What To Do When You Have No Friends...

[@David_Hammond]

Hope you guys enjoy the video! Always self-development coaching & course below. Cheers! 🔥🤟 www.self-developed.com

[@Yazzie95]

Your energy is incredible

[@Irv2488]

So much respect, i honestly thought i was the only one. Thank you for the advice, the wisdom and the support🙌🏼👏👏👏

[@michaelyoung3294]

Nice video I support this keep going

[@beverlyaddison2290]

Let's be friends

[@BorderlineStrength]

Omg!!! I was having a really bad day, and after watching your video I just felt a whole lot better. God bless you bro!!!

[@Mibs-Mibby]

It really triggers me when I see people with actual friends say “i have no friends” as a joke because it’s a reality for me 😭

[@jddhdjwhhddj1502]

Better to have no friends than fake friends. Learned the hard way

[@Mibs-Mibby]

@@jddhdjwhhddj1502 you right

[@trainwreck3587]

@@Mibs-Mibby bro u got snap or sum we can be friends

[@acematrix8455]

Can we be friends

[@NamesDontMatter1992]

Yo let’s be friends. I’m dead serious 😄

[@tyranmcgrathmnkklkl]

There's a lot more friendless people than I thought. In that sense we're not alone.

[@maebunny5298]

Yup but it's kinda sad. We're taught that we need friends and if we don't have them, then something is automatically wrong with us. We need to normalize being friendless or alone

[@iliveinsideyourhouse3943]

@@maebunny5298 As a friendless guy, I say it's depends on person to person, if you're happy being friendless, good. But most people, including me, is a normal human being, a social animals, that's need to have some connection. This a complicated topic but if I'm being honest, I don't think friendless should normalized but rather seen as a issues that needs to be solve.

[@alex-yg8oq]

Well actually we are,get it?bcs we have no friends hahahaha

[@davey5867]

Probably everyone who watched this video doesn't have any friends..

[@alexanderfollowsChrist]

@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 Great way to put it

[@rl3656]

This is exactly what i said to myself this morning..i would rather be alone than surrounded by the wrong ppl.. this quarantine thing is a blessing. Im getting to know myself again..

[@David_Hammond]

That's it man, keep killing it!

[@OutmanAmazighi]

"This quarantine thing is a blessing." 👌👌

[@undead4g895]

Me too

[@camilojdz]

I've been feeling the same, quarentine's helped me take a look at the bigger picture and channel my efforts to what actually matters to me

[@eddykohlmann471]

I feel that

[@jordansmith8547]

I don’t really have friends either. I think it’s because I’d rather make a few really deep connections than have a hundred “aquaintances” who don’t really care about me.

[@krismanibrahim4632]

I don't have much friends, but no one really cares about me

[@mritten]

This is me,I have people who know me but are really shitty and annoying.They seem not to care.

[@amandaandrew6169]

I can relate.

[@redicd6857]

@@krismanibrahim4632 that’s not true you have family and you need to love yourself

[@mflmfl]

@@redicd6857 ah yes

[@lilasskicker1739]

It's hard sometimes, seeing all this people going out in the weekends and partying with friends, it feels like I'm wasting the best years of my life

[@-Anonim0]

Same for me

[@alyssamarvel]

sameeee i wanna change

[@hp2546]

If you already started your life with 0 friends, those type of party is not for you. You are not going to fit in. Even if you were to get invited, you will only go to a party to compare yourself to other people. Type of parties you need is parties that give you room to be antisocial. Back in the 90s, I was antisocial so therefore, I missed out on all the parties and no regret. Classmates would attempt to shame me. As I get older and going to college and being a transfer student to a university, I took advantage that there is an event where I get to be antisocial to fit in. No invitations required. That event is where a lot of people go by themselves and bring nobody. You have plenty of chances to find a party that fits your lifestyle so you aren't wasting time by staying out of that party. Partying with friends won't work for you if you already have no friends. High school has a tradition where they force people to be social and you don't have much room to be social so don't go to that kind of social party because you don't have room to be yourself.

[@jaystrock613]

I have been dealing with this my entire life. I am 60 years old now and have no friends. I feel like the friends I did have I was there friend but they were really not my friend. I was alone as a child and now I am still alone. I have read books. I have improved myself. Still alone. I do not know what to do now.

[@txt2351]

The only thing you can. Turn to god

[@jbailey9272]

Heaven is a beautiful place for you to be in

[@humcreeper]

lol

[@stuartogden5531]

stay strong man keep your head up 🥺

[@britany_lmp5112]

You're not alone Jesus loves you, when God created earth He said He wasn't good for the man to be alone and that he would make him a SUITABLE helper. God doesn't want you to be alone, He will provide and He loves you so much that He died for you 2000 years ago. Psalm 27:10 Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close. He will help you, He knew you from the beginning and has plans for you, please consider turning to Him ❤

[@serenyaa9981]

His voice is so calming, I was crying and now I feel cuddled

[@kuruptflip21]

I would cuddle with him

[@robloxadilyoyttt1545]

Same

[@PersonaofWill]

Cute profile pic. Hopefully you're doing well

[@TotalImmort7l]

"A friend to all is a friend to none."

[@Solareditzback]

69 likes☠️💀

[@irvinegarcia]

solitude is bliss for the people who are on the path of self development!

[@David_Hammond]

Nathan Garcia 💯💯

[@MrFryhead957]

On this path right now. Can say I enjoy my own company so I don't feel lonely at all

[@sariahlace5944]

💯💯💯👍👍👍

[@HumbertoHacked]

Seeking friendship is a sign of self development tho, those who have spent years alone also long for a good conversation and love

[@lynic-0091]

NAILED IT

[@charliegroves]

Imagine being able to make friends in the first place

[@dormius1019]

Imagine having friends who dont leave you in the 4th month

[@mattm2463]

Right!

[@mattm2463]

Imaging having friends that give a shit

[@dormius1019]

@@mattm2463 RIGHTQ!!!

[@fatimaliliana6820]

Imagine being there for them always and them not being there for you

[@YeikobSegura]

This quarentine made me realize i have no real friends, i mean i just talked to the same persons i saw every day but they were not friends of mine

[@cloud6318]

same I lost connection with many and I realized I just have acquaintances

[@imhighonchuuyasgravity4142]

same,it made me realize my friendship with them were superficial

[@imhighonchuuyasgravity4142]

same,it made me realize my friendship with them were superficial

[@mertylmaz2234]

i feel the same buddy in the last one year ive spent my days working on myself trying to be a better person and improving my mental health like he said in the video

[@shakurwonders5216]

@@cloud6318 that's me.

[@joel8708]

I am a social being like everyone else but no one had the pleasure to be around me. Also bad experiences hurt so much that it's not easy to trust others and believe in real friendship

[@danie3787]

I can relate. I had very few friends in my life, and as soon as I thought they care about me they left me alone. Since then, when I meet new people I think that I can't trust them. It's so hard this is the worst period of my life. Breaking up with "real" friends is much worse than love break ups

[@joel8708]

@@danie3787 where are u come from? Are you lonely or you're still having some friends?

[@danie3787]

@@joel8708 right now I'm lonely but since I started university I met new people, even tho I can't create a bond with them, idk what to do. Btw I'm Italian.

[@joel8708]

@@danie3787 i'm italian too. I live in Nothern Italy. Are u still young? If you are 20 years old maybe there's still time to make new friends. After 30 it's not easy at all 'cause many people at that age have their stable friendships and they don't care about meeting new people

[@joel8708]

@@tedkajtalli5392 there are people who are not social beings just because they had bad experiences and they are scared to live again those rejeactions

[@ArtSickChic]

I have no friends because every single person I've met so far in my life has turned out to either be selfish, psycho, arrogant, ignorant, or boring.

[@maebunny5298]

In my experience, if you are a naturally nice and inviting person, you will attract a shit ton of bad people who will want to use you and take advantage of that kindness. It really sucks but all you can do is learn to stand up for yourself and hopefully you'll meet people who don't fit that category of assholes

[@bpavilion8994]

facts!

[@Viktuz.Thaddeus]

Same, its made me cynical..

[@wateryagarvideos5186]

Sometimes the most boring people are the best people.

[@nile7202]

Can absolutely relate. Nowadays, I feel terrified when someone approaches to ask even time. Feels frozen Everytime when life shows you what happened during the past years from people who we think are Angels

[@mondragonfitness7118]

Today I read that loneliness is addictive because once you get used to it and find out how good you are at that moment, you won’t want to be with people anymore

[@shakurwonders5216]

@@MPeaches1958 that's amazing. Be safe and happy. #spreading love ❤ and harmony.

[@jaygo2546]

I wish I could be comfortable with being alone right now that way I won’t feel so shitty

[@orangedog3240]

Oh hi mr hardy

[@lyphishart]

How do you do that? 😂

[@brerrabbit4265]

Truth.

[@pablomendoza4950]

I used to party and do a shit ton of drugs, eventually I realized I was surrounding myself with toxic people so I cut them all off. Even though I get lonely as shit, my life is more stable now and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else.

[@sophiamagdalena111]

same thing with me bro, feels good to have peace, but creating new healthy friendships hopefully in the future

[@okaycola2]

yeah same boat ~ the Christians just pity you & the alcoholics hate you for quitting. It’s lonely for sure but family is way better than their company anyways

[@Tristrem]

On that journey of self improvement right now. Started out with setting serious boundaries with everyone to allow myself the space I needed to elevate. No drugs, no alcohol, meditation and nofap are working amazingly. Keep spreading the message my dude. As usual, loving the message. 🙏🏾 Peace

[@David_Hammond]

Sir Tristrem peace my bro. Let’s get it. In this together my man. 🔥❤️👊

[@elcucuy1770]

Try out calisthenics workouts

[@brerrabbit4265]

nofap is bad for your prostate.

[@Lightflames85]

while setting boundaries is a good thing you can't make people respect them. You can however control how you react and what you want to deal with. The best thing you can do in any relationship is the willingness to walk away. Be a free spirit and let those who want to go go. Dont hold on to them. Let them do there thing. Knowing you will be fine either way is what sets you apart from everyone else.

[@VaibhavPuranik007]

Been a loner for far too long and prefer it that way. But today I've been feeling exactly same about not having friends. Watching you fidgeting made me think this guy knows how I feel today.

[@David_Hammond]

Vaibhav Puranik 👍👍

[@unraining]

i just take being alone a time to self improve & get to know myself better .

[@David_Hammond]

RainXRain that’s it 🤟🙏

[@zurieljansky28]

Thank You man. I have no friends, but this past year I know in my heart and soul that I have grown and developed as a person. It wasn't easy to let go of fake friends and social media. But I did.

[@jt305]

ahh yes it's true it hurts 😢 but them friends were fake🤮

[@chelno5880]

yeh same recently i had to do that

[@mikaelabarriere7429]

This video hits me literally I’m going through the same thing it’s so comforting to hear that I’m not the only one working on themselve instead of fake stimulation from people that are not true to you. I’m better off alone but one day want to meet people like minded that is like me it’s hard but I’m just focusing on myself and my life but sometimes it’s fucking hard but I’m not giving up I know I’m doing the right things to nurture myself and love who I authentically am

[@me-hk4ro]

Yesss same with me. I know I’m only 15 but almost all my friends that I had in the past used to ignore me, cyber bully me, and done a lot more worst and now I have low self esteem, trust issues, not knowing myself cause I’ve been faking it for them, depressed, and rlly anxious. It’s rlly hard for me to make new friends now cause of the past and how they treated me so I get Extremely shy around new people and not rlly open to not get hated. I have rlly big passions and try reaching my goal cause doing that is so much better than finding friends and people who would basically waste ur time Lol. I’m posting KZbin videos and do what I love even tho Idk what my talents or hobbies are yet but I just wanna reach a lot of views and stuffs to show proof to those people that I do not need them. Especially my unsupportive teachers Lol

[@itsme2434]

am going threw the same thing ugh

[@Michael-go9hm]

Amen girl, keep growing and thats where you'll find meaning. I hope i someday will too

[@hazx4345]

I RELATE SO MUCH :\\

[@idkidk946]

@@me-hk4ro idk if ur gonna see this but wanna be friends I think we’re the same age :)

[@nw6937]

While I appreciate and understand a lot of the points made, I still think that as humans and social species, we crave human connection sooner or later. And there is nothing wrong in wanting to talk to somebody and crave a deeper connection. That doesn't always mean we are not able to do self care and reflexion.

[@BrianBloop]

Actually loneliness is as deadly as smoking 3 cigs a day

[@jimmyhart5155]

Exactly

[@m_ammar_10]

Anyone wanna be friends

[@Lightflames85]

@@BrianBloop well i think it depends if your suffering or not. People suffer when they dont accept the loneliness and fight against the feeling. Knowing that feelings cant hurt you if you dont let them helps. its just troughs they cant hurt you. Just sit in them til they pass.

[@ensco7]

​@@Lightflames85 I think it rather depends on the person and the environment. Some people are just okay feeling isolated, but that's rare. And the environment matters because you'll feel much more lonely if, lets say, your colleagues at work seem to have vibrant social lifes and are interacting with each other in a friendly playful manner but you're just not fitting in, and the managers pretend like it's a family when on the surface nobody gives a shit about you. If you work alone or you have clearly distant relationships at work, I like to imagine that it's much easier. But it doesn't really help if you have experienced the first scenario already, because you know that you're the odd one out. At least you don't get reminded every five minutes working isolated. Avoiding social media isn't really helping at that point either, and nowadays I'd argue it's rather counter-productive if you don't play the game that everyone else is playing.. Speaking from my experience.

[@nicholasmiranda6013]

Lol the sunlight gets brighter when you get that flashback

[@David_Hammond]

Nicholas Miranda hahah god works in mysterious ways

[@Voicingspy]

Not sure about anyone else, but Something that pisses me off is when someone says they have no friends, yet they hang out with a bunch of people all the time. It SUCKS when you ACTUALLY don’t have any friends, like me.

[@TCYTseven]

Exactly

[@a1eyaaaaaaaaa]

yesss exactly

[@Voicingspy]

@@suziesmith8288 Right. But what I mean is personally, I literally have nobody to hang out with. No friends, no acquaintances, LITERALLY NOBODY. The only “friend” I have is my dog. It really triggers me when people say that, yet they have at least one other person to hang out with. What hurts is when you have something you want to tell somebody, but you have nobody to talk to about it. When I look at my phone, the Lock Screen is completely empty. Not a single notification in site. Also, feeling lonely isn’t just a temporary thing for me. It’s a constant feeling/emotion that I just have to deal with 24/7. Sometimes it just becomes too much and I break down because of it, especially at the end of the day when I come home and reflect on my day. I’ve literally been to the hospital twice last year because I wanted to kill myself because of it.

[@FearBlockTaIes]

@@Voicingspy do it for the vine

[@JAKE-ng8yr]

@@Voicingspy for real bro I'm exactly the same. Always hearing normies saying "I am so lonely" and then going to a party every week like fuck off. I have literally no one to hang out with. No one. I was ONCE at volleyball with 4 people so we had 2v2 matches, i was sitting on the bench first and when it was my time to play they suddenly decided that 3v2 is fine too. And after that I was never invited again. Good to know that everyone treats me like a trash for no fucking reason. Fuck my life

[@nitinnegi862]

Just feeling a bit lonely for few days and your video came, it's a massive help

[@David_Hammond]

Nitin Negi 🙏🙏🙏

[@suciueduard661]

👍 same reason I'm here

[@batmanlover3bill108]

I used to have like 2 friends in elementary school but they just then ignored me a year later. Then I only had 1 friend and it was a fake friend ;/ And then they just backed stabbed me. And I would always relie on him. And now I'm just lonely. And also do not relie on just 1 person because someday they might just backstab you and ignore you. I also am a shy quiet kid. So it's literally impossible for me to make friends.

[@jl213]

Most relatable thing I have ever heard!

[@krismanibrahim4632]

Can relate so much. My best friend leave me with a ton of problem when he promised the support

[@Jckson7]

trust me bro you dont need friends they dont care about you even if they say they do stay strong man and stay on the grind👌

[@mehfuzyeager5639]

You and me are similar😥 You can Be online freinds with me. If you wanna at least talk. Because I know loneliness. 😐 FB: Mitu Rahman

[@Alone-ks6ed]

I am the same 3 frnds to now 0

[@theshield8174]

it’s good to know that I’m not alone and that there are other people that don’t have friends. I never really liked anyone & always preferred being by myself.

[@UsernameJoel]

I can kind of relate to that, I started my “spiritual journey” freshman year, and noticed my friends kind of ignoring me and using my simply for me presents. I’ve kicked them to the curb due to them not being a good habit for me

[@David_Hammond]

Joel Luna that’s it man. Growth over everything. Anything not of our best service is not useful. 🙏

[@fulikupa1870]

I know exactly what your talking about and can relate. “It takes nothing to stand with the crowd, Takes everything to stand alone”. Being alone will take you and strengthen you in places you never knew you needed. Head high my kings💪👑

[@David_Hammond]

Fuli Kupa bang on bro yes. Keep it up. 💯👍

[@shashaanksrivastava]

Great video, in these past few months where i've started meditating, going to the gym, doing NoFap I have never been happier and haven't felt lonely / depressed anymore. This Truly Works!!!

[@David_Hammond]

shashaank srivastava amazing man so glad to hear keep killing it bro!! 😁🔥🙌

[@Abhishek-WebDev]

Yeah, works for me as well. Keep crushing ❤

[@Abhishek-WebDev]

@James Cottingham M. don't shit your self talk here

[@dflowhoops]

Thank you so much for this

[@ecoutexmoi1]

LOVE this message. Growing up I was always the social butterfly and was involved in many friend groups as an “extrovert”. Every free hour was spent with friends. It wasn’t until college that it hit me how uncomfortable I felt sitting alone with myself, and then much later how I noticed I never quite really found out who i am to the core, which as you know started a whole trickle of other issues because I never looked internally for peace and happiness. The message you’re sharing is very true and amazing. Going back, I would’ve changed that and done what you did knowing what I know now.

[@john70jake]

I've spent years alone and it only hurts more. I'm not motivated to work on myself when there's no support system to help me through my depressive-suicidal episodes. Self-love doesn't sustain me, I hate the idea I have to have all my shit together to be worth anyone's time even though nobody else fully does.

[@someone-by5tq]

How old are u?

[@john70jake]

@@someone-by5tq no matter how old I say I am you're going to respond the same way, whether I'm in my mid-20s or 50s.

[@someone-by5tq]

@@john70jake i'm sorry, i only asked cause i feel the same way as you but i am young

[@clarissamck]

I’m very happy on my own. I’m picky who I let in my life. I don’t want negativity or strife . I’m very happy and secure by myself.

[@isntitrich000]

Man, thank you for that! It hit right in the feels. Bawled my eyes out. I swear I used to be very sociable when I was young but things happened and it’s like I built a really thick wall. I’m gonna sound cheesy but I have to tear down that wall of insecurity myself.

[@kaeyynn]

I'm honestly incapable of making friends and it frustrates me. Whenever someone tries talking to me, I don't know how to respond so I force a laugh and act super awkward around them. It makes me pretty sad because I remember when I was younger, making friends was so easy. I wasn't shy and was able to join any conversation I wanted to. Now that's not the case. I'm so insecure around others. I overthink about how others perceive me and in many cases, I was a people pleaser. Being alone isnt always bad for me, being in a crowded room with people laughing and joking around feels shitty. When it's at home or outside of school, I love being alone. I hate it when I'm in school because I'm an obvious outcast.

[@ThanoSalt]

EXACTLY. Im in 8th grade, barely any friends since 5th grade, in 4th grade i was literally in a good, smart friend group, interacting with everyone. Now im just the guy who eats in the bathroom stalls and no one remembers, forgot i was alone until I realised whenever there were group activities, id have no one to turn to, just stare as people select and laugh with their friends, id be the awkward one who has to find the group with only one person left 😔.

[@brianeastman3547]

Jesus manipulates people like you

[@osirisygo9870]

I was surrounded by negative friends for a long time because I was scared of being alone but when I finally cut them off, I felt good and more positive but I felt and still do, completely alone and isolated

[@ductaost-nhts4345]

Alone and loneliness is not the same thing and this guy explains it pretty well

[@wesammmm5432]

that last statement you made is so true. i remember always chasing and begging my friends to hang out with them. They would always neglect me, and never care. So i decided to work on myself as much as i can (physically, mentally, spiritually, etc. Fast forward 1 year now they're texting me asking about me. I didn't even bother saying hi to them. Because when i was all alone and and had no one, they were out partying and having fun while while being very negligent of my presence. My point is: When you focus on yourself, things naturally fall into place, and with Gods help you will be content with what you have. People will start wanting to be your friend, once you put up a positive atmosphere for people. for those who do not value you, have no room in your life.

[@artstudioarif]

this really helped me man thanks alot

[@KatrinaAglipay]

I can relate. 🥰

[@dotsolution2357]

Bro, I have 2 real friends, for more than 8 years and the other for 7 years. I never had many friends, only true friends. I speak to them every day and we laugh about stupid shit we did together. You don't need many friends, you need real friends! Much love for you and your channel

[@danie3787]

Lucky you. Every time I think I can trust a friend, he leaves me. Right now this is a year without a friend. It's the worst moment of my life. The only people that wishes me happy birthday is my family

[@dotsolution2357]

@@danie3787 don't underestimate the power of your family bro. Family will always be there for you if you have a good family

[@danie3787]

@@dotsolution2357 thats the problem, the only people I love are my grandma and my mother, my life is so lonely, I spend most of my time in my room doing nothing

[@dotsolution2357]

@@danie3787 it hurts me, I'm sorry mate. Try to find some online friends. That's way easier and they won't judge you as other people will do. It may sound weird, but maybe you can find someone on the internet with the same interests as you and spend some time online with them.

[@danie3787]

@@dotsolution2357 thank you for your words I really appreciate them.

[@ranvirsingh3295]

I sometimes just wonder why people are so afraid to be alone. I mean what sort of relationship or friendship is that if you have to be clingy and trying to fit in . if you cant find good people who value you,just fuck them. WE NEED TO LEARN TO LIVE ON OUR OWN.

[@danielson3432]

Thanks bro up until the age of 19 i was extremely popular my phone would never stop! After that slowly slowly i became more and more isolated now at age 34 i haven’t had a proper friend for 10yrs. But i am working on my self just like you say and always in hope of the future, even if I don’t believe it deep down.. I also am a big believer in your better of with no company if the company is no good! Peace ✌️

[@s.mladenovasiyana4081]

its hard seeing the pepole you most love go away

[@LegendaryTeamful]

tbh quarantine really helped me feel better by myself. like i used to stress out about socializing with friends all the time, it felt good not having to worry about it

[@jerseyjudge2802]

Dude I totally agree with you I also feel like I was kicked to the curb beginning of this school year, like not being invited to parties and being ignored/ bullied by former friends. Only the ones who still stuck up for me and stood by me remain and I am grateful for the. I unfortunately had low confidence due to being a benchwarmer for my school's jv basketball team but a little self improvement like you said goes a long way as I was named Captain, won an all tournament trophy, and made some game winning free throws. And just months back I was finally invited to something. Yo I really like what you are promoting with self development keep it up my G.

[@SHDWZ__]

Nice, great job 👍🏻

[@mikereiss4216]

That's me. No friends.I find sometimes that the more friendly I am and the more I try the more I seem to push people away. I think maybe because people perceive that as neediness. Not sure. I think it's good to take some time to work on yourself though.

[@KM-rh4zl]

Thanks for the advice but I have to be honest, for everyone’s sake: Focusing on yourself is all fine and dandy until a certain point. I chose to focus on myself back in 2017. I focused too much and for too long on myself to the point I don’t have any social outings. I had 52 texts in February (incoming and outgoing). So all I am trying to say is don’t make my mistake. Work on yourself but don’t shut everything out for a long time. Best of luck to everyone :)

[@pr1921]

I getting positive vibes after seeing many people like me.. I used have many friends.. In college .. now no one is there with me not even a single person I have a boy friend but i never share anything sometimes I feel I want one gud friend just to cry... And hug..

[@kalebmikhail100]

Thank you so much for this I’m just a kid who feel so depressed and lonely thank you so much

[@blazedboy4323]

I thank god he gave us this quarantine for giving me this amount of time to realize this among all the fakes I surrounded myself. Especially thankful for this person I have grown/matured as. I hope you all the best of the best and even if your feeling down, it’s okay... I love you and you are amazing never forget that

[@Sulimankhayyat]

If you're connected with your self you wont force unhealthy relationships into your life because usually you can feel an authentic interaction, but desperation could lead to bad decisions.

[@jackedmac]

i feel u bro. i do have good friends but this quarantine i don’t really feel like talking to any of them for some reason. it’s been like months since we’ve had long convos. literally isolating and focusing on myself.

[@kirstyreilly3255]

I'm a loner 46 now I have moved around a lot as I was a forces child. I was bullied by my last friend she was always pulling me down in front if another friend. But now I'm doing my own thing it can get lonely but hey better to be alone then with people who pull you down.

[@jaky411]

Thanks for sharing. As an adult, i can now say that I am definitely an introvert and I have come to full terms with it and have more love, compassion, and patience with myself than how i was when i was younger really struggling to trying to be like everyone else or thought i was less than. I am a millennial raised by 1st generation south asian immigrant parents that came to America in the early 90's through emotional manipulation by a family member of mine with promise of help settle our lives. After the birth of my younger sister, they turned their back on my family for reasons to this day still a mystery but i tell myself it was jealousy and their need for full control over my family's happiness. My childhood and teen years were constant reminder of stress, family arguments, and financial issues at the result of immigration delay and using that to my family's independence and years of having to put up their emotional abuse because of it. So making connections with kids at school hanging around with them and even inviting them over felt like at least for me in my mind like a luxury that other kids were more free and allowed to do and I was more pressured with the expectation of focusing on school and doing well. I knew deep down it was more from my family's insecurity with money and at times felt like more of an unrealisitc expectation on their part as parents as well. my teen years felt very lost, confused, and lonely by the fact that my parents did not meet eye to eye with some of the cultural differences as well as being too caught up in their own problems to have given me the time to hear me out or understand what i was going through internally being exposed to all of that a the same time.

[@Oblisk]

“It is better to be alone but to be in good company, than it is to be with others but in poor company.”💯 don’t care if it was made up or not, this is such a great way to put it, this my new mantra!

[@niko2003oh]

soo true, I love my time alone. Sure I can appreciate people but it's nice to have the right people around.

[@Mrhaydentv]

Most incredible video mate, amazing. I spend so much time on my own, and recently started to feel lonely and like i am loosing friends whilst building my business and self developing. Now i understand it is just part of the process of becoming!

[@mdaetesamuddin8657]

We are social being and we need good friends who supports you in good and bad situations

[@jamesberkeley390]

I’m the loser in my class and its really depressing... no friends 😢

[@boopyournose5698]

I only had people come up to me when they needed my help with studies. That kind of sums up that I grew up without friends. But it was my own fault. I wanted to have deep talks with people but all my classmates were very superficial. Now I'm enjoying my time alone. If I meet someone who I can connect, I will gladly let them in my life

[@QWEEKEN73]

Resonating with this rn. My life's changed a lot this past year, and I've found myself severely disconnected with people who I used to call my friends. It's weird. I'm back in my hometown after being away for three years. Everyone that I was close to has since moved away, and most of my old friends who still live here have settled down and don't do much. It sort of feels like I'm forced to learn how to stay social and have fun without friends. This video helped shed some light on my situation. Thanks man!

[@dontatme3844]

Instagram is the worst. seeing all these friendship groups out having a good time at bars, clubs, houses etc.. makes me so sad because i dont ever have that and I always see people talk about their friends and all the fun times they have. feels bad. :(

[@suciueduard661]

I feel kind same but then I remember that in social media ppl are showing just the good stuff

[@dontatme3844]

@@suciueduard661 hey this is odd because I wrote this comment 2 years ago but so much has changed since then. I now have a group of amazing friends around me that I consider as family. Time really does change. I also have given my life to Christ and He has helped me tremendously

[@kanyewest2729]

Five years ago I was the popular kid, I made friends so easily and was unaware of my charisma and confidence. After one break up that fucked up my senior year. So I fell behind everyone else. I chose to just sit at home all day instead of going out, I put on weight and just stayed that way. Now I can’t even remember how to make friends, I’m not awkward but I feel exhausted after a 10 minute conversation with anyone.

[@andresherrera4158]

My phone used to ring throughout the day, they all wanted or needed something. My marriage had gone into a dark place I couldn't understand. I stopped being available to others and got acquainted with NO. My phone no longer rang. Became a talking buddy with a homeless dude that strolls through the alley behind my house. Then my lips were shut and my mind was open. Ideas came and went. I had answers, but most people out there have opinions and "you know what you should do's". In KZbin I learned to listen, to watch, to notice, to learn more. I see for instance the pain, the hurt in David's memories. I thought of mine, but those moments were filed behind my jokes and laughter which is my coping mechanism. I'm old now by most standards, but one thing I have learned. Everything around us, the people, pandemia, politics and songs are just events that mean nothing to one and a lot another. And that is it. You see or live an event and then place a value to it, a meaning, and based on that value we react. The beautiful thing is that once you know this, you get to chose whether or not to place value on anything that surrounds you, and chose who you become. A car crash. You can either watch and walk away, get involved and call 911, or help the victims in the cars. You get to chose. A break up, the death of your father, the arrival of a child, the BS of those you know. The value you chose, determines your level of suffering. If you end up in a wheelchair and I don't know you, it's just an event. If it happens to me, it's just an event until I decide to place value on it and be miserable. Thanks for the space Dave, and thank you for sharing the light, the word, the thoughts that come to your receptive mind. Who knows where they come from, but you're willing to listen and share, and that's the ultimate form of selflessness.

[@slickblowfish]

Around 4:00 when you talk about fixing yourself , the things you lack , is so true , long story short , my little baby sister died , well had 3 cardiac arrests and is a vegetable now and that killed me , made me so depressed , I stopped talking to everyone and just worked out , I fell off from the gym , but mentally that stuff will never go away , and it really changed me , it was an opportunity that no one else was given

[@investedtina]

6:05 Thats a mexican saying, “mejor estar sola que mala acompañada/o.” 🥂💯💜👑

[@semisr4324]

In Brazil we saying that too!! I think everywhere!!👍😊

[@jmk2530]

Awesome message- love yourself; and then you will never feel alone. Wow! Makes so much sense.

[@bhavithachennupati8533]

I have none Except my dad ..... People ruined me And situations lost me.... I feel being alone is more better Than being fake around ppl

[@Metanoia46]

i could make friends, i could relate to people but the shit is i can't keep up sometimes, feel mad left behind, shit i haven't felt the same since march of last year, it's like i keep waiting to feel back like myself, it's like i wanna do the same shit from the past to feel the love or feel the same mentally. sigh i just pray to god all of this gets better.

[@AS-pn5zl]

I feel like I always get forgotten. But idk why? I’m such a beautiful person. Maybe not having friends is God cleansing your life from people who aren’t meant to be in your life. 🤷‍♀️ and being alone is a test. It’s hard being alone, but it can be the most rewarding part of an individuals life.

[@muhamedjones122]

I think God I've read this. It made me feel a lot better knowing that it's okay to not have a ton of friends. I feel like I'm always alone cause God is trynna protect me.

[@britany_lmp5112]

@2025 Hey yeah she's absolutely right for the first time of my life I don't really have friends and I'm so thankful to God now because it brought me closer to Him, and made me stronger and wiser 💃🏿

[@TakeBackYourMind997]

This is SO relatable! I used to crave popularity yet feel alone in a room of 50 people, now I feel unconditionally loved even if I'm completely by myself. Learning to be okay alone is actually the key to making friends too! It kills neediness and chasing which is probably why you're not making them already.

[@erin-iq8tm]

am i really this unlikeable? im always being left out and even my best friend always cancels and isn't interested in meeting up at all. i hate the weekends and i hate my life it's so boring

[@samruddhi_221]

Hello i relate to you

[@knightxl380]

Thank you! I needed this. I was very depressed that I had no friends. Now I have accepted that. Thank you again. I can not stress that enough

[@bradshaw682]

I used to have a lot of “friends” or people I was always cool with but i moved away and got into some trouble I was locked up for seven months which really made me get socially awkward because I barely ever talked and once I got home there was no one and It was just me I had a job had good convos with people that came in n out but at school I can’t I get bad anxiety and I can only talk when people talk to me cuz I can’t start conversations , school has been on since August and till this day people ignore me so I don’t try I still have zero friends but I’m okay with it but sometimes (not as bad as it used to be ) i get lonely and it be gettin to me

[@cosmicfxx]

I’m 50 years old ... even working on my self my whole life ... I’m still alone and still feel very alone, with or without people around me.

[@swethasabu7970]

To be honest , I am loner and didn't have even a single friend for eight years . I am happy this way. No pleasing people , no sharing my stuff , no drama and no dealing egotistical people etc . Just me , myself, and I soul ride till I die cause I got me for life , I needn't a hand to hold even when the night is cold cause I got that fire 🔥 in my soul 🥰😍🤩😛

[@Lightflames85]

there is a difference between injoying your own company and running away from your own issues. If we don't handle our stuff then we will suffer sooner or later. The difference is how much we suffer.

[@Mary-hv6eq]

i don’t have (real) friends and that’s okay! i have hundred of acquaintances but i love to hang out by myself. i go places and read books and love to try new things. it only gets hard thinking about long-term major life events like my wedding or a baby shower, or even my funeral. I’m not sure i would have anyone show up at any of these things and that’s hard. it’ll all be okay in the end :)

[@khimonet5927]

Yes like I keep thinking who will be my bridesmaids I might have to use family members but I barely talk to them as well

[@NotVivianASMR]

My twin sister has loads of friends I hang out with her at school so I’m not sat alone awkwardly but she doesn’t like me hanging out with her and her friends. She goes out with them a lot after school and at the weekend and doesn’t let me go with her. That made me realise I literally have no friends or anyone to talk to and I don’t have good relationship with my parents. The reason I don’t have friends is because of anxiety my parents don’t understand what anxiety is. They don’t even try to understand! ANXIETY SUCKS!!!!😫😢 Anyway idk why I commenting this big paragraph that probably doesn’t even make sense I just felt like getting it all out and telling strangers about what’s happening in my life right now . . . . Hope your life is going ok 👋

[@ranvirsingh3295]

I feel you ,you can talk to me on social media if you want. Reply me,,I will drop me ig

[@farukhfarooqkhan6031]

love and prayers to you 💕

[@mscottlopez6332]

Man I can feel your vibe, even tough it’s a video, and it’s fucking great.

[@MrChelseaDan]

I sorta get how you feel/felt David. I always had friends in school, but I never got invited to parties or anything like that, which made me sad at the time. I came back from a year in Japan recently where I made some good friends (one guy in particular became my best friend), so now I feel quite lonely sometimes without those people, but I’m dealing with it in my own way. Even though you made that saying up at the end, I definitely agree!

[@thechelseachannel794]

Thank you so much for this I really needed this. I have one good friend that I know I can count on and one or two that are friends added to that. I cut out some friends who were toxic in my life and didn’t support my dreams. It has been lonely for me recently but I know that I’m not truly alone. I believe in God and feel him with me always so I know that’s all I really needed. Self love with come soon, I’m working on it. Everything you said was so true, thank you.

[@mikem9958]

I had a weird case when it came to my friendships in my youth. Even though I was somewhat of an outsider, kind of quiet, and even fucked with quite a bit, I always had a friend or some kind of circle or network of friends that all knew each other one way or another. Despite this, I still felt like a loser and that the majority of people thought less of me. I came to realize, I was actually choosy who I would socialize with. With me being somewhat of an "outsider" so to speak, I saw how people were nasty; they'd stab each other in the back, be petty and gossip all the damn time, treat others like shit for perceived social status, and behave like complete sheep. As an introvert who gets energy from having time alone, I didn't need any of that, so I was very choosy. I had people call me "stuck up" or think I'm "too shy", but really I could give a damn about most people, I wasn't needy.

[@LauraDeVasconcelos]

Well, same here, and i definitely still choose to be by myself than with wrong people and or at wrong places, I've been working on myself soul heart mind body, BUT when so many years pass and rarely someone reach out to hangout, i'm not sure this is healthy anymore, i have a beautiful life with no one to share

[@ollyrl1529]

What if the happiest days of your life was with a friend group that you went out with everyday and experienced life with? Because they have left me for another group and now the happiest days of my life are gone. And i am sad :( What if throughout your life you have realised that you are someone who is very quiet but their favourite thing to do Is go out and enjoy life with friends.

[@keith2o9]

Alot of times friends get tired of each other. Once they have enough of you, they go out and find new ones. Going out with them everyday, they’ll eventually get bored of you and they go after the new friend

[@squid2754]

Gasp can relate to the last part

[@liam-man7265]

@@keith2o9 I would never leave anyone like that. That just ain’t right.

[@m.ssudarshan104]

Dude I felt your pain brother, I swear will follow what you said change myself and give time to myself ,improve ,change ,and make a better whole new one. Thank you brother your words inspired me.thank you so much

[@TheWeakest_]

I find it so weird, I make friends very easily but I can't help but get left everytime. Then when quarantine hit, I pretty much lost all of my friends, I had no connection to anybody else all throughout the prime of quarantine. Ever since I noticed this, I haven't had any friends because I didnt believe that people really wanted me and I wouldn't trust anything people said to me and I would be distant. It felt like I was living the best life, but when I looked at the other kids, I started to question it. Although I began to question my thoughts, I couldn't stop thinking that way because of how long I had that concept. But, randomly out of the blue I found a new friend. She texted me and I was like "hmm, let's see what she wants." But, she just wanted to talk to me. I didn't believe it at the start but she stayed consistent, she texted me every single day and it felt different. I could sense that she was genuine with anything she said, I never felt this feeling, it was love. The love part is another story, everyday I wondered why she talked to me and I always thought she'd just leave me one day, but she didn't. She taught me that having friends didn't have to be a temporary and disheartening thing. People say it's weird that I have little friends, but I'd rather be with just her than a whole group that will leave me. This may be the longest comment I've ever written.

[@sulfur_americium2993]

I had that same experience with a girl I met online from the Philippines who lived in Texas, only difference is she eventually left me just like my friends. I genuinely thought I had finally found love, but that went nowhere.

[@imthebmf23]

I don't need friends but I have some real friends that even we don't see each other we still have that bond.

[@minecrafminecraft3824]

That’s what I needed to hear but being by yourself all alone is not that great of an experience

[@iankingsley9660]

OMG this video has really blessed me like I hadn't no friends and if I approach to them I was mocked and all sort of stuff and ended up staying at home Thanks again bruh

[@maxuel113]

We know that you searched it.

[@s.mladenovasiyana4081]

i dont know what do do leave me alone

[@lilwickedx441]

Nope it got recommended

[@len1337]

@@s.mladenovasiyana4081 lol me too

[@ManhLytheawesome]

Lmao, don't attack us like this

[@aldorodriguez3283]

Duh

[@RobotDude375]

This guy almost perfectly described my life at the beginning. I just started high school as a freshman and probably only have like 1 or 2 friends that actually kind of care about me, and I barely ever get to see them. I had a ton of amazing friends in middle school, but we all went our separate ways at graduation. I’m still in contact with one guy who I’m really good friends with, but I only ever talk to him once every like two weeks. I thought making friends at my new school be easy because I would be the new kid, but in about half the freshman class was just new kids from other schools, and they already had all their friend groups all put together, so no one was even remotely interested in any part of me other than the fact that I was 6’4, but after everyone figured out that I don’t play basketball, no one really seemed to care about me at all. I have a couple of kids I sit with at lunch, but they barely ever talk to me now despite being really friendly at the beginning of the year. Now I’m gonna finish watching the video before I say anything else.

[@maddocks4428]

Me and you are practically the same. Everyone at my school plays basketball and it's hard to fit in when you suck at it. You are one of the most relatable people in the comments I've found so far.

[@UnKnown-wc2pc]

Same story bro. When I was in high school I had a lot of true friends but when I joined college I couldn't find even a single friend the whole class make fun, chat with one another but give not attention me at all. That's why I sit on the last bench alone and nobody likes to talk to me sometimes I think probably I don't know how to make friends aur manage the friendship 😢

[@hp2546]

@@UnKnown-wc2pc Part of going to college is being independent. I mean when it comes to graduating high school, many graduates are expected to go on separate journeys from classmates including their friends. Your high school friends would likely attend a different college from yours. You are considered a total stranger when attending new campus. It is not like high school. In high school, you expect to see most of your classmates having a same face. In college, you are expected to meet new people and getting newer classmates. Even if you somehow were to find a college friend, hanging out won't be everlasting compared to high school anyways. I mean what if your friend graduate before you vice versa? You will only go back to solitude life again because college is never about social life and not about graduating on the same semester as your friends.

[@hp2546]

@@maddocks4428 I know I had been there in the 90s. Everybody is good at basketball while I suck. I even felt the same way when I go to college in the year 2000. Everybody can transfer out of community college and go to university except me. So once you graduate from high school, you can ditch that basketball game and forget about being part of the team. I am sure you only join that PE class because it is part of your requirement to graduate high school. Once you graduate, you can choose your own sport. Heck, you can choose a sport that has nothing to do with competition. So the way you described your loneliness is due to your skill level and being the weakest link in the team.

[@hp2546]

@@UnKnown-wc2pc Not talking to someone and not making friends are separate issues. Just like right now. I am talking to you but it does not mean I am your bff. I can still be friendly around you. So anyone who is at least wanting to give you a good chat, that right there is a decent person even if that person isn't your bff. You can join any clubs, events, or banquet. Even if you sit by yourself at any clubs, events, or banquet, and somebody asks you can I sit there, that right there means you have a partner to talk with. Even if you spoke to a stranger while sitting in a bench, you aren't required to be that person's friend. Anyone can talk to you even if they don't make it their goal to be your friend. So starting a conversation is different compared to making friends. Just like how you are starting a conversation right now talking about your past, that is starting a conversation. You cannot claim people do not want to talk to you. People may not want to be your friend is a different issue for you. When I attended a video game event at Cal State LA, I did not have friends. Even when I played against a total stranger, win or lose, I am ok with it. If I were a child, I would make it a big deal and always assume I need to be skillful to fit in. As an adult, if I lose, I don't make it a big deal. I respect my opponent. Even if it lasted for 15-30 min of gameplay, I am still glad I played. Gaming event does not require bringing partners. People who brings partners will end up playing games all day long and even drop out of class joining that kind of event. How I got a spot to play is because someone said to me do you want to play. If nobody hands me a spot, I walk out of there peacefully and focus only on my hw schedule. I never even expect them to give me a controllers when I watched the game for 20 minutes. I went there thinking I rather just watch the game. That is a reward for enjoying solitude life because they saw me being happy in a bench. They respect people who enjoys solitude life. Being popular there requires a person to be extremely skillful in order to be benched less often.

[@holyoutcast2723]

He said he’s introverted I never would have known

[@ZenitharCameron]

I've watched this video a bit late I know, but I'm so glad I've come across it, you really labelled exactly how I'm feeling with myself right now and I'm going to take on the challenge. I appreciate you so much for making this video, thanks to you my new chapter in life starts. Time to put in the work!

[@Nadjingar]

I like storytime. I'm having the same experience. in high school right now. Great vid!

[@David_Hammond]

Jon Doe will definitely incorporate more here and there. Cheers my man! 🤟👊

[@ozvaz8]

I’ve seen a few of your videos and this one is my favorite so far, the timing in which it came is nothing short of purpose driven. I’ve felt my best times have always been when I’m all to myself. The biggest self-improvement leaps have all been made when I find myself alone, as I do now. I just bought a house and lost 30 lbs with no plans of stopping. As well as the biggest mental breakthroughs, have all come when I focus inward. Thanks for making these videos man.

[@adams3072]

for me, i feel like I would have to be an entirely different person to get someone to like me.

[@DavidVargas-zw8ct]

This year has been terrible for me not only in the social aspect but in other things. But I will just talk about the social aspect here. Before the pandemic hit I had a social life, I would go out and talk to friends almost every day and felt like life was going great. Then the pandemic hit, and as the months went on I started to lose contact with many people I thought were once close to me and I thought I was going insane, but as time went on I started to accustom myself to just work come home, and do homework. Except as time went on I had realized that I had been trying to busy my mind and try to ignore my depression by working almost every day and being super dedicated to my online college and later had realized I isolated myself even after everything had opened back up. I realized this when I noticed my birthday is this Saturday and have just started to slow down on my workload, that I have no one to talk to or have anything I could do. It is depressing, but I want to try to think positive, but it is extremely hard. Not sure what to do.

[@lixscafe]

I got jealous of Some friends in school-...Because I'm always lonely..My anxiety, Shyness, depression and stress made it difficult for me to communicate..And No one actually asks about these or understood me..So idek

[@bocckoka]

I also don't have any friends, but they didn't exclude me, I excluded them, mostly, and deliberately, for reasons unknown to me

[@jazzmp4]

I 1000% empathise with you. I don't think I've ever come across someone I was able to see myself in other than this guy right here.

[@yes.2913]

Same there’s no one I want to be friends with even though I want friends