Why I Feel Guilty When Trying To Relax

In this video I talk to you about my relationship with work and how my relationship with 'hustle culture' (productivity obsession) has made it hard for me to relax.
We take a few days off work, all work, and just have fun. Dancing on the frozen sea in the North of Sweden, exploring and enjoying nature.
0:00 Intro
0:54 Reflection on my obsession with productivity
5:15 Vlog part 1 - sunset walk with deer
6:23 How I make the decision to relax anyway
7:00 Vlog part 2 - walking the frozen sea
9:09 Reflection on toxic productivity and the problem with delayed gratification.
10:09 Vlog part 3 - riding frozen waves
12:15 Final thoughts
14:13 The real end
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Naomi Cave - 28/02/2020
Why I Feel Guilty When Trying To Relax
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Hey everyone, my name is Naomi 👋
In summer 2020, amidst a global pandemic, My husband and I uprooted our lives in Central London and decided to move to Northern Sweden.
We were fed up of living on top of millions of other people in London, living out of one room in a flat shared with Naomi's parents, all whilst studying, working, creating KZbin content and launching our business.
So we bought a car, packed it full of our belongings, and drove nearly 3000km to Sweden with no idea where we were going to live.
So join us as we share and document our journey through film.
We are so pleased to share our journey with you and hope to build a community of people who can support one another and grow together.
Lots of love
Naomi
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#lifeinsweden​ #swedishwinter​ #naomicave​ #youngmarriedunprepared​ #personalgrowth​ #swedenvlog

[@denisewalker7217]

I'm so 'addictive to all the beautiful scenery in Sweden! Not many of us can say 'We walked on the sea'! Happy Saturday!👩🏽‍🦱

[@LiveYourselfYoung]

The frozen sea, so incredibly beautiful and surreal! The wonders of nature that you are experiencing in Northern Sweden are so magical, thank you thank you thank you for sharing them with us ❄️💙

[@DVines-sz4nn]

My Appreciation for nature for relationships for friends for family for love for life is expanded everytime you share your posts. No matter what has happened during the week it is always a joy to come to sweden on saturdays because of you Naomi and Jack and Lola and Natur kind! Ty so! 🌲❄🌲❄🌲❄

[@FridayWeekend]

The best ideas emerge when you take the time to relax. And again, I enjoyed an episode from your life in Sweden. And you know what's nice...........your dear husband now enjoys making the video more because he doesn't have to. No pressure! Lots of Love from The Netherlands 💖 Bless You1

[@kookietherapy9398]

I thought the same. Jack stepped aside, but he still assists, and we get to see his pretty face occasionally. Jack is a good sport w boundaries and balance for himself.

[@nora0307]

Well said!

[@ruthgreene3100]

Never feel guilty about relaxing. You look as if you are having a good time.💚

[@NaomiandJack]

So true!.💚.💚

[@keciabrown7455]

Hello from USA. I can relate to the "feeling the need to be productive". I'm working on it. What I see is two people who got it right!

[@yvonnedelappe6216]

With all the going on in the world today the two of you make it look beautiful and peaceful thank you

[@christinechin1909]

You guys are amazing - you are living, working and playing simultaneously! Riding the frozen wave is blowing my mind!

[@JoyAdebambo]

My heart leaped when I saw Jack jump on the ice , I was like ‘NOOOO’

[@TheArewide]

it is the middle of winter, the ice is like one meter thick... --> Swede

[@calmandcollected6021]

Wow that is amazing. I’m sitting here with white knuckles holing on to the table watching you both and afraid that the snow would crack and yelling “Don’t do it, please get back on solid ground”. Thank God you made it back safely. I can finally breathe

[@deborah4645]

I agree with you 💯

[@pellejutterstrom]

Arvidsjaur where they live has car testing activities on the ice/lakes, so cars are driven on the ice all day. so in other words there is no danger =)

[@miriamkling3346]

It's amazing how God has created the world to work just so to make things work. Like fun and snow and frozen waves. God bless and be with you.

[@lindajames7083]

Nothing wrong with working hard but ........ work hard for an allotted amount of time then .... stop. You don’t put on your grave stone ‘I Wish I Had Worked Harder’. Love your vlogs.

[@RobertClaeson]

I'm from a bit further north than where you are and am currently living in London. Your videos made me question why I left, but then the few last ones about the cold and the darkness made me remember why (although it's actually only a few months a year, and the rest of the year more than makes up for it). As for feeling pressure producing materials, I know all about it. I had a commercial photo studio but eventually sold it as the pressure to take on any job to bring in the money made me fall out of love with photography. Now I believe I take more pictures than ever.

[@VisionQuest7]

I enjoy my work but sometimes feel like I'm getting nothing done if I'm not busy doing it. When It seems as though something is missing, I'll put the work aside because some of my best ideas come during those breaks. Breaks from work give the mind a chance to be creative and come up with new ideas and solutions. This is what I have to remember when I'm itching to go back to work. Love your scarf headrap.

[@pjohn1435]

I understand what you're saying...remember even GOD rested on the seventh day.

[@myrleenmurray1454]

Hey guys soo good seeing and hearing from y’all.... These vlogs brings me joy..take care, live, breathe, continue to love life sincerely..

[@NaomiandJack]

More to come! Thank you sooo much 💚

[@jenniferj6580]

Yay!! More to come you say?👏👏 You guys are beautiful and I enjoy watching your videos!

[@myrleenmurray1454]

@@NaomiandJack looking forward to seeing you guys, and traveling along with my eyes...

[@graceidunachampong6973]

Naomi there's nothing wrong with working hard but you should take time to rest and enjoy yourself. Happy to see Jack happy too take care of yourselves.

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

Breathtaking views. Wish I was there to do my scenic landscape photography work. Lola is so cute omg the kisses and snuggles 🥰

[@myrleenmurray1454]

This is awesomeness!! Be careful tho! I’m getting anxious already..magical and breathtakingly gorgeous...thanks for this vlog..

[@SpotofNerds]

You’re so freaking intelligent Naomi

[@lucyfraser2723]

It's always a pleasure to be viewing your videos. Thanks once again for a brilliant episode of Naomi Cave, with Jack and Naomi....'today'.😍🇹🇹💞

[@philesiaj.wilcox-bartsch6206]

I Love this Blog!!! What a great Life you two have! At your Young ages . I've never dared travel Scandinavia in Winter. Although IT Looks Like a Lot of fun Could be had and many calories Burned . Maybe after travel is Open again l will start looking Into a Winter Urlaub . I Use to Work for a living, but did not live to Work. 🤔

[@irisholt833]

Happy to see you and Jack are enjoying life in Sweden. It so awesome to see you both gliding on the sea of Ice. Agree it is so beautiful an never feel guilty for relaxing. It is part of life to enjoy, reflect and fulfill our dreams and goals in life. Have a wonderful DAY!

[@juikke]

Hello from the other side of that sea!

[@catherinemacdonald7953]

I have never seen frozen sea, thank you x

[@ij9047]

Wow lovely snow view frozen beach hahaha hi Jack and Naomi nice seeing another video from you both

[@exafjerf]

epic photo, thoughtful words, stunning nature scenes

[@riannatripp6594]

I hate to say it but you know the old saying - “all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy" give yourselves a break and enjoy the little things. Don’t sweat the small stuff

[@amykru]

Thank you for another gorgeous video! I am constantly awed by your insights at such a young age. You look gorgeous with the scarf tied around your head. I admit to feeling nervous whilst you were running on the ice. I'm glad you took some time for relaxation and fun.

[@willsmama1659]

Agree completely!!!

[@tomtombird2329]

Hej Hej ;-)) Wonderful to see your both faces again together - in YOUR Vlog, Naomi. It´s fantastic and brings me joy! Have fun ;-)

[@barbaralockett2956]

Looks like you guys had a great time, I enjoy the adventures you take me on, you’re amazing.

[@candyd.m.6850]

Working hard and hardly working...you guys are so young, but it may come to a time when you need to just be. Your holiday looked awesome to stand on the sea on frozen 🌊 waves...who could imagine a frozen wave? What an adventure 😉😊 ...treasure these times you two.

[@michellebeddok2228]

Hi Naomi AND Jack 😀... What a stunning video, such breathtaking shots and pure réflexions about life, and decision to choose joy... I would have added that joy increases faith in that way that what happens in our life is for good purposes on the second hand fear increases doubt that for sure only slows you down in your energy as well as projects and eventually freeze your life most of the time. So happy that you are happy. Happiness is one of the most powerful medications against fear and doubt because it gives you faith in yourself and our creator. Love you guys.

[@katedavy6272]

So happy to see your joy n celebration!

[@rebeccarendle3706]

Beautiful video and message 🤗. The first year I moved to Germany from the UK.. We had minus 15c for weeks and the Baltic Sea froze.. So we went ice-skating on the sea.. You had to skate parallel to the shoreline to stay between the frozen waves and ice-Bergs. It was so fun, but also serial.

[@Blessedmom1415]

So much love your videos, it always come with an inner peace, much love ❤

[@nickukiah810]

Yay!

[@NaomiandJack]

Thank you

[@dentay89]

Looks like you and Jack had a peaceful and relaxing vacation. I love your videos and your calming voice. You'd be great at voice-overs. Be safe and may God continue to bless you and your family.

[@patriciacrenshaw2475]

Frozen sea. I don't think I have ever seen it. I have seen frozen lakes. And frozen waves. Wow. Thanks for that.

[@IAMGLYN4REAL]

Beautiful beautiful vlogs as usual!!! Y’all bring me joy. Thanks

[@misdebicakes3475]

(NEVER be a victim of ALL work and no play)😔. My face hurt from smiling so hard and long☺. JUST watching this snippet of you guys enjoying yourselves brought me joy. THANKS so MUCH for sharing🤗

[@crystalkirlia4553]

Lola is so cute!!!! Your videos are always so inspiring. Thank you for making them and brightening my week 😊

[@wp9197]

Next time pls pls pls go iceskating!! You are awesome. Love from the Netherlands (of course).

[@NaomiandJack]

oo I actually have sooo much fun!

[@kookietherapy9398]

I ❤ iceskating !!!

[@HelenSch]

Beautiful video Naomi!

[@herustrange7388]

Everything you guys do it's my dream. Looks sooo fun

[@brendathomas7173]

Naomi, thank you for posing that question!

[@monachinn6089]

You guys show the most beautiful scenery

[@sheilabyrd2289]

Sweden looks absolutely beautiful. The sun peeking out over that frozen sea was breathtaking! I don’t know how you deal with those freezing temperatures. I’m from Memphis, TN. & we experienced record breaking single digit temperatures last week & I seriously didn’t think I’d make it🙂. I really love your content . You always give me something to think about as you share your journey in this season if your life. Looking forward to the next video. God Bless.

[@dellcinebrown1172]

Naomi take time out and relax and enjoy your life. I love your content and I will always support you and Jack.👍🥰

[@budvibes3367]

Sometimes you need to relax your spirit and be grateful. Good things overtime.

[@sweetnessndlovu]

I was holding my breath the whole time when you guys were on the frozen sea

[@lorahargrove9710]

Simply Beautiful they are guys do you leave Jack it's wonderful to see you enjoy yourself and taking us along we feel like we're on a mini vacation to thank you so much take care enjoy the wonderful vacation❄❄❄❄❄❄❄❄☃️☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@sheridanbleu4752]

Wow Breathtakingly Beautiful Landscape! I have never seen a frozen sea or wave! It is absolutely stunning! I truly envy you both. You are such a lovely couple. You deserve a little relaxation time together. I love your content! Thanks for sharing the Beauty with us all!!!

[@michelle76678]

It is beautiful whoooo the sea i can see the waves turns ice this is a lovely video I enjoy the adventure

[@LiveYourselfYoung]

I really identify with your story Nay. I struggle to leave my desk but I've never considered it is because I enjoy my work 🤔 for me it is because I like everything neat and tidy and do not like leaving tasks unfinished. And as a perfectionist many tasks take longer that they should!! My challenge is to be less perfect and more productive in less hours 🙏❤️

[@JOKKMOKKGUIDERNA]

Thank you for your reflections! I have been thinking about it so much my self during the years and it's really really hard to live in the present and don't think about tomorrow. Honestly I don't think I have had a single day without any kind of work for a whole day since I went in to our own business, which is a very long time ago... I think it's something we battle who run our own business around our passions and interests. Sometimes when I for example standing on the dogsled training our huskies I need to ask myself is this work or is pleasure? But I think I could really need a day or two just totally off work and no thoughts about work but it's really hard. /Stina

[@tylergirlrobinson1820]

Amazing!

[@anniev7410]

Keep. Strong Naomi

[@deliahiggs1752]

Beautiful scenery

[@anniev7410]

Good to work. And keep. Active

[@sybilbailey7178]

OMG that is so amazing that is God's creation. Nice to see you and jack having some relaxing time, the both of you need to take some time out. From London. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@Eve.Daniels]

I think it's not a matter of hustle vs. no-hustle. a certain level of self-honesty and reflection is necessary to recognize when our relationships with work and business become unhealthy - but we need to have the space between us and the work to be able to recognize that. and to recognize that, no matter how much we want to, our level of work is NOT the key to 100% control over our circumstances. *side note - you're editing game in on FIRE with this one darling

[@debbiemarston2811]

💕💕

[@notevenalittle8363]

Naomi. There is nothing wrong with "hustle culture". Know that even self care requires a type of "hustle" because today a lot of indications tells us all that rest, self-love and self care is not something we should deeply invest in because we should work harder. However there are more and more people saying they feel stressed. NOW. That being said. I am not quite sure where your meanderings will take your channel and your multiple businesses, but I for one would have loved for you to explain a bit more about that lake (body of water) you were on? When does it freeze? How thick does the ice get? All those other tire and animal tracks go from and lead to where? I am interested in both of your stories and your hustles but I also want to feel part of your wanderlust with little factoids that may make me want to visit that far North. Keep doing what you do. You 3 are a gift to the world.

[@geniallen5328]

Working hard is good but vacation is REAL good. It was very hard watching this because of you all on the frozen water I was afraid for you out there. Please be careful.

[@positivevibes3418]

It's finding and maintaining the balance... Coming back to center... There are seasons to focus and work and seasons to just BE. Now I find that I try to find balance in finding both in a course of a day there are times in my day to just BE, and then there are times in my day to work in focus. It's one of those personal inward lessons isn't it? Productivity does not = self-worth. 😘 🙏💜🕊️

[@HjulleMandarin]

Have a Nice weekend 🙏🏼👍🏼

[@JustClaireGrace]

I definitely think the 'hustle' culture has its place and CAN be helpful, i just dont think it always IS helpful. Like you say, if hustling is taking away from your life instead of just adding to it, it's probably not beneficial to personal relationships and well-being. Loved you riding the waves too!

[@judyengle7728]

Careful

[@bwnsugashay]

I can relate sis

[@penethia2]

Beautiful

[@karenmbbaxter]

Don't feel guilty for relaxing........U bought one of the cheapest houses around and U live within your means by recycling everything so what's to worry about? But I know what U mean because my parents also told me to work hard and they did and spent everything they earnt that my single mother eventually told me she was in a lot of trouble financially so my husband and I bailed her out. Wise use of time is important and not just being busy for the sake of it.......My favorite saying is ' Life is not a dress rehearsal. U get no second chance. So live it as best U can'.

[@patriciacrenshaw2475]

Awww. Your kitty loves kisses.

[@TheoriginalANGEK439]

We all need a rest from time to time. You should never be guilty of that. Rest your mind body and soul. Especially if you work hard. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@kevinturvey2164]

'My husband told me we were goin' on Vacation'. 'sluuuuurrrrrrp'. 😞🤤

[@martinostlund1879]

Did you drive on any ice-road yet? If there is any around where you live.

[@holoholopainen1627]

You were so LUCKY - when You picked The Year 2020 - as moved to Sweden ! Corona has effected so Much in MAJOR Cities - People trying to keep some distance ! This IS LIKE - when You travel to The MOON - You need to keep contact by EMAIL ONLY ! You Will remember 2020 as The BEST vs The People WHO stayed at Downtown !

[@dreamchaser5758]

This video proves you shouldn't ever conflate Jack's commitment or interest in the channel to his commitment to Naomi. Keep your love unspoiled. It took incredible courage for Jack to make a different choice

[@MartinAhlman]

You ended up in the north of Sweden. You can end up in so many worse places! You won!

[@TheHighPriestess9752]

Wow. I’m going to enjoy this breathtaking view from the comfort of my bedroom. It’s so sad that our minds have been wired to work and work, and then guilt sets in when we try to relax. My mind is even in work mode when sleeping. We just need to change the narrative starting with each one of us caught in this cycle. Be blessed

[@jettatschokkinen9893]

Naomi, you are doing well and I enjoy your videos. Just one tiny detail, please look in the lens, not the camera display!

[@andreaswahlberg100]

Is that from Holmsund?

[@britjj5126]

On a light humorous note, if you have been raised by Zambian parents they instill a hardworking ethic into you. No lazing about in their household!

[@juliettebarton8467]

Greetings lovely people.

[@barned]

Hi, I just found You here on KZbin and always wanted to live in Sweden. I'm just curious how expensive living in sweden is... like Costs for living, power, food etcetera. Do you have a job or did you find a job there?

[@lindafisher8441]

Everything in moderation....

[@globebusmotorhomeadventure8112]

❄️🇸🇪😍

[@mytraveldestinationsbyrosalia]

You are soooooo funny 😳🤣🤣💝

[@sunnymorning694]

Yes. It is good to he hard working and not slothful. God worked 6 days and the 7th He rested. The Israelite worked 7 days non stop, when God led them out of Egypt, they were commanded to take a sabbath. What do you think?

[@ij9047]

Be careful you two

[@Reindeer100]

do you live to work or work to live?

[@nancydunn4657]

Be careful

[@annebritraaen2237]

I do think it is a lie. When you do labour of love it's not hard at all. Otherwise reconsider it. If you don't want to spend your life outsmarting your work, that is.

[@lidde999]

Fina bilder,var är ni?

[@Friskyhorton]

I need to send you some of my lazy genes, Naomi

[@willmoore505]

Wait till you get a proper job.

[@johns2260]

Your vloggs are so depressing. Are you planning live there forever and raise your kids???