Perfectionism and ADHD: Making ‘Good Enough’ Work for You (with Sharon Saline, Psy.D.)

In this webinar from 1/19/22, Dr. Sharon Saline explains how to stop setting unreasonable standards, engaging in negative comparisons to others, and criticizing yourself for living with ADHD.
Download the slides associated with this webinar here:
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0:00 Intro
5:53 INSIDE THE MIND OF A RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST
6:27 What is Perfectionism?
9:16 Types of perfectionism
12:03 What is Your Prominent Trait of Perfectionism?
14:20 Adult ADHD and Anxiety
16:48 Perfectionism and Anxiety
19:18 ADHD and Perfectionism
22:12 Perfectionism and Procrastination
26:25 Tools for Decreasing Procrastination
27:59 General Tools for Reducing Perfectionism
36:05 Overcoming Perfectionism: Build Awareness
38:30 Overcoming Perfectionism: Shift Focus
40:13 Overcoming Perfectionism: Accept Mistakes
42:05 Overcoming Perfectionism: Receive Feedback with Grace
44:04 Set Realistic Goals
45:45 Improve Key Executive Functioning Skills Related to Perfectionism
48:25 Resilience through Radical SelfAcceptance
50:53 Q&A
Related Resources:
1. Read: When Perfectionism Stems from ADHD: Challenging the Fallacy of “Not Good Enough”
www.additudemag.com/perfectio...
2. Read: Q: “Fear of Failure Holds Me Back. How Do I Let Go of Past Mistakes?”
www.additudemag.com/fear-of-f...
3. Free Download: 9 Truths About ADHD and Intense Emotions
www.additudemag.com/download/...
4. Self-Test: Generalized Anxiety Disorder in Adults
www.additudemag.com/screener-...
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[@retrosimmery]

0:00 Intro 5:40 Inside the mind of a recovering perfectionist 6:36 What is perfectionism? 9:17 Types of perfectionism 12:05 What is your prominent trait of perfectionism? 14:21 Adult ADHD and anxiety 16:54 Perfectionism and anxiety 19:19 ADHD and perfectionism 22:06 Perfectionism and procrastination 26:25 Tools for decreasing procrastination 28:00 General tools for reducing procrastination 36:07 Overcoming perfectionism: build awareness 38:32 Overcoming perfectionism: shift focus 40:15 Overcoming perfectionism: accept mistakes 42:05 Overcoming perfectionism: receive feedback with grace 44:05 Overcoming perfectionism: set realistic goals 45:47 Improve key executive functioning skills related to perfectionism 48:28 Resilience through radical self-acceptance 51:54 Q&A

[@mike-williams]

Opened me up and read me like a book.

[@Panthurdreams]

Mahalo Dr. Saline!!!! Super appreciate the information and connections. I'm learning so much more about myself and how I work! At midlife, I'm still learning and growing.

[@staciamj1]

Me too!

[@chrisgarrett8275]

❤ Packed with so much amazing information! This is me and my daughter combined. We are both perfectionist. At the moment it’s the blind leading the blind. I am currently seeking my adhd diagnosis and treatment at age 52 so that I can help my 15 yr old daughter to understand she also has ADHD. Thank you so much!

[@deawallace3584]

If you cannot listen, just turn off the sound and manually forward through the slides presented to get the high points.

[@Ikr2025]

I often think there is so much overlap between the traits of adhd & cptsd. I think my perfectionism stems from constant criticism I got as a child from all angles. My father was a minister and highly narcissistic & judgmental and constant gave out pretty much purely negative feedback. My one sibling, older brother picked up on that trait and did the same to me. Then at school - because we didn’t really fit into the area we lived in socially & culturally I’d also get negative feedback for being different. And my father would attract quite a lot of negative feedback that the teachers would then attribute to me. I was highly stressed by the time I left school but really didn’t understand why and didn’t get the needed perspective on my situation to see it for what it was until I was a lot older. The habits of feeling the need to be perfect to be accepted and all the accompanying impacts of procrastination etc were well programmed in, and even though I have self awareness now it still mostly feels next to impossible to overcome whenever I am under any form of stress or pressure.

[@cosmosprincess20]

Wow I could cry 😢

[@ruaoneill9050]

Great resource!

[@tilldeathdouspartharmonytr9829]

The perfectionism part of adhd is my one worst enemies. That always leads up to imposter syndrome. Self based negatives. "I'll cut off my own nose before anyone else can " I think perfection or the self awareness of this is due to knowing what you are capable of.💯 but procrastination shows up, imposter syndrome.. Or as I put it the other two of you. Critical arguments with yourselves or your thoughts however you'd care to explain it. Adhd is a blessing and a curse. The self help positive strategies help 5% of the time. However... when all of the above is activity convincing you otherwise is a battle of that 95% and it's not always as easy as it's explained. I think accepting we WILL almost certainly have these days no matter what and the fighting it makes it almost impossible to waver. Self acceptance is the most important part. Rome wasn't built in a day.

[@Prince_Yonte]

13:23 “Here we goo. Its up to mee.” Lol

[@JS-mq6ve]

Can someone give me the coles notes? Not able to pay attention to listen to this whole thing. Mostly interested if there is a section that discusses the interplay of the two challenges - ADHD and perfectionism. There is lots of advice on how to treat one or the other, but curious if this webinar deals with what makes it different when it is a combined issue?

[@debbiedebbie9473]

Look underneath the video, maybe listen to only 10 minutes of it at a time and come back to it later.

[@waeda01]

Can I earn LPN CEUs on this platform? I'm really reliant on these videos. Only help I get. Thank you so much..