When A Man Doesn't Value You, Do This || Coach Ken Canion

[@christinelawrence4315]

If a man doesn't value you .. LEAVE!! A real man will see your internal beauty and worth and not play silly games!

[@useruser-zi4fr1um9o]

What if he is your husband? 😂 Such a pain in the neck it is

[@sharonnialarkins9205]

@@useruser-zi4fr1um9o geesh. Lol

[@dawnuncles8563]

FACTS

[@christinelawrence4315]

@@useruser-zi4fr1um9o If your husband is a narcissist sadly you will have a lot of problems. When my ex started really mistreating me I didn't stick around to find out when the next assault was going to happen. I divorced my husband to protect my children .... NOBODY deserves to be mistreated, hurt or abused there is NO excuse whatsoever. I truly hope you will be alright .. maybe read up on some books about narcissism... boy is it an eye opener!!

[@gapeach7814]

💯🎯

[@oldangels444]

1) Stop initiating any type of conversation. (Conversation, call, text, making plans) You are chasing him, anything you chase runs away from you. 2) Stop making yourself so available.Stop answering the calls when he calls right away, you don't have time all the time for him ( Dating is collecting data. ) 3) Don't ever initiate plans (let him buy the tickets wtc) or dont ever cancel your plans for him unless he is willing to do the same 4) Continue dating when collecting data. Don't date just one man when you are collecting date to see if they are a match for you. (no sex with them, get to know them better) You will really found out what a man's thought process is when you take sex of the table. 5) Mirror his behavior when he doesn't value you.

[@hennesseyme9112]

So date multiple men so he can end up calling you a whore? Ladies, please.

[@cherrydeleon9646]

Old Angel's, I like your comment. So true!!! Peaches

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

These are good tips but are a bit overboard

[@jasenapearsey5510]

If the man doesn’t value, “Get the hell outta dodge”.

[@teresacolston7810]

That’s exactly what I did.

[@ayand.3174]

“Mirror his behavior” PRICELESS ADVICE!!! 🔥🔥🔥 As women, we were NEVER MEANT to be the chasers, but be chased as the QUEENS we are. We are RECEIVERS, PRICELESS. Even in the Bible, you don’t see women chasing men but men going out of their way to find that special one. Fearfully and Wonderfully made daughters of the Most High hold your position 👸🏽 ❤️❤️

[@pegs3711]

Amen ☝️ 🙏

[@PlayshotKalo]

Yes. We want a man who has better judgement than us. A man with leadership qualities that we can wholeheartedly trust taking over control behind the wheel. Reliable, takes his responsibilities seriously, provides a safe place for us to be vulnerable, protects our vulnerabilities, is accountable, values cooperation and working as a team over competing _against_ us. A man devoted to his passions, works towards growth and fights for what he believes is right. This is the type of man we can be feminine and nurturing and supportive towards, this is the type of man who’s judgement we can wholeheartedly respect. I want to support that man to be his best self, for our family and for me and for himself, and I want to trust that he has good intentions for us. That’s all we want. Quit allowing men who lack those qualities to touch your wheel and drive you into a ditch in the meantime, save your feminine energy for a masculine man.

[@lydiasparky]

Yes

[@lucy-fl9zv]

This didn't help me. I started to mirror his behavior, and suddenly I was the wrong one who didn't value him. When I opened a conversation that he doesn't value me, he admitted it and said he expects me to be the better one to forgive him the mistakes and show him "the better way". What do you think about this?

[@inettawalker9387]

​@@lucy-fl9zvguilt tripping you. I'm going through that same situation. I hope you've figured it out by now and just remove yourself. Forget about him❤

[@ysmithriley]

Ummm, that's very easy. If he doesn't see my VALUE, I'm not going to try to CONVINCE him. I'M OUT‼️ I USED TO BE A CHASER, BUT NO MORE❗

[@TM-se5jf]

Facts

[@FleurHarleaux]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 YES!!

[@moniqueplair]

You don't have to beg for him to value You. Know your worth. I meet them with the same energy. There's no need to walk around with the PICK ME Syndrome. You are the prize, and if he doesn't recognize it, oh well...his loss ladies NEXT!

[@englishgirl87ify]

1.stop initiating contact (calls, texts) 2.stop being so available 3.don’t initiate in person contact or cancel plans 4.continue dating other men 5.mirror his behavior

[@shakira5872]

Coach. How about if you have chosen to be exclusive the dating multiple ppl obviously shouldn’t apply 🧐

[@triciagamble3818]

When you deal with a narcissistic person all he'll do is turn it on you and make you feel guilty.

[@pegs3711]

@@triciagamble3818 hmmm that is what am dealing with 27 years since am with my husband, don't matter what he does he never takes responsibility for his actions, and when I find out he cheated on me he turned everything on me to the point where he was mad because I caught him cheating so he started acting withdraw hardly speaking to me he stopped discussing anything is like he wanted her and me. I now fully understand how these people mind work and I don't think I wants to be part of that anymore .

[@mightyfineanderson]

​@@pegs3711, he's a narc and he's gaslighing you

[@Pacifica74]

It takes a man to speak into the lives of women like this. Much respect.

[@lolafalana9144]

Absolutely true when a man can balance his Ego and pride allowing intimacy to clear the way... He is more then a man.

[@samarapr4u962]

I was w someone who didn’t value me and I did exactly all these things before watching this video so now I’m more confident that I did the right thing by walking away from this person 💪 he who does not value dont deserve me

[@GeorginaHumphrey-nt1vu]

Yessssss!

[@Babyluv_]

BLOCK, DELETE, MOVE ON!

[@dayanahmaahzhnahyasharahla7606]

EXACTLY!!

[@1010QUEEN7]

Yes and run really fast

[@kamoleballo8761]

Yes!!!

[@thequeenofinsights]

Please please if you are reading this, take this advice!

[@lashontaylor3075]

I used this advice and as of today he wants to take me out on a date Thursday 😂 I told him thanks but I have plans. When I was available to do things with him lately, he wasn’t feeling it. Well, too bad.

[@CoachKenCanion]

Great job!

[@1010QUEEN7]

That's right because you are the prize

[@reneebrown9451]

Awesome! Make his ass feel how u were feeling….

[@TG-et9ns]

I have been MARRIED for 9 years. I've been asking for the same things for about 5 of these years. In this last year, I've gotten extremely vocal about my needs & now I have asked for a divorce. He then decided to start doing the things I asked only to stop a month later because I wasn't responding in the way he wanted. After attempting to manipulate & bully me into staying he's now calm & "working on himself" to try to keep me. I feel he has done so much damage in the process that I can't recover from. I now feel guilty like I'm the one breaking up our family.

[@aquiliaringwood6532]

Don't apologize for his selfish, self centered, arrogant, and vile behavior. Love GOD before Anything!!! Then yourself and your kids. I understand the pain and the false promises that makes you keep hope. Trouble don't last always ❤

[@aleciamoten6867]

When men are playing games they don't want 🙄 to get exposed. Thanks! 😊

[@DebdyutiDas-cf5qc]

Remember what Mother Swift says The more you give , the more he wants u less ...... So love yourself bbg . You're worth it .

[@Pacifica74]

When he makes it up in his mind "I got her", isn't that the aim?? How long do we act like the deer fleeing from the tiger? Eventually we have to get caught, right? I no longer believe we can MAKE a man who already does not value us VALUE US. Once they form that perception that we are low priority, it's dead in the water.

[@Rustycat69]

Yes this is my question. Surely a guy will treat you right anyway if he's a good guy... When does the chasing stop...

[@PlayshotKalo]

I think this is more early dating advice. Allow the man to chase and initiate in the beginning. This won’t always be the case after the dating phase is over and you’ve established a more meaningful relationship though. This is affected more by your personality type than whether you’re a man or a woman. An ISFJ man wants that comfort of knowing you’re going to cooperate and stick around. And he’s going to take care of your needs and devote himself to keep you around if he’s already begun investing in you. Allow the man to invest. Not everyone wants to chase tail their whole lives but you still have to sit back and let the man choose you and invest in you, not the other way around. Just how it is

[@eaglespreston8056]

Brother Ken, You are truly a blessing! Shalom! I worked two jobs to save money for a down payment on a house for my husband and me, although he made more money than I. I pursued my second Master Degree, cooked dinner, and stayed loyal to my husband. When he started engaging in multiple affairs outside of our marriage and treated me disrespectfully, I left him although he did not want a divorce. How stupid! He created that mess! Therefore, he should pay for it. Brother Ken, I have nothing but love and respect for you and your wisdom. Your wife is blessed to have you as her husband. Shalom!

[@cytinachavis9157]

Well I can't date more than one person at a time. When I find out that the one I'm with is not the one, then I collect myself and keep living. Another man will approach me.

[@CoachKenCanion]

It makes sense if that works for you

[@KereolaPatunia]

Same here! It's also hard to find someone I'm willing to give a chance to!

[@miracle2038]

Thanks for this… my man was messing with my mind….am grateful for this❤️

[@CoachKenCanion]

You are so welcome

[@miracle2038]

@@CoachKenCanion ❤️

[@belindamorales481]

I did and he gave me less and less... he didn’t like it and well it did show his true heart and that heart was empty as heck

[@NickkiRenee]

Because I am at the point. That's too much work and there is a man that will know my worth the first time.

[@JuiceeFruit]

Mr. Ken I really am happy that I was led to your channel. Your inspiration, encouragement, and advice means everything to me. 😊🙏🏾 Thank you so much you are truly a blessing to all the women. I’m definitely here for it

[@crystalbutler659]

I love everything this man said..💜

[@sherryng458]

This is great content! I’ve recently come across a man who did the sweetest, most attentive gestures in the first month; then showed no value towards the relationship and eventually broke it off after a month. I’ve always been told date to marry. After watching your videos; it’s been an eye opener! Especially the one with common lies men say.. he told me all of that and I naively reassured him that he does deserve love, he does deserve care, he IS worthy. Now I know he was just bluffing the entire time and he just didn’t want to commit to me. Thanks for the content! I’ve been doing this all wrong for 10 years!

[@mylife2022]

So many stupid mind games, I'm going back to being single, less of a mind $%#@.

[@sweeetsherrie88]

Realist advice I’ve ever heard

[@toniaparker3543]

EXCATELY this is some good stuff!!

[@reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100]

This video is on point. Ladies and men let’s get our stuff together and be grown women and me. 🤩💪🏽💯🙏🏽💗. Thank you!

[@MelissaSmith-qk1ip]

Thank u. We gotta get it together

[@empressnaja]

This is very extremely damn good advice , this couldn't be more truer. Yes I'll stand in it on great advice like this.

[@dianaandrew4002]

Thank you so much❤❤, I have learnt a lot from this , all you have spoken was happening in ma life😢 , am so happy now to know the difference .

[@CoachKenCanion]

You are so welcome

[@ItsSoarTime]

THIS WAS EXCELLENT. PURE EXCELLENCE!!!!!! i watched a video before this one by a dude who said he is a psychologist. throughout the entire video i kept saying, he's talking about playing games, not implementing change. my comment said so. watching this video i felt the EXACT OPPOSITE. maybe the other guy intended to talk about change, but his presentation or delivery of information made it seem like he was encouraging women to play games! VERY GRATEFUL FOR COACH KEN!!!!!

[@tyresecarter5539]

Luv it! As always Big Ken! Better than reading boring relationship books!

[@CoachKenCanion]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@Aleesha579]

Absolutely Love his Energy and Advices ❤❤❤

[@theroyalcoach]

I have thoroughly enjoyed this video!!

[@andreaj5067]

This is good advice! I feel so much better.

[@GG-rk1bu]

Best advice Coach! Thank you for talking simple sense 👍🏾☺️

[@CoachKenCanion]

You're so welcome!

[@shannonl9633]

I so appreciate and value this information... it's so simple and true.

[@ChannelMARIA531]

Very well said ❤ Thank you so much 💕

[@sabrinacampbell329]

I like him..he is str8 to the point

[@bonniehill9518]

Thanks for the insight

[@sheilazimmerman3905]

Courting is for marriage. Dating is man made. Period! Blessings 🌸

[@joycenash372]

I was just talking to myself about that very thing: investment. Men and women want the benefits without any investment or work. No ma'am and sir. Nope. I am not giving my all for minimal effort. No.

[@jenmariepete7621]

Explain why does a man think that I should want to sleep with him and we haven't shared a meal or deep conversation.

[@PatriciaPeck-j3u]

God bless you for this message, I appreciate it very much.

[@CoachKenCanion]

You are so welcome

[@betsymendez4939]

Love his word don't ever changed you plans

[@JuiceeFruit]

That’s exactly what I do, and he be in his feelings because I don’t make time for him anymore due to his wishy washy behavior and thinking he can just call me when he feels like it. Nope don’t think so.

[@Melanie-b7d]

Great advice

[@joycemorgan5039]

Thank you Coach K! Very valuable information

[@CoachKenCanion]

My pleasure!

[@annmillingtonhicks921]

I am married to a man who is always looking for ways to pull me down.Is that what you want for yourselves,ladies.

[@continechestnut5845]

Omg you have really taught me some things

[@shantavalentine9537]

This was advice I wish my parents gave. I come from a religious background and I always dated to marry . My whole family married I’m the only single one ☝️ essentially it causes guys to feel I’m needy and run. I am well put together and have a lot going for my self and I tend to start dating one guy and gif everyone off and then I get ghosted. I collected data from several guys who ghosted me and the answer was all similar I was tooo nice. I just been ghosted again and out of all the KZbin videos I came across this one helped

[@travelchannel304]

Wow! Thank you!! This really helps in mental space getting out of emotional space. This also occurs in the work place even on just professional level or at the mechanic. How invested is he in it. Just male behavior.

[@LoneWolfManny187]

Thank you Coach Alex. I WILL contact you as soon as I can

[@ladyjen1980]

God bless you for this great masssage

[@mariacernov9172]

What a great video🤩🙏! A new subscriber here!☺️⭐🙋‍♀️ Have a blessed Easter everyone and be blessed🌸🌺🌷💃🏻🥰

[@CoachKenCanion]

Thanks and welcome

[@debsmith2789]

Traditional women date with the intention of enjoying themselves on a date. Women need to stop immediately having coitus to snag a man. If both communicate with honesty collecting data is good!

[@elizabethomoregie279]

Thanks

[@patricetrotter]

It hurts but I get it

[@viveesha4352]

NUMBER 1 Suggest is completely wrong. When your partner ghosts you, , text short msg letting him know that he initiated the silence, and you accept his decision for whatever reason and don't care. Then say that this will be your last communication, as after this msg, you will delete him from your phone, heart and all memories. THEN BLOCK HIM AND FROM HERE ON, NEVER EVER MAKE ANY CONTACT. This is to bring him down on his knees that instead of you breaking down, crying or begging, you have instead moved on. HIS EGO WILL BE CRUSHED THAT ACTUALLY YOU DUMPED HIM AND ARE HAPPY TO MOVE ON. (And yes, I am a doctor, psychotherapist and a counsellor)

[@madihadouah4691]

Thank you so much 😊

[@sade700]

Oh wow it make sense now

[@soyou3999]

So true 👍

[@chiomachacha7837]

You are correct 💯

[@TheAnuThebest]

Thank you❤

[@CoachKenCanion]

You're welcome 😊

[@RochelleKnight-rz3jc]

great topic

[@houston3rdwrdlouisiana371]

Thank u appreciate you for this

[@CoachKenCanion]

You are so welcome

[@healthysessionz6346]

I pulled back in chose me!😂😂

[@tanyab7069]

That's true chasing I did that too much no good luck from it

[@linatsudy4874]

Thank you

[@PatriciaPeck-j3u]

Over 3 months in and only 1 short call. Contact is only with text message. I’m over it doing the week with no contact.

[@foster8610]

What do you suggest if the couple is living together?

[@enchanted963]

Interesting question. Suppose your partner knows what you value, because you have stated this. for example, during an argument he resorted to name calling and degrading and now doesnt seem to bother, or says its not that big of a deal or doesnt want to talk about it, comes home late from work and your left there wondering whether he registered or not?! I am currently looking for a place to stay, so this is just the current situation. What does one do or not do? I get it people argue with one another when in a relationship, we grow from it, but for me its like there is a certain way to argue and when one partner begins to name call or speak in a certain way then, the respect is not mutual. Thanks anyway

[@sharongordon6148]

New subscriber

[@Z.Theory]

Whereeeeeeeeeee you been alllllll my lifeeeee

[@Chantilly777]

Ok, I tell myself I don't care about him at all🤙and yes, mirroring is the best choice

[@anastasiasharidaali8217]

On point

[@michellerogers5582]

❤❤❤thank u

[@tessyogo6587]

This is such a great lesson... Many thanks Coach 👍

[@JuiceeFruit]

He says I’ve changed because I’ve set strong boundaries oh well if he knew better he would do better

[@yvettebernard4112]

Oh my God my kindness have ruined me.I have used all these tips but nothing happened.

[@starbright2683]

I have been the "I've got her" girl.

[@mamaknow8056]

Avoidants.. whole other topic, but they need the initiation cuz they can’t, won’t n don’t.

[@lolafalana9144]

Very insecure then whatever cobwebs in the way. Very sad all around. And you know it's not always men. There's women also that behave as such❤ and for ever reason these women are acknowledged valued etc. A vicious cycle.

[@Tifinee76]

What happens when you been married for over 6 years, been together for over 12 years and the ignoring and leaving the house when mad just started in the marriage ?!?!

[@charlenecolyn5395]

Wow I wish I had this advice 26 years ago.

[@KereolaPatunia]

I'm cringing at myself rn 😂😂😂 thanks for holding the mirror up to my behavior. I come across like I want to wear his skin, but I'm just awkward and quirky lmaoooooo! Oh well, it can be charming, right? ☠️

[@stephaniecobb1497]

Coach, what if it's your husband ? The same applies

[@betsymendez4939]

Yes..

[@pegs3711]

If you stop initiating things in your marriage will that cause more problems 🤔🤷‍♀️

[@uzuruth5437]

I think he's not addressing marraige

[@indyd9322]

Does the advice still apply if the man is your husband? It seems the harder I try to save the marriage, the less he values it.

[@wordyyou5617]

I so love the laugh at 08:54 😂😂😂

[@angelfire402]

Play stupid games; Win stupid prizes..

[@lolafalana9144]

Well some men whom supposedly read their bibles don't follow that. It's not just about the bible... There are many different beliefs that speak the same language,however it's mankind's ego along with pride that dimishes value of self as well others. It applies to both genders.

[@jamiebrumant8512]

Take this data, ignore those confused low value men as much as possible,If you put money in a bag with holes you end up with nothing, if you build a house with plastic bags it would not even stand a week

[@sharonbartley808]

I can't go on dates with more than one person at a time though. I'll mess up the names. If one don't work out, then I'll move on till.I find the one.

[@ewm4266]

Does this apply to husbands too?, Ie give the same energy he's giving to the relationship

[@1010QUEEN7]

Yes indeed husbands are the worst not all of them but some of them like the one I married smh

[@queenchica6623]

Sadly, yes. This applies to those worthless jokers too

[@margaretahogberg6869]

Thank You for telling me its not about sex, I guess Its what too many guys are looking for

[@lolafalana9144]

Poor things😢

[@joansam2964]

This doesnt help me Im married. Have been for 25 yrs Been neglected for the past 10. Im just ready to give up

[@lacey-annharvey132]

I think u should try it see his reaction

[@feliciaallen6228]

10 years is too long. Talk to him about it and then leave. You deserve better.

[@cynthiapeterson8817]

Can u do a video on Narcissists. They are a different animal.

[@zannaadedigba3936]

Coach I need help… my husband … as my sister was dying from choking in my home, told me that he is not married to me anymore and Dosent want to be with me, after some time, I said , if your serious, then plz move out so I can heal and grieve … he so t move out and still has his wedding ring on I’m so sad

[@nicoledunbar-williams8740]

He wants me to pursue him and I'm not use to that

[@nkosikhonaemmanuel7592]

Hi I'm a female from south africa, been lessoning to utube videos, my question is what do you do if u have kids, I hear don't call, don't text or create any form of communication, with him, so that learns to value u,. In my case how do I deal with relationship problems

[@feliciaallen6228]

All this is a bit much. If he is not invested, just leave the guy alone and find another person who values and knows how to treat women. No one has time for all the game playing and rules.