When The Narcissist Knows You Know

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@sandrathomas2893 3 жыл бұрын

Once they know you know...you see the evil, the smirks, the blank eyes 😶 They will say things that cut you at your knees!! No mask needed once you're gone. They're very dangerous at this point.

@carolcastellaw6633 3 жыл бұрын

That's how I got thrown out in my PJs on new yrs eve this year..I had ask too many questions..he couldn't be honest..about anythg!!..I'm in healing right now..but I had to accept..I was abused..it was fight or flight in my head th whole time..I had a nervous breakdown..and I'm one tough woman..but his Con job was cleverly excuted...I thought I was Smart...thank you for telling people this exists

@sweetrose813 3 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me! He was always sending out the message I wasn't good enough. And if I tried to improve myself he would destroy it! They need someone to suck the life out of in their pyramid to go to the Top! If You expose them they can't admit to wrong they are taking your virtue for themselves and putting their ugliness on you it's a demon

@mariajosepangrazio4057 3 жыл бұрын

My God !! Something very specific comes to light for me right now.!. Starting the 7:40 min you mention that a typical behavior of a cover narcissist is to say “I cannot live with you like this, making you unhappy, I am not capable of keeping this kind of life”, and other similar comments . Back to the beginning, I always use to think that he was so empathetic, that he really cared about me or the children. But actually I see everything much more clearly. I can measure part of the huge dimension that involves a narcissistic personality disorder.

@kwalla2429 3 жыл бұрын

We remained "still friends" and he would say "I'll always be there for you." I kept him thinking that so he would cooperate in the divorce. Then I took half of his money from his work addiction and then I left for good (out of state), but not until wrenching an apology from him. "I'm sorry for unintentionally abusing you." That was good enough because I said, "That means you're an abuser!" Gotcha!

@mariajosepangrazio4057 3 жыл бұрын

From min 15, when you describe the narc saying: “your behavior made me do all of these things”. This is typicall too !

@frankisebree8638 2 жыл бұрын

Very accurate!!! So glad I found this explanation!! Rather than admit to still cheating when caught again. I was blamed when I was just trying to cope.

@Gina-777 3 жыл бұрын

Caroline, you are such a beautiful person, inside and out. Truly a breath of fresh air.

@xforeverbubbly 3 жыл бұрын

I feel like every time he sensed that I was detaching and not caring about us anymore, he started being extra loving and brought me up, only to be an asshole snd bring me down 30 minutes after. I would be getting ready for bed changing, he’d call me sexy and lead me on and pursued me sexually, it would make me feel amazing and I would forget everything in that moment.. then 30 minutes later, he’d act off again. But it was too late, I was already hooked. I wasn’t even thinking about what I was originally doing. I thought to myself.. omg why doesn’t he do this more. Maybe he really does love me/want me. It was so painful and confusing. I felt so unstable and I wanted everything he ever did, to stay but it never would. I feel like it was as if he teased me and showed me what “I could have from him”, if I gave him everything he wanted and didn’t speak up.

@stephaniesaunders4591 3 жыл бұрын

there are no words, thank you for your video. I hope some day to see the light................. There is no light yet.

@finallyfree3847 3 жыл бұрын

You are telling MY STORY!! Just with a different cast of characters! This completely resonated with me! The moment when that mask slips is one that you will never forget. I too have healed and grown to have that curiosity and compassion BUT I know what I'm dealing with and our kids and I are OFF LIMITS, no supply here to get!!! Thanks so much for sharing! ❤

@happy11after 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. This totally got me all worked up inside again, showing me what still needs healing. ❤

@munhassan7840 3 жыл бұрын

You are a beautiful soul thank you for your channel, you are helping me so much. I’ve just brought your book.

@juliejose4961 3 жыл бұрын

You are telling the exact same story of mine

@DanaD-er8dn 3 жыл бұрын

Add sociopathic tendencies to that and you will understand what I'm dealing with. The shock has just worn off after nearly a year, am in acceptance phase and man his true colors are disgusting but I do have compassion or I would be in jail.

@terzidaki 3 жыл бұрын

You speak my words...

@shumnoor 3 жыл бұрын

First they give you intense love then don’t even treat you like human they don’t have emotions but they trapped others emotionally hard And then abandoned them

@myown4057 2 жыл бұрын

I'm still in the relationship. And I know. Boy do I know. Is silent treatment part of their repertoire?

@Natalie-xg5lk Жыл бұрын

100%

@glenyshill72 4 ай бұрын

Yep, absolutely

@shatteringthemask1871 3 жыл бұрын

Where’s the worlds best dad to our five daughters right now? Well, after I found out about his porn addiction and have never stopped saying this can’t be fixed without treatment, he has completely ignored them and me. He is now just wandering the streets on his own free will just completely abandoned them. Their real face is despicable

@shumnoor 3 жыл бұрын

It’s same look like my story Gosh Chilling and cold attitude he said to me that “I have nothing to do with you” He ruin my life my time my beauty and said after two kids i have nothing to do with you like it’s joke Like I don’t matter and I don’t deserve him I’m noting worthless unimportant my life is useless

@sandrathomas2893 3 жыл бұрын

I stayed 10 yrs past expiration date to be the damage control for our children as you don't see the mask slip and the mask off until they have you hooked in deep enough. I found out of 1st outside supply source when 5 mos pregnant and 2nd supply source( that ik of) when I was 6 mos pregnant with 4th child whom now lives with them both, alienated from me. Disturbing!! The malignant narcissist, in my humble opinion, is pure evil. They destroy their own children to punish you and to win them. Very damaging to the family system.

@innerworkshealing22 3 жыл бұрын

God so many similarities… clearly narcs are beyond predicatable… like opening up a psych text book on narcissism and reading a biography on him. So YES… I too stayed fir 10 years, codependent empath that I am, until he walked out with no warning the day before thanksgiving 2020…he started w the exact same bs… “ I dont want to keep hurting you, you deserve too be happy… I know it’s all my fault” but that sentiment would last about 5 minutes and he’d revert right back to everything being my fault and me being the abusive one. And such visciousness and no sadness, no emotion not even fir leaving his 6 year old son…. I too knew he’d NEVER leave unless there was someone else which he denied but also said “we aren’t together anymore it’s none of your business”… we had just split after a decade and it was none of my concern, uh ok. He continued this lie and charade until just a few weeks later when I looked out of my window and there he is next door with my neighbors daughter… very much on purpose and w no respect or regard for if his son had seen him too. My healing process is such a roller coaster and I’m stuck, so stuck… I can’t get past my anger, my true terror, and the reality that his life has gotten so much easier while mine is a million times harder. Can’t go no contact and I try to minimize contact as much as possible but he always finds a way. And he continues to try and use me, manipulate, bully, and hurt every chance he gets. Like I’ve said so many times recently finding you Caroline has been a miracle and had helped me so much but I’m still stuck and this week I’ve really regressed back into many negative patterns that prevent my healing and progress. Thanks for another great video.