Why I BROKE UP with my THAI girlfriend

[@GoneAdrift]

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[@harbingeroffate9959]

The White Knight Syndrome never works out for the better. For either party.

[@GoneAdrift]

@@harbingeroffate9959 Seems so mate 🙏🏻

[@skipthemiddleman7892]

@@GoneAdrift I think that what you have done made a real difference and that your humbleness makes you a king. Thank you, I find you inspiring.

[@bangkokbert3440]

One thing we all learn living in Thailand is to avoid any relationship where you have to constantly pump large sums of money into her family to keep the relationship going. Whilst all these stories of financial hardships etc. are often true, it's simply not worth the stress of dealing with having to come to terms with how much you've spent on that relationship at the inevitable end of it.

[@mikeyboy3054]

Perfectly said.

[@AmbientWanderer]

I live for this!!

[@edmccarthy6228]

We come to these places for LESS STRESS! Then we take on more stress when we move there? How does this make sense? For what? Because we are lonely? WAKE UP

[@benfox5143]

Hey mate, I enjoy your channel!! Fair call on the situation, a few really do get your position, trust me. Did you get back the large sum of $ your mum donated? All the best for the future

[@ludovicweekers9682]

Hope your ok mate

[@TonyMontana-tm7ul]

Sad part is,,,,, after you're gone, another sucker comes along to take your place.

[@elicohen5073]

Pretty much

[@PATRIOT-gt5vr]

dude, you got the raw end of the deal. don't sell yourself short. she has no chance without you. good for you to pull the plug. never get involved in any woman's debt...from any country.

[@lenseofficial]

@@waterbug1135 frankly, she's not even that hot either

[@kevinreily2529]

Avoid any woman's debt from "any country". True that. Lots of girls/women in the US don't know how to live within their means and they are looking for a guy/wallet just like you.

[@sonamphel1124]

As long as money doesn’t stop, relationships don’t stop. Once money stops then everything stops that’s the Thai cultures. No money, no honey.

[@mikedezo424]

yup you could literally hand them money 364 day out of the year and if you don't on the 365th day you are a bad man and they have no memory of the money you gave them every other day and give you big attitude.

[@OzDelphi]

Briffault's Law.

[@chase8855]

For every dollar you gotta pump 5x that amount 😂😂

[@dietmarbirkmann55]

I disagree. You're generalising way too much. To a degree that is insulting to many Thai women

[@nybartekny]

@@mikedezo424 in my relationship was very similar. First oh baby i need to pay phone bill latter insurance bill latter my grandma need cash for medicine. Latter her house needed refurbishment i was obviously expected to pay but i didnt want to so she started to say that she will need to go to work for one year and we will not see each other for long time so i paid. Latter when the house was done she started telling me that she will need to buy car so she can drive your grandma because she is getting too old to drive on the back of motorbike. Always something. I was covering all her bills/expenses. I was buying food/washing powder/cleaning appliances for her grandma(her brother was living in the same house with his kid in the house so i was basicly paying for him too and it was so annoying because everytime i was there ive seen this guy just sitting and drinking alcohol) When i was asking her to go find a job so she can help me little bit with the money she was getting unhappy and depressed there was more and more arguing. its unfortunately 95% about money. Yes she was cooking cleaning the house but there was never any other support from her. And she was never satisfied what i was doing for her she keept compering me to other guys that ohh look this guy sanding my friend this and this amount of money he build house for her he bought her brand new iphone for 40k etc. I was in this relationship for 2 years but it was making me more and more unhappy everyday.

[@deltakoro]

bro classic Thai long con game. You pay for everything . Learn from it . don't get caught up again in the future.

[@SkellyGamingCreates]

All too common story. Thailand has never been the place to go to seek your fortune, if you have no independent outside source of income it'll eventually chew you up and spit you out.

[@GlitteratiLive]

Sadly, it is far more common in areas tourists typically are exposed to. Elsewhere it is far rarer and slowly vanishing as the middle class grows. I personally know of two couples where the Thai lady took/takes care of her Western husband after moving to Thailand. No hyperbolic exageratiion, true stories. In my personal case, my wife followed me to Europe, has a respecable job here and nursed me back to health after a life-threatening disease. My retired Thai mother in law offered to go back to work if I should loose my job due to my disease (which wasn’t needed, of course).

[@GoneAdrift]

Rock solid!! 😍🙏🏻

[@dallasstorey]

I wish KZbin had more honest vids like this......

[@user-Jenfromdownunder]

Gosh I love this channel!!! I've not been privvy to bloke to bloke personal communications/support before finding your channel. Sam, bar a few, your subscribers reflect the qualities you posses as a well bought up and emotionally intelligent human being. You guys rock!!!

[@dallasstorey]

@@Dmanz67 Of course he's holding back. It's still preferable to '10 things to do on a rainy day in Bangkok' imho.

[@jonnyasia]

Sorry to hear this mate, gotta give you full credit for everything you did for her though. Take care

[@GoneAdrift]

Appreciate that a lot 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@ThePlainTruth1]

@@GoneAdrift yeh dude don't stress too much, as by the sounds of it life will be so much easier and enjoyable without them now! You seem pretty cool and genuine so will find something else soon, and now you have your wits about you can easily spot trouble next time.

[@phuketprivateisland441]

Sad to watch that video, mate. Thailand can be a tough place, and chews up a lot of people. You're a good soul, you will be fine.

[@freelancekate8919]

I don't see why you need to pay for everything, you're not her husband. You've done way to much and you will find someone else that you wont have to support and pay for everything. You did the right thing

[@stegura83]

You don't just marry a Thai girl. You marry her entire family.

[@iDontOwnAnApple]

Indeed. In this case the remit 'the nephews must have their house saved, we owe it to them!' was the test to see how much of a fool the author was, and boy this guy was bent over & reamed repeatedly. C'mon mate who was really pulling the strings...Granny?? I guess the penny finally dropped you were being scammed when Grannys debts became your next project Zero sympathy for the author - I just hope he's a real man and repays his family the money his girlfriend has stolen from him. Word of advice for the white knight Simps before they come here, go to a Thailand night life forum and just sit there reading the 'relationships' thread for a year - you will learn a lot about these women

[@stevesharp1823]

Don't judge all thai people with the same brush mate. As for the threads you advise to read for a year. I would imagine all those guys came to Thailand and sat in a bar every night and got pissed. Putting a massive target on there forehead for was prey. Wale up mate not all thai people are the same

[@colinadams1987]

fucking hell mate.....what were you thinking, getting involved seriously. get a small condo and live YOUR life

[@richardg8542]

100%!!!

[@jonmaher2531]

This will sound harsh, but they were a Thai family living way beyond their means. A house she didn't own and couldn't afford. Two loans on the family farm with house there they couldn't /didn't maintain, tractor, pickup truck, etc.... They were in way over their heads and instead of telling them or recognizing it, you enabled the situation, draining yourself too. Hopefully, you will figure out what you did wrong in this situation, rather than just think your a good man and did your best. It was not your best. Take a moment to think about how a little tough love might have ultimately made their situation and yours better. Peace out Bro.

[@GoneAdrift]

There’s no room in this country for western guidance. Not an inch

[@jonmaher2531]

@@GoneAdrift Then you have to just stay clear for your own good. It was a setback you just didn't need. Use that bean of yours! Peace out.

[@Gavin-uf6zb]

Yes he is, he really doesn't see what has happened to him and wants another poor sod to take over.​@@waterbug1135

[@jonmaher2531]

@@waterbug1135 I got you. Sammy was just not very smart in not recognizing the situation for what it was; particularly when he suggests that someone else should fill his shoes. I don't, however, necessarily think the Thai women had criminal or evil intent. I would argue that it's more of a cultural thing; something that has been learned and passed on for generations as a survival technique. I don't think we can always apply our own social norms to different cultures.

[@LongFinger021]

Im sorry but the familes finacial turmoil isnt your problem. You shouldnt have got involved in all this. They want you a farang cash cow to solve their problems. You seem like a good guy and they'll take advantage of your good nature. Grandmas house needs a rebuild aswell? 😂 Sling your hook

[@ThePlainTruth1]

yeh some greedy effers! Let them get off their butts and hustle for some cash, you're not a millionaire......yet

[@roadsofjapan6009]

We are not millionaires we can’t fix everyone’s problems , we have to start with ours.

[@markverhoeven7518]

unless you are a millionaire you should NEVER pay for other family members but your wife only. learn to say NO at start, if you give in one time, they expect you to pay all the time.

[@jking6620]

But, but, but....She's different. You know, she's special (Simon LOS). A Pattaya tinder date for the ages, such a delicious tale that covers most of the key areas (grandmas house, huge family debts, face, jealousy, scorn, many others). Was there infidelity mixed in as well? The problem is, regardless of what you would have done (or will do in the future), it's rarely ever truly appreciated as we would know it in the West. In fact, it can breed resentment, entitlement, and general disrespect for you throwing your money (and your families money) away to complete strangers. They may even think you are mentally ill. You will need to toughen up or SE Asia will eat your soft a** alive. Good luck as you seem to be a nice lad.

[@caphotography8536]

Keep going mate. Your content is great, fresh and honest. Your attitude is top notch, so if it wasnt meant to be, its better to finish amicably than to keep putting bandaids on until it turns to actual shit.

[@bzaps]

Sometimes things just don't work out, but no one can say you didn't try or didn't care. Onwards and upwards, Sam!

[@bzaps]

@@Row2nd Sorry mate but what are you talking about? If you had watched any of Sam's videos you would believe none of that.

[@kristiansinclair9964]

@@Row2nd It is easy to criticise the guy for walking away but we have no idea what went on to make him do that. It shows the level of stress and how unbearable things must have been for him to do that as no man will do this lightly. Those that do would never have got involved in the first place unless it was to take advantage. Clearly that was not the case.

[@aaaces01]

@@Row2ndHe took her problems without the capacity to fix them. If anything. she wasn’t upfront with him about how bad they were. Doesn’t make any of them bad but IF I had to any one of them disingenuous, it wouldn’t be Sam. Sometimes there are no winners, only losers. Hopefully though, it’s a lesson for Sam. Fool me once and all that.

[@Grimreapervlogs]

@@Row2nd do U personally know Sam ? Easy for viewers to have a view opinion and not even know the whole story. Sam doesn't need to tell everything in full detail and he definitely doesn't deserve comments like this he did a lot for Lele and her family and probably more then most guys would so honestly give the guy the credit he deserves and I know Sam isnt expecting or asking for and credit or praise from anyone he did all of it from his own heart and kindness.

[@thomasfriis8106]

I think we csn agree that Sam has done much more than most of us would do for his girlfriend. Sam is a lot nicer than me. That's for sure. I am to be tested now. My thai girlfriends son just got killed last night in a fight. He was 17 years old.

[@keisone]

Very moving video bro, Huge props for not mentioning anything personal about the relationship.. If we don't see you making trips up to Bangkok now, we will know that YOU are the reason hahaha

[@HaYaTo_LogresJPRPG]

🍻Adam always with Sam. 👍🏻💪🏻✌🏻🍻🍻🍻 friendship forever

[@keisone]

@@StephenWoodley-hb3ywoh believe me, we discussed it many times.. But the heart wants what it wants.. The good news is when I asked Sam if he has any regrets, he said not at all, he is happy to have had a positive impact on their life over the last year. At the end of the day it’s just money..

[@locospanish78]

@@keisone Yes Adam at the end of the day is just money and money comes and goes. but if you are not coming from a rich family or not rich but with enough money to live really good, then is hard to earn money, the amount of hours put into a job, the sweat and tears and all that stuff. Yes is only money but takes it time to get it... money doesnt grow on trees.

[@keisone]

@@locospanish78totally agree, but being single for a year and endless nights on walking street probably would have cost more really.. funnily enough, I’m way better financially having a girlfriend than when I was single and having 20k baht weekends 🤣🤣🤣

[@locospanish78]

@@keisone hahaha I never go to walking street not even in the day (waking street in Pattaya) I'm not paying those prices. We leave that to the Koreans and Chinese hahahaha.

[@thecookdogg]

Props to you Sammy. You supported and persevered for quite some time. You did what you could do. When the time comes and the line is reached you gotta do what you gotta do. Everyone here on your channel supports you mate. We got you. And you GOT this. Much love x COOKIE

[@summernatsmate]

Obviously we don't know the full story, so ignore me as necessary, but I must say this video makes me worried for you. I'm really hoping that you're being a gentleman here, and you've presented an overly diplomatic view of events. The idea that a woman in her situation is going to find someone who can be 100% emotionally present and also provide unlimited financial support for her and her family is...fanciful. Every woman in the world wants something like that, and there aren't many men who can offer it. You entered into a relationship with this girl. You put everything you had into supporting her, and went completely above and beyond what would reasonably be expected in any normal relationship. In those circumstances, her being frustrated at you being away from home is ridiculous. You were away from home to support her! If I was treated that way, I wouldn't be calling them a beautiful person, kind heart or a good soul. My view is that your good nature was taken advantage of. I know that values are very different in Thailand, but it's also not fair to the many Thai people who show remarkable kindness and honesty while dealing with circumstances beyond comprehension to constantly make excuses for dishonest and misleading behaviour. I struggle to see how letting you do all the hard work to support her family, while complaining that you aren't around is the behaviour of a "good soul". Obviously, you know her better than I do, so perhaps I'm wrong - I don't mean to judge too harshly. But here's what really worries me about this video. Just zoom out for a second. In your words, you left Australia because you were working in a highly demanding, stressful, poorly paid job in the welfare system. It was your job to intervene in broken families, where children were left homeless. You escaped to Thailand for a fresh start. And in your last year in Thailand, you've....been stressed, working on highly demanding projects to support a broken family, and prevent kids being left homeless. Except now you're not getting paid - this time you're paying for it. Isn't this what you left Australia to get away from? You frame it as using the skills you've developed over your career. And that's true. But another way of looking at it is that you jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire. You seem like a good person who genuinely wants to help others, and your life so far has shown exactly that. But beneath the "land of smiles" veneer, there's unfathomable poverty and misery in Thailand. There's no end to the people that need help, and will use every trick in the book to emotionally manipulate you. If you don't put some walls up, I guarantee you'll find yourself in the same situation pretty soon, and none of us want to see that.

[@carljung9230]

he's a natural chump. this pattern will repeat

[@bakbak35]

Good guys finish last

[@bakbak35]

Next time pick a single lady with no kids , dont take on someones else's problems , especially 3 of them .

[@mikeyboy3054]

You're a good man Sam. You tried your best to make it work. To be honest I don't know any financially secure and confident men who would want to take on her burden. All the guys I know with their lives together want nothing to do with someone else's financial issues and baggage, especially when moving to Thailand. Good learning experience. On to the next adventure!

[@masteryancodesan]

The financial part is potentially not a problem for many expats, but the time commitment of essentially adopting 3 kids is too much. Young couples need to be focused on growing their own bond and relationship, not saving the world. Foundations first.

[@keepitreal1547]

Exactly, I'm one of those & I 100% stay well away from anyone who's not self sufficient. Regardless of anything. It only leads to a miserable life, full of unwanted stress.

[@MrMagicplums]

Different culture….. odds are very slim that you were the exception but all the same stories pop up. “Grandma needs help back in the village” Another good dude gets taken for a ride.

[@Homebrand16092]

With all due respect, shouldn't Lele be trying to live within her means? if she can't afford a loan on a pool villa then the pool villa needs to go regardless of what she wants. I want a Ferrari but i can't afford one so i dont get it... simple as that.

[@yenc90]

Did you actually watch the video. It was her sisters house that was passed to her that already came with a mortgage. She wanted to keep it for her nephew and niece. Everyone deals with grief in a different way. Not everyone is ready to sell their dead parents or siblings house at first. I can understand why she wanted to keep it esecpially for the kids and Sam felt inclined to help out. TLDR; It's not as straight forward as Lele was naieve living beyond her means.

[@Homebrand16092]

I get the back story, horrible situation. Can't afford the mortgage, house needs to go. Can't put gasoline in the car or pay the car loan, car needs to go and you donwngrade to a scooter. This is what normal people do regardless of any other situation. I'm sure if there was equity in that property then she would be far better off using it towards scooling for her nephews and building a house in the country. The average person from the country in Asia can't afford a loan on a beach house and clearly it was brought by a foreigner with western money. house needs to go, not hearing it lol

[@GlitteratiLive]

You did not fall short in any way, remember that.

[@vktravellog1242]

Agree Sam really did his best

[@southerndiscomfort2412]

@@vktravellog1242 He did his best with what he knew at that moment in his life. Now he knows that to 'do his best' would have been not to have gotten involved with a Thai woman & her family who are massively in debt.

[@properjob79]

@@southerndiscomfort2412 EACTLY!! she knew what she was bringing the lad into..the whole "she was honest" from the start with her (very sad story)to make him feel sorry for her while leading him into that money pit was a green light for the family to take the piss even more so....the "he has good heart/jai dee" is another way of saying he's a sucker/fool/idiot with his money....any westerners patting him on the back saying well done are the next in line to fall victim..

[@wontbelongnow5567]

If you were a millionaire she would of never broke up with you .its sad to say, it was all about the money just like 90% of relationships are in thailand. You will find another lady no problem.

[@mikedezo424]

Yup bottomless money pits. Every other day a new problem arises that your money can fix

[@CaptainKremmen]

That's not really a fair equation. Most of the relationships that are about money are that way because of greed or incompetence. Someone being out of their depth financially because of trying to look after 3 orphans is different.

[@Nj-gt5fz]

All these girls in Pattaya have emotional and financial baggage that's why they leave their families ,kids and village ,this does not make them bad people. Just desperate for a way out. Better to get involved with a girl not connected to tourism if you know what I mean,a girl that has her own Income. You tried your best, I doubt if she will find a guy who has given more than you.

[@somnumna2606]

Don’t bet on it!

[@muajin]

Not all girls in pattaya are like this. There are many normal women that work there. (It’s just the ones guys seek are always the bad ones sadly)

[@theworldaccordingtohappyba2393]

@@muajin I did not hear him say she was bad. Just that she needed more than he could give. I think they are both good people and it just was not to be. Keis is right, he needs to keep at the KZbin gig as he is great at it and pursue the other opportunities that come from that. Moving back to Oz will just depress him

[@franksaunders6534]

Thanks for your honesty, Sam. Haven't met you, but your heart is in the right place and good things are in store for you.

[@peteonretreat2023]

Sammy, hit me up if you want to talk or just hang out dude. You’re a good dude and you got a friend in me.

[@liamharding5704]

Fair play for your honesty. U simply cant afford her situation. U put thousands into the house with your own money and your familys money but its not enough. Sad but true. New start for u you now. Get yourself sorted out cause im sure its upsetting for u that u cannot afford this. Stay single for 6 months. But one thing u said is that your girlfriend deserves financial stability. Nobody deserves financial security unless u earn it or if u are lucky. Life goes on.

[@TeutonicTrickster]

Do any women anywhere know how to lower their expectations on their standard of living or do they just expect men to fix everything for them

[@pavinder]

Sam, I'm floored to hear the whole story. You went so far above and beyond what most people would ever do. Total respect for you man. So much love in your heart, expressed through your actions. Even though it's taken a huge toll on you - in time and effort and money - rest assured you've done something with incredible integrity, and to be proud of.

[@mathewhunt81]

Hey brother, if she didnt fall in love with you and decide even if it didnt work that she wanted to be with you, then she wasnt as sweet as your eyes saw her to be. Any really nice girl should have loved you forever for trying so hard. Big props for trying so hard my brother. Dont give up. The love you gave to her wasnt wrong, she was just the wrong girl for you to give it to. The one that will appreciate your kindness is just around the next corner. my only advice is to just be choosy, we have time. Good luck, brother!

[@GoneAdrift]

🙏🏻

[@malcolmlewis4278]

Hmmmm..ok take five mate. Stop and think this over. You need to come back to Australia for a bit and go back to work... Your issue like many people in Thailand is a financial issue. I went through a similar situation where I had commitments and had worked and lived in Thailand for five years, but then my job came to a sudden end. We came back to Oz and now both work. I have a good corporate job and my Thai wife earned 78K last year working in a factory, so she is happy. She gets Superannuation and five weeks holiday pay on top of that...We do two 3 week trips to Thailand each year and well that is enough for us. Come home man and recharge. I have seen too many people hit rock over there and there is nothing worse than being in Thailand worrying about if you are going to have enough money for food next month. Thailand is more expensive than people think.

[@keisone]

I disagree with this, I think he needs to continue to build his KZbin channel, I had 1000’s of people tell me to give up and go back to Australia, now I earn more than my corporate job that took me decades to climb to.. don’t underestimate the money to be made in this 😊

[@StokesyslivingtheThailanddream]

⁠@@keisonegreat advice mate, if Sam really wants to stay and live in Thailand we as his community should support him, I only just recently myself moved to Thailand and it’s an amazing place to live, I enjoy it more then back home in Australia that’s Sure. As for Sam dust yourself off mate and just focus on yourself and your channel for now, be great to maybe meet you sometime for a beer and a yarn.

[@GoneAdrift]

Malc has been a big supporter for a while so I am happy to consider his suggestion. Though I do err towards Adam’s point… the opportunity for business here in the future is endless

[@tanthaman]

Simp

[@Mikeallen0283]

I agree with Adam, keep going mate

[@basc5026]

You’re a brave man with a heart of gold mate but you strayed away from the number one rule… Put yourself first and make sure you’re in a good place before you reach out and help others.

[@Fatfritterstravels]

Mate, you did what you could do, all with good intentions that's want matters in the end. Keep going with the channel as your content is quality above most of the others, hang in there.

[@streetfoodmagic2024]

That's a tough call for you both. Certainly appreciate your honesty and integrity to share with us all. I'm sure you came into each others life for a reason and maybe that purpose has now been served. Time to start a new chapter & open new doors matey. You're a good man but it doesn't take us to tell you that , just know when you look in the mirror that's exactly what you are!!

[@jonhobson3592]

I’m going to be in the same boat soon I think. The magic / spark is wearing off. Meant to meet, the purpose has been I think served too .. but it’s not working out , we’ve / I’ve tried but it’s getting more difficult. Amicably as best you can be when you part is sad & tough for sure but often so much better than nasty squabbles & kind of hatred feelings .onwards & upwards certainly no blame game ..

[@southerndiscomfort2412]

Men value love...Women love value.

[@neil82]

Every video i watch mate i admire your honesty and your good nature. You are a good bloke. Wishing you all the best in the future keep up the vids.

[@sebbster8703]

Keep ya chin up mate, that was a big commitment and you obviously have a heart of gold. Hopefully theres a spark that might keep you both together, we can only keep marching on!

[@Jason-zh7wo]

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending with Lele, Keep up the KZbin mate your channel will continue grow you do some interesting stuff 👍

[@glentiller349]

Oh Sam, Thailand isn’t fair and it can be a heartbreaker. What starts out as a kind gesture can snowball into an incredible burden. I’m speaking from a similar experience. You have done what you can and you’ve made the right choice.

[@GoneAdrift]

I appreciate your wisdom mate amongst a sea of rubbish

[@crisun]

im sorry to say this or im not really, but the right choice would have been not doing all of this , from the start to put his foot down tbh , but its not my money or life so i don't hate him or is angry with him in anyway i could have a beer with him any day ,i just feel he was a idiot/fool for falling and doing all of this ,can be that im a cold hearted bastered but i don't let my self fall in love !

[@martinsperr5729]

After going through all this in same way or another. Over years. Wow. I have all my respect for you. More than respect. You will have to hear so many times "how could you? Did you not suspect anything? It was clear from the start." The way you ultimately dealt with the "situation"... really great. Really great character.

[@ChocolateManInThailand]

Life goes on bro. I'll second that about Thai Legal Protection. Great team!

[@josephcarmichael1344]

Don't worry too much bro, there's hundreds of dudes just like you, who haven't learned the lesson yet. The damsel in distress will find a new knight to save her. I was waiting for you to say something about a "sick buffalo" back at the farm... anyway, good for you for finally understanding your situation and walking away from it.

[@theVariedLife]

Hi Sammy, just saw this on my feed and ouchie - sorry for what you went through. I spent a career in the US military with 12 years overseas. Spent time in a few countries. I"m currently retired overseas in Korea with my wife of 35 years. So we have seen this happen before with men who got into it with foreign girls. Girl has heart breaking story, man wants to help and starts shelling out money and it requires more and more money over time. Money isn't enough, girl doesn't want to work, yada, yada, yada and eventually they breakup and the man has much lighter pockets. I get it, bad things happen to people but if they don't want to work with you, thats a big red flag. Another red flag was the family getting loans and stuff they obviously couldn't afford, plain and simple. I wasn't rich when we got married so we bought a bank owned property because we couldn't afford a new house. Wife didn't know anything about fixing houses but she learned and was working hard right alongside of me (one house she put down over 900 sq ft of tile by herself). IMO if a women won't work with you to save the house, then she is not as invested as she claims. Perhaps its just immaturity but the result is the same, she wanted you to be the one to save the family and you fell for it. I hope you didn't lose too much money but at least you learned a very important lesson. Hang in there bro and be careful on the next go round.

[@GoneAdrift]

My man! Can’t argue with that sentiment 🙏🏻

[@theVariedLife]

@@GoneAdrift Yea the good thing is it could have been worse. Thanks for putting yourself out there so it can help others as well. Good stuff.

[@Lat265]

She did try a taxi driving job a few weeks ago, not sure how that went, she did try.

[@user-jl8ie6vb8r]

You wasted a year of your life and resources in heaven while all the red flags were there and you ignored them, I'm sure 100% that your friends spoke with you many times on this and you ignored them. If she needs a man who can provide financially, meaning a sponsor bigger then you, why did you enter this relationship in the first place? You should put yourself first in life, and not sacrifice your time and resources for strangers. You are not in Thailand to support poor women and their families. Next time go for a young woman, with NO kids (man, you can do better then this), and do NOT be her sponsor. How did you fall to this trap?! because she had a "good heart"? Wise up!!! do what makes YOU happy, draw women into your life and don't get drawn into their. I wish you the best new start now that you are free at last.

[@properjob79]

unfortunately this is the cold reality.

[@GlitteratiLive]

Thank you, captain obvious, for rubbing it in and rephrasing the conclusion he came to himself.

[@user-jl8ie6vb8r]

@@GlitteratiLive He should have avoided it and not wait till the bitter end

[@user-jl8ie6vb8r]

@@properjob79 Yes, but he has so many friends who knows all that, how did he manage to put himself in such a position.. so basic

[@properjob79]

@@user-jl8ie6vb8r aye,but you can only say too much mate ....who are we to hold back a man(adult) and a dream..he probably didn't tell them 100% of what was going on in fear of disaproval...anyone who's been thailand for along time will hear these situations alot....once we find the ONE its all out the window lol

[@marvin2554]

So sorry to hear that you broke up and it didn't work out. She is a wonderful person as you presented her on KZbin, but as you say there was unfortunately just too many things in her life that you could no longer help with. I do hope that you can remain friends and that you both find someone who provides what you both need and are looking for.

[@southerndiscomfort2412]

"...you both find someone who provides what you both need and are looking for." If you can handle it stay single in SE Asia... it makes life a hell of a lot easier.

[@pj-vq3by]

Good stuff brother...chin up mate When i watched a few weeks ago and saw you spending all your money to help her family i thought 'this isnt going to end well" You need to remember they were already living this way, it wasn't because of you, so its not your responsibility to fix anything for the "family" As an outsider and someone who's been through alot of BS in life, including severe depression and other mental health issues...what ive learned is quitting drinking all alcohol, good diet and exrcise is paramount and can make a world of difference(i feel like a new person 18 months after quitting drinking) I wish you the best of luck brother

[@shane.lockandload]

Shit situation but understand 100% where you’re coming from. Content is real and I love your channel for that. All the best Pal.

[@Skenners]

that sucks, buddy, but ultimately, you do what you need to do. You did your best and thats all you can ask for. You're a good man and thats ultimately why we are all here. Remember what im always saying "there are few things in life that you cant bounce back from with enough time"

[@Skenners]

also, theres a lot of males in your comments only talking about the money. it. is. only. money. it will come back with enough work and its also a life lesson on life and work balance. Did you have great times with lele? were you good with each other? did you learn something from the relationship? then it was worth every single baht. eff everyone else.

[@craignewton8256]

Sorry to hear this mate, it takes a big person to realise this and what you done in the last year is unbelievable to help a family stay together and have a safe place. Keep your utube videos coming. Your a great person and your time will come when u meet someone. Take some time out for u now and some great time with Keys your mate.

[@mm2222-u3w]

chin up big fella,a 1 year relationship with a thai bird is like 10 years with anyone else i find .not sure why but relationships in thailand are just way more intense on every level ,not sure if other people find that or not .

[@2account134]

That's why we watch you mate. You're honest and open without all the fake success others try to pretend. Can totally understand why you guys made the tough decision. You can't help others if you don't put your own wellbeing first (kinda like oxygen masks on the airplane)

[@craigh714]

Outrageously hard to do what you did, stepping in and trying to assist!! Youre a good man!

[@acrowseyeview6793]

Hope you’re doing ok Sam, really enjoy your videos & you’re honesty in them. Hopefully things will start to get better & you get back to your happy self.

[@Matt-ee3qg]

Sam you done your best for her thanks for all the content you both done , I completely understand this video now from one Aussie to other it’s time to move forward and look after yourself and keep pumping out the videos

[@justFreddieThailand]

You have a bright future you’re one of the best videographers I’ve ever seen. I watch all your videos. I’m very sure you’re going to be okay, fella.

[@GoneAdrift]

I'll be fine. Thanking you

[@AsiaStreet365]

Cool, ya free to have fun now. Enjoy life and take it easy mate✌

[@elliotto7865]

Thanks for sharing this Sam . I’ve been watching your content for few months now , you seem a great guy , all the best brother 👍🏼

[@mannyandhisbike]

Let's meet up again soon man. This city is slowly draining and killing us. Impossible to have a normal life, living in Pattaya, for broke bastards like us.

[@vktravellog1242]

Oh wow didnt know what you both were going through. I will be praying for both of you in hopes that things get better. Makes me sad to think that Lele will not be part of your life. One day you will look back and be proud of your journey. You did more than any other man could have endure. Your a great guy Sam!

[@RapiD0007]

All I can say from experience things happen for a reason but your honesty and bravery to put it out there is commendable. Life is never easy there always be challenges in our way and it’s how we deal with them going forward that makes you the person you are, you haven’t failed you tried. I hope things improve for you. Keep your chins up.

[@TravelGlitch]

Its now a time to focus on you. Focus on your health, youtube, friendships etc. Im excited for the next chapter in your story, Sam 🙏

[@13GOLGO13]

Trying to fix other peoples problems trends in one direction that almost always ends with the person helping becoming the problem. A Thai girlfriend's problems are not anybody but hers. Watch how fast and easily they will walk away at any chance once the property is fixed or the hint of not paying for everything. The saying "no money, no honey" doesn't just mean adult fun. A line from a song from a long time ago "I can picture every move a man can make getting lost in her lovin' is your first mistake". It was true back then and still is today. People go to Thailand and instantly fall in love. I understand it because the West treat men so poorly and many yearn to be treated with kindness and respect. The walls crumble and they are now at the mercy of the "rusulka". She will smile, softly touch/speak, and even embrace then pull you under water. Tinder is the modern version of picking up a bar girl. This is the kindest version I could write. Best wishes to you wherever you end up.

[@ferney2936]

Gordon Lightfoot singing Daylight Katy.....you're right, it was a long time ago

[@ianallen5053]

Mate, sorry to hear that. You’re both lovely people & I hope that your futures will bring happiness to you wherever it takes you. Good luck mate & hang in there ! 👍

[@user-Jenfromdownunder]

I'm sorry your relationship ended the way it did. You seem like a caring and decent bloke. Spend time with people who provide you with as much support as you give them and you'll be back to being you minus the heartache soon enough As you know, to survive 14 years in the welfare industry, you cannot fix everyone or everything. Your former girlfriend is university educated therefore I'm sure she is more than capable of making hard decisions and resolving any issue which comes her way. To say she needs to meet someone who can give her what she needs and deserves is a very sad indictment on expectations when forming relationships in whatever country we're in. Take care xx

[@foxmulder4560]

Sorry to hear this , been following for a while now, I remember the impact work had on your mental health and I was envious of how you packed it all up and just did the move, and it was very brave of you diving into the unknown as you did. You really took on a lot of responsibility which is never easy to do, I hope you both find what you need in your lives. Stay strong mate.

[@irabankston3390]

Wow, your a great guy. I think u really Manned up, should be proud of yourself. I think it's great you escaped the stress/pressure. Learn n move on brother, you'll be a better man down the road. Take care, be safe

[@SC-bu6uy]

It's great to see your honesty and openness in sharing your experiences. I've been married to my Thai wife for 11 years. It’s a challenge like any other marriage out there. Assuming that all women from Thailand are solely focused on money is also inaccurate. With a population of 35 million women in Thailand, it's clear that diversity and individuality exist. So it’s on you to choose wisely guys..!

[@real_landmark]

I'm sorry to hear this. You've been honest about you own problems. Don't start carrying others problem too. Make your life less complicated in the future, think more about your self cause no one else will. Focus on making more vids. about the problems in Thailand instead. Keep it going brother!💪

[@rudirude4357]

You don't have to share your private moments with 10,000 strangers. Also remember how important face is in Thailand. This is doing Lei Lei zero favours.

[@rudirude4357]

@@shamusshamus6251 grow up. She told old mate right from the get go what the situation was. He walked into it like a white knight hoping to save the day. My advice is to any chap is don't step up if you don't have the ability to match your ambition to be 'the nice guy'. You young blokes that don't know how to act like actual men are embarrassing TBH. You are either simping hard or being little incel angry pants children. Learn to be able to take care of your business and provide and protect your woman before opening your mouth. Honestly that would be an awesome start. FTR my wife is 22 years younger than me, stunning and is a trad wife who worships me. That is the power of knowing how to be a man.

[@Lat265]

@@rudirude4357 Triad wife? She's Chinese mobster? Don't get involved in anything like that!

[@Peonia-Melbourne]

question, when her sister and husband passed, surely she would have looked into the legalities of titles etc, that side doesn't make sense

[@shaunellison6325]

You did make a Difference mate and that’s a lot to be proud of. You got a good heart and u exceeded expectations. Some things are just not meant be. God bless u man!🙏✌️

[@tonythaiger93]

Unless Thai girl you meet is from super loaded family, there is a high chance that she already has a child and husband at age 18. The choice is yours. She will put her child as utmost priority vs. Foreign man who just showed up in Thailand 🇹🇭

[@RamzeTravels]

As someone who knows you outside of KZbin and have seen what you guys have been through, I know it’s not easy. For those who have such damaged souls that they need to come on here and make snide comments, get some help. He didn’t ask for your pity and like all of KZbin, you chose to watch this video. Show me a man who hasn’t done this or worse at some point or another and I’ll show you a man who hasn’t lived! This is how we grow and mature. Sometimes through our pain and other times if we’re lucky, through the pain of others. Everyone learned something and got something out of this. Viewers, Sammy and Lele. Here’s hoping that everyone is a better human being for being a part of this. Don’t let the broken bring you down Sammy. Small acts of kindness are all we are good for in this world. 🙏❤

[@jeremywatley849]

You hit nail on the head. Its not our place to judge outherz about their situation. We all make mistakes but i view mistakes as learning experiences

[@DarrenC-Thailand]

It's a shame, Sam, you seemed like a solid couple. Wishing you both well, and keep the content coming.

[@deadeyedetailing1057]

Brother, i did exactly the same thing in the UK. I left with nothing but the feeling of helping a awsome lady, with kids, that had had a very very troubled past. We go on with sadness and happiness in our hearts. Much ❤ brother

[@bellison4832]

Wow! That's a lot of time, money, effort and stress to learn a common lesson that your friend Keys probably was warning you about. Lesson learned right. I've watched most of your videos and I will say you and your friend Keys produce some of the best quality vids and I do enjoy them. Most vloggers can't speak, have little to no real content and just simply walk around showing images of girls and the streets while you and Keys have great dialog and a message to convey. I like that. Keep it up. As for your Thai drama...learn from it and move on. You obviously are creative, inspirational and industrious. If anyone can start over it's you. Take care bud and hope it all works out with your Ex.

[@GoneAdrift]

Appreciated mate

[@marcgoldbergdogtrainer]

It’s not you. It’s me. Classic. You have a good heart which they love in a man because we make good water buffaloes. That’s actually fine when you know what you’re getting into and it’s not too big a drain financially. But the target may constantly move. Yours did. It’s the helper in you. I have that too but we such people have to be very careful not to get in too deep and enable. It’s a fine line. All the best mate.

[@GoneAdrift]

Appreciated Sir

[@michaelthegreat44]

Sam, firstly ignore the comments that are negative, We are human, and lived experience is the how we grow, relationships in Thailand are tricky, I will be in Pattaya in a month, if you would like to meet up for a chat. Lunch on me. Surround yourself with things that won't lead down a spiral, perhaps a road trip somewhere new with just you and your camera. As for people being critical of the girl, having lived here in Bangkok/ Thailand for 13 years , growing up in the west we can judge from afar but we don't have the same upbringing as them, we don't have the same family expectations. be safe and be well

[@GoneAdrift]

@@michaelthegreat44 Michael the Great indeed. I’ve pinned your comment as an example to the 100 or so blokes I had to ban tonight :)

[@michaelthegreat44]

I am sorry to read some of these comments, people can be experts from the comfort of their own lounge chair, pay them no attention. Where people really fail to grasp in the 2 weeks most spend in Phuket or Bangkok and think they are experts on thai anthropology if they they don't have the same welfare structure as most countries do, often they have kids young out of inherited need, some what a insurance for income assistance for the future, I had a Thai girl explain it to me once near the University, sort of like a continual cycle or birth and support.. We are wealthy by most Thai peoples standards, those that come over on pensions of 30-50k a month are still far wealthier than a huge proportion of the population here. My advice or at very least something to consider for all the subs saying nasty things. The chances are the girl any of you want to date, and again I am not talking the bar girl you met on your holiday, but a girl just making a living, is supporting their family in one way or another, and the reality is IF and it is ultimately is IF you want to get in a real relationship with one of them and occupy her time, you are going to have to accept that you will never be the centre of her world, as there are people that rely on her, so if she is spending time with you, that is time that she could be making money and helping her family, Sure there are exceptions and you may date a Hiso girl, but unless you wealthy yourself, are fluent in Thai and going to the right places that is pretty unlikely, Initially I came here and brought my western logic and problem solving ability to most situations, I quickly found that it either wasn't accepted and wasn't heeded, first few times I got annoyed, then I learned to ensure I protected myself and applied a internal risk management to pretty much most situations. Does the persons actions for decisions have a consequence to me yes /no , if yes be more vested in the outcome. if not don't... I just don't like people saying Thai women are all gold diggers, perception and perspective are different But anyway Sam, my suggestion for you, and I am more than happy to meet up ( I will email you) when I am back in Pattaya, is to invest now in yourself, you want to make Thailand your home, start a Thai language course, service the bike, ( or upgrade to a safer road one, get a back pack and do series of content related trips, Maybe a Pattaya to Chiang Mai, series..To me you have the enviable position of being able to what you want to great content, Be safe and take care everyone. life is for living

[@damonl.8224]

@@GoneAdrift Armchair experts with potty mouths

[@daviddughyio5158]

@@michaelthegreat44 what is Hiso girl and did you mean 30-50k per year because per month is a bucket load of money.

[@michaelthegreat44]

@@daviddughyio5158 Hi David, Hiso is a term used for high society.. no I mean age pension per month for an Australian is about 1000 per fortnight ($26K AUD a year) so around 46k baht a month, I was merely trying to illustrate that, many people from the west even on their welfare payments would be considered wealthy by thai standards

[@unfilteredtraveldiaries]

Ah man, I just watched this and it hit me in the feels! ❤ Hard decisions are sometimes the best decisions.

[@RJ986S]

Hi Sammy. Never apologize for what you've accomplished; never regret what you've achieved. You've done so much good in this world making peoples' lives immeasurably better in the process. Only a tiny fraction of men on this earth can say they've done that. Now I want you to go and take a 'deep dive' into the music of J.S. Bach, Miles Davis, and Thomas Newman (film music) to rebuild and rejuvenate your inner self. Soon, another beautiful lady will come along, and you can hug her and love her like crazy. 🙂

[@damonl.8224]

Its clear you are Jai Dii. A blessing and a curse. Don't change. Just be careful.

[@ludicrousspeed6626]

Sammy, from one experienced aussie to another, very sorry to hear the news. You'll find a diamond but, it's rare. Took me years. Notch it up to experience and don't let depression back in the door. You're doing a great job 👍

[@jonhobson3592]

Tough decision but a sensible one. We’ve not given up careers to be ‘big supporters’ & don’t need drama…

[@OUTTHERE13]

Sorry to hear this. You are a good and honest guy, and I'm sure you will be able to recover soon and become even stronger.

[@pat_thai]

Is this for real Khun Sammy ? You two look great together ! WTF going on ? I can see you look exhausted in this clip perhaps you've been doing too much for her family without YOU TIME ! Maybe you both are too tired renovating such a beautiful pool villa ! I hear ya Sammy maybe concentrating on KZbin for awhile or return home for Christmas ! Love yourself first before you can love others ! Wishing you a happy ' me ' moment and take a day at a time ! Life is indeed too short im sure Adam help you thru this difficult time ! Remember oz still loves ya my friend ❤ fyi i was born here grew up in oz ( aka banana ) i can only visit here in bkk but outside bkk no can do ! Im here to visit my elderly father frankly speaking id rather be in Sydney after just landed a week an a half im looking for flights back ! That says it all 😂

[@adrianjencgy1993]

only look forward not backwards what happen happened, i hope you will find happiness soon again :) i love your videos keep going

[@Mac-zq1js]

You have been reborn a new human take advantage of this explore. Find the right person that accepts you for you. Don't take on their horrendous debt Of someone you meet. Be a leaf in the wind don't become mulch. ❤

[@rocketman1828]

Well you got a new subscriber Sam. Your making a big assumption that she can do better my friend. It might make you feel better leaving the relationship, I'd of been gone long before. If you don't block her and avoid any contact you will be knee deep in messages from her. They don't let go easily. They forget and forgive too easily because they know what you provided in the past. Keep us posted how that is working out for you. Wish you the best and God Bless.

[@GoneAdrift]

Khrapom 🙏🏻

[@ReuelGonsalvez]

I can understand your thoughts, no judgement. We have to do what has to be done. All i can say is good luck to the both of you. Keep fighting as the locals in Loei say when they face hardships.

[@vanillaISIS]

Props on the honest video. Playing Captain Save-A-Girl is a tough situation many of us farangs find ourselves in over here. The cruel twist is realizing some girls can't be saved.

[@gordon.Jacko1055]

I’ve been through some hardships myself, but in your mind I think you know when it’s time to move on hope it all works out for you. 🤔

[@werl789]

Yet another reminder to foreigners to beware. Thank you for sharing and I hope things pick up for you. You've got plenty of backbone so you will pull through.

[@anthonyhammond165]

Shit happens brother. I remember first watching like a year ago when you had hardly anyone watching and now youve got 10k subs on your way to that free life. Better than the 9 to 5 regardless what happens along the way. Fuck the haters man ✌️🇦🇺🇬🇧

[@GoneAdrift]

Amen bro