When Your Woman Changes Before Your Eyes - The Westernized Filipina

#philippines #filipino #filipina #passportbros ‪@LegionOfMenYT‬ ‪@TheFilipinaPea‬
When your woman changes before your eyes, it's rarely a good thing. Women marry men hoping to change them, while men hope their women will never change - but they so often do, especially when brought back to the west after living in a traditional culture. Here's the story of Balentino, who made a mistake he'll never repeat, and who will give his advice about when your woman changes before your eyes...
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[@user-zy1oh8jk7j]

Thanks for the video

[@TheStygianKing]

Pea " What kind of friends?" Me " American friends that's who"

[@Shima85]

I agree with him. It’s a lost cause. Soldiers are not like agents, we are more physical because the state of mind we have is dying all the time. At war it’s a very high percentage that you will die and be forgotten. Agents just play tricks, unless you were an ex soldier. So soldiers have a type of communication that is always edgy, because if we don’t act right move right speak right we die. So it would be faster for two soldiers to marry than agents. Y’all don’t get married y’all cat and play pranks with each other; scams and crap. We pull cards hard, that’s why you couldn’t get around him, he was being serious and clear the whole way. No trick of the tongue, so you kept getting choked up. It means he is an upstanding man, and ex soldier with a good character that doesn’t play games. He’s rather go to Vietnam and die with his fellow fallen soldiers than play around with these new aged children. You guys are so one world government it’s a joke you pull flags like you are your own nation. These nations are all United and the same in the same evil, LGBTQ+. He’s telling me don’t do it, these whole world is selfish and self centered. Marriage is no longer honorable and it’s no one to fight for. It’s no one to defend that is honorable. No example of love to drive the youth anymore. Everyone wants to hurt each other with no reason at all. It’s not logical, just emotional. Innocent men minding their business get attacked instead of getting known. Filipina Pea wants to hurt him for the truth, but that’s an upstanding man and soldier that you can rely on to speak clear to you. He survived war where many of his fellow soldiers didn’t, so he won’t play around with his borrow led time. Either live life right and pure of heart or die and leave, that’s how we think. Y’all playing minority report with life. We don’t get along with civilians too well because of the difference of thought and intent. Filipina Pea thinks she has a an enemy to fight, and isn’t realizing she is her own enemy. Talking to me would be like that. Exposing how silly you are in the mind, and you need love.

[@ChristianClark]

.. omg .., OH!!!!! I Must Watch This One .. For Sure !! .. After Work 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ChristianClark]

This issue is Very, Very and Very common. I can connected with this because I have heard and seen this issue a whole lot over the years with the Women from the Philippines and Indonesia and Cambodia. Good Blessing that I have never experience it. The women assumed that American men are extremely rich as Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk, which is Very Not true. Most people around the world are not taught the difference of Currency value. That's why so many Filiphinas assumed that 100 USD is big money, which it is 5,730.21 PHP. It seems a whole of money but it is only pocket change, small amount of basic coins to flip with. Since I was in high school of the 1980's, It is said that Filipinas are attracted to American men because they assumed that the men has money. By the magazines and movies and series that they are watching. Hollywood movies of American life are totally stupid BUT the dear Filipinas think it's the real deal. When I was in high school, I had a Filipina pencil PenPal. 12 years before the internet came. I was in Western Pennsylvania and she was in Hong Kong with her parents. We wrote paper letters to each other, every monoth. After high school, her last letter that I got from her, she have said that she met a Japanese guy with big money and live as an American life style. Of course, I was heartbroken and sad but now, hopefully, I do hope that she is okay now. Maybe. One of my all time favorite movies is called, El Norte, year 1983. It's about a poor brother and sister in Guatemala who look at American magazines and they assumed that all Americans are super rich. The brother and sister had discover the very hard difficulties of living in the USA. The movie is about lost desires for a better life in USA, Sad Ending. I do Strongly Bellieve that so many Filipina fall into the DayDream as the movie, El Norte. To have a better life with an American man in the USA. The Amazing Great Anthony Bourdain had Great Love for the Philippines. He love the Filiphino a human among humans searching for actual, meaningful connection. He knew and seen the poverty but the people love Art and Music and Food and of course Singing. Filipinas have Amazing Culture....the women of the Philippines should focus on their culture and not try to be Americanized. If a Filipina really love an American guy. It's great and amazing but don't try to fit in and try to be "rich and famous". There's always a downfall when you step out of something really special and a Blessing. Always happens.

[@pauldeanda4985]

If any woman ever tells you that she wants a break from the relationship, the relationship is over!

[@bayoumanbryan]

yes she wants to keep her options open in case that the new man dont work out. so she is safe to try to use you as a option to fall back on.

[@decwow]

Usually it means that she's already got a specific guy in mind and she wants the appearance of permission to pursue him.

[@adamwelch6217]

She has already met someone else

[@herbigp]

Truth!!

[@kendallivy8922]

It’s BEEN over which means you were CLUELESS from the beginning

[@edwardsanchez3708]

Her 1st paycheck. Perfect example of when a man has money he wants to take care of his wife and family. When a woman has money she doesn't need a man. I turned down and ignored numerous women stayed faithful wife started working and immediately cheated and left. My wife was a virgin and we met when we were about 14 married her at 19 joined the Army in 2000. Then 8 years later she tried to reconcile after our divorce telling me she was sorry and the same thing she did to me happened to her repeatedly. Currently 24 years in the Army and she still lives with her parents

[@yaimavol]

Nursing is one of the worst professions for cheating. They are also hanging around the Alpha male doctors who are smart and rich.

[@lazylarrylee2421]

Pea, another great interview. He sounds like he does not hold his experience against any Filipinas. I hope that he finds true happiness.

[@ronprince1478]

Thanks Pea, as always 👍

[@johncalder-gx4bf]

When we got married my wife came to Canada. She was there 4 months and went back home--too cold and home sick. 4 years later I retired (at 55 with a pension) sold everything and joined her. That was 15 years ago. She has a 1k sq. meter lot, fully fenced and gated with 2-3 bedroom houses on it. We are along the brg. road, 300 meters to the national highway and 800 meters to the beach on the Gulf of Leyte--the old Marcos beach compound in Olot, Tolosa, Leyte. Could not be a better location. With my excellent income from 3 pensions and few expenses everything is good.

[@danielhackney7806]

What is your wife current age and did you have any kids together?

[@seanoneillsongs]

I'm just down the road from you - Tanauan. Sadly, only for one more day but, to quote a general held in high regard here, 'I shall return.' 😊

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

And that’s the thing that some Europeans and other foreigners learn the hard way. Filipinas and Thai women are coming from a warm country where it’s healthy and therapeutic. Most of these Europeans and Canadians live in places where it is cold, dark and not as “happy “. Most of these southeast Asian women don’t want to live in these places. Some of them will tolerate it if they have no choice, but they really don’t want to be there. You’re better off living in her country. It’s cheaper for you and you don’t have to worry about her becoming Americanized.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wow, I thought your story was going to have a sad ending! ❤️❤️

[@johncalder-gx4bf]

My wife is from Tanauan

[@272global]

I like this guy!! He is a realist and He has a plan. Travel Find what you like right.

[@pyroishere]

I love the "Seriously Bro!" line...he's sooo cool!!

[@dragonrln]

A cautionary tale and a lesson that is obvious to many of us older guys who are well traveled. But it needed to be said for the younger and/or more naïve guys. My thanks to your guest for baring all and to you for hosting him! Well done again, Miss Pea!

[@zetaone2669]

This is Balentino the man Pea interviewed. You speak the truth brother! My best to you, and thank you for your very thoughtful and encouraging words.

[@gibbs9892]

Thank you so much for all the information. I have now been to the Philippines twice and plan to stay alot longer next trip

[@lmcc0072]

Fortunately for me my Filipina girlfriend was already living in the U.S. for 15+ years when we met and we’ve been together here for another 15+ years. Her basic morals haven’t changed from the day that I met her. It’s probably me that has changed her. She’s very generous to her family, friends, and extended family in the Philippines. It was to the point that that they were using her as their ATM. They were immediately notifying her of every little problem and then asking for/demanding money. I’ve gotten her to only send money to those that deserve it. If you want money for school, great. If you waste that money and don’t go to school, you’ll receive no more money in the future no matter what your emergency is. Now she’ll help you, but you have to show that you’re helping yourself too. She’s teaching them to be more reliant on themselves.

[@TheFirstRealChewy]

I find that a lot of people don't really grasp that income and wealth is based on your location. It's like they know it but still don't grasp it until they experience it. This applies even within the US. $100K a year will feel different depending on where you live. The company that pays top dollar for a tech employee living in San Francisco isn't going to pay the same, even for the same work, to an employee living in a lower cost of living area. That's why outsourcing is a thing.

[@Ed19601]

Mentioned it plenty of times: I did not bring my wife to live in the west for a plethora of reasons. "Western feminism" is one of them. Plenty of 'stong independent' women who will tell her how she should behave so eventually she will become as unhappy as they are Other reasons: Philippines just nicer to be She is comfortable with friends, family and familiar food around her No need to learn a new language I provide her with everything she needs, no reason to live in the west. and lastly, though I totally trust her, but in my home country she will be the 'exotic beauty'. No reason to allow the fox in the hen-house

[@tomstulc9143]

No reason to take the hen to the fox house.

[@chrisjuricichxl5]

it's true. My son is married to an American woman half-black and half-Filipina. Our son said he wanted a 'trad wife' and wanted his wife to stay home and raise the kids. Fortunately she was of a like mind so...fine. My wife, feminist by all accounts, bristled at this arrangement who still has a slight prejudice of wishing to see women be 'bossbabes or 'girlboss' types. She's enough of a feminist (old school) to respect her daughter-in-law's preference and choices, plus we know that our daughter-in-law despite this movement to being trad, has her own will and strength. Tough chick.

[@TheAdventuresofMrandMrsSmith]

I chatted with my Filipina GF for a year before we met in person. I traveled with only a backpack incase i felt it was BS or only about money. When i met her and her family i knew it was real. We live in the USA, we are not rich but the hard times bring us closer and closer. we have one step daughter and one child who is our own. We were in the Philippines for 7 weeks over the summer since i was between jobs. Not every relationship works out whether its a mixed relationship or two people of the same culture. My advise is look for your our flaws first before you point the finger to another. My now wife have been together 10 years and have a 31 year age gap. check us out. Pea your always on top of things, no matter who you interview. You stay in the middle and don't sway for one side or the other. I love your channel. Keep it up the good work.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks, I try to remain unbiased 👍 And congrats on finding your soulmate! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@lightfighter685]

I met my wife through her uncle. She already knew I had money and would buy her a house. Ten years later, she’s still the sweetest down to earth lady despite her material windfall.

[@turboman8522]

😊more good advice thank you Pea

[@David-yp4fl]

🌿 THERE IS A BIG NAVAL AIR STATION IN MY AREA IN MISSISSIPPI AND THE MAJORITY OF MARINES AND SAILORS THAT BROUGHT BACK FILIPINOS TO AMERICA ENDED UP DIVORCE LOSING HALF OF THEIR MILITARY RETIREMENT ♥️🇺🇲♥️

[@djgeronimomrmotivationalad6212]

Protect this man at all costs he's a jewel🎉🎉

[@r25012501]

what a lovely polite conversation, just to be able to site a have chat like that with a lady on such views in the west would be asking for a lynch mob.

[@TimeToStartOver]

Once again confirmed, that I should plan my next vacation in the Philippines. Thanks Pea, great interview again. Greetings from Germany! ✌❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍😊

[@hbryant1971]

Love you Filipina Pea. I was hospitalized due to injuries and bronchitis for a number of months, so I missed many of your episodes. Back now, good to see you.

[@stephengoldberg334]

That kept you from making a big mistake. You have no idea what a trap it is to move and marry a foreigner. You will need about 300K per year and a current income of about the same. Hide it. If you want to go there, go there. Only touch people for 2 years.

[@AmericanExpatInThePhilippines]

This guy is seriously red-pilled. I love it.

[@Axiom-ug3js]

He’s story sounds exactly like mine but with a Colombian woman after 5 years of marriage. I’m shock of how many things in common I have with that brother

[@fullmetalhighfive]

I have encountered many Filipinas over the years here in the United States. They were wonderful and loyal to their husbands. The odds are much better with a Pinay here than an American raised here. If you get a prenup and treat her well, warning her about the reasons so many women here are miserable and single, it will usually work out. Be positive and love her. Im traveling to the Philippines in July to meet a wonderful woman. Pea, thanks for the great videos!

[@obamabigears734]

What a great interview!!! Guys, listen to this guy, he’s not wrong.

[@emilenoble3032]

He needs his own channel he's Great

[@vincentpiccolo3360]

My filippina came to the states with nothing she had to borrow a vell phone to make a call. She's smart independent a little shy we're married 7 years now i thank God every day

[@hawk6753]

Wow, Pea, you look real good with that glowing light brown melanated skin complexion. Natural is where it is at! This is what a true Filipina should look like.. You remind me of my Morena Filipina. She is much older, though.. Don't change. Do not lighten your skin with those trying to be pale products from Korea. Pale skin is out of fashion and outdated from here on out✌🏽

[@Ric.A.Photography]

It’s sad that this gentleman had this happen. Different things happen. My Filipina wife is here in Australia with me now and everything is great. She is hard working, loving, and things are good. We both work two jobs and everything is shared. I’m sure there are others who have successful stories.

[@russellhillier1939]

That is your experience, don't say everyone is the same. I got a Korean wife and still together(50+ years).

[@davidgrason161]

This is a video I've been needing to see. I've been divorced from my American entitlement queen and I honestly have to say that I've been tempted to seek a new partner in the Phils. However, I've always suspected that this very thing would happen to me. Now, I feel vindicated. Thank you so much for this content, Pea. Now, having said that... I need to ask.... Pea? What are you doing to yourself? I've been a subscriber and a Patreon following your vids for years. Why, or how is it that you're just getting better and better looking? GIRL!! You're an absolute TEN! Darling... you look GOOD in this video!

[@johnstevens2163]

Pea I agree about the dentistry. The local dentist in TALOOT is excellent.

[@mariomejia1701]

Dale bro!!! Gracias a ti y pea 🎉

[@Rjisawake]

Pea channel has blown up!

[@HereIGooooo]

When your woman changes just change your woman. There are women turning 21 everyday. Much less baggage and drama. Let them hit the wall…fyi don’t marry only rent.

[@brooks3376]

I was married to a Filipina for 20 years. It was HELL. According to her “Filipino men are the only real men, bc they don’t talk back”, and “you didn’y just marry me, you married my whole family, therefore we run this”. And she said this is their culture. She took everything in the divorce, including the kids. Passport Bros are falling into a trap.

[@zaxophne]

I like this guy, he's cool.

[@boringvideos4free]

My wife and I only have a 2 year difference, definitely noticed a change after we moved to the US but it took a few years. Definitely an attitude change, never in a million years would I have imagined it, we lived together for 3 years before we moved to the US and I wish I never would have left the Philippines as I can't convince her to move back. I make a good income and we can live anywhere. For the price of a downpayment on a house in the US, we can outright buy an entire house there, it makes so much more sense but she wants to live here in the US, can't change her mind now.

[@tomstulc9143]

Yep had the discussion. Advised not to bring her back. Some people got mad. In fact I warned him because of the changing child support and family support law not to get tied up with any Filipino now.

[@brettogata4410]

Very similar to me but we are still married for 18 years but he is correct can’t help but change, we had a child after 5 years. I think being Hapon might have helped and my wife is very loyal and her parents raised her right

[@javelinblue5414]

Unfortunately, this is why we need to crack down on this in western nations.

[@John-zc5ew]

Being westernized isn't always a bad thing. Filipina Pea is almost as western as they come, and that's not a bad thing.

[@winslcoop]

She said I got the sunken chest to prove it😂😂😂👍👍

[@behindthen0thing525]

Pea - something i know about that your guest should've clarified to you. When an american works overseas for the military, the us government or is a civilian contractor for the military or government, and they get married overseas. Their new spouses are eligible for expidited citizenship. You can get a temporary green card right away and ive seen filapinas get US citizenship in less than a year. I think he should have been less secretive with his answer on that. If you have any questions i can point you to the actual rules online or answer any direct questions.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Ohhhhh, I didn’t know that! Thanks 👍👍

[@behindthen0thing525]

Yup

[@behindthen0thing525]

@TheFilipinaPea I don't know why he was being elusive to the question. You can google this and find the basics. But if you're married to a military guy who is stationed overseas or a government contractor or some other categories that you can find here, then you'll be eligible for citizenship without having to live in the states for years and years or at all. " A. General Eligibility for Spouses of U.S. Citizens Employed Abroad The spouse of a U.S. citizen who is “regularly stationed abroad” in qualifying employment may be eligible for naturalization on the basis of their marriage.[1] Spouses otherwise eligible under this provision are exempt from the continuous residence and physical presence requirements for naturalization.[2] ". Qualifying Employment Abroad Qualifying employment abroad means to be under employment contract or orders and to assume the duties of employment in any of following entities or positions:[12] Government of the United States (including the U.S. armed forces); American institution of research recognized as such by the Attorney General;[13] American firm or corporation engaged in whole or in part in the development of foreign trade and commerce of the United States, or a subsidiary thereof; Public international organization in which the United States participates by treaty or statute;[14] Authorized to perform the ministerial or priestly functions of a religious denomination having a bona fide organization within the United States; or Engaged solely as a missionary by a religious denomination or by an interdenominational mission organization having a bona fide organization within the United States.

[@behindthen0thing525]

@TheFilipinaPea if you have any questions let me know. Allot of people don't know about it and lots of Americans are military contractors and married to filapinas

[@shawnstewart5701]

I would never suggest taking a filipina back to the states. Yes, it is possible It can work out, but once they Get here and after a few years, they can easily leave. I had this happen. Filipinas are amazing women. But I would highly suggest staying in the philippines If you plan to get married.

[@mattatuckmanful]

This guy had a lot of perspective

[@etfremd]

Hi Pea! Great interview! Now the question is how can you bring a Filipina to the USA and KEEP HER? That’s my challenge with a 37 year age gap, I’m 57 and she is 20 with a 4 year old son.

[@TheRandombpt]

I think it depends on the person and circumtances. It happens. Feel sorry for him

[@paulereeves]

Got married in the states. Moved to the Philippines, wife went back to states to divorce me.

[@jeebanjeeban87]

I hear american nurses are normally like that. Even in reddit - you can see them getting blast from american men. They love going after those who married or in a relationship with the purpose of destroying it, so the other women will end up single like them. Sadly... many actually fall for it. "Misery loves company" some say.

[@shinnidan]

Well....my mom left the Philippines when she was 19 and she lived here most of her life in Hawaii, USA. And she is now 80 yrs old. And oddly she still traditionally, culturaly Filipino. She still don't like western foods, still have the heavy ph accent. 😂 and she still favor anything ph instead of American.

[@majorronaldmandell7835]

I married a Filipina and brought her to the states. She was very beautiful. Within a year she had a boyfriend. A few months later she dropped him in favor of a guy who earned more money. Shortly after that we were divorced. Since then I have known about nine other American guys married to Filipinas who had the same experience. The thing is that Filipinos do not see the world like Westerners do. What we see as wrong, they do not. They live in a completely different universe, therefore you will never understand them after marriage when they show you the true person for the first time.

[@FracturedReality777]

I got an ad for Christian Filipina dating site on this video. The actions you describe make the ad very ironic.

[@jameswoods3062]

I’ve dated 3 Filipina in the US. All 3 were no different from American women at the point we dated. Unfortunately this happens.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍😳

[@camsteremail]

The west is poison for good women

[@parabiology1014]

I dated 2 Filipinas in the USA before I went to find one in the Philippines. The first one I wish I never let go of, and the second one I wish I never met! The first one had only been in the USA 2 years, the second one had already been here 15 years.

[@AllenLuedemann]

I dated 2 Filipinas and married one. The first was 18, me 24. Everything was good, till she got a job. Then, she cheated on me. The 2nd one was a security guard at LAX. We dated for 5 years, but when I got her into nursing, she cut the rope!! Now, no more communication. The last Filipina I was with from 2011, married in 2014, but divorced by 2019!! She was a bank Teller for 26 years in Manila. Came to the USA in 2007, to work as a caregiver. She still does work at 67!! She is jealous, insecure, but loves dinning out, expensive shoes- purses, and telling me I'm the Devil. Even though I paid for everything, and never had her cook, or do laundry!!

[@SweetCandy-x4j]

The reality is that any woman of any culture will become westernized after living in America. Even Filipina KZbinrs who have never set foot in the US are becoming westernized through YT fame.

[@fordguy61mi]

I got lucky. I brought a Thai woman back to the US in 2017 and got married and she never got Americanized. She worked at a Japanese restaurant with other Thai girls and they hung out and she really was in a little bubble and stuck with her culture while she was here. Now we've been married for 7 years and I'm retired, and we're moving back to Thailand to live at the end of this year. She's excited about going home. If you ask her if she likes the US, she'll say not really. I knew about women in Southeast Asia when I came to the Philippines as a young Marine in 1982. I never forgot the beauty of the women and how nice they were. Then I met my wife through an old Marine Corps buddy who lived in Thailand and went to visit him in 2015 and the rest is history!

[@Dream-Academy]

cool story man sounds like you are lucky. Cheers!

[@martinsaunders7925]

I married a Thai Chinese woman and when I asked her if she wanted to visit the U.S. she laughed and said it was too far to visit a third world country. She could visit Laos,it was closer.

[@jerryt3372]

The big lesson here is for the Filipinas. NEVER take advice from western women. They can't hold on to a man. In fact, western men are leaving their countries to find Filipinas.

[@linctexpilot8337]

TRUTH!!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Good point 👍😊

[@ogremgtow990]

The bigger shock for Western women is nobody is coming to Western countries to rescue them .

[@thystaff742]

Yep. Mgtow has taken over and American men are ignoring women.

[@icarus166]

Not just that but they are miserable. Look at stats for depression and other mental illness of women in the west. It’s tragic. I wish them all the best and much love, just… not my love. If you get what I mean ❤

[@Aj-qb3pr]

I would recommend anyone who hasn't yet been to the Philippines to go through peas videos. It's an education I wish I had before I went to the Philippines. The videos are very accurate.

[@MrDavidsuits]

agree

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS, AJ! I do try my best to bring you the stuff you need to know 👍❤️😊

[@Eagle-hg2vy]

I agree! It even applies to young men in their 20s

[@jerryt3372]

That's exactly what I am doing. I hope to retire to the Philippines in a few years. I am taking all of Pea's advice. I just want Pea and Alma to do a video about living on a boat. I want to buy a nice boat, and find a great harbor where living on board is permitted.

[@ReddMann1276]

I'm visiting the Philippines in August & I've been watching her videos, which is better information than some of the other channels. No discredit to the others, but Pea is very knowledgeable.

[@albertsammut433]

In the West from my experiences with a Japanese ex wife 3 contributing factors I could clearly see where involved in the demise of my short marriage.. 1...Peer group pressure from her friends 2...Feminism replaced her femininity and 3...She NEVER really loved me only used me to get her GREEN CARD.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

😢😢😢

[@alanh7247]

the majority of these types of marriages are ultimately done for the green card (or some other material benefit). men shouldn't kid themselves.

[@bobdees6428]

I knew an old guy who married 4 different women from the Philippines , Taiwan and Vietnam . The marriage seemed to be going good in each case until they hit the 6-7 year mark. By then the women were educated and had good career jobs and then the feminine drama kicked in. After the 4th wife he finally said I won’t get married again unless I stay overseas in their country 🤯

[@peterwilson9327]

"The7 year Itch". Great movie too

[@Smalltummywonderful]

That is rough

[@tommy6113]

Dated a Filipina before, but felt like I could never truly trust her or especially her family. There was always this feeling of being taken advantage of, or them trying hard to do so. I remember giving her a nice phone to only be told that her mom took it and sold it behind her back since she (the mom) needed cash. Her family was always whispering in her ear about getting more money from me. Can't even imagine having taken her back to the US and what would have happened. Ended up meeting a wonderful lady from Brazil who is my best friend and partner for the last 16 years. Adapting to her culture was easy and I felt at home in Brazil from day 1 - but never felt that way in the Philippines. You might be "wanted" in the Philippines, but for what is the question 🙂

[@dennisdragomir7572]

Had one plan to murder me for the will, and f buddy was planning me over the balcony. Another had a baby from her brother and he took 400 in 4 days, another came pregnant, another came as a lesbian couple, and one in lete wanted marriage to enrich dad. You marry the family.. got a fine lady now.. she found loans never were repaid and distanced from family. Get a referral girl from the provinces.

[@DantManDantMan]

A few gold diggers make 90% of all the other women look bad (regardless of nationality race ethnicity or culture) . I know this from experience. But remember every person is different and can never be compared to the next person. The goal is to find the right healthy minded women or man regardless of ethnicity. Americanized disease ( US citizens are consumer centric indoctrinated - it’s the American way ) . Worse - Social media trains both men and women to obsess about wanting more more and more things that we don’t need , and love unfortunately gets converted into what more can the other mate “give me “ to feed my consumeristic greed indoctrination- that is so prevalent here in the USA. Go to Philippines marry and stay there with her , family and friends and be happy. Don’t bring her back to the USA

[@pearlosibu]

Yeah. Meal ticket.

[@bunnyboo6295]

Yes, when you are opening your wallet, you will find smiling nice girls anywhere in the world you don't need to travel to buy a smile.

[@ausforaus7617]

What a simple and great way to say it. "In the Philippines, you are the prize, in the 'west', she is the prize."

[@southbound1969]

Yes, don't give up your advantage and don't simp too much.

[@abc-mf4jn]

He heard it from the internet.

[@AzerPaul]

This guest was very well spoken and intelligent. He could express his ideas quite well. Thanks for picking someone worth listening to.

[@zetaone2669]

Hey I'm the guest that Pea interviewed. Thank you for your thoughtful comments and the moral boost!

[@SternDrive]

@@zetaone2669 They're talking about you again!

[@johnl9977]

Before I hooked up with my Filipina, she knew full well that by American standards I was poor. She was great about that. I helped her through nursing school. She earns her own money, helps her family and saves. We have two beautiful daughters. 15 years in, it was the best decision of my life, she's a wonderful gal. She was a province girl, from Biliran, very traditional, very trustworthy even though half my age. She is a little hard headed, but not in a bad way at all. No problems, no drama.

[@AS-ph4rb]

Eddie Murphy sounded that warning in his standup special 'RAW' years ago. He did a bit where he went to the jungles of Africa to find a woman. Everything was going fine until she spent one day with friends she made in America. When she came home 'Eddie, what have you done for me lately Eddie?'😂😂😂 Third parties are the biggest relationship killers.

[@mrdynamic8678]

Half! I want half!

[@danielmaldonado1074]

I came here to say the exact same thing. I learned not to trust American women who want to mess things up for you.

[@sreif78]

Umfufu!

[@hermitbob7304]

I want HALF Eddie...hahaha. I remember that bit well

[@hermitbob7304]

I want HALF Eddie...hahaha. I remember that bit well

[@kricketts4348]

You fell in love with a woman, she fell in love with a dream. If you don't get that love to transfer to you it's a hard road.

[@danielharjo-wx9pb]

So that's what I'm going to do. It seems pretty scary due to the videos and how accurate they are but we'll see what happens because I'm basically doing and have done almost everything that this man on the video did

[@onlyone2948]

Seems like she had her own agenda.

[@P01234y]

Better be a rich man in the Philippines rather than a be poor man in an insane asylum (USA).

[@Olowo_the_wizard]

Facts. I married a Dominican woman and it happened to me too.... im never bringing a woman here again

[@dpanman]

What I like about this brother is he didn't paint the entire country with a broad brush. He is right at the source looking for another chance. Best of luck to him..

[@zetaone2669]

I'm the man that Pea interviewed in this video. Thank you for your thoughtful words and encouragement.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍

[@Lawskipper]

​@@zetaone2669 Thank you for sharing your compelling story. It is quite obvious you are a good man. It is most unfortunate that the ills of the west you sought to escape by going to the PH nonetheless ruined the marriage you formed there. Congratulations for going back to find another good woman, and this time you won't make the mistake of bringing her back where she can be corrupted by the things we leave the west to get away from. At 60, my life has been co-extensive with events in the US during the entire period of modern so-called "feminism." It started out to be simply about equality, which is actually the dictionary definition of the word. I think all right thinking men are on board with the concept of simple equality. But over the decades it developed into something sinister. Not content with equality, so-called "feminists" progressed to constant criticism and vilification of men, and popularization of truly abhorrent and dangerous terms like "toxic masculinity" and the "tyranny of the patriarchy." Whole successive generations of women in the west, especially the US, have been brainwashed by feminist propaganda into thinking they MUST pursue professional careers over marriage and family and child rearing, and that choosing the latter would make them a "failure." This has even included harsh criticism of women who have rejected such views in favor of more balanced or traditional values in their lives. I saw this in my 20's, and I knew then that many of these women would progress into middle age and come to regret their choices, facing life alone and childless, or divorced, having rejected the very things that bring men and women together to begin with. I am a lawyer, and in few professions has this progression been more apparent than in mine. Sadly the things I anticipated as a young man have come to be. I believe eventually equality and freedom of choice will remain - as they should - but the ills of modern so-called "feminism" will be left behind on what I like to call "the great garbage pile of human history," along with bell bottom jeans, sun worship, human sacrifice, and mood rings. This will be a long time in happening though, and it will not be in our lifetimes. In the meantime, we can go to the Philippines or other countries in Asia and elsewhere where women are still truly feminine, and who genuinely respect good men and have not fallen prey to the propaganda in the west. I have been to the PH three times so far, and each trip I stay for longer. I work for myself and have the freedom to work while there. I am happy to say that I have met a number of truly wonderful, lovely, and feminine women there, who have restored my faith that there are women in the world worth spending your life with. And to the point here, I have met filipinas who do not want to move to the US, contrary to the ongoing propaganda from "feminists" about them just wanting money or visas. Marrying one and staying there will prevent the evils of so-called "feminism" from ruining them and destroying our happiness with them. A large number of modern American women are unhappy, and although most will not admit it, they cannot stand to see a woman from Asia simply being truly feminine and making her man happy. They abhor it, so they take it upon themselves to brainwash filipinas in the US if given the chance. To other men here I always say, Go East, young man. Find yourself a truly feminine woman in the Philippines, and stay there with her. Thanks to you and the Pea for this excellent video, and I wish you all the best in finding real happiness again.

[@etfremd]

@@zetaone2669great interview! It gives me pause because my age gap is 37 years, I’m a young 57 and she is 20 with a 4 year old son. My plan is the bring her back after we marry and try to have 2 daughters right away. She will be graduating University in 2 years then I bring her back. I’m working till I’m 65-70. I got to make sure I have rock solid pre nuptial agreements in place.

[@bluebehir]

@@zetaone2669 You are a kind, courteous, honourable man. Stay true, brother.

[@marcuspearson87]

Passport bros know, NEVER BRING HER BACK TO THE MATRIX.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

The matrix can be very alluring, yes

[@KangTheDigitalNomadGlobeTreker]

***Never Never Never BRING HER BACK*** YOU CAN VISIT THE U.S.with her show her around maybe BUT DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT BRING AND STAY WITH HER

[@Brandon-yy5cc]

Many of us, myself included are trying to escape the matrix. Don’t know why anyone would want to join it?!

[@vachelmcfarland4886]

True dat. Rule #5.

[@theescapetrix]

Escape the Matrix

[@charlesjackson7127]

Great Video! This one has a lot of great information. Never take your Filipina back to the West.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

At least not without taking precautions, and thinking long and hard 👍

[@jerryfritz374]

@@TheFilipinaPea Agree 💯 Captain

[@MisteryMan2000]

Exactly right! Like Eddy Murphy said in one of his stand-up shows: He went to the deepest, darkest, bush-lands of Africa to find a simple unspoiled woman. He married her and brought her back to the US and as soon as the airplane wheels touched the ground she said "Eddy, I get half!"

[@vincentwalker4738]

When I Stationed at Subic Bay in 1983, there was a lot sailors. That got married in the Philippines and bought their wives back to San Diego. When their wives made it State side they changed dramatically, especially going to bars and coming home late in the morning. When hubby was a sea the wives were at the base Club picking up guys to sleep with for the night. The divorce rate for marrying bar girls from the Philippines was extremely high. The base closures in 1991 was a blessing in disguise for Navy sailors.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Rule 1: never date nurses or teachers.

[@Aubatron]

Or flight attendants.

[@samfaiella3288]

Or stewardesses

[@7128jml]

I know this is the case in the U.S.... also add hairdressers; but is this the case in Philippines as well (assuming you plan to stay there)

[@peterwilson9327]

Or date cops/military😮😮

[@tramlink8544]

basically anyone with a Uni degree

[@bigdaddyboomakamr.knowital8079]

I Believe him Pea!😮 In the United States Nurses are one of the Job Professions that have the highest rates of Infidelity, along with Airline Attendants.

[@bigdaddyboomakamr.knowital8079]

@@TheFilipinaPea With Nurses it is a Very Stressful Job and Doctors or Coworkers and Nurses bond because of long hours. For Flight Attendents they travel are away from home alot get lonely & meet new people all time. They may strike up a conversation with someone they are attracted to on their flight & well things Happen.

[@williamswetnam4070]

Firefighters and police officers also rank toward the top of the cheaters list, I've read.

[@briancarton1804]

​@@bigdaddyboomakamr.knowital8079I forget which year I read these World Health Organisation figures. The WHO stated that the occupation with the highest rate of sexualy transmitted diseases was an airline stewardess. Prostitutes were way down the list at number 10.

[@bigdaddyboomakamr.knowital8079]

@@briancarton1804 WOW 🤯🤯🤯 Thanks for the additional information I did not know that statistic.

[@brucewayne4life]

20 years of working in healthcare infedility is high across the board.

[@sammajor2075]

Came to America at age 2. Enlisted in the United States Army at age 17. Respect.

[@zetaone2669]

I'm the man that Pea interviewed in this video. I enlisted one month after my 17th birthday and took an early retirement at 35. Best decision of my life. And much respect to you brother!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍

[@harveygault1911]

@@zetaone2669 I served from 77 to 95 in the USAF. With the draw down after Desert Storm they said they would pay me to stay away so I said colour me gone. 18 years and change with just a little smaller retirement. Best decision i ever made. Full benefits and a steady income for life. Good on ya bro.

[@jmackd1]

@@zetaone2669 thank you for your service brother...

[@muggins9389]

@@zetaone2669 Thank you for your service brother!!

[@SunRise-ul7ko]

I've seen most of my former girlfriends on Facebook. Back in the day, they were all slim. Now, if I'm being totally honest. I could describe them as obese.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That’s so unfortunate and unnecessary 😳

[@MB-gz1ji]

One of my former girlfriends (who got pregnant from some other dude while I was deployed to Iraq) recently hit me up n Facebook with the expected “well hey stranger!” The young, cute blonde I remember has transformed into a full grown n land shark. She’s easily 250lbs at 5’ 6”. Four kids later and suddenly she remembers I was a pretty good guy. I didn’t even bother responding to her.

[@waltertodd4479]

Whales! Hahahahaha

[@theescapetrix]

Yup all my ex's are HUGE!!!

[@napoleonmdusa8877]

@@afather. Yep, I agree and if they just have to eat rice, make it brown or red rice but keep the quantity small--it's vitamin and mineral content is much better than the white rice they all seem to eat. I'm seeing way too many young people from the Philippines with overweight and obesity issues that will lead to other health issues as they age.

[@zetaone2669]

Pea, Thank you for inviting me on your show, it was amazing and I love the video!! And we had a lot of fun making it. Bále

[@wapa171]

Envy could eat me! Why do you hide the address of your fountain of eternal youth? 😉

[@JohnSmith-ti2kp]

@zetaone2669- Hi Bale, please tell us what you would do differently if you had a do-over with you past girlfriend/wife?

[@TWills-oe7hn]

Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And thanks so much for agreeing to be interviewed - it looks like they enjoyed hearing your point of view 😊👍

[@paulmorrell4570]

Thanks for sharing your story. Stay healthy and happy my friend.

[@ccjohncc1]

My experience is when anybody, man or woman suggests to their partner, "Maybe we should take a break". That is code for "The relationship has ended and im trying to say so in a nice way. Most likely it has already ended but you are in denial.

[@simbiotik8480]

This guy needs his own youtube channel.

[@zetaone2669]

This is Balentino the man Pea interviewed. I second your suggestion!! Seriously thank you for the thoughtful comment I've been considering creating my own channel for some time but after watching how hard Pea works to produce just one video has given me pause. Again thank you for the positivity it mean more than you know.

[@Travel_Cebu222]

@@zetaone2669 are you in PH right now ? I’m 35 met a girl in Cebu 24 Iam dating, I’ve gone back once already, again in July after her graduation. I would live there to meet her more instead of bringing her here. How do you make your USD income over there??

[@ZXLNT]

@@Travel_Cebu222 You can pretty much forget about earning money in the Philippines. You need an external source of income. Remote work for a company, pension. Actually earning money in/from the Philippines is going to be problematic at best.

[@Travel_Cebu222]

@@ZXLNT yeah I learned that the first time. Just trying to pick a good remote job really

[@southbound1969]

@@Travel_Cebu222 I think it's best to have multiple streams of income from your country set up before you plan to settle there.

[@ericpowell4350]

Rule #1: Never take your foreign wife back to anywhere in The West.

[@behindthen0thing525]

You just need to be strong and have enough charisma to keep her legit. If she's corrupted by the environment and you aren't able to stop it, she ain't the one bro

[@ericpowell4350]

@@behindthen0thing525 🤡😧😳😱😂🤣😭💀

[@kiwioffgrid2437]

Yes, however often that happens afterwards​@@behindthen0thing525

[@skyhawk4946]

I brought my Filipina wife back to the States 16 years ago. We have a great strong marriage. If you have a fear of bringing your wife back to the States, you married the wrong woman. I briefed my wife on the potential pitfalls of living here and what men and women say and do here. We never had any problems.

[@behindthen0thing525]

@skyhawk4946 yeah these guys are just jaded and probably low class men who got a low class girl

[@mowgli2071]

Eddie Murphy had a bit about this in his stand-up movie "raw"

[@hughjanis6439]

Half, Eddie, half🤣

[@zerof0rce]

'What have you done for meeee latelyyyyy, Eddieeee?!' About 40 years ago, very sage advice!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Classic, yes

[@LADETROIT]

​@@TheFilipinaPea wow.. surprised you know this skit😊

[@theescapetrix]

Enfufu 😂😂😂😂

[@LTGONZ0]

Lol the dudes credibility was lost from the start getting married in 6 month😂. You played yourself my guy

[@timothybush9633]

Hi Pea & Carlos I'm 65 divorced with 3 children that I raised as a single father. I can only speak on my situation so, I was married at 29 with a girl who was 24. Everything was great and things were also great in the marriage, eventually we had 3 kids, bought cars & a house but she changed? All of a sudden she was disinterested in out life and focused on hers. I kept trying to support her along the way but she didn't commit to the marriage and she kept cheating on me and as a Christian I had to divorce her. At the court she told the judge "I can't handle the kids" so I became a single father, she tried to ruin me, and almost did, but as they say "Life Goes On"

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh no, Timothy 🥺😳😢

[@timothybush9633]

@@TheFilipinaPea Hi again Pea, just to say I'm ok now 20+ years later but now I don't have a wife, house or all the "stuff" we had but she can't take my heart, mind or my love for people and I hope some day to be in yhe Philippines to tell you "I love you as a friend & all you do" ♥

[@xavierkoolat6926]

@@timothybush9633 My experience is similar but with a woman born and raised in the USA. The social and cultural atmosphere here in the USA is poison to families and children, as well as to husbands. The USA's female population has been invaded by an unspoken, underground movement to destroy the American Dream as a stepping stone towards establishing a socialist society, thus destroying our constitutional-republic government, as well as the dominance of the USA's position in the global market. My story began in early 1963 when I first met my future ex-wife on a blind date. I'll skip a lot of detail and cut to the problem. My ex-wife's mother was a lifelong, daily drinking alcoholic. Her father had a minor speech impediment that he compensated with egocentric-egotistic, obsessive germaphobe behavior traits. Her mother's brothers and sisters (her uncles and aunts), and her mother's parents (her grandparents) called her "The Little Princess." She was an only child in both her family and extended family until she was nearly eight years old. All these conditions created a narcissistic type of personality. In effect, my ex-wife was "trained" to have a narcissistic personality by her family and extended family. (This conclusion was described by a pair of psychologists, male and female partners in a psychological-therapist organization.) I was not aware of all these conditions and events about my future wife, including her "party girl" activities both here in the USA and in Italy that were never told me about her past. I was extremely naive as well as ignorant of all her misdeeds and previous behavior. You might say that I was deceived about her reputation and condition. (Does the street slang term "hornswoggled" come to mind?) It was not until about five years into the marriage that I began to question some of her attitudes and behaviors that I began to find out bit-by-bit pieces of her past misdeeds. There's a ton of more information that I will not go into due to limited space. She gave birth to a daughter after having a secret rendezvous with a high school acquaintance nine and a half months earlier, naming her daughter the same name as her secret "friend," only with a variation in spelling. I found out about the secret rendezvous when I overheard her private conversation with one of her girlfriends from the same high school. She also gave birth to a son after she had befriended one of her male co-workers she had developed a friendship with even though I objected and asked her to end it. After about ten years, she stated she never loved me and wanted a divorce. I got her to agree to see a marriage counselor, but she would only go if we had separate private sessions. Desperately, I agreed. I never found out any information from the counseling. She later told me she was moving to another state where her parents lived. It was not a subject for discussion. I moved there and stayed with her parents in their home for six months. She stayed in our home until it sold and her daughter finished her school year. When she finally moved to her parents' city, she had "Financial Separation" papers drawn up and moved out of our rented condo. After a long year, I finally consented to a divorce and left. Eventually, within two years, I ceased communication with her. The point of my telling my sad details is that either a wife or a husband can destroy a marriage by their own personal behavior and attitudes. Neither one has to be a foreigner. Find out as much information as you can about anyone you are considering establishing a marriage relationship with to avoid future problems that will break your heart and destroy your future life and career.

[@glenproctor1999]

I remember your video about this problem Pea. It can be hard to get some women to realise how lovely and desirable they are (trying not to look at you Pea!). When they move to a western nation and find out just how popular you are, it can turn some people's heads! You need a strong relationship founded on real connection to live through that. Wise warning from this guy! Great interview Pea! 🌹❤️🌹

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, and bringing a young, impressionable or naive woman to the west can spell disaster - and sometimes not 😊👍

[@rickmancc]

They don't have to young or naive. Seen it with older Pinas it is impossible not to assimilate

[@Maputi_na_Kalabaw]

Out of 28 I know personally there is one that is headed that direction. ​@@rickmancc

[@billb945]

LOL, The Philippines were westernized 500 years ago.

[@Maputi_na_Kalabaw]

@@billb945 LOL consumerism and fourth wave feminism originated there.

[@laserbeam002]

The U.S culture is failing. Still, I'm not sure I could live in the philippines. I've been communicating with a Filipina in Gensan but I'm not sure I completely trust her. I'm being very guarded. Later on this year I'm planning on visiting her. But even then my guard will be up(no jokes). I do however agree with your guest, once the filipina starts to interact with western women she will become westernized. Just like if a man from the U.S moved to another country he would eventually take on the customs and attitudes of that country and culture. It's natural. Anyway, I enjoyed the interview. Take care and be safe always.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Never trust until it is earned (times two) 😳👍

[@GUITARTIME2024]

If you are having doubts, that's your gut catching red flags.

[@jamesballard6564]

I tend to agree. The Philippines as a country is very far from ideal. If Malaysia continues to lower it's visa requirements, that would be my choice. The people on the other hand are quite endearing. Heck, even Filipino gangs here in the US are half decent. 😅

[@GUITARTIME2024]

@jamesballard6564 im leaning towards malaysia too.

[@happywanderer5632]

Exactly what happened to me. Went from loving, kind, loyal to hateful, greedy and gone in just three years, leaving me grieving for the loss of my hopes and dreams for our lives.

[@SmartConceptsRealty]

Pea I took my wife to America over 36 years ago and she did change for the better. She was exposed to western women and she worked during that time. I even deployed 2 times and my wife became more independent. Through it all she did not change to the western women ways. She is the same feminine, supportive and cooperative woman I met 36 years ago. Almost 2 years ago we returned to the Philippines to enjoy our retirement. So if you want to interview a filipina who survived the US we would be glad to share our story.

[@tyr4455]

That's the exception though statistically isn't it? Banking decisions on exceptions isn't usually a good idea. People often try to exploit that with the 'But this one time it happened differently'.

[@davewright9313]

Filipinas of 35 years ago were very different speaking from experience.

[@xavierkoolat6926]

Today's Filipinas have a different attitude towards marriage than their mothers had. Today's Filipinas are beginning to take on Western ways and want more independence. If they can enjoy their own career with a guaranteed income adequate enough to be independent of a husband's income, these young Filipinas will begin to behave the same way Western women behave in the USA, UK, etc. The traditional marriage is threatened by the equal earning power of today's career women. The traditional housewife is no longer a natural choice for women with increased educational and/or financial earnings. It's the same movement Western women went through about seventy or eighty years ago.

[@SmartConceptsRealty]

@@davewright9313 It's all about picking the right one and then teaching her how to be an independent thinker and how to block out the noise of the strong independent western woman. Remember I was there 35 years ago.

[@SmartConceptsRealty]

@@xavierkoolat6926 It's all about picking the right one and then teaching her how to be an independent thinker and how to block out the noise of the strong independent western woman.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Brought my ex Filipina to the states. She got westernized and at the 7 year mark she stopped putting out, I left at 10 years. She became intolerable at times.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

😢😢😢

[@michaelmalin8318]

7 year itch is common, the 7 year mark is difficult

[@tramlink8544]

@@michaelmalin8318 mine made it to 10 before it stopped

[@jamesballard6564]

She was counting off certain prerequisite years the government mandates. Sadly I don't believe she was genuine all along.

[@HaitianBlue]

She got citizenship?

[@charlesberlanga4452]

Okay I have experience here. I brought my wife to the US in 1982. She learned to drive in the first year and has held a job ever since. She now is drawing SSI. She is definitely Americanized. She worked for 20 years on at an AIr Force base exchange and was around a lot of Filipinas. There was a few bad ones. Was it a mistake to bring here to the US. Not in my case. This guy can only speak for himself and not generalize for the rest of us.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m glad you have a happy ending to your story! (I was worried there for a minute) 🤣❤️❤️👍

[@Matthew-gz4oh]

Happy for you, but a 1982 model in cars or women, is not a 2024 issue.

[@paulcohen6727]

I received pre-marital counseling from a Filipino pastor. He told me under no circumstances, to bring my bride to the United States. He said he knew two American-Filipina couples in his little congregation of a dozen or so couples, supposedly devout, one who got divorced after five years and the other after two. He blamed both these cases on the woman becoming westernized, adopting feministic values and changing from the personality traits that first attracted the man to her. Fortunately, she wants to stay close to her family here in the Philippines and my pensions go a lot farther here than they would in the U.S.

[@maximuscomfort]

Pastor telling the truth.

[@NatureHealsUs]

I did not know they have Christian churches there.

[@AlabasterSkin]

Feministic values such as that women have equal value to men?

[@Walts-Travel]

I've seen them ladies come to the states and flip out in less than a year. Military base 😅

[@TheFilipinaPea]

😳😳😳

[@Walts-Travel]

@@TheFilipinaPea he deploys, and she starts dating guys on the job. They get crazy attention and well the rest is history. but they seem to always get caught, very sloppy. Thats not all but I'll say about 60% easy.

[@korlingpa]

When I was in the Navy in Japan, you always knew when a ship was out to sea. Lots of the Filipina wives would be in the base club looking to score. We called them Westpac Widows.

[@moderndaydrifter4672]

I broke every rule of "dating a Filipina." i am 53, she's 42. i married her after 6 months of knowing her, and i have no regrets. She is beautiful, sweet,kind, and very loving. We are very happy with our decision and no she wont be coming to live in my country.

[@incaseofemergency6051]

There ARE no rules until you take her to another country where she will become corr....

[@bajadan2769]

and thats why you are still together -- bringing any foriegn woman to the states is a gauranteed crash and burn !

[@rejectionistmanifesto8836]

The rare successful cases doesnt change Western mindset has infected the world's women so 1% are the rare prized truly not pretending real traditional ones.

[@joanofarcxxi]

If you go to Philippines and you are a guy, you are not the prize. You are the cash cow. Of course they smile at you. 😊$$$$$$. If you don't marry her, she will not stay with you. She will find an older guy with more money who will. But whether you marry her or not, you will pay for everything, and she will build a house for her family with your money. Then, she will kick you out. I know men who married Filipina girls several times. My boss had 5 Filipina ex wives and has several children from all of them. He is broke from all the money he has spent. And he says he still hasn't found love. I think he might be hunting for Filipina wife number 6. Lol. It's like an addiction.

[@EricStegall72]

Seems like cool positive guy. Hate that situation worked out that way for him. Look like he came through that situation like a champ hopefully he will have better fortune this go round.

[@closeredge5198]

Interesting story Pea, and i appreciate that you dont only represent the 'success' stories of relationships 🧐. As a man, you need to remain desirable (how you look AND ACT), regardless of where you live. As for nurses in the 🇺🇸, they are the WORST profession of women to date. I worked in a hospital at a young age, and saw this first hand 😮. This is a nice man, but listening to him, he made MANY mistakes beyond moving back to America. She knew this and took advantage of the situation

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I always present both sides of every issue - and let the viewer decide 👍😊

[@Redditor6079]

Amen. Working out, continuously growing and learning are important as a man.

[@danlusha1919]

Mistake 1. Married her Mistake 2. Brought her home 3 being a nice guy

[@MoveitorLoseit2]

There is an illusion that asian women are better to nice guys than western women. Well, generally they are but not much. They will end up disrespecting the nice guy too & become verbally abusive or dumping or cheating on him. It's a sad world when being genuinely nice to someone in a relationship is seen as a bad thing.

[@DS-zr8pw]

Filipina: Mistake 1: stayed with him 10 years.

[@cheeeeezewizzz]

I've knocked up 5 Filipinas and pay all their bills and sending all the kids to college. Key is...they are all in the Phillipines

[@DS-zr8pw]

@@cheeeeezewizzz all the kids will knock you one day.

[@stevemorris3544]

​@@cheeeeezewizzz5?????, you need to get fixed. Yikes

[@owen7412]

Some things that have worked with me and my Filipina: Underpromise and overdeliver. Keep her in her native country. (easier for me to adapt then her, don't want her westernized, she's happy in her own country) Keep expectations low. Keep self improving and keep moving. It's not perfect but have been together close to a decade now.

[@lurking0death]

I would rarely consider bringing a Filipina back to the U.S. And, I would also tend to be her advocate and protect her from the excesses of her own Catholic upbringing,. I also find it hard to believe this guy. If his story is true then he grossly misread his lady about her core character and beliefs and for a long time.

[@pa4765]

Agreed about this guy's judgement. How could he marry her in the philippines after 6 mos. ?!

[@franklingarner3029]

Wow!!! Nurses have a terrible reputation!!! Stories after stories reflect this.

[@stoneyislandranch9783]

Top 10 spots of no go

[@am8115]

Yeah nurses cheat a lot 🤣

[@manlybaker3098]

I retired from the US NAVY in 1990. Nurses get a HUGE pay increase when they move to The States ... and many immediately TRADE UP!! Sad but true!!!

[@xavierkoolat6926]

It is not just nurses, it's any woman who becomes independent from her husband's household and his traditional style of a "husband and wife" relationship. In effect, she realizes she no longer needs him to enjoy her newly found financial independence from his money. Because she now earns enough income of her own to be independent, she decides she no longer needs him and gets rid of him. In other words, she did not marry him for love or a personal relationship with him; she married him for his ability to supply money into the relationship. She married him for his money, not for his love and partnership. However, divorced women find out later that they wish they had a partner to share their life. Unfortunately, what happens is they usually have at least one child and begin to realize most men do not want to raise other men's children. So, any available men do not want to get involved with a single mother, and no man will date her other than for guaranteed "no-ties" sex for a date without marriage. She's worthy as sex in trade for a date, but that's all. Her worth is about the same as a prostitute for a night.

[@michaelchevreaux7780]

NEVER Let Her Go Out Clubbing And Having Girls Nights Out. No Joint Savings And Checking Accounts With Her. Get Her Her Own Accounts.

[@joebidet2050]

Average american woman I want a husband who is handsome tall muscular wealthy Well for every man like that there are 100 women like you Average man in philippines I want a wife who is average looking high school grad fit feminine friendly no kids around 22 Her income does not matter Congrats there are 100,000 to choose from...

[@jigenprime6613]

I brought my Gwapa Filipina to the states in 2015 and I can say she’s a little westernized but in a good way.. She’s true to me, she works hard and I’m blessed to have her.. Never letting her get away from me..

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@AltairEgo1]

My wife and I met in the U.S. We've been together for a couple years, and she's still a true blue filipina. She's adapted to the more fast paced lifestyle, but it hasn't changed her in a negative fashion. I think if you meet the right person, they'll stay true to who they are. You can be influenced but still remain yourself. But many people seem to forget that is an option though. You don't HAVE to be just like everyone else around you. When I lived in Japan I was still an American, first and foremost. You have to decide what kind of person you are, not what everyone else wants you to be.

[@jacquelinecarcereny2448]

It’s not all of us Filipinas who upon going to the USA will get westernized , if you pick you a stable smart honest and mature minded Filipina who is rooted in her traditions she will not get westernized or influenced by western women’s feminist views

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@jacquelinecarcereny2448 👍👍👍👍👍👍 Agreed! There’s no way I’d fall into that trap. I’m neither naive nor impressionable, and it sounds like you aren’t either 😊

[@LarryJones-c4m]

Is there a big age gap like in Carlo's situation? I think that's the key.

[@benlaw4647]

Thank you Pea ! Very interesting and informative ! Great interview ! This gentleman nailed it ! I have a friend who went through basically the same thing as this man. Appreciate you always Pea! Good night and sweet dreams ! God bless . 😊🙏💝

[@BulbasaurAndSquirtleOfficial]

Before I married my wife 13 yrs, ago I let her know I didn't want her to work. I want her to be a stay at home mom. Work begins the Westermization. Also it sounds like he didn't get the approval of the family, but just married the woman. Get in good with the family and they will keep her head right. Never treat an old fashioned woman like a modern one, because you screw everything up.

[@doingtime20]

Western society is morally broken, I wish the US didn't have so much cultural influence over other countries, women in my city are now behaving like american women. Btw bad choice from this gentleman to live with her after being separated, she basically gets the benefits of being with a man without giving anything in return. Other than that I find his general advice very good.

[@houseaccount3293]

I see this happen all the time. One of the most risky things you can do is relocate a foreign wife to the US too soon. If your goal is to retire/live in the US with your Filipina or any foreign wife. You need to take small trips over several years. You need to introduce them to the side of things that are causing the issues. They need to have a strong moral compass and commitment. Culture shock causes issues, and if she doesn't understand the things that western women will say and do, then she will be very vulnerable to those type of people. And she needs to have a group of people in the US that you can introduce her to that reinforce the proper values. Without that it is a ticking time bomb.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍

[@jamesballard6564]

All good points but that also means leaving her alone in her country. That too is a recipe for disaster. It's all a matter of how many bites from the turd sandwich we are willing to take.

[@damija123]

The fact that he didn’t tell his wife about her friend shows me he isn’t a very good man himself.