Why can't I feel good enough? Am I a bad person?

[@ocdandanxiety]

Have you ever felt like you're not "good enough"?

[@abhinavabhinav2640]

Sir I have ocd and I want to talk to you can you help me. I just want to talk please i'm from india

[@AstroBethTeal]

@@abhinavabhinav2640 what have you been feeling?

[@IJN-33]

I grew up with Scrupulosity as a Latter-day Saint and I think this is the part we don't talk about enough with Scrupulosity. Anxiety isn't just fear, but fear of inadequacy. I was so afraid of doing wrong because I felt that the standard for being "good enough" was so unattainable. I have continued to be active in my church, but my beliefs about what God expects of me have drastically changed.

[@kirkoverton2576]

I am also a Latter-day Saint, and I have struggled with this and I continue to do so. Great video!!

[@abhinavabhinav2640]

@@AstroBethTeal so much emotions it leds me to tears bad ones . i'm taking medicine but I just forget I had ocd and stopped doing steps to stop some thoughts when it cured 90% but then now it came back as old days and is just torture . I just feel sad in these times and I cant feel happy that's the most difficult part of this

[@Poppama]

i wouldn't say i have social anxiety because i don't struggle talking to people, but if i'm accidentally rude to someone or somehow hurt someone's feelings i get super anxious and self-judgemental and it's hard to get over it. unfortunately i can't find a lot of info about the ocd subtypes in finnish, so thanks for making these videos!

[@Poppama]

actually that might be responsibility ocd? how can i tell?

[@cuprisun]

Same

[@FunkyFresh777-pw8is]

Hi Nathan, You have explained my condition perfectly. I'm a Christian and over the last 3 years I have struggled with Religious Scrupulosity. This has manifested itself in fear of losing my salvation and that something bad is going to happen to me if I don't go through a constant sequence of repentance of anything I have possible done wrong, past, present and future. And, also, I'm constantly checking doors are locked before I go out or go to bed many times and it's really tiring me out. When I'm at work, no one would even realise but when I'm on my own it becomes prevalent. Please do keep me in your prayers. I know I will be free of this someday. God Bless you Nathan.

[@anakinrhoden5492]

Hey man I know the feeling I'm going through it now with tv if I watch this I'm sinning or listen to this I'm doing wrong. I about lost my mind about my salvation. That was tough and about reading the Bible I'm Iike very struggling if I don't understand it.

[@FunkyFresh777-pw8is]

@@anakinrhoden5492 Bless you Anakin, Thanks for the message Bro. Yea, It's a challenge being 'in the world but not of the world', there are so many distractions with music and tv. Like you, I can get drawn in by secular music and tv. I think many Christians are struggling to accept Gods love and forgiveness - We do have eternal salvation through Lord Jesus Christ, our Lord and Saviour. We hold on to that Truth 🙏🙏 I'll keep you and your Family in my prayers... And that God will reveal His Word to you through The Bible. God Bless you Brother.

[@tiarailic4086]

Wow. I had no idea this was a thing. Along with several other OCD habits, As a kid, I remember repeating the sinners prayer over and over again because I really feared it wasn't good enough or genuine. I'd actually have nightmares where I was preparing to die and kept repeating the sinners prayer out of fear. So glad to know there's other religious folks out there who struggle like this❤

[@Scotty_28]

Without getting into too much detail, I just wanna say your videos have seriously helped me more than you’ll ever know. I feel completely different than I did last week since I’ve discovered you. And I now know how powerful OCD is. I know I may never 100% get through my OCD battle, but I feel a sense of comfort in recognizing just how many forms of OCD exist and how they affect us. I feel like you were talking directly to me when mentioning the symptoms, and it made me realize that I’m truly not alone and not crazy. Thank you Mr.Peterson.

[@doindaworst5824]

I've been asking my friends and family if I'm a good person in like bursts every few days. Sometimes I can hold out a week. A couple years ago I had a drinking problem and feel as though I'm irredeemable despite being sober. No amount of good can make up for the bad.

[@DawnSTyler]

Oh honey, I wish I could forgive yourself for you. Everyone makes mistakes and does some amount of damage in their lives. You really do deserve more chances. We are all works in progress, all of us. Try to treat yourself with the same amount of compassion you would treat a good friend or loved one. We all need and deserve love and forgiveness.

[@AstroBethTeal]

Your timing is always perfect Nathan, thank you for the hard work you put in your videos.♥️

[@KR256-5]

So doctor I have just joined 4months ago some change is done alhamdulillah but it comes again sometimes why

[@spydertv1195]

This hit the nail on the head for me. I related to so much of what you're talking about

[@theforeigner6988]

Oh my goodness. I feel seen / understood

[@jamescoogan4897]

Thanks for your videos very helpful, I have OCD and it takes over my life. 😢

[@SL-es5kb]

Thanks for pointing out that religion doesn’t cause scrupulosity type OCD. I’ve always had moral ocd and it would attach to any value or aspiration I had. it wasn’t until I became a Christian that I was able to see the pattern of my thoughts and noticed it moving in to attack core aspects of my faith such as salvation is not earned and despite our mistakes we are forgiven etc.

[@viralload7086]

i used to have this intrusive thought of insulting God that i had to fight all the time it was so bad everyone around me noticed i was talking to myself trying push back this thought. that was not fun

[@Sofia-ts6gy]

A psychiatrist has told me I might have OCD. I’m not sure it’s the case because I’m having a hard time identifying intrusive thoughts of the “if i don’t do blank then blank bad thing will happen” sort. I might just be really anxious with some obsessive traits? But I can definitely tell I have a compulsion to apologize. Over multiple interactions with people, every little one adds a little tick to the count of things i’ve done or said wrong and things that are wrong about me as a person. I feel like, I’m not sure whether I’m a bad person or not, but this is making me so uncomfortable, I should apologize just in case, I should try to atone just in case, so I can stop thinking about it. But at that point i’m not thinking about any specific trigger, so i have nothing specific to apologize about to any one person. So my compulsion is just to go on social media like twitter and openly tweet something “i’m sorry for being annoying”, “i’m sorry for being me”, or if I’m really going through it it can just be “i’m sorry i’m sorry i’m sorry” repeatedly. I never want to apologize directly to another person when i know i’m doing it compulsively, because i know i’m putting the onus on them to reassure me and that just makes me feel worse, that I am inconveniencing someone to have them make me feel better. So apologizing into the void seems preferable. It honestly still does not offer much relief. (maybe if i were religious i would try to apologize in prayer, but i’m not.)

[@somethingwithbungalows]

Man I could’ve been you writing this. Thank you for putting it into words. I’m not diagnosed at all nor do I know what I’m going to do but thank you

[@snarlajeen5901]

Hi, I know I'm a year late, but thank you so much for taking the time to write this down! This helped me even more than the video❤❤❤

[@eghosaaimiomwamon6110]

2:36 really got me there 🤣 Thank you for being so funny during ur videos

[@Alhamdulilah6873]

Thank youuu for your videos ❤

[@lilymulligan8180]

Wow, it was really good to know that people without any kind of spiritual practice also go through this. Scrupulosity is one of my main topics, and for me, it's very informed by my Christian upbringing, even though I'm no longer Christian. I don't agree with most of what the church is about, and yet, I find myself still very influenced by its teachings. It's like, I know what my internal moral compass says... But what if it's wrong??? 💀 Thank you. Off to go be uncertain 😂

[@IJN-33]

Could you do one on Scrupulosity as it pertains to fears of breaking the law?

[@mathewstevens4526]

you are a life saver thank you 🙏🙏

[@vivianarodriguez7787]

Would love to see a video like this for ROCD

[@Rick40years]

Great video. Been there done that. This became an all consuming obsession. It all stopped when I realized God would not want us obsessing and ruining our lives.

[@margaretrutherford5548]

Yes exactly! I did the same-God wants a relationship not for me to be continually having a nervous breakdown.

[@eghosaaimiomwamon6110]

2:36 really got me there 🤣

[@sukhnoorkaurhundal6387]

Hi sir , actually I have ocd and I can't even focus on my study my exams are near what to do ?

[@ocdandanxiety]

Many choose to do treatment for whatever is getting in the way. Some exposure therapy and mindfulness.

[@vaniad5843]

For me, when someth good happened I felt like I hv to promise smth and it kinda burdens me and felt like I owe because God has been so good to me. And when I thinking I cant do that, I am a bad person for thinking that and didnt want answers God calling if I didnt do smth. But it doesnt make me pray more but it bothers me so much and tortures

[@soundscape26]

Another sub-type? Reading OCD. Very rarely do I hear it mentioned anywhere.

[@ocdandanxiety]

I do need to make a video on this. Depending on the person, It tends to fall in the category of "just right OCD" or "magical thinking OCD"

[@soundscape26]

@@ocdandanxiety Yes, I'm thinking on the "just right OCD" variety. When one reads the same passages over and over again for fear of not really getting what's written. In the most extreme cases it can lead people to simply give up reading.

[@yoshi4691]

​@soundscape26 I'm that person. I obsess about needing to buy a book, finally get it, and can never bring myself to read it. I am scared that I will not retain the information or complete it without fully understanding it, which would make me feel incompetent. So I just avoid the reading part. It's such a wild distortion.

[@e11a222]

@@ocdandanxiety i have really bad writing OCD and meta-OCD :( thank u for these videos

[@johnrainsman6650]

*Please do not give a like notification; they cruelly take away my hope for a reply and advice* So with OCD, you can view your mistakes or misdeeds as ten-times worse than they really are? Let's use a TV dad as an example. In Boy Meets World, the dad occasionally lightly swats his sons on the head. As an OCD, am I writing it off as black and white ?

[@cameliajasminrose7814]

Hey can u make video of how to sleep when during sleep the brain stays awake and 100 thoughts keep rushing like white noise static screen

[@armaanhanzra6617]

Hello brother I just wanted to ask a quick question cuz you have studied depersonalization deeply and I’m expecting a very honest n practical response.Actually i hv had depersonalization fron the past 4 months and most of my symptoms have vanished already but the only one to persist is the disconnection and detachment from myself like my sense of self is very distorted and I’m not connected with myself at all.Plz let me know that will this dissociation and detachment also get 100% recovered or is it highly manageable but not fully curable(means I wont b the same person as before) cuz right now my mind cant imagine going to a normal state just like before

[@wanderer7689]

Do you offer online therapy, like through video calls? And if so, how much?

[@KR256-5]

So really can hocd go for good and stay in stable spouse

[@donlumians6523]

What you are experiencing is OCD, it's not true

[@zzzcocopepe]

For me it's the opposite. I think it wants you to tell it that you're bad or that it's bad. Not that you're good or that it's good. I'm not sure if those CDs saying you're bad or that the OCD is bad. But for me it seems like it wants to say that something is bad, now that something is good. But it is like that, just nagging and obnoxious.

[@arpita8387]

Exactly. I had this episode just today. I kept telling my mom I regret it over and over again, somewhere in the back of my mind I just wanted her to tell me that I'm a bad person and make bad decisions and it's bad. It's like unlocking a level. Since my mom didn't react the way my ocd wanted her to, now it keeps reminding me and nagging me to ask her again.

[@Rezparviz]

Can I speak to you directly maybe on FB ?

[@sethty]

is there any solutions for not being able to afford to recover

[@ocdandanxiety]

Many do treatment on their own. Watching videos and learning. I have my online course that directs individuals as well. www.ocd-anxiety.com

[@user-hx7mi7ml8u]

What? 😮 There are so many FREE KZbin channels, like this one, that can help you learn to help yourself. 😬

[@tobiasernst9639]

Jesus healed me from my ocd

[@michelleeriksen6816]

1 John 5:11-13: “And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life”

[@freyaaldrnari6086]

I have trusted the blood of Jesus for remission of sins a million times.

[@bankstiffinya.3895]

Are you a Christian yourself ? That comment where you said in all religions we are guessing. I don’t believe that.

[@meadowm1742]

Irrelevant question. You are missing the point of Nathan's work and what OCD is.

[@ocdandanxiety]

I am Christian. However, I can't 100% prove what I believe is true and I don't think anyone else can either. That's what "faith" is. That's what I mean by everyone guessing.

[@godisgreat5141]

​@@ocdandanxiety I just look at the world and believe it has a creator

[@Rick40years]

I think some people are experiencing ocd watching this video.

[@BlackDanceInfection]

So you're telling me, all my daily struggles could be different forms of ocd? Man, I thought I just had the contamination part