Why do men go silent?

[@alicea561]

A man doesn't give you silent treatment a grown boy does. A man communicates.

[@tiarachiffon8131]

*grown boy

[@pinkishdiamondz]

Thank you

[@blossomingbutterfly8955]

DAVID ALICEA .. Thank you !!

[@Dlovely516]

BOOM!!

[@gailcleveland8865]

Amen....

[@lizzylewis5793]

When he goes silent, you go silent too...dont give him a reaction, it shocks them everytime. Mirror him ladies and you will have the upper hand, and if he chooses not to pursue you when he went silent, let him go. Always be willing to walk away🤞🤞

[@wj9661]

LizzyLewis 100% 🙌🏽

[@makemeoverbeautybydanielle9996]

Exactly

[@babygirlfeelewis4666]

LizzyLewis Thank you I needed to here that

[@lizzylewis5793]

@@babygirlfeelewis4666 You are very welcome. God Bless!

[@rosemaryrogers1478]

Now you are absolutely correct..when he step out of line you step with his ass..in whatever form it is. Sure ya rite..this formula is what we girls should be learning in grade school..save a whole lot of heartache later.. a curriculum called “ say what? I can’t hear you” 101...good analysis Lizzie lewis

[@pmac5919]

Men don't realize when they go silent he's only teaching her how to live without him... she'll be long gone with another dude by the time he decides to start talking again 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@lydiashetukana]

Very true.🙌

[@spookymonster205]

So true. So that's why he went silence for 24 hours only 😂😂

[@peachycutie5382]

OMG! You are so right. My boyfriend at the time went silent on me when I was buying my first house well when he went silent on me it aloud me time to make a decision to buy because he had me unsure and I was being indecisive. I bought the place and it has turned out to be a GREAT decision. I found out that he was not supportive of me buying my own place because he wanted to control me and have me completely dependant on him. I have not found another man but I learned to love me and I learned to be focused on myself. I stopped looking for love and I am going to let it find me. When it does I will decide if I want to be bothered. Life goes on with out a man. I am happy with me.😄

[@pmac5919]

@@peachycutie5382 Congratulations on your new home!! Not only you bought a new home you took all of your control back 🥰👏🏽!!! He's probably somewhere throwing a temper tantrum. 😂😂😂

[@Moniece444]

Amen.. Because ...

[@777Tig-b4v]

The silent treatment is a favorite abuse tactic of narcissists. It's intentional and deliberate emotional abuse.

[@beauxraescajunquisine]

I agree

[@kayizgodschild6172]

....really WOW!!!! I'm blown That's crazy

[@Dlovely516]

Yes, its CRAZY MAKING!!!!

[@agnieszkaprzygodzka759]

Yes defenetly

[@agnieszkaprzygodzka759]

Yes narcycizm hi is leve him naw in tame gona be worse am after 20yers left him 14 month ago am getting beter naw slowly you don't rylly now wot you toking boy

[@ClowneryAtItsFinest]

Silent Treatment is a form of emotional abuse. It's also a tactic of gaslighting. Throw the whole man away!🚮

[@amymor7]

Call waste management lol

[@priscilla408]

AyeshéIsAlwaysLovely Thankyou I thought I was going crazy

[@emailaccount1597]

Omg! Funniest comment 😂😂😂

[@emailaccount1597]

Funny but true lol

[@findingdori442]

AyeshéIsAlwaysLovely Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@btfields323]

When a man goes silent, find a new man!

[@sylviasalcedo8569]

Your comment is priceless!! I busted out laughing! Love it!

[@orubek355]

👌

[@inettawalker9387]

Not supposed to pursue a man. It's 2021, to hell with that! I'm going to go looking.

[@taurus_beauty11-11]

BAM!!

[@mmintlow3352]

Lol rite

[@vibrantsimplylove6724]

A real man communicates. When a man go silent. I let go and live my life.

[@taylorstern4797]

Exactly... men communicate but boys in a grown mans body do stupid tactics with one being going silent.

[@8adassa]

Vibrant simply Love 🙏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@shigsho]

Some women don't deserve communication.

[@littlecrowders7089]

I wish I could I'm married to him lol

[@rosesermons9832]

God blessings to Sheri you & family from 🌹

[@medusagorgon9]

He can go silent if he wants to, but he will not be hearing from me! This doesn’t work on introverts who are perfectly content to do their own thing. And if you’re gone too long you may just get forgotten altogether.

[@A.Light33]

Inner Star Yep, so true!

[@janellephillips9477]

Period!!

[@shana2195]

LOL fr @this doesnt work on introverts

[@wowso4]

High Priestess That’s so true I’m usually the one giving out the silent treatment not because I’m trying to be manipulative it’s because I felt disrespected but I do answer their call a day or two of going silent and set my boundaries and communicate to them the reason I went silent.

[@ew0711]

Absolutely 💯 truth

[@melaniewright3707]

If a man goes silent for 2 weeks its over. No love lost its just god saying he wasn't the one

[@ArshennaHines]

Amen!

[@Lastdayone]

Amen

[@helena3631]

Silent for 48hrs I single lol two weeks lol y’all buggin

[@mauritahowell1415]

2 days..

[@HottagyaAl20]

preach

[@vidaholmes]

When you go silent you stop the growth of the relationship.

[@Dlovely516]

EXACTLY!!!

[@tishloftco]

‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@Dlovely516]

@@tishloftco 🙋🏽‍♀️ I SECOND THAT!!!!

[@eveenterprises7913]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@purity4kids1]

I lovingly disagree, ladies. Think about it like this. When a man goes silent, your vision of the relationship stops growing. But his vision is growing full steam ahead. Cause he has a vision to control the relationship. Therefore, he is right on track in his Mind. Hugs to you all.

[@everythinglife2850]

He tried it once and I called and text the whole nine yards. 2nd time he did it I said bye..didn't call or text him at all. When he came back it took me six months to take him back. He's never done it again 17 years strong now!!

[@allainaroberts5782]

Would you mind giving me relationship advice ?

[@jackieadele11]

Tamika Glover wow you gave him what for u say no fass wid me cos u no know me! Go girll

[@everythinglife2850]

@@allainaroberts5782 Sure!

[@TeeMBabs]

Yes! 29 yrs next month married

[@bleigh0071]

How long did it take for him to come back?

[@MsRee804]

I feel men are more like women then we realize. Sometimes they prefer to be chase rather then to step up. I can’t and will not chase no one.

[@geegar3825]

literally was just thinking this today!!!

[@littlecrowders7089]

I wish I saw your comment earlier lol. Very wise

[@ladydignity]

Right!

[@litissuebrown1261]

Am not chasing no man.moving on

[@HellcatMad]

Some do, its all a ego trip

[@simonegoncalves9709]

Men go silent because they're talking to someone else.

[@SadaMMcCoy]

Simone Goncalves this what my mom always says and okay that’s fine 🤷🏾‍♀️😂😂

[@TheSomethingnew1]

That's the first thing I said lol because most of them have to have female interaction 24/7.

[@Aubreeze]

Period sis 💯

[@tishloftco]

Simone Goncalves ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@leonoratesoro2586]

Yuppppppppppp

[@toniexum1126]

Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. I lose interest!

[@Dlovely516]

@Eternity With Christ Exactly!! Lol

[@honeysvw]

Eternity With Christ 🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 this!

[@blackxdark1234]

Preach

[@blackxdark1234]

Own up to your mistakes

[@blackxdark1234]

Be blessed

[@samanthasmith92]

Man goes silent because he talking to someone else no real man going silent on a woman he loves especially room for a other man to step in

[@yeahthatsme921]

If you know your worth you will leave... Silent treatment equal cheating period

[@naturalhairloveaffair915]

Total facts! An excuse to cheat and do him. Next!

[@Goddessluv22]

I dont ever question myself.. I just let go.. If he goes silent, I go silent. If he ghosts me.. I ghost him. I match energies..Mama didnt raise me to chase anything but a bag. I will never feel guilty about letting someone know how they made me feel.. Fuck em. Thats only for the gullible

[@TheTouchofklass]

PREACH!

[@josephmoore3656]

Awwwe. Momma taught you to chase a bag. Isnt that so sweet?

[@proctorjunior14]

@@josephmoore3656 😂

[@arleciawhite7510]

Absolutely

[@lelo46]

Sounds good, I wonder if you really apply this with every person you with in real life.

[@ShonellisMusicEntertainment]

Silent treatment Is definitely a form of control, punishment, to teach a lesson. If they come back reassert yourself again, if there is no communication there is no relationship or friendship. You have nothing if you can't communicate like an adult. Be blessed!!❤

[@QueenCraftsChannel]

I’m experiencing this right now. I’m matching his same energy and not saying anything to him either. It’s actually turned me off to the point I no longer want a relationship with him because people that can’t express themselves and communicate effectively are draining and I don’t have time for it at 43 years old. Grow tf up. 🙄

[@cherh]

Thank you! Whew child I am not your mom. Who has that kinda time to be babysitting his old asz lol straight turn off. I'm good on him lol

[@cherh]

@@AmaLoveGoddessTV 😂right!

[@QueenCraftsChannel]

PrincessAmandaTV Exactly my point. He got called out for some bs behavior, apologized and now being quiet to try to “punish” me for saying something. Take ya ass on then.

[@parsonj23]

Queen Crafts my husband did that, and it used to hurt me, but no I welcome it, doesn’t bother a bit and now he knows it. I act like I don’t see his ass.

[@QueenCraftsChannel]

parsonj23 Yep, that takes the power out of the tactic when you don’t acknowledge it. 😂😂😂

[@ebone1974]

Negative uses of the silent treatment: * To train you. This causes you to start questioning/doubting yourself. * To do a mind trick on you and make you assume the blame. This works if you are insecure or lack confidence because you are not where you need to be spiritually, mentally & emotionally. How to respond: • restate/confront the initial issue again (assertively) - “check him again” • state your expectation(s) clearly without yelling, cursing, threatening or being disrespectful. Be blessed!

[@t.l.c.8969]

Positive energy and time

[@sheilaseymour1779]

Ok Bro Tony. going thru this right now .havent Heard 4 Him since sat.oh well.

[@TonyGaskins]

Eboné Barnes thank you for being my notetaker!

[@TonyGaskins]

Eboné Barnes thank you for being my notetaker!

[@Kendall42971]

I addressed his behavior in a very loving, respectful and encouraging way, that was the last time I spoke with him. He didn't respond and I never heard from him again. Not only did he go silent, he ghosted me. It's been 4 months now. Oh well, it is what it is. Life goes on. 😌🧘🏽‍♀️📿

[@dite5356]

He ghosted becuase he lost...the trash took itself out

[@lydiashetukana]

Yes life goes on🙌

[@HisaLight2mypath]

Seriously he just vanished?

[@Kendall42971]

@@HisaLight2mypath Yes. Vanished; as though we never happened. It's going on two years now. All is well though. Rejection is protection.❤

[@queens3696]

Exactly yess totally me he been gone since smh I'm not on that bullshit..

[@michelle2131]

HE GAVE ME THE SILENT TREATMENT TO PUNISH ME BUT I GAVE HIM THE SILENT TREATMENT FOR LIFE. BLOCKED AND DELETED HIM AND NEVER TALKED TO HIM SINCE. WAY TOO OLD FOR THOSE GAMES

[@tmichele8922]

Amber real talk. I did the exact same thing

[@michelle2131]

@NYCRudeBoy naah he was trying to get ahold of me after that for months never answered and finally changed the #

[@Mariana-ud7dw]

@NYCRudeBoy Really? Is that where you're at? 🤔

[@Mariana-ud7dw]

@NYCRudeBoy Do you really believe that the only thing a woman has to offer are her genitals, or is that you just being macho? (And my name is Mariana 😉)

[@Mariana-ud7dw]

@NYCRudeBoy I don't think you took the hint Rude Boy - my name is Mariana not "babe". There MAY be some women like that, but quality women are not co-dependant on a man. They contribute equally either financially or by raising a family. If a woman initiates a divorce it's because she feels unsatisfied in the relationship. If that's your experience of women, then maybe you should raise your standards a little higher, and look for women who are willing to participate 50/50 in the relationship, then you won't feel like you are being taken advantage of. YOU have to set the standard and make it clear from the beginning. You can't complain after the fact. If you treat women as a sex object, then you get what you deserve. 🤷‍♀️

[@ebonieshenece]

If a guy gives me the “silent treatment” by the time it’s up I tell him I’m no longer interested. I prefer a guy who communicates with words. I won’t question whether I over reacted. That’s confirmation for me to leave. I have pride too but I also know when to put it aside and if I’m wrong I take accountability and move forward. I promise you every video is relatable 😭👏🏾. I’m 22 years young and so grateful to get these lessons now.

[@latuba27]

Always remember Age doesn't equate to maturity, Experience equates to maturity. I'm 26years old and I usually gotta tell the folks older than me weather you're 22, 42,62 or 82 whenever you learn the lesson is when it meant to happen it's good you got this lesson out the way but always remember until God calls you home you'll always have lessons to learn no matter the age

[@ebonieshenece]

BettyBoop27 what are you talking about?

[@BeautifulDzyre]

Yes ma'am!

[@gloriaspratt2837]

It's good you are learning this now at an early age. That wisdom will take you far. ❤

[@chynadoll77cyn59]

Gloria Spratt that’s right

[@mzervin3430]

If he goes silent he doesn’t love me, so stay silent. NEXT!!!

[@spmoran4703]

I found my next . Hes great

[@centhang4708]

The comments alone is therapy........💯

[@healwithmusic93]

Yes

[@kenishalperkins]

Gurl

[@kenishalperkins]

Yup we’re not alone

[@MsKB7]

Amen

[@nicolekahlani4486]

Be blessed 💫

[@cc_chi123]

I love it when guys try this. It's hilarious. It's a power play to try to get you to lower your standards. Bye boy.

[@clarkclarke]

reverse phycology..

[@mrhollandsopus418]

You hit it on the nose. That is exactly what it is.

[@milachyc88]

Only do they know they go on block list

[@wadzanaimanyore6665]

CC thanks

[@jiggaman000]

You already have low standards.

[@bk3mpress718]

I have a man that's giving me the "silent treatment". Yes , it sucks. But soon it's gonna be the " it was a nice run" treatment. Im not used to that and I'm not getting used to that. Be an adult and talk. Say what's on your mind so we can figure it out or bury it in the back of your mind and don't let it resurface. I'm so sick of the "lil boy" syndrome with these men. It's annoying as hell.

[@ShyBabyxoxo]

💯💯

[@Brembelia]

Head games are exhausting. I prefer open and honest communication. Be blessed.

[@cynthiamorley620]

West Winds lord me too

[@deidrafrazier278]

Silent treatment means I'm silent for good. When he came back - I just didn"t like him anymore and lost all respect and had to have that "No seriously. Stay silent. I'm not disposable and you're no longer desirable." That fool still sends me random ignored texts; 6 months later. 🙄 Turnt all the way OFF!

[@Autumn74299]

A man Did me like this we haven't spoken in 4 months now it's to the point to where I'm over it now I don't want his ass.

[@deidrafrazier278]

@@Autumn74299 Right? How does a grown boy expect a grown woman to want to even deal with his silly? Four months? Just go live your life boy. Please don't turn back to a vacant space. 😳

[@Autumn74299]

@@deidrafrazier278 he's 15 years older than me I'm 29 and he's 44 🤦‍♀️ he should be embarrassed lol

[@deidrafrazier278]

@@Autumn74299 He really should. His child game is STRONG. 😄

[@dee-dyi]

"I'm not disposable and you're no longer desirable." You've said a mouthful with that!

[@sasherful]

When he goes silent on you and decides to contact you after... Be cool with him and start discussing the other guys you been dating whilst he has been away. Even ask him for advise! Be his friend and treat him like one of the girls... Simple. This will show him the repercussions of his foolish action.

[@BabyGirl-dt9sw]

LMFAOOOOOOO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tenaforreal5742]

🎉I did this to a guy I once really cared about & ever so often he still listens to whatever I discuss lol. I think it's all bc he was excited I opened the door of communication after being broken up 1yr. He gives advice on how to leave guys alone that treats me better than he did 😂. It helped chatting with him a while because it helped me get over him and see him as an insecure little guy. Attraction been gone. Whenever I share with him how much I care for my guy or what gift I got, he moves away from the phone where I can hear him only in the background. I believe he's waiting for the day I become all mushy in my heart for him again -not happening but I never indicate that. Like on one of Tony's other videos I was lacking closure but I received it without asking for it once he and I started communicating again. So of course I moved on after my wonders turned into answers.

[@sasherful]

I'm so glad for you girl. You have worked it out.

[@jenowens9990]

When they go silent, I go “block”! ✌🏾 it’s really not that serious! 😏

[@jojoreed9432]

Love you and your beautiful Family ❤️ be bless and you are making a difference

[@datchickvl4862]

@@October3074 You guys are strong ,I dont especially if you feeling him.

[@lyfesaquarium]

Ewww i love you!!!!!!

[@memesimone9690]

That's what I did. Lol. I thought it was ghosting until he called me and said why did you block me on fb and ig lol

[@lyfesaquarium]

Same

[@BeBeautifulBeYou101]

Ladies give him the silent treatment, until sweet Jesus Christ comes back on earth

[@milachyc88]

Simply Florence 😂😂😂👏🏼

[@wadzanaimanyore6665]

Simply Florence 😂😂😂😂😂

[@minidocstv3339]

Lord have mercy 😄💖

[@Empressabundant]

Amen!!

[@AN-gq8zr]

Lmaooo

[@aquariusmix]

Having dealt with a narcissist. This is their go to!

[@Kyera4u]

Facts!!!!!

[@joannekamau1997]

To me silent treatment is just childish and it's done by little boys not a man that's the difference man up guys

[@jojoreed9432]

Facts

[@anointedstilettos]

💯💯

[@cirukarago7251]

True 💯💯💯 only cowards do that

[@reeree-tareem]

I am a good woman and he just lost a good woman trying to train me *silent treament*

[@gracieedwards2554]

😂😂😂🤣

[@littlecrowders7089]

Me too girl

[@HellcatMad]

You GO girl, dont waste any more time.

[@divineprophecies1203]

😂😂😂

[@nanaefyasikaba1551]

I feel this 🙌

[@PrettiIntuitiveTarot]

You haven’t met a narcissist until you deal with a Taurus man 😭😭😭😂

[@raeann1988]

Or Sagittarius

[@PrettiIntuitiveTarot]

Rae-Ann Newallo OR a damn Sagittarius 🤦🏿‍♀️ they are the worst. I stay far away from them.

[@raeann1988]

@@PrettiIntuitiveTarot they really are. I got burned twice. Never me again.

[@littlecrowders7089]

Or a gemini

[@naailayoung56]

Pretti Intuitive Tarot so true!

[@kgodsgirl]

Yes, my ex pulled the silent treatment every time I called him out on his disrespect towards me.. And I would cry and feel so confused. Finally I decided to pulled the silent treatment on him. It’s been over a year now. I’m still silent.. Out of sight, out of mind 😂🙋🏽‍♀️😂🙋🏽‍♀️😂

[@mz.renaissance6092]

You go girl I love your comment

[@jessicalinda5626]

Amen! Blocked that ass! ✌🏃‍♂️

[@ShanMarie315]

Yessssssss I have to do this ❤️💯💣

[@8adassa]

KGods Girl Yes sometimes we have to protect our Peace 🙏

[@UltimateD755]

Becsuse you didn’t ride him after

[@alexandriaderamus1660]

Blockeisha is my favorite friend .. we too grown for this !!!!

[@respectmygangsta3716]

Right

[@s.lemonaideforall]

That’s a good 👍🏽

[@Julimango]

And I make sure I get the last word in before the block ...

[@chelabuford7106]

😂😂😂 Girl, not Blockeisha!!! I cracked up!!!

[@najah29407]

Alexandria Deramus lmfao🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@CP-go1lz]

Be untrainable. Fortify your mind and resist taking their dysfunction, small-minded games, or lack of readiness personally. It's only the powerless who engage these tactics. Remember your purpose and let them move off and learn their lessons down the line. If you're not too bitter, thank them just to yourself and God as they returned you to yourself & strengthened your self-love and resilience. Bitterness need not be the take-away; we can make a higher choice. Very good delivery of this message, Tony. I know because of my discomfort hearing facts. Be blessed ✨

[@free2bme144]

Just don't let him back, he does not deserve another chance.

[@kristinaharris9609]

If a man ever gives me the silent treatment, he making it easier for me to leave. Silent treatment will never work on me

[@tinahenderson2595]

Going Silent means he has closed the door for a Replacement already in the Wings! His lost and someone else's favor... I'm a grown woman!

[@freshmanjeans]

I left when he went silent..free and feeling fabulous

[@nyamoneee]

Lavender Don Roses me to

[@chelabuford7106]

Good for you! Love yourself and you teach others how to or bounce!💯

[@ladydignity]

Lol,ok!

[@tibusisomamba7485]

did he try to come back

[@briediane8930]

Period ! Me too girl

[@veronicavasquez7517]

Hell if he wanna go silent he can stay there 🤣 we ain’t in high school we are adults

[@aliciag946]

Facts 💯

[@deserriemanjarrez5287]

Facts

[@tiffanys4867]

OKAY! hahahah

[@rowena6872]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

I’m in high school and I hate that the guys do this🤦‍♀️

[@bernadetteguinn6362]

the silent treatment is a form of abuse... can literally be placed under the category of domestic violence.

[@MsKB7]

Exactly

[@goldenlifelove7251]

It's definitely emotional abuse

[@jiggaman000]

You sound crazy Bernadette.

[@bernadetteguinn6362]

Legends Never Die your comment is a reflection of you more than it is of me.

[@vernita0216]

It's emotional abuse for sure!

[@jroyal2229]

The silent treatment only pushes me to move forward without him & leave his immature behind alone. Be blessed

[@minetteseon6400]

Let him keep on being silent i will keep on moving

[@brieanncampbell1941]

Amen!!

[@santanariley9041]

Yess!!! 💃

[@bc1248]

He’s hiding something. There’s something he’s doing or want to do.

[@trisha1989]

Silent treatment = passive aggressive behavior. I can’t stand passive aggressive/ micro aggressions behavior 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@veronicak440]

It’s a form of manipulation and should not be tolerated any man using this tactic is damaged. Narcissist use this all the time and it’s also immature. Either way you don’t need this type of man.

[@ggluv1211]

Silent treatment shouldn't be use period

[@pualo9263]

Same with a woman. Woman do it more because they have more options.

[@sariahsymone1004]

I remember one time ago, being a little simple minded, that would've worked.... Now one like me I honestly don't care, the silent treatment doesn't work on me, ghosting doesn't work on me, I use that as a stepping stone and grow. Hell I even learn another art and master that, you don't have to speak to me for year and buddy best believe I'm good. I had to learn to love me, no ones going to disrespect me. On a serious note people that do things like that are childish and need to analyse themselves.

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

👍🏻

[@nadeanbowles3052]

WHYYYYYY do men work so hard to manipulate women? Wouldn’t owning up and working it out take less energy?

[@nadeanbowles3052]

@Eternity With Christ Please point me in that direction because I'm clearly standing in the wrong place.

[@erikakerber3258]

Yes

[@tanafoster4072]

Yes!

[@erikakerber3258]

Awakening_03 OMG you took my words like same story

[@userofyoutuve]

Worser than holding down a job and family down they will play before they stand up

[@KathleenRichardson004]

Everything he saying is true. 100% I went through this for years. Finally ended it. And if he gets mad because you speaking your mind and the truth, he is a coward and doesn't like to be called out on his bs. If he continues to do it it's because it's being allowed. Do him and you a favor and release him.

[@maryjflanagan1922]

Reason for my divorce.

[@littlecrowders7089]

How? We are married with kids

[@briana14333]

@@littlecrowders7089 you always have to have an "escape plan". It sounds bad but truly, a man can leave you or hurt you at any time, after a week or decades of marriage. We cannot let them be the sole financial supporter or only source of happiness. If you don't have your own money, I suggest you start saving now or ask for a loan. They act this way sometimes because you made it clear that you won't leave. Good luck to you!

[@UltimateD755]

He’s not interested nothing about being a coward

[@CleoraAleise]

@@UltimateD755 maybe leave the relationship

[@nobody2somebody34]

Maybe I over reacted ! Maybe I said too much ! Maybe I addressed it ! Maybe too question ! It wasn't a big deal Make you question yourself. He knows he is wrong - Negative action Mind trick - assume the blame. Owning responsibilities. Left being alone in silence. Speak up for myself. Silent Treatment works.That works ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN ! CHECK HIM AGAIN !

[@sudukemsn]

I’m literally going through this now and I’m contemplating never speaking to him again; who has time to deal with immature men

[@crystalortiz6757]

su BeyondChic clearly you do if you still “contemplating”. You do realize that you contemplating is part of their game.......... you don’t give them any room to make you question what you already know. You just said you know he’s playing a game so what is there to “contemplate”.

[@chris21taylor]

Cut him off/check him and move on...he'll do it again if you let him back in

[@MsBrown-dw4wy]

That”s what I’m saying I moved in and it’s been crazy “ I’m about to move out and never come back “

[@dheemarieINC]

Happened to me once, and I told him don't do it again and forgave him. He did it again two more times and I bounced. Don't have time for these immature men. A relationship is about communicating, and I told him that. It was difficult to walk away but I'm empowered for doing so. There's a person I love more than him, and that person is ME! Always put yourself FIRST, ladies.

[@mayflowermayflower2231]

I'm going through it too things were just going so good then he goes silent on me not texting nor answering then when I told him my feelings for him still no answer 😭😭

[@curtistinemiller1560]

When a man goes silent ,stay that away ,and never call me or darken my door again....Life goes on...

[@arl395]

Yep he went silent so did i. He tried to come back into my life . he texted...heyyy i texed nooooo🤣🤣🤣🤣 I won 🤣🤣🤣

[@creamyalmondz]

“I texted nooooo” 😂😭

[@aleecewhite3919]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣woooo this was funny!

[@CoachHC]

I had this happen to me a few times. My experience is they want a reaction. This point in my life, I don’t have the tolerance for it, especially when you’re playing games. ‘Be Blessed’

[@mochacowherd1473]

Be blessed

[@dimplez28269]

I’m a Scorpio go silent on me and I can give it longer or even permanent... you got the right one! Sounds like controlling behavior to me... no thank you return to sender!

[@joethebarber70]

You focus on the woman's needs , not the mans needs as well ,ass licker ,oh I forgot, you're running a business , geared too a woman's emotional since too female clients , help for both , men & woman.The woman could be the problem, asking a man, too leave ,then find him months later, too come back too her,just giving bad advice too keep you business a float

[@yaaat.5720]

Scorpios be going silent all the time tho lol

[@justinenunley9385]

I’m a Scorpio dealing with a Scorpio.....we both players 🥴🥴😂😂🤷🏾‍♀️ I didn’t even notice he went silent

[@martanavarro7559]

I'm a Libra and scorpio went silent on me and I texted and call him the first time. Second time he did it I blocked him! He still trying to get my attention😅

[@monica-womenininsurance6456]

I'm a scorpio and we dont silent treatment no one but do it to me, you might as well tear your ass cuz it's over. I'm not the one you do this to

[@nchantedone2073]

Going though this right now actually, & it doesn’t feel good. So whatever happens next is in Gods hands! 🤷🏽‍♀️ Be blessed!

[@dexstie]

Ohh my God Me too☹️🙏🇸🇪

[@laurataylor4660]

Dexstie what happened? same happened to me. called him out on BS as he said he would ring me more instead of texting all the time and didn’t actually do it so i said you had no intention of doing it and he didn’t respond...that was 7 days ago! been together 15 months

[@CaramelCuban]

Yes same !

[@laurendelane6361]

@@laurataylor4660 did he call

[@felishapittman2778]

When Tony said "train you" I flinched...I am too old for these foolish games these so called men are trying to play.

[@luxuryqueen42]

Try this. If a man go silent on you for 3 days and tries to text/call u, don’t answer the phone. Instead, go 3 days without texting/calling him either. Mirror his behavior and see how he can handle that. If he contacts you again while YOU go silent on him, then call him out.

[@oliviajonale]

If this didn’t come right on time 😫😫 been thinking all day ... should I call? Should I try & make things right!? Should I try & explain that I am not even that mad, just didn’t appreciate what he did? Those negative thoughts will have you forgetting that he did anything wrong.

[@sophiacoichy2117]

Block him that's not good for your mental health.

[@gina72916]

That is such a dangerous thing for me because when they go silent, I turn into a brick wall. And, I like when Tony said. "When he calls, you check him again." Love it!

[@kimharris1920]

Regina Craig exactly how Tony said it happens. Happened to me a few years ago with the guy I was dating. I did exactly what Tony said. I checked him with my quite strength and needless to say, he didn’t make the cut. He got loud and even more disrespectful. What happened next?? Click and blocked right after. 😂😂

[@gina72916]

@Eternity With Christ I say it's dangerous for me because sometimes I wonder if I am shutting people out too quickly...hmm

[@aliciasandy2042]

I feel the same way. The challenge is discerning when to let go and when to work with the person

[@tandrinebray8194]

Regina Craig yes I actually mirror his actions and he ends up breaking the silent treatment smh boy don’t play with me cuz I will feed you ur own medicine and u won’t like it smh

[@MzGalanurse]

I swear you be all in my koolaid! I was talking to this guy and we’d talk all day everyday and text. We had a disagreement and he called his self giving me the silent treatment for like a week. Well boo I lose interest so quick. At such an early stage in our friendship/relationship I felt if he can go this long without speaking to me I must not have meant much to him at all. I am the wrong person to leave questioning where I stand cuz I will assume the worse and keep it moving.

[@MJWife07]

MzGala totally agree

[@annamayyy9771]

🙌

[@MzGalanurse]

NYCRudeBoy and guess who keeps calling thinking things were gone be the same. Voicemail....declined...ghosted.

[@MzGalanurse]

NYCRudeBoy why you’re just a natural born comedian aren’t you? 😊

[@annamayyy9771]

@NYCRudeBoy 😂😂🤣🤣

[@TheBeautifulShutin]

This guy is trying to train me by going silent and I think I’m going to tell him, “I’m burnt out on texting and I’m focussing on me right now. Maybe we can catch up after corvid.” I can’t deal with this weak roller coaster texting game that this immature man is bringing into my life. Thank you for these videos Tony! Be blessed

[@aliciag946]

He never tried to talk to you by phone??

[@Itchpls]

Man this is a good way to be petty. When he go silent, I go silent. We are matching energies. I will put no more then he’s willing to put in.. We can be petty as hell until he gives up.. lol. One thing I know is that my boyfriend hates when I return a favor😂😂😂 Be blessed

[@clarkclarke]

I never reacted ... no yelling and screaming....I politely asked him to leave and did not respond to any calls or texts .... I did get an apology ... waaaaayyy after the fact ....however did not rekindle that relationship ...

[@HellcatMad]

Every time they disappear, it hurts like hell at first. Everytime this happens you get stronger and stronger. Sometimes its not what you said or didnt say. maybe you left him. But know this, the day will come when he dissapears again or you leave him and it wont even matter, because you have already been "trained/groomed" many times and hes so stupid he doesnt think about you getting stronger because of what he does to you.

[@GoGetter4Christ]

This is me!!!

[@thelookout5802]

Yep...their actions strengthen you, if you let yourself learn the lesson instead of holding on..

[@deedeelocks7895]

Silent treatment means move on Sis...

[@chocolatesugar4434]

So true...he’s trying to train you. I knew it

[@SB-ht8uo]

I sat here in utter pain for 6 months when I was discarded by the last man in my life. I believed I was a victim a lot of your videos have helped me realize some of my choices & actions kept this individual in my life longer then I should’ve. I wasn’t where I needed to be. I’m so happy I found you.

[@MyIGNameIsSuperThickVegan]

We getting there....

[@jiggaman000]

He discarded you because you need to be a better woman.

[@elll3s]

@@jiggaman000 grow up

[@jiggaman000]

@@elll3s I been grown, baby.

[@Princezlaya]

Why is the silent treatment explained and then calling it a “man”? Lil boys shut down. Conflict Resolution is necessary in every ADULT relationship 🙄.

[@crownedmelaninqueen]

Laya I think it’s just something more women are commenting on happening to them. We know immature women do this too !

[@shigsho]

Nope. I have an ex who cheated and that CAN'T be talked through. Haven't spoken to the tramp in 30 years. She has since been married and divorced ( I laughed like hell). I am now married well over 20 years and am happy. My mistake was the slut many years ago. She has tried to talk to me a handful of times the past 20 years when I run into her but I don't break stride, I don't look at her and I hope it hurts her. If she had COVID-19 it wouldn't bother me.

[@2cuteNmyGT]

This here!!

[@tanialou]

@@shigsho the man doth protest too much. If you could hold onto such rage about your ex after all these years, you're not as happy as you say you are. Happiness would be to let go with love and concentrate yourself on the 'happy' life you're living now...

[@dyannahdyan2222]

I always go silent but if you come back, you will hear my grievances and standards. I love myself more. I choose me every time.

[@crownedmelaninqueen]

Dyannah Dya Facts !!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I will let you know what I didn’t appreciate and my attraction to you has diminished so much, we can’t even go forward. This is over with !

[@camilleandriette]

Wow, the negative reason for the “silent treatment” sounds exactly like my ex 🤦🏽‍♀️. It took me a year and some change, looking in the mirror, soul searching, mediation, prayer, and Tony Gaskins’ videos to my self love and esteem back. I questioned the hell out of myself, when most times I was right. Blessings everyone!

[@wakawakaabby4779]

If he goes silent, we both go silent then, can’t deal 😄.

[@knightyknight5399]

Silent treatment = Walking away from this negative vibe....👍🏾

[@42710steph]

Thank you for this video, it's very well explained ! It happened to me, I got the silent treatment with a guy I just started dating. His reason : he was sorting stuff very important to him. Weird just when 2 days earlier, I was making him understand that I was the kind of woman who would let a man go if I notice bad actions or words ! You know what I just remembered this after watching this video, all becomes clear to me now ! Now : I am playing with him. I managed to get him to communicate with me, I am nicey nicey and distant the next minute. Just enough for him to get intrigued and accept to see me again, and then I am gonna show him that I am not a dog, but a LION. His loss !! I could just let it go, but I need to do this for me and also to teach him a big lesson ! Tony you're a legend !!

[@darkphoenixempress2976]

This is the main reason why I can’t do another relationship right now. It’s like men uses psychology on women to bruise their ego and questions themselves on what they’re doing wrong or if there not good enough. But it’s the men that hurts us to make it seem like there the problem. Women get all the blame. Men get hurt too but after being hurt so many times it just makes it seem like I need to seek revenge and play men like how they play me and hurt them like they hurt me gain their trust, seduce them, play with their minds, fill their minds with all broken promises & dreams then when you get them right where they want them then snatch their heart out of their chest and step on it. That’s the psychology what men/women do to one another playing too many games. Lying , cheating, stealing, running games, I’m not gonna keep playing the fool for these grown boys. I need to be single & alone for awhile and focus on getting my money up until I’m ready for another relationship. After getting hurt & fucked over so many times, played & left for another woman so many times, I feel like I’m not good enough for him and that bruises my ego time after time after time to the point I isolate myself from dating or wanting a man. Men nowadays don’t have their minds made up... until the last minute when he knows he’s lost her for good and when she’s gone she’s gone. Women get fed up after so many disappointments and heart breaks she just focus on herself & her career to the point she’s more committed to herself and her job than to a man. She feels she don’t need a man anymore for nothing and that’s why it’s so many INDEPENDENT SINGLE HARDWORKING WOMEN out here because the men that hurt us or left us have been slacking to the point where I gotta do everything myself I don’t need no man for nothing I can be my own man & woman because they playing too many games out here messing with a lot of women, always wanna screw around and use women. They don’t keep a job nor get a good paying job , trying to go back to school get a degree 📜 and become a family man. All they care about nowadays is getting the next piece of hot ass out here on who’s got the best p*ssy or who’s the bigger freak, or who’s a ride or die chick. Most of these women become independent having to do all the work, take care of the house , get a good paying job, taking care of the kids, making sure he gets his bills paid and support his habits, let him use your car, let him feed & live off of you. I was getting a drug test done today and I saw this woman taking a drug test dealing with a bum ass nigga who ain’t taking the drug test but chaperoning her like she’s a child or some cash cow and he look like he drinks all the time, smokes weed a lot and barely ain’t working nor doing nothing. I see that a lot nowadays the women are taking the reigns in the relationship, the women are bringing home the bacon and then some. Because these men aren’t men like they used to be anymore they just suck up to a woman and milk her dry until he finds his next victim to prey on. I’ve been down that road before in my past relationship so I know what it’s like.

[@lemonspring6425]

Very well stated

[@fashionjas4309]

After 5 6 7 days im out ✌🏾 thats tooooo long! No sir!

[@jackiebennett3649]

Yes when I don’t call them they eventually call back every time

[@LoveAlways1002]

I did this for years with one person, I used to think not reaching out duringn the "silent treatment"and having him call back was an accomplishment HOWEVER, I realize now I should've just checked it and walked away completely 💯💯

[@divinedigitalpro]

I'm going through this now. I checked him about something I didn't like. It's been four months and he still ignores me when he sees me at work. I was feeling everything you said, but I will stand my ground. I haven't reached out, called, text nothing. I'm just living life...doing my thing.

[@LaRennEstherTV1985]

Yes I just did this to my ex of 2yrs (first bf). He just started to go silent all of a sudden. 4 to 5 days later he calls me and I checked him. He texted me saying, he gonna take this as a lost and let me go.. I blocked him. Keep it moving and all this happened while I am Fasting. Thank you Jesus

[@kenishalperkins]

Wow that was a gift from God !! Happy for you Sis 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@briana14333]

So you purged yourself of him too! Good for you!

[@Amora_Shalom]

Yes the Lord expelled his ass from your system. Good for you. Black woman deserve to be treated fairly and properly we don’t ask for much. Maybe that’s the problem...

[@BluDrop5]

Fasting always reveals the truth.

[@Rbar-s6q]

This video was perfect this has happen to me in my last relationship so many times. I felt exactly everything you said. Thank you god it’s over. Ladies run for your life .

[@chikia41]

Wow i really needed to hear this. I'm actually experiencing this right now. Thanks so much.😇

[@nyamoneee]

Chikia Johnson me to

[@cassandraellington2593]

Same here

[@8adassa]

Chikia Johnson Me Too 👏👏👏

[@halfpint7133]

Some men are so manipulative! GROWN BOYS! DAMN SHAME SMH

[@Michelle-u5y]

This happened a LOT in my narcissistic marriage. I hated the silence so I’d go to him and apologize whether it was my fault or not just to restore peace. I’m sooooo glad I divorced his @$$! Thanks for reminding why I’m better off. It’s crazy how my mind likes to try and sabotage me and tell me I miss him. No I don’t! I don’t need that kinda abuse in my life.

[@velindabenton1248]

Wow never realized just how toxic my relationship really is.

[@Mellow013178]

Good good stuff! Had to walk away from a man I really loved because of this. Very emotionally abusive and manipulative form of behavior. It made me lose so much respect for him! Thank God I dodged that bullet! Be blessed❤️

[@sharicebryant8149]

Same here sis. It hurts like hell. We will find men that would never think abt doing things like this to us. Claim it 💕

[@stephaniehicks1651]

Sharice Bryant amen it’s hard but with god all things are possible and I’m waiting on my king.. He done wrong and use it against me and gave me the silent treatment... God brought me through against my crown and waiting on god

[@kelleybright3113]

Gurl yea thank God 4 jesus no baby glued us it was a gr8 lesson. I came out on top aftr I allowed myself to slip ..game101 what's meant 4 u is yours ..touch not the anointed. He played his self I'm that1 leveld all the way up..why he was playing I was praying..god1st glory 2 my father

[@fatima101165]

Be blessed! Here I am 54 years old, divorced 14 years and sadly I’m kind of like The Israelites, going around the same mountain 🙄 I praise & thank God for his grace, patience & forgiveness . Wish I would have listened to this 5 months ago. Men in my age group still behave this way. But, oh well I’ve listened now & thank you! Ordering your book.

[@thealabasterbox459]

The "silent treatment" from either person (male or female) is a control mechanism. Let a woman go silent on a man...

[@teresahargrow6750]

Child..my ex husband tried that shit with me.. I gave him the same dose of his medicine.. Every time he wanted to do the silent treatment I gave him military silence as well..You can't let it bother you. That's a controlling method to make you do what he wants you to do.

[@shanay6956]

Teresa Hadley Right and I think they like the chase especially when you calling and texting non stop,it might annoy them but I think they like it In a way😂😂

[@bbwaifuwu]

Ooohh! Im so glad Im way ahead. YES. I went silent on him cause he hurt me and he came back 3 days later trying to act like nothing happen and when he knew things was still same he had audacity to say “I gave you 3 days!!” I told him “Nah, YOU hurt me. Dont think you coming back fixes shit cause it doesnt.” Boy did he change his tone quick.

[@LadybugPhil413]

Be Blessed! I'll pass on being manipulated. I'd rather be alone after the ex used it to abuse me to the extreme. He enjoyed my pain.

[@karenaquarius6335]

LMBO.. grown man needs to grow the hell up or keep it moving, communication or get block. Real woman don't have time to waste!

[@nahoga]

Be Blessed❤❤❤. This happened in WRONG relationship(s). I was Straight up Ghosted. Ty for your hard work & consistency.

[@mzlibra7567]

I don't have time for these mind games too old for this BS✌️

[@2cuteNmyGT]

I hate mind games

[@marshaholmes8412]

Be blessed! Some guy tried to do that to me for 2 days I was like ninja please! In my Keke Palmer voice, I said " I don't know this man. Sorry to this man" and deletes phone number and blocks calls.

[@cherh]

😂

[@Bgrace15]

👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾

[@yoniquevassel3394]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@wadzanaimanyore6665]

Marsha Giles 😂😂😂😂ninja plz I’m dead

[@1980tiffani]

So true... my ex husband did this... no communication and if I did anything he felt wasn’t right (disagreements... anything) he would give me the silent treatment for weeks! He literally trained me and I questioned myself and let stuff go... then would try to make up with him... well he’s my ex husband cuss I got sick of it and he now tries this with our daughters.... so yea I had to step up and check him real fast cuss you’re not going to bully our kids into submission because you don’t agree with their ambitions... 😤you are so right! I let a lot go in order to keep the peace...

[@deliverergirlforlife4064]

This is some good knowledge Tony! I'm divorced from being married for 24 years and starting over with dating again. I'm in a relationship now and this "Silent treatment" technique has been tried on me several times... However, I have responded to him every time just the way you explained it in this video with letting him know it's not acceptable & it's disrespectful to me... Speaking clearly about what I won't accept and allow with/from him giving me the silent treatment in our relationship. Its been working & bringing a clearer understanding to him... Slowly but surely. Thanks to you... Now I can truly say that I finally truly understand why a man does this action & Now I know that I'm doing the right thing with how I handle it. Be Blessed!

[@Mariana-ud7dw]

Good on you for taking the positive route!!!