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I often hear people talk about consent in such a way that they try to force any sexual situation into a category of "consensual" or "non consensual" (rape or sexual assault), sometimes arguing back and forth in front of the person who opened up about being in that situation in ways that can be retraumatizing to that person.
Not all situations can be cleanly classified as consensual or not. Alcohol or other drugs, age and maturity, differences in reading and interpreting nonverbal or sometimes even verbal communication, and incomplete information when discussing situations where we weren't present or situations in the past, are some of many factors that can contribute to there being a "gray area" where it is hard to cleanly classify a particular act as fully consensual or fully non-consensual.
Trying to force our own narrative of these gray areas either being one way or the other can be harmful to the people who have been through these situations in a variety of ways.
I explain that "dubious consent" is something best avoided, but something that still exists in the real world and as such, acknowledging its existence is important when discussing situations that arise in our lives and the lives of others.