why are so many young women lonely in 2024?

[@terrellfair9812]

Imma be honest from dude perspective women low key hate each other. The amount of times ive seen " girl friend groups" undermine each other is crazy. Its like women are okay when their friends are doing the same as them but the moment one of them gets something that the other thinks they deserve , they start trying to sabotage

[@johnwayne4911]

brotherhood is priceless, sisterhood is worthless.

[@infinitetundra]

The Caitlyn Clark affect

[@renjia3504]

​@@infinitetundraExactly women are just as bad of not worse than men with men if we don't like other men it's probably bc they are terrible at said task job etc, women you get Kaitlin Clark good inspirational even from a man's perspective but women that have the power in that league where looking for her to be black, so bc she wasn't born the right color she gets treated like less than and I'm a black man and I can see it

[@gloriaregali9090]

Sadly, yes. Last week I lost the last friend because of that.

[@gloriaregali9090]

@@johnwayne4911the same brotherhood when they look at your woman sexually as well?..

[@salkoharper2908]

Gen Z young 20s are the hardest demographic group for me to strike up a conversation with. I find it much easier to talk to older people, they are often more willing to chat and don't get offended by literally everything. It is very noticeable how many young are now single and difficult to approach. Even just in casual conversation.

[@AfroSnackey]

You're not kidding. I can't even ask a girl at Walmart where the iPhone charge cables are and she works there🤣

[@iam4w3enfp]

this generation is traumatised by lack of serious threats which would give them a sense of self. so they rely on their skin color, their gender and their sexuality to feel their identity and understand themselves (an example of egoists equating status with personality and not seeing the difference between these two), to find growth and enemies. and then these goofy asses with happy ass lives in first world countries portray themselves to be victims cause they are offended by blushes which don’t suit their skin color. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@spicymemes7458]

Gen Z is awkward. That doesn't mean they don't want to talk, just that they don't know how. I have a niece like this. I just started chatting away in the hopes that they catch on to something that interests them and they start jumping them when you pass the vibes test. Sometimes you have to first prove you aren't fulfilling the preconceived notions that the internet sets them up to believe.

[@salkoharper2908]

@@spicymemes7458 In that case, she will struggle to have friends then. It's not all of societies job to tip-toe around them and cater to their 'preconceived notions'. I'm sorry, it's not your fault, but if your niece is that difficult she will have a lot of trouble in life. We all need to be able to communicate with other humans, its kind of a prerequisite for jobs, family, education. Life in general. You need to stop babying her, be more firm but fair. I am a young man too btw :)

[@jayporter1981]

Same, I'm 29 years old, and most of the men I would consider friends are around my Dad's age(60)

[@Avsfan23]

I cant believe most people aren't capable of having fun or doing things alone. I go camping, to the movies, bike rides, everything alone. You get used to it.

[@ellisjackson336]

I enjoy doing things alone. And even then sometimes I end up meeting new people while doing things alone

[@copachugames7476]

Id avoid camping alone (depending where you are) for different reasons lol

[@Avsfan23]

@copachugames7476 I've done it multiple times. I know how to handle people and animals that don't get the concept of not messing with me

[@toochukwuuzohue89]

You may be neurodivergent

[@manuproulx2764]

I often dance alone while singing along to my favorite songs. And I greatly enjoy myself whenever I do it.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

People not being “open” anymore might secretly be one of the biggest reasons people feel lonely. I swear no one seems to care to meet people, be sociable and make friends anymore, or at least they put on a facade that they don’t care. I think they’re afraid to open up and stand out or something. I see this all the time with our generation, especially since the pandemic. It’s like they have this constant look on their face as to seem as and unbothered as possible. I never thought I’d be the sociable one wondering why people lack social skills, I believe the default should be to reach out to people around you, spark up conversations, and slowly divulge a bit. I’m seeing people act and carry themselves like they’re unemotional robots afraid to bridge that gap and I think it’s a shame.

[@54697A]

I think some people have their own groups of friends and just don't want to expand those groups because that would mean "starting again" (getting to know each other, being nice, and using words carefully) and all that work may be too bothersome

[@melrose246]

​@@54697A not only that but people nowadays are weird so most people don't wanna branch out too much outside of the friends they already have

[@Jamhael1]

Nah - the problem is this "demand" on emotional connection that, lets be honest here, only happens in movies. Real life is not an "emotional roller-coaster" - and to believe in the contrary, all you gonna get is rejection or a mere lying performance. Sorry, but emotion is HARD WORK, and no one have the energy to deal with that...

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

@@54697A I totally see that, but when she pointed out people not being open to being open, I just wonder why that is. I have to assume there’s this large cloud looming over us called social media, and I don’t know why but people’s default behaviors seem less and less social. Maybe social media really has affected the way we perceive friendships and relationships and act towards others in the real world. It’s almost like it’s conditioned our brains to act a certain way, a certain way that’s pretty detrimental to forming friendships IRL. Kind of feels like people think they’re stepping over boundaries trying to make friends. It’s also just a massive distraction.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

@@Jamhael1 Agreed, people are too scared, they only see examples of already formed, well established connections in movies and on social media. Not enough is show on how people actually make friends and those early stages. It’s usually not immediate friendship by any means, people typically need a reason in the first place to be close to and see someone else frequently. That’s why school is the best place to make friends.

[@Dobermanmomma]

I was blessed with two best friends in my 20s. They both died very early in life. I still look back on those 10 years we shared together as the best years of my life, but friendships come and go so enjoy it while it's here.

[@SS-cu8se]

I think the problem with friendships in todays day and age is the “protecting my peace” rhetoric that encourages people to cut people off at the smallest slight instead of communicating issues or boundaries. People are imperfect. If you’re going to cut someone off for making a mistake, OR WORSE, cut them off because of grievances you never even discussed with them, then of course you’re going to end up lonely. If you are not above misunderstandings/miscommunications, how can you expect other people to be? The main issue with the loneliness epidemic is people are not looking inwards to figure out why they’re lonely. Is it because everyone around you is a A-hole? Or is it because you have unrealistic expectations of people, expect them to fill certain roles in your life, don’t communicate these expectations, and then when they mess up (which is inevitable because we are all fallible humans), you’d rather cut them off than work through any issues? My guess is a lot of people fall into the second category. Friendship is not suppose to be hard. But it’s also not suppose to be flawless. There’s a balance and a lot of people don’t know how to achieve it.

[@Jamhael1]

@@SS-cu8se that is because people have NO IDEA what balance is...

[@rural_girl555]

People at this point are being stupid and unrealistic with their friendship standards. They want to be friends with unicorns, not actual people.

[@Jamhael1]

@@rural_girl555 FINALLY SOMEONE GETS IT!

[@ericbrown1132]

Nope, people today are worried about quantity over quality. The social media friend list and how people judge you based off follower count. They have done studies on this and at any given time people can only recall about 100 people on the high end.

[@bot1-p7m]

Modern friendship is only concerned with money, appearance, successes, and so on. You're delusional if you push yourself into these people. They're spoiled brats who will look down on you. They think highly of themselves and believe they are a tremendous necessity and a great loss in your life. Walking away is the most effective course of action. Also, there's nothing wrong with keeping your peace. Get involved in other people's life or you will be sucked into their problems, putting yourself in danger.

[@totallynotdio1311]

I think its more of a "humanity loneliness epidemic" but no one cared until it started having a effect on women. Im not trying to make it a zero sum game, but men have been dealing with it for DECADES

[@randommortal3383]

Since the beginning

[@porkerpete7722]

​@@randommortal3383 of time.

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Women still aren't experiencing it. Women saying that they're experiencing loneliness is like a millionaire saying they're experiencing financial hardship because one of their investments didn't work out.

[@Caitlyn-n3d]

Literally all anyone talks about is the male loneliness epidemic. Do you live under a rock? Men have been center stage since the dawn of time. Everything in society is a result of men because y'all ran things exclusively until the last 100 or so years. 😂 Y'all are just mad we care about women now. The attention isn't 100% on you so you have an all or nothing mindset.

[@Caitlyn-n3d]

Cry about it.

[@shreyatheillustrator]

I've always been bothered by how I'm unable to make a connection with anyone especially when it comes to female friendships. Some times I felt like I was the problem or that maybe I'm not that interesting 😅

[@briabyers6270]

You're not alone i feel the same way

[@katechipata9934]

It’s better to be alone than to have FAKE friends. Trust me!!

[@handlebar4520]

I've felt that. I'm a dude that has ASD, and seeing how other people make and hold onto friendships so much easier than me really puts me on a downer. I feel like Im being left in the dust by everyone else and since veryone else manages, the only conclusion i can come to is that I'm the problem.

[@HaleyMary]

I honestly feel the same way. I only have two female friends. Probably because they are as nerdy as I am, but one is an online friend from youtube and the other is married and has two kids now, so I don't see her as often anymore. I'm close to 40, so it does feel really lonely sometimes. Oh, and dating life is nonexistent right now. I haven't even been asked out since before the pandemic. My cats are my friends.

[@ernestkhalimov748]

​@@handlebar4520wtf is ASD

[@danielleharvey9464]

I find it so crazy how we’re in this epidemic of loneliness, yet people don’t seem to really be making an effort to counteract the phenomenon. I think Gen Z in particular tends to stay home more and spend their time in their own hobbies, rather than trying to find others who also enjoy doing those things, like too many of us are just comfortable being inside to the point where talking to others is a more rare occasion. For example, I enjoy cake decorating, crotheting and drawing, but despite how popular those things are, it’s hard to find clubs where I can do those things in a social setting. Yet, you can find plenty of people sharing these things they did, by themselves, on tiktok, to others who are somewhere scrolling and also likely doing that… by themselves, with no way to engage in a personal way but to comment lol. I’m in my mid 20s and it’s so weird that when I go to bars, coffee shops or even just the city in general (I’m in a major city), I don’t see as many young people as I do older or it’s the older people hanging out in bigger groups. It’s also just ibeen a challenge to find people who truly want to go out and live and explore life, which is wild because you usually associate adventure and doing a lot of different things with being young. I’m blessed to have 2 people I can say are genuine friends, but they’re homebodies, while I’m quite the opposite. So this in turn makes me feel lonely quite often because there’s no one to go out and share experiences with. There’s nothing wrong with being home a lot per se, but my point is, it’ll be harder for us to find like minded people if we just keep ourselves cooped up at home or even do try to go out solo, but change our minds when we think about the idea of going somewhere alone. On top of that, a good bit of people my age don’t seem to be good at having solid, stimulating conversations, let alone holding conversations in first place. We seem to lack social skills. I can understand this for younger Gen Z bc pandemic, but it shouldn’t be as common for the older crew. It just adds another barrier to trying to create connection because many of us don’t know how. It’s actually easier to talk to people twice my age lol. *Sigh* It’s a lot of work, but I’ll keep scrolling on Bumble Friends, looking for clubs, finding third spaces etc. I guess

[@HaleyMary]

On finding people who want to go out and life and explore life, that is so true. It's extremely difficult to meet like-minded people to be friends with. I like to bike, dance to music, watch old movies, play board games, read books about ufos and the paranormal, but I can't for the life of me meet any friends who enjoy the same hobbies. I do go to an open mic night once a week where I'm around people who play music, sing, stand-up comedy and poetry, but a lot of those people don't care to hang out outside of the open mic venue, so my third space doesn't really help build deep friendships. The people there tend to just want to be surface level. It's lonely.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

@@HaleyMary Go do them and that's where you'll meet them. They're not going to magically show up at your door.

[@Jamhael1]

You are dealing with a generation of introverts, so those are the issues...

[@HaleyMary]

@@Aaron-kj8dv I go out and do lots of hobbies and still fail to meet people. The problem is the third space has too many people on their smartphones. I'm the only one among my peers who can go more than an hour without staring at a screen.

[@TheStickCollector]

My problem is that I don't really have that many hobbies, as I spent most of my life on KZbin it seems whenever I was not in school. I have been trying to get into drawing/art, but I don't feel confident in my abilities so it is a negative feedback loop of complacency. I have the ideas just not the motivation. Plus since I treat it like a skill and not a hobby since I do not fully enjoy the process.

[@glosantiago7]

I think it’s just technology and everything being too fast. Friendships a built in person, not online. I’ve had friends for years.

[@heatherm8736]

People to me : oh we must meet up for a catch-up. Then they proceed to decline every suggestion i make for weeks - go for a coffee, go for a walk with our dogs, watch a movie, go for lunch and or a walk at the nearby beach boardwalk

[@BubbleGumFae]

I never had a real friendship and I’m 27 the oldest of gen Z

[@KingAmongKings]

I'm 21. Gone through 6 years of loneliness. And still have no friends.

[@albihysenaj5997]

Times have changed that’s how a majority of young people are not a majority but most and all and every single one of them

[@YU-zg7zg]

same, never had friends 26f

[@JackieChan-rk7mc]

27 is millennial not gen z

[@JackieChan-rk7mc]

27 is millennial not gen z

[@aquainebay3848]

Starting from zero is the story of my life. When I graduated from high school I had to move literally right after to a entirely different area. Lost the people I knew, my "home", connections, everything. I never recovered from that. All attempts made to try has been stopped by major things(resources going away, COVID, Financial problems, etc.) It's been 12 years now and I feel like I accomplished nothing in these 12 years, just playing catchup(and failing).

[@galaxyride4944]

😢

[@DJS4497]

I feel like there's also a huge divide between men and women. There's a huge lack of platonic friendships between men and women also

[@rural_girl555]

yip

[@KNGDDDE]

Whhhyyyy tho? Ppl always say there's this problem but no one rereeely wants to talk about why. I couldn't tell ya, I've been a loner since leaving HS. I just dint vive with many

[@djaeger-k5m]

Agreed… I’ve had women that I considered friends straight up stop talking to me if I criticize their political party… that’s just crazy to me… funny part is I criticize all of them and don’t like to box myself into either one…

[@reggiestockton8166]

Usually men and women can only be friends if both are not attracted to each other. But usually one or both ends up being attracted to the other, so it can never be truly platonic. It would be a facade from one or both parties. Men don't meet a woman thats attractive that they also get along very well with and say " hmm I just want to be her friend" Women don't meet a man thats handsome and tall and successful and charismatic and charming and say "hmm I just want to be his friend" They might pretend they only want to be friends, but thats a lie. Unless they are BOTH not attracted to eachother. Men and women look for compatibility with the opposite gender, whether we want to or not. I wouldn't even call it subconscious, because you know if you're attracted to them or not. I have lots of female acquaintances, but I've only had 1 real close friend that was a girl. But we were both attracted to each other and would fool around. She was cool but too wild which is probably why I didn't want to date her 😂 and she was better looking than me at the time so she probably wasn't interested in being attached to me either, since she had more options. Our friendship was actually platonic, but we would fool around when we were bored from time to time 😂

[@DJS4497]

@reggiestockton8166 I agree that if I meet an attractive woman and I like he personality, I'm not gonna want to just be friends. But if we can't be more than friends, I would still be friends because I would still want her in my life. Being just friends gets easier as you get older

[@TemperedWambat]

Cost of living also has everyone work 10-12 hr shifts. Nobody has time for each other.

[@david-nb5ug]

You hit the nail on the head! I think even if you have people to go to discuss good news/hard times sometimes it feels insufficient in adulthood which can be very individualistic (everyone is doing their own thing / on different life paths) when compared to high school / university etc where those ups and downs can be more of a shared lived experience

[@annkatrinengj6420]

It is not only girls in there teens or 20. I'm 30 + and I have never felt like I matterd, I have failed everyting in life and I don't have any friends... I have coworkers and acaintences. I have spent most of my adult Birthdays alone...

[@tr11_]

Do something about it stop coping. Go out and talk to people.

[@xiphine]

​@tr11_ "cope" is the word your class learned recently? How does coping even connected to what the op said?

[@sarvaepc]

4:00 you’re absolutely right. I relate to this so much. I thought I could hyper-self-improve and yes, I did, but after a while, that took the soul out of me, now I literally dont care. I mean, I’m happy I don’t care, but I still wish I cared. I’m not sure. But about making friendships work, sometimes you just have to open up slowly. It helped me a bit.

[@Charlie-m6r5v]

Its the same for guys. Im always alone. Always out.

[@yoshi314]

nobody cares about men. women most affected, as always..

[@fuzzypanda1684]

It's far worse for men. A girl can have a breakup, then go out and hook up with someone the next day, find another guy who's interested in them that same week, or hop on dating apps and have 50 messages by Wednesday. Meanwhile the guy she broke up with is likely in for many, many months of loneliness, rejection, disinterest, and struggle. There's a reason the saying "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" is from a woman's perspective. Because for most guys, finding someone to even just hook up with is nearly impossible.

[@june29378]

@@fuzzypanda1684 you can have sex and feel lonely and face disinterest by the guys who use you, don't think you're worth committing to, are looking for the next best thing etc. getting messages from guys who are awful ppl isn't good either eta: I can't respond to comments because youtube keeps deleting them. Finding someone you're attracted to, click with, and are compatible with is hard for anyone in this world. some of you have this fantasy vision of women only being attractive and young and having so many options. it's not that simple for anyone.

[@GenericMedusa99]

@@june29378i mean alot of women use virgin men(incels) as emotional tampons now since the women r less likely to be used by those men and they can still look for attractive men to ride on, yea the men have it worse lol

[@TotallyxInsane]

Let me know if you want to be friends ☺️

[@zoltankiss1533]

Glad i found your channel, im at the loneliest ive ever been in my life, no friends, no safe space, nobody i can turn to. Im a 20 year old guy btw. I just store all my problems and emotions inside of me and i know its not gonna end up well. I had two good friends with real connections in high school who i took for granted and pretty much let them go myself. I dont what its worth for anymore, i have terrible social anxiety, no confidence/self-love, probably depression too tho ive never been to a psychologist. This past year has been like a bad dream, i really want it to end now

[@liliomnagy3644]

Fellow magyar, i feel u. Ugyanez csak én 22 vagyok es lany

[@zoltankiss1533]

@@liliomnagy3644 te is érzed azt, hogy leginkább visszamennél középsuliba, mert annyira elviselhetetlen ez az egész élet (még akkor is, ha az nem volt valami ideális)? én már nem tudok élni a valóságban, ezért kitalálok nem létező, ideális és hamis világokat a fejemben, hogy elfoglaljam magam valamivel. komolyan mondom nem tudom, hogy meddig bírom még. de bocsi, hogy ezt itt kiírtam, nem akarom sajnáltatni magam

[@pizzadogma]

are u still able to reach out to those friends? maybe they miss u too

[@zoltankiss1533]

@@pizzadogma one time we met up this summer for a night but nothing ever since, i kept trying but they were reluctant of me because i ghosted them for a year. i assume they want to take things slow so i understand

[@Kekkeri59]

​@@zoltankiss1533ask for forgiveness and spend time with your old friends. You can still fix things its not too late

[@corbis7765]

I find it hard to relate to lonely women as a guy knowing how often they are surrounded by people

[@aphrodite7194]

You will understand why they are lonely. Girls friendship is very fickle.

[@mtdewramen]

Being anti social isn't a competition.

[@darealdeal8185]

​@aphrodite7194 can you explain how girl friendships cen be fickle?

[@the90sbrain]

@@darealdeal8185 Not all, but a lot of them are built on faking interests or living lies for leverage. This was answered in the video too.

[@tr11_]

Then there is only extrovert girls around you. I promise you that there are girls that have small friend groups or not friends at all.

[@alenimacion3536]

I feel like if I write ‘let’s be friends’ it might come across as 1. Weird 2. Fake 3. Desperate 4. Annoying

[@porkerpete7722]

Nobody says that, thats why. You just get their information and plan something.

[@muaowa]

@@porkerpete7722 "I'm actually going to [such and such] place!" and other variations I've noticed lead to making new friends. Surprising how small the world can be sometimes

[@reachnandini]

Yes can't believe I rejected so much I'm alone now 🙂😭😂

[@briannamartocchio5274]

I'm 27.. i noticed this shift after covid. It's so sad. People never wanna see each other or reach out but complain when you say you have no friends.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

It's like people thinking the government is going to assign friends to them or something lol In my experience the people complaining like this about having no friends usually have no friends for a reason. In friendships you sometimes have to sacrifice what you want to keep the peace and I think young people aren't willing to do that as much.

[@briannamartocchio5274]

@@Aaron-kj8dv literally

[@Jamhael1]

No - its the issue of "blaming" others for having no friends, or complaining about having no friends, and their response will be: "Well, get in the line! And no, we do NOT have a solution, so stop bothering us!" It is harsh? Yes. But it is true? Unfortunately, yes.

[@CoquetteCygnet]

@@Aaron-kj8dv you might be onto something there /jk

[@YU-zg7zg]

Whenever I invite someone to hang out, they tell me (somewhat jokingly) that it's weird that I invited them, and they never text me first or invite me themselves. Just makes me feel like I'm bothering them so I stop eventually. If you've never had friends, the process of making them is very unclear.

[@jonathancrespo3274]

I do a lot of things in my life simply because I have no friends lol I smoke weed because i want to feel like im doing something when Im doing nothing; im doing nothing because Im onlin; Im online because I dont have friends; i dont have friends because I fell of the social skill evolutionary tree after high school. And I fell off because I lost all my friends; therefore I smoke weed, and repeat.

[@Honeyyredz]

Facts I feel this hard

[@jonathancrespo3274]

@@Kai-zv6gc i do have hobbies tho, so I cant relate and can only say "Speak for yourself" *shrug* (=|)

[@JavahFusion]

best decision I ever made was deleting instagram ngl

[@abdullahiabdi2660]

What did you notice different ? I feel that social media is stopping me from living the true life outdoors where we live authentically. Meeting people in real life and not through dms etc feels much more true to me. Instagram has a thing where it shows a fake side of people’s lives which has deceived me

[@StratiotisTV]

Lol, 80% of men live lonely lives. Yall will be fine trust me.

[@razorramon780]

Depends on your perspective. Solitude and loneliness are two different things. I prefer my solitude.

[@iam4w3enfp]

Omg poor men built a reputation that keeps them lonely, and women are supposed to pity you. Maybe stop being toxic psychological cannibals to people and to each other in your gender, just a random thought.

[@Reblwitoutacause]

Women arent built to be alone. They will start putting bunnies in pots, bro.

[@MarioMario-vy4bi]

@@iam4w3enfpwhat should we men do to fix that reputation and when will we know it’s been fixed?

[@snipergaming8152]

loneliness is a problem for everyone, we are not going to be fine if we just ignore it

[@Zakrovik]

“Only show one side of ourself”. Welcome to Japan, where you have multiple personas to deal with certain things. One face to show at work, one face to show your friends, and one face to show your family.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

That's everyone.

[@megsley]

we all put on a face to meet the faces that we meet.

[@tizia4600]

I had my first ig profile at 17 years old and for the first time I felt included because all the other people were using it and I was like “hey now I’m here too I’m part of this generation”… but they posted a lot of friends and I didn’t have friends so my profile was empty, I had one pic of myself that wasn’t even myself because I tried to post the good me but I actually felt so ugly to exist. Now my profile is still empty I have to know who I am because I want my profile to be authentic I want to use it for good things, and express myself, I’m working on it🌸

[@urdoom612]

I'm not sure if this helps. But i use insta to keep track of everyone I've met throughout the years and let them know that I'm doing ok. So relax, and if you ever feel a little social or have a good heart to heart, you can always add them in ig to grasp those fleeting relationships. Or not, idk

[@kleinesalaska666]

You dont need a high functional instagram Account , You Need only a Account you can follow you Favorite musician or tv Show

[@Maximums572]

Hi Christina, I really relate to this because I know a friends and family that are severely depressed because of a lack of connections. If anyone is feeling lonely because of a lack of friends, reach out to people you trust. To make deep personal connections, you must be willing to open up to others for them to open up to you.

[@matildacriley]

I cut off a couple of toxic friendships at the start of Covid and haven’t had any friends since - while I do enjoy my own company & think it’s important to cultivate a good relationship with yourself, I do miss and would love to have friends, but I just turned 22 recently and it seems so difficult to make friends once you reach adulthood, especially now with technology & social media people have definitely lost the art of talking to people in person which sucks :(

[@tumwesigyemoses-tu8wk]

It's easy Matilda can we be friends and best friends

[@IzzyChopChop]

There are a couple of reasons why I lack friends as a woman: I am very introverted. I also tend to lose interest in other people if I can't find something that I share in common with them to bond over. I live in Colorado, and I feel that I'm not like the other women out there who often venture out into nature for hiking as I am quite a homebody. I have different hobbies and interests compared to the typical woman who moves to CO. In essence, I don't feel lonely because I have a wonderful boyfriend who I live with, but in the department of friendship, that is where I consider myself lonely

[@thathungrypanda4386]

I'm a man living in Appalachia, and yeah, I feel the exact same way. Everyone around me is the "hunting, fishing, god, guns" kind of person. While I like a lot of what they like, I also like reading, writing, and a lot of other different hobbies. It makes me feel alienated because I do my own thing based off my own interests while everyone is doing "the group thing." It's not you, it's your environment.

[@trolleymouse]

I'm a lucky dude. I've got maybe 30 non-family-members in my life that I feel like, if I'm having an absolutely shit day, I can vent to and get emtotional support from, most of which can also offer advice to help get through whatever happened or keep it from getting a sequel, and a good third would give checkups some time later to make sure shit's still going well. And I would do the same for any of them. Watching your video, I think it makes sense that it would be because I'm such an open person that I'd be able to gravitate to people who are willing to connect, and I get to forge these friendships over the years.

[@holypython4418]

30 is a lot, i wouldn't have enough energy for that many people xd

[@fuzzypanda1684]

You are indeed lucky. I spent years going out and building my charisma and social skills until I was able to easily talk with people. But I still struggled to make meaningful friends, find girls who were interested in me, or improve my life in any meaningful way. I eventually started reverting back to my prior introverted self. Any time I think of trying again, I remember the near decade I spent going out and trying, with nothing to show for it, and can't see the point.

[@holypython4418]

@@fuzzypanda1684 Have you ever heard of shadow work? The way you describe it seems (from a limited yt comment pov) like you were forcing yourself to interact with people, I doubt that almost anyone would find meaningful relationships that way. You have to remove the blocks and resistance so you can become your authentic self and attract likeminded people. From your other comments it seems like you are stuck in an unpleasant reality, I hope you can find a way out, gl!

[@morningrain13]

I think that people do not want anymore like others to tell them when you are having a tough time. They only care about traveling and to do something fun. If you try to make a more deeper connection they will cut you out as being always negative which can make you regret telling the reality of how is it going. I dont have a best friend and probably it is better to keep things to myself due to how society is now and the mentality. I just discovered your channel and I love the topics. I feel like it is so personal.

[@jonetgames]

I was a tomboy in school so I had mostly male friends. I had a few female friends but I felt I was different from them and couldn't really connect with them how I wanted. I also had strict parents who never let me hang out with anyone. I never hung out at someone's house or went to the park with them or anything. Because of this I never really understood the "dynamics" of friendship. I only ever saw people at school and didn't know what friends did together outside of school. Even if I wanted to be friends with someone I had no idea where to invite them to because I wasn't allowed to bring friends over, and no one ever asked me to go anywhere with them. Getting older as a woman it gets harder to be friends with men because they start seeing you in a romantic or sexual way, but I've just never been able to find women who share my mostly male dominated interests so I've just kinda been alone since high school. Did college for 2 and a half years and still didn't meet anybody. I talked to some people here and there but I just don't know how to turn a stranger into a friend. I don't know the words to say or the actions to take. I'm 29 😢 I've always been lonely though. I was an odd child, people called me so, I always felt different from others since as early as kindergarten. I remember crying during elementary school to my mom telling her I had no friends but she'd remind me "oh what about that girl Linda in your class, she seems nice". She didn't understand how I felt I couldn't connect with anyone. After a while she just started telling me to forget about making friends and just get my education. In some respects, I'm kinda glad there's a friendship crisis and so many are suffering? Lol, no offense, but I felt so alone in my misery for so long, I even found myself in incel communities, despite being a woman, because I could relate strongly to their feelings of feeling undesired by people and society. The thing about a problem is that no one really cares when it affects only a small population, but when the issue gets so big it cannot be ignored that's when you see people start trying to make change. So I'm hoping now with this bigger emphasis and media push on how lonely people are will be the start to someone doing something to make things better... whatever that may be. Idk, it's a lonely world out here. 😭

[@ElDiariodePerséfone]

Women are generally way too focused on competition with each other which makes friendships very difficult. I personally find it very off putting when I’m trying to make a friend and they start competing out of nowhere. I used to make excuses for that sort of crappy behaviour but it made me miserable, so I’m very proud to call my boyfriend my only friend at the moment as I get to preserve my peace and when things come up we simply talk it out in a loving and authentic manner instead of resorting to passive aggression, like most female friendships

[@Shockguey]

Every design has a designer. I'd be interested in knowing who designed the system.

[@gregvanpaassen]

Moloch. Read Allan Ginsberg.

[@toddjohnson271]

The wealthy elite (for lack of a better word). The money game is won and they want more.......control over other people.

[@iam4w3enfp]

jews

[@nostromo526]

With all these women spilling their thoughts out on social media, we are now living an IRL version of the movie What Women Want.

[@FrickinCCDeVileV]

😂😂🙉

[@yaboy1689]

Sorry but if you have options you are NOT lonely 🙄

[@rural_girl555]

this comment might come off as offensive or triggering to people, but one of the reasons why women are not having any friends is because they are doing it to themselves. They say things like "i don't need friends, im perfect on my own" or "you don't need anyone, you're perfectly fine on your own". Like I'm sorry, I cannot even function with my own life if I don't have a support system but I'm literally alone all the time because Ive been consistently rejected by everybody. I've had "friends" who cut me off because i was "disrupting their peace" while i was the one who wasted my time putting more effort on those one-sided friendships than they'll ever do the bare minimum. They called me "toxic" just for opening up to them when I trusted they would be safe enough to let me open up to them. as an neurodivergent person, neurotypicals call us clingy for preferring to hang out with the same person often whereas they want to have surface level hangouts with every new person and not sticking to the same friends. imagine people calling you CLINGY? for wanting a proper friendship that puts on time and effort. Now because the world and the younger generation is becoming narcissistic as they have always been, people are putting off friendships, not following on their plans, never putting in effort, having shallow and superficial conversations without any depth. I am so tired of it. I want something deep but no one around me wants to choose me to have that deep friendship with because I feel like im not interesting to the regular human and I don't fit the social media standards of how a person looks, acts, dresses or else ill be boring and uncool and unworthy, as if I have to change something about myself to be worthy of friendship like these. all my life people have called me "weird" and treated me as such like im not capable of being equal to them. People who say they don't need friends because they believe having friends=drama. where are getting that idea from? they think that they are better than people which actually hurts people like me who want friends and doesn't have anything, to which feels like a huge push away. Women are pushing hyperindiviualism everywhere which makes things worse. Life doesn't work like that and the internet is so toxic

[@KNGDDDE]

Do you often run into ppl you want to be around? I'd say it seems like ppl have become lifeless husks and I'm one of the few remaining humans. They're living that squidville life and for me, it's just always had to be more to everything.

[@djaeger-k5m]

You’re the first generation that predominantly had access to smart phones in teens or possibly even younger years… maybe that’s what caused the lower level of sociability amongst your peers?

[@iam4w3enfp]

I agree, being neurodivergent (and autistic especially) is giving nightmares to me. I can’t sleep cause I feel like the worst person in the world for being crazy and neglected by my mother. I have a lot of anxieties energy that is stopping me from feeling my heart, crazy aggression and built-up cynicism, and I want to change myself to love myself, the world, to love love and to feel feelings obviously, but you have to admit, society is games which are unfairly constructed in favour of normal from their childhood people.

[@GenericMedusa99]

As a guy im probably surprised i live this long at 35

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

I was reading a thread yesterday where people were telling their "I got stood up on a date" stories. A really common theme was the person going "sorry I didn't show up or call you or text you or communicate in any way. I have anxiety" I obviously don't know these people but it feels like people are just conflating "I don't feel comfortable" or "I'm nervous" with having anxiety. 99% of dates in the history of humanity have started off with someone being uncomfortable or nervous. It's not anxiety, it's being human. I think there's a culture of really focusing only on how you feel and making that at the center of everything. Think about how rude it is to stand someone up, how do you think they feel? If you make a date and you don't cancel then you have an obligation to show up. You're not obligated to like them, but you do have to do the bare minimum.

[@djaeger-k5m]

Well that’s what the gyno centered system proliferates, doesn’t it… it’s all about how you feel… don’t care about what anyone else feels

[@TyTrack_127]

Im a woman at 25. I feel sooo left out. I feel like im not fitting in this world. Never had real friends, never had a relationship and im still insecure. I see other woman at my age being beautiful inside and out, having good chemistry with their familys (for me i worry about saying something bc they are reallyy judgeful) and being happy married. I feel like whenever i go even at my job with co- workers im just the second option. Going out alone and doing things alone is fine but it would be nice with a really good friend. I even dont have a safe space at home. The library in my city is where i feel comfortable maybe. But thats it. Its so hard and cruel.

[@venzdrop]

“You came in this world alone and you will die alone” - by me. Remember this often and it will keep you feeling alive throughout the day.

[@TyTrack_127]

@@venzdrop aww thank you 😭❤️‍🩹

[@venzdrop]

@@TyTrack_127 for sure beautiful 👍🏼

[@timgiffard3524]

It's like George Orwell said "They will not look up from their screens long enough to notice what is happening". How women make me feel in a nutshell. Completely consumed by the device in their hand.

[@zb2747]

Not just women everybody. We are slowly catching up with Japan and other countries where technology and electronics are heavily incorporated into society. It will only get worse. Yes, we are headed to an autonomous future coupled with AGI/AI but at what cost? Working 10-16 hour days will be the norm and human services will be desired. PUT DOWN your phones and go tf outside people

[@RoboNurse84]

I think the ‘lonliness epidemic’ in the West stems from the individualistic mindset that our society is structured from. For example, we’re taught to rely on ourselves, to go out and get the education and career, and to focus on wealth and prosperity over anything else. Furthermore, unlike families in other parts of the world, Western families are stereotypically nuclear and self-containing. The idea of living with extended family members, our parents, etc., is seen as a failure because we weren’t able to go it alone and carve out a life for ourselves. So, not excepting living with family to be a good thing, people might not have the ability to socialize with others if they come from small families, etc. It would be interesting to compare this epidemic of loneliness between Western culture and others.

[@CoHawk73]

It’s virtually impossible for a woman to be alone unless it’s by choice now that’s different than lonely but if you wanna know what true loneliness feels be an undesirable man. No woman would last a week.

[@UhrBushaltestelle]

Exactly what I wanted to say. Ignore tons of dms then pick up a camera and claim you are lonely.

[@l.n.3372]

You act like "non attractive woman" can't be lonely too. Men don't have a monopoly on loneliness or undesirable status

[@thebase8730]

It's difficulty to feel sympathy for people who dug their own grave. Men have been going through this far longer than women have, and a big part of their suffering is how women treat them. Now culture has circled back round and then all of a sudden people give a damn, because this time it's a women's issue? No. That is an awful precedent, and thus I do not care.

[@4SChris]

This is strange because all around me it seems to be much easier for girls to make friends than boys... But I don't live in the USA !

[@lewissteward65]

Generally it is but like almost anything results shall very for person to person

[@ericw.714]

It is very easy for guys to make guy friends here in the us, but the girls have a hard time finding and keeping girl friends here from what I’ve seen with past girlfriends.

[@l.n.3372]

​@@Ryzanu Ah yes. I remember when men died in childbirth 🙄

[@divamoosic]

Women: *loneliness epidemic starts to affect them* Men: "first time?" (No, this comment is not me being bitter towards women. This is a joke comment with some truth sprinkled in. I think women's loneliness is just as important as male loneliness. I do not want any bitter man in the replies being like "Yea, those women don't understand us!" Or shit like that, because I don't agree with you! K? Can't believe I have to specify this, but here we are)

[@HoppingPuddles]

Oh no. We should give them the same sympathy they gave others.

[@iam4w3enfp]

Y’all so bitter for being allegedly a strong gender.

[@divamoosic]

@@iam4w3enfp this comment literally isn't me being bitter towards women. It'll a joke comment that has some truth sprinkled in. Don't take everything at face value. Also making condescending comments aren't going to make actually bitter men not bitter. Hope this helps, stupid american!

[@Drjd-yq4bl]

@@iam4w3enfpyou didn’t read the rest of the comment did you. You ignorant troglodyte

[@nightlord8756]

​@@iam4w3enfptell tjat to someone who gives a f first dumbass

[@aylinsf620]

I don't have friends since I was in elementary school, I always had classmates, not friends, I wasn't into social media at that time so I think my social anxiety is the problem lol, I like having my time for myself, I hate being lonely though

[@Jupiterrbbyz]

Smile... Simple yet hard, I talk to people all the time but its when I was my saddest during engineering classes thinking about dropping out someone said, "Rico you're always smiling man and seem happy." Very counter to how I felt at the moment but it clicked why I'm always in random conversations. My lady thinks I don't like to go out but every time we do 2 -3 random friends are stopping us downtown to talk. For me, I'm chasing my Aerospace dreams and don't have dogs or family in the state I live but Friends everywhere that I do not reach out. Honestly its the feeling of having this degree but not the finances that should've came with it. All I can say is to make sure to say yes to all events from Family/Friends when they do offer, everyone understands we're all busy but life is a lot easier as a team. We seem to forget that part

[@fuzzypanda1684]

It's not just you guys. I'm in my late 30's and I have one actual real friend. And even though we've been friends for almost 20 years, I can't actually talk to him about anything, confide in him or lean on him when I'm struggling. I mean, I can, but he doesn't exactly provide the kind of support you'd expect. And I have to say that if women think they're lonely, have trouble making friends, meeting people, getting dates etc. They should be very glad they're not men. Because girls are living life on Easy mode, whereas men are stuck on Hard mode.

[@MarioMario-vy4bi]

Why can’t you talk to him about anything?

[@DomenicPentagan]

It's literally impossible for a woman to be alone. Even the below average looking woman can still have orbiters.With one click you can immdiately have friends thanks to social. You must experience being a man to feel the true loneliness

[@Dman425]

If women are lonely, they are doing it with their own free will. Try being a lonely, single man

[@Yung_chopped]

We ain't smart, now we in this epidemic of childish behavior. Loneliness was never an issue till we started being more in our heads.

[@iam4w3enfp]

hard fact. epidemics brought in us this childish side, a lot for everyone went downhill..

[@hodgindaylon]

If you're sleeping around you're not single... until these women can learn what that means nothing will change and things will just continue to worsen.

[@judygoddard3869]

This is why people have kids and ruin their life! I have seen it again and again - women who feel lonely and isolated, and who then have kids with the wrong man and ruin their career, their body and their mental health.

[@joelabella750]

Men USED TO care for the opposite gender a long time ago....but no longer. "You wanted to be a Man!?...Good you got it but don't expect Any man to help you any longer and you can thank the Feminist movement on this!".

[@sonicleaves]

Friendships are extremely overrated. I speak from experience being a 43 year old woman. I have no time for friends because I'm raising a family.

[@greencat9198]

Women have no idea what it truly means to be lonely.

[@Fullmetal.Alchemist]

This is why friendship of the good is important. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, not ones that wanna drag you down with them.

[@olliestale864]

this year, i had been putting forth a lot of effort into making friends. I’ve only made about three but i’m satisfied with that. we live far now since college started up again and i really look forward to seeing them this summer. I was more open and approaching women who are in my classes or my co-workers and we started to hangout outside of that environment. it was so fun tbh. I feel like big friend groups can become toxic quickly as we get older so I avoid them. I’ve definitely been in female friend groups where some of them would lie about me in order to cause drama 😭, one of them was obsessed with flirting with the other girls in the groups boyfriends or crushes. or in mixed friend groups, sometimes the guys are flirting w the girls and a breakup would mess up the dynamic. or you’d have male friends that make random lustful comments🤢. but now i’m in college and have moved away from them, there’s still old friends i love to check up on and see how they’re doing. but now that we’ve grown up and aren’t interested in the same things the vibe is different 😢. Ik in person if I were to ever see my real friends i had in high school it’d be so fun to catch up or go out for drinks. But for now, I typically only talk to one girl that’s my friend, it’s been super fun hanging out and talking about our own dark secrets and be vulnerable. i can’t wait for the summer. I feel like we should be more involved in the spaces we occupy everyday, compliment other girls, do a bit of small talk. Or Id 100% recommend picking up social hobbies, there’s tons of girls there who want to make friends

[@nammi895]

Why women are lonely❎ Why women r hooking up & can't pair bond ✅

[@Christophert824]

💯

[@catzzydancecover2586]

Even me as an extrovet, is having difficulties with this. People nowadays dont want to talk anymore or even hang out. The society its getting sick lol, most of people are so negative that is hard to have small talk with them

[@SiSoz]

...how did you read my mind? Lol No but seriously i have felt a massive social dry since these days

[@KingAmongKings]

Overthinker and Feeling Alone.

[@engouloumartin4780]

I am pretty lonely, but do I feel lonely and want to talk???? Anyways I don't think the urge is strong enough for me to do something about it

[@sarahT414]

My issue is definitely on the financial side. I feel like I would be a great friend but being able to travel, go out or just gift a friend something due to a special occasion (birthday, anniversary, just because) is not within my reach right now. And yes I know there are “free activities” to do but you can only do those so long before having to financially invest in a REAL friendship. Even being a loner it sucks not being able to afford the self care/ small privileges of life. Sigh lol

[@princessm8977]

You still have yet to meet your people!! I'm 33 and I have 4 very best friends; one I met as a child, one I met as a teen, another I met at 23 and the other, the year I turned 30. Your people are waiting to meet you.

[@megsley]

young women today are really narcissistic - its hard to form strong relationships when all you're focused on is yourself.

[@MH-bf4uu]

Finished uni now stuck at home i need friends sooo bad- hmu if youre in a similar position

[@dripmaestrolxix4228]

you play battlefield 1?

[@mr.birdie8372]

Fr, in the same boat. Just stacking money till I can get somewhere.

[@Bpm_2300]

It needs to end on both sides I’m tired of seeing this honestly we as a generation should not be this lonely this isolated. I want to help both genders honestly of course there is the obvious guys would probably relate more to me since being a guy myself but I want to help women as well. I want to put a community together and get people together get people out of their shells and let them know they ain’t alone. People could meet other people and may find some things they have in common with one another and go from there. I just want to help because this needs to end.

[@diegoaespitia]

if u want friends. go make friends. people are making up all these excuses like 'lack of 3rd places' listen. i didnt go to Malls to MAKE friends. i went there WITH my friends.

[@matthewgaines10]

Why do people think basic human nature remained the same for thousands of years and instantly changed very recently. There’s nothing new under the sun.

[@the_last_blue_shiba]

No time for other people when my software waits to be programmed, my games wait to be played, my minis wait to be painted and the gym keeps calling.

[@benderisgreat95able]

Women date who they WANT and men date who they CAN, we've been getting gaslit for 3 generations about it. Failure to find a loving, loyal anchor and best friend to share your life with means you *wanted* something else more. Use your superior intuition skills and emotional intelligence as a woman to filter out husbands from f*ckboys, spend half the energy picking carefully that's spent defending body counts with emotional abuse, maybe Tate never would've become famous enough to grift our generation. Who traumatized men enough to get them to believe*ANYTHING* that snake has to say?

[@ingridbulie6865]

Is it just me, or isn’t Christina like the definition of a perfect human being?!💗

[@SpiritVines]

Forbes says 73% of young adults to age 27 feel disconnected 19:56

[@communistkanna]

I really feel lonely because of how hard it is for me to trust others and also find a safe space😭

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

What's the biggest contributor to loneliness in 2024? 👇

[@aquainebay3848]

My opinion: The de-construction of family values, communities/"third party places", and individualism. We were designed as humans to be together. By destroying all of aforementioned things, we are now alone and have no sense of connection and belonging to anything.

[@michaeldundas6620]

People being closed off to human interaction, especially with new people. I'm 32, and when I was in college, I didn't even have to try and I'd make genuine friendships. Now, everyone seems guarded and suspicious of others. I know it's not just me. I think it's due to social media and people getting stuck in their heads.

[@MT-si3bu]

Too many superficial interactions

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

I really think social media has a lot to do with it.

[@SiSoz]

the big ol wombo combo of the pandemic and social media combined, that and uh *cough cough* enmeshment trauma keepin me way too much in my comfort zone.

[@DGP1098]

I used to struggle making friends because I was socially awkward. My problem was that I had expectations of people (I wanted them to like me) when I entered the conversation. I would always try to find the perfect reply in my head, but I would overthink it and just be weird. I’ve been working on having no expectations on people.(of course there are some exceptions like family.) now I just talk and don’t care and it really has worked. I’m still a little awkward, but people tend to find that kind of funny so I don’t mind

[@JoshuaYeshuaCSULB]

How are girls lonely they have dm’s by the hundreds and women are naturally social with each other

[@Fyodorsolos]

lmao facts if a girl say they are lonely it means they got rejected by chad and dont want to to talk to anyone thats below them even though they get lots of attention from guys daily.

[@shaheemahmed9932]

Well, the men want to get a pump and dump and her female friends will stab her in the back first chance they get. In the end they are far more lonely than men. At least men care on serious matters.

[@darealdeal8185]

This is such an incel take

[@JoshuaYeshuaCSULB]

@@darealdeal8185 I hope they choose you bro. You obviously haven’t been around enough women to see that they are naturally social with other women. Take your girl to the bar and she’ll make 5-10 friends in the bathroom alone

[@JoshuaYeshuaCSULB]

@@darealdeal8185 even as children the games they play are more inviting. Boys play games that are contact and have hierarchy. Girls play house and non contact sports generally

[@snörre23]

Next video "70 % of guys are single but only 30 % girls", sth doesn't add up.

[@Morg8685]

i'm a guy. i'm not from the west. i'm not necessarily one to share the common views on friendships. or relationships. maybe exhaustive categorization of relationships will be helpful. what friendship means to me, might not mean same for others. i think people are just not willing to tolerate others who differ from them, i think that we have a check boxes , problem is, some have 10, some have 100, and worst part is that for some u must tick all of the check boxes , miss a single one and u're out. to add on top of all of this, most people's criteria's for what is a good *friendship* is not all encompassing, it doesn't account for what might happen in the future. but let's say, there is somebody out there, who is your ideal match. how do you find them? where do you meet? opportunities to show yourself to people , the right people , to reveal your nature and the traits that they want. TLTR: 1) sharing the same notion of friendship 2) compatibility 3) venue to find such people

[@handlebar4520]

ngl, the guys are also feeling left out, I just turned 20 and I've never had fewer friends myself. At this stage I don't beleive the factors that affect how likely you are to be lonely are mostly a gender thing, it's a personality thing. If you haven't heard about rat utopia, you should watch a documentary about it.

[@mbr2523]

Women will never know what being truly alone like most men are. I made loneliness my best friend. Im always talking to myself lol.

[@Missbombastic-k8c]

Loneliness totally depend on personality.........the more thoughtful you are the more lonely you will be...... cause this world is full of unwise and unthoughtful but tricky and evil people........

[@Missbombastic-k8c]

Loneliness totally depend on personality.........the more thoughtful you are the more lonely you will be...... cause this world is full of unwise and unthoughtful but tricky and evil people........

[@cartwrightworm1317]

Is this a common problem across the board? I’m intensely introverted and haven’t had a single person visit my apartment socially in the two years I’ve been here. I enjoy the peace and quiet, so I feel awkward that so many people complain about loneliness.

[@danielschiman767]

Women are awesome so they can't be lonely.

[@ariannasstudio8765]

Idk how but Christina’s timing is always perfect 🥲

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

thank you

[@ellouisebadger849]

I think with young women we expect certain things from friendships too where as men can simply be happy with bare minimum friendship 😂

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

Bruh don’t diss us by calling it bare minimum friendship. It’s not our fault we can get along with other guys fairly easily. I keep seeing this “myth” perpetuated by y’all that men’s friendships somehow aren’t deep, when that’s such cap. Maybe it doesn’t require as much to start besides some common interests, but that’s totally separate from actually having the friendship last a long time with a lot of depth over time. My only friends are all childhood friends and I’m proud of that.

[@TheGeneralGrievous19]

I am pretty sure there are a lot of young men who also feel very lonely nowadays. I am 25 yo male with no friends. I think loneliness is a problem for young people in general. It's not like men don't need deeper friendships.

[@Brush4000]

Well, I think most guys get there are different types of friendships. There are casual friendships, and deep ones. The deep ones take years to develop. I think most women think friendships are all supposed to be easy, even the deep ones. I think it's why a lot of women have large friend groups, and they'll say they're all besties. But there are a lot of men who are also friendless, so this is an issue for a lot of people.

[@handlebar4520]

yes and no. Men can fake surface level friendships for a long time, and make everything seem fine on the surface, but it relly does degrade their minds from the inside, like an apple rotting from the core inside out. Though, you may have a point we don't expect too much from a friendship, as long as you 1. are chill 2. have a shared interest we can form frienships over that, but a lack of strong, close frienships is just as detrimental to men as it is to women.

[@handlebar4520]

@@Ryan-cb1ei literally going camping with my two best buds and watching/talking about berserk are the realest things I've ever experienced. And girls can have just as many fake friendships that are all cosmetic to appear popular as guys can do, it's not a gender thing, its a personality thing.

[@babalu7737]

When a women in this day is lonely in 95% she choose it so the question is why do they choose that and we all knlw the answer but no one likes it

[@Christophert824]

Because they've set their superficial standards so high that they won't settle for anything other than basically a supermodel man. And they think they deserve that because hot guys will sleep with them and then ghost them...they caused the death of dating and the loneliness epidemic. So no sympathy from me.

[@babalu7737]

@Christophert824 and don't forget the 6 figure sallery and they don't mean 100 thousend they mean 350 to 500 thousend

[@crumplycowboy]

No offense, but like all young people you have no idea what old people are going through or what their Life is like but remember every old person was young once. From my experience we're not as different as you think and hopefully things turn out great for you. Interesting video and thanks for sharing

[@mathieumaticien]

Not gen z. I get why you'd think it's hyper-individualism, but I think it's the polar opposite masquerading as individualism (America in the 90s felt much more individualistic but we weren't lonely). Your generation tend to have a kind of hive mindset that feels detrimental to social cohesion and connection. You mentioned the video recording in public, for instance. Your generation care so much about what others think that you even get offended ON BEHALF OF others. You socially stifle any kind of individuality and authenticity apart from belonging to a global or niche group and not being deemed a heretic.. to the point of loudly calling others out for what you deem to be minor infractions, even friends and family. How can anyone keep a genuine friendship with someone like that? But I do agree it's a problem with the fragility and obsession with the ego at the base of it all. It's so extreme at this point that so many of your generation literally support terrorist organisations (who don't know you but vocally detest your very existence) because it's the new trendy thing to do in the world wide web, and you don't want to look like a 'bad person'. I think it's time your generation regain some individuality and accept others' as well.

[@Rejetnicks]

It s caused by social media. Period. It`s holding you back on every level in your life, but most of all it holds you back talking to other people face to face. From a dude perspective - men, find your tribe. Means activities you can do in a group. Sports, music, whatever.

[@josephmillard8109]

Get REAL advice, men. You can be happy and make meaningful relationships without women. Find peace, be successful and ignore those that only harbor drama.

[@mikescott4195]

Wonder how a lot of the ladies are gonna react to 'youre the problem and your personality sucks' lmao

[@leituraviva-h6d]

You don't need to be the center of attention, much less the person who is isolated in the corner, you just need to participate.

[@robertobravo6834]

You are eagle; thus, you can fly alone. They are hens; thus, they cannot fly at all.

[@yaboy1689]

Its actually the opposite, girls will never be single and lonely as long as simps are around.

[@engouloumartin4780]

Yeah I have a lot of these friends you used to love but now it's pretty much dead I changed universities twice so I have a bunch of those and I really hate it cause I don't have many close friends in the university I ended up (even though I got lots of connections there)