When You’re Stuck in a Life You Never Wanted

[@nailahdawkins]

Why are you so quick to get back into another relationship? Can you not be alone? Grieve the relationship and take time to be alone.

[@maryamory1549]

This guy ,who admitted he was abused ,is so strong and will help other men to admit that they were abused by a woman in their life as well. I feel so happy when someone gets free of that. Life is so precious,so fleeting. I believe this is a Churchill quote “When you are going through hell- keep going”. Just found this show and now listen to it often.

[@JillCox-mm9un]

“Normal” is only a setting on your washing machine!

[@Author_I]

His statement about being the soil for others to grow and the gasoline in their engine hit me so hard.

[@Feliciations]

Isn't that everyone? I always tell people that expectations are the thief of joy. Try to love and live in the now, because life is fleeting. It's so easy to compare to Joe Schmoe down the street, but comparison is the other thief of joy.

[@littlelam3691]

What is the first thief?

[@Feliciations]

@@littlelam3691 expectations!

[@lubnafawzy-qureshi4075]

Thank you for discussing OCD. So many of us have loved ones with OCD who we have no idea how to support without falling into family accommodations traps. You spoke to your caller with kindness, understanding and the need to empower themselves through accountability. All things that not only help them but those they love. So thank you!! ❤

[@halothreekiller]

You won’t find one clip of John asking a woman that was abused why she looks for abusive men, and here we are with him asking this guy that. Johns double standards when talking to men are absolutely insane if you watch enough of these

[@Holy_ShihTzu]

Hi, current research suggests people tend to not consciously realize red flags because it feels "familiar" if you grew up in an abusive home. It's a murky area because sometimes people deep down know they're being treated wrongly, but are in denial since they had to survive in the past with denial as a main coping mechanism, such as when they were a child. The survival programming can run very deep, and sometimes people can't see it, sometimes they can. Since there are children involved, this may play into why he is taking a blunt approach of holding someone responsible for having that programming although I agree with you it's not the caller's fault they were abused. I think it's best to focus on encouraging people to take accountability for creating change in dating patterns and empowering ability to discern red flags but regardless of gender, language should be careful to avoid sounding blameful.

[@nikstar1313]

Bc framing questions to m or f is different 😂

[@minnax8939]

My daughter used to put the fallen toys on shelves in toy shop. I thought she would turn out to be obsessive but she did not. When teenager, and still now her bedroom is a war or disaster zone 😊

[@Kevin.Grindel]

Expectation is also the road to resentment.

[@melmel7011]

Im sorry hey

[@MarinaM-o6p]

But to expect love and peace it’s the right expectation to have .

[@tylerbouck3555]

​@@bellamichelle6248lay your burdens down at the feet of Jesus, he is the Prince of Peace! Ask him to come into your heart and he will!

[@kellibuzzard9431]

Without expectations, we're dead. Spouses expect each other not to be unfaithful. Kids expect to be safe at home. Etc. I do agree, tho, that entitlement def leads to research.

[@nikstar1313]

Yes, unspoken expectations is premeditated resentment …JD ..my mother in a nutshell.

[@traceycurtis1005]

This sounds exactly like my friend Ben but hes never been married. I pray he can break the cycle of toxicity.

[@sb2017.]

Would be nice to hear her side as well

[@egrace138]

That devil horn sign statue Dr Delony has on his shelf behind him 👀. I love this show though I’ve gotten some insight into my own issues with tidbit gems 😅

[@MisterNightfish]

Yea, no offense to Trevor but I don't know if people who have serious self esteem issues need to be lifecoaches. It's kinda like having a financial advisor who's bankrupt.

[@jennyberger6688]

John delony your amazing! We love you! I wish we could start a group of women that are brave enough to be friends. I can’t find them 😮

[@semosancus5506]

Friendship requires bravery?

[@jennyberger6688]

Apparently for women

[@Michelle-js5kh]

I found a fierce awesome group of women when I joined Roller Derby

[@lorraineb5136]

If you're trying to make new friends as an adult, absolutely it does. It means making yourself vulnerable to being rejected. @@semosancus5506

[@jennyjunemoon-walker8739]

Hi Jenny! Im brave. My ladies are my world. Join us!

[@CaToRi-]

To the first caller: Do one of your parents were abusive and the other parent allowed it? Because is common for people to search and redo what is familiar, even if it’s not the best.

[@captinplanet2007]

got the new book ordered today man super excited

[@mightymouse9001]

Damn Deloney got that rizz this call. Did I use rizz correctly? I’m old

[@nathansimpson5721]

no, definately didn't use it correctly

[@COINsimp2024]

No, lol

[@mightymouse9001]

@@COINsimp2024 you gotta be cappin’ me.

[@mightymouse9001]

@@nathansimpson5721 I’m pretty sure my use of the word was straight bussin’, no?

[@0ptixs]

29:33 man, I've been fighting with my 2 1/2 year old bedtimes. Every night it is this giant fight, and I try to be patient. I feel I'm handling it the best I can but all that to say I am jealous beyond belief

[@lubnafawzy-qureshi4075]

I have a husband and daughter with OCD. It’s a blessing and curse. Trust me it’s not fun seeing them melt down when they’re one min late for something or a book is in the wrong order.

[@0ptixs]

@@lubnafawzy-qureshi4075 I've learned a lot since I made this comment. And I have come to believe that just about everything in this life is both a blessing and a curse. It's just up to us to see both

[@MarinaM-o6p]

Pace and love …..I wish all men will actively pursue and execute it every day too !

[@marisolpooh1]

Great show ❤Dr Jhon I pulled the trigger and ordered my dream cloud matress 😅❤! Dave Ramsey wouldn’t be happy with me lol 🤣🤑🤑💳💸💵

[@bellamichelle6248]

I’m Trevor. Seriously “I just keep going”

[@kathigratton2286]

Wow just to try out for a navy seal is amazing!

[@audramitchell9894]

My ex watched allot of sports , he viewed relationship as a competition . He thought I wanted to compete with him . There was a misunderstanding about his view of wemon . There for he thought wemon where mean . Some are however , there is a difference between a wholesome person and a competitive one .

[@kathigratton2286]

What we would call dating the same type of people that ends bad. His picker is broken !!

[@CoffeeSA96]

Is the first caller only marrying tiktok women?

[@itisAlex_]

To the second caller, 2 year olds copy behavior and they enjoy being little helpers. Stop over thinking it!

[@lubnafawzy-qureshi4075]

They have a hard time stopping “thinking” about it. OCD is all about rumination (repetitive thought). Not so easy to control. Be grateful you don’t have OCD.

[@kathigratton2286]

I would put myself to bed as a kid!!

[@elizagooler-5889]

Every child who receives physical punishment by ,,,loving,,,parents,they become physically abusive partners.Corection thru slapping

[@icecreamgirlrockyroad3547]

Mine closes doors lol normal

[@lks5846]

It’s always someone else’s issue

[@joamigg]

All I’m going to say is watch what he says when women say they are being physically abused. He first takes a moment and say “this is not your fault. He is responsible for controlling his anger” BUT when this guy says my wife physically abused me he says “what makes you CHOOSE physically abusive women?” My problem is John changes his stance depending on if he is talking to a woman or man. He holds men accountable and then tell women it’s not their fault when the exact same thing occurs to both. The more i listen to him the more I’m disgusted by his lack of consistency when it comes to treating both genders the same.

[@marycarricaburu3683]

I don't remember what he said, but I do agree that women choose to stay in abusive marriages.

[@mahimathakur6251]

Its not about genders. The caller said he also had an encounter before the second marriage where he was in an abusive relationship. It shows that it's a pattern in his ability to choose a partner. There's a difference.

[@joamigg]

@@mahimathakur6251 it's absolutely about genders. He has had women who have come in saying they have been in multiple relationships that consist of the same problem and the first thing he tells them is that they aren't crazy and it's not their fault. I don't disagree with his advice I'm just saying he's much more loving and soft toward women in the same scenario.

[@britbrat2793]

Because women and men are different and think differently. So that means they are going to process differently and need different approaches.

[@philipbrazis8732]

Ruth here, Dave Ramsey ok with making less? 😅😅😅 I think not, he has some good idea but ...

[@normantheforeman9866]

You called about your kid cleaning up after himself?

[@lubnafawzy-qureshi4075]

She called about OCD. Don’t disparage something you’re ignorant about. Have compassion and get educated.

[@icecreamgirlrockyroad3547]

❤

[@loreleiletslivetogether3767]

He sounds like he has a strong victim mentality, I suspect you’re hearing a one sided story

[@icecreamgirlrockyroad3547]

Crazy 2 times he was with violent chicks hmmm

[@ZuitVideos]

Female: "My husband finanically provides so I can stay home with our kid. My home is a safe place with him but it bothers me that he only talks to me thru text when he's at work and doesnt tell me what to cook for dinner, how can I better communicate my needs and help him see the value I bring as a SAHM?" Dr. D: "HE'S A MONSTER! Disappear for a week or get a diivorce and move to another state!" Male: "My marriage has ended because my wife was physically abusive to me in front of my son." Dr. D: "What is it about you that caused you to put yourself in this situation?"

[@littlelam3691]

This is just completely false. I guess you see what you want to see. Watch more videos.

[@Feliciations]

Male: blames women for everything wrong in the world. Wonders why he doesn't have a partner.

[@aprilwashington96]

I agree, BUT, I think he’s looking at it like Management and Employees. If the business is failing, it’s always because of management, never the employees. I think that’s why he’s harder on men (the leader and head of the home). But me, I’m like Judge Judy. I call it as I see it.