Why Getting Married Is The Best Thing Ever! [CC]

[@TeeVeeZed123]

Still not legal in Australia, my partner and I have been together for 28 years and we consider ourselves married but it would be nice to be able to do it legally. Still, it's pretty great that others can get married if they want to, so go you!🌈🌈

[@concertclips6159]

Tracer123 it's not legal in Australia? :o I hope it's legalised soon best wishes to you!

[@Soil_Bound]

Tracer123 i wish you both the best. :_)

[@mcelliotdawson7700]

Tracer123 ... don't worry it will happen soon. Just got to vote out the Conservatives. ( Turnbull mob) I'm thinking Australia will have marriage equality in the next 12 months.

[@Synicizm]

I'm so sorry. I hope it's not an issue for you soon. 28 years is amazing for anyone, but it must be so frustrating not to have your relationship and rights recognized. I hope the poll actually gets the message through. 28 years - wow - hope my husband keeps me around for that long, lol.

[@VectorRabbit]

Do it now do it do it *_*

[@lamiah5604]

I am proud to be Dutch. Holland is the first country to legalise gay marriage! :) You guys look fabulous btw.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Go Netherlands!

[@maddiebethany5806]

I never minded the term girlfriend when my partner and I first started dating but now 7 years in it doesn't seem like the right word. We use partner as we legally can't get married in Australia yet. I agree that girlfriend gets confused a lot with just a girl that's a friend!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

It is truly upsetting, totally agree the would needs to get a grip... Fingers crossed it'll be approved soon! x

[@VectorRabbit]

You can now! :D

[@serentique]

The law has to have been passed by now. I don’t keep up with our news, I wouldn’t know.

[@astrid3670]

In Germany marriage equality has just been legalised and there is a lot of discussion about the need of marriage in general. The question of 'Why would you want to get married, as it is the most heteronormative and conservative idea?' comes up sometimes. To me that is just frustrating, because that should be for anyone to decide individually, whether you're gay, straight or whatever. I am so happy that I now have the legal ability to make that decision at some point in my life. If a straight person was to ask me that question, I'd feel somehow invalidated. Just because I'm gay, it doesn't mean that I have to do everything differently to my straight friends and family.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Yes! Agreed 👏

[@Yuna-ed5jc]

Hey!! A fellow German gay here!! I wanted to write something but I forgot what so I just want to say hi!!

[@daniellesteyn9469]

Absolutely agree, it's about having that choice at least

[@Smudgie33]

My wife and I had our civil partnership in 2006 and this weekend, almost 11 years later, we legally double barrelled our names! lol We did consider converting to a marriage but neither of us are religious and both introvert so we decided to just stay as we are. 🙂

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Whatever works for you really :) and congratulations! 11 years, so beautiful ❤

[@jenblack98]

There is this documentary called bridegroom which is about a gay couple where one of them died and their parents didn't keep his boyfriend informed and actually barred him from going to the funeral because next of kin rights gave the power to his parents and not his boyfriend whereas if they where married (which they where planning too when it was legal) then he would have been the next of kin. It's really sad but it shows the importance of marriage equality. I also really don't like the term partner I personally prefer significant other for a gender neutral term for the person you are dating as it shows how significant that person is.

[@nicoleduckery4067]

That's exactly why gay marriage being legal is so important to me. I'm single at the moment. But, if I had a significant other, I wouldn't want her left out of any decisions concerning my welfare...EVER.

[@TheMaddestHatter234]

Jenny Blackledge another option is date-mate. It rhymes!

[@DarkMusician4268]

I am a bisexual in a "heteronormative" engagement. If I were engaged to a woman I feel like things would be dramatically different. Things are definitely easier since i am betrothed to a man as i am a woman. People just assume i am a heterosexual because of this. Sad fact but sometimes in these situations you have to play along not so much to be accepted but to be treated as a human.

[@conlon4332]

0:33 Dude the subtitles say "15"! I was like "What?!"

[@ellaniamh5716]

Fun fact, gay marriage was legalised in Australia about 3 months after you guys made this video! :) 🏳️‍🌈

[@unicorn1655]

I remember when we got marriage equality in Germany,my mom,her bf at the time and my brother were on our way to buy groceries. The song that was playing was interrupted by a really happy moderator, squealing about how it's finally legalised. My brother and I screamed and gave high fives to our mom. The next day in school everyone was so happy and everyone talked about it. The whole class talked about how it's time, about sexuality and the history of homosexuality. It was like Christmas but better.

[@Katherine-ds2ft]

It's absolutely hard to fathom that there are still many countries that have not legalised homosexuality and also that many people are still killed JUST FOR BEING GAY. I was reminded of this last week when I met a lesbian from Cameroon who had to flee her country as her friends had been murdered and she would have been too had she not escaped. You and Claudia are just the sweetest! As someone who has a chronic illness and feels like I will never find someone who will "put up with me" it's really inspiring to see such a nice unconditional love between you two. I would love a video where you speak about your engagement story :) Also, why you decided to be married after such a "short" time. I'm just curious haha.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thanks Katherine! We've been tempted before to do a video about our engagement story... maybe it's time we share 😉

[@serenakaan]

Jessica Kellgren-Fozard please do!

[@littlebeeandnutmeg6395]

Another Australian gay gal here! I'm so hopeful that gay marriage will be legalised in Aus soon as my significant other and I wish you get married, buy a house and start our family, your story is such an inspiration to my s/o and I because I'm also disabled and it's so encouraging to see another wonderful happy and married couple in similar circumstances

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Hi there fellow spoonie! Hope it does get legalised soon so you and your significant other can get married xx

[@diabolicaldebbie]

If you tied the knot, Congratulations! 👰👰💍🍾🥂

[@hahasmiles310]

I had no idea that gay marriage (or marriage) was illegal until it was legalised; it just made no sense in my child brain growing up that it would be wrong (and having seen civil partnership's on telly and presumed that was the same thing). #LOVEWINS

[@annaabelian8587]

Tis still illegal in Northern Ireland sadly

[@kaseyweaver7492]

Good morning dear hearts, I am a 41 year old lesbian and I've been gay all of my life. I did marry a man for a short stent 20 years ago feeling that I was "supposed to do so" according to family. ( misery at it's finest...lol) I am so proud of you guys and I support you all the way from Atlanta, Georgia in the U.S. (Born and raised) You both make me so proud for our community. You guys are truly the "ying" to the others "yang". Loved this video. Like the fun ones as well obviously ...im a subscriber after all. Have a beautiful I'm off to work. The world awaits us...keep doing you! We are watching and cheering you on

[@KindCountsDeb3773]

As Claud said (at 9:00) , familiarity helps change peoples perspective or thoughts about gay people . It feels more natural and fine. You two really help that issue, it's just helpful to see two smart, fun, loving, responsible people who happen to be gay. I've noticed that if society sees a shift in "acceptance" , more people feel able to be alright with the change. No one wants to be the first if it's not their issue. But, as society grows, the naysayers can re think their ideas, feelings and then Not feel so vulnerable about their new belief. YAY

[@vic70ria]

“In another three years we’ll probably have a baby. “😍😍😍😍😍

[@rachyroo7586]

This is sooo cute, a year later i still feel giddy when i start any sentence with 'my wife ' it feels amazing! Also jessica yr hair is ...... just wow!!!

[@cupcakexlindsay]

Beautiful ladies! You guys are my lesbian relationship goals 🌈💖😍

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Awn thanks!

[@isobellloyd8104]

In Australia we are currently fighting to legalise gay marriage. We’ve voted in a survey, not even a referendum. They mightn’t even listen to the majority if they don’t want to. It makes me so angry, why can’t love just be equal? You’re a beautiful couple, you look so comfortable together. 👏🏻

[@brioche8123]

I really like this topic! And the way you approached it. I didn't realize I needed this video until now haha. I'm only 20 😬 but I'm pretty excited for marriage and kids when I'm ready.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Glad you 'needed' this video ha ha x

[@lucythemermaidx]

The way you look at each other is so beautiful. Such a gorgeous couple, so so happy you've found each other ❤

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thanks Lucy, you are very sweet x

[@eleanorbeck6245]

I went to my first ever pride today, and I just wanted to say how much I like your channel and how important it is to me that I can see people I can relate to regarding my sexuality, love your attitude and the content you create 10/10

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Congratulations on your first Pride! Hope you get to go to many more xx

[@LibraryWitch]

As a pansexual woman, I prefer the term partner regardless of the gender of the person I'm dating. Just because it's a gender neutral term and so I feel people are less likely to immediately assume my sexuality

[@fungirl0123456]

This is truly beautiful. I'm not sure if I will get married or not but I hope to be as happy as you and Claude

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thank you xx

[@gblikestosew]

"3 years from now, maybe we'll have a baby...." You were correct madame!!!

[@lexiisgay]

This was the first video I ever watched of yours. When I watched it, it was only out for 4 months. In 2017, I was closeted in an extremely unaccepting environment with disabilities that were constantly belittled and ignored. Now I'm married and have medical professionals that are actually listening to me. Your videos have been a constant in my life through it all and I'm so grateful that I had you as a role model where I could see a positive future for myself even though I was gay and disabled. You have helped me through very tough times and I am so grateful for the work you do.

[@softtailgirl02]

Thanks for the sweet video. I absolutely adore the two of you and love your discussions/stories. I lost my life partner to cancer before it became legal to marry in the United States. We would have loved to have gotten married and been each other’s wife. Every time I’ve had to fill out some form that asks what my marital status is, I feel robbed of the opportunity to have been married. I should be checking off the box that says Widow, but instead, I have to check the box that says Single. What a heartbreaking reminder that prejudice against lesbians/gays denied me the right to marry the woman that I love. In my heart, D’Nell will always be my wife, but having our relationship legally recognized would have been life changing and solidifying in so many ways.

[@mrsmadtux]

I'm loving getting to know you both through these videos. You seem like a perfect match. I love how when one of you speaks, the other one is looking into her eyes and letting her finish before piping in. You don't constantly try to talk over each other or cut each other off. That shows that you really respect each other and that is what will get you through those times you get sick of each. ❤️💕💕

[@cedriclucas3294]

You said isle of man!!! Thats where I live!! Very rare to get a shoutout, most people dont know of us :D Love you jessica and claudia!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Hi Cedric from Isle of Man! x

[@cedriclucas3294]

hahaah hello jessica from youtube! :D

[@diabolicaldebbie]

Her prediction timeline of having a baby came true! 👶🍼

[@98284104]

Two things I want to say about marriage and the bible: 1) the passage about man taking woman is a bad translation. It is more accurately translated as "takes a partner like onto himself" genderless. And 2) the bible describes marriage as two bodies becoming one flesh, which seems pretty dog on accurate. And again no gender specified. Kinda cool.

[@jan-mg5ug]

Aluzky you're right which is sad i guess I'm always going to feel guilty about being pansexual

[@VectorRabbit]

I mean he also tried to get a man to kill his own son, made a big pit open up and swallow people for mocking him, all sorts of fun stuff.

[@faitharooo]

it's cool to see countries legalizing marriage all over the world. I remember when the USA legalized it last year, being Canadian I was thinking IT'S ABOUT TIME. ^_^ I literally squealed at my computer when you mentioned children lol little one's being loved by you two, would be the most precious thing ever

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Awn you are very sweet, thank you! x

[@Kyriehubbard]

The love you have is evident in the way you look at one another. Seeing the smile on Jessica's face as she listens to Claudia is the sweetest thing!!!

[@junestrickland1478]

I'm heterosexual but my teenage daughter is transgender. watching these 2 fantastic girls has opened up a whole new world

[@wunderseltsame2]

Yet another Australian subscriber here! 😀 Yes our stupid conservative government is still dragging its feet on marriage equality despite the fact that a clear majority of Australians are for it 😞

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Fingers crossed for you guys! x

[@kirstenbakker839]

I prefer to use the term 'my love' instead of 'partner'/'girlfriend'/'boyfriend'. Because isn't that what a relationship is all about?

[@anat8254]

You two are so cute! 😍 I am from Russia and there are lots of homophobic people there, but luckily there are some reasonable people too. I wish one day gay people will be able to openly speak about their orientation and relationship here in Russia. But I'm afraid it's not going to happen in the near future 😖 I'm happy that you two can be legally recognised as a couple ❤️

[@MissBeeTownsend]

We just recently had a very expensive plebiscite to vote on whether gay couples should have the right to marry. Don't you love that? When people get to have an "opinion" on equal rights and the government actually takes the prejudiced opinions into consideration because they don't want to loose votes....what is this world we live in!? But, luckily, last week 61.6% of Australians voted YES to same-sex marriage and hopefully our government will actually do the right thing. Finally. At least the people of Australia have a conscience even if our government is poorly representing us. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 🌈 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

[@cupidsick]

i recently stumbled across your channel, and holy cow am i glad i did. from what i've seen so far, you are a really funny, sweet and genuine person. keep doing what you're doing, and i hope you two are truly happy together.

[@concertclips6159]

I never realised that my country (uk) legalised it so early compared to other countries. Hope Australia gets legalised soon!

[@noswearingonmychristianser5563]

IfYouDon'tLoveAndyBiersackSomethingsWrongWithYou nice username!!

[@mcelliotdawson7700]

Hi Jessica and Claudia Great video mates. They always are. You are a beautiful couple. I was at London Pride this year.. got lost in a crowd of one million people in Trafalgar Square... it was amazing😀 As always sending you both love and hugs from the land of Oz 😎🇦🇺

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Hope you had so much fun at London Pride! x

[@chelie14]

Congrats! Great video. Hope that you celebrate many more! Marriage should be a basic right to couples of any gender!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thanks Chelie!

[@daniellesteyn9469]

These videos always makes me so happy to watch, thank you for making them❤️ Despite the South African government providing constitutional protection to LGBTQIA+ community in 1996, saying that you are queer is so unsafe in many countryside areas - But watching this really gives me hope in the sense that the world will grow to be more accepting in time

[@reneetmp]

You gals are so cute! My country is currently going through that process of figuring out wether gay marriage is "okay" or should be "allowed" and it's really sad and discouraging for me, because I don't feel like I could have a safe or happy future as a queer woman here. This video has such a happy and hopeful theme to it and I just wanted to say thank you for putting it out there. It's not much, but you guys give me hope for a better future

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thanks Renee, I am glad you found the video to be hopeful, I do hope they realise that gay marriage should be legal. Hugs x

[@SinzPet-]

Wow This vid was posted 3 years ago, and u guys talk about how u've been together 3 years and in another 3 years u'll prolly have a baby and now the baby is on the way 😁 Epic😎

[@MartiKokoro]

Hi Jessica! I love your videos. Have you considered making a video about Quakers? I'm probably very ignorant, but I discovered the existence of Quakers only by watching your videos. I had never heard of Quakerism before. I did a bit of research and I found out there are many different Quaker movements. Which one do you belong to? How would you summarise its principal beliefs? What does Claudia think about it? Thank you for the amazing content you share!

[@kirk93814]

Your dog is not shy to be in your video...6:35!! :D

[@serenitywilliams9379]

The great thing about marriage is when you fall out of love (and that happens more often than people are willing to admit), you try to work through it rather than just walking away. I think that's the biggest difference between being married and being in a relationship.

[@c8graphy]

Yet another lesbian Australian here, I'm only 20 years old I've been out for 5 years and I have this mental block against marriage simply because it's never been legally an option to me? I never saw anything like it growing up, in media or in person. The same way I can't imagine being an old woman in a rocking chair on the verandah holding the hand of my beloved. It's never been shown to me and I find that quite troublesome, like there's this implication that, that kind of life isn't for me. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

[@thatswhatisaidCA]

Hi from Canada! Enjoyed your vide; interesting and good points. (I am Heterosexual if that's relevant; I think it is with my comment:) When I hear "partner" I wonder if they mean "business partner" first and Gay second, and I HATE when someone says, "This is my boyfriend" - and they're in their 40s or older! Still trying to figure out a "good" word for that... Just my little rant, lol. Have a great day!

[@joysudduth5970]

Oh! I absolutely love you two. Y'all are so adorable. Greetings from Danville, VA!

[@ArcticPup]

While watching this I kept thinking someone was moving up the stairs. *chuckles* Even though I knew it was the smoke, the movement got my attention.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

ha ha sorry about that!

[@ArcticPup]

Jessica Kellgren-Fozard Oh, don't be silly, no need to apologize. *smiles* You two are lovely to watch and have entertaining content in your videos which is presented in a feel-good manner. Kudos to you both for dealing with life, AND the internet. *chuckles* Thank you for replying though. Have a nice day.

[@Kabloomybuzz]

I've personally never seen the point of marriage. I just don't feel the need to "validate" my relationship by signing a bunch of legal documents and having a big party. That goes for whatever the sexuality and gender. But I support anyone who chooses that for themselves. I just wish long term commited partners could get the same legal rights without all the cost and rigmarole of "getting married" (and divorcing if it unfortunately goes wrong a few years down the line) If there were a way of simply registering and deregistering your relationship once you've been together for so long, I'd probably go for it... people would say it would make marriage less significant, but I don't think so if marriage were still an option.

[@nikk-named]

Well there surely are ways to get married without throwing a party. Like you can just walk into the law thingy and get married and that's it. You don't need to have a party... I think. I dunno if that would be an answer to your question? :)

[@zhenia2511]

I know that replying to a comment after 4 years is weird, but, maybe, you will see this comment. In my country there are 3 types of marriage: factual, civil and religious. Religious marriage is registered in both church and state organisations. Civil is registered only in state organisations and factual marriage is when you live 5+ years together and share some property. It functions just like civil marriage legally if there are witnesses to prove that partnership. So the legal concept you're talking about exists in very few countries. My parents are in factual marriage, cuz they never wanted to waste money on wedding. My mum isn't a fan of that stuff.

[@Maddy4u]

Very honest and open discussion about gay marriage. Learned some things I didn't know and made me think about some things I had never considered. Great video!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@naturenut7695]

Love,love love this video!! So how I feel! Yes for the babies!

[@Soil_Bound]

Two gorgeous women. One gorgeous video.

[@richillartloe]

You really capture a true vintage beauty look....you should be featured in a movie or something. Great videos...

[@solphiras]

I absolutely feel Jessica's hate for the word 'partner'! Me and my girlfriend have been together for four years now but aren't at a point in our lives where we want to get married (although we do want to in a few years!) and 'girlfriend' doesn't quite carry the weight / is often seen as the 'straight girlfriends' kinda thing but partner just has the wrong connotations for me. It drives me nuts, can't wait to call her my wife instead. You two are absolutely lovely and I agree that having gay role models in the media is sooo important!

[@sunset5735]

This is the first time that i'm realizing how greatful i am, that i my language we have different words for "a girlfriend, meaning just a friends" and "a girlfriend meaning a woman in a realtionship" ❤

[@MissDaisyUeda]

Claudia's hair is so beautiful. It's only curly on the tips.

[@ichbinlala]

You guys are so beautiful, pls have a very very long last and happy marriage!!! Pls keep uploading videos with great contents, they're so inspiring! A supporter from Indonesia here x much loves for you two!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Much love to you too, thank you! x

[@foxclouds]

You are so sweet together! I personally don’t like the word partner because it makes me think of business partners. Plus, heterosexual couples also use it which makes it confusing 🧐 girlfriends make it sounds as if you are just BFFs. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Totally feel you. Wife sounds perfect 👍🏻 All the best!

[@NinnaJensen]

I hope that one day there will be no stigma about being gay what so ever and gay individuals and couples will have the exact same rights as everyone else!

[@Whispn]

I totally agree with Jessica about the word partner

[@JordanVanRyn]

That’s wonderful! Congratulations! I’m happy for both of you!

[@raebla]

I use the partner, in reference to all relationships, because whether someone is married or not, gay or not because it is none of my business or anyone else's what state your relationship is. It's also useful for people that are in long term relationships but have no intention of getting married.

[@sunset5735]

So i came across an interview. In our country, same sex couples couldnt get married, but they could register their relationship. And a laesbian that they were interviewing said: "We don't want to get registered, because we feel humiliated by it. I register my car.... not my girlfriend." And i couldn't agree more! 👏👏👏

[@tinyshinystar8458]

I think one of the saddest things about gay relationship inequality is when I hear about couples who have been together for decades and one dies and because of them not being married, having equal rights and a will the deceased family just comes and takes everything and inherits everything. It breaks my heart and it happens far too often

[@lauralettsome9912]

Great conversation ladies. Lovely video as always. I hope to have the option in the near future.♥️

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Hope so too!

[@heatherjones4034]

This is a perfect video. Thank you❤️

[@Lucy-fn9rj]

Marriage is so much more important for gay people (and other minorities tbh). A straight, white, unmarried couple doesn’t have to worry about being denied access to their SO if they are hospitalized, the ability to make medical decisions for an incapacitated partner, etc. Gay couples have to constantly worry they’ll end up at a hospital run by a homophobe. People don’t need marriage for the happy times- they need it for when everything goes to shit.

[@Kes_makes]

Ugh, I do not miss when I would call my wife my girlfriend and everyone assumed we were straight. Or when I said my girlfriend and people said “your boyfriend?” like I was just confused. It is really interesting to me to hear about other’s reactions to the legalization of gay marriage because it is very normalized where I live, by the time my wife and I got married in January of this year gay marriage had been legalized for almost 12 years.

[@rootedreinvention]

I've been with my husband 12.5 years (married 3.5 years) and sometimes we wake up and just go "we're married" and giggle like idiots :P

[@deboraho6350]

What a beautiful couple you are, with the love that you show you’ll be fantastic mummy’s xx

[@susannam3923]

i completely agree with jessica on the partner thing. it feels impersonal and weird to say it as well. obviously, some people might want to or have to but well I hope I can avoid that

[@afrancis8941]

Great video guys, really interesting and well balanced x

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

🙌

[@mppaleocen]

I’m from Russia 😋 Love watching really lovely people’s videos 😉 💗 Thank you ☘️

[@juniper617]

In the U.S. marriage was such an important issue for a lot of people because of access to health care. Healthcare is entirely privatized in the U.S. (you’ve probably heard) and insurance is most often provided through employers. Usually it’s offered to the employee’s family as well (at a cost. But generally, a manageable cost.) So having a spouse whose job offers health insurance makes it possible for a person to make choices, like working part-time (no insurance), staying home with children (no insurance), self-employment or entrepreneurship (no insurance) etc., while still being able to have babies, or you know, stay alive. I don’t know if people outside the U.S really get how critically, critically important this is. It can literally be life and death.

[@itsleviosaa]

An important activist thing on marriage is that AIDS lead to a lot of gay marriage advocacy because marriage allows you the legal protection to visit your partner in the hospital. A lot of people weren't able to spend the last days or plan the funerals of partners who died of of HIV/AIDS because of homophobic families. Marriage equality activist was launched around then! I find it a bit weird when people act like it's a waste of activist effort.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Yes exactly! This is so important, thank you for brining it up x

[@emilyborges8381]

Not a lesbian but I often use partner/spouse interchangeably. But I am also American so maybe that’s why🤷🏻‍♀️ Love watching videos with both of you because your adorable together.

[@DefineYourself27]

Baby!!! 👶🏻 Yay!!! 😊💛

[@Sk8erchk4life]

It's always so hilarious when yall get distracted by your dogs

[@marrus1372]

Side note, congratulations Australia! 🌈💛🌻💛

[@HOHNancy]

"We will have a baby in 3 years"...you are right, Claudia! 😊

[@katsadventures5132]

I so want to get married!! But living in Australia.... i gotta wait a while. OH MY GOODNESS IF YOU HAVE A BABY I WILL DIE WITH HAPPINESS AND JOY!! MY LIL DISABLED GAY HEART CANT TAKE IT!!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

ha ha ha you are very sweet Kat!

[@LOSTNTH0UGHT]

Watching all your videos from the beginning and laughing at the in 3 years you’ll have a baby, congratulations on your expectant little one

[@carlottafontes9575]

Great video...thanks!

[@Lauraphoid]

That was adorable!

[@shjobbi]

*cries in loneliness* Jokes aside, you are relationship goals.

[@meganturner3489]

No-one ever notices us on the island, I had to rewind the video just to double check I'd heard you correctly. Gay marriage is now legal on the isle of man :)

[@TheMaddestHatter234]

Date-mate! Or SO, but the first rhymes!

[@elizabethbulfer4530]

Oddly enough, I have had people refer to my husband as my "partner" (not people in the US, but it's happened)... It does feel really odd. I've never liked "partner" really, because it feels like it takes all the romance out of a situation. Though, I do agree that there needs to be a better word for "girlfriend" because it does sound like "girl friend" and downplays the relationship... And "lover" implies it's a physical relationship. Labels are obnoxiously tricky! People thought Dan and I were "too young" to get married, because they were like "you only get married to have kids" ... Um, no. Plus, if we were, it was really none of their business! I love being married. That "this person is here forever and truly cares about me, flaws and all" feeling is amazing! Plus, it's definitely a validation of sorts, even for heteronormative relationships. When Dan and I were quite serious, but not uet engaged/married, he'd get invited to stuff alone and he always thought it was weird to have to ask if I could come (and the few times he was told something like "I only invited you" were pretty appalling). Now that we're married, it's much more of a "packaged deal" thing, so people have to confront their own exclusionary ways and be purposefully exclusionary to leave me out. I imagine the validation is significantly stronger in homosexual (or other) relationships... Which, I agree it shouldn't be, but I'm glad there is a way to get the wider acceptance started. Do you know if being a homosexual was ever fully illegal here (USA)? I know we have all sorts of laws that discriminate against non-cishetero people, but I'm not sure if we ever had a "you're gay so you're in jail now" law. I quite enjoyed this video! It wasn't quite what I expected - I think I was more expecting something similar to the "month favorites" videos - but it was thought provoking and a great way to start my day!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Hi Elizabeth! Thank you for your insightful comment. I really love the idea of the 'package deal' ha ha It is very validating to be able to call Claudia my wife, as I feel people tend to take our relationship more serious. I did some quick research, and well... "Prior to the 2003 Supreme Court ruling in Lawrence v. Texas, same-sex sexual activity was illegal in fourteen US states, Puerto Rico, and the US military." 😱

[@elizabethbulfer4530]

Jessica Kellgren-Fozard I did know about the "don't ask, don't tell" law for the military, but had no idea it was actually illegal if someone found out! Sadly, the Texas thing isn't surprising, but I'm sad that it was so many locations and wasn't changed until so recently! I have been noticing more and more that we tend to be a bit late on the social progress stuff, sadly... Hopefully that'll start changing soon!

[@elisalukasik6334]

I met my fiancé the year that same sex marriage was legalized in the US- 2015. I can't wait to get married, but I know it will have to be a while from now because her family is Indo-Fijian and, unfortunately, are not supportive. My fiancé is not out to her family and is scared of their reaction. I wish that didn't hold her back, but I can't force it. Btw I love your vlogs!!

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Unfortunately not all of us have good coming out story. But I'm sure she will find her moment, it just comes differently to all of us. Best wishes! Jx

[@bubbletealover7278]

Hey, I love your channel Jessica!!! Do you just have one hearing aid or two?

[@PemFab]

In Switzerland we don't have "gay marriage". We have a civil partnership. So I'm not married to my wife, but we are "bound by a registered partnership". I generally say that she is my wife, and I think that being able to call her so has made things easier towards the outside world. But on paper, it could be more difficult to get a job. We also don't have exactly the same rights as heterosexual couples, and we can't adopt. Laws are SLOWLY changing, and we are looking forward to it

[@zacpackman9186]

Well 2014 was a good year. Unfortunately heard in Australia it only came legal for gay ppl to get married. And I can't believe it took that long

[@lereloleloshakirashakira7710]

I live, was raised and born in Peru and sadly no gay marriage for us. I understand it will take a lot because Latin America is so damn conservative and sexist. I do wish to spend my life here, I love my country (just hate the politicians). However I also wish to marry a woman and live happily ever after (I make up a different love story every week, hopeless romantic here). But I do think I'd be okay without a certificate. And yes, I also have a pretty open mind but live in a country where that's not common. I recently confirmed my mom would not accept me as a lesbian and my dad probably would (though it would still be tough, of course)

[@fdd8747]

About the girlfriend partner thing this has always annoyed me in the English language cause in Danish we have the word *kæreste* and it's gender neutral and just means *dearest* or *my love*

[@novelninja1843]

So this july... its been 3 extra years? Can we expect a baby?

[@cookieofficial7548]

It's still illegal to get married in my country Australia :(

[@MonkeyQueen39]

You know, tbh I just don't understand why it was wrong to begin with, when way back in like the renaissance era and viking era, and with brothels and stuff, they had tons of like gays, lesbians and bisexuals. To me and in my heart, you should be able to be with whomever you love no matter what their sex or prefrence is. Love to all...😘 from my husband and me.