Struggling to Choose What You Want in Life?

[@dianaprince7713]

First caller, please get in with a trauma therapist who also understands hoarding and grief. Yes, that niche does exist. Blessings to you.

[@JeffHynes]

I started a D&D group that meets at my house on Sundays so my son can see and hear our silliness.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Second caller’s son sounds so similar to my eldest’s experience in high school. Turned out that his first girlfriends mother was essentially grooming him, continuing a relationship AFTER her daughter broke up with him. Manipulating him and keeping him tied emotionally to her daughter who was sleeping around with multiple “friends” of his. We solved for this by reporting the woman to the police, filing a protection order. Pulled him out of school, homeschooled him for a year, then to college. He’s 22 now and married, with a child on the way. Don’t take anything at face value and do NOT trust anyone❤

[@abbyxiong3931]

💯👍 You protected your kid.

[@nilgiridreaming]

First caller got JD to use his astounding insight into a hoarding / clutter issue. Lightbulb moment! Deep reason behind my own cluttered home became clear. Grief is a big part for me, I think. JD thank you! Lot’s of work for me to do to get rid of this stuff & to deal with my internal ‘stuff’! 🙏Namaste!!!

[@silksatinsilver1]

First caller was the most anxious human who’s called the show in a long time! Her anxiety got more and more intense with every minute she talked (often over Dr. Delony’s advice) 😞 my heart hurts for her and prays she finds relief from the pain and suffering

[@SimplicityForGood]

then his advice was not very professional or helpful to say the least, what kind of doctor would add fire to an already mess of hell?

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

​@@SimplicityForGoodWhy do you say his advice wasn't helpful?

[@LoveIsKindBeNice]

I came looking for this comment. It was hard listening to her. She's so anxious she won't even take a breath to stop and listen. It's also like she's bringing up her issues then proceeding to answer them herself (talking over John). Can't imagine what she is like in her daily interactions. Hope she finds the help she needs - if she is even willing to stop and listen over her own loud thoughts to hear anyone else.

[@JulieSchori]

I found Dr Deloney from Dawn as well. They are both awesome!

[@loritawde3972]

I am so sorry! I was a wreck sharing something really embarrassing in front of 100 thousand viewers! I know Italk really fast when I get nervious but my friends encouraged me to go for it. The letters to my mom were really helpful. Thanks for you well wishes!

[@jadedixon3641]

Yes, straight A's can be a trauma response. That's why, in my past life as a middle school teacher, I worried about my students with good grades too. They usually were ignored by most everyone else because they had good grades and did not have behavior issues, but they could be just as much at risk as the other kids.

[@or4257]

That's my story. Thank you for your large heart!

[@BookSquirrelUK]

I rent a small studio flat, and have very little storage space, so it feels cluttered super easily. I’ve just cleared out loads of stuff I don’t use, don’t wear etc, and it feels so much better! It also meant some good donations to a local charity shop, which is a bonus.

[@AletaBoyette]

I am always decluttering/ downsizing... it's a chore but well worthwhile.

[@amysmiles9751]

I am always trying but ending without follow through.

[@bestbudsourchannel4807]

I love Dawn, The Minimal Mom!

[@Jleannifer]

First caller was proving his point during the call that she needs a REAL support group & not just fb or online. She wouldnt stop talking & being a story teller to hear what he had to say & that is exactly why she needs actual ppl she can see standing in front of her to listen to her long winded self. Lord it was too much! He is so patient bc i could NEVA! Call for advice then tell him why he isn't right? Smh

[@nettyb3320]

I can appreciate the chat with the last caller. Your friends have seasons sometimes and it was refreshing to hear that others go through it. I had a friend from 1st grade and at 35 it shifted bc I had a third child and all she would say when we got together was, "That's why we only had 2 kids." She was choosing to not be in relationship with me. It was hard to step out of it but it was a healthier choice in the end.

[@smith899]

I didn’t loose friendships, but I had people say over and over, “Why are you having a third,” (and we are Catholic) or even worse, “Oh, you’re trying for a girl now?” (We had two boys first.) I truly do not think people realize how rude it is!!! My second pregnancy had a test come back that there was a good chance of chromosomal issues with the baby. Turned out to be a false positive, but it made me brave when pregnant with my third child! I would answer, “No, we prayed to God for a healthy child, not the sex of the child.”

[@alandalemorris]

😊😊 😊😊😊😊

[@alandalemorris]

l😊

[@alandalemorris]

L😊😊😊😊😊

[@hwinny2]

It’s so sad when she said “the Demons are so big I can’t think about them quotes when she doesn’t realise those demons are making it very very difficult to not listen, but hear what you were saying. It’s like all the pores of her inward self are closed to any input.

[@hazelmill20]

Lori didn’t call for advice. She called to talk about herself and tell some stories 😂

[@anthill1510]

She needs a therapist. She needs a professional to talk through all of these anxieties coming up two times a week for an hour, not 15 minutes on a call.

[@bettybutterbean5759]

There is none so blind as those who WILL NOT SEE! Shut up and listen.

[@Bambina336]

Good Lord, I've never heard word "Yeah" so many times as in that call with Christine...

[@Triciabat311]

Nauseating, right?

[@ThisGuyRightHere353]

You rock, Dr. Delony! I pre-ordered your book about a month ago and I can't wait to get it. Thank for all you do. Keep partying. haha

[@debbiedoyle4491]

So grateful for you Dr. John, enjoy your videos❤

[@Whatorwellsaid21]

They should teach a class in high school about core values for successful relationships. Nothing religious or virtuous just teach kids how to spot a compatible partner and how to respect others. A lot of these people calling seem to have rushed into marriage or ignored obvious red flags.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Yeah that would turn out great. Spoiled little communists who’ve never actually worked a day in their lives teaching our children about “core values” and principles for a “successful relationship”… taught by those who have never had a relationship. Would literally be like that single girl/nutjob Pearl teaching married women how to be a wife.🫤

[@pimaggot]

Do we really want the government to teach kids about relationships?

[@jennifert2953]

Amen! They should also teach money management.

[@abbyxiong3931]

Problem is how do kids deal with their problems when the parent or guardian isn't even dealing with their own stuff and avoids it all? That's telling kids they should stop being a kid and be an adult because the adults don't feel like doing their job as parent.

[@alandalemorris]

⁠ll

[@beverlyhayshouston2770]

My Mama died in 2005 and I’m still not over it. I don’t know how to let go. Maybe I don’t want to.

[@amysmiles9751]

We don't have to forget them. We just can't let it hold us back in our own lives. We need to find who we are and continue to make them proud.❤I talk about my grandma all the time and she lives through me.

[@bettybutterbean5759]

Words of wisdom from the great Scott Rouse. Don't go down the hole with him because then you're both in the hole! Get help for you. I have clinical depression caused by absolutely no outside factors whatsoever. I didn't even know that's what was wrong because I have a great life. My brain just doesn't know! 🤣

[@abbyxiong3931]

It's not s phase. It's a lifestyle! Hey can Dr. John do an interview with Brent Smith, lead vocalist for Shinedown?💯

[@jessicacamp22]

Love when Dr. Delony quotes a MCR song! 😭🙌🏻

[@Triciabat311]

Could Christine say, “Yeah” a few thousand more times? We didn’t hear it enough. 🙉

[@tessaoshea5697]

Chance that the lady will read those letters out to people sitting round her in a circle-0% out of 100%.

[@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat]

45:03 😂🎉😂😂😂 Hilarious! This WAS awesome.. "Happiness Intervention" ❤ We have decided you are too happy & don't prioritize your time with us. How about instead, "We miss you!"

[@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat]

Caller 2 Son's life sounds exhausting. Prayers for him. Depression sucks and makes everything hard. Does he have ADHD, Anxiety, OCD and or Dyslexia? Life was an uphill for me, wish I had known about the above when I was in school.

[@debbielockhart7762]

It sounds totally like ADHD and the anxiety that often goes with it to me. And they are putting WAY too much pressure on him for grades and homework. He most likely needs ADHD treatment.

[@sarahr2943]

Love that you ended with My chemical romance 😍😭😭😭

[@abbyxiong3931]

Omg me too!

[@jordanoswald831]

Hey bud. I'm 30 with a 8 6 and 2 year old. My wife has done alot of things over are relationship. To me marriage is a legality. The relationship is everything. Lately over the past few years she has drank an abused me heavily. The physical I can get past. But the emotional and mental things I can't. She's cheated, abused, lied, etc. I want to love and forget but I can't. What you got?

[@blueseptember2174]

Oo, flip this around and it's me. The physical I cant get past though because he is so much stronger, he could kill me. I feel like it's over but that depresses me for so many reasons. I really did love him. But it only takes one person self destruction to break up a marriage and family.

[@bunnybubs757]

💃💃💃💃as far away as possible

[@tinam761]

Write her a letter… you’ll probably need to make a couple drafts before getting just right. Let her know, calmly and without name calling etc … what is required to stay married to you and live in the house with the kids. Rehab etc. AA … Keep track of any evidence you currently have in case you need it for court. If she doesn’t adhere to not abusing and controlling her drinking… tell her she has to move out. You may consider separation … she leaves and you keep the kids. If she doesn’t see that as a wake up call you may need to file for divorce. Good luck!

[@hadenanderson563]

a couple of things: Not long-term solutions YOUR Health and safety are crucial. Think critically. Stay ALERT!! (Don't get hammered. Steer clear of anything that could impair you at all.) Be absolutely Clear in your language and word choice - even if you have to run it past someone. Spoken, Texted, Posted, whatever. You, Look in the Mirror. Don't let your female relatives post anything socially. Consider thoughtfully your resources. People, funds, available services. There will be meltdowns. Breathe and keep it together.

[@jennifert2953]

She doesn't want you or the marriage my Friend. So sorry

[@terrabunville517]

Grateful for dr John 😊

[@TheDriller100]

in 10 years, you won't be friends with ANYONE OF THEM... the guys i considered my brothers are now only an acquaintance ...

[@laceycash5320]

Love your videos! Dawn is also how I discovered you. ❤️ I read your book Own your Past and already got your new book on order.

[@margaridamorais8485]

As a former teenager emo in her 30's who just got a tattoo saying "it's not a phase, mom!", I absolutely loved this episode :D

[@rachelmelendez9255]

The second caller that dad doesn't want to connect to his kid

[@allil87]

Great show

[@styyle310]

She knows how to 😢over talk😏

[@GooniesGirl]

Why do her friends have to be labeled as selfish because they miss their friend? What if she has abandoned her friends? There are three sides to every story (hers, the friend, and the truth). Let's be honest. We all have that one (or more) freind who gets into a relationship and then ghosts their friend group. Then inevitably, the friend's relationship ends and they come crawling back to the friend group. You can be in a happy, healthy relationship and not be totally consumed by it at the same time. Don't be a 👻. Figure out how to be a decent friend and have a healthy relationship.

[@shannonspoelman4139]

I was thinking the same thing. Based on what was said on the call it's hard to tell if her friends are just being unreasonable/unsupportive or on the flip side could they be getting caught up in young love and neglecting important relationships that they need, which is easy to do. Yes, if you are in a serious committed relationship that should be the priority. Friendships will shift with life changes, but you still need to tend to the other relationships in your life too. When the relationship is young it's easy to think you only need each other, but there will come a day when you are happily married but still in need of other friendships.

[@Mileaddict]

When’s the times ppl can call in. Got some things to deal with. You know what your talking about and id love your advice

[@bonnienewell4040]

From what i understand, people email the show on the website and the producers set up a time for them to call in.

[@Mileaddict]

Ok thanks. Il look into it

[@justinbowman2126]

You can email or they have a voicemail number

[@Simply.C]

Looking forward to this information.

[@actuallyterry]

If Lori says Dawn, The minimal mom one more time, Im gonna scream.

[@Tionaintown876]

😂😂😂😂

[@chrisdawson3859]

😂😂😂😂

[@loritawde3972]

OMG I am so sorry! I was so nervous sharing my problems in front of thousands of people. it's just Dawn was the only time I even thought possible to heal a hoarding disorder I have been living with for years. I can't believe I'm finally free.

[@GooniesGirl]

​@@loritawde3972Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉

[@abbyxiong3931]

​@@loritawde3972I followed Dawn too. You're doing great.

[@tiarachivers]

💗Preordered!

[@megalopolis2015]

Joking about bathroom stuff, especially in public, isn't grown up. It's absurdly popular, even in kids movies, which is less than appropriate. In fact, it's a socially acceptable grooming method. If you talk about certain body parts for one kind of function that's supposed to be private to anyone, even in church, then discussing the same parts doing other types of private functions becomes perfectly normal, too. Our words have power, let's use them wisely.

[@Jss766]

I got married at 20 delony, I was an adult!! Taylor swift 15/16 whatever the song is lol

[@Westernkoala]

Id buy your book but it only ships in the u.s. i would pay the 20 for the audible and ebook supplement though so you dont need to ship! Is that an option???

[@Mimi-Mimi668]

Sons mental health caller: what if the son has learning disability

[@heidimartin859]

John's interrupting and yelling is stressing me out.

[@lanalovexo9842]

Same, I love his videos but he does that so often 😩

[@Tionaintown876]

Kind of annoying that this first caller just rambling on and on and not listening to Doctor John. It’s his show and other people are listening you have to respect everyone’s time and not just go on and on

[@loritawde3972]

I am so sorry! I talk really fast when I get nervous, I totally apologize for being a wreck. It was super scary but my friends said to go for it.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@loritawde3972You are amazing! What John said about how proud he was of you is so true. You are changing your family tree. Good luck with continued healing and peace! ❤️

[@Tionaintown876]

@@loritawde3972 We all do things when we get nervous. Hey, identifying a problem is the first step to changing it if you so desire

[@beverlyhayshouston2770]

@@loritawde3972You did a great job. Don’t listen to the negativity.

[@lisaemond6172]

She is not listening

[@kathirodden6109]

Is she advertising for minimal mom?

[@sunshinerose9747]

U

[@TerriBennett-nf4vb]

She? Needs to stop over talking him