🔥When You Meet A Psychopath, What Happens First?🔥

[@facialsonDemand]

Tell a narcissist 1 thing they need to work on and all h e l l will break lose

[@p.w.352]

Or just tell them no and see what happens. If you're feeling brave.

[@selfesteem3447]

Or respong to their stating something...? With an abrupt, confident "WRONG" ! 😜

[@avanellehansen4525]

@facialsonDemand yes. Just tell them no and stick to it. Don't let them push past boundaries.

[@annickalexander]

💯 @facialsonDemand The first time you dare to stand up to them for disrespecting you or for not keeping their word, it's over, lol

[@cartermusic2020]

Haha they are highly allergic to reality

[@gentleheart3384]

My son, who has ASD, has an unbelievable connection with animals. Animals are drawn to him, and he treats them with such love and care. He has trouble recognising peoples emotions, and some would deem this as apathy, but its not. He recognises a limp, an arm in a cast, bandages etc and immediately wants to help that person. He cant see a pained expression on a persons face though, so if they are missing a physical sign that would represent pain, he misses it totally.

[@Vani13658]

Scott, I was involved with a psychopath when I was sixteen . Ended up taking my child, running away from him . Turned out he married my best friend . He murdered his daughter from that marriage. Eight months old. For many years we felt safe after he was put in a mental hospittal. We moved on with our lives no more fear. Everything you've said is right on.Thank you for sharing your expertise with us. Could help save a life. ❤❤

[@aden8222]

A psychopath is calm. When you look into his eyes you shudder because you see evil.

[@NicolaMaxwell]

The stare, they mirror you and make you think you're "kindred spirits" my favourite body language guy taught me that. He is one cool cat I hear...

[@ScottRouse]

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[@NicolaMaxwell]

@@ScottRouse Looking forward to this one. Thanks Scott. Your channel is great!❤🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@stevepeterson5943]

I know it well. Don't play you'll lose. They instantly target your energy frequency, then vibrate to that. You have to physically get way out of that energy area. They'll become your "hum." They'll form a mechanical oneness with you. They'll become like an instant tennis partner, before you even realize it. They'll move you into their orbit, they are the center. They'll "help you. They'll try to "help" you. They'll offer to "help" you. They'll be like Robin Hood, but they are the Big Bad Wolf. They'll bend over backwards to "help" you. They'll manipulate you by accepting their "help." You'll owe them one. They're as dark as they are light appearing. They'll "help"you. They'll "help" you. They'll "help" you. I can't say it enough. Do not become a target of their "charity." They're casing your being, like a house, looking for an open window to climb in. Even after you have all your "windows locked" they'll eventually throw a rock through a window, so they have plausible deniability to enter, see if you're ok, and help you, to make it up to you, to correct a misunderstanding. . . Others will buy it. You're on your own. They have the sleeping majority fooled. Get the f away from them : ) Same as a nearby shark watching you swim or a humming beehive as you walk by. You cannot linger. Save yourself. Don't mean to sound dramatic, but it's very serious, have a great day, and awesome info always Scott : )

[@Roxanne_PNW]

You are absolutely right! I was married to one unfortunately. When they have you hooked, they back away and start manipulating you to the extreme. In my case, I always remembered what a great guy he was in the beginning before he flipped the script. Then everything was MY fault from then on.

[@CoffeeCatsAndTrueCrime]

Congratulations on that being past tense. They always seem to follow the same handbook and many many people fall for it. It took real strength and intelligence to recognize that pattern and to break free of it. I hope your life from here on is toxic free and full of kindness ❤️

[@Roxanne_PNW]

@@CoffeeCatsAndTrueCrime thank you. I was the very first person in my family who ever got a divorce. I had to do it for my own sanity & to show my daughter she didn’t ever have to stay with an abuser.

[@robertahardy2295]

I think “glib” is a good word. They’re big talkers with all vulnerability hidden to the best of their ability, just bragging and trying to con you. Even when not talking, they’re judging you for your (perceived) weaknesses.

[@ruckerbrady8342]

I saw a man i haven't seen ina long time. I worked with him years ago. I nick named him Dahmer, like the serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer. But it was a joke and i kinda felt bad over the years for naming him that. Well i saw him recently and he had the creepiest smile when he saw me, so i made sure i had zero reaction, like i didn't ever know him. His smile dropped immediately and went into creepy Dahmer mode. 😳. Then i passed him again on the street days later, there's that creepy smile again, i made zero reaction again. Now i remember why i nicknamed him that. My point is ALWAYS trust your instincts. If something feels off, thats your intuition, holy spirit, gut reaction telling you to be safe

[@joenisnapje712]

@ruckerbrady8342 Stay safe buddy. You are seeing that man too often suddenly 😉

[@deonaeddy7749]

If you catch someone staring at you and won't look away and you stare back at them without looking away what will happen? Will it be a long game of stare off? I know it's kinda funny but I am curious

[@nancylpr]

I break eye contact a lot. It has to do with childhood abuse. I have had to force myself to realize that most people are safer than those who were in my own family. Sometimes I break eye contact when I am concentrating usually on a memory. I am aware it can seem weird to people I am with. I try to do this less.

[@dianepriola4766]

Hey I totally agree, I was not allowed to look, or speak, 🙊. Fear kept me a prisoner for a long long time

[@BeingLifted]

Agreed on everything Scott said about recognizing the psychopathjc stare. I've seen it twice. The only time my "friend" of 10-15 years did it was to catch my reaction when she told me I was "such a good victim." Hearing those words was enough to rattle me because I had no idea what she was talking about. The stare was the cherry on top for her. (She got off on shaking her "friends'" emotions up as she meddled in their lives.) We were sitting close enough that I watched her pupils dilate and her eyes looked black. That was in my early forties, about 20 years ago. The first time was at a Club in my late-20s, maybe 35 years ago. I was standing at the bar waiting for a drink and I saw a good-looking guy staring off into the distance, probably at another person. He might have seen me glance his way a couple times because he turned his gaze toward me. If i want to meet someone, I'll open with a smile, so I did. It wasn't returned. What I got was an extended long stare that chilled me to my bones. I didn't even wait for a drink -- I went to another bar in the same venue. And, when I was leaving alone, I made sure he was not around and did not see me leaving. Over the next couple of days, I paid attention to the news to see if any girl was missing that visited that club that night. In both instances, the psychopathic stare was obvious -- and frightening. I think what Scott said is true -- when you see it, you know it. You don't need anyone to coach you on it. You know it when you see it -- and you NEVER forget it.

[@ScottRouse]

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[@kingdomseekersacademy8220]

I think their first move would be being vulnerable, needing help, acting like the victim to gain their victims sympathy/trust. Ted Bundy was a perfect example of how he would get women into his car.

[@moyamontgomery1468]

A psychopath I knew used to say “You are just like me”, “You and I are the same” and” I will teach you to be like me. You will be my legacy”. I told him he was full of sh**.

[@SpikeLover1863]

Nice work! I would have loved to see the look on his face when you said it. 🤔🤣

[@CoderCoder-px4bd]

His first point so hit home. My now ex is most definitely a psychopath. I remember when he met me, his questions and mirroring seemed comical to me, but I didn’t take it seriously. We were teenagers back then. But now looking back, and seeing how he behaves through the years , it was all fake!! He wears identities like he wears clothes. When he feels “safe” or perceives the other person as trapped, his default evil personality comes out. It’s like he needs a goal or agenda to act civil without that guard rails come off!!

[@CoderCoder-px4bd]

@RainandPeace-fy8dg wow!!! So identical!’ My long con was five years!! He put my newborn in the hospital, and there were all these “accidents”’. We divorced after 12 months, of which he then stalked me for 12 years!!! He is finally facing 50 to 60 years for what he did to his daughter from a wife AFTER he married me. These people are diabolical. I tried to warn the new wife. She later reached out to me and said that he and his family said I was crazy, of course. And that is the thing, I think he held his mother and father and extended family hostage so they were complicit in pawning him off on unsuspecting women.

[@victoriatraylor5634]

Im straight but had a gay coworker who stocked me about 16 years ago. The police said to NOT file a restraining order because of what i shared he felt it would push her over the edge. He said to leave my phone number but get a new phone to use. And don't go anywhere the stocker might be. I had 3 years of trouble and then just missed getting hit by her car when i told her to stay away and leave me alone. I switched jobs 3 times. 18 months of out and out stocking and vandalism.. I still am extremely careful when I go out. There is a national stocking we site that had a lot a great info.

[@ad6417]

I was sexually harassed by a gay male supervisor. We settled out of court. It was shocking that he would harass a woman. He was a sick pervert.

[@avanellehansen4525]

Stalked

[@IMeMineWho]

@@avanellehansen4525 His autocorreCT...mine just capitalized the last couple letters.🤔

[@megonvi]

Love the way the topic of stalkers was handled, and also the sensitive approach towards autism.♥️

[@shellOceans3083]

"Shmooshii pipikins"❤🎉 Wonderful!!! You've gifted the world with a wonderful new tern of endearment. Thank you!😊

[@JakeLeMonde]

The scary part of this excellent video is that a lot of the things psychopaths do are sales techniques I received in my training and encouraged over my 25 years in professional outside sales.

[@RoxannBoykin]

I have a sister that will lie to you even when the truth sounds better. She would lie to me even when I knew the truth. I learned from her how to tell when I'm lied to !

[@nlivlavie3108]

I have a close relative that lies so much I don’t believe anything he says also .he either inflates the truth to make himself seem beefed or more important or just to get a reaction from you so he can play with your emotions.

[@bohofoto6929]

My sister is the same. It took me forever to acknowledge that she’s really that way

[@RoxannBoykin]

@@bohofoto6929 I feel you I looked up to mine till my eyes were opened

[@maresnite]

Pathological liars.

[@Viktorious13]

Thank you for talking about Autism!!! I am certain that I don’t react the way people expect me to, in spite of all the masking I do. I feel like an alien trying to figure out how to communicate with humans. You are absolutely correct, we can't help it. I try, I really do, but my brain will never be neurotypical, no matter what I do.

[@goosebump801]

That sounds exhausting! I hope you’ve identified some self-care routines you find restorative 💐

[@hopeg8031]

“Smooshie Pippikens”?!😁😂🤣 Aww… your friend is pure marshmallow on the inside❤

[@NurseMadDbee]

As someone who never/rarely lies, I never suspect that others are lying and as a result I think I’m pretty gullible

[@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl]

If you are a people pleaser you lie just as much of who you are.

[@sandralibeau4795]

@@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl wow, that is very judgemental!

[@sandralibeau4795]

@@NurseMadDbee you're just a lady with integrity. It isn't valued in our society as much today.

[@sherryyoung2974]

Oh yes! Exactly. Amazing how fast they size up a person. A custom story/talk to each person to set up manipulation and abuse.

[@calliopec6903]

Thank you! This channel has absolutely high quality content ❤

[@suestory3046]

You are a treasure! Love the information you share and the kindness you exhibit. Truly a treasure!

[@lesleyewen-foster3629]

Bingo! Throughout my life I've noticed that people who want to rush into close friendship turnout to not be friends at all.

[@maggieb5326]

On first meeting with a psychopath observe for being scanned for weakness.

[@brendarudman8806]

The way he says"Do they absolutely love it too"😂 Love it Yes,I know people like this- mirroring,fawning behaviour ..then later ,the personality switch! They suddenly turn disagreeable

[@moneypennyjane9]

I met my ex partner's best friend at our house warming party, didn't think anything of him apart from a few moments where he said some things that made me think, "That's ... weird" and I knew that I didn't want to get in the river with him (it was a hot day and the guys were calling me to get in.) Shortly after he sent a friend request on facebook. I only added him because he was my (now) exes old best friend, but I didn't like him. He was arrogant. But through time, I noticed that he liked all the same kinds of things I liked, and so it began .... the most terrifying, mind-bending experience of my whole life. Re: the psychopathic stare - I saw a look in his eye the night he stalked me and sat directly behind me at a concert - he wasn't looking at me, but he was, if that makes any sense. I looked directly at him and he pretended to be looking at nothing in particular. The only way I can describe it is "dead" eyes. I never forgot that look though, and sometimes it still haunts me. Needless to say I ended up with PTSD.

[@ScottRouse]

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[@johnmcgrath6192]

As a fairly normal person being constantly asked questions comes across as a police interrogation, as rude and hostile and an attempt to dominate. Question after question without actually contributing to a conversation is not good manners.

[@kaddylady5853]

I find narcissists do that, it's hard for me to tell who is what. 😢

[@cindyflores564]

I dont have friends i just know a lot of people and Im HAPPY. I check EVERYONE OUT PASSES MY WAY.😁😊👍🏽

[@dananorth895]

The narcissist has the root/stunted personality of a small child that must always have its way/get what it wants. But with a malevolent twist. They don't deal very well with people/world/reality.

[@chilliwilly8053]

Watch for delusions and "how great they are" and "how the world (& you!) Should be...yes to check your gut feelings. Good luck people - 1in 10 deemed psychopathic or antisocial personality etc😮

[@BobTheSchipperke]

They say they are interested in everything you are interested in.

[@shirleymason3853]

I think that’s exactly how Colonel Parker conned Elvis too. Makes all the charm I’ve seen from boyfriends that I’ve quit

[@Carla-GenX]

I swear if my watch history is being "watched" 🕵👨‍💻 with the videos I watch of you being helpful and the Behavior Guys; I swear it's my ADHD and curiosity of humans that draw me to you and the other fellers 😉 My crainum lights up when there's a new video 🤩 Sending some cold Canadian love to yall 🇨🇦💓

[@Bytheirfruitsshall]

Who's watching you? The Al Gore Rhythm Band is. Scott knows knows everyone.

[@ghostednobrand116]

Thank you for talking about autism and explaining it perfectly. I don't know that we're lonely. I think we like to be alone because it's the only time we can truly be ourselves, the rest is a façade.

[@coffeeright9324]

If anyone is interested, the guy he mentions about 6 minutes into the video in reference to studies on deception is Aldert Vrij.

[@leecotton3242]

Thanks so much for speaking well of autistic folks. I consider myself an Aspie girl and what you said is, to my state of mind, both accurate and compassionate. Thanks again.

[@RobertaTourville]

Fascinating as usual! I can tell you are totally in your element Scott, you enjoy doing what you do, now that’s obvious 😊!!

[@tostyjoost]

28:00 in my opinion this is the nicest thing you ever said in these videos! had a tear in my eye.

[@RobertaTourville]

Scott, you are so kind ❤!

[@wendychavez5348]

Smooshy Pipikins has convinced me that Scott is a part-time psychopath! I love the story, and i love the unnamed friend that it's about.

[@brightpage1020]

Question - would one of Dr. Daniel Amen’s brain scans show patterns consistent with psychopathy? Could those scans be used as psych detectors?

[@Kari77251]

To the person who crosses his/her arms due to chronic pain - remember that a behavior doesn’t mean much of anything on its own. It takes clusters of behavior to create a specific meaning. If you need to cross your arms due to pain, that’s Ok. You can still portray openness to others by your facial features, your voice, how you position your body and feet, etc.

[@ScottRouse]

Nailed it.

[@wincile]

They size you up. See if you’re an easy enough target for whatever they feel like doing. They want min amount of effort for max amount of return. Bc you’re an object to them. Some objects are worth having and some not. Some people are worth playing with and some not. So step one for them is to observe you.

[@MissK504]

He found me on a dating site. That's where this started.

[@wincile]

@@MissK504 I hope you didn’t get hurt ❤️

[@goblin1226]

Hahaha the tough guy dog story is too good 😂 made me laugh out loud

[@RobertaTourville]

I am always learning something new from you!

[@jenjordan1832]

Scott, I like you. You’re awesome. Thank you!

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you Jen. 🙂

[@brightpage1020]

My guesses: - Taking control of the conversation? - Using the word “I” to start more than 72% of their sentences? - considering their feelings as paramount in importance but seeming confused that others have feelings or why that could be relevant to them. - making dark jokes at other’s expense? - what’s that German word for : gaining pleasure from others’ pain? Shneidenfruedan or something? Oops - sure I murdered that - no pun intended ;) My apologies both to psychopaths and Germans. No offense intended. - you get a feeling in the pit of your stomach. Your intuition might be bugging you while you try to put your finger on it. Something just seems… off or incongruous about the situation. They might say they feel disappointed while wearing a wry smile? That sort of thing? The outside appearance doesn’t seem to meet the impression? Like a WASP cussing like a sailor at a traditional post church Sunday Brunch at the country club with little kids at their table? Even though they dressed as fashionably as appropriately? That sort of thing? The sum of the parts seems to point in a direction that makes sense but the threats or harm they are issuing don’t seem to match their stated goals for the day?

[@wendieking4184]

I dare anyone to “show me their back”, and expect me to react. They turn around and find I’m not there anymore. I had it done to me and that’s how I reacted. I quietly left and I imagine when I didn’t respond they found out I was a bit like The Eagles: Already Gone. ( and feeling strong!)

[@clintkackson36]

Hi Scott, I'm a longtime subscriber and fan! This was a great video. Lots of useful information as usual. I appreciate your videos no matter the topic. That being said I have to respectfully ask you to please do a full video on Jennifer McCabe and Trooper Proctor's testimony from the Karen Read trial? Please!

[@ScottRouse]

Hi there Clint. I’ll take a look and talk to the guys and see what they think about doing that. Thank you so much for watching. 🙂👍

[@clintkackson36]

@@ScottRouse thank you! I am super stoked that you responded! Hope you and the guys are doing well!

[@joenisnapje712]

The first thing they do is “OBSERVE YOU” ‼️ The second thing is “ANALYZE YOU” The third thing is “BEFRIEND YOU” … and so on

[@BeingLifted]

To the person who is afraid they're to the person who is being stalked: in addition to seeing the police and keeping records, switch up your routines, too. If you normally go shopping on a certain night, go on a different day. Take different routes to work. Whatever you can change in your routine, coming and going, do. If you have to drink, don't go home alone or leave the house drunk. Those are some of the things the cops will tell you. You'll be fine if you keep your faculties together.

[@_Kayla_]

Scott, do we know whether psychopaths have to make a conscious effort to match and mirror others? Or is it just something they're so accustomed to doing that it almost becomes subconscious?

[@JLynne-dg9mh]

Loved your reassuring answer to the last viewer's question.

[@ScottRouse]

❤️

[@PaulaBIrish]

I Love a tough guy with a soft heart!!!

[@SueMiller-zu1pv]

Thank you Scott. Have a wonderful day 🌻

[@WylderWytch]

*Love, love, love* your touching observation to be patient and understanding with autistic people.

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you. I feel for those people.

[@RedKrow]

Scott you’re just so delightful. Your reassurance and compassion is also charming. I bet these traits are very disarming and useful in interrogation to build rapport. Do you think it helps in body language if you’re a person who cares a lot about people?

[@precisionfrequency]

I know the psychopathic stare. A guy I went to school with would stare, very little blinking, neutral expression almost everyday. I later worked with him and he would do the same thing. I never knew what to say about it, and I had no idea why he was doing it. He never threatened me personally, never said anything weird… but it was still creepy. No words. Still creepy.

[@dananorth895]

Drug babies often have an odd eye focal/crossed/missalined look due to interference during development to the optic nerve.(Also a sign to further neuroproblems). I've noticed more than a few have the same "evil" stare at times, which reflects their inner voice(s). The prefrontal cortex often (not always) isn't fully developed until early 20's in most males. But no guaranty it will fully develope in everyone!. Alcohol and drug use can interfere with it's proper developement, more so at even earlier and earlier ages. Then there's the parents, mothers in particular who have history/continue substance abuse while carrying child, thus interfering with proper fetal development. Particularly the brains wiring. Scary stuff, particularly since it's endemic across societies at this time.

[@InvisibleWarrior279]

Thank you for cutting to the chase and yes that is EXACTLY what a first interaction with a psychopath is like!

[@elizabethdevries8028]

Your channel is very informative, thoughtful and awesome.

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. 🙂

[@lovechangesus]

when I was 16 and driving in oceanside, I stupidly picked up a young male hitchhiker. as soon as we got going, he slid over and started touching me. I floored the car, started drived back and forth errratically, hand on the horn, while heading straight to the police department. when I pulled up, he disappeared so fast. I was lucky, stupid, and learned an important lesson. he had dark hair, a beard, and was fairly handsome. this was in 1976. I don't know if there were any serial killers in that area at the time.

[@qua7771]

Wow. Sounds like you did the right thing, and survived that ordeal. I've never picked up a hitchhiker, or got in a strange vehicle, but I met a lot of crazy people.

[@carlamartinez4728]

All the stupid naive things we did when we were young

[@dibutler9151]

So, you are confirming that most politicians *are* psychopathic. Bias-confirmed. AI is neither artificial nor intelligent. It is a large learning model based on pattern recognition. I scored a 24 on the Hare Psychopathy Test that you posted. I have always been bothered by the fact that I have varying degrees of empathy. I can see a story where thousands of people were killed in some tragic event and it doesn't illicit any empathy from me, but my daughter had a batch of quail hatch last week and one was born with a deformed beak and couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep well for days, I was compelled to get up throughout the night to try and give it food and water in a syringe. However, when it died, I felt nothing. I do not enjoy that part of my personality, but I also don't believe I can alter it.

[@sandralibeau4795]

@@dibutler9151 sometimes this is a result of an unhappy childhood. If you can't avoid abuse or beatings etc., you become helpless. When you become an adult, you try to fix certain things because you don't feel as helpless as you once did. Counselling with a Psychologist helps.

[@anon660]

Met psychopath who said we are soulmates. Fell hard for him. Come to find out he had been stalking me for at least 2 years prior to that meeting, and at least 1 year after that meeting. So scary I moved myself and children twice to get away.

[@ScottRouse]

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[@anon660]

@@ScottRousethanks for your channel, Scott! It helps!

[@sadhu7191]

Same but with a stray male cat

[@ad6417]

My son & I crossed paths with a sociopath 2 hrs ago at the community college admissions office. He was monitoring our whispered convo and interrupted us to tell us how he was from the same area we mentioned. Then gave us the sob story of how he just got out of prison for stealing drugs from an undercover cop. He kept talking, lapping up the fuel of our attention. He had glib superficial charm and easily told everyone who walked by about his criminal past.

[@avanellehansen4525]

Yikes!

[@brightpage1020]

@@ad6417 I hope you left the room. Safely and peacefully.

[@PJ_222]

Everything you just said, is Spot On!!! I got scammed but never again once you been through it, you recognize it 👍

[@juliebradley1184]

I love how you explain things in a way that is easy to digest! I hope you are doing well!

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you Julie. I am. 🙂👍

[@nacetroy]

Thanks Scott! - For Scott's listeners who may not be aware - be very careful of filling out any online "test," questionnaire or survey, anything that might temporarily get your guard down (e.g. your interest in the results of an online test, say, to find out if you're a "psychopath" or your IQ, dating profile, etc.), especially if the site asks for personal information, many of these things are fake or simply a gimmick in order to get data from you and your computer. Obviously, this doesn't pertain to the test Scott gave us, because he put the test up in the vid itself.

[@ScottRouse]

Those things bug me to no end.

[@vanilaaoverice]

Im only 2 minutes in, and im mow wondering if i clicked on a video about a psychopath or a politician

[@ScottRouse]

Don’t get me started.

[@vanilaaoverice]

@@ScottRouse maybe you should get started! Lol 😅 PS: I am not politically inclined in either direction but I find it fascinating to find out why people are, and to such a psychotic extent in many cases. Which types of personalities and what characteristics do these politicians have that are so appealing to masees and are deemed worthy of celebrating/worshipping or following I guess, to such an extreme extent? Part of it is definitely ideology and an incredible marketing campaign, but there is something to be discussed about the personalities that get picked for these positions, and that are eager to be in those positions in the first place

[@Hollyberry81]

My god, only 3 minutes in and this is so true! Happens exactly like this. Only lasts for a few months though 😔

[@ladiesyallcandothis232]

I’m a nurse and actually this is all very helpful. You deal with all types of people. Patients and the families. It’s as much mental work as physical. Some you have to pull things out of, others you have to determine if what they tell you is exaggerated or said to get certain responses for you. I’d love you or TBP could do something with medical interactions. It’s a really tough one.

[@akemi137]

Thank you Scott for another great video. I love learning with you. ☺️

[@bohofoto6929]

True story .. when I was a tween I smiled like a possum every single time I got in trouble with a teacher. 😅 I remember my teacher pulling me out into the hall to tell me to stop talking in class but I just stood there with a dumb grin on my face trying not to smile but I literally was terrified. I don’t know that smiling is lying. It can be uncontrollable.

[@dnd1007]

Scott, you're so truly kind.

[@johnmcgrath6192]

I can't stand love bombing, from a pschopath or a flatterer.

[@Swesum24]

@@johnmcgrath6192 💯

[@Viktorious13]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such an accessible and understandable way. I appreciate the additional material you reference, too!

[@katray7452]

It seems that they are setting you up to attach to them. Then the fun begins.

[@IdahoRanchGirl]

I always always shake my leg when I'm sitting, especially with my legs crossed. Sometimes it seems I couldn't even stop it if I tried. It'll automatically start going. My mom used to get really annoyed by it. Now my friends do. I'm 61, been doing it all my life.

[@marshaparsons6515]

Smoshy Pippikins?!! Absolute comedy.

[@terrioestreich4007]

Scott, you're so funny when you tell a story! Ha ha😊

[@radiantmessenger3369]

Smoochie Pippikins! 😁🐾🐾♥️♥️♥️

[@Narnus96]

Yeah “can you please stop staring at me dude you’re doing it again” “I’m not even looking at you” 😂😂😂😂 ❤ can’t help but find that funny ❤

[@Beautiful_Days9249]

First move of psychopath is the stare and they do not talk much and let you talk in order to glean that info. The one I met as well was the blacksheep of the family, as well needed bifocals, as well liked the bowl I liked, as well, as well. Yep, exactly. They listen and say the same things.

[@JuliaWallis-ie4wy]

Thank You sweetheart ❤️I learned so much from your videos and continue to do so. You have a great laugh Smoochie Pipikins!❤️

[@lavdejeva9079]

They listen and watch very carefully, study and afapt to everyone individually

[@somethingbambi875]

So I thought when he kept looking at me like that, he was in awe, or in love, but maybe he was just psycho after all... I heard something about that watching someone sleeping, he did, it was creepy, even if I was so in love I felt it before I woke up, like an animal about to hunt... yikes, I came out alive!

[@Mfer0077]

I mirror and emulate people to a T It's almost as if my entire personality has morphed into theirs. I know that this behavior is due to PTSD and it is very hard to turn off. I almost have to convince myself I don't like somebody in order for me to interact with them as a separate person.

[@deeross9720]

I have fallen for it all... why? You are helping me tremendously.

[@ScottRouse]

Yay! Thanks for letting me know. 🙂

[@foundgarden]

I think I'm raising a grifter... How do I stop?🤣 Seriously though, kids are masters at learning to ask for something way too big and then come in with a reasonable ask afterward.

[@SleepyLeeeee]

You know what's weird is when you are looking at something at a bit of a distance and somebody thinks that you are staring at them. They aren't even in your brain because you are so focused on that object? And you don't look away? Then they take that as a sign of a come on so they approach you. If it's normal to look away when somebody catches you looking at them (which I agree it is) then what does that say about them? They walk over awfully confident.

[@susannemontagnemslmtryt7885]

What tips me off is when they invade my space. Next thing is wanting to be my friend without checking me out first. OK 👍 people want to make sure you're OK 👍, too.

[@wendychavez5348]

As you asked the question about sitting with legs crossed & twirling the foot nonstop, i was doing exactly that. Im the only human in the house right now, & even the cat might be outside, so it doesn't necessarily mean anything--as Scott says, its an adapter. When im talking to someone i usually stop because it distracts my focus, though it really does help my world be more comfortable, the way rocking a baby's cradle might.

[@Lyrielonwind]

I'm usually alone and when I try to relax or meditate what I found the hardest is relaxing my face's muscles. Sometimes I wonder why since I'm alone and the reason is tension get stuck in your body. It can be anywhere in your body and we can make all kind of movements to self sooth even when we are alone at home. No need for being in a stressful situation for self soothing. That need to sooth may come from first hours in the morning after an unpleasant situation when you had to repress some emotion.

[@brightpage1020]

I heard from a talk with the real guy behind the “Catch Me If You Can” movie. He spoke at Google and it’s on YT about how to spot a scammer. He mentioned they are in a hurry: to get your money (or resources) yesterday. They’re under some proverbial ticking clock and it’s your responsibility to help get them out. If you say “no” or tell them what they don’t want to hear. Are they bummed, or disappointed but respectful in expressing that or do they guilt trip you or rage out? Do they steamroll your boundaries?

[@SarahC-x2v]

Thank you for showing my niece what compassion is. God bless you Mr Rouse❤

[@ScottRouse]

❤️

[@nancypiros9133]

Excellent Q&A Scott ! You have the best way of explaining and answer by example and makes the answer easier to absorb. Thank you Scott… There was someone in my life who was is a narcissist who wormed their way into my family. I only once made a joke in response to a question that was asked. I hear my relative saying “she kidding several times “ knowing they would get really angry. I never tried kidding with them again. Eyes were so dark you couldn’t see pupils dilate at all. I hadn’t realized how much I rely on watching eyes until then.

[@dorieakka2631]

You really made me laugh out loud with that story about your friend and his cute little dog! Thank you for that!

[@rozacielo7792]

Such an interesting field.. could listen for hours! Love your accent and voice too !

[@keyjones1638]

I bought Joe Navarro's books Dangerous Personalities and the Dictionary of Body Language. I'm really blown away by the results of his checklists in Dangerous Personalities. I know people who tick almost all of them.

[@karinakarina]

Regarding the AI: sometimes it feels like humans are only moving around information too. A lot of what comes out of humans is rehashed ideas. Sometimes it feels like some humans are robots but made with organic stuff.