Whitney Cummings: Genetics Loads the Gun, Environment Pulls the Trigger

Whitney Cummings (comedian, actor, writer, producer, director) - and her unborn child! - stop by the studio to break down practical ways to reparent your inner child, how weed and microdosing mushrooms brought her to a manic episode, her addictions to love and fantasy, and channeling trauma into an asset. She opens up about her fears that she’s not worth listening to and her propensities for workaholism, perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing. Whitney reflects on competing with the substances her parents were addicted to, the nuances of birth order, the characteristics of parentified children, and the origins of her disordered eating. She shares her thoughts on self-sabotage, healthy anxiety as a gift of intuition, signs she knows she needs to be doing more self-care, how to schedule time to worry, the science behind manifesting, wolf therapy, and crying as a tool. Whitney delves into all things parenting, from the egg-freezing process and her journey through pregnancy to what scares her most about parenting, why it’s so difficult to watch parenting styles you don’t agree with, and her in-utero programming. She also discusses the origins of her humor, the responsible and reckless uses of comedy, plus we learn more about her new special, Mouthy!
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[@catrionamackenzie5460]

Laughed, cried, learned a lot... absolutely loved this podcast. I came here after watching the podcast with Jenette McCurdy and now it's my absolute favourite. It's such a breathe of fresh air to have a podcast with such open-mindedness, hilarity, and intelligence on such difficult (but very relatable) topics. Just absolutely A class.

[@MayimBialik]

LOVE to hear this - thank you for being here, Catriona!! 🧠🫶

[@power721]

Well said

[@PhoebeFayRuthLouise]

This is what it sounds like when two women who each have seriously put in the work share openly and honestly! Absolutely delightful and so educational!

[@sicksadworld6221]

"Genetics loads the gun, environment pulls the trigger." So true 😔.

[@HH-gv8mx]

I remember they taught us that in psychology 101. Quite sure it was on one of my tests.

[@AuntMoney]

Mind blown!

[@m_brokenleg]

The way Whitney talks about being sexually abused in her past & the way she explains how she dealt with it, has left me speechless. As about her manic episode, her addictions to weed and mushrooms. WOW! Admirable! Kudos for her. And to her kid for having such mom!

[@power721]

I related on an awkward level. It happened and it made us who we are today.

[@BarbaraDewey]

I have no idea why people have to use the “sh…” word so freely. It is very offensive and definitely NOT “Community Standards”! Even the Jewish Bible says “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth.” The same thing applies to the ‘F” word. I do enjoy your programs except for the profanity! 36 except our programs

[@stejon1503]

I have no words. This is by far my favorite episode yet! Whitney truly managed to put into words certain things that many of us struggle to believe is even happening at all. I especially related to the part about fantasies. Thank you thank you THANK you, Mayim and Jonathan for inviting people like Whitney and talking about all of these things in a way that actually feels accessible for everyone. 10/10 Thank you❤️

[@pattivergerio4404]

I know. I agree. Such a horrible childhood. No one can understand unless they were there

[@jennlarkins5590]

Ditto!!!

[@triciacoffey]

Whitney doing the baby affirmation was the most heartfelt thing I've seen in a while...great episode!

[@MayimBialik]

🫶🫶🫶

[@TheOpenSociety777]

​@@MayimBialikIsrael and it's diaspora advocated so strongly for homogeneity, walls and strong borders for israel. That's why I find it especially ironic that those who advocated so strongly for open borders, multiculturalism, & diversity for Western Nations are now not only being attacked in israel but are also being so fervently protested against by the middle easterners and others who they actively invited into Western nations.

[@johndean4727]

@@MayimBialik you have worked with the two best looking men in the world Ted(soap) & Joey(gimme a break).

[@fannythailed09]

This has been by far my favorite episode, the way whitney and mayim just flow with the conversations is just very engaging.. I could have listen to another 3 hours of this, she needs to come back for sure!

[@melissaelliott2966]

I feel like she brought out a sillier side to Mayim. It was great ❤❤❤😂😂😂

[@kal2487]

I really love the discussion about escaping reality through fantasy, which is my addiction of choice. I've never heard anyone else talk about it. I'm also highly creative.But the dissociation/delusion is the downside. Thanks for sharing! ❤❤

[@pattivergerio4404]

Amen. Escaping into your own world. And disassociating. And the manic episodes. And the drive to survive

[@deniselindquist7592]

So glad I have a name for what I have done through most of my life. Fantasy. I was addicted and being a part of a family. To being important. It's odd that I have never had a therapist I have felt open to speaking about personal things with. I have only seen psychiatrists because of my severe depression. I have been accustomed to believing that medicating is the only way to keep me stable. Intellectually I know that is not right, but here I am. Thanks for having Whitney on your podcast, and for you. You have a wonderful insight on how to direct a conversation.

[@coastuncle1965]

Such a well done show. Mayim is an asset and a blessing to the Hollywood community.

[@pattivergerio4404]

Mayim is an awesome saint❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@TheStefiKaye]

I LOOOOOOVED this episode! Two of my favorite brilliant, strong and courageous women making room for, appreciating and celebrating each other without trying to one up the other!! I think they found their person!!!

[@hp6964]

I think this is my favorite Whitney interview for sure!!! I hope more people end up seeing it. I’m sure she’ll be an amazing mom with this level of awareness ❤️, I identify a lot with her fears of having kids and everything

[@bauhausprincess]

This was definitely a favorite. I don't think I have ever laughed just as much as with this episode, cried a little and found so much informations on... all the things. Such a wholesome episode, thank you so much. That was a perfect trio.

[@deadbird1229]

This is a gem of an episode-very deep conversations and analysis, but hilarious moments in equal measure. I don’t know if I’ve ever seen Mayim laugh as hard (or as much) during an episode as she did here. This was a pure joy to watch

[@francocastro5378]

Amazing!!! One of my favorite episodes. No filters, just a plain, great conversation. Love how playful and open Mayim in this interview!! Jonathan, you rock!

[@katielittle4491]

I’ve wanted this episode for sooo long! Every time I watch MBB I think “man I wish she’d have Whitney Cummings on!” And everytime I watch G4U I think “man I wish she’d have Mayim Bialik on!” And let me tell you… it did not disappoint!!!!! (And I’m only an hour in!) probably one or your best episodes to date! Thank both of you ladies so much for the work that you do and the interesting conversations you have!!!

[@angelwolfe6728]

Two of my favorite people together! This was a joy to listen to ❤ love Jonathan’s suggestion of beginning to bond with baby! I was alone during a pregnancy and found it hard to keep my mind straight. What helped me so much was talking to baby and beginning the bonding between us during such a scary and lonely time! I know she’s going to be a great mom.

[@Video-wi9cv]

I loooooved this podcast. I related so much to Whitney. Jonathan I almost cried when you told Whitney to tell her baby they are loved and wanted. This is definatly what I'm going to tell my future children and my baby angles.

[@Shakibing]

This may be one of my favorite episodes. The chemistry between Mayim and Whitney is just excellent.

[@orland0110]

It is so awesome that you have Whitney Cummings on this episode. I absolutely love this podcast Mayim! ❤

[@nature_erica]

this was a great episode! 👏🙌 whitney really brought out mayim’s comedic skills, had a lot of great energy and laughs even while discussing serious issues, loved it.

[@mimmycal]

Inner work for the adult child is so important. I began in 1986 and was able to heal from a serious neurological disease and later remove myself from a marraige The was not working. It’s a great way to get to know yourself. It does take time, humility, reaching out and going deep.❤️🦋 she’s still in process as was I until I my mid-50s. Thank you for the rawness and the ability to let her do her thing.xoxo

[@ChessieChess]

Thank you, and thank you Whitney for sharing your ACA experience with is. That program has completely changed my life

[@davegarski1548]

Whitney is just the most fascinating woman. I learn so much from her.

[@coppersense999]

Cummings makes sense as a guest. She has calmed down a lot since she has been pregnant. Whatever she has been doing I hope she keeps it up, stays happy and healthy

[@mothicbeauty]

She got off her meds for her pregnancy

[@HH-gv8mx]

Whitney has been making all the podcast rounds lately. I think I’ve seen her on 6 podcasts and late night talk shows in the last couple weeks . I don’t know how she has the energy

[@alex.profi27]

​@@mothicbeautyyou mean she is off weed and shrooms Her medicine is what helped her Stop trying to make drugs look normal,junkie

[@deborahjaffe]

How did you know my story 200%! Wow!!! Thank you all!!! It is so good to talk about this. It's the only way to get better.

[@Mmcay]

Whitney is the best!!! Can’t wait for her parenting material 😂 Best of everything to you 😘😘😘

[@kimstrandberg9529]

“So in the head that the body doesn’t always follow.” That’s so insightful and intuned. I hope there are more Jonathan’s out there? “If it’s hysterical it’s historical” - what nuggets!! Thank you Whitney! As an exceptionally fast talker myself, and someone that has spent a ridiculous amount of time living in my own head for 50 years - talking to myself and having conversations out loud, cutting my own self off at times, interrupting myself to change tack to add something for context, continuously….. yeah I really appreciated your style. You talk the exact same way that my brain works. ❤

[@pcankar]

I´ve watched this episode many times and love the intelligent, thoughtful, humorous conversation between the three, especially the interaction between Whitney and Mayim. 💚💙💜

[@marisamartinezolivera]

Two intelligent, funny and articulated women in coversation? As someone once said the devil will sit..and learn! And I with him! That’s what this episode is for me! And if you even add Jonathan’s insights..then it’s a pure gem! 💎 Btw, I was given only one very intense son and two very little but intense grandsons..Boys. Nots girls. I think as Mayim that probably God or Nature has given me not more than what I was able to deal with..😅

[@user-jo1hn5pg5l]

I’m glad that Whitney has the language to express all that. It’s very powerful. Just recently I too discovered that everything about my artistic nature stemmed from disassociation and it really broke me. I'm really grateful to hear about other people’s experiences, views and how they are dealing with it.

[@diegoshepherd3464]

I really enjoyed this episode. I have watched it many times and love the exchange between Mayim, Whitney and Jonathan.

[@bluemoonrelic2043]

Absolutely the best podcast I've seen in months! Way to hit the nail on the head enough times to build a bridge. What a sigh of relief, I'm not alone. ✨️👏👏👏

[@dianallamas7135]

That was beautiful. Especially the positive affirmation and wow, I applaud her being present and say, "im not going to make a joke or be silly" because Whitney was feeling something so good and so pure. She experienced Joy and qay to go Jonathan!!!! I've always liked Whitney and she's always been herself and no one else. Im rooting for you Whitney!!! Yaaaay❤❤❤

[@TheOldHippiebilly]

Excellent podcast! I got a lot out of this-- I heard what I needed to hear. One of the smartest things Whitney said was that she was trying to avoid flooding her body (and her developing child) with adrenaline and cortisol. That makes a LOT of sense. Love y'all, The Old Hippiebilly in Tennessee ❤✌ ❤✌ ❤✌

[@Bluesapphire804]

I subscribe to both of your podcasts and have watched every episode of each, so this is crazy to see you both together! It’s so cool, and I love seeing what Mayim’s questions for Whitney and seeing Whitney become the interviewee instead of the interviewer. Can’t wait to watch!

[@Prof_Loredana]

This has to be my favourite episode ever ! WC is so articulated, educated and insightful. I kept slapping my head all the time!!! Wow!

[@jupiterbacchus4223]

Y'all are so friggin cute together, feel free to make a sitcom together cause I'm sure it would be magic!

[@kittensugars]

What a beautiful, and helpful show! 😊So many relatable things. I learned about myself, my issues and how to begin to fix them while spending a week in a "behavioral health unit" soon after my Mother died. I learned how the brain works, and that entire new, happier pathways can be created in my brain, with some work on my part.

[@OneDayVision]

Whitney Cummings is the best. Great episode.

[@SuzanneCrawford-xy1eg]

Johnathan, that was beautiful about the baby and the positive affirmations spoken over the baby! Beautiful!

[@danaw23]

My favorite part of this episode was everything! I’ve loved Mayim for a while now and now I love Whitney. Thank you both for your honesty, openness, and humor. I’ll definitely watch this again. And probably again. There’s so much content I needed to hear. ❤

[@danzad05]

I appreciate so much that you and Whitney were open to talk about a lot of things I am going through and not actually being able to recognize or name then correctly. Thank you❤❤

[@ashleykalbach8273]

This discussion was very informative and is making me reflect on how I am in my relationships. Thank you

[@christiecoopersellshouses5738]

As Whitney tells her story, I hear my story, which is currently unfolding into beautiful opportunities to share my journey with others. Thank you beautiful ladies for this amazing episode! Your work may feel thankless at times but you are constantly planting seeds that blossom into beautiful flowers. Thank you

[@iamlalaland]

Another incredible episode! Thank you for your wonderful work, for actually listening to your guests and then also for the way you interact- this podcast is one that I enjoy immensely, highly appreciate, and never miss. Thank you, Mayim. ❤

[@johnna7407]

My favorite podcast thus far, for so very many reasons. Thank you!

[@krystashafer3506]

I didn’t realize checking out into fantasy was my thing until you said it. I literally went outside and pretended I was in the movie holes and dig holes in the backyard.

[@josiahdonald4325]

This is an incredible conversation thank you both of u

[@jholmstrom2627]

You both made my day. Soooo enjoyable to talk about the inner things! And you’re both really funny too.

[@altaresjoyceee]

This is one of my top favorite episode! it is so fun watching you! i feel like im sitting there and listening to all of you! 😁 There is so much to learn in this new episode! ❤️ One of my favorite part in this episode was about labeling. Im also like that, i like someone who also does that 😂 I agree with you guys about the trauma that associates with "sexual abuse". After watching this, I feel like I can talk about it a little bit since maybe someone else has gone through some uncomfortable situation. Truthfully, I endured years of suffering in quiet about my circumstances. I grew up without my mother by my side, and also im not that close to my father, so this traumatic experiences in my life happened. My three friends' fathers treated me badly, but I said nothing about it. I believe it all happened in my 4th or 5th grade, but I'm positive it was during my elementary school years. The 1st one, when I went to my friend's house, her father patted my b*tt when my friend went to kitchen. The 2nd one, he gave me a kiss on the lips before handing me the borrowed PSP when my friend was in the bathroom. The 3rd one, her father held my hand and i was shocked. I'm unable to escape. My feet went cold. Up until today, no one has been aware of this. I wasn't sure what to do at the time since, if I told anyone, I imagine they would stop letting me play with their children. I'm afraid of losing my friends because I only have 7 of them, and not all of them are free to play with me. I just wanted to share some of my traumatic experiences in my life. Thank you for the new episode MBB Team! its really great and fun 😊

[@holliehilton3224]

Mayim! Love this podcast! I get that you may not read comments…I just wanted to say I used to watch your other KZbin channel all the time…and remember the very first episode of Blossom. This is a weird request, but I heard you mention your early menopause on Justine Bateman’s interview. Do you mind talking about that on one of your podcasts? I was put into surgical menopause after a botched fibroid surgery, and my life (and hormones) have not been the same. Would love to hear your perspective on The Pause-I’m sure you could make it sound positive!

[@kna3577]

Thank you for posting this video on your channel. It’s always a treat to experience two intelligent women freely discussing subjects that some people feel the s taboo, and in such a fun way. I absolutely luv it! actually I heard it as a podcast and then watched it twice! I found it truly helpful. Thank you 🙂

[@bronwynhodgkinson3534]

This has been so helpful. My whole life, I was told to go to AL ANON and didn't and my aunt who is a lot more like my mother than she'd like to admit recently told me to go to ACA and that it helped her. In October 2023 I got sober from weed and tobacco and am currently 18 weeks pregnant. I needed this podcast.❤ thanks all a yas!

[@amberfultz9715]

I think this is definitely one of my favorite episodes! From the belly laughing to the very informative and intense conversation it was all around great!

[@bkakes4629]

I have so much compassion for Whitney. A lot of what she shares I can relate to and I think she'll be a terrific mother.

[@Brandylibra]

That was amazing! Loved the whole conversation! I rarely watch/listen to a whole podcast cuz I get bored, but I was so engaged the whole time and loved all the laughter. ❤ Learned a lot. Thank you! Appreciate you both!!

[@jenniferglover9905]

Just loved the preview. I used that for my depression i can only obsess or morn something for a certain amount of time. It helps so much, its just structure in a different way. ❤

[@kathythomas4839]

Wow! I got a lot from this episode, definitely will listen to it again. The ACA info was so informative!

[@amiesibona1217]

This was amazing. Whitney, you’ve been growing in light years these past recent years & I’ve been learning so much from you. You’re amazing Whitney. I’m excited for your new mothering ‘journey’🙄 💓

[@bms2605]

Yay !! I love whitney so much! Super proud of her and how far she has come ❤️ great episode!

[@bodytrainer1crane730]

Jonathan is so intuitive and intelligent!

[@alexm5818]

I watch these podcasts back to back. I've been waiting for this interview 🤩

[@annegpr]

I always love seeing pregnant women laughing 😆🫶 I love that Jonathan offered affirmations for Whitney's son, and the kicked 🥹 One of the most informative and entertaining episodes you've ever done. Great job, team MBB 🤍

[@bettyboadwine4890]

I to was an accident. Youngest of six . My mother was sick with urinary infections and some other health issues after giving birth to my brother and sister, who are twins. My parents found out Mom was pregnant when she was going to get her tubes tied. I was very lucky that my oldest brother helped to parent me. I'm blessed that I felt loved and my mother didn't work outside the home very much. She did keep the books for my father and his brothers business. I can remember Mom packing up us six kids in the back of her old truck " Beep Beep" and taking lunch out to my dad at his work site. Dad worked two jobs for several years and lunches on weekends was about the only time we would really see him.

[@brandi1719]

Love love love this episode ❤ I have some self reflections I need to process through. Thank you Whitney for sharing with us your personal story ❤ blessings to you and your baby ❤ I just now put a picture of me when I was little on my phone to look at when times are hard and I'm hard on myself.

[@Jessgardens]

Ive been hoping for an episode with Whitney ❤

[@bpielow]

Im a huge whitney fan and thats how I stumbled upon this podcast. This episode was amazing and I look forward to watching more.

[@EveryHandleIsTaken979]

I’m still listening and Whitney is so cute with all of her ideas before having her kid. I thought the same thing before I had mine…and I had a Bachelors in Elementary Ed, a Masters in Special education, and well over a decade in childcare and teaching. Then I had my kid…

[@user-fb4sb1zi8g]

I’m only 45 minutes in, and this is AMAZING! I seriously could listen to this for hours. So relatable, so educational, so helpful, so cleansing, and so hilarious.

[@lisadwhitworth]

Profundi insights and this episode was your best yet! Thank you for sharing Whitney with us!

[@elizabethfletcher5599]

❤best episode yet! Learned a lot about myself and answered some of the questions I had about myself 😢😊

[@ChaptersofGrowth7]

a Psychologist here and I related to old soul thing so much and thinking I am a full adult, overachieiving person - even though I was a mess.

[@dianavasquez7641]

This is such a good one, so much crying on my end, bless your baby Whitney, I am so happy for you.

[@mary4wild235]

This is the pod I’ve been waiting to see Whitney on. Love you both❣️

[@akmediascope]

I am ACOA. Its so important to do family of origin work. THANK you for this. Wise discussion. Whitney = so funny! I love how you discussed hyperawareness of an empath. That's how we are.

[@williamconroy9652]

I am sending this video to everyone I can think of who it might apply to. Absolutely amazing. Thank You both.

[@gregoryduran]

Thank You! This is a meeting of brains, all involved, that I couldn’t have wished for more. I just have to say Thank You again. ❤️

[@troymodin1682]

Awesome interview. Hope you two stay in touch. She will need you.

[@VeraChiuchannel]

This is so truthful, insightful and entertaining! Thank you for such a great episode ❤

[@HeroinMistress422]

Alright Whitney, one of my favorite episodes girl. This was good. Mayim, first episode I've watched, thank God for your brilliance in podcast form.

[@user-pv7vz9zt2w]

Whitney and Mayim are an absolutely amazing duo. Loved this conversation and their self awareness is top tier. ❤

[@dinodogstar]

Thank you, Ms Cummings, for being so selfless and generous wth coming out about your ED. It matters. People also don't know how friggin' BRILLIANT you are and contributed to TV beyond what we are generally aware of.

[@Juliette_Thandi]

This interview was so so good. I had to send it to people and share

[@GreenCatEye78]

Fascinating-this conversation is speaking directly to my soul

[@GuardianofLight8]

Just the intro was life saving tips! Wow! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@eddiewilson6988]

Not trying to be over dramatic here but I just can't tell you how refreshing it is to hear people sit down and just be open and honest and vulnerable. This was fantastic episode that actually helped me understand some of my childhood trauma. Nice Work to all involved!!!

[@namastefaith]

Gfu podcast. Whitney Cummings talks about this stuff in almost every podcast,so you might enjoy it if you are into hearing a lot of aca and coda speak.

[@AuntMoney]

Who knew I was so aligned with Whitney Cummings!

[@MrsPhoenix2020]

I listen to both of your podcasts but was a little scared to see the combination of great minds. But I loved it! Great interview... You'll need to have her back after the baby is born!

[@onebraveheartlion]

I relate so much to isolating from other parents because of my inability to tolerate other parents bad behaviors. Being Vegan compounds that because so many nonvegans get defensive once they find out we are Vegan. My girls have had several disappointing interactions trying to make friends too. I really feel for them. We don't have a Vegan community very close. 🤷♥️

[@tamarasagodicchappell5979]

Such a wholesome, valnurable conversation. ❤

[@rexbeavers6746]

Oh god oooommmmppphhh one of the most poignant and powerful interviews I’ve ever seen (relative to myself and my awareness). Amazing. Thank you. 🙏

[@bradenmonroe3818]

Totally enjoyed every second of this! Insightful, funny and inspiring. Whitney got a new fan after hearing this podcast

[@rrtrcp89]

What a wonderful episode. I laughed so much. I can relate to so much of what Whitney went through in her childhood. She is so wise.❤

[@daniellefuentesjohnson6750]

I adore her and this is a great interview. So much of what she shared is so familiar. I am looking forward to seeing what comes next! I would love to see Craig Ferguson have a conversation with you. He is also hilarious, insightful, and also knows the recovery world well.

[@Heyitsdes1]

When I see talented, brilliant, and just genuinely gifted women like you, it makes me feel so happy

[@christinatrainham1610]

I learned so much this podcast, it was genuinely therapy in so many forms 🌟✨⭐️💟❤️

[@CrystalCat24]

The last 5 episodes I've watched referenced the 12 step program. It really works for a lot of people!❤

[@hendrik7881]

the fantasy thing , the taking care of someone ( in a note not that long ago i wrote "that i am not made for love. but i am a damn good pain killer"). the attention from my parents in my case when i make music . i mean i still ove playing guitar but i have not a healthy releationship to her yet .... meant a lot to me . not just the understanding but that there are more like myself ...or us

[@zilyte]

I see many listeners noting similar aspects of knowledge, I certainly gained a lot and so organically funny! Also scheduling worries... Thank you

[@04neo40]

Good Lord, that's my favourite Breakdown so far. Neill Theise comes in second and Cory Feldman third I think. Being diagnosed with C-PTSD, BPD, panic disorder and depression a few months ago after a very druggy midlife crises which I mostly spent in a very interesting relationship with a person with narcissistic traits I can relate to everything you guys discussed. I'm of course HSP, an extraverted introvert, struggled with social anxiety until I discovered MDMA and couldn't stop after the bad side effects and addiction outweighed the therapeutic effect. I died laughing during this episode and am very grateful that I'm not the only oversharing person in the room anymore ;) Fyi: Jonathan is so on point whenever he drops his little pearls of wisdom or asks question to bring the conversation to an even deeper level ... cheers to our Canadian healer!

[@canadianrobot]

This one is a standout. I will admit, I kinda miss meltdown purple hair Whitney however this Whit warms the cockles of my heart. Thanks Ladies ❤🙏