When ADHD Triggers Emotional Outbursts: Scripts for Your Flashpoints (with Sharon Saline, Psy.D.)

In this hour-long ADDitude webinar from 10/19/22, Dr. Sharon Saline provides strategies to manage intense emotions with ADHD. She discusses how to improve responsiveness over reactivity using key language tools, body-based awareness, and radical self-acceptance.
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5:53 We Are All Perfectly, Imperfect Humans
8:47 ADHD and Emotional Outbursts
12:15 POLL #1: When do you notice that you are on the verge of or in the midst of an emotional outburst?
13:43 The ADHD-Anger Connection
18:05 ADHD, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and Emotional Reactivity
19:49 The ADHD Brain Under Stress
22:11 Improve Self-Regulation with Metacognition
24:47 Thoughtful Preparation Leads to Positive Outcomes
29:22 Interventions for Regulating the Stages of Emotional Intensity
33:44 Replace Old Habits with Effective Routines
35:42 Change Your Relationship to Intense Feelings
36:37 Techniques for Managing Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
38:55 Tools for Reflective Listening
41:45 Use My 5C’s Approach: The STAR Method
45:19 POLL #2: Potential obstacles for using STAR method or reflective listening
47:00 Conversation Tools That Foster Connection and Accountability
48:59 Strategies for Dealing with High Conflict Situations
49:48 Tips for Scripts
50:59 More Than Saying ‘I’m Sorry’: Making Meaningful Amends
52:03 Build Confidence to Change Habits by Nurturing Resilience
54:02 Q&A
Related Resources
1. Download: Get a Grip on Tough Emotions
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2. Read: How ADHD Amplifies Emotions
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3. Read: The ADHD-Anger Connection
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4. eBook: How the ADHD Brain Works
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[@love4eva683]

This video in itself ended up triggering me 😭 I never learned strategies for conflict resolution growing up. My parents never helped me with it either they always fed into my fears and taught me to never bring up an issue until it blows up in my face and to cut people off because only they knew what was truly best for me. So my only resolution when theres emotional outbursts has been to just end the relationship(platonic or romantic) and move on until the cycle repeats itself with the next person. I dont have any positive experiences to try and recall in moments of conflict so when I try to slow down i just end up confirming all my fears by remembering every fight ive ever had with anyone.

[@theabristlebroom4378]

Damn. I could have written this post. Hugs, friend, you are not alone.

[@ModMINI]

At like age 50 something, this male finally got help for my emotional disregulation, overwhelm and more. I have benefited from a lot of interventions and would highlight an SSRI prescription (Zoloft) and cognitive therapy as being most impactful. Although "high functioning", ability to cope has gradually declined to the point of greater disfunction. I have received a multiple diagnosis of ADHD, autism and anxiety/depression, all of which are mild but in combination has resulted in many, many emotional outbursts, and self-induced trauma to avoid situations where I have had trouble in the past. So even if you have ADHD and you don't think you have anxiety or depression, you just might, and you might find CBT or an SSRI to be amazingly helpful with the appropriate diagnosis/guidance from your mental health team. Remember, the stimulant medications help primarily with focus and attention - not so much with anxiety and emotional disregulation.

[@NoxCattus]

I so needed this! I work in retail and the environment can be so hectic and overstimulating (non stop line for over 3 hours and multiple conversations going on right next to me) it's incredibly difficult to stay calm

[@lisamercier391]

I hate the way my brain works, I just want to like myself, I know Iam not a bad person. Menopause has definitely made this feeling 10x worse

[@sherrigarrett3649]

I hear you and experienced the same thing. You are a good person because you are aware and striving for better. Cheering you on!

[@emma8634]

Argh! I know this feeling so well. I'm 39 and it's so difficult (understatement) to constantly be aware of how I'm acting and if it's 'acceptable'.

[@hannahriss1349]

I was reading this and it felt like I wrote it, and then I continued and saw menopause and saw 10x worse😮 OH NO it gets worse!?!?! 😢

[@tb8827]

Thank you.

[@hannahriss1349]

Thank you!🎉

[@tearthangel373]

Does the Diagnosis of ADHD resemble NPD traits?

[@tearthangel373]

When being blamed unfairly

[@simonkay6533]

Yes Yes, unfortunately i don t have 20 minutes zu calm down when I am constantly annoyed by the behaviour of my work colleagues.😏

[@ModMINI]

Find little spots throughout the day to calm your physiological self. Walking to the restroom, washing your hands, etc. When the body is calmer, the mind is calmer.

[@simonkay6533]

@@ModMINI Unfortunately I live in a country where we only have toilets and not restrooms🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tinatina5511]

​​@@simonkay6533in the US a "restroom" is what people from other countries call a "toilet"

[@standuser9696]

I know right 😂 if everyone would just stop pissing me off I wouldn't have any problems

[@robertbaker4917]

None of this is strange. None of this is new. This all just sounds like the same advice given to neurotypical brains repackaged with different vocabulary for those of with ADHD. …As if an ADHD brain can’t see through the BS. So. Will these things work? Sure! If you’re properly medicated and no longer experiencing the worsts symptoms of ADHD, yes. It all works. Not medicated? Good luck!

[@jsavannah]

Lost me at all the yoga new age stuff.