"Why Do I Keep Getting Misgendered??" Trans Guy Reacts To TikTok's Ridiculous Trans Activists

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[@evilcookie6399]

It's funny how the same people who keep demanding respect don't respect anything other than their extremely fragile feelings.

[@analeticiacastromatos9509]

Fact!

[@melbaraboo]

yep exactly.

[@bbyjscx]

I've noticed it's always the most disrespectful folks that demand respect

[@dudeorduuude5211]

​@@bbyjscx yep... whether it is demanding respect by crying, whining, shaming, or hotheads with their fists, yelling or attempt at intimidation.

[@chari---zard]

​@@bbyjscx right? A good example is those in prison

[@nothatespeech]

Anyone else's eyes start rolling when they hear someone talk about their "privilege"? 🙄

[@skylineXpert]

A privilege is something that can be earned & taken away quite easily. Like a drivers license...

[@veesancez]

Everyone has a privilege someone else doesnt

[@valorie444]

yup no one hasspecial privileges.

[@faded1to3black]

Immediately. I grew up in a time before it was tossed around as a way to disregard points of view people have. Now it seems to be a weapon to induce some sort of guilt over something superficial, to silence wrongthink.

[@badwolf0099]

I regularly engage in having privilege

[@-12Sided]

If I had a dollar for every gender, I would have 2 dollars and a bunch of monopoly money.

[@1jotun136]

*snap*

[@itsme90s]

🤣 Good one

[@lynnm6413]

love it... and it comes in all colors, too

[@verindictus3639]

🎯🎯🎯

[@valorie444]

yup.

[@angelaa1611]

Not all trans people are the same. I tend to put trans folks into 3 caragories: 1. Actual transgender/transsexual people who have gender disphoria. 2. The fetishists. These people are your Lia Thomas's and Rachel Levines. These ones get their jollies by looking like and being treated like the opposite of their biological gender. Usually M-F, but I'm sure F-M exist. We just don't see as many. 3. Trans for trend. This is a fairly broad category. This covers everyone from depressed teens looking for somewhere to fit in or, looking to piss off their parents and rebel "against society." This is also your more militant trans and TRAs. These are the ones who will go into a women's restroom with a full beard and get combative if a woman speaks up. Non-binary and neo-genders also fall into this category. 2's and 3's and messing everything up for 1's, IMO. No one had a problem with actual trans ppl until the trendies and fetishists showed up. Anytime people have something negative to say about trans people, I always try to explain that there's a difference between actual trans ppl and the fetishists and trendies.

[@Glub2]

This is what I try to voice to people as someone who isn’t left leaning but also supports trans rights. There is a very distinct difference that people aren’t seeing because of whatever agenda they’re getting spoon fed from. I support ACTUAL trans people who experience real DYSPHORIA. 2’s and 3’s do not have that.

[@kellysouter4381]

I've seen lately where some trans are getting embarrassed and frightened by the allies. Their activism is too extreme for the very people they claim to support!

[@angelaa1611]

@@jordans797 Accurate correction, thanks!

[@frostedmelon4992]

This is a great way of thinking that I follow too. Its a shame this list needs to be done though to separate number 1s from the others who pretty much spit on actual trans people. Out of interest do you consider that Dylan person to be in group 2 or 3? Cos I think they don't fit either, it feels more like a sick pageantry of bad stereotyping at a woman's expense. Like Dylan's almost parodying a female in the worst ways. Is that fetishism or just incel like behaviour?

[@travelnurse2117]

Your description is actually very good. I see the same things. And you are right, categories 2 and 3 are making it difficult for category 1. I'm usually not in favor of boxes, but I've been observing for a long time now, and I think your descriptions are spot on.

[@rachelcody3355]

I'm 52 years old. I've always been a tomboy, I live in the country and dress like a hick at times. I sometimes get misgendered. It's not a big deal. I know why, it's how I dress and the fact that I don't care about fashion. I'm too busy living my life as a country hick to care. I was at the grocery store a few months back. Weather just started to turn so, there I am dressed like a lumberjack. My back was to the cart boy. He stated, "I'll take that cart sir." I turned around and he then realized I'm not a sir. he started to apologize. I had to calm him down and tell him it's not a big deal. I'm a middle aged, straight white woman who get misgendered occasionally. It does not define me. I don't get bothered by it. I understand someone can misgender me based on how I dress at times. That's on me. Not on them. So, if you get misgendered...chill...it's no big deal. No one is trying to make your life miserable. Only you can do that. Have fun, don't take life so seriously! Lost my husband 3 years ago. Life is to short to let little things like a title upset you. Be a duck and let it roll off your back and keep on going. Your life is to important to waste your breath on what other people think.

[@cathyyoung3285]

I am a tomboy too. I don't even own makeup lol. Men's clothes are more comfy and I am more comfy wearing them. I have short hair and work on cars for a living and get misgendered every single day! When people start apologizing I just tell them it's no big deal and they'll never find a tiktok of me crying about it. This freaking out over misgendering is stupid and shallow. I could care less about people's gender frankly

[@shonaaitken7635]

You sound SO much more grounded and stable than any of these lunatics crying over pronouns on Tiktok. But then again, they aren't looking for a chilled life, they want to be "special" and part of that is claiming victim status. I'm sorry you lost your husband far too early.

[@victoriapowell6318]

I am fifty-five and have never one day in my life wasted a second of my energy with thoughts about "what is my gender identity" or "what are my preferred pronouns". People who DO spend one second of energy thinking about such stupid things need something better to do.

[@Fiona2254]

I’m 58 and every so often someone misgenders me. I live in a Ranch, I’ve always been a tomboy and I dress mostly sweatshirts, tshirts, jeans and boots. The cashier called me sir the other day though my hair is down to my waist because of the way I was dressed and we both had a laugh when I turned around. It happens and it’s not an insult unless you are thin skinned.

[@shontaiacoleman2677]

Sometimes people assume I am a man when I wear men's clothes, but that's not a big deal, it just happens

[@Touchgrassplz]

as a gay man i cant help but feel hopeless because here we are again, being questioned about our sexual attractions and being labeled as a 'preference' :(

[@tnr5385]

It’s not your job to educate the world on your triggers, they are yours!!! I have triggers from an abusive relationship, sentences and words…. But I do not expect the world to know my trigger words and skate around me. I expect ME to work on those. People cannot guess pronouns!!!!

[@derrickdaniels3955]

Thank you and I hope you can get help on those triggers ❤

[@NinjaFlibble]

I have a friend who works as a vet assistant. One time, a client was losing her(?) shit at my friend because this friend didn't know her(?) pronouns were 'ice' and 'bee' 😒

[@jaijai5250]

Well said. None of us are mind readers. Most people gender according to visual and auditory observation; how does the person look, or sound. How can anyone else guess that one’s mind is in conflict, and is distressed by their body…it’s impossible.

[@rjlundholm89]

Exactly,I can't be expected to be people's therapist when I don't even qualify as one. I will be as kind and respectful as I can be. But to a point. There is a line I will not cross

[@victoriapowell6318]

I think beyond the whole "educating the world about YOU" thing, you shouldn't expect other people to really care what your triggers are. If a word was banished because it was someone's trigger, we would have no words. My best advice to people is get over yourself, I was just TRYING to be polite but I really don't care if you are "triggered" or upset or anything else. As someone in their fifties who has not one day in my entire life put a second's energy to a thought about "what pronouns I want other people to use to refer to me", I do not care one little iota what pronoun ANYONE thinks I must use to talk about them. I will just refrain from talking about them - preferably they can disappear from my life. And if we are just having a PASSING interaction - like at a counter paying for something, etc. - don't correct me, I seriously do not care and do not want to know your dark inner issues - and YES, that is directed to all the fast food workers posting TikToks about how they wear pronoun pins and still get misgendered. NO ONE CARES what your pronouns are.

[@samsonarnett3601]

we can't control how other people talk to us, all we can control is how we react, and reacting poorly is a bad look for us, period.

[@Childfreedollar]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@UltraSaltyDomer1776]

Agree. For someone like me it plays into the stereotype of what I already think or the mental eggshells I think I need to avoid. I will tell you an experience. I work at a smoke shop and say sir and mam as a sign of respect. I had a trans person come in but is really early in their transition so they still look very manly and I addressed them as sir. This person then corrected me (politely but sternly) and explained how early in their transition they are. I apologized and told them that I meant no harm with it and that I will remember that but that my values won't allow me to address them as mam but at minimum I can stop te misgendering. Me and this person are now very cordial and polite with each other and I think they respect me and I respect them because I make attempts to not misgender and they don't force me to call them mam. Respect is the most important thing and keep in mind this is coming from someone that is a very strong right side person but just because I am a trump supporter doesn't mean I hate or want to disrespect anyone. I am not trying to eliminate anyone or force this person to stop their transition. I simply want kids protected and for the movement to understand that we don't want to be forced to do what we don't feel comfortable with. Why does the baker have to bake the cake. Why does everyone have to be "educated" about pronouns. We just need to accept and respect each other and I think if that was the T message they get alot less push back

[@SummersPsycheDelicates]

@@UltraSaltyDomer1776 I'm gay and I completely agree. Even about the cake thing lol like if anything you would think lgbtqiahsvddhsbsb people would be happy that those Christians put their beliefs out in public and could NOT take gay peoples money and business bc of it. Simple. But instead it became about force and I'm not here for that.

[@SummersPsycheDelicates]

@@UltraSaltyDomer1776 also I think that was really decent of you how you handled that trans interaction.

[@samsonarnett3601]

@@UltraSaltyDomer1776 yeah i mean for me personally i have made enough effort and progress that i don't need to ask to be called 'sir,' i just am. automatically. i don't think we can reserve the right to be upset over 'misgendering' when we haven't even made much progress yet tbh, i never expected early on to be called sir, but now i don't even need to ask or request it because i've put in the work and waited my turn

[@Peacefulpreface6323]

Describing your successes and loving relationships in life as "privileged" is a level of self hatred I'll never understand. No wonder he's been having therapy for 6 years and this is coming from someone who's had therapy.

[@lynnm6413]

preach! I also want to add that instinct is very strong in interpersonal communication. That's not just a gender issue, but anyone talking to an Asperger person will know two minutes in that something is off. It's not necessarily the looks, one just senses mental distress quite easily.

[@huitrecouture]

They're acknowledging there's a shit ton of people without access to the fundamental basics in life which is TOTALLY TRUE. Which also explains alot of their mental illness comorbidities like BPD, OCD, etc. Hell look at Robert Downey Jr who's father got him addicted to drugs as a 6 year old. But they have to constantly fall on the sword because they live for social media and the first thing someone will say is "OH REALLY WELL WE CAN"T EVEN GET BASIC HEALTHCARE SO LUCKY YOU." And shit like that.

[@Peacefulpreface6323]

@Cindy S I get what you're saying but falling on the sword is their choice. If you constantly mould your thoughts around other people's responses then we'll reach a point where people's genuine opinions are the only ones looked down on.

[@thecamillarose9806]

Yeah. Like listening to him say what he said, I'm like in shock. People are like "wow you're emotionally mature wow thanks for answering my questions. I've had problems with others." And he's like "yeah fuck you, respect the others. Don't blame them." It's not like we're blaming them, it's just that it's not fun being screamed at in the face when someone asks someone something. It felt so gross to me. The way he's like oh yeah I'm priveleged. And not realising he put in the work other people wouldn't and don't want to do

[@gilgameshofuruk4060]

I'd love to be his therapist's accountant.

[@megsley]

to them, 'disrespect' is accidentally misgendering them, or asking an innocent question. these horrific slights are enough justification for them to completely flip out on you, and you're just supposed to sit there and take it. these people sound like they'd be absolutely insufferable to be around in real life.

[@gilgameshofuruk4060]

People have been misgendered for years for all sorts of reasons. Especially since telephones made it possible not to see the person we were talking to. Deep voiced women, light voiced men. When jeans and tee shirts became standard unisex dress, it became difficult to work out some people's sex. That was _before_ we got men dressing as women and women dying their hair blue and wearing circular lensed glasses smeared with greasy fingerprints.

[@joyeetaghosh2209]

Does it mean I can't ask questions bcs i want know them to solve my questions

[@joyeetaghosh2209]

@AM-uh7mv what are you trying to say

[@MKDumas1981]

"Why can't you see me the way I see myself?" Because one of us is wrong.

[@ravonne6308]

I hate this Strawman argument, that if your date's sex is important then you must be interested solely in having a sexual relationship. First of all, if it's honest, why should it be a problem. And second, sexuality is an important part of most romantic relationships, including long term and personally deep and meaningful ones. It's so weird that somehow we should handle it as a mild discomfort if there's a huge mismatch (also somewhat homophobic). The darker possibility is that a lot of these people never had a satisfying sexual experience with another person to begin with...

[@SalivatingSteve]

Your last sentence is spot on. A lot of these people are incels who have no sexual experience of any kind. Or they’ve only had bad sex experiences.

[@ObnoxiousFeline]

My biggest issue is that why are they allowed to have their sexuality respected, but the straights and homosexuals aren't? It's despicable and hypocritical that they're allowed to prey upon straights and gays, but when the straights and gays say "we're not into you" it's a problem.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

I've never had a satisfying experience and I don't share their viewpoint. These people are straight up messed up.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

Also, if you want kids, you need someone with genuine, working plumbing down there

[@ravonne6308]

@@ASMRyouVEGANyet I don't think that sexual frustration is the explanation behind all of their views and behavior, even though it's a low hanging fruit. I think their backwards beliefs are telling about their lack of experience, which is frightening, given they are really young and might change their sexual organs and may cut their chance to ever have really satisfying sexual experiences. Satisfying sexlife is of course not a must, but it might be a nice flavor of life which shouldn't be just cut off...

[@erinisdizzy]

“Heterophobic” YES!!! Marcus, your observations are always SO on point. Thank you!!❤

[@lynnm6413]

those two last women really just show how much society had already moved! You can wear all male clothes, and have a short or half shaved hair cut and no one is going to blink because you are immediately recognizable as a woman in gender neutral clothing. So what?! Now tho the Gender ID Brigade is tearing up every other minute for being 'misgendered'! It took time for women to get to this point, you know, look at the 50's! It's not just trans people being disrespected by the non-binary label, women are as well because in 5 years if this continues baggy butch clothing will be off limit for any regular woman, just like colorful hair dye already is.... Because of all the crazies!

[@melancolielupine2023]

Yeah. I'm born in 85 and I was a cyberpunk/metalhead in my teens and until my 30s. Piercings, tattoos, mohawk, shaved head, dreads and bright hair dye were seen as badass. I also wear alt/baggy clothes since the 00s. And nowadays I slowly drift apart from my beloved style because of those wackos. I don't wanna be associated with them... even if in my small French town it's not a thing. Punk is still punk here :D

[@priscillaspets]

i was at the pizza place with my friend one day and this person came up to us and introduced “Hi! i’m guessing ur non binary too?” my friend wears boyish clothes and short hair but obviously a girl and she goes “no i’m a she?” and the other person just walks off 😳it was awkward

[@lynnm6413]

@@priscillaspets yes, that's exactly what's going to happen... The non-binary crazies are putting women into one box, the trans gender activists are breaking us down into biological functions... If I'm going to have to become a gender trenders exclusionary radical feminist, I will go that route before sacrificing my freedom.

[@madelaine2222]

Omg heterophobic!?! I love that, finally something I can throw back 😜😂 ** Also, I've noticed a trend online (100% not in my real life) where trans people get some kind of pleasure in tricking the opposite sex(usually men) into liking them or hooking up, before they tell them, if they tell them, they are trans. This is twisted and dangerous... People just need to be better 😢

[@jaqenhghar6244]

You should see what they’ve done to lesbian spaces. They do not want anyone rejecting them and their d ck, it’s unhinged. They are friends to no one, don’t believe otherwise.

[@valorie444]

I’m bisexual. However, if the man or woman I am going to have sex with does not have the genitalia I would expect of a female or a male to have yes I would leave. I’m not sexually or romantically attracted to people who think they’re the opposite sex.

[@ObnoxiousFeline]

Same with my husband, he's gone on record to state this exact fact. You're not alone.

[@caitlincorbett6193]

I feel about the same. That's honestly why I hate the argument that it's weird to "think of genitalia" like that or "thinking of sex". If I'm interacting with you to date you I'm accessing your qualifications of being a life partner. We may not think of "sex" right away but if we're dating long enough the conversation is going to come up eventually. If there's something involved in a potential relationship that I'm going to be turned off by if things go further I kinda want to know sooner rather than later so we don't waste each others time.

[@valorie444]

@@caitlincorbett6193 exactly. no one who was opposite or same sex attracted years upon years ago had to worry if they’re husband or wife had different genitalia bc being trans wasn’t as common. if me wanting to be with normal males and or females makes me bigoted oh well 🫡

[@valorie444]

@@caitlincorbett6193 i don’t expect sex in a relationship right away of course but it’s homophobic and heterophobic to think i want to be with a mentally ill man or woman who thinks that they can change sex/gender just by Mutilating themselves.

[@inferiorinferno8859]

Same here! I have so many reasons why I don't want to date trans people as a bisexual, and none of them are transphobic.

[@ameliaq.7481]

6:47 They came so close to saying, "I cut my hair short" as a reason why people should think they're a man, but then realized how dumb that was.

[@Schaemia]

I thought they were gonna reference the beard they don't have but stopped themselves from that too.

[@adelepattonxxx]

I don't think that you ever have to share that you're trans. EXCEPT ROMANTICALLY AND SEXUALLY. In all other contexts I don't care - friend, family, social activity, work, uni ..... but romance and sex are totally different.

[@Mungoteazer11581]

" I felt so gendered" - oh my god 😑 Was the last person the one crying on the Starbucks floor?

[@enough2715]

I don't really have an issue with people recognizing their financial privilage but stuff like "supportive friends and family is a privilage" is so odd to me. How tf is that a privilage? A poor family can be strong knit but a wealthy family can be broken, which has more "privilage"??

[@bertille701]

I think the person in the video mixed up "having privilege" and "having resources" . Supportive friends and family are resources ( that not everyone has which is why he treats it as privilege)

[@1jotun136]

Yeah, I hate the use of preference. LGB folks had to fight really hard to separate preference from orientation. Now, these activists are starting to use it again. It reminds me so much of the christian puritanism we fought against in the eighties and nineties.

[@VB_Indiana]

... and that we're still fighting in 2023 here in the midwest of the US! I agree with you!

[@valorie444]

it’s unfortunate how our acceptance has dwindled down because of these activists but it was to be expected.

[@lynnm6413]

same. What happened to 'we need no labels, live and let live? I never thought I' d look back at the 2000's and say... those were the times

[@UltraSaltyDomer1776]

It's full circle. What's sad to is this community eats it's own if you step out one bit. That's why wrong or right I consider the movement a cult

[@dalrishardin9993]

😂 I get called mam all the time because my voice isn’t deep. Especially over the phone. I don’t get mad. I just laugh. Cause I’m like, do I really sound that much like a woman? I’m soft spoken…oh well. Get over it. Humans recognize patterns.

[@sydneykendall7125]

That's right, humans recognize patterns. And when the pattern turns out to not conform to the usual and you make a mistake, that should just be funny, not a cause for offense. But some people want to be offended. They revel in injury and the opportunity to tell someone off from the position of moral authority. Note the way many of these pronoun-offended people react - it's so histrionic. It's not coming from an adult place (which shouldn't be surprising when the person isn't an adult, but some of these people, chronologically at least, are).

[@jaijai5250]

@@sydneykendall7125 histrionics is the perfect word to describe them.

[@codykirchner9606]

I had this exact thought. The same thing happens to me all the time. You just handle your business and go on about your day. I guess its not so simple when your entire self-worth is wrapped up in your identity.

[@gilgameshofuruk4060]

Once at work I was trying to obtain a customer's details by phone and they couldn't understand "Title", no matter how I explained it. I couldn't tell from the voice or the name whether I was speaking to a man or a woman. I couldn't proceed as there was no "Prefer not to say" option in those days and it was a mandatory field. In the end I balanced probabilities and took the plunge with said "Are you Miss, Mrs or Ms", only to hear a _very_ sad little voice say "Mister". Even though I blamed a poor connection, there was the sound of wounded pride in his voice thereafter. In retrospect, I don't think I helped by over compensating and calling him "Sir" every 5 seconds afterwards.

[@blankadams3120]

Ah, yes, the 'respect me even though I'm not going to respect YOU' problem... you see, not much more than five or so years ago, there was a very clear set of social mores in place, that, if you act like a douche to someone, you're going to get: 1) punched, or 2) insulted until you shape up. No one immediately deserves respect, it's something people give with the hopes of receiving respect in return. But, especially loud 'trans' people have wiped the entire slate clean of possible 'respect' most people are even willing to put out there. The 'trans' community has been so abrasive for so long people aren't about to be nice the moment they realize what the person they're talking to is. Oh, and hey, as to that 'I'm going to sleep with someone without telling them I don't have the genitals I look like I should' aspect? let's not forget that people used to get killed for hiding that. Not condoning it, just pointing out that it could happen. And if you want to be 'safe'... letting someone you're even thinking of sleeping with know that is still a better outcome than ending up dead.

[@NinjaFlibble]

Us heterosexual people are weird: we like the plumbing to be what's advertised on the package 😆

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

Remember, this is the group that's been promoting "informed consent" as the gold standard, but hey do as they say, not as they do.

[@HatsuneMiku0011]

I don't understand why people are so upset about not passing when they don't try to do anything to pass and then they make everyone out to be horrible because they They can't see their insides from the outside

[@Iwoasasaned]

And how do they expect to be addressed with their weird neo pronouns? There is no way you could guess those right if you have just a short interaction (I.e. at a fast food place) and you can’t expect people to look for the print on your t-Shirt/buttons to find your specific pronouns of the day. Those people set the world up to „misgender“ them just to be able to freak out, cause a scene and be the victim again and again.

[@Harry-nc5td]

For the last person, more masculine haircut + more masculine clothes/glasses + maybe lose a bit of weight. That combo works wonders 🤷‍♂

[@arielle]

Geeeeee I wonder why

[@GuranPurin]

I will never understand the absolute narcissism a person needs to have to refuse to tell someone who they really are on the first date. You are literally building your relationship on a LIE if you don't disclose the fact that you're trans to a straight person. How do you expect that person to EVER have trust for you when you've built your relationship on being a liar? And then they would have the nerve to get upset that their date would want nothing to do with them afterwards. "We were vibing before you found out". This is the type of unhinged logic of "vibing" with a friend online whose gender you don't know, the idea of online dating comes up, and then getting upset when I find out the person is a woman when I only date men as if I owe you the relationship because "we vibed when you didn't know I wasn't in your dating pool". News flash, that attraction immediately shrivels up and disintegrates the minute I find out you're not someone I'm attracted to. It's not impossible.

[@chrislowe6926]

I would say that disclosing on the 2nd date would be better - that gives them the option of politely turning down a 2nd date if the trans person decides that the person they went on the first date with would not react well to being told that they were trans. But if you’re on a 2nd date, then that needs to be brought up. If someone I was dating left it until we were in the bedroom or just before, I would see that as a significant red flag. And, as you say, attraction can’t be forced and can dry up for any number of reasons - as soon as that attraction is gone, I’m going to withdraw my consent, and it is much more socially pleasant to be able to do that in a fully clothed state somewhere well away from a bedroom. Expecting that you can get away with not giving partners information very relevant to them giving informed consent is a big red flag.

[@GuranPurin]

@@chrislowe6926 I don't see how a second date is more ideal. On the first date, I can end things without wasting my time and potentially my money on someone I'm not into.

[@boydmccollum692]

To bring back a term from a few years ago - this sounds like so much tone policing. Plus gaslighting. The whole "you should read my mind even though I'm a complete strangers".

[@jaijai5250]

Exactly. Do they really expect the rest of us to be mind readers…..it’s pathetic!

[@c123-i6n]

It is baffling how these people think it’s ok for trans people to go off for being ‘’disrespected’’ by ‘’misgendering’’ them and saying you can’t expect them to be nice if you were rude to them, yet they don’t seem to get the same applies to those they call cis.

[@jackietea8772]

Its so frustrating, because there is a point where these people have to take their emotional reactions into their OWN HANDS. They need to realize that their feelings they experience in any situation are THEIR FEELINGS, and its THEIR RESPONSIBILITY to figure out how to deal with them... period. That girl with the curly hair who was misgendered even though the guy had good intentions is the perfect example. He doesnt give a crap that he misgendered you... he is going about the rest of his day, doing his job, going home to his kids, and having a nice dinner.... She needs to figure out how to deal with these situations within herself because its just going to keep happening... over and over and over again. She can live her life getting hurt every time someone calls her she, and that is completely on her. She can live her life miserably waiting for people to call her he when she LOOKS LIKE A SHE...but its not going to change anything. its sad, but its no one else's job.... we all have our own lives... and she can waste her breath lecturing that guy about her pronouns, but he is STILL going to go home and live his own damn life and forget about you in 5 minutes, and say that exact same thing to some other girl the next day. These people think that everyone is constantly walking around thinking about pro-nouns 24/7. No one is doing that... except these people. I used to have suicidal OCD when I was younger, and even if the WORD suicide came up, I would absolutely spiral and have though loops for HOURS. but that didn't mean that everyone that mentioned suicide was the problem... MY FEELINGS/BRAIN were the problem. I had to figure out how to combat these horrible obsessions in myself.... I couldn't expect every single person I came in contact with to not mention suicide... or ask me what my triggers were before we spoke.... because honestly just ASKING what my triggers were would have triggered the thought loops. lol. IT WAS NO ONE ELSES JOB BUT MINE to figure out how to become okay with this.... and I figured it out. Its that simple....

[@danielm872]

You're always such a breath of fresh air in the middle of all this craziness, thank you!

[@faded1to3black]

It's genuinely very strange to me to see this obsession with external validation. I grew out of that desire in middle school. Being honest with yourself is way more important. If you are, you'll never be bothered by someone else not telling you what you want to hear. Whatever flaws you have, you're already aware of them. Whatever defects, whatever insecurities, whatever flaws. Know yourself. If you do, nothing anyone ever says that is false about you should ever matter, and whatever they may say that is true, you'll already have accepted, and be working on.

[@SalivatingSteve]

Exactly! The obsession with external validation is a VERY childish middle school mindset to have.

[@faded1to3black]

@@FancyForestPerson if I had to guess, I'd say social media access, smart devices widespread, and minimal parenting because of the kids being quiet all the time, as they're raised on the smart devices. The tablets and phones, even without social media, don't encourage or enable actual creativity and critical thinking. They only encourage silence, and mindless repeated tapping. There are some creative apps, but none of them are on the same level as busting out crayons, making puppets, and role playing creative stories or whatever. Adding social media to the mix makes it even worse. It convinces kids that online is as important or even more important than real life, and getting likes, and being popular on it is much more important than a real education, or real time with friends in person. The sense of identity and personality which grows from these creative formative years, are truncated to this certain age frame, and the constant validation from strangers on the internet is the only way they feel accomplished. The parents go along with it because the kids aren't doing anything obviously bad (except for stupid "challenges"), and the kid is nice and quiet, so mission accomplished, I (the parent, metaphorically), can go relax on the couch. Or, the parent not wanting to be "uncool", will let the kids spend their time with these vapid activities because if they try taking them away, their kid will lose their mind, and act like a zombie without that constant input. I didn't get social media until just after high school, and by that time, my age group was mostly self actualized with our own individual thinking, skills, motivations, etc.

[@13zaphikel]

You are absolutely correct! What other people think of you is not your business.

[@jaijai5250]

@@13zaphikel absolutely! I bought and read the book “What you think of me, is none of my business” in the early 2000’s….and it’s so true.

[@Nonayabizness360]

All watching any of the videos I’ve seen has shown me is that I don’t want to talk to any of these people because they are very judgmental, selfish, unhappy with themselves and others and they see hate in everything and everyone. I don’t care about their feelings or opinions or even want to because respect is earned and they can’t even earn respect from themselves. They also seem to need and want attention and I find it very gross.

[@jaijai5250]

I’m with you. I don’t want to associate with them either. Life is hard enough, and I don’t have the time or energy to navigate obnoxious, entitled, deluded people.

[@LenoreS430]

Hetero-phobic. I love it! I saw one transwoman say she always tells a date that she is trans before the first kiss.

[@nickname2935]

To the last person: I think wanting to pass is very relatable. Just...if you have feminine face, get a masc hairstyle and masc glasses. That will help immediately. If you want the privilege of passing in girls clothes, hit the gym, lose fat, build muscle and work on your jawline.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

I think it is also in their presence. Plus, yes, the clothes. They don't present essence-wise as a man. Some Trans people do. This person does not.

[@nickname2935]

@@dudeorduuude5211 Agreed. The stereotypical girly attitude does not help.

[@caitlincorbett6193]

@@dudeorduuude5211 That's legitimately why I was confused with why the last one was so shocked. I've encountered so many women over the years that present exactly the same way that person does from the outfit to the demeanor.

[@johnnys-left-earring]

i really appreciate what you’re doing marcus, love you and that you’re able to say what we’re all thinking

[@JenniferMcMahonhawaii78]

I can’t believe the person in that video compared sexuality to a long-distance relationship…. I swear, Twilight Zone!

[@vociferonheraldofthewinter2284]

7:32 "It's a little ironic that the 'I'm just being my authentic self' crowd is so desperate for other people's validation." Say it louder for the people in the back!!

[@jmelanierenee]

Do those who ask the question as why do I keep getting misgendered, do you ever think you look like…the sex you were born as? Constantly wanting to pass but very few do. It’s okay to be trans if you are but people know who is authentic

[@SpiritOfAbsinthe]

We really are a generation of people who is creating problems out of thin air. God! I don't have anything else in my life to be mad about, so "let's create some pronouns and be offended when no one is using them on me because I don't look like I think I feel internally."

[@pohjanvanamo]

😅 Actually, the way said it, I find this sort of comforting 🤣 Humans can be so stupid! But that's nothing new, and it too links us to all the generations past and perhaps all to those still to come 😅 Hey, let's do the best we can and be less stupid wherever we are 😊

[@ForeverMe543]

Fun fact: I was misgendered as a child. I was too fat to fit into girl's clothing (at the time they only did thin fashion for kids) and my mom cut my hair into a bowl. You know what I did? I walked away. Lol I still hate my mom for doing that to me but 🤷🏻‍♀️ now I look like a girl for sure.

[@hazel_maine]

You don’t need PRIVILEGE (financial, material, or otherwise etc.) to be a polite, courteous, and a decent person.

[@redacted1093]

7:21 I was getting "misgendered" before it became the cool thing to rant about on the internet, it never once bothered me in fact I found it rather comedic whenever somebody new discovered I was a boy.

[@KurenaiTenka]

Many years ago, I mistakenly referred to a man as a woman. When I apologised, he said, 'what are you sorry for? Women are beautiful'.

[@NinjaFlibble]

I used to work at an amusement park. I would get misgendered fairly often because I had short hair at the time, don't wear makeup, and the uniforms weren't exactly flattering at the time either 😂 I just shrugged my shoulders and continued with my day. You know, like a reasonable person.

[@ObnoxiousFeline]

As a girl named "AJ" I get misgendered constantly, but I've never once b!tched about it. It always made me laugh because I am a tomboy so it's very easy to see why it happens.

[@KurenaiTenka]

@@NinjaFlibble You always hear 'well how would you like it if someone misgendered *you*????' and it's like... I wouldn't care? 😂 I'd wonder what's wrong with the person's eyesight maybe, but it's not going to ruin my day or suddenly make me not a woman lol.

[@NinjaFlibble]

@@KurenaiTenka Exactly. There are better hills to die on.

[@annier6757]

You nailed it when you said "that's how human interactions work. It's not rocket science" Identity politics really has people out here explaining universal human behavior, thinking it's something totally exclusive to their Identity group. I guess it comes from the desire of wanting to be special so bad.

[@ajd8558]

It's not just about the parts when it comes to whether someone wants to date a trans person or not. I just feel like that might come with a whole lot of baggage or issues that someone doesnt want to or is equipped to deal with, be it chronic hormone therapy, a certain lifestyle, mental health issues around the situation, etcetera. I don't date but, if I did, I really don't have the energy or inclination for a whole lot of drama - I like the simple life. The same way a lot of people I know don't want to date someone with kids - it's not because they hate kids; it's because they don't want to deal with everything that comes along with someone having kids from a previous relationship. These are complications that a lot of people simply don't want in their lives. Doesn't mean they're phobic or haters.

[@caitlincorbett6193]

I appreciate your thoughts. You're the first that I've seen verbalize that particular point. I've felt that way myself for a while. I don't like the idea of me wasting that individual's time building a partnership with them if I can't support them in everything that they need. I'd rather they find someone better than me that can handle all of that.

[@TheCatMomma]

When did you become so damned level-headed, calm, highly intelligent? I mean - you are so very young. I mean all this a high compliment. I'll see myself out now.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Probably because not American.

[@LittleLulubee]

@@dudeorduuude5211 Stop hating on Americans 🙄 I lived in Western Europe- there are PLENTY of people there who are extremely ignorant, hateful and irrational. Embarrassingly so.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

@@LittleLulubee no. The woke ideology originates from the USA, so they do not get my sympathy.

[@robincasey1700]

I expect people to absolutly control themselves and have manners

[@MsJimmysgirl]

Dude, I don't see how you can watching all this nonsense on tik tok. I am so glad that the only content that I watch is KZbin because this crap infuriates me to no end. I am so over the words privilege, white supremacy, the patriarchy, transphobia, fatphobia, cisgender, internalized misogyny and misgendered (when used by non passing non binary identifying).

[@lynnm6413]

I feel you... I haven't used any accounts but yt because I need to protect my sanity... and blood pressure 😡🤬

[@gillian3510]

that guy really said poor people lack emotional control bruh

[@daashazireael6613]

I love how "Skyler" spells his name like the name Schuler which is Pronounced Shooler. Just to be special

[@prowlsleftfoot]

hes so quirky

[@anynimus1617]

I'm old, as in when I was a kid Punk Rock was new and cool, old. Through the decades I witnessed young people go through their phases and it was rarely much more than make-up, clothes, really bad haircuts, and maybe some ink and piercings. Basically nothing they couldn't one day wrap up in a few black trashbags, maybe with a slightly embarrassed and yet wistful expression, and take to the dumpster before moving on with their lives, even if they did keep a few of their favorite t-shirts at the top of their closet in a keepsake box. What many of these trans teens are doing now has permanent ramifications which they, in no shape or form, can really understand or internalize. And all because personality and identity have become conflated and wrapped up into a gordian knot.

[@quincyjones5676]

@The Offensive Tranny Can you do a video on people calling normal people “cis” and how it’s f’ed up that most of us don’t like being referred to as that but when we say it lgbtq and Allies refuse to respect our identity?

[@dudeorduuude5211]

That last one does not pass in look nor presence/how they carry themselves. I think you are correct, stop looking for other people's validation as you will never get it.

[@wendybrown500]

I have watched several of your videos in the last 24 hours and I’ve never seen a trans person discuss these things the way you do. I really appreciate that you share this point of view in a world so full of demands and entitlement surrounding these issues.

[@silververnallbells191]

The "misgendered" lady (who's obviously a lady) was really snobby when she mentioned Costco. She's obviously looking down on the workers there. That's just gross.

[@thomasjefferson6334]

This is one person who I truly respect and will call them whatever they want me to call them because they don't want to force me to.

[@LittleLulubee]

It’s a breath of fresh air to see someone from the younger generations who is actually reasonable, rational and thinking intelligently. Thank you for speaking up, and defending heteros, too! 👍💗

[@TheCerealluvr]

you're a voice of reason and refreshing to listen to.

[@carved_cuts]

So I'm a masculine (biological) woman. Short hair, no makeup and sadly short in height. I get misgendered ALL THE TIME. You know what I do about it? I laugh internally, because it's pretty funny, roll with it and then I move on. I don't tell the other person. I won't see them again, so why should I? I assure you, these people genuinely don't know, so why get upset? People often think I'm a little boy because of my female voice. A few days ago I opened the door to someone who proceeded to ask me if my parents were home? I'm 22. I just said "no" and closed the door because I'm an introverted goblin hahahaha. Yes, it feels weird. Yes, it's a little disorienting. But it never comes from a place of malice so I just roll with it. It happens so much that I now expect people to misgender me. So when someone suddenly addresses me as "young lady" or corrects themselves after realizing, it makes my day. Despite how often it happens, it's not really a problem for me. More like a minor inconvenience.

[@ChristinaChrisR]

Yet another word privileged (yes I said it) people have destroyed: spoons. The spoon theory/explanation was actually quite good, but now everyone and their mama is talking about exactly what this lady did: how they “don’t wanna use their spoons to EDUCATE other people”, oooohh it’s so HARD! Stop whining and work on yourself instead.

[@PaulChris-bk6fc]

Honesty and openness are always the best way to start a relationship.

[@UltraSaltyDomer1776]

I can't tell you how many times I get in trouble because I use sir and mam a lot. I have recently adopted it into my daily talking and it only comes from a place of respect and being the change I want to be. When I misgender someone I am honestly sorry about it and will adjust. I won't use gender terms at all with that person but I won't stop respecting my personal views or values. I won't call a man or boy a woman or girl. I try to stay on a path of truth

[@cosettapessa6417]

You shouldn’t feel sorry for being polite. If someone is triggered he needs a therapist.

[@VB_Indiana]

Hi Marcus -- I generally agree with most of your videos. However (drum roll), in the US it *is* a privilege to be able to afford therapy/counseling. There are some free/low cost counseling services available in certain areas, but it's by no means universally available and affordable. I agree with you that we all have to learn to deal with our own reactions and feelings, and we have to be honest with ourselves about what we see in the mirror. The world can't see what our imaginations conjure. But not everyone is able to be this self-aware. It's so easy to get caught up in the social game of the day!

[@emmapeel8163]

even if wealthy, nowadays, you still have to be your own Advocate. it's crucial. there's online therapy now, which MANY people use.

[@MistressElf]

How much does a testosterone prescription cost? I'd argue people are prioritizing medically transitioning over therapy to self regulate.

[@hannabio2770]

I agree with you! No hate or aggression towards Marcus - I really like him a lot! And really like his point of view! But. I'm from different country, not US - and in my country it's kinda hard to get some psychological help. Because it's gonna cost you a lot, and I really mean it - like *a lot* amount of money! In our country it's also really hard to get free psychological help, even in extreme cases. Big cities have a few "cabinets of free psychological help", small cities often don't have even that. Plus, we got a problem with quality of that help... Umm, how to explain, some therapist can work without license, because of how poorly laws are written. So high chances you gonna spend all your money, but not gonna get qualified help. So, I wouldn't call idea of "if you're not feeling well - go to therapy" - as a privilege too. Because I hate word "privilege "! But... um, it's clearly not available for everyone. Unfortunately (

[@abracadavra]

@@hannabio2770 Same here, I come from a country where the minimum wage doesn't reach 400 euros, in the context where the rent alone can be higher than that, and not to mention bills, food, etc. A therapist session costs at least 30-40 maybe even 50 euros an hour. Not everyone can afford that, regardless of how aware they are of their medical needs. I love Marcus, but I think this was a little narrow minded of him.

[@pazobackenstein6473]

In my country you have to go to two different therapist a no at least one psychiatrist to get testosterone, most people are not getting them for free either, (I did, because I cried and went to conversion therapy for three years prior) after you get your prescription, it's something like 15€ a vial, or 80€ a monthly package of gel. Psychologist meetings cost over 100€ an hour, so 400€ monthly. Of coarse you can get it funded, but the waiting list is long, testosterone can also be funded, while estrogen pills and progesterone shots are always funded. I live in Israel btw

[@shadowjewel]

I think a lot of the problem these people are having is they are looking to be treated as "tribe" by strangers. Your "tribe" - friends, family, people close to you - know you, know who you are, if you are sex typical or not, and should respect your individuality. But strangers don't know. These people are getting triggered by strangers in the way you'd expect people to get upset by tribe actively even perhaps spitefully choosing to disrespect them.

[@BadcatV]

How revolting. The ultimate in darvo playing. I know many people who'd consider that person to be rapey, dangerous and abusive. I also know a couple who may react loudly and offensively if they thought someone was hiding their sex in order to try to 'gotcha' them, to push them into a corner - to gaslight them into feeling they may owe this vile little person something.

[@lunarlightasmr4660]

“How about you try to be yourself, whatever that means” and that right there, is one of the huge keys I had to learn in my transsexual experience

[@TrackerNeil]

"Sexual preference" is what was said in the 90s about gay people. We fought a long time for "sexual orientation", and now that's being rolled back...by people who are supposed to be on our side!

[@kristanricketts5028]

Would love to see/hear much longer content from you, Marcus. You have an extremely nice tone for this to balance out the Odin's Men kinda space. You and Arielle are two I wish did longer form content more.

[@jpmor7327]

Because if i went through life telling everyone i was a bodybuilder and they look at my beer belly they would think im lying.

[@veronikavartanova4044]

To be fair, in the US, oftentimes getting therapy is, indeed, less a matter of choice, and more about prices and overall accessibility (which is really the problem there).

[@L_Martin]

5:02 this woman having a crisis because she looks very obviously like a lady and a nice friendly man said, "How can I held you, young lady?" I mean, where's it going to end? People are ALWAYS going to say something that you don't like. How are you going to live in the world full of other people? Lady, you can't control how other people talk, what they say, what they think. You can only control your reaction to it. And in this case, you're getting triggered by someone saying what's in front of their eyes (referring to you as what you are, a woman) This is complete mental fragility. You cannot control other people. You can't "educate" and micromanage every single stranger you encounter out in the world. If you're living in your own delusion about how you come across, then enjoy that! What you can't do is try to force every person you encounter to read your mind and know what your hidden inner reality is and try to accommodate that. Live in your fantasy world if that's what you must do, but know that it will be CONTINUALLY jarring against reality. You know, the reality the rest of us all have to share and understand in order to live in this world together? "Inwardly I'm a racoon, and he just ASSUMED I identify as a human???"

[@fionabrennan9148]

You’re so right that being trans is not about other people. It’s a personal journey, and doing it for others is never a good decision. Blaire White has some good commentary on this too :)) You guys are awesome!

[@dragongamerboi13]

-Tries to date someone, which usually involves sex and genitals. -Doesn't disclose that they are trans first and foremost. -Wonder why no one accepts them (a liar) and even get beaten up when revealed.

[@DianavanderPluijm]

I will start respecting these so-called activists the moment they start respecting me. I am a woman. Not a CIS woman, but a woman. I'm not a birthing person. I don't have preferred pronouns, because as a woman I kinda expect people to see me and go 'hey, that's a she'. If they don't see that and accidentally refer to me as he, guess what? I'll make a joke about it and correct them. That's it. I don't feel attacked, I don't feel 'misgendered', I just... laugh about it and go about my day. That's what mentally stable people do, y'know?

Not everyone can afford therapy. It is a privilege.

[@Malfoy1594]

If someone becomes defensive in a conversation (NOT exclusive to gender) it becomes uncomfortable... Sooo of course you wont wanna talk to them.

[@ljb8157]

I love that! Stop looking to me for validation in your life. That's not my job and I'm just not interested in how upset these people get over it

[@natesportyboy4939]

You should react to the recent New York Times trans saga.

[@libertykim6438]

I think it’s a privilege to be allowed to use government tax dollars to pay for your mental health and cosmetic issues when hard working Americans are disqualified from these same programs. How about instead of having transgender homeless people, we just help the homeless? How about that? Priorities?

[@kellywright540]

My therapist cut me loose after two years. She told me that she was going to let me go like three months earlier but she enjoyed talking to with me. Hey, I made her laugh and I think that that's not a bad thing. As I left, she said that there are people that she's seeing that need some real help and that I was not one of them because I had my s*it together mentally. As I walked out of her office, right outside the door was another trans woman who I knew through a support group. I had also had gone out with a group of trans women socially and she was one of our group. She was a trans woman who several of us newer trans women were kind of jealous about. She had it all, the looks from FFS, the NATURAL women's voice and the drop dead gorgeous woman's body to boot. I never thought in a million years that she would be sitting outside of my therapist office, waiting to come in and talk to her because she had it made, no way was anyone EVER going to mistake her for anyone other than a cisgender woman. She was what all of the other women in our support wanted to become, ok, most of all the them. Two years later, she committed suicide. She was a special education teacher in one of the Milwaukee counties schools and apparently her coworkers were not in awe of her as some of us were. They were, apparently, verbally abusing her day in and day out... all because she was transgender. She reported it, she talked to her bosses and nothing was ever done about it. It made the local TV news and everything. And to this day, I remember my therapist saying that she didn't need to see me any longer because there were people that really needed her help. Then leaving her office and seeing this beautiful trans woman sitting right outside the door. I remember her smiling at me, sitting there in a cute skirt and jacket, holding an umbrella and me thinking, "Why would she be here seeking help, she has it made..." Crazy stuff!

[@wilsoncrystal9661]

I REALLY enjoy your videos. Sometimes it feels like being straight is a wrong thing. We should respect everyone no matter what. Thank you again for having common sense! 💜

[@homakbi007]

"If you don't want to date trans people, YOU need to make that clear." Right. Because saying you don't want to date trans people has been received splendidly thus far, as we saw with the "super straight" brouhaha.

[@UltraSaltyDomer1776]

We also need to stop saying it is coming from hate. I don't hate anyone without knowing them. I judge people based on the character. If I don't like you then you need to start looking at your character. By labeling me with isms it gives the person the ability to get off the hook and not grow. If anything it doubles them down in their toxic behavior. All I am saying is with all the crap on my plate I don't have time to care about what other people are doing especially hate them.

[@danamania150]

I’m a woman. If I went on a date with a guy whose first question was “Are you actually trans?” I would NEVER go out with him again. The onus is on trans people to out themselves, because they are the “exception,” not the norm

[@animalcrossingnerd8142]

I don't understand the trans women who wait for months to tell their dates/SO they're trans, like are they trying to get killed?

[@ThatsaTechnicalFoul]

I’ve been disabled for 15 years & thankfully, I have a supportive partner but if I were dating, I feel it would be deceptive for me to withhold knowledge of my condition. If that person starts to develop feelings for me, they’d have no idea that things work differently for me vs other women. I cancel on people - a lot! I have blackouts & seizures which require someone to know what to do/not do. I didn’t choose to be sick and yet I still respect & understand when people don’t even commit to friendships w/me. I prefer to lead w/my illness, especially because unless I’m walking w/a cane that day, I appear healthy. This means someone dating me would expect we might vacation together, play sports, go on fun dates often…as they should. What is so wrong about helping make things easier to comprehend for others? U can’t demand empathy from others when u have none for them. It’s gross, selfish & ugly behavior that for some reason these people feel entitled to. Just live your life off the internet and learn how to interact with humanity again.

[@Floratic]

I'm in a meme group that is SUPER progressive. I've seen posts where they shame dating profiles for stating they don't date trans people or people who use neo-pronouns. So it's a lose lose battle. You'll be shamed if you state it in the beginning and you'll be shamed if you state it later on. All I can say is just be respectful in your rejection and go about your day.

[@meeshhbby3109]

“What you do is analyze why you are having those feelings and go see a therapist” 👏👍 Exactly. This Tiktoker’s feelings have nothing to do with the Costco worker.

[@crimeneysake6207]

I have to agree with Skyler on one point. Therapy is very expensive. Making it out of reach to most poor or working class people.

[@Livsfitz]

The only time I hate being gendered is when people call me “ma’am”. I am a 28 year old WOMAN. CALL ME MISS!

[@misfitm1457]

omg I hate ma'am, but as an adult miss doesn't work either lol

[@bamababii5989]

The fact they they don't feel like they need to disclose that they are trans to a potential partner if they don't want to bit expect people to express to them if they wouldn't or wouldn't date trans people is hypocritical and entitled behavior

[@chloedemure]

If you are A) appropriating A trans identity B) need everyone’s validation c) are offended by everything, you are in for a world of hurt and unhappiness. I am all for be who you want to be but your aesthetic and sexuality cannot be all that your life is about.

[@quincyjones5676]

I mean I’d say therapy is a priviledge because it’s only accessible to ppl with insurance or money generally. I have insurance and still have to pay for half of $250 a session -_-

[@MeryOnTheRun]

Love your way of thinking and communicating

[@bearynice4784]

ugh so sick of the word privileged and the way it's used now...

[@ascendednightingale2456]

What I don’t get is these people say that sex and gender doesn’t exist, then turn around and get offended when someone misgenders them. You can’t be misgendered if gender doesn’t exist.

[@profitwithbritt]

You are awesome. You live in reality and that’s refreshing. Nobody likes to be told that they have to accept something and the forceful push of all this on people has been a repellent. That’s just human nature & it’s not only privy to the trans community.

[@MissHellybaybee]

One thing about being a woman, you’re always on your guard because you are vulnerable. You are always aware of who is around you, most of us will take the backseat in a taxi in case the driver is dodgy, we plan our dates and we give details to friends/ family so that we are safe. From a safety perspective, if I was a trans woman, I think it would make sense to be upfront about your biology with the men you date because you don’t know how they would react if they found out later down the line, yes, as Marcus said, it saves your feelings if you don’t get the response you want but it keeps your safe too.

[@lucidrogue1734]

Yeah sure say in your dating profile that you prefer biological women, watch how fast that man gets harassed for it. That person is ridiculous..

[@edithguzman7277]

OMG I love it, "you're heterophobic!"😄 Time to flip the script on these woke activists!

[@fionabrennan9148]

Yeah, people need to learn that their triggers are not everyone else’s responsibility. It’s about learning how to cope when a “trigger” inevitably comes up, not expecting the world to cater to every personal idiosyncrasy.