Why Did You Adopt Me? | {THE AND} Cyrus & Calvin

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Cyrus and Calvin, son and father for 13 years, can’t deny the similarities between them; both coming through broken homes to find a loving family in adoption. Cyrus speaks openly about where he comes from and his new possibilities, while Calvin steps back to admire his family and take the necessary steps to be even closer with his son.
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Why Did You Adopt Me? | {THE AND} Cyrus & Calvin
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[@nailclipse]

Thank you for raising a black man that's not afraid to express his feelings. 🙌

[@mikeinkc]

As a black man I want to add a big AMEN to your comment.

[@EDITMODE]

i hear about this a lot. how men feel like they cant express their feelings. im a woman so i cant fully relate, obviously. so i find it so interesting. Why would a man belittle another man for expressing emotion or feeling? thats absurd to me. feelings are feelings and men and women both have them.

[@herrlich3720]

@@EDITMODE because its so much easier as a Woman to Show Emotions. Im also a Woman, man have a lot of pressure

[@akeemjack8042]

Hes brave

[@akeemjack8042]

@@mikeinkc women shame men more than men do

[@WinterBlanco]

Get this boy a modeling contract!

[@shadyzbabii420]

heyyyyy winter

[@ThaRealShante]

Right his skin and features are beautiful

[@Wallie_World]

Yes, he is GORGEOUS!

[@Lluvhoney1]

He could be my nieces twin brother. Perfect features...

[@josefineG]

travel to Africa and you will find loads of kids like that

[@winstonchurchill571]

"You place for adoption because your birth mother love you and she wanted the best for you" This man is incredible!

[@cocochanel9273]

Winston Churchill 😭😭😭 that's the raw truth many kids will never get to hear 👂🏽

[@aboutthatlife1646]

POWERFUL.

[@sabenathomas1141]

I didn't expect that♥️♥️♥️

[@CikisHelyzet]

I loved this too! 👏👏

[@DeltaChi16]

❤️❤️❤️

[@wanjaucharity2720]

this kid has the best skin... wow

[@stevenselinalaue9385]

And smile

[@sancraft1]

I thought the same thing. His skin glows.

[@t_harris2_489]

That melanin!!!! 😘

[@yeshiworkgashu3192]

wanjau charity he always has

[@Litetorture]

I'm frigg'n SERIOUS man!!

[@niagratang667]

This is such a healthy parent child dynamic. I can tell the son is very comfortable and open with him, but also has respect. The dad is not trying to be a friend. He's a FATHER. He provides guidance, live, support, and redirection when necessary. Children WANT this, need this, and it's so refreshing to see.

[@TheLicktysplitz]

Yeessss

[@selinapoochie]

Being a friend with your child is important. If you are a robot with them there will be no communication.

[@rakamukherjee9070]

No, I think he is friends with his dad. I don't tell people I'm not friends with shit like that... I'm friends with my parents but I still respect them and the fact that they are my elders, and as I minor I did everything they told me to do. However, I was and still am friends with them... I'd probably never respect them if I wasn't.

[@niagratang667]

You misunderstand me. I didn't say that they weren't friends, or that the dad was not friendly with his son. I simply said he's not TRYING so hard to be that. In a healthy parent child relationship where love, support, and trust are the foundation its natural that a child may even come to recognize there parent as their BEST friend. But I feel some parents forget the importance of rearing a child, and how critical guidance is, ESPECIALLY in our dark, confused world today.

[@UKLeonie]

Niagra Tang Best comment ever and so on point. What everyone wants and needs from a guardian figure.

[@spiritualwealth4486]

Cyrus could be a model easily

[@Theefinestpapi_]

Spiritual Wealth777 honestly.

[@vasco4672]

I second that 🙌🏽 that skin 😍

[@tawnyadoucette8450]

Agreed. He is a very handsome young man

[@tdgreer]

He is such a beautiful young man.

[@dwoollery]

It would not shock me to see him on a runway in a couple of years.

[@renniekufakunesu6254]

"But you still give me a kiss at the door" "Yeah but it's like okay, you're still my dad"

[@LifeinBonnieland]

So sweet! 💜

[@popsicles2294]

Father : I'm so happy to call you my son. Son : And I'm happy to call you my dad. 😭😭😭😭💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@HilariaMbono]

Beautiful right?

[@faithmumbi]

very natural,

[@prettybrowneyes8565]

😢❤️

[@mikeinkc]

Best part!

[@shybeauty01]

right...I'm trying not to cry....

[@m4dm4j4]

The way Cyrus looks all around the room everytime his father compliments him. It's the cutest.

[@KaraboKeepile]

so cute

[@ssbintv]

Maria jol

[@summerjohn5110]

I agree😁

[@8Jud3]

He's probably getting used to it.

[@aliyhamiranda5009]

ALPO YEO where’d u get that assumption from

[@khanaiiijahh23]

Someone give him a modeling career when he turns 18

[@RezwanaAhmed]

Najah KK I was thinking that too until I realized just how bad the media would harm him. He’s such a beautiful soul, would hate it for the world to tear him down. Modeling careers are so harmful to health.

[@otsdrselse1163]

Don't forget about college ;)

[@wiltuhoward8164]

I agree

[@michealangemicheal3256]

I know right

[@2881coco]

I 💙 this so much!!! I'm a foster parent and there's not enough people like the father in this world!! They have a wonderful relationship but trust me when I tell you that it took trust and effort to make it happen. I'm proud! Truly amazing! Oh! And no football model instead ❣️

[@yellowbmblbee]

most mature 13-year-old I've ever listened to. These dads are doing something right.

[@MFMaya]

Fr. He’s more mature than some 18-year-olds I know.

[@franciscoacosta1667]

​@@MFMaya He is not as hurt as some 18 years old boys you know. He has a good family

[@hindashfadi]

the way this man listens patiently as his son talks is just beautiful. there's so much ease and tenderness in this relationship

[@heatherdeitchman1409]

There was such a subtle moment in this video but I loved it. Cyrus is explaining what goals he has and how he can achieve it. Cyrus says, "wait, you graduated from college right?" and Calvin responds, "Yes". And Cyrus continues on his list... "graduate college" etc. This boy definitely sees his father as a role model and this was such a nice way to show it.

[@JMac-27]

Heather Deitchman Thats sweet but thats not what he said. He said "graduate from college, you do graduate from college right" he was making sure that is the correct terminology for finishing college, like that there could be a different term for it so he was checking if he was saying it correctly. Thats why his dad smiled like that and said yes because he is young and it was cute that he had to check if he was right. Hes only in 8th grade despite looking much older, but anyway thats what was said.

[@grayskindablue]

J Mac ^^^ thanks for explaining it, apparently 167 people didn’t comprehend that

[@damnpam8259]

I agree. That was definitely low key, I want to be like you when I grow up. I bet that made his Dad feel special.

[@heatherdeitchman1409]

Hmm, upon further reflection from your comment he did seem to say "Wait, you graduated from college" but he just misspoke and said "graduated" instead of "graduate" which changes the meaning. I still think he wants to be like his dad though!

[@grayskindablue]

I definitely think he wants to be like his dad, I’m sure both of his dads. I loved the moment where he said, “Because where I came from, I don’t remember, but I know it would’ve been a bad place, and I know that you basically saved me from that situation- and *other dad’s name*! But now, basically, it’s like I’m a younger you now.” And then explains how they both came from unstable situations and got adopted into loving families, and both overcame hard things as families. But he was so quick to add that his other dad also saved him, there’s very much equal love there, and comparison to being a younger version of his dad was really heartwarming.

[@Paulmazuk]

This is the healthiest relationship I've ever seen. It's also so important to me because it's a gay dad. This is a perspective I've never seen. Wow maybe I want kids one day.

[@lolaispure4296]

Yes. It will open your mind in ways you never thought possibly

[@maurikacolbert2031]

Yes it should Gay Black men in a positive light! I love it!

[@ndumi-light]

@Mpumelelo You deserve to have the type of family that you want for yourself. 💛

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Same. Being a woman I thought I could never raise a child properly, I'm afraid I'd either be emotionally cold or putting much pressure on my future kids and that I won't have the best resources ready for them. But these types of videos make me realize as long as I raise them to be communicative, we will find a way.

[@zraj3433]

When I was a kid I was embarrassed when my dad walked me to school and held hands everyday. One day, I released my hands and my dad got the hint so he stopped. In 2016, I held my dad's hands till he passed away from heart failure. Looking back, I wish I never did that when I was a kid because I loved him very much. We need to cherish our parents every moment so that we never regret:((

[@roxnbrix]

This mafe me vrry emotional. So sorry for your loss and yes we all need to cherish the time we have with our parents. Life is too short. ❤

[@MsJackson3015]

Zra J Sorry for your lost, but don’t be regretful. It’s natural for children to want to become independent of their parents at a young age. You were young & inexperienced. Like you said, IF you had the knowledge back then, but you didn’t. The good thing is you held his hand & stood by his side in time of need & expressed your unconditional love for him. This is what matters.

[@eryn5826]

In tears after reading this. Dads are meant to be treasured we take them for granted so much

[@ThatBeeyatch]

Zra J Amen 😭😭😭😭

[@Unapologetically_human8349]

Don't beat yourself on that one. I'm a dad myself and when my kids started to pull that stunt on me, I wasn't offended, I rather felt butterflies because I was witnessing my kids deploying their wings and standing on the edge of the nest. I had the proof that I was raising them right to be independent and autonomous, and it was just a first step. They love me, I love them and your father's feelings towards were just the same, never doibt it! Stay safe!

[@fernfernster]

Wow as a Dad this is eye opening, I need to communicate better with my kids. And I will NOW!!!

[@Hollyfae]

As a mom too, this really made me think about the same thing.

[@demetriah.5440]

Proud of you

[@iamwhole8910]

This comment is everything. 🙏🏼

[@Bellalisa3000]

Yes! I applaud that👏

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Good luck to all you parents! I hope more would learn from this.

[@TerriAnneWhitehouse]

Holy cow Cyrus has the smoothest skin I think I’ve ever saw in my life, and he’s a teenager! Someone sign him up now because he is stunning!

[@tdgreer]

Yes, he is.

[@AntonsClass]

Totally was thinking the same thing. His skin is so incredible

[@jus2cute09]

So the modelling industry can fuck him up? He can be so much better with his emotional intelligence

[@drewanarousseau8969]

His parents are gay. What do you think??? Gay men take extra care of their skin.

[@churchgirl5441]

His skin is my DREAM! 👏

[@xoxoLeony]

How incredibly sad it is that they have to worry about him just being a young man in the world, because of his skin color. #BLM

[@MrSarcism]

How did u get that? Did i miss that line? Edit i got it, nvm! I agree black people who live in fear doesnt belong in 2018. Im white but i have nothing against black people. Why would i?

[@jameliabrooks7134]

you wouldn't understand that all people are open minded in america

[@banon485]

I think it's more pertinent him just being worried about Cyrus being young in America. All of our kids need protection. Sometimes from themselves.

[@banon485]

@Jiggahata1 I'm sorry that you took that away from my comment. I was more maximizing his fear in saying that everyone has to worry about their children. I understand that all groups face adversity in different ways. I've been the victim of racism myself. To different extents than others, I'm sure. But I would never minimize anyone's experience or fear for their child.

[@lj85atl46]

People forget what the PREMISE of this video is REALLY ABOUT!!! It's about a great adopted family that loves their children and to show a different perspective of how a father, adoptive or fraternal, should be!!! I pray that they continue to be happy and grow as a family!

[@jazmynarchibald-starks328]

Tell Cyrus to drop his skin routine in the comments, thanks.

[@dorcaslukoye6349]

I can assure you..skin care or not it is natural...im almost very sure he is south Sudanese and yep its in their genes....perfect melanin inch after inch

[@calynnie]

Lol aww cute😊

[@ndumi-light]

@Jazmyn... i feel you! 🤣🤣🤣

[@jgheysenj]

His Dad's probably have some bomb skin products

[@alekmawith4443]

Dorcas Lukoye nawww, I’m South Sudanese 🥺

[@mohamedkamal6671]

*Why The Media doesn't show more men like this one!*

[@lynf5562]

Because the media is trash and wants to promote negativity!!😭😭😭

[@rawuncut6890]

Because he's black. Simple.

[@andjelina1670]

Why is no one talking about boys eyes? They are so pretty

[@cherishdeb]

Yeah, everyone is saying he is gorgeous tho, thats what i think they are alluding to

[@adamm.6386]

cherishdeb His skin, his smile, his "brightness" as a young man. That's what they are referring to. His eyes adds to his handsomeness.

[@katiix]

Yes they are!

[@alycce]

Angelina 16 Yes! They are beautiful :)

[@rantsandfaves]

You see through to his sweet soul. Im broody now

[@Aya_ayako]

Aww he adopted a brother and sister. That’s beautiful

[@ineffablemars]

Ayako Ayako two women in my family adopted kids who were siblings.

[@CameronJasmin]

“So what can we do about that “ 🤝💞 How all parents should respond when their children tells them something that’s bothering them ! What a great parent!

[@rolihlala4333]

He adopted a dark skin black boy well done usually they are the least wanted in terms of adoption.Nice to see the father thinks in the good way

[@AlucardPeach]

And he's a beautiful dark skinned boy!

[@yagab8061]

ROLIHLALA im most likely going to adopt a darkskin baby and a asian child. I want to adopt all ethnicities but ik a lot of asian babies go thru a lot

[@lolaispure4296]

Why is it about thw color of his skin?

[@aye428]

@@lolaispure4296 perhaps because of the fetishization of lightskin/mixed babies. Darker skinned babies are seen as less desirable to many people. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@muurisoras5878]

Dark skin is beautiful

[@neekneek3056]

I love the way when the Dad asked “what is your biggest dream and how can I help you achieve it “he moved forward in his seat to listen to the answer ....so cute

[@boujiebarbie3198]

I caught that too. This is so cute, I teared up watching.

[@neekneek3056]

@@boujiebarbie3198 me too it's so sweet

[@Lia-li3yc]

@Janelle Carter saw o Yeah I'm wondering why the kid is not allowed to play football? Anyone have answers?

[@Indigo-lp5sl]

I’m trying to glow up to Cyrus’s level both spiritually and physically ✨

[@lisa196409]

I love him

[@AjieA]

KGD same ❤️😂

[@cherryBABE8]

Wishing u luck on ur journey, keep gloing 💓

[@learning.growing.1017]

Yup

[@diane9247]

Just the fact that you've thought of that shows you that you've got what it takes! Best of luck to you!

[@kharlamay]

When I was 13 I couldn’t wait to be an adult graduate and travel, I am now 25 wishing I was 13 again not having a stress or bill in the world 😭

[@Stanlayy-em4fk]

Wait 10-15 more years and you will start trying to relive and connect with your childhood again, in a positive and not a reckless way.

[@patcom7085]

Real talk

[@devlinkane3506]

As a gay man thinking about my future goals and the family I hope to one day create... I really needed to see this.

[@thestarswillshineagain1824]

Hope you get glad adopt and experience being a parent! Xx

[@jkaremi8335]

Get pregnant don't adopt

[@sorayatebbani949]

And you will do it my friend .

[@miguelbengochea4247]

Devlin Kane seeing this wow I wanna parent in the future

[@ndukumusyoki9835]

I really dont see what being gay has to do with anything especially adoption or connecting with children/parents.... really. Its just an unnecessary detail.

[@ItSAaliya_onSCREEN]

His face is symetric as hell...damn!

[@alynereck]

They are sooo cute ! I wish every father - son relationship would be as open and honest

[@nukapuka]

They are not related is why.

[@ig7002]

@@nukapuka What does that have to do with anything? This is a father and his son.

[@doclittlejohn3261]

When his dad said i love you, that baby did everything not to cry

[@valeriesuelove]

“It’s like I’m a younger You, now.” Aaannnnd my just heart forgot to beat.

[@hafsa7951]

It's hard for me to fathom that dad's like this exists

[@cherishdeb]

mars inhabitant i know!!!

[@ineffablemars]

Gay men are incredible fathers

[@mstmarieprov]

Right?!

[@tashebrown327]

My dad is like this, I live with both parents

[@itsmestupid.1310]

Wish my dad would take some fuckin’ notes lmao

[@BB11249]

Damn he's seems like a good no nonsense Dad, aww

[@i_am_legend7827]

Both Dad and Son are gorgeous!! His complexion is simply stunning! What a beautiful family and story!

[@hoteluytihouseofmorel5541]

He is a great dad.

[@danielphelps9867]

Im crushing on dad whew

[@YouTubeUzername]

@@danielphelps9867 is he single? Get at him if he is.

[@danielphelps9867]

@@KZbinUzername kinda in a situation

[@YouTubeUzername]

@@danielphelps9867 oh ok! An entanglement, I understand.

[@TheMandie1111]

He is very intelligent and there is so much more for him to do than model. I am not saying there is anything wrong with modeling.

[@southernfriedpeaches]

Iris Bradley Thank you! He is more than a pretty face.

[@AyeDatgurlYvett3]

Agree

[@-LA-]

I LOVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEE THIS DYNAMIC. Young African American son, being guided and LOVED by a father that knew he would be a GREAT DAD because he had so much love to give ....and walked through those same steps being apart of the foster care system. MUAH!!! You guys are BEAUTIFUL!!! Cyrus is so handsome and flawless beautiful skin!!! Thanks for sharing.

[@marktaylor4977]

Beautiful family indeed

[@Samantha10887]

I didn’t even see the colour I see a dad and his son and it’s great to see all colours of dads have healthy and strong relationships not just one race you need to open your mind and stop thinking one side it’s going to hold you back and it wasn’t needed in your comment you could have left that out it’s very limited

[@-LA-]

Well Sam, this is America, and the last time I looked "FREEDOM of SPEECH", was still valid (you must be a trumpette supporter... telling people; what they need to do...lol). I see color because God gave me eyes to see truth.. It has never held me back in life to see the true reality. He IS, an AFRICAN-American young man , what part of that is disturbing? My comment was all positive but it sounds like you are uncomfortable in your own skin. If you have any other suggestions about what to leave out, I would suggest you redirect it towards your self and empty hateful words... Sam you are unhappy and negative.. I will pray for those around you who have to listen to your empty dull brainless words.. Have a Great day Sammy... Oh, here's one more quote for the road...lololol I LOVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEE THIS DYNAMIC. Young African American son, being guided and LOVED by a father that knew he would be a GREAT DAD because he had so much love to give ....and walked through those same steps being apart of the foster care system. MUAH!!! You guys are BEAUTIFUL!!! Cyrus is so handsome and flawless beautiful skin!!!

[@oeu3669]

Samantha you’re literally Lying. And what you’ve said is rooted in racist ideology. And is Gaslighting. People who don’t have issues are the ones who acknowledge our skin colour differences and are comfortable with that without negating the existence of someone. You need to ask yourself why you reacted negatively to this comment - it clearly triggered something in you that you need to deal With. Only white people say I don’t see colour. Erasure at its finest. And completely ignoring the lived and real experiences of black people

[@-LA-]

LOL

[@amynicole_3331]

I LOVE the question “What could we do about that?”

[@SavannahVu1985]

‘I just love everything about you’. Words I dreamt that my father would have said to me growing up but never happened. Just proves fathers don’t have to be blood to truly be amazing. What an amazing family ❤️

[@dmcarden]

I think it's cute how he gets embarrased in a nice way by his dad ("don't say my boys, just say my firends")...it's cute

[@lleebabyy]

dmcarden lmao I know ☺️

[@oyandakona5994]

Cutest and shy

[@acier4334]

i cried watching this. knowing there are families out there like mine. me and my siblings were all adopted by my moms. i relate to this so much . i appreciate you guys making this video. xx

[@sophiemoreau3049]

M

[@Tweetypi16]

What was it like growing up with two mum's ? I ask because my partner and I always talk about having children but my biggest fear is the way other people will treat them. Even though I know it's nobodies business ....

[@acier4334]

Ingrid Ingrid I’ve always lived in an affluent/liberal town so i never felt ostracized or different. Growing up with 2 moms is great. Even though we’re not an average family I don’t think I missed out on much. I get asked “do you ever wish you had a dad?” a lot or “do you ever want to meet your birth parents” which I guess bothers me a bit just because why would I want a dad when my moms have given me everything a dad couldn’t or could? That’s only occasional. People mostly have a positive reaction like “you have two moms? That’s so cool!”. I think it is. :) id be happy to give u more info if u need it

[@jenniferh3827]

@@Tweetypi16 I'm curious for the same reason

[@Tweetypi16]

@@acier4334 that's amazing thank you so much for letting me know! (: Yeah one more question. How did they explain it to you when you were younger ??

[@apostrophe.t]

Seventh grade is ALWAYS a trash year, for every single kid in history and for every single person who loves a 7th grader. At my school, the 7th grade teacher was never the same for more than 2 years - it's a room full of hormonal, angry little beasts. ;) But Cyrus, you are past that now, so it only gets better! I love this family. Bless them!! There is obviously a lot of love and support here, and it's lovely.

[@librasmith9894]

Apostrophe T I had to think back...7th grade was a trash year for me. New school, my favorite older cousin was away in Kuwait, I got behind in Math because my teacher picked and filed at her nails the whole class, and I had to make friends with some of the most boring 7th graders on the planet. 😴 But Yes, it gets better!

[@Scandalous_behavior]

Apostrophe T 7th grade was good to me. I however did go to school in the upper echelons...

[@islalove336]

Apostrophe T it’s so true. Most trashiest! 😂 it’s like 6th grade year I planted my seed so I spent the year trying to get acclimated waiting on my seed to grow. 7th grade brought in a horrible storm that washed tat seed away. I was like a baby zombie. 8th grade year I bloomed and never looked back 😩

[@TracyMarie71]

7th grade sucked! We still had junior high (7th, 8th, 9th), so youngest kids in the school, felt like we had to prove ourselves at a new school, our parents didn’t understand anything we said and what passed in 6th grade wasn’t going to work in 7th. It was awful. My only saving grace was that I was already friends with most of my upper classmates and everyone in my own grade.

[@Emalye.Saeeeeeeeee]

Apostrophe T 7th grade was fun as hell 6th grade was the worst

[@lizzylu4660]

The way he expressed his love for his son was one of the beautiful things I’ve ever, EVER heard. I learned how to express my own feelings better. Wow, thank you

[@galaxylucia1898]

The beauty of unconditional love.

[@elainewarren8552]

His father sounds like an awesome dad!!

[@seros298]

The way he looks away, but is hanging on to every word is priceless.

[@purelydebased]

Lol. So sweet.

[@mickiellah]

Everybody in these comments are being very loud about modelling as if that’s his end game. There’s more he can and will do.

[@nadraosman5222]

mickiellah thank you that was my thoughts exactly why if our children look good they always say modeling or basketball there so much opportunity’s out there like been doctors we get brain power too

[@QueenofWheels]

Maybe he might want to model. No not every kid can be a model or basketball player but they don't have to be doctors or lawyers. People can be truck drivers, trashmen,waiters. We need all kind of people.

[@shadyzbabii420]

He can still model and live a full life outside of it...atleast it would pay for clothing lol

[@patriceh8444]

His side job sweetheart

[@novalight4863]

He is handsome. Would you be upset if someone said you should model?

[@almondy1963]

That is one gorgeous child! And he is so intelligent. Any parent would be proud to have him as a son. I wish him all the best.

[@essetefithamlak6326]

Melanin popping! The glow is so natural.

[@nroymn]

cyrus' eyes are literally shining, i can't stop looking wow

[@YetiintheSun]

Yes, that's LoVE !

[@mackenziethomas4840]

I like that this father can be both a father and a friend which I think every kid needs

[@Kingkmf]

MacKenzie Thomas lol no, kids need parents. The problem today is too many parents try to be their kids friend as opposed to their parent. You can and should have open dialogue with your kids but that line between parent and friend shouldn’t be blurred in my opinion. The biggest thing that helped me avoid trouble in life was having a father that was just that a father. Provided a lot of discipline but at the same time made it clear he loved me. When your a kid you hate the strict-ness and discipline but as an adult I look back thankful that I was raised that way. Just my thoughts

[@mackenziethomas4840]

@@Kingkmf well my mom is both my parent and my friend and I'm doing great. She is one of my best friends and I'm a straight A student and I've never even had a detention. If I did anything wrong my mom would tell me and teach me right from wrong. She is someone I can go too when I am having a hard time which not many people can do with their parents. And I didn't have a super easy childhood either but I never let it effect me because my mom was their for me

[@miurtouissi1093]

@@mackenziethomas4840 right . I hate how, especially in the black community (I'm black, speaking from experience) people think that the worst thing you could do as a parent is try to be your child's friend. Like you said being a parent AND a friend is the perfect mixture. What they don't get imo js that once the child becomes an adult and independent he will need a friend more than a parent and the relationship needs to be there and healthy! No wonder why so many children cut contact with their parents when they don't 'need' them to solve a problem, because we were raised to only see them as problem solvers lol not as confidents and friends!! For a healthy relationship, we need to try and be both!!! Trust is cultivated with time not once your child is already old enough to be mature!!!

[@jackystar5099]

@@Kingkmf she did mention a parent AND a friend. Parents who can have an open dialogue with their children and still set down the law are awesome. That's what she meant. My mom is my friend as well as my parent and I'm comfortable when it comes to talking about stuff, while still acknowledging she is above me. My dad is more of a parent where he doesn't really interact with me as anything but a parent. I don't feel comfortable when it comes to talking about things with him. Being both a friend AND a parent helps kids feel more comfortable to talk about things and that's what's really important, especially today where bullying and mental illness have become so prevalent.

[@Phoenix-yh6ec]

My parents were strictly parents with fun but once I hit a certain age they became both. There’s nothing wrong with being a parent and a friend. It’s about knowing your child and what is right for them in that moment. They also came to that point at different points in my life but it was exactly what I needed.

[@sabenathomas1141]

This makes my heart smile......so many positive feelings from this video. It has so many lessons that debunk perceptions about so many issues like gay men raising children, parenting, adoption, black men and their feelings, raising black teen boys in America....and the list goes on. One of the most powerful and positive imagery I've seen....I'm so touched by this♥️♥️

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you so so much for your comment!!

[@sagal33y]

Is there a part 2??? I love their relationship it’s soo beautiful it makes me want to cry!! 😭😭😭 and I love how Calvin’s parental technique is so chill but firm in way and I can tell cyrus really respects that!

[@ashleydavis2970]

sagal Mohamud I’ve been crying the whole time.

[@olgaleo2]

I'm crying lol

[@alexismadelynrau5576]

He’s such an empowering father. Melts my 💛

[@LtheGoddess7]

1. Cyrus is GORGEOUS!! 2. I LOVE this father - son dynamic. Thank you for showing this love.

[@adrianaa2767]

“Im a younger you”, he looks up to his dad, he knows his dad is in a good place and is doing good things. I could feel he was saying this with a goal in his mind to become the image of the good person his father is 💕

[@muratguler6592]

Exactly. I can't imagine having that confidence to say such thing about my dad looking into his eyes. These two have something very special about them

[@mrandreis9475]

Dang he could be a model.. Watch out Tyson Beckford... Your replacement is coming thru.. What a beautiful child... Bless his heart..

[@twittertwice]

Oh please...an education... options ...life isn’t getting less complicated

[@cheesecakelasagna]

There's space for black models to coexist at the same time though. No need to replace whoever.

[@nolagirl7082]

“Your Boys”, “uh, you can say friends”, soooo cute!!😂😂

[@RubyRim]

Calvin Klein needs to call Cyrus asap!

[@shadyzbabii420]

Right! Calvin or Ralph's collegiate pieces!

[@yerutivilasis]

He’s 13

[@SunLazurine]

Smh an this adopted kid got a better conversation with his dad than me and my biological dad

[@SilverFlame819]

Sadly, most children from straight people just are not planning out and tried for. When you adopt a child, that is your absolute goal -- not getting off.

[@ThatBeeyatch]

Sun Lazurine Right ? So sad

[@ea8336]

this hit different

[@cheesecakelasagna]

@@SilverFlame819 Yep

[@johninsf1984]

Beautiful piece! As a South American adoptee I related to this in so many ways. My father and I had this moment after I had come out and my first two relationships, we covered every topic and turned over every stone and healed wounds. We get each other now and I love my father very much.

[@TheSkinDeep]

John - Thank you very much for sharing your own relation to this conversation. It is beautiful to hear your relation and connection has healed with your own father. Have you ever had a chance to ask similar questions to {THE AND} cards?

[@taniasweet6409]

God bless you😚😚

[@Franskie266]

He really does look like a model.

[@TheResistance8969]

If thats u on the pic then you look like a model too..

[@niimahrabiu5815]

@@TheResistance8969 IKR?!

[@TH3RIPPA]

This young man spirit is strong....i see it

[@sonquatsch8585]

fortified by the love of his father!

[@JasonGafar]

Man you can tell this is an incredible father. You can just feel his heart from watching this video. God bless him.

[@vanessasisney9708]

This is such a healthy father and son relationship. I'm try this with my boys I love this channel

[@cestlavievivre]

So handsome and that skin tone!!! Model status!!

[@PB-eo5ny]

“Just say friends” haha

[@heyjavonnejay]

It's so cute how easily embarrassed they are at that age lol

[@dj5180]

wtf he’s 13? lol he’s smart AF would have never guessed that

[@cheesecakelasagna]

The braces gave his age away for me lol

[@dj5180]

the boy is literally so gorg 😍

[@jillday1]

the son is so intelligent and handsome and great dad too

[@imanmohamed8713]

This boy is so handsome!

[@kianaontiveros9169]

When he asked what’s your biggest dream and how can I help you achieve it .. his eyes lit up and he looked so excited ... he’s a great dad 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺💜💜💜

[@PlanetYokoshima]

Did you all notice him getting uncomfortable and fidgety when his father mentioned him being black skinned? Thanks society for insecurities.

[@justanotheryoutubechannel.4363]

JakulaithWolff that is only in America, where I live nobody cares about being white, black ,asian ect.

[@knt9284]

Just another KZbin channel. Where do u live? I want to move there😁

[@justanotheryoutubechannel.4363]

KNT Nicole in place that doesnt care about race.

[@africanodyssey4805]

@betty lynch colorism and racism is a global problem, it's not only America

[@orangejuice4425]

@@africanodyssey4805 yeah, other places just ignore it whereas in the US its a focus.

[@andreadeleon7965]

Wow! I love the way he can so concisely express the way he feels and wants, especially for a young boy. You can definitely tell his dads provide a very open and comfortable environment. I love it 💖💖💖

[@poppykok5]

Imagine what a kinder & gentler World we'd have if only more children had such a loving, interested, genuine, & respectful Father like Calvin...I have no doubt that Cyrus will grow up to a be a fine young Man his Father will be especially proud of...Bless this Family...This is such an encouraging & heartwarming story to share...Thank you kindly, "The Skin Deep"...

[@kaitlynoconnor305]

im a young lesbian adult and ive always wanted kids but this made me cry because raising a child and showing them the world and showing them real love, kindness, safety (especially to foster/adopted children) is something i undoubtedly want in this life. ive wholheartedly decided on foster care and adoption, even through all the hurdles and difficulties i want to make a difference in that child or childrens lives, i want to show them the true heart of family. im only 19 but when im older i cant wait to start my family. i cant wait to make a difference. 💖

[@lakishaogletree6470]

Omg he is so handsome, his smile eyebrows, skin tone Side note: I love how the father is attentive and the young man is so articulate

[@cjandrian9163]

Wait Cyrus is 13? Huh. I woul've guessed 15 or 16.

[@Ruebzzz]

CJ Andrian they touch on it

[@TimeisUp22]

6:20 that’s one of the fathers fears

[@nobuhlebuhleeh3554]

He looks 21 to me☺

[@oliviar6356]

Nobuhle Buhleeh that’s sounds creepy

[@claireh8125]

Lats talk about society always assumes black children are older than they are .... that's really dangerous. Lets stop centering white children as what "kids" are supposed to look like.

[@fakingdeep6418]

This is so sweet. You can really tell that the dad is a great parent based on how close they seem to be. And Cyrus seems like such a sweet and intelligent boy! It's unfortunate that there are so many kids in foster homes who have so much potential but are limited by their opportunities. This video makes me really consider adopting in the future if I ever plan to have kids.

[@xodstny8876]

Omg, I love this. They both actually listen to each other

[@loviamatabane3160]

Something I picked up

[@codishaa]

I'm 30 seconds in and I wanna cry. This young boy is so special and cute. You cant tell in his eyes he has always wanted love. 😭😭😭😭😭

[@dawnjohnson1965]

His son is loved, that's a huge blessing!!! Makes me want to adopt and love a child.

[@mariatangled]

This really makes me want to adopt

[@PHlophe]

don't it though

[@thecyberninja2708]

yeah im adopting for sure 1 asian kid, 1 white kid and 1 black kid

[@destinyjackson.5480]

The Cyberninja why does race matter?

[@jackystar5099]

You should really look into it. There are so many sweet kids out there who need a home.

[@beigelover95]

This makes me want to have kids

[@blackbeauty8034]

What a bright smile and personality he has. So glad this gentleman adopted him and showed him love and support!

[@anacuesta733]

This was an amazing example that families are not defined by a persons sex or sexual orientation but rather by LOVE. Love is what makes up a family, it doesn’t matter if you’re female, male, a single parent, Black White Hispanic Asian purple green blue or red, it’s the love, care dedication trust and understanding. What a wonderful family!

[@rocklesson86]

Calvin raised Cyrus right. He is a good dad.

[@milo971]

if cyrus isn’t a model soon i’m gonna start swinging

[@supersoloman81]

peaches’n’edits 😂😂😂 me too

[@avonlea2625]

peaches’n’edits KMSLLLLL 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ndiwanganetshiluvhi4158]

😂😂😂

[@AllyMeg]

So true!

[@naturallyours32]

🙆🏿😂

[@evaweiss9557]

Omg... the Dad is a truly exceptional human being. You have your place in heaven Mr, if only there were more like you walking the earth. Wow, you authenticity, time and love for this child bounces off the screen. You brought tears to my eyes.

[@cocochanel9273]

"You saved me from that situation " 😭😭💯💯💯

[@scarlettholmes2517]

Boy looks like high fashion model

[@Coco-tq9fx]

I can’t help but smile when Cyrus smiles 😁😍

[@herstorylives7405]

This is a good man and a better father. Around 10:07...he got his dad. Saw those eyes water.

[@MistyCunard]

The you walk me to school statement made me smile. My bonus daughter was in middle school and I still hid by the side door to make sure she got on the school bus safely. 🤣

[@princessingrid6209]

He’s so kind this is emotional 😭 for me to watch but one day I wanna get engaged,married have a kid and adopt one as well

[@dedrahopkins3798]

He could model! Look at that skin, bone structure! AW!! Make sure you take care of that beautiful skin Cyrus!

[@anastasiadziman4493]

When the dad said I JUST LOVE YOU!.... my heart💔

[@amapparatistkwabena]

God---here I go again with these urges to adopt...

[@tamikash]

The people who disliked this video need to go to therapy.

[@DamarisMuga]

ASAP

[@TheLicktysplitz]

Right

[@Dawarlord34]

I got news for you buddy, there is more than 4 dislikes now.

[@Kingkmf]

Lol the need therapy because they have views that differ from yours ? Okay..... ppl can like and dislike whatever they want. The problem is when ppl feel that their preferences should control other individuals lives.

[@basicallyv9873]

That was the cutest thing when he asked his dad you graduated, right, then said he wanted to graduate.

[@Moon-so9vi]

“You’re going to blow yourself away.” Immediately thinks of: “And you’ll blow us all away.” “It can be like an Alexander Hamilton moment.” My thought was fulfilled.

[@kebeen1hunnit322]

Ocean C. What

[@mikikaoru7111]

And then the kid immediately said you don’t have to relate it, dad. Haha

[@ayogorgeous3831]

This was beautiful and I loved it. I nearly cried.