WHY DO IT? WHY WAKE UP? WHY FIGHT?

[@seabass8193]

What I got from this video: 1: go in a direction but don't strive for a specific thing because it'll magically make you happy 2: Google why fire goes up

[@kelvinlee8629]

“On Earth, gravity determines how the flame burns. All the hot gases in the flame are much hotter (and less dense) than the surrounding air, so they move upward toward lower pressure. This is why fire typically spreads upward, and it's also why flames are always "pointed" at the top.” -Google, the art of knowledge

[@mimi-iy7jv]

ive learned, that the more u try the more unhappy u become because you’ll never be satisfied with trying, all u can be is you and trying to be more you will result in unhappiness

[@Hexanitrobenzene]

It's also revealing to see how fire burns in microgravity experiments on ISS.

[@TaxEvader420]

Rock is happy

[@FleshWolf]

Gotta wake up to feed my cat and play battlefield 1, someone has to do it 💪

[@insertname485]

yeah man, the battlefield ain't gonna play itself

[@milseq]

Battlefield 1 is legit the best one, bf4 is good as well but worn out.

[@serhatb.5274]

Drop your gamer tag lets play bf1 together

[@cryptoleprechaun5492]

Sounds like a pretty cool life

[@adrianalicea6704]

Bruh...

[@sogomn]

I wish I was a rock sometimes

[@RunescapeWhack]

I am

[@TheBLACKX72]

Wish I'd be nothing sometimes

[@Vexiad]

You may be one day

[@jan1393]

I'm rock hard, does that count too

[@JustAdudeBoy]

*happy rock noises*

[@skeyturr]

"Progress is progress no matter how small" -that one fitness app i use

[@puredifference827]

“Don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to make it logical; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.” Kafka

[@seignee]

kafka's fucking wonderful

[@fyessssss]

I need to take a screenshot of this...I just need to

[@connorcmedia]

Holy sh

[@AmberyTear]

Done.

[@Vivivofi]

Can someone explain this

[@evilbull8995]

Key Takeaways: 1.) Just as how fire always goes up and water goes down, *you have a certain gravitational pull that forces you in a specific direction.* Don't get caught up in a particular simple solution or some "magic pill", allow yourself to move in that direction. 2.) *But keep in mind that if your happiness is rooted in you reaching a singular point, then you will never be happy.* Once you reach that point, you'll always find something "better" that you'll have to reach towards in order to be "happy". Focus on making progress in the general direction that drives yourself 3.) On that same point: *"Don't attach yourself to a fantasy, move in the direction".* Take little steps towards a very general goal, don't focus on a specific point because you'll never actually improve. 4.) *Don't make a "plan" for how you'll be happy.* Dr. K brings up the Planning Fallacy, which is the idea that the plans you make before you actually start your journey are the worst plans possible because you won't know how the journey will go. As said before, move in that general direction that you have a gravitational pull towards, and don't get caught up on specific checkpoints along the way. 5.) *When you think you have the "perfect" answer for something, life will not hesitate to bitch-slap you.* Going back to point 4, don't get too hung up on specific checkpoints or specific "perfect answers", because life will always find a way to jebait you. "If you're attached to a particular thing that is /the/ answer to all of your problems, chances are it's not the answer to all your problems". Don't be afraid to settle for second best, as it is probably better than what you originally came up with. Also, if you have trouble finding that gravitational pull that drives you, I highly recommend this video from CGP Grey about how to use "Themes" to help you move in the direction you want to move towards. It's only 6 minutes, but it's probably been one of the best videos I've seen all of 2020: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hIeqpnmajZqaq6c

[@JVJath]

It's not life it's just you that can't see how things will happen so just do your best and like the proccess

[@phoenixyn-k4p]

Underrated summary

[@GeeGe.]

Damn, this is quality note taking, at least to my standards haha. Good job on taking that effort for yourself and helping whoever reads this!

[@yousuck8074]

Thanks man!

[@akshittyagi6482]

Thank you very, very much for the summary and that stellar video recommendation. Loved it and this might just work for me! Thanks a ton, again!!

[@andrewrollout1657]

"Get the silver medal, or even the bronze." Yep. I've heard this idea phrased differently as "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly." Too demotivated to go to the gym? Ok just maybe walk on the spot while watching one of Dr K's longass interviews. Too busy to pick out the perfect health insurance plan? Hell with it - just ask what the most popular one is and get that; it's better than being uninsured for one more day (never know when something might happen to you). Too perfectionist to ever get into investing your life savings? Meh, just toss the lot into a few ETFs, bonds and safe low-fee instruments, perfectionism be damned. Anything worth doing is worth doing halfassedly. Halfassedly-done is better than perfectly undone.

[@riceboss6689]

Thanks man. I really needed this. Felt like shit over the past week for not being able to produce results that I wanted.

[@ericka.montanez6821]

Thank you

[@John_R98]

Strong Peterson influences here, I like it.

[@KCIsMe]

This reminds me a lot of a book I read recently, the underachiever's manifesto. It's a quick read (like 30-50 mins) for anyone that is interested.

[@kazooboi8001]

i really needed this thank you :)

[@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT]

9:47 - lol I used to tell my yoga students that frequently. You see that happening all of the time in fitness. People expecting to be able to do things that take years of training within a few weeks.

[@roshanlackhan110]

Wow didn't expect to see you here

[@nicolasmoreno9442]

@@roshanlackhan110 Me too. I'm glad youtube is not completely isolating us into our own echo chambers.

[@HansHammertime]

Lmao, hey Think! I guess it’s not that surprising to see you here

[@ptrcrispy]

As dumb as it sounds, I'm such a huge procrastinator that I am literally starting to not give a shit about consequences, and just "take it" if aspects of my life become miserable of it. This gravitational pull towards becoming happy doesn't work on me. I'd LIKE to live a happier life, but I don't bother anymore because I think of where I might end up decades down the line, think about my current circumstances and just give up.

[@yardvader458]

I can partially relate to this feelings. Have you seen dr k's interview with asmongold? I've really loved it.

[@Exit_Sign]

I had this exact issue in High School / start of uni, after sabotaging myself with procrastination for years the part of my brain that gave a shit about consequences just shut off. I became super depressed / apathetic, it was really hard to get out of it but I (partially) did. If you haven't already tried getting therapy, it could work for you. Also I think Dr K has some videos on the huge wall that we feel when we see where we might be in some years vs our current circumstances. Wish you the best

[@anonymouse7773]

I have really bad maladaptive daydreaming, where I will lose hours each day thinking up elaborate stories or songs/music videos, and when the daydream is over I feel sad because I don't know how to materialize any of the ideas. This also interferes a lot with my work. Something I've been trying to do recently that helps is kinda what Dr. K was saying->go in the general direction of my goal. So that means stuff like, writing lyrics, composing portions of a song, etc. I may in my head think up a whole album in a couple of hours, but if I get caught up in the idea of trying to materialize ALL of that, I feel overwhelmed and sad and this process of "giving up" kinda makes me slip back into my daydream and then I get nothing done. So I've learned that, even if I come up with one song or part of it in a few months, that's okay. And it may not sound how I wanted it to, but if I continue just putting stuff out there, even shitty stuff, I think I will get to a place where I eventually want to be. There is no way to put out perfection from the beginning. I feel like this may help with your situation. Your first few or even several steps may not seem like they will take you to the place where you eventually want to be, but at some point you've gotta start somewhere, and try to hold onto the hope that you will get to a good place eventually but without losing yourself in that hope or fantasy.

[@khaledyasser8293]

Then try something smaller

[@JVJath]

That's cool man keep the good work

[@Dubsys]

I lost my dad and girlfriend around the same time recently and it's been incredibly hard to find a reason just to get out of bed. I've given myself one small goal and that's what I'm working towards. Once I achieve that goal I'll try think of a new goal to work towards. I just want something that makes me feel proud to be myself because I definitely don't feel proud to be myself right now.

[@seignee]

hey man. sorry to hear about that. it's okay to let yourself feel it for a while. it's okay to wake up and say "Okay, today i'm just going to try and survive." you are such a champ for trying everyday. keep on going. find reasons to keep fighting.

[@uberhaxonova]

you got this dubs, kick ass soon

[@AlesMsay]

keep going champ.

[@DkKombo]

I cannot find goals. I can't figure out things.

[@peterphan3480]

@@DkKombo Some of these goals can be as small as “I’m going to exercise for 30 min today.” Doesn’t have to be big. One step at a time. You won’t regret it. Good luck!

[@LordJapos]

I've only seen the title and I'm really not trying to think about that lmao.

[@Rheologist]

As Dr. K says, our negative emotions control and influence us by leading us to take actions that avoid that negative emotion, which is why he recommends gaining "control" over them by simply choosing to sit and observe the experience of those negative emotions.

[@pegeh3776]

[@LordJapos]

@@Rheologist Well, I definitely agree with that.

[@evoknz]

@@Rheologist I'm a bit late, but how does one accomplish that ? How do you observe an emotion ? My brain is constantly thinking, overthinking actually, Like i'm very anxious right now, how do I observe it ? Like i'm already drowning in it

[@sikhbro5421]

Dr. K is so funny, man. I was chuckling when you were explaining "happiness comes from within, bro." is a popular phrase. Dude, you're the man. You're helping people in a place that's so smart and reaches so many people and it's so unconventional. You've helped out a couple of people I look up to and helped them in a way I never ever could as a singular, not-as-intelligent 'friend'. So thanks, Dr. K. You're actually The Man.

[@aedangiffin1471]

the "happiness comes from within bro, buy our shirt" bit fucking killed me lmao

[@nabugo]

You know what gets me? When I visit my mom in the graveyard I've realized that she married a man that after almost 20 years still comes to clean her resting place. While people can't maintain a relationship for more than a few months.

[@krowflin4468]

I guess your parents had found love

[@ZionSairin]

That’s... really heartwarming actually. Nice...

[@cloutgoggles1688]

God bless, dude.

[@LOLHAXGUN]

im sorry for potentially being rude but maintaining a relationship is more complex than visiting and cleaning a loved one's grave

[@thewiseowl8804]

@@LOLHAXGUN troll

[@zeffery101]

three things I thought of while watching 1) there is an expectation for perfection at a young age. Many kids (middle schools/high schoolers) are expected to make important decisions early on and I remember mostly being afraid of embarrassing myself. A lot of the things I was insecure abt took me a while to get over because the fear of being "cringe" is so real. We look at the ppl doing things in ASB, sports, etc. and make fun of them because they are putting themselves out there and making mistakes, but as he said, no one is perfect in the beginning. Kids are fkn cruel and it limits us well into adulthood. 2) there is a centralization of thoughts and beliefs. This kind of goes hand-in-hand w/ #1. Schooling system, the internet, western culture, all leads us to think in similar ways and defines what normal is and what expectations are. like talking to strangers is weird, putting yourself out there is cringe, how there is a desired way of life, desired attributes that people want when looking for a relationship etc. But it really shouldn't be like that. Fk everyone. Ik how much its hard to internalize that. We want to be accepted, we want a relationship, we want our parents to accept us, but in reality, it limits us. By redefining what existence means and how one should approach life, the possibilities are endless. As much as ppl say, get a six figure job, get married, live in the suburbs, raise a family, etc. as the only acceptable way of life, ignore it, tune it out, stand your ground, do your own thing. Its def an option and nothing bad, but by only allowing one definition of a successful life, you are limiting what "success" means. Redefine what success means, make a bucket list, and chase that. 3) There is a higher societal value on the end goal and not the journey. Fk the end goal. The success is in the journey. There should more value, more reward, more emphasis on achieving happiness through the journey. Itll make your attitude toward life a whole lot better. You did one push up today? hell ya!! take pride in that. And take pride in failure. It shows effort. Value failure more than apathy and your approach to everything will dramatically change.

[@ahuman739]

Amazing and absolutely true

[@exception05]

Thanks for sharing thoughts, zeffery. I wish to share mine in response: 1. I would say that kids are cocky just to show themselves worthy to get laid faster than the others. If you care about how prodigies are created - they have a really strongest emotional support possible amongst the human beings. (sometimes it's abusive, but still it helps them to move forward and not just to pretend, no wishful thinking). And it's always super weird that kids has to choose anything, since they basically don't know shit and nobody teaches them (do teachers know the shit about the world?). After University everybody from my grad year were looking at each other's jobs. I remember even making fun of some the best students, that went to low profile job. 2. It's hard to be an individual. But when you become one it's viable to understand the pleasures of conformity and importance of trends also. Being not cared about opinion of other people is one part - how about to be cared about people, their opinions and listen not just yourself. 3. I can kinda disagree on both with who tells that only goal is important and success, and with who tells that journey is important. I can say both in my experience and opinion are irrelevant. You just can't see the consequences of your actions, but if you could (some sort of time travel into the future) you would be choosing your options of the better future, that are actually available to you, no matter what you have to do for it. You can spent years by screwing around with your wishes, journey vs goal, but this perspective doesn't really makes it perfect for anyone. While being joyful in your journey you can start asking yourself, if that it's right or not, maybe you can do more, or you just don't wanna meaningless activities in your life, and contest something in this life. The same for goal-oriented attitude. IMHO, our minds are screwed up with mental constructs like "wishes", and they're really fluid and you never can't rely on them. It's not secures your life for you. Either you act, either you don't.

[@brushstroke3733]

Value failure more than apathy - that's good advice. I hope it will change my behavior.

[@Terrortrooper]

I honestly dont find motivation to get up in the morning anymore....there are so many things that are on my mind that I WANT and TRY to change, but I honestly dont find the strength or even courage to do so. I'd rather silently stay indoors and never see anyone again anymore. I feel like everything I do is for nothing. It's like I can be the best person I can be, but I still dont find what I am looking for....like its never enough.

[@thatfishdude789]

Life is like that in a way. The only thing that makes you get out of bed is yourself so maybe you care about yourself and thats why you choose to wake up and do the routine. Don't strive for motivation because it will end at some point. What you need is to try and see the big picture yet focus on tiny details that make your life a bit more pleasant. Think of the cold morning wind or the flickering lights at night. There's always something beautiful in every day life even if you may not see it right now. Edit:Not an expert, I'm just saying random stuff that I've been thinking about in this year of quarantine.

[@Vaibryn]

It's okay to do little progress. You don't need to start with motivation in mind. I have similar issues, cause my mental health is so fucked. Sometimes small progress every day is better than no progress. Maybe clean your apartment one day, cook a recipe by a book for a day, send a relative a card and go to a post office or like me start working out at the gym. Anything that would make you feel proud of yourself afterwards. I've been so unstable for the last months, I haven't managed to clean up my apartment and it's an absolute mess. But hey, I am proud of myself atleast leaving the house and working on my physique. It's not much but it's a start to build up from

[@bananaspilt1988]

2 years later how are you guys doing?

[@exceptionallyriso]

3 years later, any updates?

[@Terrortrooper]

@@exceptionallyriso it's been going better for a while - had a routine, fun at my job despite the toxicity there (luckily I am not there anymore) met people here and there, until it dropped back to me staying at home again for the most part. I'd say it even got worse, as I have not been in touch with any of my friends for a while now. I'll attribute some of the fault to the earlier mentioned former job...I was good at it (the numbers didn't lie!), my collagues and clients liked me and i really liked it....just some of the higher ups who thought I didnt do enough, or supposedly did things wrong or not at all (despite, as mentioned, numbers showing otherwhise). I started to despise people even more and started to shut myself in again. At first, with some contact to friends still, now i don't even reply to messages anymore and rarely speak to my parents. I am in a relationship, which is my only regular IRL social interaction and helps me a lot with getting at least some things done from time to time. And there is hope: I started seeing a psychiatrist, finally got a proper diagnose, some ADs (even though I don't feel like they do anything) and I am looking for Therapy, which is hard due to waiting lists (can't afford private atm, need to use someone who is contracted with Insurance). idk if it will help, but i at least have not given up hope, yet.

[@skulio]

Fire go up, water go down. and wheels on the bus go...? :D

[@seanlipps1400]

ROUND AND ROUND

[@rexon6197]

@@seanlipps1400 i said it in my head in all capps to

[@VengefulPolititron]

... through the demilitarized Zone..

[@beneditoart]

I was in a weird place the last 2 days, really needed this, thanks man

[@gnatdagnat]

2 days lol try 5 years (sadge..)

[@beneditoart]

@@gnatdagnat tbh its a bit more than 2 days, but 5 years no thanks haha, I try to "fix" myself as fast as possible, the faster the better, but do what he says, keep going, small steps, do what you feel in the moment that you want and that would make a better you tomorrow. If I can give any tip that works for me, try to make habit of running and enjoy it, it works for me, just getting out and go for a run and clear my mind, check out David Goggins for motivation about that, cheers mate

[@gnatdagnat]

@@beneditoart Good words man, thank you

[@connorcmedia]

Called the internet

[@WePair_]

I used to have a direction, not one I liked because the work I did sucked but fuck, this was better than waking up nowadays without having ANY direction. Not even a pull. I spend hours in front of my desk drifting away mindlessly. My 10 y/o self would have cried I he knew how life would turn out. Neither sports or friends are fun anymore.I've been reflecting on this situation for about 6 years now, and I came to the conclusion that not everybody has their gap in which they fit. I've been shown for a second time now that I'm too stirred up mentally to be in a relationship or a place I belong to. There's seriously nothing to wake up for. For a long time I didn't comprehend the meaning of 'hell is on earth' but now, after years of the mental abuse I and external sources caused I finally understand that there's no need for fire or torture-demons when all the necessary tools are inside you already. I don't wanna die, I just don't want to keep suffering anymore.

[@gethin9056]

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how - Friedrich Nietzsche

[@j.r.2674]

It’s not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about mastering the ability to dance in the rain ~ 🦧

[@stahleis]

So youre saying the NAZIS were justified in killing people for their cause?

[@SETHthegodofchaos]

@@stahleis not defending the doings of the nazis here but justifying =/= bearing clearly the saying goes both ways. you still have to make sure you do more good than harm.

[@nicknameramnotram5226]

@@stahleis He isn't saying they're justified, but if you look at what the quote says, I think Nazis are the perfect worst scenario for this working. They do have a why, and therefore weather through virtually all hows in pursuit of their objective. The Nazis thought they were justified in spite of all their actions, which proves the quote, but nobody is arguing that the Nazis were justified in their cause or actions.

[@stahleis]

How long until it gets deleted

[@ericjames7785]

This reminds me of what I’ve been telling my girlfriend. Whenever she’s not where she wants to be physically she gets upset that she’s not there even though she’s actively working towards it. I tell her what’s important is that she’s working towards it, eventually you’ll get there. And that happiness shouldnt be attached to having your body look a specific way because with what she’s doing today she’ll eventually get there.

[@itsalmostanorange]

The idea of "journey over destination" summarizes a lot of this talk very well. A helpful tip for me was to try to make that journey (the day-to-day) as enjoyable as possible. For example, if you want to be lose weight, try to find exercises/sports that are fun for you, that you "are pulled to" (as Dr. K would say). I struggled trying to become a runner for years until i realized i hate running. Picked up cycling and fell in love immediately. It's one of the things in my life that "pulls" me out of bed in the morning.

[@insertname485]

I just keep moving forward

[@Sra7333]

until my enemies are destroyed

[@crownedclown49]

BARS

[@mocha8908]

Tatakae

[@theflamingflamingo5092]

Alright eran

[@skullz1]

im so im so reborn

[@noot3650]

To get that bread

[@grey59records]

yessir

[@leonardogobbo6391]

Gotta get tha bag, tru

[@markrutte5637]

green paper

[@fearlessgodlikemission6924]

Dam str8

[@420f37]

Is it gluten free tho

[@Noahtheorigianl]

I can’t stress enough how appreciative I am of this guy and his vids man

[@guledabdi3419]

This quote is lifechanging ; "Even if you don't get the gold always go for the silver and bronze, just go for it" - Dankter K. Instead of robbing the bank teller I stole the atm, thanks doctor k :)

[@JamieNicholson]

WOW, I really needed to hear this video! "Move in the direction that you need to go in and don't get particularly attached to some thing that is in that direction...." that line hit hard and I'll definitely start implementing this in my own life.

[@mountaindrew2624]

Because, if nothing else, simply 'existing' is worth waking up for. If you exist, you have an impact, no matter the scale.

[@andersonnguyen2571]

The only way I was able to truly understand that “happiness comes from within” is by doing things that improve myself. It doesn’t matter what I do or how much I do, but as long as it makes me better then it is worth doing. If my room is dirty, then it is worth cleaning. If I have a bunch of late school work, it is still worth doing. Even if I know there is no point, if it makes me better then there IS a point. Another key thing is that you don’t have ANY control over your outcomes. I always think to myself: “There’s always a chance that I could die tomorrow”. It doesn’t matter how well you did on the test if you could theoretically just die the next day. Forget the outcome. Focus on the things that you do have control over which are your actions and perceptions.

[@amiralimo1192]

when I wake up i remind myself that this could be my last day on earth.

[@crazyjose111]

It's about the journey, not the destination. 🙂

[@MrWumboloni]

Dr. K, I go to your channel whenever I'm feeling down or lost and more than often, I come out a bit happier and with a clearer mind. Thank you and the team for what you guys do.

[@ryankelly8428]

I do it because it's hard and it forces me to change day-by-day and get better. I do it for the spiritual enlightenment and so that after I die and I'm faced with everything I know that I fought and struggled the entire time without ever giving up while doing my best. I've fallen down many times and thought I should just give up cause it would be so much easier. This is part of it, push through the fear and the doubt, keep fighting and you will continue to grow slowly but surely.

[@amumu1298]

I needed this shit fr I've been struggling to figure out shit about my future colleges, my finals, wanna get healthier, and so on. Thank you, Dr. K :)

[@ahamuffin4747]

Thank you for this. What you are putting into words is, I think, what we all already know but don't realize it or feel its not important. I needed this

[@vladislavkaras491]

A really great video, focusing on why when I get X or become Y, my life will change drastically! Thanks for publishing it! (Also, there are no end credits at the end, that leads to other videos and the channel itself)

[@ewanhastie3843]

Another great clip. Dr K has a fantastic, easy-to-understand prose. Love this channel and this community.

[@justarandomguy1668]

Dr K is probably not going to see this but he has definetly saved my life on multiple ocasions.

[@anthonyvanwyk1001]

What I got from this is that you gotta enjoy and embrace the journey coz the destination never makes you fully content.

[@altaccount648]

I feel like for some people there are things that'd make them happy, but it's not items, it's connections, feelings, people.

[@starius1154]

"Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love." -Rumi

[@luquita1504]

Man if i were a cloud, life would just be so chill

[@cronicas_imemoriais]

Till rain

[@Jackpauler4lyfe]

Being a cloud kinda sounds scary if you’re sentient: you’d get beeg but then you’ll eventually start to slowly drain and get smol till you don’t exist anymore. If you don’t become sentient tho, being a cloud would be vibin

[@cronicas_imemoriais]

@@Jackpauler4lyfe if a cloud was sentient would the raindrops be sentient too? If so you would have a sensory overload for seeing/perceiving everything around each drop

[@Jackpauler4lyfe]

@@cronicas_imemoriais I would think that just the connected formation of gases that is a cloud would be what’s sentient; the rain and other matter leaving or dissipating out wouldn’t also be you, kinda like how your body isn’t really conscious but you control it. Idk I’m no cloud sentient-ologist

[@StarlightTrail3]

Shikamaru?

[@karlaaaa_f]

i am grateful to have found you and your content dr. k these are all simple nuggets of wisdom that resonate so deeply and profoundly and i thank you.

[@ziquaftynny9285]

I really feel like nonchalant non-habitual goals aren't enough. It is better to set a medium term (3 months) goal of creating a habit to as large of a degree that one can handle. Example) If exercising 3 times a week for 30 minutes is too hard then simply do it for 10 minutes 3 times a week. And make your goal to turn that into a habit, putting all your energy into it for three months. The idea is that after those three months you can set another goal or expand your current one.

[@furrosama]

Good insight, move in the right direction because we cant decide our fate

[@jessiebest1]

2:14 favorite reaction moment

[@FriendlyAC130Online]

man I was just listening to this in the background and he started talking about how us humans have our own gravity, and how the want and yearning to change for the better is important. Really hit deep cuz that’s the one thing I will always hold dear, is that even at my low low low points I have that within me.

[@mellonhead9568]

Direction is more important than a Goal

[@chiriviscospower]

Pain and suffering is inevitable. The goal is to optimize mental/spiritual satisfaction by minimizing pain and suffering. It's counterintuitive but attempting to optimize (maximize) happines will lead you to misery..

[@VengefulPolititron]

can confirm doomed.

[@stupidmatua]

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO A LECTURE ON LETTING GO OF ATTACHMENTS/EXPECTATIONS!!!!!!

[@AmbiCahira]

I lived with chronic pain for 17 years and tried to be in the societal mindset to always be going and doing so I fought so hard against what my body was telling me, and when it couldn't do it I was hard on myself and frustrated. After trying to drag myself around in this horrible cycle and feeling sorry for myself long enough I reached 2 conclusions. One I crave balance and two I'm willing to do anything to achieve change. I surrendered to what my body needed and stopped trying to listen to all the "should do this and that" in my head and tried instead to just exist in a guilt free way and tried different changes to be healthier. My pain ended up going away and now I love the mundane because I feel joyous so doing them is joyous too. It's not the doing that brings me joy, it's the joy that shows me the joy in doing the mundane. Even washing dishes by hand and seeing the bubbles on the wet knife as the dirt gets rubbed off to a shiny beautiful version of itself - it's an experience! A big thing I did to reach this inner balance was to practice unitasking and living in the now, not the yesterday or tomorrow. Yesterday and tomorrow is none of my buisness. ^^

[@Eddrawsany]

The only thing that keeps me going is improving myself and my art. It's difficult but its always on step at a time. Love yourself even if you have flaws, nobody is perfect.

[@michaelmoccio2225]

This guy is putting out just what I need right now...

[@jamiefox]

@Joe Mama flag exists for those like him, you know what to do

[@redtsun67]

the natural state of matter is inert the natural state of human emotion is also inert when people are unhappy, we want to find peace when we are too content, we seek excitement the human mind will always drift towards an intert state of absolute contentedness, but because of our desires this becomes impossible and our minds are thrown into disharmony. ultimately there is no point. Our lives are autonomous and they will exist now and end later regardless of our wishes. The heart beats because that is what it was meant to do. When it stops beating it's because it failed, for whatever reason. And when the heart fails, we die. And when we die, there is nothing. So why do you wake up every morning, despite profound suffering, and eat, and drink, and maintain yourself, and keep yourself alive despite knowing you will eventually die? Well the answer is really simple; it's because that's what you were born to do. You weren't born to die, you were born to live.

[@villevalste1888]

How to convince yourself to get up from bed in the morning the easy way: Drink two or three glasses of water before you go to bed.

[@villevalste1888]

It works for me at least.

[@magdak5654]

Genius

[@hvgxjoyvjkmvxdtezfhijn]

everyone's gangster until u wake up in the middle of the night

[@villevalste1888]

@@hvgxjoyvjkmvxdtezfhijn Then just drink a few more glasses. It'll work eventually.

[@jourdanflu9787]

I found this exactly when I needed it. Honestly, thank you for doing this.

[@dend1]

This is the quote Agent Smith asked Neo at the end of the Matrix 3.

[@chapman137]

Fire's so powerful that it defies gravity. Gift from the gods alright

[@justathad]

Why do I want a "Happiness comes from within" T-shirt now?

[@spencechan]

Maybe you're hungry

[@Skurian_krotesk]

@@spencechan in that case he should think about the kind of food he would love right now and then eat something completely different just to be a dick to the own mind.

[@justathad]

@@spencechan always hungry

[@johnnyray9107]

We know that dense fluids tend to settle more than their less heavy counterparts. We can use rain and the air as examples. Water particles condense and become more heavy than the air around them, then they fall. "Rain falls because gravity." It makes sense almost intuitively. Fire rises because of similar forces but it's not as intuitive. In this case, the more dense, cold air being pulled into the fire is harder to observe. We don't see the air go down and into the fire except in the space where the fire flickers. If I pour water into a bucket, it might not initially occur to you that the bucket is full of air before I poured anything in. I bring this up to note that we pay attention to the water because we see it. The bucket was always "full." Similarly to "fire rises because it is less dense," it's counter intuitive to say "air rises because rain is more dense" but they are both true for the same reason.

[@selftherapy5208]

Gravity is an interesting way to explain what pulls us to do things. Though it’s a little misleading because when you think of gravity, you think of simply letting go of something, and seeing it drop. With our life goals, however, it’s not so much a matter of letting go of something as much as it is climbing upwards toward something. I suppose that gravity works better as our desires. And action is the resistance that we must overcome. Hm. Something like that.

[@quicksilver2923]

basically I think change is life. most of us get it conceptually but it's not as easy to actually embrace it. death is when you are forced, no matter what you think, to accept this. it's maybe the only time you can truly know that change is constant, and to let go of the illusory handle. hard to find a more drastic a change than from life to death. It's like the ultimate change for our consciousness. change is constant and it makes sense that people inherently feel a desire to change from one place to another, sometimes a more drastic change, sometimes less so. we will get "hurt" on the path of change and find ourselves temporarily stuck, back and forth, side to side, who knows where you'll end up. that's what makes things interesting. that's life. we have ideas that suggest things don't change based on patterns, inherent to how we function. when we can't make correlations or remember previous correlations to things, we are dead.

[@theordinary1059]

Thank you, for always providing me with new perspectives and for helping me get through the sometimes deafening boredom of quarantine

[@Tarik360]

This reminds me of something two people once said. A madlad I won't name and a Danish friend of mine (heard it from the Dane first.) both said something to the effect of: "You can't logic and rationalize your way out of a depression. You have to be on the move."

[@thenyctohylophillic6704]

Because Dr K streams on Twitch every Monday, Wednesday and Friday

[@asimplecadence]

Wise encouragement. Take it one day at a time and head in the direction.

[@jonathanxu5387]

Dr. K, love the content, just a quick question (to you or anyone)--I get that moving toward the direction of your goal is better than psyching yourself out with over-romanticizing life once you achieve it and not taking action anyway, but how does planning come into play then? I'm frustrated because I want to get better at, say, study skills. However, there's no concrete progression (like there is in video games) with explicit rewards for it. So when I do make progress, I feel like I'm 1.) not tending to recognize/reward myself properly, but more importantly 2.) tend to regress after the novelty is over and real habitual change doesn't occur. I guess the essence of my question is how do you balance this advice (take any action) with the tendency to be complacent? Thanks a ton for what you do!

[@williamramos3350]

Thank you for talking realistically. All I ever wanted in life was to be treated with some respect and shown a hint of compation. Just as I did to others. Due to lack of this, It has resulted in not feeling much at all. I know that many are experiencing the same. So just "Go towards the direction you are being pulled". There is nothing more to be said. I needed to get hit with a reality check. At the end we all die. Might as well do something that will give some form of meaning to this so called existence.

[@SilverFlame819]

I'm annoyed that this channel has such a huge volume of good content. You're supposed to be convincing me to get off the computer and improve my life, and I can't stop watching these.

[@ptlovelight2971]

Same lol

[@Hexanitrobenzene]

It's one of the better problems to have :)

[@BadButterfly65]

And here am i. Never wanna move because most is not worth it in the long run since nothing matters anyway to me. Just staying here. In a okay place where i can vegitate away without big struggles. Just be until its over. "Me - a way to smart parasite among many"

[@fulmetalotaku3091]

This title over here calling me out sleeping in till noon

[@n.c.6211]

Great message!! I needed to hear this...I'm so obsessed with the results and am so strict with myself...I can relate

[@gungy_vt]

"Why does fire go up?" Heat rises, ez.

[@Yoroa_]

Heat doesn't rise, hot air rises bc it's less dense than the surrounding air and thus experiences buoyancy. 😤

[@melitajay]

Gravity for water and also gravity for fire

[@Moose92411]

As someone who has been in fitness for over a decade, the "move one step closer in the right direction" is a lifestyle I’ve been living for years

[@milksandwich5751]

One must imagine Sisyphus happy

[@_Colie]

"Head towards the source" That is correc!

[@sirnonapplicable]

Because I'm still scared of Death; soon as I get some courage, it's time to tap out.

[@hellfishii]

"Don't follow the fantasy, move in the direction"

[@sunsetlive5655]

7:11 Dr K farming those LULW and he fucking knows it

[@fungling7982]

@@ezaf5989 ??

[@WanderTheNomad]

@@fungling7982 yea he occasionally trolls on this channel. dunno why.

[@ivyemoji2274]

felt like that part was bare forced, was a bit sus

[@jaysol1128]

Thank you for the better understanding.

[@NOCLUEinvalid]

i died laughing when he did the "happiness comes from within" voice at 6:55

[@xuanpham2644]

JUST DO IT! Thank Dr.K I understand now to just go for it.

[@ronald5721]

Is this pretty much the same as "Focus on the process, not the end-result"?

[@cristhianc5580]

So drugs?

[@sebastianmuenzberg4197]

Pretty much. Just be, because you are what you seek

[@desireswithhope]

@@sebastianmuenzberg4197 maybe, you are why you seek what you seek.

[@Zb_Calisthenic]

Live in the moment It's the journey not the destination Etc..

[@LoneOrca]

"Everything that has a beginning has an end, Neo."

[@oSawmurai]

"I keep moving forward. Until my enemies are destroyed.". -Tatakae, Jaeger.

[@CrashBandicootFan100]

Literally clicked on the vid to figure how quickly I'll find a "tatakae" comment

[@CarlsCozyCorner]

And what about what happens then?

[@Nobody-pv9jt]

@@CarlsCozyCorner genocide

[@kashba]

@@CarlsCozyCorner war crimes

[@Blackbirdiiie]

@@CarlsCozyCorner bird

[@creativename2567]

I got a job and became happy, no goals anymore and I only fear ending alone.

[@eliasgarcia6576]

You know you're "jebaiting" material when even your own conscious "jebaits" you!!!!

[@patrickshaw411]

The analogy with being hungry and not needing a specific type of food was so simple yet mind blowing to me. If anything, those cravings are the hedonistic things we horde. They are like junk food, tasty but they leave you empty every time. We are so obsessed with having that specific thing. I’ve recognized this the hard way, and now I’m in a weird place where I feel aimless and gray. The desire to change, that gravity well is growing. I know it’s about time I submit myself to it.

[@StarmenRock]

Its hard going ouside when you hate everyone and get filled with absolute rage at the absurdity people do in my hometown. Im tired of struggling just to get even more and more surrounded by people i hate just because its "socially acceptable"

[@hgzmatt]

I'm not blaming you but if you are surrounded by people you don't like you have two options.. move away or accept it. Maybe there is a lesson to learn that these people can teach you.

[@StarmenRock]

@@hgzmatt i cant move away mostly because my country is absolutely infested with covid and i was mostly talking about college/work people. People who think they should bully a grown adult just because they dont like soccer. Its seriously gross. Im trying my hardest to leave but due to polítics it might be impossible at my current state, so im treating my mental health and taking care of my physical health since that would be a good thing to do in any case. Just "accepting" this shit has made me become an incredibly depressed and suicidal person, i dont want this anymore

[@hgzmatt]

@@StarmenRock I understand. I was just trying to say.. do what you can, but don't beat yourself up over it. There are a lot of things people can't do because of this pandemic and I can get angry about it all day.. but the more productive move is to do what I can and let the rest go now. It seems like that is what you are doing anyways. Sometimes though.. moving away doesn't solve a problem. You'll be fine :)

[@StarmenRock]

@@hgzmatt thanks man, im trying my hardest everyday to not let the darkness take me over. Everything has been to improve myself, cut bad habits and be the hero i needed my whole life. Hopefully everything also works out for you, as much as i hope things improve over here. Its been a rough couple of weeks because someone broke my heart in a million pieces due to her own mental illnesses so i gotta get my shit together asap so that never happens again.

[@hgzmatt]

@@StarmenRock Sry to hear, that pretty much happened to me last year. I could have done without the pain. I feel you. We'll make it, one way or another. I suppose what hurts so much isn't just what they did but the meaning we give it. The story we built up around it which they betrayed in a way.

[@EliasMheart]

Really good advice, I think. Thanks (:

[@izs6946]

Shia said it perfectly: JUST DO IT!!!

[@TheBLACKX72]

He also said 4Head

[@llewodcm20]

He also said orangemanbad.

[@LunaBirbosa]

all correct

[@AskEpic]

If Dr K can get Shia labeouf that would be insane content that I never thought I wanted.

[@THE1stBRAINinTOWN]

Shia isn’t really a good idol to have IMO

[@georgeindestructible]

Moving into a direction requires consistency and increasing intensity in order to have actual suceess.

[@hectorftraducciones2785]

Bro, do I have the permision to translate your material to spanish, and re-upload it? I think this will help a lot of people, but I understand if you don't want to anyways, thanks!

[@emmdirt1376]

you might wanna e-mail Dr. K or send a message to an admin on the discord, there's a chance they may not see this comment!

[@ItzTrickshotHD]

Hacelo, vamos!!!!

[@Marqan]

It's more like: so you and people around you have better lives. And that's a worthwhile goal to pursue. Plus there's no better alternative.

[@cheeesedout]

"All things strive for their source" aww shiet it's Freud, here we go again dad/mom

[@menendez6218]

Lol

[@dopameme9165]

Thank you for making content like this. it helps a lot 💯

[@KarlOlofsson]

Happiness is pretty boring and fragile anyway. Be content with your torment ;)

[@Sh0n0]

Hell yeah

[@Sh0n0]

@Martha Speaks self importance and ignorance

[@aungyethu6560]

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you Dr.K!

[@27_anandapannadhikaputra42]

0:40 *P H Y S I C S *

[@AnimeReference]

If you're attached to something that is the answer to all of your problems, getting it will answer your problem. That problem being the attachment, or the shame from being unable to achieve it. IMO.

[@044adithya]

That quote at the start is from Agent Smith in the Matrix and Neo answers " because I choose to". I used to agree with Smith more than Neo. This video helped me make sense of Neo's answer, it's not cause it's a coincious choice but just him naturally gravitating towards being the one. Thanks Dr k. Here's the video kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGaxhIZ_fb5snJI

[@touf48]

but what's the difference between a conscious choice and him naturally gravitating towards being the one? isn't consciousness a consequence of nature? wouldn't that then mean that conscious decisions are also inherently "natural" even if they feel a bit different in our subjective point of view.