Why I Gave My Teenage Daughter a Vibrator | Robin Buckley | TED

"Why does a vibrator make us uncomfortable, but Viagra does not?" asks cognitive-behavioral coach Robin Buckley. Sharing her own personal story of empowering her teenage daughter to explore the power of pleasure, Buckley encourages parents to talk to their teens about healthy sexual development -- and shares why the awkward conversations are worth it.
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[@Azel247]

I cannot imagine my mom on stage talking about my vibrator...

[@georgplaz]

well, her daughter can. That's why she gave her explicit consent

[@Azel247]

@@georgplaz Good for her daughter

[@justrosy5]

Right?! I call this child abuse. I think what she did here should be categorically outlawed in all countries who have Internet access.

[@georgplaz]

@@justrosy5 what exactly is child abuse? please point to something specific she said in the video

[@beejlobo]

@@justrosy5 unless you have a specific degree in psychotherapy, calling anyone narcissistic or child abuse is crossing boundaries that you don’t have intelligent access to cross.

[@Professionallypessimistic]

Well, this will be a polarising comment section.

[@eru_barth]

Cool handle, and your comment checks out

[@justrosy5]

Yeah. Most of these fools don't care about the basic human rights of a 13 year old child. The rest of us see right through what her narcissistic, abusive Mom did to her by going on KZbin to announce it to the entire planet.

[@Mars-tk]

Mom, sis stole the batteries of my xbox controllers again!

[@gaolen]

like they arent usb chargable these days

[@Mustachioed_Mollusk]

She’ll give them back in about 10 minutes

[@fad23]

There are great USB Chargeable vives out there. Makes me wonder if there's game play potential!

[@Deeznutz002]

Atleast there not to doing pullups over a broom.

[@danielleevans7306]

As someone who was raised in shame about sexuality, and screamed at for being the slightest bit curious, watching this was very healing. Thank you.

[@ramzichouk4080]

Sexuality is ok when you're married, you're referring to hedonism and degeneracy

[@danielleevans7306]

@@ramzichouk4080 ✨🎵misogyny🎵✨

[@niceguitar6144]

You feel healed because this insane person gave that to her daughter? No, you were further damaged by this talk but you just don't know any better.

[@elkefontillo1379]

It’s a shame you were raised that way - your parents / family should have Taught you that sexuality was natural and when explored and experienced in the right context - it is absolutely beautiful and sacred. This video is not about that so Don’t be misled by yet another false concept.

[@mjjjermaine]

+1

[@adamslater7486]

I bet her daughter is so grateful that she told this story on KZbin. I bet that's not embarrassing at all!

[@georgplaz]

she told the story with the consent of her daughter, who is 19 now

[@zell6108]

Wooosh

[@justrosy5]

Right?! Thank you!

[@FunkyJay]

Seems like you missed the point of the talk. Maybe watch it a second time.

[@Mars-tk]

Woosh again

[@HellexTV]

Imagine a dad doing that for his daughter. Or Imagine gifting to your son a fleshlight and a blowup doll.

[@merelyChirs]

This man acting as if guys don't have hands lol. Because not a single guy has rubbed one out dry? Okay...

[@Derek.Mitchell]

I mean if they’re masturbating dangerously and are comfortable enough with you to tell you about it, yeah. I’d rather them be safe about it. We were all teens once.

[@NadiaSeesIt]

​@@merelyChirswoman have hands too. A vibrator decreases sensitivity and an understanding of one's natural reactions

[@l01230123]

@@NadiaSeesIt Like, 10/10 both genders do usually have hands, but could you explain where your beliefs about vibrators being negative to woman's health in any measurable, recorded, or studied way? I don't think sitting on a dryer ever hurt anyone 😅

[@ChristaFree]

It's insane. These people are sick

[@golds04]

Bigger question- why discuss something private to her-,on the internet? That seems more perplexing.

[@PippaNiNi]

You're actually stating straight facts, man

[@jenofire8724]

Her daughter probably gave permission for this.

[@The_gerbox]

I’m just here for my weekly assessment of English listening practice and I see this

[@Raguiazin]

Same

[@myparceltape1169]

Communication with style.

[@DumbOrangeFrog]

sorry man.

[@user-tz9eb9yd5q]

You gave a best lesson it is very important to make such connection with your parents so you could share anything comfortably

[@foxtrot5467]

I totally understand u

[@vikramnangia]

I guess this is the kind of video where you comment before you watch.

[@nintendude794]

Just like most videos.

[@justrosy5]

Right??? People are just assuming that her daughter was old enough for this, or could even legally consent to any of it. No, she can't. She's 13. All she's going to face now at school is just a lot of never-ending, escalating bullying and sexual harassment, all because her Mom just couldn't keep her mouth shut about her masturbating at age 13.

[@trenauldo]

Sure are a lot of folks missing the point of this talk or still stuck in backwards, antiquated thinking about parental relationships with their kids and actually guiding them as they mature rather than leaving them to their own devices to navigate it. I think too many parents leave the raising and guiding of their kids to the kids themselves and whatever other influences are in their lives, and with the prevalence of information - some good, some awful or just wrong - that is accessible on demand any time, anywhere, they could easily take a wrong or dangerous path. Connect with your kids, people, and give them good and safe information so they can start to take charge of their lives through their teen years.

[@skaleee1207]

Truly one of the talks of all time

[@DurrellRobinson]

I smell sarcasm

[@DumbOrangeFrog]

very agree

[@rachaelsdaddy]

That is why I learned to ask in order to find out what "worked" for my partners.

[@platero814]

Such a calm and joyful way to go about it

[@justrosy5]

LOL! Not for her daughter...

[@hiepkhachNT85]

Thanks ❤❤

[@logusgraphics]

I’m so thankful I was a teen on the 90’s. Everything is self service nowadays.

[@justrosy5]

Right??? At least back then, our parents didn't have access to online video platforms, recording opportunities, and the entire world's stage with which to totally mortify us. What that Mom did should be against the law.

[@hellihello2333]

​? She literally said she got her daughters permission to share her story.

[@anon-1030]

Ur very funny I bet your a fun person to be around LOL

[@Elijah42069]

Bro if I agree to die why is my mom trying to kill me anyway it makes no sense. Like yeah I agreed but why would she want to fucking kill me???? And why did nobody stop her because I knew no better? And yes I am comparing this to death because even though her body may be alive her social life after this is not@@hellihello2333

[@myparceltape1169]

Is that self service or selling your body to the organisation that keeps sending you batteries at the right time?

[@romeoC9968]

well said!

[@P1ckledmcc]

I was just trying to find a TED Talk video for my English assignment bro

[@DarrylsB]

Turns out this video is one of the best things ever put on the World Wide Web. Thanks TED. Share.

[@serenaberneschimusic]

One of the best talks ever! It's so important talking of these topics. THANKS!

[@justrosy5]

Kinda don't think her daughter's going to be thanking her for this after the bullying at school starts...

[@georgplaz]

​@@justrosy5 funny how people feel like they can contribute their opinion on a 12min video of which they have not seen even the first minute (where they reveal that the daughter is already 19 today)

[@--novus-ordo-secrolum-un--8820]

@@justrosy5tbh I don’t believe anyone will bully her not nowadays back in the 90s or 2000s sure but not now

[@markmcdougal1199]

Sooooo well said. I hope this vid goes viral.

[@bassbyrdtx]

be careful, she could get V.D.- vibrator dependency. . seriously, though- good for you! Your daughter will have healthier relationships later in life because of your willingness to tackle an awkward topic.

[@charitygoldart]

That's not a thing.

[@karazu121]

Just came here to read the comments.

[@porkymor1]

Such an important talk! And the comments are a great reminder why so :)

[@justrosy5]

What? Because intelligent people can see how age-inappropriate this was?! Grow up.

[@davinliuz]

​@@justrosy5because people who watched the video would know that her daughter was the one to bring up the issue to her and the vibrator is her mom's way to help her do (what she is already doing) safely

[@ArdgalAlkeides]

@@justrosy5 You're the one who needs to grow up.

[@johnyliltoe]

@@justrosy5 Intelligent people consider things logically based on fact, not tradition or what they feel is icky. An intelligent person recognizes that teenagers are sexual beings and that they need to understand how to channel that energy. They also understand that repressing natural urges entirely is not healthy.

[@VashtiPerry]

Yes.

[@HkFinn83]

I was getting a little frustrated at the subject matter in some of the tedx uploads in my feed, purposely searched out the real ted channel. Clicked first video. Here we are.

[@johnyliltoe]

7:47 - Never go to the grocery store hungry!

[@woolly-hat-taker4627]

Truly one of the topics of all time.

[@Kamiscout708]

Why my father gave me toy. A ted talk improvement

[@ProteinAndSquats3966]

This ain’t bad. I’d rather the kids seek self pleasure than seek potentially harmful pleasures elsewhere. We were all teens once.

[@thoopsy]

It's easy to, once you're an adult, forget how confusing puberty was in that aspect. But you don't just turn "on" at 18, and giving your teen a safe way to explore makes a lot of sense.

[@justrosy5]

This is absolutely horrible! A 13 year old girl doesn't think about these things on her own, for one, and for another, she can't legally consent to her Mom going on KZbin and telling the world that she now has her 13 year old daughter masturbating. That poor child can't even show her face in school without getting bullied and sexually harassed over this. Can you imagine *your* Mom doing this to *you???!* No? Then just stop.

[@justrosy5]

@@thoopsy Not at age 13. Get real. You also don't go on KZbin to announce it to the entire planet. What this Mom did was literal child abuse. You think this girl can show her face in school again? You think she won't face relentless bullying and sexual harassment after her Mom sexualized her at an age where she can't legally consent to any of this??? It's bad enough that her Mom took her innocence like this - it's worse that she announced it to the world, with no thought at all to how her daughter would feel or get treated going forward.

[@ProteinAndSquats3966]

@@justrosy5 No! YOU’RE A VIBRATOR!

[@--novus-ordo-secrolum-un--8820]

@@ProteinAndSquats3966I PROMISE IM NOT PLEASE AHH

[@OMG_BeCkY]

Well we know who'll be getting a bunch of Class D batteries as stocking stuffers this Christmas!

[@jzmcgriggs8652]

Cordless rechargeable is the only way to go...

[@singhbhai]

Good one

[@kylin3197]

Clicked for the laughs, stayed for the insight. There's a lot of good points

[@fadedfools]

SMH 4am uploads

[@janm2473]

Such a wise woman....

[@moviemikerod]

So..... I actually am in full support of the message of this video. I say this message applies for both sons and daughters. On the topic of equality though this is a very hot take, if one is the father of a daughter as a single parent. Could I do the same? All things being equal I feel done tactfully there should be nothing wrong with this. However, living in the real world I'm not sure how this would fly. I look forward to the responses... 😬

[@justrosy5]

Dude. The girls THIRTEEN. You don't do this to a 13 year old CHILD. You especially don't then turn around and announce it to the world on KZbin. Please tell me you won't do this to your kid(s), if you have any.

[@georgplaz]

​@@justrosy5 I wish you had watched the video before writing this rant

[@georgplaz]

I think it very much depends on the relationship you have with your daughter. if she really did come up to a single dad and told him the things she did tell her mother in the video, I think that already shows this is a topic you can talk about. Of course I would be in no position to give her any advice on the topic, but I would offer to buy her a coupon for a shop and tell her to do her own research and use the coupon to order whatever she wants on her own terms. but I can also imagine she would not feel fully confident to open up, in which case I would ask if she felt more comfortable talking to some cool aunt or mother of a friend she has who I would then get involved

[@--novus-ordo-secrolum-un--8820]

Maybe be like :okay daughter here is some money and do what you want to do with it Okaay,Then daughter would be like okay thxs sure dad and she would spend or save on what she would want without the dad knowing or buying also be vocal about body positivity quite easy tbh.

[@georgplaz]

@@--novus-ordo-secrolum-un--8820 man, your text could really benefit from some punctuation 😅

[@importantname]

um so she doesnt need to ask for one on her wish list on one of the hundreds of cam sites?

[@Slurm_Daddy92]

I have daughters but I think this applies to my son as well! I was raised in a super Christian home touching my own body was taboo or even having a conversation about it! Thank you for the talk!

[@-whackd]

Gonna get him a vibe or just a flashlight ?

[@thoopsy]

It's definitely good to have this talk, even if it's pretty awkward. There's practical things to be said! Like, to be careful putting stuff in your butt if it doesn't have a flared base. That's so important, but incredibly not obvious. Shame holds us back from getting the information we really need, and leads to us making worse choices.

[@justrosy5]

@@thoopsy It's not a "talk." It's sexualizing an innocent 13 year old CHILD, then mortifying that child before the world on KZbin. What this Mom did was narcissistic child abuse.

[@richardwu8371]

@@justrosy5 I've gone through narcissistic child abuse. You clearly have no idea what it is.

[@jameswyman3973]

I thought i was going to be completely against your message after you said you got your daughter a vibrator. I was proven wrong and im glad i listened to the rest of your speech. I think they need help to know the value of their body and not throw themselves at anyone who shows any interest.

[@JRay2113]

How about having a father at home that shows her how a proper male/female interaction should be conducted?

[@l01230123]

@@JRay2113 RIP homophobic bigotry. Also, that sounds like you want to diddle little girls and/or don't trust women, pretty gross. 😓

[@HakuCell]

7:16 interesting statistics on female pleasure.

[@ruaraidh74]

>15% of women are children ffs

[@izmckenna]

amen!! it took until my 20s to be comfortable with my own pleasure and sexuality

[@justarandomanimator6531]

tfym amen

[@smajl2]

And what's wrong with that?

[@justrosy5]

Yeah, you were in your TWENTIES. A 13 year old child isn't ready for THIS, and certainly not for their Mom to go on KZbin and announce it to the entire planet. A 13 year old can't legally consent to this. It's literal child abuse.

[@katieh890]

⁠@@justrosy5a) the daughter is over 18 now and consented to her story being told and b) you don’t know what child abuse is and c) you’re a prude

[@TerrorTerros]

5:03 phrasing! 👆

[@AallthewaytoZ2]

Possibly the greatest title in KZbin history.

[@justrosy5]

Most accurate, maybe. Greatest? I think not.

[@JustTheHighlights]

​@@justrosy5possibly

[@AallthewaytoZ2]

@@justrosy5 Some of the commentators are very invested and are sinister.

[@timkiemdautu]

❤❤❤very good video, Thank you🎉🎉🎉

[@lexxeffectual]

Such an important message, especially during the weird regressive time we are living in. Thank you for your courage!

[@GlennYarwood]

Yes the left are taking us backwards into a degenerate hellscape

[@Danarchy3]

This message is why we are living in such a weird time!

[@georgplaz]

​​​@@Danarchy3can you explain what part of the message you didn't like?

[@justrosy5]

It's not courage, it's stupidity. The girl is 13 years old. It's 100% inappropriate to do this to her at that age.

[@georgplaz]

​@@justrosy5I disagree. she was keeping her daughter safe

[@AdamSmithhimself]

Why I gave my son a Flesh light. A Ted Talk about empowerment.

[@jacobawojtowicz]

Whoa whoa now. That's MEN empowerment, it's different

[@VashtiPerry]

That’s actually a good thing. Better than him getting someone pregnant by accident or worst him getting disease he can get rid of.

[@imrannazir6931]

Agree. A daft talk.

[@ellie0043]

Good parenting choice!!

[@safaiaryu12]

Tell me you didn't watch the video without telling me you didn't watch the video.

[@alien9279]

Came here just for the comments lol. Did not expect to see this in my feed but sure, why not. Gotta have that talk pr your kids might do something dumb 😂

[@ddpwe5269]

Isn't this a repeat? Then again, looking at the comments, it needs to be re-run often.

[@NvrMindMe]

Perspectives like this is what we need inin today’s world. These conversations need to happen between parents and their sons and daughters! At least one way to reduce sexual abuse and rape!

[@justrosy5]

No. This was soooo age inappropriate, it's really disgusting.

[@georgplaz]

​@@justrosy5what part exactly did you find age inappropriate? can you give a time stamp in the video?

[@Anonymoose66G]

How would this decrease abuse & rape? I see it only increasing it to be honest. People don't only rape for pleasure, they do it to demonstrate their imagined power, furthermore this whole discourse leaves men out, like their some irrelevant being. I honestly would like to know how you think this would decrease rape and abuse, I can't fathom how that occurs. The 3 major ways we know reduce rape and abuse are education, stability & security, give people that and boom there's problems are all but disappeared.

[@MajkaSrajka]

"Giving kids dildos to stop rape" is a take I've neer heard before. Is it "teach men not to rape 2.0" or something?

[@georgplaz]

@@Anonymoose66G who is talking about decreasing abuse and rape? I really wish you had watched the video, then we wouldn't be having this conversation

[@whitelies4988]

Thank you for such an educational talk.

[@arandomguy777]

TED: 4 tips to your future carrer Also TED: why I gave my teenage daugther a vibrator

[@merelyChirs]

Have you not figured out yet that TED is just the platform they are given to talk? It's like getting mad at KZbin for this video.

[@georgplaz]

so? whats your point? are you furious there are not only business talk at ted?

[@mateuzane]

​@georgplaz you're replying to every comment mate take a breath 💀

[@arandomguy777]

@@georgplaz my point is this is totally random, thats my point. Are you offended? 😂

[@Derek.Mitchell]

Watch the video and you’ll feel like a dumbass for saying this. I get that it may seem weird but watch the video and it’ll be obvious in context that she did the right thing and is a fantastic parent with a lesson worth sharing.

[@middy5284]

wow….so empowering….

[@Ch17638]

It is a very uncomfortable topic but parents should talk to their children about these things more often especially given the ignorant s_it I used to hear from other kids and believe when I was young it can help them avoid a ton of problems. However just some advice from someone who used to be a kid... a parent who gets you a s- toy would be super awkward, but having your parent announce it to the world is nuclear-level awkward. Rather give them an online shopping voucher, dont open their mail or go through their sock drawer (yes let them pack their own laundry)

[@justrosy5]

Not at that age, they shouldn't!

[@B.D.E.]

@@justrosy5 their body not yours

[@Ch17638]

@@davinliuz I know, and its incredibly hard for me to imagine a teenager OK with this, but experience is subjective I suppose, and you should probably know the advice isn't directed at the speaker but to those who would read my comment..

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

there is nothing good about sexually stirring yourself up especially not your own children

[@timflelter5566]

This is the Mom version of Adam22

[@harmdizzle1979]

Normally I would think this was weird. But after watching my daughter struggle through bad relationships, drugs, bad friendships, I think I might buy her one. Give her a bar to set her sites on. You must make me feel THIS empowered to ride this ride.

[@incognito5416]

Yo wtf lmfao

[@merelyChirs]

​@@incognito5416 are you perturbed by others caring for their children's well being. Interesting take.

[@harmdizzle1979]

Let me be a little clearer. My daughter is an adult

[@Danarchy3]

@@harmdizzle1979 if your daughter is an adult let her buy her own

[@Anonymoose66G]

@@Danarchy3 Yeah... what 😂.

[@andynichols5625]

THIS NEEDS TO BE SEEN BY EVERYONE

[@rosabscura]

Ok at first I was sickened by the title but having watched just half of it, I understand where she’s coming from..

[@justrosy5]

What? The craziness of a woman who doesn't know what "age appropriate" means???

[@gaolen]

@@justrosy5 how is masturbation not age appropriate but having periods is? puberty starts when it starts, it doesnt wait for you to be an adult

[@silviaacquapendente-makeup1048]

Loved this speech! So inspiring! thank You!

[@akeembrown7661]

So someone else doesn’t

[@redderlondon]

People really need to watch the video first before commenting. 😮‍💨

[@ddpwe5269]

Even if some do, they can't think outside the box. They need to re-run it more often.

[@justrosy5]

Yes, so they can see that that Mom did this to her 13 year old CHILD, including spreading it all over the planet what her 13 year old daughter does in her bedroom!

[@andrewsilvia7773]

So TED releases talk about vibrator's for 13 year olds but is afraid to release a well thought out piece about color blindness by Coleman Huges. So TED has a problem with a black man sincerely talking about a world where everyone is equal, where no one sees color in a melting pot like the USA, but could care less if a mother is on stage telling a story about getting her under age daughter a vibrator, what's this world coming too? People are triggered by color blindness but not a vibrator for 13 year Olds, is that what your saying?

[@justrosy5]

Look, I dunno about the color-blindness thing - we can discuss that another time, but you're dead right about how that Mom shouldn't have done that to her 13 year old child, going on KZbin, spreading this all over the planet. Nothing but pity for that poor girl. I truly feel for her.

[@tigerace351]

So, what’s on TED talks these days. Been a while. Let’s see,……AHHHHH!!!! 😱😱😱😱😱😱

[@hosurh5695]

It's their personal choice Bros chill out

[@julianshepherd2038]

Surprised you rold everyone

[@justrosy5]

Exactly. She shouldn't have done that!

[@OMG_BeCkY]

Thin line between being banned from YT and being put on a gov't list and this video.

[@EditingKat]

Ok

[@thoopsy]

My mom turned to me one day and said, "Wait, you can't drive, and it's awkward to bring up. Do you want a vibrator?" She then proceeded to show me hers, and ask if it looked reasonable. It was a pretty funny conversation, but I'm glad we had it because I would've bought a cheap one but she knows what actually works!

[@justrosy5]

I see what you did there! Thank you!

[@progredior0]

@@justrosy5What? A car? What? I'm a male; help.

[@peterweller8583]

is a former child myself I agree that your children need all the help they can get. People are weird even in the sixties strange things happen to the unaware.

[@justrosy5]

Not at age 13. Just... Wow. This whole thing is so very age-inappropriate...

[@charitygoldart]

@@justrosy5 It's ENTIRELY age appropriate. That is around the age teens start getting sexual desire & experimenting with masturbation.

[@inesalag]

And what should i buy my teenage boys?

[@myparceltape1169]

Most of them have hands that are more flexible and adaptable than their toys. If they are physically able they will learn what their bodies can do and if they know you will answer them with your acquired knowledge, they will respect you.

[@Elijah42069]

nothing man you shouldnt buy a daughter this either. you shouldnt talk about this stuff with them or be directly involved at all

[@GreenfirePhoenix]

it's funny to read the comments and see most of the women loving this and most of the men haaating it LMAO

[@georgplaz]

I think its mostly people who are not capable of watching a 12min hating it

[@DaiAtlus79]

i's nuts the amount of bots in this comment section. fun fact, bot farms use places like this for training their ppl before bigger things. most of them are, as their own ppl call them, Сволочь.

[@justrosy5]

Not anyone else's fault you haven't blocked all the bots...

[@DaiAtlus79]

@@justrosy5 not enough hours of the day. and not my job.

[@louml6233]

Daughter - Mom, I broke my vibrator, can you get me a new one? Mom - Sure, what color?

[@saritachaudhary5843]

I didn't know colours are in option. I've only seen pink.

[@mariaantoniettamontella9173]

super

[@jessicabaker822]

SLAYYYY

[@dyhppyx]

You're awesome

[@cuddleslol]

So so so excellent

[@chrisb8698]

I love how the overreactive comments prove her point. The kneejerk reaction is crazy if you think about it. Guys start doing the deed around the same age, if not earlier.

[@merelyChirs]

Most of them couldn't even bear actually watching the video before fr

[@EdenthelRei]

I'm female and started around age 7 🤷

[@drummerboycroy]

I swear to god I thought the same, was going to post, and then thought, “nah, some rational human being must have already said it,” and here we are.

[@nintendude794]

Male and started around age 17

[@leonardohenrique5172]

i mean, if it was a guy talking about giving masturbation toys to his son the reaction would be even worse, i can already imagine all the jokes lmao this whole issue isn't less embarrassing for guys you know, girls are a lot more upfront about this things

[@niceguitar6144]

A bunch of perverts, it would be infuriating if it wasn't so tragic

[@rmp5s]

Best comment section of any Ted video ever. Right here. 🤣

[@dondoodat]

It's definitely created a buzz.

[@rmp5s]

@@dondoodat So funny...haven't watched the vid yet. Just scrolled some comments. Pretty hilarious. Hahaha

[@thoopsy]

Main points: -oh hey, that sounds like a good idea! -oh hey, that sounds like a bad idea! -if my mom said this on stage I'd wilt -what about teen boys -we're already sexualizing young girls, why give them the tools to explore pleasure by themselves -i think the mom is a freak -wow, the things people come up with these days I think that's all of em 👍

[@sleepysleepy9913]

My pillow was fine

[@Goddessvenom]

Fingers, there's nothing wrong with fingers🤦🏽‍♀️ Also they're free an safer. I don't know I guess I've just never liked the idea of something artificial, gotta be the real deal 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@marials9245]

The comments section is living proof of how important this message is. It’s ok to talk about men’s pleasure but if we are talking about a young lady then people get worried and all weird up….

[@JustTheHighlights]

Oh, is there a TED talk about a father buying his teenage son a fleshlight?

[@jbliggidy123]

@@JustTheHighlightsright like no one says hey son, lets talk about your sexual pleasure lmao

[@thoopsy]

It's pretty standard to not think of a teen girl as having desires, unless as a conduit for teen boys' desires. I think it's the purity culture, but it's just hurting girls who feel that they're going through something unnatural or unacceptable.

[@jbliggidy123]

@@thoopsy the issue i think isn’t that people dont see teenage girls as having desires, but people, fathers especially just plain ignore it they KNOW that their daughters like boys lol but they think being restrictive and overprotective will curb those desires, and they hide behind sayings like “ oh i trust you, its boys i dont trust, i know what boys are after” but they know their daughters are after it too so its really a weird , if i ignore it it doesn’t exist dynamic that literally NEVER goes well, but they definitely know lol

[@leonardohenrique5172]

Nah, no one talks about male pleasure like this, and if they did people would make fun or see it as a problem just like this one

[@drummerboycroy]

When the comment section essentially proves the validity and importance of the Ted Talk…

[@justrosy5]

When you clearly didn't actually watch the video. This Mom did this to a 13 year old child who is not legally old enough to consent to any of this, then she went on KZbin to announce to the entire planet what her 13 year old daughter does in her bedroom. Now that girl has to deal with bullies and sexual harassers at school. You seriously need to re-think everything.

[@stephpowell7648]

'Why are we comfortable talking about female pain but not female pleasure'?.....errrm maybe because she freaking THIRTEEN! WTF!

[@justrosy5]

THANK YOU!!!!!!!

[@markphc99]

I'm fine with the message that young women shouldn't be ashamed about masturbation , but are vibrators really so much better than manual stimulation ? just wondering .

[@georgplaz]

I think the problem was, since her daughter was already using some tools, she was not satisfied by using her hands. sexuality is very diverse. libido can vary widely. seem like she needed more stimulation

[@thoopsy]

You have to remember, Mark, that with guys the penis has plenty of surface area to do all kinds of motions, without cramping your hands. Meanwhile, with a vulva the clitoris is pretty small and most of what feels good is inside and harder to reach. Because it's such specific movements, a lot of people find it tiresome. Not everybody likes vibrators, but they're really good for getting a more consistent feeling, it takes a lot of the work out of it. Hope this makes sense.

[@undertow2142]

Is this really the problem? Young women on the tick tok talking about body counts with 3 digit numbers and “I only date 6’6” or taller” and always looking to upgrade.

[@TMMx]

There's no way anyone's getting a three digit body count by only dating people 6'6" or taller.

[@georgplaz]

please share this tiktok you are talking about. because I think you are demonizing a young generation based on made up nonesense

[@Anonymoose66G]

@@georgplaz Not made-up, just exaggerated. Overrepresented minorities become idealized majorities, this has been use as a propoganda tool for decades.

[@justrosy5]

The CHILD is THIRTEEN YEARS OLD. Please see the laws in all 50 States and the UN. Thanks.

[@GiornoJovani]

0:04: 🔌 A mother discusses her decision to buy her teenage daughter a vibrator and the importance of empowering teenage girls to learn about their bodies and embrace their right to pleasure. 4:40: 🔍 A mother learns that her daughter is masturbating unsafely and decides to buy her a vibrator to support her in the safe exploration of her body. 8:12: ! The importance of sexual pleasure for women and the impact it can have on their lives. Recap by Tammy AI

[@ambition112]

Thanks for saving my time! amazing summary with lovely time stamps! where you get this Tammy AI?

[@l01230123]

So Tammy AI is a bot that creates fake likes. Wow, what garbage use of AI, I'm guessing you wrote the comment yourself? 🤷‍♂

[@lexxeffectual]

@@l01230123 From the Tammy AI FAQ: "Tammy AI is an advanced B2C platform. Unlock a world of possibilities with our suite of AI-powered products, including innovative Basic Summary, Pro Summary, Chat QnA, Explore and My Library."

[@l01230123]

@@lexxeffectual So is it a botter using AI, or is botting views a "feature?"

[@Elijah42069]

Here. Let me save even more time 0:00 bunch of bullshit that doesnt matter 11:35 good part

[@optimus-prime703]

Really beautiful and nice video Thank you for this massage ❤❤❤❤

[@justrosy5]

Disgusting what this woman did to a THIRTEEN YEAR OLD INNOCENT CHILD who's not legally old enough to consent to any of this...

[@cigarmann]

It will hard to top this TED talk.....the science and technilogy talks were getting boring......

[@WokeYardie]

And then we wonder why society is sent it is the way it is.

[@Matrix_word]

Excellent😂😂😂😂😂

[@invox9490]

THAT IS IT! I'm out. You can enjoy whatever the **** this channel is right now, cuz it sure ain't TED (Technology Entertainment Design).

[@georgplaz]

what did you not like about the video?

[@invox9490]

It's in the comment

[@wouterke9871]

Makes so much sense. Also raises the bar in any future relationship.

[@Mariio-]

Raises the bar ? What is the point?

[@majormononoke8958]

Otherwise the relationship will stagnate...@@Mariio-

[@Anonymoose66G]

@@majormononoke8958 How about you just love each other? A relationship doesn't need maximum sexual fulfilment... What a joke.

[@jacobawojtowicz]

Raises the bar 🤣 Meaning she'll desire a higher level of sexual pleasure, and put up with an assh*le to get it? Not saying that's true but that's YOUR point, no? "Raising the bar" in a relationship is seeing your parents stick together through hard times. It's showing vulnerability and patience and grace. I'm not claiming this is bad for her future ability to connect but...a vibrator is not going to contribute to a healthy relational future either.

[@thisisntallowed9560]

Yes, that way she can set clear boundaries and expect sexual pleasure to be reciprocated. Instead of getting with assholes who don't care about her.

[@michaelo3498]

WOW‼️ I absolutely love this segment. In the age we’re in now it still amazes me that a females sexuality is still a taboo. AWSOME segment.

[@JasonHill94]

Why

[@georgplaz]

its explained in the video. I suggest watching it

[@AmandaInEly]

Absolutely tippy top momming here

[@thoopsy]

Agree! Really thoughtful and good momming.

[@ShartySpice]

Sister-friend burnt dat vibe OUT! Requiring replacement. Buzzzzzzzzzzz

[@justrosy5]

Love the joke! Just not that it's about a poor 13 year old CHILD. Maybe save it for the adults-only section???

[@l01230123]

​@@justrosy5 Educated people can talk and joke about sexual health. Turing 18 doesn't make you sound less ignorant: it means you're pretending to be a child in your head, that you aren't listening, and you're probably weird around kids 😓

[@thisisntallowed9560]

This talk makes men in the comments uncomfortable because they know if a girl starts learning about what she wants she will expect more from them.

[@georgplaz]

I think it makes people uncomfortable who don't have the patience to sit through 12min of someone talking and are just here to flame about the title

[@thisisntallowed9560]

@@georgplaz I feel like it tells something if seeing a ted talk titled "I gave my daughter a vibrator" triggers them. Honestly, even before watching the video I knew what this was going to say, so I assume that other people did too. But maybe I'm the only person educated here who knows

[@edwardhu1209]

Always something new on KZbin. I am far behind.

[@justrosy5]

Not really. This isn't progress: it's a Mom embarrassing the junk out of her 13 year old daughter, while simultaneously sexualizing an innocent child who's not old enough to consent to this, or anything else either, legally. This was literal child abuse, of one of the worst kinds.

[@pjohnson81]

This video and other Ted talk videos can’t be reported, no matter how much it sexualizes children.

[@justrosy5]

Excepting that I already did. If you're on a smart device and you weren't given the option, hop onto a real PC, log in to KZbin, find this video, then use the video reporting options available right under it.

[@georgplaz]

the video does not sexualise children. did you watch it?

[@pjohnson81]

@@georgplaz yes I had. And although it’s right that she created an environment where she had the confidence of her child, (1) there’s no discussion about what gateway the masturbatjon lead to or can lead to in the world of social media, I don’t think she is aware and (2) is a presentation to the entire world about her child, a minor doing sexual acts.

[@georgplaz]

@@pjohnson81 no discussion about masturbation being a gateway? well, first of all, she didn't encourage masturbation, she wanted to give her an option that was safer than the one she was using. second, I think it's good if children/teenagers explore their needs and wants before they get into a situation with a stranger (possibly a grown up) who can exploit their inexperience and lack of knowledge. and her "minor" was 19 by the time of this video being released and consentend in her mum talking about it

[@pjohnson81]

@@georgplaz technology, entertainment, and design… are we showing how technology can replace human love, are we providing entertainment about masturbation of 13 year olds, or just providing them entertainment? Are we redesigning how youth look at love and sex and what their bodies represent?