679]

Did it work out sister?

[@YallaBitlBitl]

Alsalam alaikom. I have found a good man to marry but he is not from my race. He has met my mother but she disapproved and said she doesn't want him as a son in law because he is divorced and has 2 babies in his custody and living as a single father. She knew he is a good man but she asked him to abandon his babies if he wants to marry me. I was very upset and said this is haram they are motherless and their mother doesn't want them and that I am ready to raise them as their step mother. My mom was angry and said if I choose to marry him then she will disown me and cut ties with me... please give me advice. I am good to my mother but she is being unfair because I chose the man on my own. I don't want her to choose for me that's not how I want to live my life with my other half.

[@king-jaffyjoe7724]

Nite Owl Walaikum Salaam sis! Have you spoken to any Imam’s or Sheikh? What does you’re wali think about the situation?

[@YallaBitlBitl]

@@king-jaffyjoe7724 I only have my mother and siblings, my father is deceased. I haven't spoken to any imams yet but I am planning to email them and ask for advice because the latest news she said she wants me out of the house because I told her it is my happiness she needs to care about not people's gossips but she disagreed and said she cares about people's gossip and that my happiness is to make her happy which doesnt make sense because I'm the one getting married not her or my siblings. She is definitely mixing culture and religion at the same time and not thinking that it is not appropriate to do that in Islam itself. I tried telling her that but she doesnt listen and always wants to prove her point even if it's the wrong point. It's frustrating because I'm an educated woman in the medical field and I can distinguish the right from wrong.

[@Kat-lh9tv]

Nite Owl I am in similar situation 😔. What did u decide to do

[@YallaBitlBitl]

@@Kat-lh9tv nothing yet. My mom is still stubborn but I believe in Allah and I have been praying every day for her to accept. Inshallah it will be solved with patience.

[@Kat-lh9tv]

Nite Owl aw same here I know how it feels. In sha allah we’ll both get what we want 🙏🏻

[@peace9265]

I'm still not married due to this, Its either the potential rejects me due to small difference or the parents does and they speak of Islamic Marriage, more like hypocrisy.

[@hadbetterdays8118]

Wise brother

[@aliaabdulhamid6635]

i wanna marry a an indian guy bt i m frm bangladesh and my brothers r disagreeing bcuz of d nationality n culture and also they don't knw him completely bt he practices Islam so strict to prayers n no compromise wid Deeni stuff.. m so confused evry1 is sad bcuz of this..

[@taimurahmad]

Obey your wali. Allah will replace Him with something better

[@Ryan-eo8th]

I heard this story before during khutba

[@azanrahim7]

Her father said no without even meeting me😢he said he doesn’t like how I am mixed with so many races and culture and my cultural norms, I do not care for culture, only if he took time to meet my family 😢

[@Otherwiseformal881]

May Allah grant you the possibility of marrying her inshallah

[@azanrahim7]

@@Otherwiseformal881 as salamu alaikum, we did not work out. Too much situations going on but alhamdullilah for everything

[@farhatjabeen4632]

What about boy’s parents? If he’s forcing his boy to marry only in his cast and tribe?

[@riyaabdi]

the same goes for the man of course. Allah SWT is fair

[@riyaabdi]

it's just the reason that people stigmatize women marrying outside the race versus the man is because the man carries the family name regardless of who he marries, the women does not. cultures are obsessed with family names and it's so stupid like nobody cares just let people marry who they want omg🙄

[@PerigoBerro]

Man doesn't need wali like women do. Some of these modern men don't know how to be respectably strong. They think being obedient is the same as being weak, and being strong is about being rude. No balance

[@nightrider6830]

The man can marry whoever he wants. He doesn't need permission from his parents.

[@motivational_leader]

​@@nightrider6830yes,he is a man

[@Mtenderemdeza-fv2eh]

ma shaa Allah

[@hansguenter6263]

Quran 5:51 : O ye who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians for friends. They are friends one to another. He among you who taketh them for friends is (one) of them. Lo! Allah guideth not wrongdoing folk.

[@ubereem6817]

Does any akhi knows the name of this sheikh ? He is very nice

[@margaretchaudhry4839]

Correct .Answer .

[@otpls7165]

2:50 & 8:42

[@shahidkourejo7256]

I'm from Pakistan, i want to marry a girl suffering from VITILIGO disease. But my parents totally oppose me and cursing me alot, mentally torturing and in case if i would get married, they are cutting off relation with me. Please help , it is 2nd year of discussion. But no solution

[@eesah37]

Keep making dua to Allah that you want to her your naseeb. Plus you are a man! In Islam a man doesn’t need his parents consent to get married. If you can fulfill your duties as a husband then you can marry her.

[@Rubys456]

Assalamualaikum my dear brother how are you doing .🤲Where have you been I miss you program so much I hope everything is OK with you and your family .😍🤩🤲

[@taimurahmad]

Praise be to Allah. Firstly: It is permissible for a woman to take part in public chat rooms, if she adheres to the following guidelines: She should only participate as much as is necessary, so she should pose a question or state the topic, then leave, and not comment unless there is a need for that, because the basic principle is that she should avoid speaking to men or mixing with them. There should be nothing in her words that could provoke fitnah (temptation), such as joking, speaking softly, or laughing, such as writing “hahahahahaha”, as mentioned in the question, or using smiley emojis, because that could lead to coveting on the part of those in whose hearts is disease, as Allah, may He be glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning): “O wives of the Prophet, you are not like anyone among women. If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech” [al-Ahzaab 33:32]. She should avoid giving out her email address or corresponding via private messages with any man, even if that is for the purpose of seeking help, because of what such correspondence often leads to of attachment and temptation. See the answers to question no. 34841 . It is preferable and better for a woman to participate only in all-female chat rooms. This is safer for her. There are many such chat rooms, and that is better and sufficient. But if she needs to participate in public chat rooms, then it is better for her to choose a screen name that does not indicate that she is female. And Allah knows best.

[@OPcAnT1]

Whats the name of this scholar

[@salimyasini3100]

You know what, I'll just post a flag here, I'd like to propose to a sister who's Asian or European if there any, Insha'Allah. I'm Black. Though I don't intend on settling outside. Please Involve Wali and Family 1st😅

[@petestreet7535]

What's wrong with black women? Are they not equal to white or Asian women? That's a rhetorical question.

[@ysff89]

Race*

[@dmc7890]

Asshole

[@dmc7890]

@sufyan ahmed ?

[@dmc7890]

@sufyan ahmed thats a little bit childish isnt it?

[@sistersforever9477]

Waaaaa

[@ayubnasir3788]

What ? F3mcell373 do you follow the Quran and sunnah.its up to the person who is getting married if he is considering color or height or type live style I don’t deny that,but the is no racism in islam.

[@likmakamara7865]

I don't know this kind of racist Cheikh and where he Studied but he has to be very careful with the way he's saying black is Ugly etc!!( the name of the Sahaba that he's talking about is Miqdad ibn Aswad) and there's alot of lies!! the Prophet MUHAMMAD (swh) his family and big Majority of the Arab Tribes at this time were ASWAD اسود, ASMAR اسمر (jet black,Dark brown) and it's very easy to prove!! Abu Tayyib Al Laghwhi (350 AH) said in regards to Fadl Ibn Abbas’s poem,” in his book kitaab Al Idaad page 162. ” He means that his colour is the colour of the Arabs, and it is jet black” و قال ابو طيب اللغوي في كتابه كتاب الاضداد ص ١٦٢ يعني ان لونه الون العرب، و هو سواد And Ibn Yaeesh mentioned in his book Sharh Al Mufassal page 48 The meaning of Al Aswad is because the majority of ( the Arabs ) are brown and jet black in colour. و ذكر ابن يعيش في كتابه شرح المفصل ص ٤٨ المراد الاسود لان غالب عليم السمرة والسواد Secondly, red people ( very white ) people were rare in that part of the world at that time so one can assume that it was either a jet black Arab woman, a jet black non Arab woman or a jet black Jew woman leaving Madinah as they were the inhabitants of that area at the time.

[@petestreet7535]

Don't black men think of black women as ugly? Based on their obsession with women of the fairer race ?

[@bhataruj6169]

Can a shia girl marry sunni boy?

[@Valtyir]

No, Allah knows best

[@faizankhaki3306]

If both boys and girl are muslim why can not

[@himlolo]

Yes, but creating sects in the first place in Islam is haram

[@Gobir]

A Sunni boy or girl shouldn’t marry a shia, and Allah knows best

[@himlolo]

@@Gobir agreed

[@Saa42808]

“He is a good brother practicing one”. So any brother is bad if not practicing?😂😂

[@nightrider6830]

We take our religion seriously. There is no real relationship with someone who doesn't have a good relationship with the one who created him.

[@najban2922]

Life is easier for both if both husband and wife are same race.

[@ZEE.N-m5l]

We are from the same race, banu Adam. Human. That's all. We have different nationality and ethnicity. 😊

[@mizondez53]

@@ZEE.N-m5l mashallah for your mindset

[@qyshje8394]

stfu

[@himlolo]

Lmao you sound like a white supremacist

[@himlolo]

@Maksud Mehraz im fine with people keeping it in. And for most people that works best. But to have your mindset and the original commenters mindset you are going directly against the teachings of the prophet, who made it clear in his last sermon that no race is better than the other and we are all equal. To refuse purely on race is unislamic.