Why You're Addicted To The Narcissist (How I Beat My Narcissist Addiction)

[@dianelindenberger6941]

yes......I feel addicted......I miss the good times

[@Mardevscience]

I have been experiencing this for 10 months. I broke up with her 4 times and each time I was beyond miserable. I finally went no contact. It’s been 17 days. It’s hard. She went directly to the woman she triangulated me with. I still feel like I am in withdrawal.

[@laurewinkelmans9501]

You deserve better. I also experienced this with my ex, but I just let them go to someone else now, that way they can bother them. Everything is better than experiencing that abuse again. No one is ever good enough for them because they actually hate themselves and they'll never find a long-term partner anyway. I realized I deserved someone who would see my value and put me first. This ex of mine has distorted thinking anyway and I'm not one of many, I am the one or I am leaving you. You have to permanently leave them behind, because it's a vicious cycle otherwise.

[@BlackthornBetty]

I just broke up with my narcissist boyfriend and I am having these feelings so hard right now. I've blocked him because I hate who I become when he starts to go into the discard phase. I see it early because I know his patterns after 4 years of this on and off relationship. I would discard him before he could discard me so I could have control over when I would experience the pain. I am standing firm but I always do. I feel I'm easily manipulated by him. He always comes back. I think he's addicted to me because I am blunt af and I always call out his narcissistic behaviors that hurt me and then leave him when he starts the gaslighting because I won't put up with gaslighting and when I call him on it and come right out and say I don't believe him he becomes literally dumbfounded when I leave him when he does it. Every time. I always get sucked back in because I miss the 'good' parts of him so much. It's an awful place to be in. Not sure if this makes sense. I feel very emotionally raw right now and hate myself for missing him. I can't be this stupid...

[@yiddena]

I'm going through this. It's not a pleasant feeling.

[@timekeepsonslipn]

I've been stupid for 18 years . I've actually went 2 years without talking to him , touching him, and went back. I am so dumb. Now , this is a first, I moved in with him. He kicked me out a month ago

[@Sunita06]

Omg I was trying to explain this to my therapist today. She didn't get it. Couldnt understand how a toxic relationship can be addictive.

[@timekeepsonslipn]

How frustrating

[@SpillingthespiritualT]

Can a narcissist find it within themselves to change, since they are narcissist? Great video thank you so much, I resonate 100 with bread crumbing and ghosting.

[@sundown2221]

I have been addicted to mine since we were teenagers and we are in our sixties

[@kalintini]

On my 3 narcissist husband. That’s what I call addiction. I only learned about narcissist behavior a year ago. I have gone thru hell trying to make each marriage work but thought I didn’t deserve any better. My mom was a one also. I am beaten emotionally & spiritually. I don’t know another way of living. People tend to go to what is familiar to them.

[@susanotway7875]

Such wise words Caroline. Thank you. Can totally relate to the 'bread crumbs of love!' You have certainly given me lots to think about...

[@tammywhitten6248]

The man I married 33 years ago, is a narcissist, I can't tell you when it started, as I don't recall seeing any signs in the beginning, but I know from my children, they feel he has always been one.

[@innerworkshealing22]

I needed this message today Caroline...I will connect with you via our recovery program (FB) bc I am really struggling today after being pretty great for months. I feel like I've regressed way back in my healing journey, and it's not a good feeling.

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Sending love ❤️

[@jaylaw.7660]

Great video, Caroline! Keep them coming, please. Your support keeps me strong. Xo Jayla💕

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

So pleased they help 😘

[@jennyrudi]

Thanks queen

[@YukonFox1972]

When trying to maintain No Contact, what can be done to help alleviate the physical symptoms of withdrawal? My body physiologically feels pain from the anxiety and depression…like a continuous mourning. It’s exhausting. I’m trying self-love, self-care, spending quality time with others-even antidepressants. My brain understands all of the logical reasons why I’m better off without him in my life, yet the primal cravings for contact from him can’t seem to be squelched. Even when I quiet the obsessive thoughts, I still feel the *need* in my chest and guts. 🥺

[@tnt01]

Yoga...you need to move the stuck negative energy out of your body. You can't think it out.

[@k.mcdaniel8378]

Very good video, should have more likes.

[@melbinsantiago979]

I get ppl have to make an income but it's so fucked how broken they make you and broke everything you lose there should be free help for this or insurance coverage for it

[@mpacino1224]

This is my problem. I deactivated FB. I ignore them all day long. It's horrible. I am niserable.

[@abenigold6219]

Ty♥️

[@akmcff]

Hi, I’m really hoping you can answer my question as a young man trying to release myself. thanks very much for the video. It’s been 3 years of NC for me, I’m still absolutely in the depths. I just want to ask you a quick question regarding the addiction. I am unable and in denial it seems of who they really are, I can’t see it and I’m attached to the start and how it made ME feel. Is this something I need to keep fighting, as in “see her for who she is?” Becuase I know that I left but when I am focusing on myself and healing, there’s always this part of me that only remembers the good times, and I’ve read papers on how this is a defence mechanism to protect yourself from the unprocessed trauma they caused during that you have suppressed and seeing them for who they really are, who you really know they are that you cannot see. It feels like if the power is within me, that I will just build forwards with always this illusion in my head of who they are, instead of seeing them and accepting and processing the feelings of who I actually know them to be, I just don’t want to live with that life suppressed inside of me trying to hide from the “good memories” my whole life. I hope this makes sense, really looking forward to hearing from you. Kind regards Andrew

[@akmcff]

I guess in other words, I want the rose coloured glasses to come off and not for me to forever keep acting like the way I remember her is real, and that I’m scared of connection after this. I want to take my power back that I felt at the end of my own self worth and see them for how terrible they really are like when I left. Thank you so much

[@SummerHawaii582]

I was betrayed

[@iamtaliba.divine.love1322]

I see my daughter being addicted to her narcissistic father, They have a trauma Bond, he encourages her to smoke marijuana with him!

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Caroline I want to thank you soooo much for these AMAZING videos you are literally saving my life everything you are saying is what I'm going through 🙏🙏🙏🙏👏👏👏👍👍👍🥰💗💝💖💕💜❤💐🌹💐🌹💐🌹💐🌹💐🤗💐💜💜

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

So pleased to hear that special lady ❤️❤️❤️