When God Chooses a Woman for You, You Will See . . .

[@agwformen]

Learn more about my relationship training courses at AGW University by clicking here: agwuniversity.teachable.com/p/total-access?coupon_code=60SCHOLARSHIPAGW God bless! -Mark

[@Ezekiel336-16]

The best (short) advice I can give as a 50 year old man with the Lord is to be faithful to Jesus and trust in Him for the outcome (with a woman who does the same). We should allow our happiness to come from being holy (faithful) and pursue that with someone with the same goal and desire with Christ.

[@ana-maria448]

What a beautiful advice even for a wompan here. God bless you and your family!🙏

[@Ezekiel336-16]

@@ana-maria448 Thanks Ana, but there's no family for me yet through marriage; except of course my family through Christ Jesus and His wedding supper (of the lamb) that's yet to fully come.

[@Shaolin91z]

Not to worry. Gave up in this a few years ago. Just not even receptive to the idea anymore. Thanks Lord for your peace

[@cariocajin]

Marriage is so complicated. It gives you a certificate of marriage without graduating.... I'm glad you offer courses.

[@agwformen]

lol! I like that phrase, "It gives you a certificate of marriage without graduating..."well said

[@cariocajin]

@@agwformen Thank you ! My certificate has expired. I guess I can always try to graduate with honors next time.

[@smathet7766]

Family that prays together, stays together!!!

[@cariocajin]

@@smathet7766 There are many gods to which one can pray. Which one are you referring to ? The god of money will keep your family together.

[@Godslonelyman7]

Pray for me! I thought I was progressing in my walk with Christ but lately I’ve had these frustrated, angry moments with my singleness. Envious of my peers who’ve found love. Help

[@joshthesmith77]

I’m in the same boat. I’ve never even dated for lack of godly prospects but I’m tired of being alone and I don’t want to settle out of desperation. I just want to know what it’s like to be married before the Lord returns. I’ll be praying for you and I’d ask you to pray for me too. God bless!

[@RetroCaptain]

What the husband won't tell you.. She probably runs the show behind the scenes. This from what I thought was blissful married brothers. They realized after that they have to be always "picking their battles" or "which hill to die on". I only met 2 brothers who found earth angels and no argument always Sunny days. Only 2 and they married years ago not recently and both have huge families not "2 to 4 kids"

[@dinomra7771]

I noticed that the more I focused on improving myself the less I thought of other people's relationships.

[@ceesevenhundred]

Thx for this particular video, Brother. This video gave me a boost of hope. (Proverbs 13:12 KJVAAE)

[@agwformen]

My pleasure!

[@johniejoyce8876]

This is the best four minutes on dating for Christian men. In a world where advice videos/social media pages on Christian dating have become polarizing, this channel always leaves me ready to respect ladies, grow closer to God, grow as a person, and look forward to being in a Biblical marriage. 🙏🏻

[@RFCM24]

That last point is comforting!

[@rruuiiiii]

When God chooses a woman, she still has the right to say Here I am. Most of the times she is scared about it.

[@Shaolin91z]

As she should be 😂

[@ChrisPC11]

Hi. The woman I'm truly in LOVE with, is a woman I'm dead set on. Can't change my mind. She's my lovely, my dearest. My divine beauty. Nothing but pure, true love for her.

[@stargazingcatgirl3233]

This site is a refreshing godsend. It's so disheartening that I've been called a bad Christian just because I want to share my life in marriage so much. I am very grateful to have Jesus as my Lord and Savior, but I do not feel guilty for my desire to marry a kind, beautiful, unique, and special man- it's a Godly, normal, and natural desire. A lot of people, even in the Christian world, don't have the courage to be honest about how they feel about marriage. We need to normalize this. Thank you for validating these desires and addressing these needs.

[@Ezekiel336-16]

So, there are other "Christians" in your life who think you're not a good one because you want to get married to a man after the Lord's own heart?!? Huh?

[@stargazingcatgirl3233]

I sense a tad of skepticism in your reply, but if you could just walk in our shoes, you'd understand. I've met a series of people who have said judgmental things to me just for expressing a desire to be married, and I don't know what's going on with them, but they clearly have issues... some of which may not be their fault, but their behavior is still toxic. Church was supposed to be a place of spiritual support, edification, and healing. It's really sad... all that sacrifice on the cross, and still some churches have become a cesspool of toxic behaviors. Inserting distorted narratives: "You must be coveting married men, and you need to repent." Repent of something I've been falsely accused of? How is my desire to share my life with a kind, beautiful, special, and godly man an indication that I would commit adultery? Where did they GET that NUTTY narrative? Are they virtue signalers who are SO desperate to exalt themselves that they need to throw a random woman under the bus to do it? It's one thing to rebuke someone's legitimately sinful behavior. NO ONE is even CONSIDERING an affair. **** NO!! Where do they get that?! Or maybe they're just insecure and projecting their insecurities onto me? I don't want their gross, boring husbands... even if I did, I sure wouldn't act on it. Judgy comments: "Making an idol out of marriage." If having a godly desire to share your life in marriage is so wrong, then why did God put it in my heart? Dismissiveness: "You don't need a husband; you just need God." I'm so grateful for Jesus and His sacrifice on the cross. He's my Lord and Savior. I need Him more than anything. However, I am a flesh and blood woman. We are designed with certain physical and emotional needs. Physical intimacy, to share this physical life, to grow, to share experiences... I'd love to dance with my husband in Andalucia, to walk barefoot along the Mediterranean shore, to ride our horses in Texas, to travel to England, Spain, Italy, Ireland with him and see the wonders that our ancestors made together, the very people who physically "made" us... to camp in the Forest of Dean and connect with God in a way that you can only do in nature... to experience of course physical intimacy, to cook his favorite meal and watch it warm his heart, to watch his eyes light up when I play him the song I wrote, or when he unwraps the piece of jewelry or the scarf I made JUST for him. Those are all normal things to want, and they should be normalized by default. As a highly sensitive introvert, I do relish my alone time, but as a passionate, deep feeler, I can't stand to be lonely. And it gets lonely! I LOVE Jesus with all my might, He can't be physically here; He can't even physically hug me! I have decided to seek out church communities that align with my convictions, and I do have very dear Christian friends who are AWESOME!!!!! Who have prayed over my heart's desires with me, and who validate my feelings. They've rebuked me when I do fall short, but they validate these good, godly desires. Conversely, many churches have become echo chambers for the comments I've described above, and that's sad. It's sad when no one has the courage to express what they truly feel anymore. Also, public, secular universities are worse. I studied at a public university here in the USA and I studied abroad in Mexico and Spain. There are things I do love about USA, but our universities here are indoctrination camps. I respect the beliefs of others. I'm compassionate, and I have loads of gay friends. I would never condemn someone for being gay, just for the record. However, in the public USA university, they inculcate this radical feminist culture... this "I don't need a man, I just need a career" mentality. They encourage you to reject marriage, by instilling these ideas that if you are a woman who wants to marry, then you are weak, lack ambition, you're unenlightened, etc. Classrooms are echo chambers of this! If you express a desire to be married, they go for the throat. In SOME (NOT all, but some) churches, it's a peeing contest to see who's the most pious. In a lot of public college classrooms, it's a peeing contest to see who is the most intellectual and enlightened. College is supposed to be about thinking for yourself, not just parroting what they spoon fed you by rote! I studied abroad in Mexico, and Spain. In other countries, you learn how to think, and you learn practical things, like how to be an engineer, or how to be a businessman/woman, or if you study music, you learn theory and ear training (I studied music). In Spain, I went to professional school, and they taught me how to do my profession. There are some good hearted American people, and there are some things about America that I love (especially Texas... pray that God will allow me to be a Texan someday soon). In my heart, I will always be a proud Texan.. but our university system is horribly broken. I thank Jesus every day for dying on a cross for me. My relationship with Him is personal, and I'm a private person, but I have no discomfort or shame in expressing my love to others. I am a sinner... I do have a temper... I swear more than I'd like to admit... I can be a bit of a drama queen too. However, the convictions in my heart keep me from crossing the line. I would NEVER EVER consider committing adultery or interfering in the relationship of another. That's just crossing the moral event horizon. I have prayed to God for my soulmate. I've prayed for his peace, for his joy, for his physical safety, for his health. I've prayed that he will be saved. I've prayed that God will bring us together if that's what God wants, and if it's the BEST thing for my soulmate. I REFUSE to settle. If God doesn't have plans for me to marry, I will be heartbroken but continue to use the gifts I do have to make Jesus happy the rest of my days on Earth. I'd be lying if I said that I'd never shed tears over the very real possibility that there is not that husband in my future. Every day, I get up and fight through that pain, when I have days when I just want to lie face down on the couch and cry. I'm a light to strangers and to my students. I practice my guitar, my violin, my art, and my acting, in the hopes that one day I can do something special with those gifts. I do it scared, I do it sad, I do it with doubt in my heart, and I have learned that to do the RIGHT thing with doubt IS the definition of stepping out in faith. To Mark- my apologies, because I didn't mean to "hijack" this wonderful video. I'm extremely grateful for this series. I hope this isn't an inappropriate thing to write. This series fills a very serious void, the need to normalize the godly desire for a godly spouse.

[@Ezekiel336-16]

@@stargazingcatgirl3233 Sister, thank you for everything you said and shared. I'm going to do my best to respond to most of it, but without too much explanation so this isn't terribly long. And, yes, my skepticism was there (and was supposed to be obvious) because I've never heard of such a thing at church. But I'm Catholic and we're taught to value the sacrament and sanctity of marriage greatly. Can't imagine anyone giving someone a hard time for wanting to be married unless that person had been before (i.e. divorced) and/or is not properly disposed to do so (i.e. not wanting to do so for the right reasons), but that doesn't seem to be you. The first maybe, I don't know, but not the second as far as I can tell. I'm 50y/o and have never been married myself, and am happy for you with many of the things you've said because it means you're on your way with the Lord and that's great! I've been where you're at for a while, and the clock is ticking ever more for me since I want to have children, but it's better to be alone with Jesus than with someone or others (at church) for the wrong ones. Like you said, it's tough and there are a lot of misguided people within the church, and even wolves in sheep's clothing (my words) too. Don't listen to them or let them negatively impact your walk with the Lord (which includes your desire for marriage) if they're not passing on things that are obviously from Him (Scripture). Many people are great at making things sound holy and true ('christianese') but are so double-minded and divided of heart that they don't have any real wisdom with the Lord to be faithful to Him and/or discerning with Him and others through Scripture. I'm Catholic, so I know that all too well. Anyone who gives you a hard time for wanting to be married is a fool and not worth listening too, especially if they are one of the feminists that you mentioned. I read three books about feminism this year and learned that it's origin is in the occult (demonic) and it was started by a man. It's VERY anti-biblical and against Jesus as He truly is, the One who designed the patriarchy for us all to live and thrive in. - - - quick advice/comments on the rest - - - - Seek church communities that strive to align with the Lord through Scripture, not just ones that align with your convictions about marriage or anything else - Agree with what you said about America and our Universities, cause I went back 17 years ago after Jesus brought me to new life with Him and it was horrible. They don't want free thinkers, just lemmings who drink the kool-aid they offer. I was 33, had been a working professional for a long time, and had no problem speaking up and asking questions when things didn't make sense or seemed to be contradictory. It was a slog! - Your guesses about the reasons why some people at church are giving you a hard time about wanting to be married are well thought out and more than reasonable. But, if you really want to know then just ask them. Otherwise stay away from them, and if they confront you about that after you do then tell them why. We have to get better at having and initiating the uncomfortable conversations in the church because we stink at it almost everywhere. The 'church of nice' is a terrible temptation against growing in holiness. The Lord's (sword of) truth has the power to hurt and heal at the same time. - With regards to your temper and the swearing, pray to the Lord (as long as it takes) for Him to deliver you from them both and to make them holy. For example, anger is not sinful (since Jesus got angry and we are told to get angry but not sin) but the way we use or apply it can be - outbursts of fury (which will keep us out of heaven) and upbraiding an older person, for example. Use the sword of truth (Scripture), keep your head, and walk away (and pray for them and yourself) as needed. I still haven't mastered this with the Lord yet, but I'm MUCH better than I used to be. - Getting rid of the swearing will help with the temper, because the mouth speaks what the heart believes. That one took me about 2-3 years with the Lord to really scrub out, and it helped a lot once I became a teacher for little kids and couldn't have all that bubbling below my tongue at just any time. The Lord helped me to have some fun with it too, things like saying 'fruit loops' instead of the f-word. Even abbreviations like a-hole are improvements, and such progress will help the Lord to rid you of it if you stick with it. Like I said, it took me years with Him but He got me there. Jesus will do the same for you if you let Him. - Lastly, even though it may be redundant, please check out the 'Be Satisfied with Me' prayer by Saint Anthony of Padua. I came across it in my early 40s and it was a godsend in many ways. I still have a shorter version of it in my house to remind me to keep working on my faithfulness to and holiness with the Lord (i.e. prepare myself), so when the right woman comes at the right time like He plans then I'll be ready like I'm supposed to be. In Christ, Andrew

[@stargazingcatgirl3233]

You're so welcome, my brother in Christ. I'll look for that prayer. I have read your reply, and I appreciate your insights a lot. I'll reflect on what you wrote so that I can give a thoughtful reply. I prayed for you to find your soulmate and happiness just now.

[@KevvoLightswift]

I'm glad you made this video, Mark. I needed to hear this. As someone who has been following you for many years, this resonates with the lessons I've learned over the past 6 years.

[@agwformen]

So glad this was useful! All glory to God!

[@danjsilve]

I like that. “You won’t blow it”

[@dinomra7771]

lol right?

[@A_Wzone]

For me im gonna press X to doubt on myself for that one

[@ShaneEubanks-v6r]

God has really blessed you with the understand of relationships...you help a lot of people even when its what they dont want to hear ... you grll ehat needs told..truth and facts

[@Ptero4]

The one thing to know is that God WILL NEVER issue you the woman THAT HAVE THE PHYSICAL APPEARANCE YOU WANT but the one with the physical appearance that YOU CAN TOLERATE. This is to prevent you from deifying or idolizing the woman.

Glad to finally see someone else Say this, I’ve been saying this for years, most guys will take what you wrote as you telling them to be with the woman they don’t like, when in reality it’s better to be with a woman that is decent enough looking to you physically rather than the woman who is your exact physical type, because no matter how Tough a man is, if she’s exactly his physical type, it’s dang near impossible to not deify her or idolize her and put her above God, which is exactly what Adam did in the garden. So many men destroy themselves because they can’t help themselves, but to be weak around a woman who is their exact physical type, and the woman will resent that as well in the end.

[@MojoMedicineMan]

I felt the same way when I purchased my first Buick La Sabre! 🎉

[@Ezekiel336-16]

As long as those standards align with the Lord's then it's all well and good, but just make sure you remember that those book characters are not people in your life and may not even be real to pursue. If they hold holy characteristics that the Lord wants you to have in your life and embrace with another, then realize you are attracted to that spirit of holiness that will hopefully be found in a real person in your life someday. Hope that helps

[@stargazingcatgirl3233]

I am just curious... if you're a woman reading this, I'd like to pick your brain. Have you ever experienced deep feelings for a book character? Have you ever had a crush on a book character, or even fallen in love with one? How did you handle those feelings? It's not inherently wrong or unhealthy, but it can cause pain and anguish, and while you have to accept your feelings, it gets to be a problem when you mishandle them. So, how did you handle them? If you're a woman who reads, then rest assured, it's not only normal, but it's also inevitable. I used to worry that it meant that something was "wrong" with me, and it was a source of anguish. A lot of men complain about how women have high standards... I've also been called a "bad" Christian because I read a certain series of books. I realize that reading is the reason I have high standards, and it makes me wonder...

[@ninjakungfucat8617]

i plan on staying single either way

[@Servant_of_Christ]

Aaaaah....😮 I thought my sins where forgiven? I'm I to be punished more! 😳 I don't want a wife, I wanna live a monk life! 😭

[@smathet7766]

Remember Jesus is the prize at the end of the day. Leave everything in GOD’s hands. 99.9% of the time if you ask him, he gives it!!

[@becausestuffbreaks]

Not sure where this can be backed up through the Bible. God brings people together through all kinds of means. It's a mess out there. It is true that if God has someone for you, you're going to end up with that person, through whatever means God has decided to do it.

[@siulong1394]

What and the case of prophet Hosea? 🤔

[@okayyes2429]

Been waiting for 11 years, any day now, right? God? Haha... Seriously God, soon?

[@JosephMayowa-i9c]

God doesn't chose a woman for a man and vice versa - God has created m a n as a unity of woman and man - God created "pair - souls" (Genesis 1,27). So there is no chosing a partner by God. Mankind turned away from God and therefore the Divine-Order of things (cosmos = order) fell into chaos (= disorder). That is why it takes for religion (re-turning to God), in order to re-capture the Divine-Order and within it the "pair-soul-context", which reunites those souls, that are already created by God for one another. The easiest way of recapturing this, is p r a y e r combined with doubtless faith (Mathew 21, 22).

[@christydanny8707]

What about marrying a Muslim women? Country like india is diverse in culture and lot of religions, very hard to find a faithful christian women. Any idea brother?

[@EBA-dl4or]

Don't do that

[@FelicityFreelancing]

Ask yourself, what does God and His Word have to say about that? I encoueage you to search that thought out thouroughly. Selah.

[@Geforcepat]

I'm pretty sure I've blown it a time or two lol

[@joygamit2242]

Is it ok to marry a non believer?

[@violinbite]

You don't ask if you think the Lord make exception for you.

[@FelicityFreelancing]

IF u are a true follower of Jesus it is a resounding ...NO WAY!

[@ronaldhelman3783]

I disagree with #2... GOD made Eve and said He brought her to Adam after the dude woke up from that sleep, also there are other examples of GOD bringing a wife to the man, I'm not "chasing" anyone except Jesus.

[@A_Wzone]

Amen to that at this point in my journey i dont have the ability or energy to go chasing after anyone else

Fax, bro, I imagine never chased a woman under any circumstances, because if he is chasing her, then she does not like him by definition of that. Only person we should chase as a man is Jesus.

[@gdj777]

Unless one allows the world to twist the idea of attrctiveness with fake and photshopped everything. God wont send you someoneu wont like because it wont be right for that other person as well

There’s a difference between not liking someone versus liking someone to an extent, that is what he is saying, he’s not saying for you to get with someone you are not attracted to to at all, but it’s not good for the guy to be with a woman who is his exact physical type because often times he will end up, deifying her and idolizing her instead of God

[@sagesse743]

Hallo pastor mark, thank you so much for these videos, they have played a important role in my spiritual walk. Does Facebook group still also available for your students? I don't hear you mentioning it this time

[@user-tb7ml8kz7h]

God choses a woman for you?! Really?! Clearly, you have no clue as to the purpose of this God-made-world, and no idea as to the purpose of having a family in general... But do you even want to know? Or are you completely satisfied with your marching to hell, since "you know what you are doing"? Because only doubts can be dispelled, but misconceptions can turn into doubts ONLY via much suffering. So while mortals like me suffer from witnessing your suffering due to empathy, and due to compassion, want to help people like you to suffer less (up to eliminating your suffering completely), it is a very painful lesson mortals like me must learn: "You can ONLY help those who want it, and only up to as much as you are asked for. Not more."

[@wallywest001]

"God's Sovereign Will never Negates our 'Free Will'." God's Will always negates our "Free Will" because we don't have Free Will. We are all born dead guilty sinners before God who is Holy, Righteous, and Just and He has chosen before the foundation of the world was laid who will be saved and he did so because he first Loved us when he doesn't have to love us. Yes we are still responsible for our Sin Nature and our Sin and our choices but God's Will always comes to pass, and as King Nebechudnezzar says, " No one can stay his hand, and we account as NOTHING in the Eyes of God."

[@agwformen]

Sin is a choice. To say otherwise blame’s God for your sin which is unbiblical. We freely sin. God is responsible for salvation and man is responsible for sin.

[@DZeroXMax]

​@@agwformen Amen

[@cascadianapplications7124]

What if the reason you do not want to marry a woman or date her is because of her race? Is that wrong?

[@Keralachosen]

Those are material things. God looks at the heart, so yes you are wrong!

[@cascadianapplications7124]

@@Keralachosen That is not a material thing. A book is a material thing. When Christ marries us as believers He does so despite our hearts. He wanted to marry us, so therefore if I dont want to marry for that reason being compelled to is contrary to the biblical type that it represents. I dont see how that works.

[@austinescamilla2037]

Honestly, that’s just a preference issue. If you’re not pulled to her then she isn’t for you. But if race is the only thing that you can’t get past, maybe it’s something in you that you should work on. It’s not a bad thing to have certain preferences, but ultimately it’s her purity of heart and good character that matter the most

[@Keralachosen]

@@cascadianapplications7124 what I mean by material things; are age, height, complexion…etc, those things are carnal, he looks at the heart…

[@cascadianapplications7124]

@@austinescamilla2037 To be fair, its not a matter of aesthetics, although I genuinely dont like the way dark african skin looks. Dont get me wrong, I dont hate them. Just a thing I have. Its the genetics, and by extension, the implications of a husband and wife of different gene pools having children and the _possible_ effects it may have on the offspring. I do know that the heart matters, though. Thanks for your reply. I am eager to continue our conversation, if you want.

[@MrMercy1966]

God does not choose a woman for you. He gave you his word how to choose a woman or a woman a husband.

[@FredrickWonnie]

The guide is in His book (the Bible) to get a good woman, that's true👍 and no matter what, a bad woman can't go along with this. U will recognize her quickly, God already shows the signs of a good and bad woman in His word(the Bible). Thanks a lot for sharing this 👍 I appreciate u. Some signs of a good woman : *she is a help mate *she fears God *she dresses modestly *she is respectful (especially to her partner *she is not involved in worldly talks or things *she takes good care of home and children in the way of God e. t. c

[@MrChachiyo]

What if you messed something up with your will, can He fix it with his sovereign will?

[@agwformen]

His grace is sufficient. I'm not saying he will always do what we want or restore what we want. But he can and often does

[@Keralachosen]

Yes, God’s will, will come to pass in our lives

[@HansKillius]

Are you in charge of God's brain? What is this non-sense, and even sacrilege, of knowing what, in a specific instance, God thinks, plans, and does? Have you ever heard of that his thoughts are higher than our thoughts? Besides, for a non-believer this is incomprehensible gibberish . . . and for believers the daily drug.

[@matthewstewart5008]

She has to choose you 🤦‍♂️

[@skippy675]

God has continously urged me to seek another man, not a woman. I know this is God because he continously says "do this in Jesus's name, the son of which I am proud. The way the truth and the life".

[@eternaladventure-wm5fn]

If I am interpreting you correctly, you are a man and you think God wants you to be with another man? I can assure you with 100% certainty, God does not want you being a homosexual.

[@slick_Ric]

if this is referring to same sex attraction, as in a voice is telling you that your SSA is blessed, that's a demon. if you read the Bible you'll see that demons acknowledge and believe, in fact they know that Jesus is the Son of God. but they're condemned and they are still demons. Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. be very careful and listen more to God's word than to voices inside you. God bless

[@rosemitham3z499]

If you are a man then it’s not God, God will not want a man to be with another man.

[@henryjohnson9298]

Homosexuality ain't godly

[@skippy675]

@henryjohnson9298 pineapple on pizza ain't godly. Riding a jetski ain't godly. These activities aren't sinful either. Same with love of any human regardless of gender. Try again you foxtrot-alpha-golf-golf-oscar-tango