Why Are Grumpy Old Men Grumpy?

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[@ChristianMCarroll]

I had this conversation with my wife when we started dating. I’m a dreamer and I have big aspirations and it’s important to my mental health. She values a man that goes and gets it and leads. We had this conversation and she was on board. It’s been stressful but God has provided amazingly and we are 2 years into marriage and it’s the backbone of my life (other than Jesus) because we are on the same page.

[@amberdelivered6054]

Loved hearing this. God bless you and your wife. A Christian man who can lead and a wonderful wife who lifted you up and allowed you to do the leading. What a team.!

[@ra444vlz]

That is one powerful image you gave me. It seems to me you're "walking with God", which for me means that you are living in accordance on how God wants a man to live. I also have big ambitions, and want to build a successful career, and want to marry later in life. Would you mind giving me any tips ? I'm 26, I just graduated from a physics major and I'm looking to find a job right now and do a masters degree in a year from now. I have a girlfriend but, I wanted to ask how you knew you found the right partner ? Perhaps, should I be focusing more on my career and mind the girlfriend/partner stuff later ? Or on what should I be focusing on right now ? Thank you in advance.

[@zaynumar0]

amazing doc ! How old are you?

[@rosesperfumelace]

Great advice. I sat down with my husband we had 2 kids at the time. I told him I wanted to write novels. I loved writing and it came easy to me. I figured it was doeable because I could do this at home while taking care of our kids. His response, he laughed at me. I remember how hurt I was because I fully supported his dream of owning his own mechanic shop. Which I supported financially and emotionally. Needless to say years down the road we got divorced. For many other reasons too. But I remember I was really mad at myself for not doing it anyway. I haven't done it yet but I put myself through school working a full-time job and taking care of my kids and became a licensed massage therapist. I felt accomplished. Now the kids are grown and I have the urge to write again. This time it will happen. ✌

[@greenpickle9606]

Marlena D good for you... My wife has done the same thing in supporting my business which is finally doing well after 6 years. I’ll make sure down the road when she needs the same thing... I’ll give it back. It’s only the right thing to do. Even though we both enjoy the fruits of the company I started, it would have never happened without her emotional and financial support.

[@linmal2242]

Good on you both Marlena and Green Pickle. common sense people prepared to have a go with support from sensible partners.

[@Genxrgonemad]

Best select I know you'll do it!

[@rosesperfumelace]

@@Qrayon yeah, I realized I made a typo after the fact. No one is perfect. I imagine you are friends with my ex lol.

[@Qrayon]

@@rosesperfumelace Oh, o.k. I'll delete my comment. You know you can always edit your comment by clicking on the 3 dots to the upper right of your comment.

[@mkbcoolman]

I couldn't agree more, Pat. I've been married for 26 years, and the challenges we've overcome in that time are a testament to proper communication. My kids have asked me several times how to make a marriage work, and my answer is always the same: Pursue your own goals with determination, dedication, and single-minded focus. After some time, you will look around and see that there are a small number of people running in the same direction. These people are your tribe...they will become your friends, challengers, and perhaps one of them will become your life partner.

[@christysmith2807]

Over 30 years ago my husband had this conversation with me. I was scared big time but I knew he had to have his shot. Best thing we ever did👍

[@boomerhgt]

He opened a newsagents shop

[@rasul407]

You got a channel but how comes I have more subscribers than you do?

[@corylatimer]

This is such a timely video. I’m 32 and I need to have this serious conversation else I end up being bitter at 70. A big THANK YOU!

[@jackcomber1087]

Been working on my dream situation for over 10 years and 10,000 hours. Quit a high position job, got divorced and now I'm living life on my own terms with amazing success. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner in life.

[@lifeofcus9991]

Patrick is my therapist, needed to hear this

[@P.Jlive2024]

I'll 2nd that...

[@magogo5905]

Me too, guys. 🤚

[@boomerhgt]

Not sure about this big life thing what exactly does that mean ...more wealth I assume that's not a proper goal to aspire too

[@lifeofcus9991]

boomerhgt most people have aspirations for some people it’s something as small as owning a restaurant as a small business or finishing their preferred subject at university. I think for most people who are following valuetainment aspire to create something big. It doesn’t only bring you monetary satisfaction but it also free’s you up to be able to do things you want, spend time with family and not be caught up in something that doesn’t make you happy. That’s just my understanding though !

[@scottandersen5013]

Nice Pat, My wife and I have raced through life for over forty years.3 kids 4 grand kids.. Still racing trying for more. Never stop till you drop, All we've got is our time. Never take it for granted.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

Marry yourself and your aspirations first and you’ll attract your mirror image.

[@BboyKeny]

My girlfriend and I want to grow and improve together. I'm 26 year old programmer she's 23 year old graphic designer and we are together almost 6 years She wants to write books and I support her. I want to make responsibilities easier and more fun for everyone. So I'm starting a software development company. I like helping people and making games so why not combine it? I guess we brought out our aspirations by encouraging each other. We both want to improve ourselves no matter how hard it is, because we both love each other. So in our case we did the inverse of what you suggest. I do agree with your strategy more though.

[@alejandromontuffar6194]

@@BboyKeny such wise words!

[@P.Jlive2024]

Finally some real Inspiration!

[@genericsomething]

Become what a good husband is, and your wife will find you.

[@Alazoom76]

Words to live by. Thanks.

[@badasscop4459]

I am 41, and I know what I want 2 years ago. Working hard to get ahead in life. My wife also has problems with it, I rather have guilt than regret, because in the end it will all be about regret. If you do or dont, difference is having something and have regret or have nothing and have more regret. I rather have something. And I did have this excact conversation 2 days ago with my wife. She brushed it off a bit, but now she nows. I am going for it regardless what happends.

[@tool3142]

Hell yeah buddy, I hope you're still going for it and going strong

[@june-mariemorgan2579]

It's perspective. Sometimes the big life is the small life and Sometimes the small life is actually the big life. It's not always about the money, but it is always about the value. You have to value yourself and value your life.

[@jamespn]

I’m old and grumpy but couldn’t be happier.

[@review-report]

Salute!! Live Long!!!

[@Daniel-jc1wd]

:) I met "the oldest guy on the block" yesterday (ps...6 miles around the block)--he's 75--said he was first one here...I said me at 40 don't think to make 60, he said when he was 40 he thought if he made 55 he would be happy..."and now I'm 75 and still not happy":) Nice guy

[@_Wai_Wai_]

@@Daniel-jc1wd why would people think they can't make it to 55 or 60? This is the USA, even the Average life expectancy, is around 79.

[@Daniel-jc1wd]

@@_Wai_Wai_ I've been very sick 4 a long time...that's my reason...doctors have mostly been most unhelpful...not complaining, just saying

[@TheEnd-sv8qr]

James Nasto Awesome point! The grumpier I am, the less people screw with me and leave me the hell alone! Works like a charm everytime.

[@raquelrodriguez865]

When he said “ I need SIX HOURS of your time because we need to have a serious conversation.” 😳

[@jordanaubrey-realestateinv334]

Become the person you want to meet. Everything else will take care of its self.

[@brian81877]

35 year old stay at home wife: babe I decided I want to be an astronaut.

[@oaedeoi]

You go girl👍👌💪♥️❤️

[@mazadancoseben4818]

Do so

[@OmarDelawar]

Why are old men grumpy? Several reasons: 1. Body is falling apart and everything hurts 2. Nobody cares nor respects them 3. They want a hot young wife not an old potato sack 4. Their Social Security check isn't enough to live on 5. They probably didn't save enough to make ends meet 6. Their own children have disowned them and see them as liabilities 7. Nursing home living sucks! 8. They are trapped in a body that doesn't even work anymore like it used to 9. They can't even take care of themselves and need people to dress them up 10. They miss their youth when they were able to do everything they wanted...oh the regrets!

[@tman5634]

I had the conversation & conversations with my spouse. Unfortunately she didn't listen or understand. I realised we weren't singing from the same home sheet & so we split up. Being single I could follow my dreams without being held back, I was my own boss without restrictions. Years on & I've accomplished my dreams, but at the expense of an equal & supportive spouse in my life...but now I can build on that dream & go for my next. Great vlog, thank you.

[@gmilitaru]

It was scary and extremely painful when, after seven years of blissful marriage, my second wife finally let it out - in a moment of more or less justified anger - that us being madly in love until the end of our life was not the way she imagined our relationship. In the meantime, she had gotten more and more frustrated with my lack of support, and I with not being able to share emotions, doubts, insecurities with her. It took me/us one and a half years to overcome this. But she was too good a human being to let her go. It is no longer the same arrangement, the happiness is still there - for both of us I hope - but we are still able to look at our future happily rather than grumpily look back at missed opportunities. As long as we feel ourselves powerful and immortal, it is easy to kick our dissatisfaction and missed aspiration down the road. But there comes a moment in our lives when we feel immortality leaving us. When this moment comes, if the bottom line is in red ink for whatever reason, it is very hard not to flip out. Usually, this is when men, in their very late forties, start acting like moody, irresponsible teenagers only to crash down and burn in a few years' time and become grumpy old men. When women realise there will be no Prince Charming to come and love and protect them from an empty, hollow nest, usually in their early fifties, they stop struggling to find a way out and start looking to get revenge for having been scorned by life. They want to shape a phantom of their ideal lives at the cost of bending others' lives like ruthless Miss Havishams. Of course, not all disappointed men end up grumpy old men, and not all disillusioned women and up old, bitter, malicious crones. But again, it is very difficult to completely avoid going down that path if you failed to follow your potential and your dreams by the end of your immortality.

[@c.s1393]

Brilliant analysis

[@YoungGoc]

"Maybe you're crazy and have 3 kids." *has 3 kids*

[@ClassicCarCustodians]

😂

[@arsend6951]

Same here, 3 years in marriage, each year new child. And now ive started own business, without show off extremely successful, and want to fuck my accountant, ive hired 4 days ago. Man, I have problem right?

[@Iurydance1]

@@arsend6951 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@vkngwmn6636]

@@arsend6951 vulgar

[@arsend6951]

@@vkngwmn6636 how? At least im honest. If you are interested I did not made any effort in that direction so far. Its not like im fighting with that desire, I simply refused to do that.

[@Bud_Studly]

Regret about not starting a business, is not the reason most grumpy old men develop this attitude. Men turn grumpy, and cynical, and resentful, when they come to the realization that they are nothing more than a plow horse and checkbook to their wife.

[@pulanala1421]

The only relevant comment

[@williamjarvis2241]

Men lead a life of quiet desperation

[@Bud_Studly]

@@pulanala1421 I've seen it happen over and over. Bust your hump for decades to provide the lifestyle she demanded, and in the end you get something like: "Your job was more important than me - or - You never listened - or - We've grown apart - or - I love you, but I'm not in love with you". Most guys will suffer in silence. I've know men who spent years in sexless marriages, and never said a word about it, until she dropped the divorce papers on his desk.

[@Bud_Studly]

@@williamjarvis2241 Truth brother. Most of the older guys I've known do exactly that.

[@Bud_Studly]

@wanderer Cash and prizes! And the odds at the Casino of Family Court are stacked against the guy.

[@msbethmildhyperbaricoxygen6392]

Thank you. My husband said to me when we first got married that he was jealous that I love my career. I asked him what do you want to be (he was 41 years old at the time) he said I’ve always wanted to be a cop. I then said let’s go be a cop then and he started applying to police jobs. He had 18 years in the military at the time but hated his job. He was a cop in 6 months after our conversation and he has never regretted his decision. I will always support him in his desires and have the hard conversations. Thank you for this inspiration.

[@sunnystiver2897]

Way to ho chickaroo 💪💯 thank you both for your service 💖💥💖💖

[@KnowInsanity]

Still going back and watching old videos because I only found you about 5 months ago. Absolutely loved every video I have watched. Thank You Pat!

[@Genxrgonemad]

This is profound advice. I always thought as a husband that you had to always compromise to have a great marriage. That may be true of some things but not of your dreams. Never ever let somebody stand in your way.

[@joeythechin8870]

I’m 50. Thank God I had this very conversation with my wife when I was 30.!! I can’t and never could blame anyone for my success and or my failures in life!!

[@seipher_8334]

This is exactly why I didn't get married or have children until my late 30's! I wanted to make sure I tried and did everything I wanted to do with my life. Now everyday I wake up with my wife and kids I'm absolutely grateful and will do everything for them. I don't have regret in my heart and that is exactly why I'm not a grumpy old man lol

[@keenanbaldree6888]

“I don’t know why you’re asking these pity paty questions!!” Lmaooo

[@lifeisateacherfindthetrue5884]

Help People. That's the best thing ever. Give is the best feeling.

[@razenhell6514]

Happiness is everything 1996 and before.

[@IronReef77]

You got that right

[@Re3iRtH]

Stop living in the past bro

[@nahmate-]

Please explain

[@doylejodi7502]

To add to it, our dreams & aspirations may also change over time. We continue to somewhat suppress them; for the ‘greater good’ especially after years pass & you’re already knees deep in the life you had initially chosen and the ones you now feel obligated to. When my Mom was dying, she was 79 & wasn’t ready. It was like she really finally understood what all the years she’d spent sacrificing & giving of herself to others, really meant... that she’d never get a second chance to do something that really fed her own spirit and now it was too late. There are no ‘do-overs’, people.

[@chrysoulano-name4033]

Uh-O, had this convo, but I said let’s divorce, but 7 years of fighting later. Good point, I should tell my kids why daddy calls me crazy. “I just want to be with you.” He said THAT!!! Oh my GOD! Compromising! He said yes AND DIDNT GO WITH IT! We had all of these conversations!!!! Having this convo DOESNT HELP WITH SOME PEOPLE

[@sellmorehomesnow]

This was literally one of your best videos... and it’s absolutely true. I’m 50.. and have made most of those mistakes you mentioned.. but it’s solid advice that you are giving that I wish I had known years ago.

[@jorgefigueroa2231]

I'm single but I'm glad to hear this. One day this will come up with my future wife.

[@alandbs329]

.....I’m pretty sure you’re gonna die alone. 💁

[@natalyadelvalle]

The way you tell stories really allows people to paint the picture of what life could be like if certain decisions the made!

[@Babett_B]

For most people it's much easier to have somebody else make choices for them, then point fingers and not take responsibility for their inability to make a decision. And those people will never watch this video. It's too painful. Just as painful as for you to realise that you can't help them. Only they can help themselves.

[@mr.l8527]

It's called, "Personal Responsibility" and most people don't seem to fully grasp what that is (these days).

[@AdventureElliot]

Gotta take care of yourself and your mental health to be the best version of yourself. To achieve this you have to consider the most underlooked factor to mental health: your diet. Your diet dictates how you feel on a daily basis which enables you to make little decisions and those little decisions add up as you get older.

[@mariaasimon3117]

Being successful is different for a everyone.

[@TheTread123]

@Joeys48 edit what you wrote, missing the word "Free"

[@piisgi]

Yes. That's what unsuccessful people says.

[@mariaasimon3117]

@Joeys48 congratulations, on your financial success, excellent, America is the land of opportunity, we are free to choose our individual success.. Nd

[@boomerhgt]

mariaa simon Yeah great just before the mob burn down your house America ha ha

[@efrainleguizamo5542]

Patrick I swear this message was god sent if I get to meet you one day I have to tell you my story particularly pertaining to this video. Thanks Pat hope you have a blessed life

[@sadikbittar6340]

You are the only one who tackle this important issues, God bless you bro.

[@ALee-ArmedVeteran]

Before I started my family, I told my fiancé.. Having children will not stop my pursuit of my goals... And my goals are bigger than anything you can imagine. . . She understands and she’s loving it... Women love ambitious men

[@JRS2248]

This was so RIGHT ON! Thank You from a old grumpy old man.

[@Je.rone_]

Probably the aches and pains of old age, that'd prolly make anyone a little more grumpy

[@uknasa007]

lol

[@Daniel-jc1wd]

amen

[@navithegoat65]

Amen

[@gmilitaru]

If you put it like this, the greatest pain-killer is to have a passion you follow in your life.

[@TheAgentAssassin]

Yeah my body has weird aches and pains I never knew existed. It does make me grumpy and moody sometimes. I long to leap like a gazelle in their youth.

[@albertonosenzo6024]

Great tip, thank you Pat. This plilisophy aligns with the response I have got from many 70+ people when I asked them what do they regret the most in life, and their answers most of the times were not have done certain things important to them.

[@thepeachyshow-letstalkmone496]

💯

[@jeffreyd508]

Dreams, goals, expectations all cause suffering in life. It will cause a constant state of discontentment, anxiety and dissatisfaction. Once you real a goal, you will quickly adapt and feel normal and not satisfied again. Then the next goal...then the next etc. I have none of those, and I'm very happy. Buddhism has helped me to not chase anything, but be here now, and be happy, NOW

[@nuclearshinigami7743]

Nice, but interesting to see you here on such an aspirations focused channel then. Still, the value of being grateful for whatever you already have or are is an important one. But still going forward so that our goals give meaning and not an unquenchable addiction seems way more fulfilling to me. So team Stoicism here but good on you for that fulfillment :)

[@zaynumar0]

I'm 21 and all I want is cash so I never have to work for another mere mortal. Them I can be satisfied with Buddhism agendas ;)

[@allenshaffer4638]

I’m married and have 5 kids in our house 8 and under I’m 30 and this hits home brother got me in my feelings and it’s not that my family’s not behind me just made a lot of mistakes and tryna get it together I read doing the impossible and I’m reading next five moves right now really struggling with my future truth

[@markmayes41]

I agree with everything PBD said except referring to small life vs big life. It's like living a small life is bad. There are many people living a small life that is there dream life and they are happy.

[@thewhirllwindmusic8245]

My only dreams are to be able to walk in the store without having to block my respiratory system with a mask

[@kristamarie3856]

Same here

[@demonsix2406]

Man. Thanks for sharing that vid. I hope people around you tell you in person all the time how grateful they are for the information and wisdom you share to help people. You’re a f-ing saviour man.

[@bjoldic]

Wow your story telling is insane Pat. That intro was something else

[@thomashenshallhydraxis]

Getting married is not the safe bet. Getting married is how a man loses everything after working for ten years.

[@LaDeeDah]

And women lose everything during the ten years

[@alantinoalantonio]

@@LaDeeDah actually, they don't. Courts favor them and they can latch on to another man easily.

[@missnthrop5763]

@@alantinoalantonio 🤣🤣🤣Not if they have standards!

[@LaDeeDah]

@Ladiekadie 👏👏👏

[@thomashenshallhydraxis]

@Ladiekadie Behind every successful man is a line of young girls trying to slob on knobs.

[@todjones6571]

Been married sixty years and none of what you described occurred in our marriage. We consulted on most every issue and came to reasonable conclusions without the conflict or the boredom you described

[@deepwaterjohnrask6980]

I am a grumpy old Man because I look back over the generations of my family that fought for this Country only to watch it burn... Patrick, if Women listened to there Husbands and followed there direction we would not be looking at the end of this Nation. God help us all.

[@michelep7017]

Can't blame it on the women

[@sunnystiver2897]

🤔🤔🤔 so, the down fall of our nation is by women who were raised with no fathers? 🤔🤔 bit narrow minded 🤷‍♀️ i absolutely agree that at the core of ugly is a bunch of women, but. . They were taught not just by other women, but men. Dads, teachers etc. Right? Just thinking out loud really, but interesting. Not looking for a KZbin war, just thinking. 🤷‍♀️ #StayLegendary my KZbin friend 💯💪💖💖🇺🇲

[@deepwaterjohnrask6980]

I should have stopped at "watch it burn". I blame cabin fever. Sorry.

[@cyrusbharucha]

This is the most important conversation any married man or woman should have. High time some one put it out there.

[@sslivestogiesandsports9166]

Best thing I ever watched! Pat, you're the man. Point blank!

[@EasyFixShaun]

Life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end, the faster it goes. Love you PD. Thanks for the video man.

[@davidwright7606]

"The vast majority of men live lives of quiet desperation". -- Ross Perot..

[@maxdoubt7680]

gee, i thought that was Henry David Thoreau - RP might've lifted it.

[@Citizens4DefenseLLC]

I'm 41 Pat, raising five kids, and started this entrepreneurial journey five years ago. I know exactly what you're talking about. My wife and I are going to Vegas for our 13 year anniversary and participate in 3 days of Professional Defensive Handgun Training out at Front Sight Resort. Going to have that talk because I couldn't live with the regret of knowing that I could have saved lives if only I had been more committed to getting families trained and serving humanity which is currently under attack. 🇺🇸⚔🦅🏆👊🏼💥

[@gokulnath3165]

Thats why im single, i want to be an entrepreneur and form an billion usd worth company and to create value in society

[@gokulnath3165]

@Ladiekadie if i create jobs thats itself is an value

[@IntellectualKetchup]

One of your best videos. Thank you so much. I have been trying to have these conversations my entire adult life. I am also very lucky that my wife has stuck with me through all my business ventures for the last 27 years.

[@xraymao5405]

Hey Pat, I would love you to give some book recomendation related to the subject in every video of yours.

[@ultrasonicmind9428]

You're a God sent Mr. Bet-David. All I can say is THANK YOU. Listening to you most often than not seems you are addressing something about me or talking to me directly. One of the best things that I'll treasure for life is being able to meet you one day, to offer my thanks in person. But since I'm yet unable to do that, let me do it via this medium--THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU.

[@cayminlast]

Happily married for almost thirty yrs. Aches and pains prevent doing things I like to do, that is frustrating which makes me grumpy. But for the most part I'm happy and like to laugh and have fun.

[@smileydreamyeyes]

Sometimes the convo is the hardest step. Thanks for the pointers

[@TheEnd-sv8qr]

Young man, people have been beat up all their lives with troubles, betrayals, problems, failures, deaths, financial losses and you havent even lived half the time that they have. See your point, but make your plans and many times God has a different agenda for you! Just sayin. Life is hard enough when you do everything right, screw up, just once, makes it that much more difficult, and it doesnt need to be you that did the screw up. Life can change in an instant. But good vid, thx

[@thebigpicture2032]

True! I was the victim in several accidents caused by other people. Injuries accumulate over a lifetime and can make you very grumpy due to writhing in pain.

[@micarenes7039]

Hi "Hon", there is book that comes up with 101 good questions before engagement/marriage to go through and talk about it together. 1) dont call your wife "Babe", she is a grown up. You picture her not very nice 2) a "Big" life can have all kinds of connotations 3) You dont live to make other people "proud". 4) You can change course somewhere in your life 5) there needs to be regular time to have deep talks, all through your life. 6) Women find their "calling" often later in life.7) I like your "teachings", f.i. I have learnt most about crisis management raising kids having a partner and working/studying all at the same time.

[@johnnycroat]

so true , also when you stop blaming everyone else and be full of anger and resentful and you now point the finger back to yourself the depression begins , the words ring from dead poets society....Carpe diem " seize the day"

[@deuxpomme9777]

Seems like ur talking about that Old grumpy man Thomas Jeffersons descendant u interviewed x)

[@smartypants4571]

Must be with this perfect timing !

[@Bob-fz7pd]

Cranky old man is being kind to that hateful old fart. I bet he was adopted and no one told him.

[@jtrenow]

Pat for president, so well read, articulate, intelligent and great communication

[@noureddinelaroui4058]

Im 41 entrpreneur but a bit confused these times on what business should i focus and where to be with wife and 4 kids. This video is great. Thanks man.

[@whoisjohngalt3047]

You have know idea what this means to me right now!! My in-laws are going through this RIGHT now😳 🥺they’re in their 70’s Marriage is hard. It’s a commitment..

[@MrFrank107]

I Sacrificed my 20's and 30's chasing my dream. It didn't work out for me. Now I grow old satisfied, knowing I gave it my best shot.

[@boomerhgt]

Sounds like you just quit to me

[@MrFrank107]

@@boomerhgt I was into music. It's a young man's game.

[@repentforthekindomofheaven5644]

I found out that getting married is a Business according to the Government and the IRS. STAY SINGLE !!

[@cavejohnson4054]

This video, and the current zeitgeist ideas of relationships which originated in the post WWII world shows that maybe there's some truth of how they did things in old fashion times or in certain religions, but it's politically incorrect to talk about.

[@GieCampbel-ug9jl]

@Stephon Stewart And when you are old and lonely with no one around to love and care for you, that is a sad life indeed. Choosing the right mate is all that counts.

[@imahick5723]

In Judaism the couple form a contract so it is very much a business decision

[@dutch1999]

Hands down the best channel on youtube.

[@boykokamenski3269]

Well done Pat you chose a very wonderful topic human life cost me seven years to get rid of an unnecessary load from my back that pulled me only down from the king cobra to spit poison every day less Thank you for the advice

[@michaeld2060]

We wouldn’t have gotten this far as a species if we did not have the tough conversations. Life is too short to not accomplish the things we want. Majority of our parents didn’t have the tough conversations thus most of us just settle. Settling is for those who are okay with being content. It’s amazing how a conversation and a different mindset can change you.

[@angel-peralta]

It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own. - Marcus Aurelius, Emperor of Rome 161 AD - 180 AD

[@nurhayat81]

Wow.

[@DevilDog2019]

The Catholic Church has marriage setup as a sacrament. And you are supposed to go through marriage counseling before getting married. And it should really be about 6 months before wedding. And there would be classes that would be held weekly or monthly. All those things get discussed there. I love what you have put out here Patrick, it's awesome, and absolutely correct. I stated that the church conducts pre-marriage counseling too as it addresses everything that you discussed in your video.

[@martybardetta1338]

Just amagine a world where those who want to go for it are not forced to compromise but are encourage

[@Kevin-he8ec]

Great video Pat, very down to earth. A slap in the face by reality some of us really need.

[@thelayoverpodcast87]

This is probably one of the most important videos I have ever seen.

[@Improveng1]

Pat, you ARE the man. Another absolutely true, on the button analysis. Your insight is phenomenal, respect from across The Pond...and stay safe my friend.

[@chavagdl84]

You continue to amaze me PBD. Your content is amazing and inspiring.

[@jimromero1121]

41! You're still wet behind the ears. The conversation of which you speak should happen before you get married. To thine own self be true.

[@gzfashions]

Talking about keeping it 💯 damn Pat! This video gave me chills even though I am not married I know the time may calm when this conversation may have to be brought up. This does apply to everyone.

[@onewayofliving]

I asked my wife these questions on the 2nd date we had. If her answers didn't match my answers, it would have been our last date. Why waste each other's time? Been together almost 20 years. :)

[@youKnowWho3311]

41. Needed this. It's ON!

[@benedekbereczki3923]

It's also related to ones who are not married yet. They have to have this conversation before they marry. Better then after.

[@TheWedeShow]

You have no idea how perfect the timing is for this video. I’ve been trying to work out in my head how to have this conversation with my significant other. We’ve been together 4 years. She moved across the country with me for my job. She wants the typical white picket fence family life while I want to pursue something greater. Im on track to achieve that but it will require sacrifice for the next 10 years (im 27 now). This is the ONLY concern I have about our future. I will make sure to have the conversation this year. Your video helped me formulate how it will go. Thank you ✌️

[@Pinchshot39]

This one hit me hard. I've lived through this for 28 years. I could have done a dozen other careers, travelled around and been free. Take chances with no worries about providing for the family. I just turned 60 and am on my end game now. Too late.

[@crackinupcomedy1851]

Not too late im 27

[@narboxide007]

Pat jan! This video spoke straight to my heart and gave me the courage to make my next entrepreneurial move and tell my wife that I'm no longer Mr.Nice guy. Thanks Big Bro

[@bakedcreations8985]

Erectile disfunction.

[@IronReef77]

I'm 28 years young and grumpy but happy. Grumpy cause I'm focused and not for alot of laziness and playing. People play too much w/o putting in work and complain about life. But I'm the happiest man alive cause I accomplish self achievement frequently and still able to enjoy my passions in life

[@johnnymula2305]

Theres nothing worst than being in a relationship where one has aspirations and dreams, and the other has such low motivation. To me, thats when you find a better half.

[@raaxaa]

This really got me emotional & charged up at the same time! I could relate to it so much, especially the moment when he said 'I am forty one!' I am at crossroads in my life (turned forty this year) and not gonna let next 5/10/20 years go to waste! Rather I will pursue something that will make life worth living, irrespective of the financial consequences!

[@patkob2180]

Small life...big life...this guy will one day learn that life is a gift. You are not bigger or smaller life.

[@colincreighton7994]

Patrick, I needed this... I broke up with my now ex last November & we've been going back on forth on should we get back together. I had this talk with her a few times throughout the relationship and she always failed to give an opinion on my plan or a plan of her own.. Thank you for talking me into taking myself seriously. This was the video that broke the cycle for me. Time to take myself serious & listen to my gut.

[@carlos31302]

My ex wife of 11 years divorced me last April. She was more ambitious than I was and when it was time for me to make a new life decision to change the family direction, she left me because I no longer served her purpose in life or her vision for her future. I'm 52 now and will never ever marry again. She wants to get back together and marry her but you can never go back home again. Put a plan together for your own life and take small steps to accomplish it and soon you will realize how much you can manifest in your life. Get it done my friend. I now live at peace with myself.

[@Coolness]

Thank you for making this. I’m 40 and these exact thoughts are going through my mind about my wife and my future.

[@fatimohjinadu8769]

I am grateful for all tour videos

[@AdventureElliot]

Also, you gotta learn to read the profile of your significant other. For example, my girlfriend is Venezuelan, a lot of people would say to be careful with latinas from a poor country for obvious reasons. However, she immigrated to Spain alone with all her hard earned savings from working in Ecuador (U.S. dollar there) and she has proven her independence and own aspirations. She wants to save € and invest in a farm back in Venezuela (where they desperately need sustainable food) and I have a passion for traveling and living in Latin America. Let’s just say I’ve had multiple girlfriends in the United States which I just couldn’t do anymore and I’ve dated other latinas and nothing compares to the situation I’m in right now. I have a beautiful, humble, educated , intelligent, and independent Gf from Venezuela who embraces her culture and authenticity yet came here (to Spain) on her own dollar for a better life. Best of both worlds.

[@HamedAdefuwa]

As someone who just started a KZbin channel i have no idea how pat does these in 1 take.

[@keltonbajo6081]

Thanks for talking to me Pat. I already started this conversation today with my wife before I even watched this video and being in a spiritual journey I don't think this video showed as a recommendation by coincidence.