What Wives Can Do to Bless Their Marriage - Angela Mills

Angela Mills found it easy to bless her daughters on a daily basis, but doing the same for her husband was a struggle. So she intentionally set out to bless her husband in a variety of ways - by encouraging him, serving him, reminiscing with him about their dating days, cultivating contentment about her marriage, etc. Angela knows this message may seem “unfair” to wives who feel like their husbands should be blessing them, or may provoke more independent-minded women who don’t want be subservient to men, but she responds with what the Bible says about self-sacrifice and serving one another - just like Jesus modeled for us. Angela also described the tumultuous early years of her marriage where she was tempted to leave her husband, but she didn’t want to perpetuate a legacy of divorce in her family, and she felt like God was holding her to the commitments she made in her wedding vows. So she stayed and worked on her marriage relationship until it was healthy and thriving.
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[@dianakirilovich38]

For a while in my marriage, my husband was the kind of husband I dreamt of, he did everything without being asked. Now he fell into addiction and does almost nothing. I keep looking back and realize that I hardly ever said anything encouraging or showed gratitude when everything was great. I always nagged and picked on the smallest things he did wrong. Now, I force myself to find at least something to thank him for.

[@elliechewny6924]

Thank you for this honest and wise comment! ❤

[@alysonpollak2638]

His addiction is absolutely NOT your fault. Don't allow anyone to make you feel that you are responsible for their happiness. Each person is responsible for their OWN choices.

[@folorunshosade4007]

The Lord will restore him 🙏

[@stephaniethompson7995]

I can relate to this..... 😞

[@Iamonlyadoll]

Thank you for this response. Although we are not responsible for our husbands addictions, we can choose if we will be a loving helper through their recovery or make recovery harder by discouraging them with our bad attitudes. I know the Lord will bless you for being kind and long-suffering. Keep your eyes on Jesus. ❤

[@Brian-rs4ug]

Only 10 percent of married couples have a great marriage according to statistics. It requires two selfless individuals to continually GROW together for this to happen. There are no short cuts. Clearly defined agreed upon roles with regular and consistent verbal appreciation are a big part creating this environment in the home.

[@marygarrett9724]

10% ???

[@marygarrett9724]

You mean only 10% of married couples have great marriages??

[@Brian-rs4ug]

mary garrett correct. I could have communicated my comment with more clarity.

[@acharich]

💯💎💯

[@acharich]

20:55 I appreciate the transparency.. 💭 I think sometimes because of abandonment & rejection issues we've experienced before, we can subconsciously sabotage our relationships trying to see how far we can push them before they snap / before they decide to leave us like the others, thus causing us to perpetuate the very toxic behaviours we hate.. 😬 Lord heal us & help us appreciate the blessings U have given us.. 🙏🏾 - @Acharich

[@leondrawalker7304]

We have to cast out and spiritual destroy all demonic spirits in Jesus'Name Yes&Amen

[@janetbarlin7805]

Angela, you have such a gentle and a quiet spirit, which is so precious to the Lord.

[@joelmcmahon8431]

Seriously ego and pride have no place in marriage

[@kimacker8594]

Angela, thank you for this. It was very encouraging and a reminder to stay committed to marriage.

[@QuiverofArrows]

I'm wondering how do wifes deal with burnout from investing, investing, investing, investing and never being invested in and feeling a lone and never pursued?

[@NT-bz5nh]

Jesus is the only one who can fully make us whole and he will pursue us in ways our husbands fail to. But I do understand wanting and needing something in return from the husband after everything that’s poured into him. Loneliness in marriage is probably more common that we think.

[@marygarrett9724]

There’s the question

[@marygarrett9724]

I’m wondering why the wife is always the one to bless when the husband is suppose to be the spiritual leader.

[@marygarrett9724]

@KB B some days it’s not that easy

[@marygarrett9724]

@@NT-bz5nh we’re human, that’s a natural human need.

[@angeldogs4ellie]

This is wonderful! Thank you!✝️🙌❤

[@annehortsana2957]

Thank you Angela❤ very precious sharing❤ You are beautiful❤

[@bickycelia]

Great encouragement for couples👍🙏🙏.Thanks for sharing

[@SariShalom]

Everything seems so easy in theory, in practice really hard when you face your own husband that is…..

[@maryndahangwapo354]

Thank you for the podcast. Very helpful indeed

[@nadiahaihambo1905]

Very insightful podcast indeed 👌

[@alexhuffman5256]

I LOVE this podcast!!!!!

[@onlybygraceistand7886]

Very timely. Thank you for testifying ❤️

[@joyweaver5261]

Wow!! So true! Love this!!

[@Moving_Forward247]

That story about the double date was very powerful. When we compare we actually do not know the other persons reality. The other thing is: if I have a wrong heart, my husband will not be able to please me. It is so easy to see this in other women. But hard to see in ourselves. I know someone that fault finds a lot with her husband but honestly I think he does WAY more than a lot of husbands in terms of supporting her career and childcare...we have to be grateful for what we have. And also we have to pray first if there is sthg wrong rather than just going off on our husbands. It comes down to treat others including our husbands how we want to be treated. I don’t want my husband to fault find with me or compare me to other women...

[@acharich]

Exactly, things become so much clearer when we are willing to be accountable & take responsibility.. 🙏🏾

[@lindamexicana79]

Thank you needed this

[@bereketewoldfekadu9376]

Thank you

[@acharich]

8:22 Whew, I was literally thinking about that a few hours ago before seeing this video.. 🤯 Many ladies are trying to be the "strong, independent woman" & to prove they don't "need" a man.. 💅🏾 It's often learned behaviour from culture & not how they're wired for femininity.. 💭 - @Acharich

[@cbanks0725]

Ouch! Guilty....

[@fazirualhassan4470]

Praise the Lord almighty today🙏 I COMMEND YOU🕊❤🙏

[@marriedforlife]

Love this!

[@chandnichetna6240]

It's always got to be mutual darling. It's not a one way traffic girls!

[@hopecreed5502]

I'll pray for the 1 that doesn't like this video posted

[@marygarrett9724]

I haven’t watched this yet, going to though, but sometimes the wife gets tired of doing all the blessing while the husband does all the receiving

[@NT-bz5nh]

@@marygarrett9724 I’m pretty burned out by this too

[@glorifiedrhymes8338]

@@marygarrett9724 Is it possible that the husband is blessing the wife in sacrificial ways that are less obvious , not glamorous , and maybe being over looked?

[@justme9100]

Yep...after 25 years of doing HIS life, his way....the blessing has turned to resentment...I don't believe her either for reasons I will not share but some of her body language does not match what she is saying...

[@wilsncz7197]

Question, if Jesus did serve why can’t husbands also serve their wives? I feel like we are the only ones responsible for whatever happens to the marriage as if men have no responsibility to also make it work.

[@BabeDmoney]

I think it's culture more than anything because because bible have parts that are pretty clear for husbands are supposed to serve their household's

[@danielleg1504]

Husbands absolutely can and should be compassionate leaders and servants in marriage. When things are not going well, someone has to nourish the situation back into health… and a godly wife totally can. It’s not easy. At all. ❤

[@GeeTee2023]

I agree with this comment I feel like we wife’s have to make all these changes in ourselves I put my husband and kids first but I feel like it’s not being reciprocated to me!

[@acharich]

4:54 "I'm so glad I couldn't change him.. What u want to change, u may appreciate later.." 💎 Mmm, there are some differences, especially in personality, that we we need to appreciate in order to complement one another effectively.. 🔑 Equal but different roles & assignments.. 💯 - @Acharich

[@cousinit9718]

What about husband's blessing a wife?

[@crystalweeks7816]

Husbands need to bless their wives too. This channel has many videos on helping men be better husbands and spiritual leaders. If you go to this channel's video list you can scroll through all of their videos. There are many wonderful topics to choose from that will help in a wide variety of family challenges.

[@janefarrer2868]

Husbands are not our helpers, they were not called to that. But us women were called and created to be their helpers 💕

[@heyikindalikeyou]

Maybe thats a different video

[@acharich]

I'm sure they have episodes on that too.. 🔍

[@brittanybaldwinvlogs9663]

I hate being married and regret it everyday.

[@danielleg1504]

I’m so sorry. That’s very sad. I sincerely hope that turns around for you ❤

[@susanbuamah2919]

This is so sad. I pray you will turn to the Lord to work on yourself so you can find purpose to live

[@clunygombar9665]

Focus on what your husband is doing right , what happens to the thing your husband is doing wrong ? I just don’t get it . I am a Christian , a wife , a therapist , a mother . He does not need to change ?

[@marygarrett9724]

For help and resources, I might just call

[@monicahoskins663]

Esau troubles and the gentiles tribulation is here, Obadiah 1:15. The church of Mahan and the priest are powerless. All Praise To The Most High.. Amen

[@jesussavesjesusgodlove7042]

🛐🙏😭Heavenly Father JesusGod, I know that I am a sinner. I know that I deserve the consequences of my sin. However, I am trusting in Jesus Christ as my Savior. I believe that His death and resurrection provided for my forgiveness. I trust in Jesus and Jesus alone as my personal Lord and Savior. Thank you Lord, for saving me and forgiving me! In JesusMightyGod's holy name, Amen!" 💗❤❤❤💞This Gospel message if you continue to believe this message, you will be saved: For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Cephas, then to the twelve. Then he appeared to more than five hundred brothers at one time,

[@des711]

What about when women are working out of the home and doing most of the house work and childcare. Women are exhausted

[@thelordismyshepherd1366]

Women need to learn to ask for help. First forgive, then bring your concerns and try to come up with a solution. It is actually a problem with a solution. You just have to detox from the negativity and resentment. That is the real issue.

[@JohnnyD69FG]

And men aren't? Women are more selfish in general in my experience.

[@politereminder6284]

This sounds like a recipe for misery. 🤦 I wonder if she still lives by this now. "The joy will come"? 👀 Nope. Lack of joy is an indicator that you have an issue.

[@nadiabaker2031]

Seriously?! Won't even watch this. What about doing a video for once on HUSBANDS blessing their wives??

[@debmay111]

Love like Jesus! It’s not about us!

[@crystalweeks7816]

Look through the list of videos on the Focus on the Family channel. There are many encouraging videos to help families with a variety of issues. They have videos in their list that are focused on helping husbands to be better spiritual leaders, fathers and spouses.

[@lianacordova8094]

Your stubbornness and pride will continue to be a stumbling block for u. There are a multitude of videos on men treating their wives with love and churches very little talk about the wife blessing her husband out of fear the wives in the audience will react like you did. We need more humility among us women. We can be so selfish. Your immediate thought was what about me???!!! Shows your heart.

[@orangecrayon1880]

Oh your poor husband!

[@JohnnyD69FG]

It's interesting how hostile women get when it's suggested that they treat their husband better.

[@billrodriguez3399]

Consider losing weight.