WHY Even the Smartest People Fall for Narcissistic Abuse

[@stochasticxalid9853]

Trauma bond is real hell. The worst thing is nobody understands your suffering. Thank you Dr. Leblanc for your work.

[@LuizMirandaLMT]

Only us ! JOIN THE TEAM, I can see you, see your suffering, I can understand it. She does also, as she was in hell as well as us !

[@ramikiwan9981]

Boy! Notwithstanding the circumstantial details, I had lived the exact same story. To whoever is reading my comment: GET THE HELL OUT of that relationship. It'll be a lot of suffering to get over what happened to you, but you will eventually heal with the right support system and personal effort.

[@JasonJones-x5e]

Breaking Free from these demons and trying to put yourself back together after enduring all of their mind games is hell on Earth.

[@nigelgould-davies6950]

Unless you have been through this, it is impossible to imagine how bad it can get.

[@Ben-fc3pi]

Currently going through it spit up 4 weeks ago I video called her last night and I fell back into my sorry state I undone all my work over 4 weeks

[@rayo1883]

​@Ben-fc3pi I don't know if this makes you feel better or worse, but I'm coming on 2 years of no contact and if she knocked on my door tomorrow I cannot honestly say what I would do. And that's while knowing exactly how it would end. Again.

[@jessickidopolis9040]

Amen

[@antonp6917]

​@rayo1883 oh boi, makes no sense, but unless you know, you don't know the way they get under your skin. Literally a spell...

[@nigelgould-davies6950]

@@Ben-fc3pi Brother, mine is in prison and I sometimes still imagine talking to her again. Stay strong and stay away.

[@Art.in.5]

Yes, I’ve experienced all of this myself. I was in a relationship just like that for two and a half years. It started off great but slowly deteriorated over time. I always had this feeling that something wasn’t right. That’s why I constantly pushed back whenever she tried to isolate me from my family or friends. Thankfully, because of my own company and the strong foundation I have with my family, I was able to maintain stability and avoid becoming dependent on her. I held onto my own life - my apartment, my car, my business - and in the end, that saved me. Eventually, it felt like scales had fallen from my eyes, and I was able to see her for who she really was. We had a lot of arguments, and while I have a high level of resilience and endured a lot, I almost lost myself in the process. I didn’t want to disregard her feelings, even when it was clear things were toxic. In my family, we never resorted to insults or name-calling. But with her, it was the complete opposite. That environment took such a toll on me, emotionally and mentally, that I eventually hit a breaking point. The moment I realized enough was enough, I started to rediscover myself. Looking back now, I’m so grateful I never gave up my apartment, never moved in with her, never got engaged, and never had children. It’s been almost 20 days since I completely cut her out of my life - no contact, no looking back. I’ve been diving deep into understanding this kind of behavior, and my life has improved dramatically since. I’ve planned and booked big vacations, reconnected with so many friends who have given me overwhelming support, and finally broken free from her grip, her manipulation, and her gaslighting. Even some of her own friends have stuck by me, saying they’ve had enough of her too. My friends and family unanimously agree it was the right decision to leave, and I feel the same. I can already feel myself healing, and I’ve resolved to be more cautious in the future, to open my eyes earlier. One thing I’ve learned in hindsight is this: she constantly demanded respect but never gave it in return. That realization was eye-opening. To all the men out there who are going through something similar: take care of yourselves and pay attention to the signs. If you can, run. Run far, far away from women like that. Find someone kind, someone who truly values you. And next time, make sure the person is beautiful not just on the outside but on the inside too. Trust me, it gets better. Take care of yourselves and never lose yourself in the process. I‘m 35, never again!

[@kryssis69]

You are very early days… you have at least a year to go until you get rid of your emotional thinking. Here’s hoping you can resist responding to the first hoover attempt. Keep us posted.

[@epair4341]

Good for you, man. I envy you for what you've been able to learn so relatively early in life. Maybe 35 feels old to you, but it isn't. I would love to have been able to learn at that young an age what I only discovered a couple of decades later... coulda' had a much different life, as you certainly will. You sound like you're in control, smarter now than you were before and determined to remain self-aware in the future. Again, good for you, and best of luck!

[@stuffmula1598]

Eerily similar situation bro. I'm 18 months removed, after going complete no contact. My advise is for you do to the same. She's going to come back in some form. Resist the hoover. What has helped me is educating myself on personality disorders and narcissist abuse. Remain strong!

[@pineaultjonathan]

Thanks for sharing... It have a lot of similarities to my story!

[@AndreFlavell]

My one is a alcoholic and kept hooking up with younger men . Even in front of me .

[@spruce5123]

Truth is...... It's the empathy that you cultivate for the narcissist that keeps you stuck in a relationship dynamic with them.

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

Yup 😢

[@lorishu48103]

In a way your empathy is a form of denial

[@mariusluca1410]

That "empathy" is our false sense of worth derived from caring for others, as we wished we had been cared for. And they exploit it. Which forces us to mature.

[@JohnWick-u2e]

Very true but not only, this fakers are some faking bugged demonic reptiles they are not human or nothing close to soul and given that we are traped in this perfect torture chambers called bodies tied to our ego and affecting and killing our soul, they have no regard to nothing that we thin of whatsoever, they are terminators who have 1 purpose and only one, to test the fk out of us and if so why not kill us in the process because in the end they are all controlled by the archons which are controlled by the demiurge so good luck to you all in 2025.

[@MbraceTheRandom]

That's what kept me there

[@Dansyoung]

After experiencing this (but for a longer period of time - married 7 years), I personally made the decision to stay single. It’s not worth the risk, some women present a certain way with an end game in sight or vine swing to another man. Don’t allow your empathy to be weaponized against you.

[@BlueBird-vi8vo]

I think my son is going through this. It's a long story, but he met girl, we received a horrendous ugly text (supposedly from him but we knew it was her), he then cut us off for years; would not respond in any way to us trying to make contact. Then, he came back briefly (a completely different person), let us see our grandchild for some months, then allowed her to make horrendous false accusations against us, and cut us off again and this time, cut us off from our grandchild. He has allowed his significant other to call us names, to insult us, to disrespect us and make false accusations against us. We were completely baffled and stunned. This has been going on for about 10 yrs. We are done. He has chosen his life. We won't be abused.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@urbanarborist1160]

This story is my exact situation with my wife of almost 10 years now. I have done everything in what have turned out to be desperate attempts to please her, make her feel secure and loved. NOTHING I have done has changed a single thing about how she treats me. Now I am trying to break free from this now super complicated web of life I've weaved with her, trying so hard just to be happy. It has taken all 10 years to finally realize it's not me, and I'm not crazy. Good luck to all who are in this situation. It is real!

[@eiehe93-]

I’ve said this many times before on KZbin. But if the narcissist is cold to you, you can be sure the narcissist is hot to someone else. The cold phase, you will feel invisible. You will not feel important anymore. Even if you are in the same room, you will feel that the narcissist doesn't see you. When you are let say at work, the narcissist will no longer check your day. From calling or texting you several times per day to nothing or almost nothing. The biggest sign is when the narcissist's behavior changes dramatically. First you feel visible and really loved. That you have found your soulmate. To not feel visible anymore. Your soulmate feels like a stranger. Another sign is that the narcissist will use their favorite toy a lot more in front of you. and also hide their favorite toy. Which is the smartphone. They will put the phone upside down on the table. Will never leave phone when leaving the room. When someone is calling the narcissist, he will not answer the phone when you are around. Because the narcissist will use the phone a lot more, you start to wonder why the narcissist can't answer your text messages and phone calls. But has no problem to answer others. The communication and sex will be a lot more off. It will be less and less. The sex will almost feel like rape on a dead body. The biggest sign is actually your guts. Always trust it. If you start to feel like the narcissist is cheating on you, trust that. And if the person really is a narcissist, you can be sure you are not the only one. A narcissist needs attention all the time. 24/7. So when you are not with each other, the narcissist will be with someone else. Either in real life or on internet. Always. Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

[@AyushSharma-jt5ne]

I recently got out of such relationship. earlier I was searching for answers how a girl who was so obsessed with me, loved me so much can backstab me but as you were talking about David's story I was relating to each and everything. blaming ex but behind my back meeting him, showing me great affection and making future plans in just first week of our relationship, playing victim card, guilt tripping me I really thought you are actually talking about my story.

[@CAintransit]

Same happened with me.

[@h3arty]

31 days of no contact. Piling on the self compassion right now. This is extremely hard to break free from. I'm 34 and STILL finding myself in abusive relationships, WTF!

[@h3arty]

Wow... My reward system was hijacked... No wonder I am insanely depressed at the moment and can't get out of bed and feel exhausted. Thank you for helping me see it's about biology and needing to rebalance my brain chemistry. I'm so relieved. THANK YOU!

[@spikestoyou]

36 and besides one relationship it’s all I’ve ever had

[@nigelgould-davies6950]

Stay strong. A lot of support for you here.

[@beautyintradition8027]

I’m sorry, and I understand your pain. Believe me, I left my malignant narcissist ex-boyfriend back in October. Even though I know it was the right decision and have zero regrets, I still feel upset-and, quite frankly, sick-over everything he put me through, especially the psychological abuse. I’m still dealing with ruminating thoughts because, once you’re out of the relationship, you start to unravel all the red flags that were likely there all along. You begin to see all the times they gaslit, manipulated, and triangulated you. You realize the person you thought they were was an illusion, and the happy future you imagined was never going to happen. One of the worst realizations for me was remembering all the times I apologized for things I didn’t do-just to stop him from being angry or to end the silent treatment. I promise, with time, it does get better. Each day gets a little easier, especially if you eventually meet someone new and experience a healthy relationship. You’ll realize you’re not insane-you were simply trapped under the narcissist’s toxic spell. Keep moving forward; healing is possible.

[@DJ-jf8ts]

If you go back it will be worse. Stay busy doing things, pray a lot if you do that, watch what you eat and drink. It gets easier,

[@DJ-jf8ts]

An often common alert is our body. It will alert us something isn't right when it's being threatened. When I interacted deeply with the person I felt something was off, it didn't feel natural, almost sickening. Pay attention to what your body is alerting you to.

[@nigelgould-davies6950]

Excellent advice. “Gut feelings” are there for a reason. A common mistake is to use the mind to try to rationalise away what the body tells us. Listen to your body first.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@DamonvanDerSalm]

I'm dealing with this feeling with my wife. So many of the classic signs of narcissism but mostly I feel like she's just a unhappy, controlling B. Still have all the same feelings, pit in the stomach, more comfortable when she's not around, etc.

[@NumbskullandTheKnuckleheads]

Unlike my narcissist, I can take accountability for my part. I saw the red flags... and was drawn to them like a bull!!

[@RippleDrop.]

They are fascinating, odd and intense. All of us who like mysteries, like narcissist. Something is off, and we need to know WHAT...!

[@Gilfanon-2]

One thing about a freaking narcissist, they never consider themself the problem, hence, there is never a reason to apologize. They never apologize. Most people would walk away except they are married and wish to save the marriage for the sake of their children or because any divorce will end in the husband getting majorly screwed by the Court system. I've seen this over and over. It's a no win situation.

[@Sezginbayram]

I made a lot of mistakes in the last 5 years to win her back because I was manipulated by her. I apologized thousands of times even though I was right, if you are the one who constantly apologizes in a relationship, you are 1000% being manipulated.

[@Mattheus217]

A man at my church told me to stop apologizing so much. He specifically said, “don’t apologize for what you didn’t do.” I never heard someone say that so clearly. I feel like over time I had been pressured and guilted to be nice to my wife because that’s what God would want, church people, etc.. but it seems like that was just feeding her ego power.

[@nathanobrien6875]

Everything you’ve said is absolutely true Lise, but what I want to know is why narcissistic women do this? What has happened to them that makes them all behave from the same playbook? It’s liked they’re all possessed by the same demon

[@rdmfleet]

I have come to believe that all of them actually are. Its far beyond coincidence that they all do the exact same things in the same ways. I believe its much like other dark influences, but a powerful demonic one that combines all the deadly sins into one, in order to control these "people". IE; Greed, Lust, Envy, Sloth, Wrath ect... What ever made this people this way is profound

[@RippleDrop.]

We are in the same species, same things work for every one. Nearly no one can resist flattery for example. We all like to been as good and special. It starts from the same base ground.

[@nigelgould-davies6950]

Google "dark tetrad". It's very illuminating.

[@meegel]

I'm so grateful for these videos, they help me keep afloat and stay grounded in reality. My last relationship was pretty much exactly like this, but it was over the span of the last 11 years. The hardest part for me at this point is the euphoric recall, her emotional barbs are deep and painful, but videos like these help me come back to reality and remind me that it was pretty much all an act. bless you

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@namelastname9578]

I'm sure Lise knows more about this story, but Stacey is sounding more BPD to me, rather than NPD - her clear abandonment issues, the love-hate cycle, the likely identity disturbance manifesting in her cheating, and the extreme emotionality.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

My ex was exactly the same and I too was extremely trauma bonded. I saw so many reasons to get away from her but what i was most afraid of was losing her!! 🤯Scary how alike and dangerous these people are.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@cattheman6491]

Been there, done that. Never again! 😮The first part is bliss, then they turn on you like a demon... Currently packing my things for another solo fishing trip and loving the peace in my life these days...

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@Warp75]

I thought I was smart until this & I still haven’t forgiven myself.

[@BJBlaskovichGaming]

We all did. We all thought we at least had a little bit on the ball.

[@lorishu48103]

Don’t worry about being smart we’ll all get dementia if we live long enough you are kind and genuine ❤

[@Warp75]

@@lorishu48103 Hahahaha comment of the day award is yours 🥇

[@DK-eu2op]

please dont shame yourself! That is the wrong place...the narc should feel shame...i know what you mean..😢

[@Warp75]

@@DK-eu2op More like embarrassment really. Now I see it all so clearly & for a time I didn’t at all.

[@31416]

While listening to the story I was thinking: get out of there!! It seems so clear. Yet reflecting on it, I have been in a very similar situation (like all of us here I guess... ;) ). Striking how it is different from the outside vs when one is stuck in the trap. Merci Lise. Happy holidays to you and your loved ones. 🌲

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@touradishagh7075]

I’ve watched this video twice, and it brought back painful memories of my previous relationship with my ex-girlfriend, almost like a recurring nightmare. Strangely enough, I had a very similar experience with her. Every time I thought things were going well, she would create unnecessary conflict or have an emotional outburst for no apparent reason. I often found myself lost, unable to make sense of the situation. I had good intentions, but in return, she would accuse me of being unfaithful or indifferent. Afterward, she would revert to her normal self, as if nothing had happened. I endured cycles of belittlement followed by brief moments of affection, only for everything to come crashing down in yet another unprovoked fit of anger. This was, without a doubt, the most toxic experience of my life. I completely lost confidence in myself. Eventually, I decided to establish healthy boundaries, confronted her, and firmly rejected her unjustified mistreatment and emotional manipulation. Once she realized I was serious about refusing her toxic behavior, she began playing the victim, claiming that I was being harsh and that she never intended to hurt me. But I stood my ground and made a conscious decision to leave this destructive relationship for good. It wasn’t easy, but it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Now, after some time has passed, I feel emotionally free, at peace, and I have regained my self-respect. Today, I am engaged to a wonderful woman who respects me as much as I respect her. We share a healthy and loving relationship, and we’re planning to build a family together. My advice to anyone trapped in a similar toxic cycle is to leave as quickly as possible. Don’t try to play the savior or fixer. Understand that narcissistic and toxic individuals will never change. Life is too short and far too precious to waste on such unnecessary drama and senseless conflicts.

[@zyxwut321]

I'm stuck in an abusive relationship with my narcissistic older sister because we're sharing care of our father, who lives with dementia and is in a memory care facility. She demands that one of us (either her or I) goes up to see him every night, she has this special diet that she insists is helping contain and treat his dementia (she's obsessed with the gut microbiome), she argues with staff constantly even though they've been cooperative and amenable, and she constantly thinks she knows better than the doctors and that a cure for Alzheimer's is right around the corner. She projects herself as the calm, responsible and dutiful daughter (while she casts me as the "emotional" younger brother) just trying to help her dad while no one else tries like her and she's all alone. Meanwhile, she's a terrible tyrant and we barely speak. After our dad goes (our mom died of cancer many years ago), I plan to settle our estate (or whatever's left of it after it's drained by the lavish memory care facility that SHE insisted on) and I plan to cut ties and not look back. She's always been psychologically problematic and I suspect narcissism and BPD but it's only gotten worse after our dad got sick. Still, for my own well being, after he's gone I'm out.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@lindltailor]

Thank you very much for sharing this story, very helpful for me. Really resembles my two previous relationships. The trauma detox for the first one took me a decade to recover. It sounds like the addiction is to your own private soap opera, and the answer is not a new soap opera

[@ma3alimezo82]

Been listening to you for around 2. 5 years . I've found most of your information to be true in my personal experience

[@TheRoMandaloriaN]

2:54 I’ve been “David” and I’ve been the ex boyfriend that got cheated on/ discarded by David’s covert narcissistic coworker. I’m free of this web of narcissism nowadays. Now she’s your problem JM. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you both IF she will let you enjoy the holiday season. Spoiler alert, she won’t.

[@BuryTheLight-yp4mc]

I am not David and courage to him, but I have been through the almost same situation.. There was a few differences in her manipulation tactics but otherwise the situation is 95% the same. Never ending accusation of cheating, rules that applied only to me, abuses and she would justify all of it by saying she was like that because of her ex. She made me lose everything. She trapped me with a child and used our son as blackmailing tool saying if I left she would do everything she could to stop me seeing him. Fast forward to last year I caught her in our bed with her nowboyfriend. I broke up with her immediately and asked our son's custody, I stayed with her because I wanted to be with him. All she had to do was to make falses allegation of DV, and to say that I had been doing what she did for the past 6 years, I was even forced to take a psychological examination ordered by the judge. I still have not been told the result, but I have not seen my son in a year either, because its her and her new bf whom have custody..

[@srsig0]

Run for you life! Words to live by.

[@Cougs2894]

My ex accused me of all sorts of things I didn’t do. When I hinted that she probably had the affair she accused me of having I just didn’t know about it, she went ballistic. Pretty much admitted to it without admitting to it.

[@CAintransit]

Seems like this is my story. I have ended up and moved on. It's been one year and now I am very Happy 😊. I have breached that trauma bonding process.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@GabrielloMMAI]

Same patterns 😮 my gosh . Emotional rollercoaster 🤯

[@skybengal]

Cracking video thank you. Resonates with me soooo much. Hope David makes a full recovery and the girl gets her karma. Thanks for helping us all with this real life story.

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you for your positive feedback!

[@flyprincess69]

7 years no contact!!! Woohoooo🎉

[@m.y.3704]

Thanks from Egypt Lise! You can’t imagine how much you help!

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you for your support and contribution, I really appreciate it!

[@andron967]

I'm looking at this as spiritual growth. So this is simply a part of my development. Ruined, no. I do think that reincarnation is a part of it judging by what I've seen and experienced. I've had multiple relationships with narcissists. All had behaviors in common. So, even though I'm getting old, this is important to me to overcome. I'm not looking to be in any romantic relationship. Actually I'm thinking I would rather be alone.

[@spikestoyou]

I know the feeling

[@nickus51]

It is crazy. Like I listened to someone talking my story all over again.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@off-roadadventuresnorthwes692]

I experienced this for 7-years with my x.

[@AndreFlavell]

Your fantastic on this subject. This has happened to me and still is . Lucky we both blocked each other . I will never take on a woman with addictions again ( alcoholism)

[@G9402]

David’s situation sounds so similar to mine aside from a few details. It’s really an eye-opener.

[@Marcin-vn4kk]

8:27 - that's the best exercise to do in such situations. It gives plenty of clarity.

[@dawidswin9202]

Great video, it exactly describes my past situation. Thank You for educating and helping us.

[@LiseLeblanc]

I am so glad it was helpful!

[@danl2685]

I started to get Traumnesia (Just made that up). She made me forget all the abuse she gave me while continuing to give me more!

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@timmyblock6785]

Rather be by myself than with bad company

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@garyharris4366]

I think it's because they fool people. They portray themselves as something they're not. My toxic ex would play the religious role, but she's a wolf in sheep's clothing. Just because someone says they're a 'child of God', which is what mine would say, doesn't mean they're a good person. Their toxic behaviors never match their words. They ruin relationships with people because they can't own their behaviors.

[@epair4341]

Were it not for one thing, I would be very skeptical of Lise's story about "David" and his abusive girlfriend "Stacey." That one thing is the fact that the story so closely mirrors my own experience that I have trouble with the coincidence of the name given by Lise to David's girlfriend (Stacey) - this happening to be the name of my own abusive ex. David's ordeal matches in virtually every respect what I went through for years. Chronic lying, even when there was no reason to lie, gaslighting to the point where the neighborhood could've burned down, future faking, hot & cold mood changes within the span of ten minutes or less and false accusations against me that all but confirmed whatever she herself was doing in the moment. Unlike David, I was so overwhelmed by the confusion and destruction of my once normal self esteem and confidence that I found myself leaving only to come back time and again, over and over for years. It ultimately took not one, but two spontaneous marriages by her within the span of maybe two years, both seemingly out of nowhere and both while she was talking to me about marriage, to get me finally to stop fantasizing about something that had never existed, except in my mind. All this time later, I am still affected by what happened. I wouldn't contact her today if meteors were approaching, but becoming once more the man I was and regaining the self respect and confidence I once had have been daunting challenges. I wish I had had a friend back then to warn me to run for my life!

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[@darinsmith2458]

Ouch... I see a lot of similarities in my past relationships..

[@CJ_Pharaoh]

Thank you Lise 🙏

[@peat_dont_repeat]

Up to 200,000. Good job! I remember 100,00. It did not seem that long ago.

[@LiseLeblanc-i7y]

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[@LobbyDazzler]

I've scored 159 on an IQ test and I was a completely unaware victim for 27 years. Children are not wired to deal with narcissistic abuse from parents.

[@estherkeeling777]

Don't let them destroy you overcome them. All enemies can be over come by the wisdom and power of the LORD GOD ALMIGHTY. THE LORD WILL LEAD AND GUIDE YOU.

[@lochnessmunster1189]

So, what did this 'god' do to help anyone in World War 2?

[@donnienorwood3005]

Wozier... Fantastic insight...

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[@RGJRGJ-k4l]

Thanks!

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you for your support and contribution, I appreciate it!

[@srsig0]

Even Jack Sparrow wasn't immune

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[@xio6778]

Stacy... it's always stacy....

[@kryssis69]

Lol!

[@withSeraphim]

Great info Lise. Sad story for this guy.

[@SchmyeBubbula]

Your description of the dopaminergic trauma bond strikes me as in correlation to Gregory Bateson's epistemic/cybernetic double-bind theory of alcoholism and schizophrenia. ("I can't, I must.")

[@jamesleem.d.7442]

Good presentation. Is it essential that there has been sexual involvement? I can certainly appreciate that this element adds plenty of "spice" to the Reward part of this hornet's nest. Can't there be Trauma Blonding absent the establishment of a sexual affair ??

[@LiseLeblanc]

Trauma bonding can absolutely happen without sexual involvement. Any intense emotional connection, fueled by cycles of abuse and intermittent reinforcement (kindness alternating with cruelty), can create a trauma bond. Sexual intimacy is a common way narcissist's highjack the reward system to create a trauma bond, but it's definitely not the only way.

[@VRodrigues-c1q]

Thanks. Really helpful

[@Listingviral]

1:12 1:13 brilliant analysis❤❤

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you!

[@morizsenft3772]

Jeeez you speak out of my soul!! Sooooooooo much

[@rayo1883]

There's an old expression, "To those who understand, no explanation is necessary. For those who don't understand, no explanation is possible." I hear these stories and I can't criticize any of their actions. When you're going back for the fifth or sixth time, there's a force stronger than you thought possible - wishful thinking.

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[@bobbychin23]

You are amazing, thanks for the knowledge

[@LiseLeblanc]

I appreciate that!

[@Oxten43]

Why does this sound so familiar? 🤔

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[@michaelking4578]

Damn, that’s the same thing that happened to me

[@VinceFannon-m5i]

Lise- Great video. Benn thru exactly this. How do I fix my dopamine system?

[@LiseLeblanc]

@@VinceFannon-m5i I will post a video on this topic in the near future but in the meantime, you can look up “dopamine detox” and consider psychotherapy to process the trauma and any attachment wounds

[@stuffmula1598]

​@@LiseLeblancHow is it possible that I experienced an eerily similar relationship with my ex narc? Do they all read from the same play book?! This is crazy!!

[@stuffmula1598]

I'm 18 months into no contact. I've been experiencing hoovering via random/spam numbers calling and texting me daily. I'm sure others have similar experiences. Can you do a video on hoovering by the exnarc with calls and text messages from random numbers? It's harassment at this point.

[@MbraceTheRandom]

This sounds all too familiar. She knew I was a PHIL, and took full advantage of that .

[@derfab.]

Been there, done that... spend a little time alone and you'll realise how much better life is without these vampires

[@FoxSleeping]

It’s time for empath’s to acknowledge (I am one) that being an empath is just as toxic, dysfunctional and disordered as NPD in relationship with a narcissist.

[@hugmc]

Are you a narcissist

[@RippleDrop.]

I had this with a friend. I was uncomfortable with all the flattery, as it felt like she say said those things, waiting for me to tell how lovely, beautiful, wise, incredible, talented she is. I just do not work like that. I do not flatter people. I like to tell something good if I see it, but not load at least three compliments every time we meet... Long stroy short, explosion at the end for me canceling a meeting.

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[@PravitLochan]

We also need to accept that there are men and women who are equally affected by this disorder and not just women…

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[@SaynoTotheabombinationnation]

My wife is bp 2 this explains her in our first 3 years then she had a psychotic episode ended up in the hospital got on meds..she got normal for a year got back on xanax and turned back into a monster...then she got off xanax kept taking her meds found Jesus and changed been with her 11 years we have 2 kids if we break up im moving to alaska with the kids and she can live with her mom😂

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[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

This is my ex-fiancée...

[@Aquarian_Heart]

Hi, juat wondering if Lise has any videos about CPTSD?

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[@twhalin]

I remember when I first started talking to my now ex with bpd and we were in the love-bombing stage, I said "You are like a drug". Knew even if the beginning the hold that it had on me...

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[@laszlonagy9882]

I just wonder why this story sounds so familiar to me... :)

[@markkimball1569]

Yup ..never stable never happy never secure !! 😮 nothing in life is perfect but they are 😂.

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[@zandig666]

I've yet to be duped

[@KP-dd2ci]

Show off lol

[@zandig666]

@KP-dd2ci well narcs in a lot of cases r stupid and typically there's enough signs to strike back

[@CarlFinny]

I know this all too well

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[@markkimball1569]

Yup .. I’m not a stupid man ff paramedic and I was taken in by so many things .. same ❤ 💣. Now I see ! I am friends with my step son’s dad. .. we both live a nightmare ! 28 yrs later my kids are raised ! 23 yo daughter who has anxiety & depression! Son is career Usmc aviator! They see it but like me stay in it. I tried to be a good husband 😢 there’s a no win. My female life long friends proved it !

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[@PropJoe-n8i]

Bet I got something more as narcissist XD I was with cover ones, shy try so hard but she can’t get me XD bet got some sociopaths issues xD

[@TonyTruthRx]

Do they know they’re doing it tho?

[@kryssis69]

Yes, they know everything they do and why… it’s all to avoid shame from their childhood… period. They are absolutely crippled by shame and will do absolutely ANYTHING to avoid it and project onto others. Even throwing away years and years of marriage just to avoid accountability.

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[@TheNightheDiedInside]

Isnt this BPD?

[@chocolatecookie8571]

David the white knight to save the princes story

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[@rezzytheblackrose9212]

Impressive

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[@davidwarburton1453]

This is my ex-fiancée

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[@vickibazter3446]

Great topic

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you!

[@jasontulloch7938]

WOW ME TO

[@Carl-pq9vd]

All too familiar.

[@Listingviral]

2:13 2:13 2:13 jesus, it's the trap,

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[@sipcologiaaldia-vt6qw]

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[@GosiaMarcinkiewicz-h6w]

Its funny because Im single I live alone and people from social media come to my privat life to my home work everwhere where I do the wach me from 5g from camera take all my friends warning all people also broke my finacial my privat hobby all this man is sick but God wach him too all of this peoplw they will be play all of them but they never touch me they talk to many bad thinks but after new year i go to prokurator is finish this people gym

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[@Mattheus217]

Thanks!