When Your Feelings Take Control: Understanding Acting Out

[@bobby2bend]

Today I learned I might not be as self aware as I thought

[@RR-dh4jh]

Amen 💯 💯

[@jasminvomwalde7497]

Ditto

[@rowanperegrine3562]

It’s a good sign of self-awareness if you’re self-aware enough to know when you’re not as self-aware as you think you are 🤔

[@high1x_]

@@rowanperegrine3562🤯

[@tayzonday]

I almost always believe I am a victim or believe that somebody else is a victim when I “act out.” I have learned to be more reluctant to embrace and internalize either belief. I used to hate the rhetoric of “don’t believe in victimhood” because it can be used to dismiss structural injustice and reify meritocratic individualism that our oligopoly does not deserve. I have since accepted that my internal Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is not an adjudication of my humanistic ethics.

[@rosy4213]

Tony is me. I'm Tony. I've been taking psychiatric medication for 3 yrs now for epileptic psychosis and trust me only your videos provide me the needed comfort and knowledge my own doctors are unable to even identify. I feel valid listening to you rather than talking to my psychologist who just repeats textbook stuff. Thank you for your content. ❤

[@GeminiSunrise06]

You should try to change your therapist

[@rosy4213]

@@GeminiSunrise06 3 yrs and changed 4 major psychiatrists. It just doesn't help ppl like me. We're doomed to begin with. I've yet to meet any acknowledging doctor.

[@GeminiSunrise06]

@@rosy4213 that's sad. Sounds like they're not professionals.

[@rosy4213]

@@GeminiSunrise06 apparently that's how professionals are in my country.

[@beareroflife]

​@@rosy4213mine too. U from USA?

[@TexanWineAunt]

Dr Tracey Marks is a talented communicator.

[@RR-dh4jh]

And educator

[@SweetUniverse]

My mother always took her frustration & unhappiness out on me. She actually admitted that.

[@Kingatje]

That's terrible... Although to find a silver lining there, she admitted her fault (which is not enough in terms of a solution, but it's one step). That admission can at least set you a bit more free: it's not your fault. It wasn't your fault. ❤

[@notpub]

Gawd, that's terrible. I hope you are now getting the support you need and the real love you deserve. Stay strong.

[@JudahSixteen11]

Goofy c u next Thursday, my mom did the same but wouldn't admit it.

[@socheataweimer2244]

I’m 24 and I’ve had about a dozen or more jobs in my 18-24 years of life. I never really understood why I kept job hopping. Done part of me would start making excuses to not come to work or why I’d be late. And I agree it’s not laziness it’s being stressed and not being able to handle them correctly. Another thing I’m always angry with my parents. I’m stressed, anxious and battling my emotions inside that I take it out on them or more recently my boyfriend. For example recently, I was getting frustrated that my boyfriend didn’t answer any calls during a 24 hour period and went to my parents house frustrated taking out on them. When my parents gave me feed back I refused and kept yelling my frustrations. I “acted out”. I’m the type where it’s either fight or flight in problems. In that moment it was fight. I’ve realized that exercise is a way to calm me down quicker whether it’s walking or just doing jumping jacks. Sometimes even going into a separate room and taking 10 to 15 deep breaths helps. I feel like the reason I “act out“ in many situations is because I don’t know how to deal with certain problems, the correct way. Again I’m 24 and I have been babied. I feel like a lot even up until this day. I have not had a Person who was hard on me to do things right or to take different situations the right way. I really connected to this video.

[@Nowitsmeira]

I’m struggle with parent and wanting to have child even not getting married making me have fantasy with this sexual desire. Just thinking if I have child , I will be depressed

[@marleyhill34]

I've been diagnosed with autism and personality disorder. I also have childhood trauma. That's why my brain keeps self-sabotaging. My therapists were not hard on me because I'm already hypercritical of myself a repeat of childhood. So my therapists had to teach me compassion and show me other ways of dealing with my intense emotions that are not maladaptive or dysfunctional. I'm not perfect but I'm having to learn now about dealing with autistic triggers. I have insomnia and it ruins my ability to go to work on time on top of the autism. But I do explain to my managers at work what is happening to me and human resources and occupational health are aware that I have neurodivergent disabilities. I have therapy to keep me from doing the most self-sabotaging things and diagnosis is a bit of relief and I don't feel like a bad person anymore. Just a person with a wonky brain. Lol! As long as I go to work and ask for a break I'm ok. I get anxiety attacks before work and my brain tries to dissociate that's why I'm often late for work...on top of the insomnia. I'm only finding out that I'm overstimulated in my job at age 42 and I've had this job part-time for the last 10 years!! No wonder my brain is tired!

[@mariee3658]

Sorry I know this is long but please read it it may help you.. Yes I have gone through this too I’m 26 and from 18 I’ve had maybe 30 jobs some I forgot I had lol and it took me to lose my last job and potential good relationship to wake up and realize I have a bad temper/anger issues/ high anxiety and so much self doubt and low self esteem from never feeling good enough because I had a single parent who was hard on me and I held the title of the responsible obedient child which caused stress to be perfect and that kept me from feeling worthy in adulthood because there was no one constantly praising me and I was hyper sensitive to criticism so In turn I didn’t feel worthy of making or saving money( seeing my parent struggle with money have me a negative relationship with money like money is bad or they never had money to get me what I want I must not be worth having it so I spent it when I got it) or being in environments with people of different personalities made it hard to function because I didn’t know how to “act”. I’ve never knew who I was and still learning I always felt like I had to be a certain way in work settings in order to be accepted I felt like I had to fit in but when I didn’t it made me feel depressed so I’d quit or I took things way too personal instead of solving things logically instead of emotionally which caused me to quit too(it’s so many reasons but this would be a book long). It’s so much that I’ve discovered that I can’t say fully but I want to say look into why you feel you quit all the time and take things one by one and dissect how you’ve come to behave in such fight or flight maybe your parents didn’t support or protect you like they should have and now your trying to do everything on your own and it’s overwhelming you and causes you to be angry or you lack boundaries because you feel undeserving of being truly respected as you are and when someone crosses them you lash out because you feel taken advantage of.. I have always operated in my weaknesses due to negative programming and now I’m seeing I have so many strengths for example instead of thinking I can’t hold a job down so I continue to prove that right by constantly quitting I think about the jobs I have held done for a long period of time or a after school activity (when I was in school) or if you are a constant college drop outs like me I’m starting to reprogram my brain by stating the fact that I finished kindergarten through 12th grade I can complete atleast one course of college..

[@assatataughtme3552]

Your mentally insane until 25. It's ok give it a year.

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi there, I hope it will get better for you! Now, that I read your comment I suddenly realize what helped for me when in rage! A LED strip Lamp that has the possibility to have it's lights going from left to right and vice versa with adjustable intensity, speed and colors! Like they have in EMDR therapy! As soon as I look into that light I feel some resistance for a few seconds and then miraculously I calm down! The only thing is when I am raging it most of the time is not available or I don't have the sense to think about getting it and turn it on. I have a few different kind LED-strips that can do that! Maybe something for you to consider and try! (For me the color green works well, but is diffferent for everybody!)

[@OnyxOverkill]

I have always acted out due to my ptsd and OCD when im scared or overwhelmed, and I give into compulsions of self harm every time, I didnt realize how bad it was till I jumped out of my bf's car going 45mph, and got a huge hole in my leg. down to the bone, he was so scared for me, and it made me realize how bad i need to be aware of my feelings and thoughts becuz everything happens so quickly that we fail to take a moment to process anything. I am getting better everyday with therapy and a very supportive bf. thank you

[@ameliahenderson4955]

These videos are so helpful. Now, I completely understand why I lash out sometimes. Now, I can really work on recognizing why and try to fix it ❤

[@Buster-im5so]

Wow. That's me. I punish myself by acting out... Oh Lord, now I'm aware. Thanks. Wow. Years of counselors didn't help me like you do.

[@nowchatshow4099]

Yesterday was the first time this year that I've started punching myself in the head. This is something I used to do regularly when I feel like I'm failing and out of control, overthinking. I guess this is a sign of acting out.

[@albket1892]

I am an arabic GP doctor so I am used to English videos but I’m really surprised &touched when there was an Arabic voice…when I was asked about some mental health stuff , I had some difficulty in recommending videos …. Thanks that so thoughtful of you

[@SaintOrCinema]

I loved the video but think it’s extremely important to clarify that severe forgetfulness is very rarely - almost never - a subconscious anger at the other person. If it is very out of character and other circumstances align, then yes - I do agree with you. But there could be many underlying medical issues and even age related issues that really aren’t out of anger, passive aggression, or resentment. (Small example, but my own temporary forgetfulness was as a result of long covid and had absolutely nothing to do with the people I was letting down. I felt terrible about it.) I appreciate this is not what you’re saying, but I do think some viewers will interpret partner’s or colleagues’ forgetfulness as resenting them and it almost never is.

[@Chris_No_Columbus]

Thank you for saying this!!! I suffer from long covid as well and it’s been a nightmare. It has affected my memory and learning capabilities. The brain fog 😢 My ex used to think I was intentionally forgetting things and I used to feel terrible.

[@calebpagan2226]

ADHD, Traumatic Brain Injuries, Dementia, Certain autoimmune conditions and other health issues can all cause memory problems. Not everything is emotionally connected.

[@neftalitran3789]

Oh wow. I had no idea I was acting out. I knew I would do crazy making.

[@cindywambugu4308]

Your videos are my new addiction

[@divinelyguided1144]

I ❤ free therapy!!! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@RR-dh4jh]

Amen, and I have insurance 😅

[@kimberlysanchez5321]

A not needed reply because this video is from a licensed individual who knows so much better. It’s therapy and education, for solutions. That’s therapeutic to me just saying.

[@divinelyguided1144]

@@kimberlysanchez5321 I am a mental health professional myself so for me it works, but I do understand that for others it may not.

[@JeffreyWilliams-dr7qe]

@@RR-dh4jh They'll be impressed. For sure

[@faithwhite3175]

I am 66 soon to be 67 years old ..... I was young before the time of the internet, and wondered what was wrong with some people I've encountered. Unfortunately, I have had two men in my life who definitely had multiple psychological issues, disorders........ This has helped me understand the personality disorders with them, and others in my family!!!Too many to text. Not even my nursing degree addressed anything other than basic Schizophrenia that , I recall. Even Alzheimer's and dementia was not that common 45 years ago I really appreciate your videos !!!! I is a wonder that I have survived all of their abusive behaviors towards me. At least now , I know the reasons for their behaviors.

[@Chelsie-cz7sk]

This video just roasted me but I’m so thankful for it. I was in a really bad emotional spiral before watching this and feel much calmer now that I understand what’s going on and some steps I need to take to stop acting out. I’m a passive person but internally I have been freaking out lately and I’m sure I’ve been passive aggressive to everyone around me.

[@c.brownell8618]

Thanks for your clarity and the time you give to us bewildered individuals. Your explanations help me a lot.

[@RR-dh4jh]

First of all, this came at the right time, number 2. This describes me to its entirety. Number 3, I was just trying to work on myself and discovered these, "Acting out" or "Anger," and things triggers me a lot. Thanks a lot, Doctor Tracey. You are a remarkable psychiatrist 👍💯

[@frankiemedina8436]

Guilty! I needed this.

[@deesimmons1301]

Dr. Marks, I love your work in educating the public about mental health. I have learned from the KZbin videos and appreciate your time in debunking the myths about mental health. Thank you🎉❤🎉❤

[@jeremywilliams1664]

I’m loving this series so far!

[@jeremywilliams1664]

It’s always good to know about mature and immature ego defenses and internal local of control vs external locus of control

[@RR-dh4jh]

​@@jeremywilliams1664Amen Jeremy 💯

[@cherylcalogero3330]

Hi Dr Tracy… I NEVER miss your videos. I’ve learned so much! Thank you, your work is appreciated.

[@SuperBettyxoxo]

Tony is definitely me. It's the idea of giving any kind of input when you close your eyes to my struggle or biases that prevent support. I could see myself exploding so this is right on time. It comes from prolonged frustration for me from being sort of stuck between a rock and a hard place.

[@maroua_9797]

This explains so much . Thank you doctor tracy ❤

[@RR-dh4jh]

Dr. Tracey Marks videos will literally save the world, for those whom would want to be helped 💯

[@blakejohnson2736]

You make the world a better place thank you Tracey

[@nooneisalwaysright]

We become what we don't repair.

[@maryfrancesbeckerhaggerty5353]

Your videos help me so much in not only understanding myself but understanding others as well.

[@harvelle1]

I learned something new. Great teaching. Thank you Dr. Tracey! 😊

[@jdorejessica]

You’re amazing! Good therapy for me. It’s helping me!

[@oynjx2hy362]

I can't believe how helpful your channel is. Helpful advice without judgement. Incredibly relevant topics. Thank you so much, truly 🙏

[@isabellas4120]

This is so helpful. I was wondering why I would get late on purpose sometimes, and wondered if it was an ADHD thing. Maybe it facilitated being reckless, but deep inside I wanted to protest the struggle I have with being on time, among other issues. That's why I'd choose to be blissfully slow and enjoy my time, but in a bad way, because I wanted to preserve my autonomy. That's my best guess, and it makes sense.

[@Disgruntled_Kinkajou]

I'm 26, diagnosed with OCD and I suspect autism (a family member who is a counselor also suspects autism). I was homeschooled and brought up in protestant homophobic churches (I'm bi and my brother is gay). My parents have largely accepted us for who we are, but sometimes I feel like I can't forgive them for raising us in such a damaging environment, and sheltering me from vital experiences in school that would have helped me grow socially and connect with different types of people. I feel like I can't even forgive them for having me in the first place, since I really don't enjoy life that much anyway with the current state of the country. I guess it has more to do with the lack of support in America for people who are suffering and need medical help (i.e. therapy), but can't afford it. I'm getting by right now and started therapy, but I don't know if I'll be able to in the long run without support, and I'm already having problems with medicaid being denied, and I can't get insurance through my job and have no interest in working in a full time job that I hate and that will consume my life again. I need a social safety net in order to stay optimistic about life. It's criminal that we do everything that we can in this country to keep people from getting help. I'm insulted that my parents are so deeply rooted in their conservatism that they would vote for candidates who want to keep me from receiving care, and I don't know how not to be angry.

[@dickjohnson9582]

Just remember that neither political party truly wants you to have free healthcare and that should take some of the load off.

[@carmagurl317]

Be angry ! Just don't act out on it in a way that harms you. Learn how to feeling your feelings in a way that is healthy. It's really hard to do but important.

[@matthewgilbertlmft3837]

I so appreciate you. Many thanks for all you do!

[@Comegetyourdose131]

Thanks Doctor Marks 🙏🏾

[@marianettejudge6017]

Thank you for the great insight /inspiration. I'll take it further and seek help. AMEN 🙏 😢

[@warnercoleman8791]

This is spot on, Dr. Marks. Thanks for this very informative video.

[@SJsRedemption]

Right on time Dr. Marks

[@mokari9268]

Beautifully line out, thank you Dr. Tracey.

[@Eskede]

It's blatantly and obviously caused by external forces for some of us. Acknowledging that is not a bad or misguided thing.

[@NewDimension7]

O , nice points of view. Ribuan perasaan yang dipendam sendiri , suatu ketika akan ... jika tidak dikeluarkan .. Bentuk menyalurkan emosi adalah dengan cara .... Thank you for sharing

[@Oscarnodwannabe]

Thank you! ❤

[@viviannereynoso3591]

Omg Tracey 🙏🏼 may we learn if you are seeing individuals

[@viviannereynoso3591]

🙏🏼🤍

[@OzarksOracle]

Your videos are so thought provoking and extremely helpful. THANK YOU KINDLY FOR THE WORK YOU DO. ❤ U Dr. Tracy

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi there, That is pretty much my behavior for the last couple of years. I can't seem to get out of this circle of feeling angry and irritated, to sadness and frustrated and then coping through smart drugs. This makes me happier and relaxter for a few days in which I get ideas what to do to get out of the situation. Then the drugs wear off and I get back to anger and irritation again etcetera...Psychiatrists say I am untreatable and have a cluster B personality, which is absolute bullocks! They don't even want to hear my story, my experiences from the past that gave me the trauma's I have now! Everything I say anyways is considered a lie or has not happened according to them. Prove in the form of people who witnessed or any other ways, the refuse pertinently! Because they don't need prove, because things didn't happen they say! And so I am just stuck at home with a bunch of medicines that only help me sleep, but do nothing for my situation. Thanks to you I know a bit more now. So thank you!🙏🙏🙏

[@steph_burch]

I find the most frustrating thing is when ppl don’t take the time to understand why you have the pain in the first place … they just want to “fix” you … ugh, well cheers to you 🙏

[@MultiTipsie]

@@steph_burch Yes! That what you mention is the crux! If you were able to tell your story and notice they really listen and care, that is already 50% of the treatment I guess! The feeling that their are people who care why you are that way! I worked with many (let's call them) extreme emotional and traumatized people (maybe strange for people to hear, but as a bouncer at nightclubs, gambling halls and in jail! The only thing you have to do when somebody is exploding is go and sit near them. Being an object that waits! And when their emotions are outed and their tantrum is slowed down offer them you want to hear their story! Never ever I had a fight that way and most were enormous grateful to me after! Now, I am in the same situation as those guys and I twice met somebody who did the same! To those, I am now grateful too! But therapists all fail in knowing what is the right thing to do!

[@hassan....6518]

I want to share my story so that others do not make mistakes. I suffered from serotonin syndrome after two weeks of taking Prozac, and then the doctor added another medication for me, which I took, and I had a panic attack, severe fear, and confusion, and I felt like I was going to die. I went to the emergency room in the hospital and met with another psychiatrist who had no experience. I told him, unfortunately, he said: I have anxiety that is not from the medicine. He gave me another medicine, so I believed what he said and I went into a coma due to serotonin poisoning. The medicine was withdrawn from my body, but I suffered from severe depression and anxiety after that because of this incident. I continued to suffer for years, and I am now fine, much better than before, and I am still recovering without any medications. An antidepressant. When I went to a psychiatrist, he went because I had a phobia of giving lectures at university only. I am very regretful and wrong for going to a psychiatrist. I lost 3 years of my life because of that.

[@purefrequencies4696]

So did you have too much serotonin? I was told antidepressants can create more of it.

[@angelagholson4988]

Thanks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome and thank you!

[@kyrabarr2846]

This is amazing! Thank you so very much for sharing these examples. You are truly appreciated!

[@a-ms9760]

Interesting video. I disagree on one point: That being absent-minded and forgetting things is a passive way of showing aggression

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Good point. It’s not always aggression as some people are forgetful. But in this case it was because the character wasn’t forgetful under normal circumstances

[@shorty3alyna]

When I'm overwhelmed with things to do and dead lines, and other factors, accumulating things...on and in ... untill I get to a boiling point :I get very angry,I don't want to be that very angry and I'm acting out ,that means bursting in anger, hitting objects , smashing objects, shouting at the people who created a specific problem ! And then I'm sorry because I reacted this way ! Sometimes I just get angry from little things that I accumulated much more and then I burst in a explosion of anger ! I know I'm diagnosed with PTSD but that is not an excuse to react that way and in those moments I can't control it ,I loose it and then I regret it , instantly!

[@PsychoTrin]

I am autistic, and adhd. I was diagnosed as an adult. I struggle with my emotions and understanding them. People see me as smart, but I feel so overwhelmed all the time and buckle under pressure easily.

[@cassiestevens8382]

Thanks❣️

[@notpub]

Are tantrums after a perceived rejection an example of acting out? Please do a vid on maladaptive responses to rejection and slights, and what propels them Dr Marks.

[@kajgod999]

Thank you for explaining myself to me :)

[@hucklesnook1848]

It's difficult for me to micromanage my emotions, but not my mind/thinking. Here I am trying to clear my mind that continues to hold back my physical self, but in controlling your emotions you have to be fully conscious of your feelings and emotions. Can people actually turn introspection on and off like a light switch? If so, I wish I knew how because my mind has held me back from the things I want to do for years.

[@RR-dh4jh]

This, I experience on a deeper level, I feel as if I live on "Autopilot" and normally I can't process my thoughts nor feelings and therefore I forget the positive more than the negative, (if that makes sense). Im not really being "in tuned" with myself nor surroundings. It's kind of like im there, but im not. Leaving me, not being mindful. Hope this helps ❤

[@carmagurl317]

The introspection starts to quiet when you don't resist it. That's what happened for me anyway. Instead of trying to clear my mind I just let it run. Now when it happens it doesn't feel so unpleasant. That's just my story though ❤

[@GaasubaMeskhenet]

man I wish my therapist was good at her job....

[@RoadRunnergarage8570]

Having a TBI and PTSD SUCKS:!!

[@kishanpankhania2112]

solid video

[@mrki731]

When I stopped binge drinking (socially on the weekend), I became sane again. I find that this anger was induced by alcohol really... I wasn't the spycho I thought I was.

[@JAbad-c3u]

❤❤❤ salamat po.

[@vicamaya5413]

Love your videos! May I ask which editing or animation software you use to make them fun and engaging?

[@SaviFitch]

Your videos are so the point. Easy to follow and understand. Really like the clear way you talk. But I get distracted by the videos. If they were in a small corner they would be ok. But a lot of the time they take over and I hear only your voiceover background

[@velocityxm]

thank you for talking to me this morning lol

[@cynthiastinson7059]

I don’t think that compensating with activities is necessarily a good idea. Learning to control yourself will pay off in the long run. Sometimes breathing and thinking happy thoughts are avoidant behaviors. What if the “house” is indeed burning down and you placate others and yourself without actually doing anything real or positive.

[@jenny-yt3jq]

as someone with borderline personality disorder and narcissistic tendencies it’s hard for me to control myself because i wasn’t taught emotional intelligence and i’m emotionally immature.

[@Janay-cy3cu]

I have encephalopathy and left hemipharsis along with Chronic PTSD, generalized anxiety disorder, mild autism or Asperger's, ADHD and major depressive disorder. I question my morality and character because of this.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Than you so much Dr Marks!! I recently received an unwanted promotion! It has been a _________< insert bad words! My internal emotional responses have surprising. Your information was very helpful!

[@andreaskye]

I love your term "unwanted promotion". I had such a thing happen to me and lost it several years back but kudos for naming it. I mean, simple concept but you are clever and brave for naming it!

[@diggy1d819]

@Dr. Tracey Marks. What are some occupations you see a NEED for Men to step up in? Whether Healthcare, Criminal Justice, Education, etc

[@normajeancaballero7959]

Thank You 👍🎦👍🎦👍🎦👍🎦👍🎦👍🎦👍🎦

[@whiskeystraw]

I’m no rocket engineer but close and !’v seen this happen in group situations with certain management decisions or statement towards a group or new company policies. Where management has been forced to shutdown and “retrain” the group. It gets real intense when dealing with the only work forced trained to protect or provide the only source of product to the public. Like in utilities, policing, nuclear safety stuff like that is where I seen this. Yea I seen this acting out in groups I’ve worked with all across America. It’s happening in our political world now with both groups and individuals. Look at that federal house representative who pulled the fire alarm at capital as his colleges argued on the house floor. He was acting out big time and I think he admitted to it! Poor guy….

[@ferndawg1111]

hell yeah, break stuff...

[@DedHedZed]

Oh, Hi Me.

[@Lladz171]

😷😴😷Hello Doctor Marks, as when the trauma, that we are through experiences and memmories living with. It is such a important part of the lesson. For example the situations that we encounter that may not cause the individual to act out initially, but the issues as described has an physicalogical affect due to the fact that those experiences reintroduce the trauma and extremes, therefore physiologically, the individual relives the torment.(As if co- dependcy itself could be a solution) If in reference to things such as relationship,(romantic/platonic) or another example such patient client privilege being clearly violated. The answers originated and are only central to the self. People's curcumstance shouldn't be treated as an cross examination or such as an experiment so to say things; to cause a reaction to justify a need for something more clearly to suggest the said evil. As you said: that cause the distress, ambivalence, displacement. Thank you for the video. God Bless. . .🤚✍️👏🗣

[@Egyptian-p2s]

I am Egyptian and I want the name of the sales outlet in the Arab Republic of Egypt, but the name of the book includes an explanation of all mental health

[@neurocosm]

This is a great video (and my name is Tony haha). Please explore Forgiveness!!

[@dbr311]

Not my phone listening to me acting out to recommend this to me 👀

[@AsukaSoryu-yk4lr]

Dr. Tracy,I’m interested in the unconscious conflict,for example,fear of success,unconsciously sabotage your own succeed,can we talke about it?

[@macratak]

goated channel

[@notpub]

Yeah...But don't some ppl plan, or even fake, "acting out" on a conscious level to warn others of their power? I have witnessed some workplace tantrums that struck me as manufactured, or choreographed, and can't really wrap my head around why someone would do that inauthentically. Ofc, I cld be misreading the situation, too ...

[@kumarjsujan]

I need to know more. Please oblige. Bombay India

[@GaasubaMeskhenet]

oooooh this is why people don't believe me about my ADHD

[@lifeneverends7068]

Dr. Tracey, I am out of the States and I have some major pyscholigical problems. I dont get the success that I look for in my own turf!

[@marleyhill34]

I live in the UK. it's a work in progress. Outside the UK, I found my local church community to be a safe place to process emotions in the Caribbean. We were able to address, drugs, sex, crime and unemployment which are real challenges faced by young people. Not all churches are like this but look for ones that do not set themselves apart and isolate their members. My church was like this, they allowed all members of the local area to come to the church even if they were not church members or Christians or religious. They looked for the common humanity instead of considering themselves as superior to the rest of society. I also found solace and community in the Local Lions club and Kiwanis clubs. Some people find support in sports clubs.

[@JeremyKersten]

I think like all the examples used in the video towards the end. 😬

[@alphadog3384]

I keep thinking about how this correlates with personality disorder (borderline personality)?

[@snb_9694]

Could you please explain to us medical gaslighting is it a medical gaslighting or is it just a misdiagnosis Because sometimes people are likely to avoid accusing their psychs I know it is rare but it's super interesting and it would help the victims

[@Mirzalogy-iy1hj]

I asked you something how can we manage intrusive thoughts and distressful thoughts can you write some tips

[@Missrobot928]

Hello dr pls I need one advice, I’m quitting olanzpine at 2,5 mg but the nausea is killing me , what meds should I take to calm the nausea down ?

[@nobodynowhere21]

She thinks that having children is what "normal" people do. No, that's what rich people do. Normal people can barely afford their rent and bills, kids have actually zero place in that paradigm.

[@CookingwithGrandmas]

Dr. Tracy, I have had lots and lots of changes this year. My sister and I have had a difficult relationship over the years. I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety this year. My son went to live with my sister. I keep feeling my sister is recording our phone conversations as well as in person. I truly feel she is trying to get me. I don't know if this is real or a crazy fixed belief. My mother feels I am crazy when I spoke about this to a church elder. Could a person imagine the clicking of a phone recording and imagine a person recording your conversations on a cellphone? I don't know if I should be aware or get mental health help?

[@marleyhill34]

Why did your son have to go to your sister instead of his other parent/grandparents? You could be imagining it but it could be because of the traumatic stress you feel from your sister over the years as well as being separated from you offspring. Definitely see a clinical therapist especially as you said that you have been diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression for years but it actually turns out that I have Childhood trauma, Personality disorder and autism level 2. Although I believe in God and Jesus, the church has never been able to help me with my mental health/neurodivergent brain because when we get out into the real world most of the people do not have religion or they believe something completely different from a practising Christian.

[@BellaDama456]

Nelson 😅

[@Lastrevio]

Question: Why do atypical antipsychotics like Abilify or Seroquel have to be paired with an antidepressant in the treatment of unipolar depression but work without an antidepressant (as monotherapy) in the treatment of bipolar depression? I assumed that if they treat depression symptoms in people with bipolar without the addition of an antidepressant then they would work without an antidepressant for unipolar depression as well.

[@BeingBetter]

Bipolar is very different from unipolar depression.

[@RoadRunnergarage8570]

Me in a nutshell.. 😢 and 😮...

[@ANakedManPlays]

okay Im confused. I have used gaming all my life as a way to handle emotions that are too overwhelming and 100% of the time it calms me down and works. Is this anything to do with the fact I have Aspergers? I just noticed you listed gaming as a negative here and then when listing things to do to help yourself you said playing instruments, drawing, painting...etc. Don't get me wrong I love doing those things too, but they really don't help me in any emotional way. They almost feel like chores I should get to rather than fun activities probably because I was neglected and often abused as a kid except my artist talent was the only thing people gave me attention or credit for. but not even really my parents. my mother is a narcissist so any achievement of mine she could brag about she tried to one up me by telling me a story of how SHE did the same thing I did but better and would rather reflect on her experience rather an congratulate me on mine, My father was a detective who also was a police sketch artist so as an artistic man himself, I always felt underwhelmingly simplistic and never good enough in that filed for him. My parents gave me my first nintendo system when I was still in kindergarten. They were aware they weren't going to be present enough i..e. working or just busy living their own lives, and a console system seemed smart to keep me occupied and a way to actually control me by offering me new games or threatening to take them away. So as an adult, gaming to me is an an important part of feeling well. Its been implanted into my brain that i need this and feel it should be added to that list of activities to help cope. I have a further argument about its validity as a useful tool but that's a very long one and I wanna stick this main point here

[@marleyhill34]

I think gaming is ok as long as you don't substitute it for other coping strategies. It's a bit like addiction. If you put gaming above social interaction and self-care all of the time, then it can be a maladaptive way of coping and you never learn social skills or self-help. I have autism Level 2. Late diagnosed at age 42. Gaming can be your safe space and special interest but it cannot be the only thing that regulates your emotions. I hope that helps. I've had therapy.

[@noeltimberlake165]

Dr. Marks can thyroid issues cause a person to really act out?

[@maj1636]

How to get your anxiety book? The website is not active!!!

[@LarsOutzen]

The 1:44 example I do understand, however the 6 examples from 4:13 I do not "get" / understand i.e. fully relate to? Please note I am diagnosed autistic 3y ago.

[@ThomasMuethingDotCom]

Ahh, Freud. Thanks for the video. I love your earrings too!

[@GabyAR7575]

I can't assist in classes. I've been avoiding it for 2 years. I still don't get it. Is it fear ( one of the professors it's a bully) or simply I Just don't want to finish college. Everybody says I should force myself and go to class. Or I should decide what to do and stop suffering. The thing is, i wanted so much to get my degree. I'm not so far from getting it. I had a panic attack last time I tried to take a class and wasn't even with the bully professor. I don't understand myself. I'm so sick of myself.

[@marleyhill34]

Speak to another professor or pastoral care about your difficulties. I had to go to the head of my department when I felt like I was going to fail my degree exams. She really helped me and pinpointed where I was going wrong. I'm still learning to put myself first and stick up for myself as I've been diagnosed with Level 2 autism at 42. I wish I had known when I was in my early 20s because I could have gotten extra neurodivergent support with autism. I can always try to get the support now but it's more of a struggle as I have more responsibilities as an older adult. Speak to your degree support and also see if you can be assessed for any neurodivergent traits.

[@carmagurl317]

You need to show yourself compassion. You are no less of a person if you get a degree or not. You don't have to figure out right away what you want but you have to honor where you are now, even if that's saying I do want to go to school but not right now. If you keep fighting yourself it will just make it harder. Imagine yourself as a friend, who would you talk to them? Good luck ❤

[@Cathy-xi8cb]

If you are involved with a partner that acts out, reconsider the relationship. This person doesn't have the skills to handle their emotions that you'd want. Even if they treat you well, if they act out at work, they will repeatedly get fired or quit. You get to support them while they cycle through this.

[@marleyhill34]

You can't support them if they have severe issues. At one point 13 professional people were supporting me with my mental health. My former husband had no chance.