Why HE doesn't express his feelings for you... [Guys and their insecurities]

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[@JBRODUCTION]

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[@tinamorales1654]

I'm very open on my feelings. No need to hide what's true to you.

[@ziabk4306]

both as the one that said he likes to cook for his ladies i love cooking and feeding my person too if i have one and i also love to shower them with gifts no matter how much it is or what occasion because love has no limits 🤗I am very expressive with my feelings but yet closed off for those who don't care for it just because i always feel like nobody likes to listen to people be emotional lol but for me I am usually very open and I'd like my person to feel vulnerable to me as i know its hard for guys to do because they are taught to be strong dont cry etc but I always tell them I'm not just anybody if im your gf or something I would love for them to be able to talk to me about anything because my job is to be there for people who need it the most I need it too but if I don't have that in my life its better to be that person for others too 👌🙌🙌☺

[@shelbylaw9161]

I am a passionate person.. yet emotionally stable.. 💗🥰 i am selective when in comes to expressing my emotions.. 😋😊🥰😬😏

[@luckofthehijabi4727]

F4!!! A meteor garden reference! 😂❤

[@ramosangeliquejoy2354]

@@luckofthehijabi4727 I think only their Asian viewers knows it.😂❤️

[@uttalgrace4389]

RIP John Chen getting ripped on when he was the only one who gave super specific examples about emotional honesty & openness. I see you CJC & your growth 😅

[@JBRODUCTION]

💀💀💀💀 love to see it

[@leif1075]

@@JBRODUCTION Thanks for sharing. I hope you can please 🙏respond to my comment about balancing work life and maintaining energy level in school when you can. Thanks very much.

[@weerapatteerittithitisakul326]

I love

[@keishastarz9149]

I honestly appreciate when a man is very vulnerable, because It shows me that he trust me with his feelings and that just makes me feel good. Great video guys and love the costumes as well 🤗🤗🤗

[@x3imrachell]

My partner & I came from very typical, unexpressive Asian households and wanted to break the cycle. It took time but stuff like the “love languages” quiz, buying each other things that reminded us of one another, and learning to say sorry has def helped ♥️

[@aakankshasingh8459]

This is one of the BEST topics you guys have talked about!! I might be generalizing here but from my personal and friends experience men take longer to be emotionally mature /secure. And as you guys mentioned lot of that has to do with how it is still embedded in the society to not show feelings or emotions coz it’s consider “WEAK”.

[@JBRODUCTION]

yes spot on.. something that seems to cross cultural boundaries as well . men all over seem to relate !

[@Ashnesss]

That doesn’t mean that they can’t gauge social situations or understand when someone is uncomfortable, unhappy or offended. They can gauge all of that and much more including a girl’s boundaries. Most people can assess that. Only weirdos with no social skills lack in this area.

[@withyoo_]

“Let’s wear eyeglasses and don’t tell Jason”🤓😏😂

[@jackhansmiles]

I feel like vulnerability can be a superpower and love that more men are able to open up nowadays. It’s like a tool in your tool box that you can pull out to really connect on a deeper level with people you choose to share your insecurities with. Double edged sword for sure because being vulnerable to the wrong person could lead to unwanted breaks in trust! Softbois ftw uwu hehe

[@JBRODUCTION]

Softbois > Super Man, when it comes to emotional strength lol

[@alisonlejeune614]

FINALLY YOU GET IT! Actually I'm being super cheeky it took me forever as a closed off strong Lady to realise (after watching a lot of Kdrama 🙄🤐) I was not sharing any emotion, or vulnerability etc and guess what I was always accused of " trying to solve things, instead of just listening" "Never really listening" Didn't expect as a woman I would have become so guarded lol But HOORAY for the ability to learn change and grow super powers..( however painfully its achieved)😉🤔🙂😅

[@vivothehippo]

When Tim said "i didn't even know how you felt", from the girl he was talking to - that hiiit because emotional inability was one of the reasons i broke up with my ex soemwhat recently🙃😦

[@tatacathrina.9120]

it's great to see Tim so enthusiastic and expressive, he is so passionate about this topic, as well as John chen and Jason, it seems they have a bitter experience in expressing their "feelings" 😆

[@hellojennifer520]

I don't necessarily agree that the opposite sex not having experience being in a relationship is a deal breaker. (Doesn't mean YOU have to teach them how to be in a relationship.) I believe that person see's how other people's relationships are like and knows what they want and don't want from their relationships. Whether about knowing how to express how they feel is how comfortable you make them feel when they are together with you.

[@harshalipatel1686]

Loved this video so much! I recently had to let go of someone I loved dearly because he kept burying his feelings and wouldn't express them. Even after being together for so long, speaking about it gently and promises, he just chose not to deal with negative emotions and shoved it all down deep. As healthy and loving some parts of the relationship were, this ultimately ended up being the reason to end the relationship. :( For my gals out there, sometimes you just can't help the guy evolve emotionally, nor is it your job and so you must choose yourself and believe you deserve better when you've done your best. I think so much of this comes down to communication and a leap of faith to trust the other person's EQ to hold space for your feelings. And well THERAPY! I just feel that all of us, especially guys could benefit from therapy to open themselves up and dismantle all the layers of conditioning they imbibe growing up. For what it's worth, all four of you seem very self aware and expressive, even you Tim! Being open to growing as a person is the best thing ❤️

[@aycharmz6630]

I didn’t know how important love language is and why relationships have failed is because we didn’t understand each other’s love languages. That’s why communication is key. I love this topic, from a man’s perspective because when I was young I use to think men don’t have feeling when that is not the case. Keep this going guys 👍🏾

[@qianjin88]

couples counseling has taught me that acknowledging/validating how the other person feels can do wonders (i.e. i hear what you’re saying; rhetorical and unnecessary imo if u function on the same wavelength) but sometimes we skip over that step and jump straight to problem solving mode and the other person isn’t there yet lol not all girls are over-needy either… sometimes we just want to know that u thought of us throughout the day… like text us about little things that remind u of us ;) if that’s not too much to ask lol

[@descipher]

This is by far the most honest and heart to heart conversation I have heard and so much to learn form. Thank you So much for this. This opens a new side for me understand men and people in general. ( I don't know if this is appropriate or not )Special the part of being emotional callous is what I could relate to relationship with my father. Just need to work on so many things.

[@andreinaperez9701]

I am a person who always expresses what I thinks and feels, but when it is at the level of romance towards someone that accelerates my heart it is another situation, to the point that I do not know how to act or speak in front of that person, I blush for everything and for Being outgoing I became very shy.

[@hhaannnnggg]

Some people are emotionally callous when they have been raised in an environment where their emotions or feelings weren't acknowledged. When it comes time to meeting romantic partners, they are being put in situations to share and be vulnerable. They might've taken time to process their emotions and internal struggles longer than others. They did not intentionally withhold information but they were probably not aware or ready to face their emotions. Hopefully they meet people or go through experiences that could help them understand different perspectives from their own (develop emotional awareness). If fortunate, they would be able realize how far they've come from who they were and who they currently are. We may have met people with different personal struggles and understanding that will help us focus on the lessons and not the pain from previous relationships. I feel for JC and Tim when they shared their past. They tried to show love in the way that they knew. Even if not emotionally mature at that time frame, they tried. Takes courage to share and be vulnerable about one's past mistakes. Whenever JY's thumbnail about breakup pops up on my feed, I feel for him too. Jason speaking for both sides 👍 Kudos to all of you for sharing and being vulnerable. 🌻 The thumbnail picture 😂 makes me smile. Looks like the old Hong Kong drama posters in the early 2000s🤣 I love it!

[@NoH2O4U]

No one wants to be emotionally hurt which causes us to be guarded. A good sense of humor helps. Y’all got that down so just communicate honestly and hope for the best.

[@hhhhggggg127]

Great content guys!!! Please make more videos like this ❤️❤️❤️ I've always sensed that Jason is a sensitive one from all the other videos and he confirms it in this video :p love his emotional maturity so much and how much insights he gives in this video!!

[@preetyborahmarak2195]

Their shared laughter though got me good. Lol. This episode was fun!

[@lowee23]

totally agree, I respect a man more that shows emotion than one that internalizes everything and does not know how to have communication.

[@cathystussi7165]

I’m probably the age of most of your parents. I love that you all have these conversations and are able to open up to each other honestly. It’s so important to raise children to be emotionally available and to teach your children it’s ok…show your feelings. Obviously some children don’t express themselves very well and that’s when parents step in. In adult relationships so many people divorce because the partner is emotionally unavailable. Communication, communication and more communication. I love how the guy on the left didn’t know how to express himself to his former GF but he said he cooked for her and was physical (touching her back) and to me that IS expressing himself. Hopefully she felt that. Sometimes when you open yourself up to someone you do run the risk of being rejected but many times it’s worth it. Women love a strong, emotionally available guy imho.

[@Kellychen7]

This was a very insightful video. You don't often hear how guys really think and feel about their insecurities. Hope you guys upload more of these kind videos :)

[@ghiiil]

I'm a bit of a CJC in the way that I'm not good with letter writing and don't really enjoy it...on the other hand I have a friend that loves receiving letters. I try my best to write letters on special occasions like her birthday and she knows that it takes effort for me. Similar to what John Y said about understanding that everyone's love languages are different and acknowledging it, knowing love languages for the people that are closest to you and taking the time to identify what their love languages are shows that you prioritize them and think of them as important. It's something I've learnt the hard way over the last few years in all my interpersonal relationships. Also, are Jason and Tim taking like side degrees in counselling or something? They really pulled through with all the talk and questions and getting the conversation flowing! Loving these podcast style videos!

[@crystaljohnson988]

I consider myself to be a sociable person, I tend to make friends very easily. But I can't say I'm open with my personal feelings to everyone, a level of trust has to be built first in order for me to Express my inner feelings. I think building a friendship with someone is a crucial part of knowing if the person is trustworthy or not. Great video BTW 😊

[@bennysmiley]

I was listening to another episode of the Man Enough podcast and this so relates to it, there aren’t that many spaces for men to express their emotions. Even myself in order to be seen as a successful young woman I’ve often shout down my emotions. As November is also Men’s Mental Awareness month, I hope more men find more spaces and the freedom to express how they feel.

[@sanaamg7449]

The only thing i can think of through this wholsome video is: you guys are soooooooo KIND.

[@ana2472]

Love this topic! I think men don't want to appear weak. Depending on the woman, it can reinforce. My papa and abuelo showed by working or cooking. My brother tends to show more feelings, following various break ups and he would ask me. I let him know if you have to find where you are comfortable but being callous and not addressing the others need will get you broke up. Women use a lot of words on the norm and look at the tones in delivery-flat, sarcastic, "are we done and your happy" but we can tell you really wasn't there. I prefer actions and taking time (time is precious, making a meal, washing dishes snuggling, holding my hand, hugs) because i'm way touchy feely. Love language really affects it all. Ps yall had me cracking up at the same time. Long post: I think I wore my parents down and opened up my parents to saying I love you more often and they would wait for me to hug them (to many funny stories). I did break up with 1 guy because I'm okay with praising and acknowledging your actions but not every single detail. Whew.. Way to tiring on me. Can I just have each of you in 1 person- 🤫🤪🤣🤣

[@KassyLynnRose]

I have always been an emotionally expressive person, for something I’m passionate about or on the other hand something negative I’m always open about my emotions

[@anamcpalma7903]

Thank you for bravely sharing this video You did a great job showing that it's possible to open up your heart when you feel comfortable, not pressured by expectations of social ancient and rooted behaviors, conditioning girls and boys to a certain behavior. Wish you all the best luck in your lives! And... Crying or feeling your emotions is definitely not a sign of weakness!! 🤩😇🤗🙏

[@jazzupyourlife.official]

I'm really glad you guys talked about this! I think more guys should open up their feelings to their friends, partners, and parents. But also, I think having self-awareness and being honest about the emotions you do feel and why you feel that way is the first step to a healthy relationship with oneself and also with others 🥰 Also.. RIP to JC for that CJC roast 😂

[@JBRODUCTION]

pls everyone, a candle for CJC 🕯

[@erinahara4115]

Sigh, it's a pity we are currently not residing in the same country. Will be nice to get to know you guys as friends. You guys are so datable & down to earth.

[@itsmejhai]

Every week I’ve always wait for every videos that you upload. And finally it’s out 😇☺️

[@pumpkincitygirl1682]

Wow after so so long catching up with the vids.Nice to see y'all enjoying

[@user-yk8ho4yr3u]

This is the best topic for conversation🔥🔥Keep up good work.Fighting

[@snowy_shea]

Thanks for the interesting insights into the vulnerable ❤🧡💛💚 of the 4Bros! 🙌🙌 Always a pleasure to watch & much wisdom to glean from all J Bros videos! Appreciate all the sharing & hard work put in by you guys! 👏😘💋💕✌

[@LyssieLysse]

YES! A love language video would be great! I used to be very closed off with my emotions because I didn’t want to burden anyone else with my feelings. It came from me being the oldest in my family and feeling like I had to save face at all times. Plus, I grew up in a black household and it was always “Fix your face before I fix it for you” type of situations. It really messed me up as I grew up until I realized suppression was causing more bad than good and found help in expressing my true emotions. I’m still a work in progress, but I’m doing MUCH better at expressing my true Self without fear.

[@vanessamartinez24]

I see finding Waldo isn't going to be easy this year either lol Getting back on topic... I try my best to be expressive, but the depth of it depends on the individual I'm with and the level of comfort/ trust I feel. Great topic guys & I support your idea of making a video on "love signs and love languages"!!

[@eeciaj5920]

JBros and their super friends! Love the episode. Letssss gooooo

[@michaelmichael9623]

what tim said about choosing not to speak about your feelings to not add 'burden' to people around you resonated with me. i also agree that this idea of "having feelings = weak" is now being challenged/dismissed, but you know, irl, i highly doubt a conversation like this with my asian bros will happen anytime soon

[@JBRODUCTION]

Truth,... Hey, but one bro at a time. haha

[@yungsteez541]

Fantastic video J Brosss. Love the squad

[@workofivory]

When you guys talk about love languages, remember that there is a difference between how you receive and give love! And that the two can be different. Awesome seeing you guys discussing this topic. Btw not all girls see guys who haven’t dated as a red flag.. yes it helps when you have previous experience but rly if each person is kind and both want to grow in the relationship that’s all that matters in the end.

[@itsokaytobeweird5021]

You guys really bring out the best topics to discuss about .. this is a very crucial topic especially in Asian household.. #lovefromindia

[@ansonkwok9155]

The best episode the bros have ever made🥺

[@deebacon9590]

Very emotionally open here as well as the hubby!

[@JBRODUCTION]

dana the queen of fitness and emotional gainz

[@sln0175]

Today I called up a friend because I was so sure she was upset with me. I wanted to make sure we talked so that we could clear up any misunderstandings. I honestly would have not reached out to her due to feeling guilty/embarrassed/etc., but I decided to muster up a little courage and give her a call. When I spoke with her I found out she wasn’t upset at all. We laughed about it and I felt so silly, but she was very understanding and was glad I called. We were able to talk about the situation 😅 Talking about feelings can be hard! So, I appreciate seeing how all of you were so open with each other throughout this video. I think this level of openness and vulnerability is what helps have good and healthy relationships. One thing that has helped me communicate a little better/share my feelings is knowing that no one can read my mind (as silly as that sounds, but I forget). It really takes us being willing to share and put ourselves out there so others can understand us a little better and us understand as well. Sharing my feelings has always been a struggle, but like you guys said, becoming aware and seeking opportunities for growth can definitely help.

[@mr.o6678]

you opppasss are a whole new love language of itself ❤

[@sky_horangi]

Such a good topic you decided to talk about! I really enjoyed it ^^ Speaking from my personal experience, I am a girl, but frankly speaking I am so bad with expressing my emotions with words lol When dealing with blue or tough feelings I tend to keep it to myself, I rarely open up to someone about it, and even if I do, i cannot talk about it with my peers, but rather with older people than me who I am friends with. And expressing love with words, oh man that's a nightmare haha I am 23, but in whole my life I said the words 'I love you' only twice! I mean, seriously said them, not jokingly (ofc, I say them in jokes more often), and it wasn't even a romantic relationship. I said those words to my mother and my friend 언니. Our family is so closed when it comes to expressing or even talking about our emotions, I'm hungry or I'm hurting are almost only 'emotions' I've learned to express growing up. And it's so dumb when I compare my other achievements to my inability to express my emotions, so yeah, I've been learning how to for some time haha It's not like I don't love or don't care, I just express it in different ways. For example, I also tend to cook for the person I love or want to show my gratitude to. I like writing letters, or making some handmade gifts. Thank you for such a great video!! It is definitely a topic we need to talk about more. Take care and all the best!

[@billionsandbillionsonly2663]

never clicked so fast this squad is honestly full timepass

[@JBRODUCTION]

🥰🥰🥰🥰 from each of us

[@chau.ng_]

Love this! We need a pt.2 🙌

[@shelbylaw9161]

As people gets older.. it takes a longer time to pour their hearts out to each other.. love the outfits🤩😬🥰.. very Christmas-sy.. 🥳🌈😍

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

Yay new video! Insightful and I like the acting ^_^

[@marcelinanand7391]

It's nice to hear man expressing feelings,

[@WhoElseWillIHaveIceCreamWith]

This is a really great group of friends. All that's missing is the one that's a psychologist/therapist/counselor that is, of course, a gym bro

[@tatacathrina.9120]

We need more vlogs about "love signs and love language" from men to understand because women really don't know about this and don't get clear clues about this 😉✌

[@ak6872]

I agree... we need more on, what is the love language that men speak?

[@SB-gm9yx]

I was in a relationship with an emotionally stunted man who was desperate to have a good relationship, and together, we decided to try nonviolent communication to get our needs heard. It was defintely a big step up from our shouting matches and emotional blackmail sparring. I highly recommend it!

[@Rose-vn6kb]

Thank you John Chen for sharing because being honest and vulnerable requires confidence so it's great to see 👏🏾👏🏾. A shout out to @Jason Ki for also sharing and asking thoughtful questions 👏🏾👏🏾. @John Yoo and Tim, there was a great deal of "crickets" on your part 😂 but hopefully you'll keep asking yourselves those questions in private 🤞🏾.

[@nurathiah110]

You guys help me a lot. It's hard to find life partner cause I'm just clueless about guys. Thank you for sharing.

[@JBRODUCTION]

we are all finding our way ! thanks for sharing with us ~

[@andreamonique3008]

This was a great topic for a video. I have some trouble expressing my emotions so I try to start my relationships being honest about that and try to learn how the guy I'm dating want me to communicate my emotions. I think its easier to love someone the way they want to be loved than how you like to receive

[@elizabethbrushwood2639]

This was really good. It makes me understand the men in my family a little better and will be good knowledge for my future relationships. Also not all girls find it a red flag that a man hasn’t dated much. What’s concerning is a lack of emotional maturity. I met couples who have fantastic relationships and great emotional maturity even though they had only dated each other. I think it just depends on the person and their history.

[@40thCenturyTrolls]

Love this series. I think I'd struggle to talk about this with my asian bros irl.

[@joycemacayana1946]

4Bros are Back! 👌🏻 Wait, are the necklaces the same too? You guys are so cute. 😍 hahaha! Omygosh, I laughed at the imaginary letter by CJC 😜✌🏻 It looks like it really happend, if I received it, I would be like "Oh your journal for today is great, dear diary 235lbs, nice! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻!" 🤭🤭✌🏻 I just really cant even wit you guys with these side comments, captions, John's face at the first red flag .. 👏🏻👏🏻 way too funny! 🤣🤣🤣 Still laughing here.😅 Open. Honestly, Jason's idea about telling/sharing to your friends/partner about past relationship is a good one for me (which I also lowkey do). It can be a way for people to see how I react to situations that has happend, a way to understand me better like my decisions, my solutions to problems that would also give people a way to know me better. at the same time makes us feel comfortable to open up things and learn from each other, like what to do, what to avoid in the future. It could also be a way to know & how to deal with love language of people without even asking. Ya know. 🙊 Good to see you all together, having fun and all. Great content. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻See you on your next post. Kudos! 👊🏻💪🏻💚💚💚💚

[@rochelledeclaro8780]

Looking forward to another episode evolving the “CJC thing” 😄 perhaps some are experiencing the same though they are unaware or probably staring on the blank paper 😅🤣

[@lakshmyvaithiswaran4274]

Love from India! Loved this segment💜 btw it was fun to watch this ep

[@TheAnimefan56009]

My fiancé and I are a 20 year difference! He is 47 and I (27F), I am his first ever relationship. I never seen it as a red flag that he has never been in a relationship before. We teach each other things each day. It also gives and shows him what it truly means to be loved and how he should be loved since no one ever gave him the chance to be their bf. Him and I are very happy together.

[@michm6780]

I love these bro talks 😎💖

[@pavang00]

Please do more episodes like this one. I enjoy this one and the other ones where Tim was in there.

[@judithmonton7455]

It so nice listening to this topic. Before this video, I have this impression that you're all heartbreakers esp. Tim 😄. Looking forward to more conversation from the F4.

[@maryjanewesterlund9958]

I agree - I have thought Tim put out a bit of a bad vibe in the couple of videos where I’ve seen him; maybe sort of an insensitive player. He came across a little better in this discussion. Guys will absolutely benefit from understanding and developing their ability to express genuine feelings. “Emotionally unavailable man” is a red flag to observant women.

[@alisonlejeune614]

Firstly all podcasts are 100 times better in costume 👍😉 and Thank you guys, it was fascinating to listen to. Us guys in UK also suffer from the 'nightmare' that is fear of showing emotions and or vulnerablability. I have started a new relationship and it all makes sense. When you come out of a marriage of 25yrs (yes I do have young face) It's like going back to square one especially if new partner is also divorce 1 partner hahahah. As we say in uk "Cheers" for the info chaps 🙏😉

[@j6642-]

John is right, girls prefer to date man with experience in relationships, because girls don't want to go through the teaching and heartbreaking to teach her man how to love her. I think both man and women should learn how to express their love in the way their partner want. for example, I love apple so much but u get me orange with ur effort just want make me happy. Still, love this video! Hope to see a part two!🥰

[@cl8045]

Ya’ll have great chemistry 🤍

[@23winnijke]

Oh God.. this is so good.👍👍👏👏👏👏

[@amandachoi5257]

I want more videos of this series… Pleaserreeee

[@serahrokotabuivalu8531]

You guys looks sooo sweet like Christmas candy stick 🙈🙈😍😍😍love the video 👍❤❤❤❤thanks jbro 😍😍❤

[@aladyknight1314]

Could you guys do a video all about break ups from a guy's pov? Like do you guys miss us? Are yall also hurting? Do you regret it? Would you want to come back? Are the stages of a break up from a guy pov real? Unfollow ex on social media? Why do guys post more on social media after a break up? Honestly, I have so many questions, I just want to be a guest and pick your brains for break up clarity.

[@marcelinanand7391]

Luv this talk,how about more different topics,luv u guys

[@candiceslayters2251]

Congratulations and well done guys👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏. Keep it up👍

[@diwamadrideo1436]

TBH, being emotionally open with your significant other is a game-changer. Especially if you have been together for quite some time. But like what you said, it's a double-edged sword. It takes a lot of courage for a guy to admit how you're really feeling with your significant other. Being biased aside, if you are open with how you feel the other person should be really appreciative of the effort you'll put in opening up about your feelings if you're one of those "emotionally guarded" types.

[@snowstar000]

This was such an intriguing topic.. well anything pertaining to men and relationships..*_*

[@elizabethchestnut632]

I like to think that I'm emotionally open/available/expressive, but realized that I can be emotionally callous when I'm not feeling the same level of interest as the other person. One of my own ice breaker questions I like to ask people is: when was the last time you cried? The answers have been really insightful. I think people tend to be extra cautious about dating people who haven't been in relationships before because we don't want a stage 5 clinger. I would rather be with a partner that's level-headed, has a realistic view of things, and isn't always wearing rose colored glasses. I want to be with someone who can be romantic but I don't want to be with someone who romanticizes romance. Not sure if that makes sense or not 😅

[@alisonlejeune614]

Definitely makes sense, but I think secretly there is also a part of us "sceptical sifters' that might not realise we are just a little bit withheld bit frightened to showing too much romance ourselves????

[@elizabethchestnut632]

@@alisonlejeune614 yes, that too!! I am a romantic person myself and I tried to keep that hidden/subdued during my last long term relationship because of my partner. I was miserable. I think everyone is better off when they can be vulnerable enough to be the most authentic version of themselves.

[@miraali8440]

It's much easier to share your thoughts, the intellectual information that is in your brain, than your feelings. Both women and men can have a difficult time expressing feelings, although male partners seem to have an even harder time with heart-to-heart communication. Sharing the depth of your feelings that are in your heart takes emotional risk and courage, as it can make you feel exposed and vulnerable. However, expressing your feelings is also the very thing that will create closeness and connection in your relationship. By sharing what is in your heart with your partner, you can achieve deeper

[@surabhipillai5844]

Low key roasting JC..🙃…I guess a lot of this is also acquired from how you see your parents (or people close to you) express and communicate with their partners…nice to see conversations finally happening around this topic though…👍🏽

[@chenitals]

Gotta work on those emotional gains to evolve from a CJC! Nowadays, I love all types of #gains

[@JBRODUCTION]

the OG of the CJC . we salute (roast) you and your emotional gainz, sir

[@MOONYWormtail]

When I read coming up as coming out??? Ahahha love the friendship

[@kyli3wu992]

Omg, thanks for sharing more insights on this topic. Now I understand why my husband is not expressive that it sometimes frustrates me. We are in long distance relationship now due to international border closure caused by the pandemic. Last Friday I have a bouquet of flowers delivered to him to surprise him. That’s me being romantic. He takes a picture and posts on fb with caption: Hahaha! (and tag me) while I post in my fb: Distance seems to be longer with this pandemic but that doesn’t stop me from being romantic to surprise him with his first fresh bouquet of flowers sent to his new apt. I ask him why he posts that caption that seems so awkward. He tells me that he thinks it’s funny to receive flowers and that’s him being really happy to receive them for the very first time while thanking me for the beautiful flowers and he loves them. 😅 Sometimes I wish he’s more expressive with words but now come to think of it, he’s like John Chen who couldn’t express feelings well in writing. He has a different love language.

[@bibianazelinska3066]

I think how to express feelings and how to express love are two different things. For example it's more mature to say to your partner that you are tired/had hard day instead of screaming at them - you express your emotions.😌 On the other side the way you express love by spending time together or cooking for them is both okay but it's important to communicate about it to not end up misunderstood. I feel like a lot of people did not grow up in homes with emotionally mature parents and now are finally learning how to express and process emotions. From my experience my parents were always roasting each other, and when I was in relationship I was doing the same. But sometimes it was soo brutal he thought I did not actually love him lol 🤣 lesson learned! Guy not having girlfriend before can be red flag😁 depends on person. I met a boy, he was typical "nice guy", had ton of female friends but never dated anyone...

[@virginiaperez8485]

He had me rolling I laughter when he said this is my sugar daddy 😂😂😂

[@daphnecui6683]

when a kickass lawyer talks about his feeling 🥺

[@JBRODUCTION]

It's illegal for lawyers to have feelin's haha

[@user-hg8ld4gn3x]

I'm happy to listening in your conversation guys I I watching you over and over again but I'm not satisfied to watching.

[@spareld]

I'm going to answer the question from a female prospective and who is also not Asian. 1. Are men emotionally insecure? yes 2. why do men have difficulty expressing how they feel? I think it has something to do with the Y chromosome, in my opinion 3. Have emotionally callous affected your relationship? nope, I think a person who isn't emotionally available should not waste another person's time. CJC said "in collage, she used to write me letters and love notes". That is so cute and personable💓 4. Have you experienced this with your partner? no, I'm more of a patient person and would consider that he's introverted. So sometimes people just need a little bit more time to express themselves. I can understand maybe after a year or so, I would questioning how he feels about the relationship. 5. How have your love language affected your relationship? I don't know, I do feel like I gave more than the guy did. I was definitely more emotionally available than he was. 6. How can you overcome this? uummm communication, maybe? what is wrong with expressing to the other person how you want to be treated, or what you expect from the relationship. *I love Jason's answers" 7. Do a girl thinks that a guy with no dating experience is more work? no, he's pure. But how many guys are actually honest about this though? I don't think it's a red flag. Me personally I actually have more respect for that. Can you imagine being with someone who is automatically a ladies man? that's a turn off and would make me more insecure and not trust him. 8. Are men insecure about crying? only when someone hurts them. when they hurt others, they don't care. 9. How do you start a conversation with an unexpressive man? Get to know a person as a friend first. Become a friend and it may can grow into something else. "Jason is goals" yes women like to see a man express his feelings" 10. When do you feel most connected with your partner? when he's expressing his feelings *poor CJC*

[@siskasugiaman]

Finally 4Brossss 🔥🔥

[@JBRODUCTION]

we feel the love tonight

[@melquin4852]

Jason, that’s what I do. I just listen and let my guy friends share whatever they feel. But I also make sure that I too feel those feeling; by understanding them. I don’t even pry them to tell me. Damn, I guess that’s why I am always in the friend zone.

[@mariapaola1453]

i think love language is one thing and emotional intimacy is another. as a female, when my partner is honest about his feelings and open to talking about the most vulnerable and maybe difficult stuff within the relationship is when we as females can absorb and share that emotional intimacy that in a way strengthen the relationship rather than just being 'having a boyfriend'.

[@som3000]

It's interesting how this discussion focuses on some men not being able to express their feelings.. it can be true for women as well. With women this problem stems from the thought that if I express how I feel I might come across as "too much" and he might not be interested in me anymore. That being said it should be established that anyone not expressing their true feelings becomes a toxic person leaving their partner doubting if they are as much into them... I used to be an emotionally closed person but my interaction with asians have helped me. I love how they even talk about difficult topics

[@itsme9126]

In the middle of doing my assignment, accidentally opened KZbin, saw jbro's video posted one hour ago, quickly click the video. Even though I had never been in any r/ship b4, I still enjoy. (🚩😂)

[@jadew8018]

Something else that definitely happens is that sometimes relationships can close some guys off to emotional/ vulnerable communication. My ex was so traumatized by his ex and also family that he was afraid to open up and really be vulnerable with me because his trust was really badly damaged. Emotionally mature men usually also have sisters and are very close with them at least from my personal experience.

[@icingcake]

Oooo, 1:40 kicking it off with real stuff! I’m somewhat emotionally clueless / callous. I’ve actually learned to be more vulnerable with my current “person” - he’s better at dealing with people’s emotions. 5:43 This was actually sad 😢 no wonder CJC happens 😂. I’ve only realized how emotionally isolated guys are recently but still I don’t think I could deal with the CJC situation haha. Oo 11:55, 15:10 can confirm, wow Jason really is more emotional than I thought 😆

[@JBRODUCTION]

you are a very astute listener . i would've borrowed ur notes in school

[@icingcake]

@@JBRODUCTION Gee thanks! but just FYI I take terrible notes 😝 despite being a good test taker 🤣

[@ThanwaratS]

F4 haha, looking fwd to the love languages episode :) I understand emotionless guys or girls haha cuz sometimes girls can be emotionless as well

[@ashleyfabro7616]

can your videos be longer please hahaha so i can sit through a whole meal and enjoy it haha

[@robinlaw4567]

I am obsessed with Tim now

[@virginiaperez8485]

Wow in body scale cool Dr Yoo