When you leave Jamaica and live overseas why your family always saying this?

[@gbb82]

I would like to offer my humble advice as a returning resident. I have lived and worked in the U.S. for over 40 years. If you plan to return here in Jamaica, be very careful about that. Unless you absolutely have to, do not return to the place you came from. Like you said you will have changed and people here are going to change towards you. Some will be jealous, others including close friends and relatives will see you only as an opportunity to get things for themselves. Relationships evolve and in life we may have to leave certain people behind even if you knew them all your life. I wish you eternal prosperity and blessings in your new country.

[@AAHomeGardening]

Yes, it is definitely best to return to a different community

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right

[@JAM2USA2018]

Thank you. You are so true

[@nightswan1234]

I so admire your tenacity & drive to follow your dreams despite all the adversity that was sure to come when relocating to another country!! I’m so happy for you! I say go girl, ain’t no stopping you now!!! God bless you in all you set your hands to accomplish!!🇺🇸🇺🇸💪🏿🔥♥️

[@thebestindewest]

I'm glad you said this because I'm not born there but my legacy is there and the fight I m getting it very sad but it also open my eyes how evil people are over dead lef...

[@PrioryCampion]

"I became a pensioner this year, and I am thankful for the UK. My reason for migrating was to go back to school because I was a dropout. I am always educating myself, and yesterday, I received my latest certificate."

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Congratulations, Amen

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛💛💚

[@marciasamuels1679]

Congratulations

[@thebestindewest]

God bless you

[@GloriaPalmer-lq2jl]

@@PrioryCampion congratulations to you

[@Reneehowitt]

I agree with you farrin is different from Jamaica sometimes ppl a farrin don’t even remember the day and date

[@karenmaloney4085]

True

[@curtiswilson9997]

Me memba when a holiday 🎉in Jamaica sometimes 😮..

[@vernamurray1161]

Exactly I can attest

[@alviraneufville954]

Or what you had for breakfast 🥞🍳

[@Reneehowitt]

And ppl must understand that ppl overseas have a life too

[@vernamurray1161]

Yuh mean WI HA BILLS TUH

[@julian75hall]

Finally a Caribbean woman that is talking FACTS and make sense 👏 🙌 👌

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@julian75hall Amen

[@beverleyreid563]

She make a lot of sense.

[@joycepeters8633]

Lady I am not a Jamaican but I love you. From heart. You're a good person. I will share you. Greeting from Dutch Caribbean stmaarten.. 🙏🙏🙏🥰🌹

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Thank you so much 💚 💛

[@maliceinwonderland99]

Big up St. Maarten 💖

[@ceceliamorgan5614]

I am Guyanese, and whatever u are saying is the Gospel truth. U have to change with the country rules and regulations. They can ask u for a money to help pay rent. But u can't ask them to help u pay ur rent or mortgage here if u short. So u have to work and do what u have to do. Sis u are so for real.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Thank you so much for tuning appreciate that. And they don’t appreciate what you do. And that hurts

[@ceceliamorgan5614]

@Itsdonnamarie sis l thought it was my country alone, when l start to follow others then l realise, they are like that all over the world. It's easy for them to pick up the phone and beg when they get it. It's difficult for them to call and say thanks. I can't be bothered. I am doing me. I did what l had to do, and l am satisfied with my life in this country, retired and l made hay while the sunshine. Can't talk everything here. But thank God l use my brains and didn't allow them. Friends and family to suck out all that l have. Not forgetting. I get robb and what they thief from me too. But God is good.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@ceceliamorgan5614 Amen sorry to hear about the Robb but God a God 🙏🏾🙏🏾 and on this channel, I am learning a lot too thank you for sharing

[@GraceMcneil-h1v]

YOU ARE DAM RIGHT MY SELF . GETTING UP 3 O CLOCK IN THE MORNING INN THE FREEZING COLD TO GO TO WORK ❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@EightyFour-s3z]

Crazy. That’s not living.

[@Getty-g4f]

That's the job he or she choosen. Not everyone gets up at 3am to work. I certainly dont.​@EightyFour-s3z

[@AccidentalCarnivore-ul3kg]

💯speaking facts! Someone related to me in Canada 🇨🇦 for more than 50 years and accomplished little. She had a very weak worth ethic. All she did was sit and chat on the phone. She got left behind. Now she has to depend on her child in her old age. That’s what happens when people are lazy and don’t have a plan.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen Amen

[@antonyanderson_5921]

I lived in the UK from 1968.Came with sisters age 10. Some of my relatives are still doing small farming as a living from before then. The clock hasn't gone forward as far as their concerned. Some decided to massively populate their family as if contraceptives were the worse thing they ever heard of. But everyone does what they think, in which case they shouldn't begrudge me if my choices turn out better. Family or not, I am not in Jam their as their personal bank.😊

[@AliahCurtis]

So true. You’re speaking facts. I’m Jamaican living in America too.❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@Anthonyjones-pq4ff]

What about the other way around Coming from America to Jamaica is it any Ez-er ???

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@ it depends anywhere you go you have to have a plan to me if you’re living in a neighborhood that’s a few safe. You can be happier.

[@elleniandersongrey8367]

You are absolutely right sister! Your mindset has to alter when you are in a foreign country - it's survival. Speak your mind.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@soulfuls9679]

I'm so glad you, as a Jamaican is saying this 👏🏾 ❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Speaking how I feel

[@pg8393]

Telling like it is, big up yourself ❤.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💛💚

[@PrioryCampion]

Any person who don’t want change have no ambition, that’s why they prefer certain government in power.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Thank you

[@Rushy1932]

So true Lady. You hit the nail on the head!!

[@Itsdonnamarie]

That it💛

[@Itsdonnamarie]

That’s it

[@GloriaPalmer-lq2jl]

We not throwing away our family. But a ya so we a fi wise. God is my refuge and strength a very help in times of need.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right 💯

[@thebestindewest]

@@GloriaPalmer-lq2jl amen to that...

[@tanlinda80]

100%!! Well said, well articulated, well done! Know your worth. I applaud you 🙌🏾🫶🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Thank you 💛💚

[@icildaparks5309]

This Sister is giving the Facts : when your in a another County people things your Living a good Life in Farign County we have a lot of money: there so wrong😢😮😅😊

[@cliffordelliston3444]

You have to change when living in foreign whats the point of leaving Jamaica and not experiencing different cultures and change of life.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Tell them fi mi deh

[@GdyeHchf]

That's what people do when you go and work to change your life and yourself

[@manleygreen5678]

Thank you for being candid,They must change.

[@beverleyreid563]

That "little box" you described is a great analogy. You have to change your perspective. Adjust. Grow. Move with the flow or get left behind (but move in the right direction with the right people). People back home need to understand. (Donna Marie, you need to also address the gossip and grudgefulness and the badminedness). We need to change our bad behaviour towards each other. Big Up to you and your channel.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen I will

[@cheriepynk8259]

Prayers and guidance for all returning residents because we are outsiders now. We need to unite

[@kingdoc64]

Donna, KZbin brought your channel to me, and I am a new subscriber. I just watched your video, and you are 1000% on point. Keep speaking the truth from your heart. I am Jamaican and mi know wha yu a chat bout. Keep on going, and God bless you.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Thank you so much 💚 💛

[@julian75hall]

Factual message my lady

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@1Devonpen]

❤❤❤❤ Sending this to a few people! Thank you 😊

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@1Devonpen 💛💚

[@PeresD]

What you’re saying is facts . I’m in the U.K ,England , and I see guys in Brixton just beating around for years doing nothing . As you said , many come here ,with the same mindset as if they’re in the Jamaica , still at square one after ten years ,doing nothing with their lives , looking for handouts.

[@JAdlam-u4p]

Sis don't change nuh and see what become a yuh family,Friends,parents forced yuh to grow up ina real life

[@Reneehowitt]

Some ppl a yard yah really tek set pon ppl a farrin I don’t know why and it’s hard everywhere

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right

[@delrosecoleman3358]

Tell them my sister..them think that it is a bed 🛌 of roses 🌹 😂😂😂

[@Itsdonnamarie]

I know right

[@julian75hall]

Shout out to you my lady

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Blessings 💚💛

[@kycams]

Change is good the question is, “is the change for good?” Some in Jamaica have never paid rent or bills and quick fi beg

[@Itsdonnamarie]

I know right

[@michellrowe3933]

Change is a must!!... i love this lady. Talk truth! Time is the the essence

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@lynpryoraudio9868]

So true Donna, I have gone through the same process. I'm still in the box, after many years here. Just waking up and trying to get out of the box. I'm older now, and just waking up. I say better late than never. Thanks for this video sis. I will be tuning in for more.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@lynpryoraudio9868 glory to God one love 💛💚

[@petronillahunt9795]

Girl I hear you, all importees from anywhere in the world I think will agree with you. This is not sit back and chill out. This is for real. Blessing & thank you

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@petronillahunt9795 Amen 💚💛💚💛

[@carnelclarke6856]

Just found your channel and I liked and subscribed. I love the real talk. I have been in the USA for over 40 years, and over the years I have heard similar comments many times, and I haven not and will not lose a second of my time to pretend like I care about such nonsensical comments from so-called friends and some relatives. Keep your focus and do the right thing for you and your family. I look forward to watching more of your material.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Thank you so much. I appreciate that.💚💛

[@lanzelsmith8621]

Truth speak for it self. Very good commentary.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@jermainesmith2297]

So true. Please make a video about them back home saying we living in America and not living any life.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right

[@beverleygulbot2284]

Change is inevitable. The ability to change and adjust to your environment determines your success. Celebrate change. Don’t be stagnant. I am glad you speak it out sister. Don’t forget where you come from but also look ahead to new horizons

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen Amen Amen

[@Kwame-Kwame7]

Don’t worry about them Jamaican queen my family in Jamaica and UK take me for an ATM for 25years and is like I never did nothing for them just crazy

[@Itsdonnamarie]

My God

[@markwhittaker6866]

PREACH!

[@antonyanderson_5921]

@kwame, sorry to hear that, but you'll find your in the biggest club in the world for that specific criticism😊

[@lylepeter2286]

I been there done that, so tell them like it is I went to Csnada from SVG work three jobs to take care of my family. Some days I did not know if Sunday fall on Monday. When you know where you came from so can't waste time.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@PRichards-m4o]

My dear sister you do not change. None of us change. We came to a different country and we adopt the way of living. Because there is opportunities abroad. 🙏🏽

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@PRichards-m4o say it louder

[@pollycarter2863]

Big up my sister. You hit the nail on the head with the truth. Some a dem is just jealous, because you a try to make a better life for you and your family. That person needs to get up off of her back side, and go fine some thing constructive to do. Blesses to you & much love

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@icentgordon9195]

True 💯

[@thebestindewest]

Its so true I watched my mother do it with just the help of God because the husband she met here neglected her...and she never stop working to help her family back home and they were not always nice to her...rob her many little ways...but she never bad mind people a very gentle spirit of a woman...I always use to write in birthday cards that i hope to be a 1/3 of the woman she was...she n mi granny just kindhearted people...not to many of these people are left on the earth

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen cherish those moments

[@thebestindewest]

@@Itsdonnamarie I really do

[@unadavis2927]

Amen sister real talk tell them like it is big up yourself 🎉

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💛💚💛💚💛

[@carolkerr1761]

Yes mi girl reel talk tell them a gain❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@hazelmiller9007]

Glad u find time to tell them bc mi too tired fi explain it all.....we work like a horse here and I know life change not me....dem alright

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💯💯💯💯

[@robertanderson6692]

Maintain your forward vision and caring spirit, sis, even as you accept no distractions to growth and progress.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Blessings 💚💛

[@shawngrant1537]

Preach my sister,,not even a lime for free

[@ldbr6306]

Lime is expensive

[@gdonson4440]

I don’t know if a lucky mi lucky or maybe all of my friends that I grew up with thought I had no potential to make it, but no friend or family ever call me or even ask mi to send them something. I love it ! I wouldn’t even know where to find any of them in jamaica

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Wow

[@antonyanderson_5921]

@gdonson whereabouts unknown, isn't a bad thing. Best stop in a hotel if you can find a decent one at a reasonable price😊

[@Godloveme77]

I understand I am part of this world, but I separated myself from this world. I will never let this crazy and wicked world get the best of me. I believe in God and I walk with God.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@peterblanchfield4658]

Telling it like it is, do you know how many Caribbean people are homeless in America? You are speaking the truth, I know many people who came to America and partly like there was no tomorrow, never saved a dime and now penniless and homeless, listen up my Caribbean people.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Yes sah, dat is it

[@The_1_She]

This was a word ❤

[@georgewheatley7195]

Preach to them sister , facts you are talking

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@perkieperf1028]

Thank you for this message

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💛💚💚💛💚🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@blackdawn43]

I'm so glad that Jamaican people are reporting this to the people who never left Jamaica. When you get to the US life not easy here either but people in Jamaica think you're rich when you come from farrin and want to ask you for money, or buy expensive clothes for them. Unless you are truly rich the average person is not rich. Now when Jamaican people come to the US and live they start to ignore the phone calls or change their number so the people in Jamaica don't beg for nothing i didn't understand it but now i do. It's not easy here. And ive lived in Jamaica also.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right

[@cliffordelliston3444]

My uncle told to go back to night school and better yourself which I did do.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Well done

[@chelseaclinton4535]

You're spot on Donna.❤❤❤❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💛💚💛

[@moniquegordon1052]

You're so right mi love. Talk truth

[@angelamctavish3501]

There’s no lie here 🙏🏽💯❤️I’m also a Jamaican 🇯🇲living in the USA 🇺🇸

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@maliceinwonderland99]

Mi appreciate you more than you will ever know!! 💖

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Awww thank you 💛💚

[@ORblends-y6r]

Thank you for sharing this post. This subject needs to be addressed in our community; in Jamaica and abroad. I find it hard to understand how we could have some of the most forward thinking people along side some of the most backward thinking people. I have not gone home for a while now because I can’t pretended to be interested in the things I used do as a child. And it hurts me to see the young men them that I grew up with living the same way we did when we were kids. I feel insulted when they let me know they are expecting the same thing from me after 30 something years living abroad. I recently moved to a new city with a sizable Jamaican population and I am finding it hard to make friends with the ones I have met so far. It seems like if you are not interested in talking sex, money and god there is no way to make a connection.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Wow wow wow I will take about this thank you for sharing how you feel here 💚💛

[@julietbrown8156]

Real talk sister

[@karenpascal7956]

I agree with 100%😊you got to change if change for best so save and better you😊

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@karenpascal7956 💚💚🙏🏾

[@TheEquilibriumEffects]

True, same in england, mi wish every jamaican get the opportunity to truly come experience it for themselves.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

I know right. That is exactly what I’m talking about. Who feels it knows it.

[@NicoleFreckleton]

You are so right

[@Reneehowitt]

I can see the frustration

[@debbiescott9377]

Half of the Jamaicans living in Jamaica have no bill to pay because they still live in their parents house. We living in foreign countries get bills everyday. Change is good. Some of them need to stop the begging.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

I’m not just that they don’t appreciate what you give them and disrespect you on top of it

[@collettet1276]

You talking true words girl

[@PeresD]

The HUSTLE is real , if you don’t you will dead fi hungry.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Say it loud

[@STRAWYB]

Depends on what they call change. Some of them want you to work and mind them. They think you go pick money off tree.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛💚💛💚

[@suzettecampbellhenry9380]

Hallelujah sister it needs to be said I’m in the uk 🇬🇧 not sure about the USA but it’s the very same thing here work work work long hours to pay my mortgage in Ja and rent in the uk 🇬🇧 more money here but more long hours Real talk ❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@sophiagraham6248]

Real talk!! New York cold an still have to run for the express train can't late for work. Have to clock in.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right deh so

[@JAgirl]

You got that right. There is no one here I can run to and everybody have to hustling to make ends meet.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Exactly

[@Godloveme77]

I was born and raised in the U.S. All I can say is U.S doesn't have enough love everybody at each other's neck all the time. That's why it's just me and my kids I prefer it that way I don't trust nobody. I am a humble woman that loves my peace and happiness and I will do anything to keep my peace and happiness❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Amen

[@joeldurrant3671]

Real talk! They dont know. Who feels it know.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💯💯💯

[@elgranjero2284]

Some people come to foreign, on a Green Card bc at that, and refuse to work. They still try call people here and beg.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Wow that’s crazy

[@davy-q3g]

America is not for lazy people.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Say load

[@Therealdeal-vq2vp]

Happy Thanksgiving

[@letseatgoodfood5244]

A true dat you have to think outside box

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Oh yeah

[@thebestindewest]

We must wise as 🐍 but harmless as 🕊

[@sophiagraham6248]

Big up Donna truth

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💛💚

[@king_kush23]

Love the energy 🎉

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛

[@paularob2829]

Big up yuh nice clean self 😊

[@Itsdonnamarie]

That is it 🤣💛💚

[@berylbetton2196]

Yes lady so true it never be the same it have to be a change ❤

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@berylbetton2196 exactly

[@dleebox2268]

Beg yuh some credit from jamaica in winter up here, when yuh tell dem outside stay a way dem vex, 3 layer of clothes, warm up car, 15 miles to store , in ice and snow, while they just look at their phones to see credit😂

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Lol

[@marvarichards81]

Talk up the thing mi sister new subscribers here

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💚💛💚💛

[@OSFRECORDSLLC]

Don’t pay them no mind, they don’t understand that life here and life there is too different thing , its a bigger world here 💯

[@Itsdonnamarie]

💯💯

[@queenmiserable9495]

Preach! Of course you change to adapt to a new environment. People are under the assumption that foreign is easy. Whether you migrate to US, UK, Canada etc YOU HAVE TO CHANGE, as you have so much other things you have to navigate through and also keep on top off. Jamaica is more relaxed. My husband has been in UK 24 years, and he has adapted to well. As soon as he goes to Jamaica, it's as if he shakes of the UK and relaxes more and blends in. Back on that plane, he is back in UK mode. A so it go. More Jamaicans in the diaspora need to explain more of how challenging foreign can be, it's not paved in gold or a bed of roses. As Jamaicans (immigrant) you have to work twice as hard. So when your family and friends return back to Jamaica, do not be jealous of them and do not keep going on that they have changed, they know this already.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@queenmiserable9495 Amen

[@elayne2237]

I remember when people used to say how English people mean and American people dont stay so and i said why we have bills etc to pay we have to work etc so its good to hear and see that people in the USA can live and work and see that you get nothing for free, and to our so called friends and family in Jamaica that vex because we not sending them money monthly like we throwing pardner with them, they need to go and look a job, and expecting us to pay for them and them children. Some of them have land and they wouldnt even plant up anything on it to help themselves.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@elayne2237 them lucky they give nobody nothing to put down

[@elayne2237]

@ Exactly missus👏🏾👏🏾

[@matildaswope1676]

I agree with you.

[@edithmarjoriemartin-rf2vl]

People usually say you change when them can’t use you anymore!

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Say again

[@biggirl4277]

True true true sometimes not even time you no have for your family

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Exactly there were time when I was coming in, and my husband was on his way out. I met him at the door.

[@sheshe2504]

Thats right Donna

[@annepierre-joseph2713]

I believe it's a foreigner thing I'm from Haiti 🇭🇹 and let me tell you I'm going through the same thing my sister because families depends on you my sister have kids all on me to take care of and what's worst is that after I sponsored my mother she's here in the us she still expecting for me to continue to provide for my sister and brother back home my mom lives with me after 9 years in the us rent free giving my husband hard time she criticize everything in my home it is sickening and let me tell you they will guilt play you talking about she rude her life for me because she had me at a young age and my father didn't stay around she always telling me she sacrifice so much for me blah blah blah schuippssss

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Omg this is crazy. I never hear nothing like this what my God.

[@lylepeter2286]

When you have to get up to ho to work in that cold, you must change. They should come and try it

[@Itsdonnamarie]

I know right

[@richardblackwood2304]

The main problem with relatives in Jamaica is that they Assumed that America Is a bed of Roses 🌹 they think that money 💰 fall from trees in America. That’s the mindset they have. And it’s hard to change that

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Right

[@tj6742]

Well my family never told me that ever ! They all say the opposite . "Bwoy , you no change one bit " so maybe people do change .. as long as yu nahh show off pan dem them alright wid you ! 😆

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Them want mi fi gi them things and vall call them knt

[@pansygraham8487]

Gospel truth yeah and another thing if when you do call and you can't say "go to western union or money gram for a pick up" they don't into you it is so sad

[@Itsdonnamarie]

Really sad

[@sheshe2504]

Real talk

[@cooljazzy2682]

9:40 Amen !! Crab in a barrel! They want you to remain on the same level as them. Kmt!! You're not the only one going through it.

[@Itsdonnamarie]

@@cooljazzy2682 right