Why I Quit Being a Therapist -- Six Reasons by Daniel Mackler

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My website: wildtruth.net
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I was a psychotherapist in New York for ten years. I've often been asked my reasons for ending my therapy practice, and here they are.
I touch on the subjects of the screwed-up mental health system, the unscientific nature of diagnosis and psychiatric medications, the stress of working with traumatized clients, vicarious trauma in the therapist, payments and awful insurance companies, the exhausting nature of the work, the heavy responsibility, pressure to use force on clients (which I never did), and professional liability, to name a few...
A few extra notes:
Some people have asked that I explain why I said that I think children don't belong in therapy, so I made a video on the subject: • Why Children Don't Bel...
Also, I said in this video that I didn't work with children in therapy, which I didn't, but in a different video I mentioned that I did work with children. Well, I did work with children -- just not in therapy. I worked with them in other contexts, like teaching and also as a musician.
Thanks for reading this! -Daniel

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@scottomania4543 4 жыл бұрын

I agree with him. I was prescribed these pills that kept me in this zombie state for over a year. Its possible that it has also destroyed my liver. Had to stop immediately. On a side note, why should children not be in therapy if they have trauma?

@Jean-Berry 4 жыл бұрын

He has talked about it before. Here's one video in which Daniel talks about children in therapy: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iqLZon-LiLOpb5o Also, here's another video that is related to this subject kzbin.info/www/bejne/pJekfGmifr-ZqcU

@manictiger 4 жыл бұрын

I know a guy who took them for a decade and he has NO medium-term memory. I'm not sure if it's genetic, or if it's the pills, but that guy has zero recall ability for anything that happened 3 months to 2 years ago. My dad and I have decent recall for that time-range, so I know he's severely deficient and it's not just "something people do". The only drugs I recommend are caffeine and melatonin. We're too stupid to fuck around with the brain, outside of basic chemicals, like the aforementioned two. It's chemical lobotomy. They don't want to cure you. They want you docile and stupid. Stupid, docile cattle don't cause problems for "the system". The system is this: go to work for a company you hate to do a job you hate for a house you'll never be able to afford and a cost-of-living that you can't keep up with and smile while you do it. Can't do that? Then you're "abnormal" and "need" medication!

@shastaholly991 4 жыл бұрын

Scottomania As someone who has been in therapy as a child, i honest to god think it saved my life. I would have spiraled even worse if I hadn’t started treatment. There are some things kids have been through that they can’t just simply work out on their own.

@tim3854 4 жыл бұрын

@@Khalfrank psychology is a mind-control weapon.. I still think there are honest shrinks out there that unintentionally gaslight their "clients" / victims

@christopherjohnson-cu9nr 4 жыл бұрын

Because "counselling" is just for overindulged narcissists who just want someone to talk at.

@justinebourke9449 Жыл бұрын

The huge pity is that therapists like this man are so badly needed by people who are suffering.

@mooncatandberyl5372 Жыл бұрын

true I agree, but also I am glad he quit, because it meant he has this you tube channel where he is giving realisation and enlightenment (especially around mental illness and the mental health system) and some kind of therapy to thousands of people.

@pjj.5649 Жыл бұрын

It's true, but you are pushed beyond burnout, you go straight to smoldering ash. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt!!!

@elisaschulman2356 Жыл бұрын

That is exactly what I was thinking. I’ll bet this man was the bomb therapist. They are far and few between.

@tammyhavlik1015 Жыл бұрын

And here he is. I'm happy for him. And I agree with him completely about the false construct of the system and how it should be about caring community.

@McFraneth Жыл бұрын

Marxism will cure your depression. You'll become angry instead. You'll understand why your frustrated humiliated dad kicked the crap out of you.

@CourtneyDixonDesigns 5 жыл бұрын

This isn't just therapy. This is the whole medical industry.

@Flitalidapouet 5 жыл бұрын

Totally

@lovealwaysshalisha 5 жыл бұрын

FACTS!!!!

@screwmuckduck8905 5 жыл бұрын

It’s made on a BUSINESS BUSINESS BUSINESS standpoint.

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 4 жыл бұрын

God, what a useless bunch doctors are. Sorry. :) You ought to see them with chronic stomach problems. :/. I went back about 4x before i just told them, please don't even send me a bill on the co-pay. I wouldn't pay a car mechanic to not fix the same problem four times. They never did fix it. I wound up taking Vitamin D in winter. Eliminating allergens: milk, wheat, and as much sugar as possible. They never ran a blood test. It might be smart to look for diabetes. It's in my family. We all like food. It can slow your digestive system down and constipate you. Never told me to see an allergist. Maybe a GI guy. Maybe it's a parasite. Nope.

@trafficjon400 4 жыл бұрын

no kidding

@LN-pm5yl Жыл бұрын

I was a therapist for 15 years and quit last year. I feel so much better, sad to say. I agree with everything you discuss here. The final straw for me was the pandemic. I changed employers twice - both saw the pandemic and resulting mental health crises as big money making opportunities. I was expected to see 35 clients per week minimum. There was no conceen for my well being, ethics, the quality of care. I was utterly exhausted, depressed and angry. I had been diagnosed with PMDD and prescribed lexapro. Since I left, I no longer have PMDD symptoms and no longer need lexapro. The profession has been corrupted and I cannot recommend that anyone go into the field when asked.

@ilax4244 Жыл бұрын

I was only a dispatcher for Social Services. It is overwhelming to see client's calls not returned or know my messages are tossed without being read. I know it was not easy for you to walk away.

@mattashmore9675 Жыл бұрын

So.. what are you doing now? I'm looking at going back into behavioral health (my dream is law enforcement/military) after trying out and not enjoying trying to work as an electrician

@ilax4244 Жыл бұрын

@@mattashmore9675 I'm 65.. I baby sit. House sit. Being a temp took a toll. I had to retire. You have done very well.👍

@AVBNOW23 Жыл бұрын

I agree….especially the part about not recommending anyone to enter the field with the way it is at present.

@ajax700 Жыл бұрын

You were overworked / stressed, not having another issue like the very dubious PMDD umbrella diagnose. You were abused by the system. Do you know the damage SSRIs cause? Do you know about PSSD? post drug sexual (and non sexual) dysfunctions. Be careful as each time you do a PSSD drug, you can be closer to having it the next time you do that drug. Many don't get PSSD or very notorious persistent effects after the 1st, 2nd, 3rd or n time they take one of these drugs, but one time they do get it. I have PSSD caused by lexapro / escitalopram. Best wishes. .

@Nettamorphosis 11 ай бұрын

Putting a few years into being a great therapist is better than putting 30+ years into being a mediocre therapist. Kudos to you.

@trudyramgren8817 Жыл бұрын

This is a kind, empathetic, loving guy who truly cares for people. I appreciate his honesty.

@oliviacadena2036 11 ай бұрын

👍👍👍🥴

@tamnovak 11 ай бұрын

and isn't it sad that that if you truly care about humanity, healthcare in OMH or BH is not the place to work! I feel bad for the new generation of SW, CASACs, LMHCs.....

@trudyramgren8817 11 ай бұрын

@@tamnovak absolutely!!

@mickizurcher8450 11 ай бұрын

@@tamnovak Me too but Therapy is going in another direction anyway and it’s so much better and that is with a micro-dosing and the use of psychedelics and it’s about time it’s way overdue. addictions can be overcome with psychedelics, and big business and the medical industry(insurance) know it and they don’t want to make it legal because they’re going lose a lot of money with all the big pharma drugs they’re trying to push on all of us, and all of the recovery centers, and all that bullshit.

@enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 11 ай бұрын

@@tamnovakAGREED!!!Greed and corruption has permeated and TAKEN OVER almost every (if not every) facet of this 🌎!!!

@itsnotatoober Жыл бұрын

You quit because you're not a therapist, you're a good human being.

@nobodysbaby5048 Жыл бұрын

☺️

@zoraidacastro2703 Жыл бұрын

100 PERCENT

@vivvpprof Жыл бұрын

If you're a bad human being, does that mean you have chances in the therapy field? 😊 (asking for a friend)

@Nick_Taylor. Жыл бұрын

@@vivvpprofas a psychiatrist, yes.

@sunkyasisa1834 Жыл бұрын

@@Nick_Taylor. very ignorant :/

@willyamos9180 11 ай бұрын

I needed therapy a few years ago, but at over $200 per sessions, I leaned to heal myself. Thanks for this. I did the right thing.

@zombiemachinery4868 10 ай бұрын

I'm going to do the same with my car.

@goych 10 ай бұрын

@@zombiemachinery4868you’re going to heal your car? I don’t understand?!

@ShadaeMastersAstrology 10 ай бұрын

@@zombiemachinery4868I tried therapy in my car too. Ended up screwing up my hand after blasting music, screaming and crying bammed my right hand on the steering wheel 3 good times. That was over a month ago and my hand hasn’t healed yet 😭 I’m trying over treatment options. Hopefully it heals 😢

@kimkimi3315 9 ай бұрын

How did you heal yourself?

@juvnal 7 ай бұрын

@@zombiemachinery4868 are u still alive

@Roberto-Escobar 11 ай бұрын

I am a psychiatric nurse and love what this guy is saying. Agree with him 100%. Our system is sadly broken.

@autumngrace8541 11 ай бұрын

IT WAS BUILT BROKEN....

@Roberto-Escobar 11 ай бұрын

@@autumngrace8541 damn that hit….. you right……

@autumngrace8541 11 ай бұрын

@@Roberto-Escobar The more compassion we can exhibit to others and help them find who they really are, and keep from getting zombie medication, the more we can wake up the oneness consciousness.

@claireh.7605 11 ай бұрын

The system presents antisocial perverse individuals with their own issues to vulnerable people who assume that therapists can be trusted to be normal and give good advice. My therapist was a lying psycho manipulating people into being long term clients while playing mind games with them and then lying about it when confronted. Then I took an SSRI and it destroyed my brain and my life, I didn’t taper it, almost lost all my jobs and ruined my reputation. Started being abusive to my family and it lasted for fifteen years.

@Guda6 11 ай бұрын

Because USA is $ driven it’s so sad and cruel

@LifeAtTheCrossroads Жыл бұрын

As a retired psychologist, I understand and agree with all you've said here.

@fifthwallradio5477 11 ай бұрын

When mental health became behavioral health, saw the writing on the wall and closed practice

@effexon 11 ай бұрын

@@fifthwallradio5477 wdym with that? what was it before? that explains so called ADHD and other booms coz looking behaviour sure that has increased (people in bigger and bigger cities must sit still and quiet more and more of their day + no familiar people 90% of day around you makes everyone jittery)... yet Im disappointed this is like societal taboo nobody is supposed to say.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

know it's not simple but Assuming to have adhered to the unethical market charges a bit by maintaining, High Value Clients and to have used some of it to fund the ones for whom therapy might not had been affordable and also to have used some of that fund to take the we'll deserving breaks once in a while to follow his own interests and pursuit, would probably have made him to be more acceptable and collaborative for his colleagues thus also to get their support for the good therapist he was and also to not only have left the profession, but instead to have had looked up to him by his peers and maybe later in his life maintain a position of training the upcoming ones and helping them with the necessary experience and mindset to hopefully create the necessary changes of the status quo of the entire MENTAL INDUSTRY for the good is what I'm looking at. What do you think?

@Bambotb 11 ай бұрын

Why would insurance companies want to spend more money on drugging and hospitalisation ?

@enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 11 ай бұрын

@@effexonso true!!! I never thought about that!

@franciehartsog1347 Жыл бұрын

I quit too. For the same reasons. I actually became sick with MS. You will always be a therapist. Just not a licensed therapist. I have dedicated myself to serve others FREE!

@dmackler58 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Wishing you the best 😀

@julijopeterson7096 11 ай бұрын

There ya go….

@kelrickthechironhealer9961 11 ай бұрын

@@annmcerlean5017 For REAL.....

@user-wp3wn1ti1n 11 ай бұрын

👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙌🌼🌼🌼

@danielgallegos1528 Жыл бұрын

This man walks into a bar and he ends up helping someone. He is the healer integrated. Any of us would be lucky to stand in the line at the grocery store next to this guy. Cheers!

@lorileewhitbord8260 11 ай бұрын

Beautifully said.

@rumination2399 3 ай бұрын

We can be like him if we want to.

@chrisg7795 11 ай бұрын

I LOVE that you said all this openly. I have the same kind of reasons - as a teacher. The “system” destroys every good social work. I have friends who are doctors with their whole heart and they say the same. Being humane and wanting the best for people is not wanted if it isn’t cheap. You restore my trust in humanity. I often feel completely left alone when I talk about these big problems openly. All your reasons apply to me as a teacher as well. If you go out of your way to really help a child/adolescent it consumes your own health, not only because you care but it’s not wanted that you do. You’re supposed to rush. And to “treat” 8 classes of 30 individuals each who have a right to be seen. It breaks you if you’ve got a heart. I visited kids at hospital because their parents wouldn’t do it, I fed them because their parents didn’t do it, I hugged little ones who cried, had narcissistic parents and felt lost - and I wasn’t supposed to do any of it. I even got blamed for “interfering”. But those kids came to me later as adults and told me that this was the one thing that kept them from hurting themselves.

@colettespencer3357 11 ай бұрын

I understand. I do the same as a nurse of 19 years. ❤

@chrisg7795 11 ай бұрын

@@colettespencer3357 Yes! I imagine ❤️

@colettespencer3357 11 ай бұрын

@@chrisg7795 💖

@kwa_nguyen 11 ай бұрын

oh man. thats so heartbreaking. thank you for the love that you showed to those kids.

@user-vg6pj2my2n 10 ай бұрын

Big hug to you Chris. Thank you for making a big and positive difference in this world.

@lagoldie9783 Жыл бұрын

The people that go to therapy most times don't have mentally ill problems. They are going through real life situations that would cause distress in anyone and they just need to talk about it. It's really the society that's sick.

@michaelbaker5547 5 жыл бұрын

This guy is a rare example of a someone who decided to become a whistleblower. Maybe I'm a pessimist, but I assume there's vast corruption that could be revealed in almost all lines of work, and generally the vast majority of people keep it a secret because if they didn't, they'd risk losing their jobs and, as a result, their financial security.

@roswithabearfield5374 5 жыл бұрын

You're correct. Every job I worked had some form of corruption, and there was no justice for it.

@kevinmcinerney9552 5 жыл бұрын

Yep, sad.

@tanyadegurechaff7868 5 жыл бұрын

Humanity is corrupt by default.

@zain4019 5 жыл бұрын

Tanya Degurechaff Not by default. We can make our world better. Believing we can’t is dangerous and false.

@lanceg3208 5 жыл бұрын

Bit of a strong assumption, but yes. Certainly improvements always can be made in many areas. We must do our best, individually. Find peace individually.

@sahpire75 Жыл бұрын

This man’s a saint. Extremely rare for medical professionals to be this honest. It’s disheartening, but at the same time, a relief that he speaks the truth. Makes you want to get your sht together fast.

@Nexus31323 11 ай бұрын

I was in therapy since I was a little girl, almost 40 years of my life. No stupid therapist could tip me off that I was living with an undercover psychopathic father, which unconsciously led me to choose a similar husband. The day I divorced my parents and my then husband, I recovered my health in a few months, I got off the pills, I found a serene, economically productive, and happy life. I learned about narcissism on KZbin, in three months, more than all the psychologists and psychiatrists I had in my life.

@chris2790 11 ай бұрын

Yep. Sad how things work with "experts" and "science".

@cgc1581 11 ай бұрын

Very similar here. ❤

@pysq8 10 ай бұрын

And people can throw around the phrase, "they need therapy", as if it means they'll actually get help. 😢 So glad you found your way!...my fellow KZbin University alum(s). ❤

@babyrani5207 10 ай бұрын

Good job

@JohnDoe-jn4ex 10 ай бұрын

Darn Tootin,

@swavekbu4959 3 жыл бұрын

"The ones who need a therapist are the ones who usually can't pay." Same with animals and vets. When I visit the vet, I look around me, and realize these are all the "lucky dogs." The dogs that really need a vet aren't here.

@cvestick Жыл бұрын

please, my friends, go vegan

@justinebourke9449 Жыл бұрын

True but unfortunately vetinary medicine is largely like that for humans; damaging synthetic chemicals, totally overused and pushed by multibillion profiteering pharmaceutical companies who "educate" and basically bribe veterinary practitioners to use their drugs

@saida817 Жыл бұрын

It’s so true

@veronicalagor4771 Жыл бұрын

Same with humans and medical treatment. They avoid the help because they can't afford to go, leading to pricier emergency expenses later. It's very sad how many emergencies in hospitals could be prevented with proper, regular preventative interventions and lifestyle changes.

@Unkn0wn1133 Жыл бұрын

@@cvestickvegans dont have pets now? Thats new to me

@charlotteriddle7303 6 жыл бұрын

The tears you cried in those therapy sessions with and for the patient I feel probably made them feel validated. It made them see that you SAW their pain and that it was ok for them to see their pain and show it to others. Your tears were not shed in vain.

@Erika-yi1fj 5 жыл бұрын

Charlotte Riddle 👏👏

@kjtamf 5 жыл бұрын

Charlotte Riddle 👍🏻❤️🙏🏻

@stevensullivan5282 5 жыл бұрын

Amen

@jaimecoutanche5977 5 жыл бұрын

So true He is a human and humane. They need to listen more and stop prescribing drugs so much. As a survivor..my prescription; find Jehovah, be with people who love and value you, being useful for others, good food and walking or any exercise...all free (except the food). Love heaĺs, give it and you will receive it.

@funkmonster 5 жыл бұрын

nature2rule oh quiet down you little psychopath. There are human beings in the world that feel things. You’re not special because you feel nothing, you fool.

@taniamartin6978 11 ай бұрын

You should write a book about your former life as a therapist. Fascinating. It's the same in every field I suppose; the sensitive, dedicated professional is abused, exploited and rejected. Those patients deserve to have their stories known.

@lomigreen 11 ай бұрын

Wounded Healer. Thank you, soul soldier for facing these dark things. You’ve most likely healed many.

@ShadaeMastersAstrology 10 ай бұрын

Wounded healer is an asteroid placement in astrology named Chiron.

@Jessica-jr5qf 6 ай бұрын

@@ShadaeMastersAstrologyIt would be interesting to see the placement of chiron in his chart

@brandytorretta3701 3 жыл бұрын

As a fellow therapist I can 100% relate to everything you said. This is deeply sacred work and deeply heavy. I had to up my zen lifestyle in order to manage the trauma I’m exposed to on an almost daily basis. I’m only a few years in now, in private practice so I have more control, but I can see how my work probably has a shelf life. And yes, our mental health care system is BROKEN and dysfunctional. We have a long way to go to make it better and what it should be....

@yoelikikadidi-tq2nn Жыл бұрын

How are you a therapist when you don't even know how to talk to people respectfully.

@AJ-es5yd Жыл бұрын

@yoeli kikadidi what the f is wrong with YOU!

@just-a-fella3212 Жыл бұрын

@@yoelikikadidi-tq2nn What did she say that is disrespectful?

@yoelikikadidi-tq2nn Жыл бұрын

@@just-a-fella3212 nothing she didn't say anything, that wasn't for her I was responding to a comment that was deleted. I guess, I'll also delete mine lol

@just-a-fella3212 Жыл бұрын

@@yoelikikadidi-tq2nn Oh yes, I think that often happens on youtube.

@frankwaters4552 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Daniel. Been a nurse for 33 years and experienced the same feelings. It's unfortunate to see how bad things in healthcare have become.

@roadrunner9622 Жыл бұрын

The cafeterias in hospitals are filled with processed junk food, not fruits and vegetables. I feel like that says it all.

@channel1_channel Жыл бұрын

Ex-nurse here too (RN Australia over 10 years on the floor). The corruption is endless unfortunately. Treatment of chronic disease. The propaganda and corruption of medical trials. The past CDC CEO Walensky claiming the covid jab "stops spread". Endless lies and BS..over many decades..and longer!

@noellealyagout1669 11 ай бұрын

Amazing to hear you speak up about this . BRAVO !! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😍 I had a « brush » with a therapist because alcoholism in my family became overwhelming ( father then husband). Thank God my intuition guided me to refuse pills and instead I joined Al-Anon where I immediately began to be able to rebuild myself. I HIGHLY recommend a 12 Step Program 👍🏻 no drugs , no know all therapist . Just a bunch of compassionate people who have been through what you’ve been through and a solid program of personal growth with a healthy faith in of a Higher Power to share all with🙏🏻😍❤️ I am so strong and healthy now ❤

@kirkcavenaugh758 11 ай бұрын

The medical industry is legit one of the most evil institutions in the world.

@-Clarence- 11 ай бұрын

Remember when they recommended cigarettes to heal people? I swear most people are just stupid and repeat the same mistakes unless they’re told what’s bad

@judyberes8655 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you quit being a therapist for many of the same reasons I quit the legal profession. Also, the trauma I'd suffer as a result of these cases made my life unmanageable. I'm glad the KZbin bots introduced me to your channel. What I've watched so far has made a lot of sense.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@kacklerot 11 ай бұрын

As a bipolar on the spectrum this is why I learned not to say trigger things and I stopped over sharing and going to the doctor. I stopped all my meds and started trying to help myself learn how to conquer my own emotional problems and deal with my bipolar moods. I been off meds since 2001 and I don't recall when my last real meltdown has been. Maybe 2009? I still have mood swings but they appear mild now because I know when they're coming and I learned coping skills. I been pretty happy now and I think I wouldn't be where I am if I was on the medications I was on. They had me on ritalin when I was young which is really bad for Bipolar. I'm glad I took it all into my hands and I don't look back now.

@myjoyisCHRIST 11 ай бұрын

I am SOOOOOO HAPPY for your self-won victory!!!!🎉 Thank you for sharing your story of hope to inspire others❤

@schoomzer 4 жыл бұрын

This guy is AMAZING, a truly sensitive and caring soul.

@joesmith9472 4 жыл бұрын

its a very nice contribution to youtube. that for every 20 likes this video got a dislike is for me another reason to lose faith in humanity.

@AgeofReason 3 жыл бұрын

He doesn't seem to be pretentious, either. I can't sense a fraud behind his face from what I've listened to yet.

@geoffcaflisch1352 3 жыл бұрын

Burn out due to vicarious trauma and lack of support and supervision.

@googleshitsyt5557 2 жыл бұрын

He is! I was in a mental clinic in 2 periods!!! ... 1999?medicated 2000- refused medication 2006-forced medication ... I love so much for being you as an ex-therapist and SPEAK OUT

@myarkventures674 2 жыл бұрын

kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4fbh4aMnK2lsJI In Australia as they treat humans less than unwanted animals

@deemster1670 5 жыл бұрын

Man u a real human, thanks for existing.

@FarewellAphrodite 5 жыл бұрын

deemster Yes! He’s a jolly good fellow! I concur.

@ladybug947 5 жыл бұрын

I agree

@gooiehoop20 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree!

@melissa6261975 11 ай бұрын

I was a counselor for one year. I have a student loan now for years, for a career I found out that I did not like. I was miserable after that year, and have no desire to ever counsel again. It is sad to say, but the truly loving and caring therapists become traumatized by listening to it all.

@lisa2000geese 5 ай бұрын

I had a similar experience, it's why I'm not a therapist anymore

@stephthinks3109 5 ай бұрын

Same here. But my husband is pushing me to continue because of the salary but I care WAY too much and affects my soul!

@davidestabrook5367 3 ай бұрын

@@stephthinks3109Reality is really horrendous, it's painful to listen to. And most people can't cope with the knowledge of how it actually is. But taking care of yourself is the most important thing, as if your work is causing you to suffer, then it's time to make a change.

@cawoodie12 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your 6 reasons. I'm a 62 YO male who has been in-and-out of therapy since I was 12. Out of the dozens of therapists I've had, most weren't interested in hearing about my horrible childhood, and even one of them said, "You're a grown man now, get over it." My educated guess is that if I had you as a therapist, my life would have worked out a lot better for me. And with that said, I would have been forever grateful to you.

@ShadowMonk609 7 ай бұрын

Jesus fucking christ man, as a therapist that should not be said.

@kathleenlauren 6 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you didn't have that opportunity. Maybe he would take on just one more client - you.

@jlroussin 6 жыл бұрын

I personally believe if more people would just take the time to really truly listen to people, and offer compassion and empathy, it would solve so many problems. It seems in many instances the therapist is paid to truly listen to and focus on an person and how they truly feel and what they've truly been through. Our society has become so plastic and superficial and phony, we have to pay people to listen to us.

@neverending9120 6 жыл бұрын

A lot of folks have traded a couple real good friends for 400 social media friends. And as you stated, its all superficial and vanity.

@bobbastion7335 6 жыл бұрын

But to do that, you have to actually care. To care you must love. There is no love in profit driven institutions.

@jlroussin 6 жыл бұрын

True that.

@marygfleming9835 6 жыл бұрын

l have thought the same way as yourself for years Waiting for Jesus. So glad to know that someone else thinks similarly to me. Take care. Mary

@walloffire2225 6 жыл бұрын

Big pharma is MONSTEROUS EVIL.

@christiedunlap6214 Жыл бұрын

I am a licensed massage therapist and I have noticed that my clients talk about their troubles when I am working on them because they are very relaxed and comfortable with me. I just listen as I was trained not to give advice. I was considering going back to school for mental health therapy, but listening to you lets me know I don’t need to go there. 😅

@openyourmind3763 Жыл бұрын

Yes, I am a trauma therapist and people hold trauma in the body for decades, often unconsciously, and your safe, healing touch helps them release emotions. Yoga too. You are a true healer but be sure to protect your energy, too.

@thehappyparenteffect Жыл бұрын

I had this experience as a massage therapist too. It's quite fascinating and I wonder if it's something that naturally comes out when someone is being nurtured through massage or perhaps massage therapy attracts people who are naturally open hearted listeners? Or maybe a combination of both? =)

@gillagroupie 11 ай бұрын

Me too! I've been an LMT for 10 years, and I've been kicking around the idea of becoming a liscenced mental health counselor. But so many of the issues that frustrate me about massage therapy are mirrored in psychotherapy. I think the two fields attract similar people. there is much to consider and i'm uncertain of my future direction.

@alextomlinson 11 ай бұрын

@@thehappyparenteffect It could be a mammalian instinct. If a young animal is hurt it goes to it's guardian to get licked and nurtured. If someone's muscles are sore and you're working out the pain for them maybe it's just a natural instinct or reflex to spill the rest of their pain onto you 😅

@alextomlinson 11 ай бұрын

@@openyourmind3763 what is a trauma therapist and how does it differ from a standard licensed therapist

@helenm6732 Жыл бұрын

Not what I expected, but the model Daniel advocates is community and kindness. Peace to him. He’s left goodness and kindness in the world. What a legacy.

@FrostRare 11 ай бұрын

I’ve been in the mental health treatment system my whole life starting at 10 years old. I’ve been on around 20 different meds. Ive been su!cidal, I’ve overdosed twice, I’ve been addicted (severely) to amphetamines, benzodiazepines, and alcohol, and I’ve been institutionalized twice. I’ve gotten to see through so much of the game. So many therapists or prescribers I’ve had have not only been unhelpful, but they straight up traumatized me while I was in the midst of traumatic experiences. Some of them nearly got me killed with putting me on drugs that they had no idea what they were. Can you imagine telling someone to take poison everyday, not to go off it, then if the person realizes they’re being poisoned they say “I want to get off it” they say “you’re not allowed to do that. The side effects are normal. Everyone feels that.” Or worse, they say “hmm! I’ve never heard that before. Whatever.” The therapist I have right now is the best one I’ve had. Why? Because she is in it for the right reasons. She went through things in her life and now seeks to help people get through theirs. Simple.

@alavalle69 11 ай бұрын

While you are in your journey for recovery, add asking God for help. Ask God to heal all emotional and spiritual wounds and pain EVERY DAY. It will make recovery process saffer and less. You lose nothing, it´s free and available 24 hs

@camelliam.4235 11 ай бұрын

JibsRial, I am happy to hear you finally have a good therapist. Sounds like you had a tough life, I wish you health and happiness.

@fumarate1 11 ай бұрын

I feel your pain my friend I've been thur it as well.

@jxlian6572 Ай бұрын

It's people like you who I seek to help, as I have gone through so many things throughout my whole life, I wish to help others who have experienced the same. Wish you the best and to keep your head up.

@mauricefleming2456 2 жыл бұрын

I've watched this video 3-4 times and it never fails. I'm a licensed mental health counselor who worked at a methadone clinic and within 2 years, after listening to trauma stories of people with drug addictions, I had a stroke with partial paralysis, rehabilitated within a year, went back to counseling in drug addiction, then had a heart attack! I've decided as well, therapy IS NOT MY CALLING! Too much pain, too much vicarious traumatization, too many problems. The mental health system REALLY is screwed. Yes, I spent 5 years in graduate school to help this system only to get some health issues out of it but I'm grateful for being in the trenches and meeting every client I had. They taught me a lot!

@wendy6698 Жыл бұрын

I got stage iv breast cancer I directly attribute to the stressors of working in mental health

@saida817 Жыл бұрын

Oh wow that’s explains a lot. Wish you speedy recovery ❤️‍🩹 I actually wanted to get into this field.

@frankG335 Жыл бұрын

Tbf, you might have had those health problems no matter what field you went into.

@mauricefleming2456 Жыл бұрын

@@frankG335 If my entry in that field lacked an awareness of the emotional involvement that field would require, sure. But I'm good now, and know my boundaries as a counselor and human being. :)

@lolitavine9616 Жыл бұрын

That's awful 😢 I hope you're fine now!

@leigh7507 Жыл бұрын

I've had more productive evenings with an intelligent and trust worthy mate at a pub then I've had in months of therapy

@dmackler58 Жыл бұрын

Me too, and I don’t even drink…

@angelablackthorne3026 11 ай бұрын

That depends on the therapist! Friends are wonderful but in general a therapist is safer if only in the sense that they're not going to be as emotionally reactive and they are bound by law to keep what you tell them confidential. The strength of a friend's reaction and /or judgments can be surprising, and you may be telling them something they are more emotionally attached to than you know because you know some of the same people.

@walkingeverywhere4k831 11 ай бұрын

@@angelablackthorne3026 On the other hand, a true friend might know you better and be more invested to truly help you, because, unlike the therapist, he has a personal relationship with you and isn't exhausted by listening and trying to help 30 other people each week. Additionally, he doesn't only see what you're telling him (for instance that you claim to be always nice to ppl) but he might actually see how you really behave and therefore identify some things that you're not aware of

@fumarate1 11 ай бұрын

Gotta love those chance encounters.

@Quinefan Ай бұрын

@@dmackler58 The alcohol is *definitely not* the active ingredient in that scenario, Daniel! Question: have you come across the work of Jonathan Shedler, or Nancy McWilliams? Thoughts?

@Lotus1111 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your transparency Daniel. A few years ago at 55, I retired from my career in Psychiatry. Unfortunately, my style was to listen to the person in front of me and strive to hold a safe, attentive space for them to be heard, seen and thus help me to understand how I could best help them on their healing, wellness, wholeness journey. Well, once EMR, two computer screens, and a printer entered the room, my approach became unsustainable. I’m very grateful for the people who entrusted me with their well-being over the years, a privilege indeed. I pray for our current medical system and humanity.

@mariekatherine5238 11 ай бұрын

That’s like going to a regular doctor. They don’t even look at you! I once asked if I’d come to the wrong office. Why? I said I was looking for the health clinic but appeared to have stumbled into a business office, everyone crunching numbers on screens. My remark was not appreciated. I haven’t been back. A 15 year old kid watching medical KZbin videos can learn to recognize an obvious heart murmur. My doc didn’t even check! He said I didn’t have one or I wouldn’t be sitting on the exam table at my age, 63! Anytime the government takes over an area in which they have no expertise, and falls outside their proper role in society, they destroy it, workers, clients, everyone. Medicine, education, scientific research, and now, the thought, opinion, and social relations police!

@zekec6088 11 ай бұрын

My cat has done more for my well-being than any mental health professional- an animal who literally lacks the ability to understand me as a human individual. I basically stopped journalling a month ago when I lived temporarily with an anti-self-reflective environment with a dominant , somewhat overbearing and highly reactive (angry, fearful) person. I take this as a sign (second one today) that I gotta start writing again, including my dreams down. So thank you.

@John-sg5un Жыл бұрын

It's too bad you stopped your therapy practice. You're one in a million who actually truly cares about people.

@100Mizrachi-ib8gw Жыл бұрын

10 years is a long time to be self sacrificing. I am happy he’s living the life that he enjoys, he deserves it.

@sunkyasisa1834 Жыл бұрын

He is now doing therapy across this channel

@nighthawkviper6791 11 ай бұрын

Yeah but people don't care about him. Especially not Muricans.

@deannamartin6827 11 ай бұрын

Yes he possibly is "one in a million" but if you listened to the entire video, you'd realize it was literally making him ill. There comes a time to save oneself.

@Fido-vm9zi 11 ай бұрын

Perhaps he is meant to be led someplace better.

@angelicayeleshwarapu 3 жыл бұрын

I went to a hospital at age 14 following suicidal ideation and severe depression and met girls there with much worse “mental health” than I... These girls endured rape from their parents, sexual abuse by others, severe physical beatings, and more. I was personally there because of alienation from others, parental abuse, and intense school culture. I could immediately see a correlation between life circumstance and illness. Luckily, I was on the lower end of the spectrum. I know Some would say, illness is genetic and their parents had illness so the kids did, but why did a sixteen year old whose two parents killed them selves in front of her at age 4 try hanging herself with a blanket after being put on 5 different meds and therapy. If the issue is genetic, and meds are targeting their genes, then why wasn’t she getting better? I was given all these medicines and diagnosis that I actually started feeling crazy AFTER receiving “mental help”. The whole thing is fucked. I went into college thinking I could learn how to help mend the system, but it’s such an overwhelming task. Mental health care is not preventative, it is a responsive to fucked up situations. And now people ask themselves “why am I depressed when nothing wrong is happening to me. My life is good.” They don’t even know that the societal standards that tell them life is good have nothing to do with their happiness and wellbeing. Alienation is SYSTEMATIC. they don’t even know how fucked your their lives are..

@pjj.5649 Жыл бұрын

Well put. I hope things have changed for the better for you. Pulling for you from afar.

@teresasully3561 Жыл бұрын

Satan rules the world.

@conniethompson1050 Жыл бұрын

Satin does not rule the world. More and more people are waking up to the truth of who we are. And awakened folks are truly helping others to wake up.

@mindsigh4 Жыл бұрын

@@conniethompson1050 agreed, satin is rarely even made from silk anymore, it's all synthetic.

@CheapSushi 11 ай бұрын

It sucks so much also when you have a history in the system because if your medical records follow you and/or you seek new providers (and start the whole discussion over again) everyone starts to see you more like a liability and risk (legally/professionally) and you are stigmatized often as non-compliant when generic advice and lots and lots of medications don't work. Then you're released, let go, lose insurance, etc, and you feel lost and abandoned again and then start over again when it gets to another extreme and then years and years and years go by and nothing has really improved because nobody can give you back time, nobody can give you back a childhood, nobody will give you $1 million dollars or more to completely change everything possible, nobody is going to unconditionally love you 24/7 365, etc.

@sarahdoanpeace3623 11 ай бұрын

I wanted to be a therapist my Whole life! But at 33, I quit a PhD Program and now I’m glad I’m not a therapist or psychologist. Thank you for the confirmation.

@tiwiogunye 11 ай бұрын

I just finished one year of undergrad psychology. I feel so lost on what to do from here. Please help.

@amanithecreator 11 ай бұрын

@@tiwiogunyeI was the same, I quit after my first year studying psychology

@justinedse3314 10 ай бұрын

What are you doing now?

@parus_1671 8 ай бұрын

I’ve put so much effort on becoming a psychologist and have almost completed my bachelor’s now. This path required massive changes and effort and time - I was a bit older than a typical undergrad when I started this degree. But my heart is not in it… People tell me I’d make a great psychologist, that I could be a trailblazer… Idk if it’s fear or what but it feels incredibly tiring to continue… I don’t want to give in to fear but I do want to keep my peace.

@electricityofmind6300 4 ай бұрын

sounds like you do not know your preferences. Spending time away from people and a phone /tv in a safe environment, by yourself - is what I'd do to solve this. Ideally among nature but somewhere quiet and safe @@parus_1671

@aisthpaoitht 10 ай бұрын

It seems to me that there is a huge void in society that religion/church and a sense of community used to fill. When he said that everyone should know how to be a therapist, that really struck a chord with me. Humanity lost its ability to be compassionate, vulnerable, and understanding. It is ridiculous, when you think about it, that we have a specialized profession of people who get paid to empathetically listen to others without judgment. That just shows that we dont listen to others with empathy and without judgment. Society is diseased with a loss of meaning and humanity.

@race_to_the_bottom7331 10 ай бұрын

It is not ALL humanity. It is Western civilization, and especially the US and probably the UK

@jaceyates6315 10 ай бұрын

yknow at one point, people thought the internet would do the opposite....

@holidaynexpress 10 ай бұрын

@@race_to_the_bottom7331ehhhh id argue not, lots of asian countries at least struggle greatly with mental health problems. iirc a lot of japanese citizens in particular say that talking about mental health is very looked down upon, so most people don't talk about that to others, which leads them to suffer

@susanivy3619 10 ай бұрын

@@holidaynexpress Exactly, they just love to bash the US in the comment sections. Theirs a term in Japanese, it's Karoshi and has to do with literally overworking yourself to de@th...or some commit suic!de over it. Give me a break, u have ch!ldren working in China as sIave labor ffs. Listen to him "it's all Western blah, blah" The Us for sure, probably the UK...the guy is taIking out his azz. So many countries outside of the Western ones he's talking about have problems far greater than the ones were discussing here...

@susanivy3619 10 ай бұрын

@@race_to_the_bottom7331 Pray, tell us, what are the names of these wonderfully compassionate countries, full of understanding towards humanity that you speak of? 😂 I can't wait to hear which ones you name lol. I'm sure there are a few nice countries to live in but it's funny tho, I never see anyone flocking to most (if any) of these countries seeking citizenship, or a work visa. edit: I noticed the one video u have up, please tell me one of the countries you're referring to in terms of compassi0n, understanding and human!ty is China, oh please, I'd love a good laugh.

@lynncrf 3 жыл бұрын

Timestamps: 0:00-8:33: The financial issues in terms of dealing with high overheads and controlling insurance companies; 11:53: Exhaustion from vicarious trauma; 17:00: The lack of support from colleagues, including supervisors; 23:54: The responsibility of being focused/present with clients; 28:25: He became interested in other things besides working with trauma.

@-441- 2 жыл бұрын

Your comment needs to be pinned! 📌📌

@lynncrf 2 жыл бұрын

@@-441- Thanks! Thankfully a lot of those issues don't happen here in Europe. We don't have to deal with insurance; supervisors simply do not act the way he describes; and very few of us work more than 25 hours a week. Vicarious trauma is however always a risk.

@myarkventures674 2 жыл бұрын

kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4fbh4aMnK2lsJI In Australia as they treat humans less than unwanted animals

@CalmKit Жыл бұрын

A lot of supervising social workers engage in therapy and don’t do their own personal therapy. This leads to projecting their frustrations on their underlings, like this young man, especially in the overwhelming mental health system in NYC.

@chanson8508 Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙌🏾 I was looking for this

@teddayer6523 5 жыл бұрын

I am a therapist and an MD since 1991. And i have to agree almost 100% with what Daniel said here.

@VaJennaGames 5 жыл бұрын

just wondering - even that part about Kids shouldn't be in therapy?

@melloyellow5598 4 жыл бұрын

@@Rafael-xu9cn Love, genuine acceptance, structure, stability, room to grow mentally and physically, parents and care-givers that don't "cross boundaries", protection from evil-doers... They need alot but Love is at the top of the list. Karen Carpenter's song "Bless The Beasts And The Children" says so much.

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 4 жыл бұрын

@@VaJennaGames what problem could a kid have that can be helped by therapy, tho?

@VaJennaGames 4 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 yea. I doubt we will reach an agreement here. But some kids don't get taken care of. Some kids get raped and abused physically and emotionally. I was lucky enough to see a therapist in high school and she was a godsend. And throughout middle school while i was being ruthlessly bullied, the school guidance counsellor was a very needed source of support.

@kaylap.1191 4 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 How about rape and neglect?

@kali542 Жыл бұрын

I am an agnostic (spiritual not religious) chaplain working in Hospice. I facilitate grief groups as well. My in-laws are both psychotherapists. I was trained to provide compassionate presence and active listening--and never to fix. I violate all kinds of boundaries, hug people, tell them I love them, help them trust themselves no matter what. I could never be a therapist. I cry every day too with people. But that is my favorite part. I feel that I shepherd peoples' pain and it is a privilege.

@kali542 11 ай бұрын

@@biancahotca3244 It’s a great big planet with many people and customs, traditions, religions and no religions. I’m so glad you feel strong in your particular faith and you are learning to be Christ-like to lift others, living by His example of peace, kindness, and mercy.

@kali542 11 ай бұрын

@@biancahotca3244 we would have to sit and talk this out in real world not KZbin. All the best to you.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

Remember asking calmly to somone who was venting on person' own frustration as well as on behalf of the general people who had issues, that do you think a warm, quite, non judgemental, genuine prolonged caring simple hug help people themselves validate their own trauma without ever uttering a word? The person went silent for few minutes and said YES, only with way less frustration than before. Convo, wasn't face to face. Infact a distant and Audio only one.

@samuelgoldring9691 11 ай бұрын

thank you

@DawnSTyler 11 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I watched this video. I have been thinking about becoming a therapist for a long time because I’m one of those people who people feel better after talking to. I feel the pain of the world in my own body and have been told I am highly empathetic. So I’ve felt like I should help people heal if I could. Maybe therapy was my calling? After watching this video, I realize I would definitely break under this type of pressure to show up for so many people. I’m just too sensitive to handle it and care for my own mental health at the same time. Just showing up for my friends and family is enough to make me have a lot of those symptoms you talked about. My gift to the world will have to take another form. Thank you for helping me put this to rest within myself.

@user-vg6pj2my2n 10 ай бұрын

I feel exactly the same as you. But you put it better. We can help in smaller doses and take care of ourselves too.

@user-ey4rc5tu4t 4 жыл бұрын

We live in a social system where the victim carries all of the burden. Victim blaming ideals are sponsored. The idea that you are 100%responsible for what happens in your life is a double edged sword that while giving us the feeling of so much agency, is cutting us to ribbons.

@waakkeuppp 3 жыл бұрын

You nailed it. People seem to want to punish you for being unfortunate. It’s a horrible cycle. This disturbs me greatly.

@samihaislam3487 2 жыл бұрын

Yes the truth.. takes time to process everything and get out

@bmg2507 2 жыл бұрын

Is it a case of wanting magic to go back in time and prevent/ undo traumatic sitiations?

@fortitude120 Жыл бұрын

"You are 100% responsible" => Idc about you, social responsibility is not real lololol

@saida817 Жыл бұрын

Very true. I feel l that because a lot of power and authority positions narcissists taking place, and all the burden falls on victims

@thelilliad Жыл бұрын

Thank you for speaking out against this insane and horrific system ❤

@what.you.allowyou.permit2030 11 ай бұрын

This is fantastic, Daniel. I worked in the mental health industry for 26 years.😢 You've nicely deconstructed all this. Thank you for articulating all it so well.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@what.you.allowyou.permit2030 10 ай бұрын

@@fabe8947 Great idea, probably. Something i myself wouldn't know except with the wisdom of hindsight. If you're in a position to do as you're suggesting, then go for it❣️🙏☕

@fabe8947 10 ай бұрын

@@what.you.allowyou.permit2030 ty for support. Definitely wish I would. But i was more of hoping for your thoughts on how naive / non practical i sound, from your experience. Guidance much appreciated

@what.you.allowyou.permit2030 10 ай бұрын

@@fabe8947 In that case work in ANY field that pays the most and use your wealth to support the marginalized.

@154421535 11 ай бұрын

My two brothers committed suicide. I went to therapy to help me cope, but I found that it didn’t really help me. I was on Prozac and Lexapo for about one year. It made me feel like a zombie. Fortunately I was not labeled, but I knew I sometimes felt depressed and anxious. The way I felt was normal. Sometimes you just have to acknowledge your trauma and move on. I didn’t indulge in drugs or self harm. I became involved with reading the Bible and going to church. It helped more then anything. Some therapists tried talking me out of attending church, they were not respectful of who I am. Self help books were sometimes helpful as well. I also keep in shape I eat well and exercise. My motto DO Not Give Up. I try help others as well.

@gabrielchovan-spence4215 10 ай бұрын

I have 2 brothers, I can’t imagine the pain you went through. My personal motto is “one more rep”, all we can do is push forward. I respect your strength.

@user-vg6pj2my2n 10 ай бұрын

Bless you for your internal wisdom. Keep on keeping on. Even when it might feel like an inch at a time. Doing it your way makes a big difference. And as a seasoned griever, I will just share it takes YEARS to learn how to really survive again. And this is NORMAL. Don't let anyone with the phrase " move on" on their lips bug you. You can do this.

@Willkott 10 ай бұрын

Keep fighting and i hope you the best!

@Vulture2918 7 ай бұрын

I couldn’t commend you more for sticking by your faith in God. I’m a Muslim. But regardless people who try to talk you out of it are idiots. I hope your trauma improves never stop fighting

@Fuedez 4 ай бұрын

Bless u ❤

@orazzal 5 жыл бұрын

I had and still have a similar practice. I've been a therapist in NYC for 35 years and keep my fees low enough on my sliding scale because my mission was also to help the poor and disenfranchised. I felt mental health should be available to everyone. I was also on every major insurance panel and once because of a CAQW (a reaccreditation process)clerical error, I did not get paid for three years! It ruined my credit and it was not until I got a lawyer who mentioned the magic word "class action lawsuit" that I did get paid. Mind you, I continued to treat my patients without payment. Then when I decided I was not going to be an "in Network" provider, the insurance made very difficult for me and when I finally became independent, they kept asking me to come back! It was a living nightmare that led me to bankruptcy. Today I have a very small practice consisting of patients of my own choice and I love my work more that ever. I do quite understand and agree with most of the comments made in this video. Thanks, Daniel!

@briantrela5819 5 жыл бұрын

Marcus Lazzaro q

@ThyReturner 5 жыл бұрын

You're a great guy.

@arianamooon Жыл бұрын

How do you find patients?

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@Sam-lv2fc 2 жыл бұрын

From an ex-therapist and happier person, thank you so much for naming so perfectly these deep-seated issues of the profession.

@ladeek35 Жыл бұрын

Fellow ex-thx here as well! Nice to be happier today, right?! Peace.

@joannalf4750 11 ай бұрын

@@ladeek35 if i may ask, does worrying for the clients still haunt you? i fear not caring anymore will feel wrong...

@ladeek35 11 ай бұрын

@@joannalf4750 Apart of me will always care for my former clients, I must trust that I did my best work and they are living better lives. I know this to be true for many many clients. No worrying for me. Plus, I pray for them and send good intentions wherever they are today. The only thing that “haunts” (your word) me are a few of the bad traumatic stories. I will never forget. I’m doing my own somatic trauma work now for that stress. No guilt for me. Peace

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@TheOriginalNiceGuy Жыл бұрын

Fuck, I’m so glad to hear someone saying this. I’ve always said most of this “therapy” industry is at best paying someone to pretend to be your friend. And is often much worse than that, making peoples lives a lot worse or killing them.

@zak-a-roo264 11 ай бұрын

"paying someone to pretend to be your freind" .....well said!

@tas4u93 10 ай бұрын

"real friends" can end up being fake and abandon you. Better to pay for the upfront

@susanaduarteraposo 11 ай бұрын

You are amazing. It’s a pity that the world hasn’t many courageous people like you to speak out!

@mm669 6 жыл бұрын

My therapist charged $300 an hour. She spent most of our sessions talking about her "epic" divorce. I'm lucky I had professional therapists before so I could compare and realize that this woman was way, way out of line.

@yourignoranceistheirpower.6307 6 жыл бұрын

M M you should of charged her instead.

@jenrich111 6 жыл бұрын

So inappropriate

@mm669 6 жыл бұрын

You might be right. She also used to walk into my session ten minutes late and make a point of telling me she was held up talking to her gardener. Once spent almost an entire session telling me that anti-depression and anti-anxiety medications were a placebo AND THEN sold me aromatherapy that she keeps in her office to sell to clients. I was to "people pleaser" to not buy it but knew this was wrong. Chastised me when I came into her office crying. She said, "I have nine other patients to see today, and I'm working through lunch." The tone said, get your shit together and don't make my job difficult. We spent that session with me listening to her complain about how hard it was for her to get good caregivers for her mom. I could go on, but you get the point. Thank God I'm 55, not 25, or that woman could have done some serious damage to me. I have a very codependent friend who recommended this woman to me. I feel so bad cause my friend is still going to her. And, I feel bad for her other clients too. This woman works from a top school in a major US city.

@thedativecase9733 6 жыл бұрын

I had a woman "therapist" on the NHS who spent the whole time going on about her fantastic relationship with her gifted daughter, adding " you can't have children so you will never know this wonderful experience..." Seriously what an insensitive narcissist. I quit after two sessions and made a formal complaint. I also had an NHS therapist who was wonderful, not just a fantastic therapist but a wonderful and caring person. I was so sad when she moved to another part of the country but we are still friends.

@jenrich111 6 жыл бұрын

What a self-absorbed BITCH. Just want to kick them where it hurts. Drain their bank account and smash their BMW.

@laraoneal7284 6 жыл бұрын

This is a good man with integrity. He’s an empath. I’ve never had a therapist with empathy. They’ve all been bad. Most of us have had very bad parenting. God bless him

@laraoneal7284 5 жыл бұрын

Babybird Oligodendrocyte Your on point. The sad thing is though that obviously they are discouraging good ppl like you who would probably be an empathic therapist from even entering the field. It is tragic. I gave up on all therapy because of the ineptness and even cruel therapists and psychiatrists. I got mega educated on my own to help myself and ended up re-parenting myself and became a great therapist to myself. I worked very hard to help myself and understand the psychopaths that raised me, thank God literally. I went no contact with my family of origin over 20 years ago. The best thing i could have ever done. What Daniel says is so true too. These therapists, psychiatrists etc have never done one iota of their own family of origin work EVER so they do not even get us. I even asked several therapists if they had done any of this work the answer was NO or they just rudely dismissed me. I dumped every one of them in total disgust. If only we loved and appreciated ppl like Daniel. Unfortunately he is a total rarity . SO SAD.

@saraH-yu1mx 5 жыл бұрын

Lara O'neal I had one who claimed she was an “empath” but was one of the cruelest therapists I’ve had. It wasn’t until I met my life coach, a real empath, that I noticed a huge difference and actually received help.

@laraoneal7284 5 жыл бұрын

sara H ppl can say anything and obviously it is bs. Ive had ppl tell me they were an empath also and they are straight up malignant narcissists. I know the difference. That is total abuse for the idiot telling you that. These ppl are totally ignorant and inept and should not be there. I hope u left immediately.

@saraH-yu1mx 5 жыл бұрын

Lara O'neal I absolutely left immediately, after she told me “see that’s your problem, you talk to much” just because I didn’t give her a yes or no answer to a question. I thought she wanted in depth answers, plus I was there to talk... I can also relate to your comment about narcissists. My ex husband was one(where my trauma originated) and he thought he was just so thoughtful and kind. If he helped out a homeless person he would go on about it forever. True empaths can see and feel others(I’m one myself) therefor I know when people are bsing me, but for people who aren’t empaths themselves they can obviously be fooled. I hate the mental health “industry” and have found so much more help in alternative coaching and medicine.

@laraoneal7284 5 жыл бұрын

sara H Yes I totally agree. NARCS are Narcs for a reason. They believe NOTHING is wrong with them. I had a narc tell me she was an empath and I about fell off my chair. I’ve known her all my life and have NEVER seen her cry. Ever. I’m an empath and abuse of children breaks my heart whether I know the child or not and I will break down crying. Im always helping ppl many times to my detriment. I’ve had to pull back because my empathy has almost gotten me killed because once I helped the wrong person and had to call police to have this person removed. I offered to help him for just a few days and I told him he had to go and he would not. There was no sex involved whatsoever. He was on my couch but long story short I don’t help ppl like that ever again. It was just one time. Have u gone on Narcissist Resistance channel. It is jaw dropping. He can’t keep up with all the stories he gets thousands per week. This is a huge problem for over half of all of us. Narcs are evil. I’ve terminated all narcs out of my life including my entire family. It’s sad but it has to be done. I just want peace I’ve gone on too long sorry. But I’m still glad u left the idiot narc therapist. I’ve had too much experience with them also. I love Daniel here. I cried listening o him such a sweet compassionate heart. I wish I could have had someone like him helping me. I agree with everything he says and the poor guy got sick because he couldn’t do it anymore. It’s called vicarious trauma. I have to be very cautious who I help because most really just will walk all over us and we have to protect our own boundaries and health. I wish u the very best. Thank God I never married a narc. My parents cured me of that. I never wanted anyone in my life that reminded me of them. It was hell living with them and I left at 20 and never went back. About 10 years after that I got into a serious incest recovery program. Meetings, seminars. And voracious reading of books to get educated on all of it. Now I’m recovering from recovery. Lol

@bell1435 Жыл бұрын

He’s my hero… just by listening to him I feel like healing.

@williamvasilakis9619 8 ай бұрын

I have been a psychologist for almost thirty years and I so identify with him. Kudos for him telling the truth about a profession that is not as healthy as it proports to be. It has come down to money and I can tell him that although some people benefit many also get harmed. What he says is spot on, and it was therapeutic for me to hear someone be truthful, but there is so much more I can add to what he says. I am working to getting out myself now. Kudos to Daniel for his courage and compassion.

@jeaninerumble6503 Жыл бұрын

I hope your life has been really rewarding after your therapist career. You deserve happiness for all you’ve given.

@dmackler58 Жыл бұрын

Thanks!!

@user-hz5yb4bh5v Жыл бұрын

Licensed over 35 years ago, I have taken several long periods of time off and away from practicing psychotherapy. For all the reasons he gives, and more, including dangerous aspects such as having been targets of abuse, and having been threatened by clients. And, there's the majority of insurance companies that treat therapists as adversaries and attempt to control their quite valid work (very strange). Also importantly is that it's the unstable people, the mind games, the anger, abuse and the denial of it all, and people seeking to blame you for their attitudes and actions, with those and others seeking to use you as a scapegoat. By the foregoing, I am referring to the OTHER therapists - especially the majority of therapists, who have not been in therapy for themselves, beyond a finite number of "counseling" sessions required for graduation by their university curriculums. That is VERY common - therapists who are nutso. That includes psychiatrists, who are indeed some of the worst covertly, and overtly, abusive people - definitely NPD (and other) people who should be IN therapy and serious about it, instead of trying to pass themselves off by projecting the image of capable psychotherapists. Crazies for the most part don't admit they're crazy. Same with criminals, blaming everything including the victims, for their actions. The same goes for "other therapists."

@sanataj Жыл бұрын

@@user-hz5yb4bh5v- I agree with you. I think people need self-esteem boosting and advice about how to handle life's challenges better and where they are sabotaging themselves, then help to replace negative beliefs with helpful ones. i.e. HELP, not just listening and telling sufferers to take responsibility and change themselves. Some counsellors don't listen and definitely don't remember what I told them; they claim not to be able to know how I feel or what I believe, that may be causing me trouble in life. SO WHAT IS THE POINT IN THESE COUNSELLORS? THEY ARE LAZY QUACKS.

@finalthoughts2762 Жыл бұрын

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@MoonSoon24 Жыл бұрын

@@user-hz5yb4bh5v 👏 i agree with every single point 💯🎯

@Kmrc1213 Жыл бұрын

I’m a school psychologist and this is super validating to me. I carry hundreds of war stories from over 20 years of practice and it never gets easier. Yes the system is totally broken. Yes, I don’t feel optimistic - but no, I cannot stop being there for young people. Even if it’s at my own expense (exhausted in my free time and no ability to have relationships) - the alternative being that kids who are abused, neglected, freaked out about their disabilities, and or the horrific violence of this modern world -having no one! just could never sit with me. fortunately, I’m a true believer in reincarnation, so I figure this lifetime, my role is service to others. I pray my higher power gives me some healthy years of retirement as a reward.

@PowerOfLoveTarot Жыл бұрын

You are AMAZING

@kellychuba Жыл бұрын

a school psychologist saved me in 1979 by explaining the test I was about to take. "say cute kittens" If you saved one kid, my friend, you are my other hero.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@kathygritzmacher90 11 ай бұрын

OMG

@fumarate1 11 ай бұрын

Have you heard about Dr Michael Newton books Journey of souls and Destiny of souls,

@Albacore877 Жыл бұрын

Daniel…I am so VERY grateful for your honesty about the mental health field and your isolation, and how you were burned by the very people who are suppose to help others. You’ve saved me tons of time & money from NOT obtaining the 3000 supervised hours and stress of taking the EPPP to become a psychologist! Thank you thank you thank you! Best wishes in your future career endeavors!!!

@bbbanks6912 Жыл бұрын

I've had such hugely positive experiences with various acupuncturists, perhaps that would be a satisfying field.

@Albacore877 11 ай бұрын

@@bbbanks6912 thank you for EXCELLENT suggestion! I am checking various options in what I can do w/a PayD from a non-APA school and will be looking in to certificate in Drug & Addiction’s, occupational stress, hypnosis, and other areas that support those who have been harmed by others and need healing as well as nutrition and other wellness offering services. Best wishes!

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@thatnikkiyouknow 10 ай бұрын

So much of this resonates with me. I did my undergrad in psychology with the intention of becoming a therapist. My own family of origin trauma reached a peak and I couldn’t continue on that path though I continued to work in mental health using my active listening training. After going to several therapists over the years, I’ve discovered that I am my own best therapist and I’ve helped myself heal so much. That mind gut connection has brought me to study nutrition in the hopes that I can help people heal while focusing on beauty and life. Inspiring people to see the beauty in healthy eating that supports mental clarity and deep healing

@yvonnes8701 5 жыл бұрын

it's sad how systems kill professions of passion. I was once a teacher. It's not the profession but rather the structure in place that ruins it all. It's like they create dysfunction on purpose? (conspiracy theory)

@nw1378 5 жыл бұрын

as someone who hates traditional schooling and has been traumatized by the staff and students, i agree...

@starisesun7692 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly.They do.They love create chaos .It makes it easier to control us.

@janinem5196 4 жыл бұрын

I got only as far as student teaching, saw the dark underbelly, and got the hell out. Our children are being traumatized daily.

@jenna2431 4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. I was a teacher for a very short time--had to leave it before I got in too long and couldn't. The system is ridiculous, just feckin' ridiculous. It doesn't exist to educate; it exists to maintain the "professionals."

@cynthiaallen9225 4 жыл бұрын

The people in thoses systems is what kills it. All mental health professionals should have to receive therapy, and complete it.

@brookeleawood8519 6 жыл бұрын

His #5 reason about having it be too much responsibility was so honest and raw. I had a therapist tell me I was "messed up in the head" when I was 19 and it haunted me for years. To have to carefully meditate and choose exactly what words you tell someone because they will replay it over and over and over in their mind is so spot on and a tremendous amount of responsibility. It's insane to think the amount of trust and status we give psychologist. They are just normal people so to hang on every word they say and treat it like a life prophecy is unhealthy. Great video!

@andreiacastilho3601 Жыл бұрын

Dr Mackler, I had a narcissist husband who did a lot of damage in my life. The one thing that helped me re-gain my balance (after I left my husband, when I realized what he had been doing for years) was Transcendental Meditation. Good, righteous people like you are rare nowadays. I wish you the best.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

when did you find it? How long you've been practicing?

@anthonycotter1493 11 ай бұрын

Be careful Meditation is just another way to dissociate from our problems rather than solving them, and for a lot of people it makes them worse in the long run. If I were you I'd be looking at Jon Atack's work and his KZbin videos about meditation and mindfulness. Margaret Singer had some good things to say about it in her book as well.

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@@anthonycotter1493 will check em out.

@chichioko1446 10 ай бұрын

so God.

@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic 11 ай бұрын

I 100% get why you quit. You have my support as a survivor of childhood trauma; knowing why our pain hurt you so much. I will never give up. Why? Because there’s a chance I will find someone like you to help me pick apart our story and recreate a better journey for the future. That includes other family member, friends, neighbors and more. Take care of yourself and live your best life. I can because of some wonderful people, therapists like you. ❤ Namaste!

@themertz 2 жыл бұрын

My husband and I are students in behavioral health. He’s working on his masters and I on my bachelors. I’ve had these epiphanies in my education and I’m ready to quit my studies. Can we create a school for those of us who share in these beliefs? I’d love to work along side someone like you. You’re a breath of fresh air & inspiration.

@mary5203 2 жыл бұрын

There are definately schools of thought within psychology that doubt this strictly clinical model of therapy. They go more towards councelling usually

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@Fido-vm9zi 11 ай бұрын

Oh, I hope you find a soul group, and make it happen.

@joanofarc33 5 жыл бұрын

So basically you left because you were a good therapist but the system isn’t designed for those brave enough to see how the system is a sham.

@gingerellacookie5641 5 жыл бұрын

he's a hero

@AmethystWoman 5 жыл бұрын

And because he had a boundary issue. No judgement, it's tough. But any job, any job, that you let consume your entire life, even being a pastor or a car mechanic will strip you if your spark for life. It sounds like you took on others depression. It's good you quit. For your sake and your clients. You need to take care if yourself to mirror that also back to your clients to and not contribute to a pathological dependency. I appreciate how you fought the system, but you needed to take better care of yourself. Glad you are now.

@DK-uc9zr 5 жыл бұрын

+Modern Witchery I wish you'd have contacted a news network to cover the story; even if it was a local news station.

@sneezedoc1 5 жыл бұрын

Maintenance Renegade It's not society in general that is broken, it is the American society and all the profit based constructs that destroy our society. Capitalism as practiced in the US is a mental illness. It does not care for people but only those that could be profitable. The American Healthcare system is the ultimate in cold calloused disregard for every human being, the only thing that matters is the dollar bills associated with the patient. The rest are sent home to die. I know because I retired from pediatrics at 50 years of age.

@ixxgxx 5 жыл бұрын

David Bailey I agree, I was forced to go to "integrated model" 1 hr therapy sessions to quick 15 minute "tune up sessions". How do you do that while welcoming a 75yo F who wants to finally disclose childhood trauma?

@themysticnavigator 11 ай бұрын

Well hallelujah!! My own recovery was owned by me. I read books researched my trauma ... applied the techniques..read more books ..took psychology, took more courses to understand my codependency..applied ...completed jounalling. Etc... I never got any help from my sessions...oh I did ..I got shame for feeling a certain way at 42 lol set back huge! Everyone can be put in that book!

@Sallyskin 11 ай бұрын

Exactly I’m currently helping myself... I temporarily disabled my tiktok and instagram because it was a huge distraction and I kept comparing myself to people and I would just cry wondering why I can’t have their life, why am NOT preety like those girls and Enough was enough this was damaging me alot and that’s when I realised If I’m NOT gonna save myself nobody will cause I have had this feeling for a long time. I’m also trying to read some self help books. I’m positive all will be well cause I’m currently seeing the results😇

@mcc1483 Жыл бұрын

This guy is right on. It's absolutely sickening what's done to people.

@KathrynEleanor 6 жыл бұрын

You’re a very empathetic person. That’s an amazing quality to have. It keeps you in-tune with everybody.

@andrewbarrett1537 6 жыл бұрын

LamazeMe Do you know this from personal experience?

@thediabolicalempath7246 6 жыл бұрын

LamazeMe Being empathic is good. But, you need to set boundaries.

@christopherwalker8240 5 жыл бұрын

The Observer that's basically what he is saying. :)

@maxmillman9477 5 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean; I can't seem to turn off or even filter my empathy for others. I just don't know how. I used to consider becoming a therapist, but thought better of it, for the sake of my mind.

@christopherwalker8240 5 жыл бұрын

ginge gingerton haha! That was great.

@GovernYourself 5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly why I have not pursued counselling or psychology even though I'm drawn to it - I KNOW that I just can't work in such a controlling and fraudulent system - and the appalling ethics of turning people away due to lack of ability to pay! Good on you for walking away and standing in your integrity. You are awake and sound like an empath and truth seeker to me.

@banana_lunana 5 жыл бұрын

That such a pity! I think people you and him are EXACTLY the people who need to be IN the system. People who are pushing for a different and better system are exactly who needs to be working in it.

@maxalberts2003 5 жыл бұрын

What? Therapists are supposed to work for nothing? What world do you liv in?

@GovernYourself 5 жыл бұрын

A world where I do not see money as being above serving another in need - yes, maybe I do live in a different dimension where I know what is real and what is not. Having said that, of course, in the physical plane people need to earn a living but most therapists have no interest in looking at creative ways to enable them to balance this with service to others. It's a crock anyway - people need to re-learn the skills and confidence to help themselves and in the end people must save themselves.

@maxalberts2003 5 жыл бұрын

Your self-righteousness makes me want to puke.

@banana_lunana 5 жыл бұрын

I don't think people should work for nothing. That would be crazy.... but the people who actually need help aren't getting it until the system changes! It's a difficult subject. As someone who wants to go into the field I'm hoping by being in it.... some change will come. I will probably have to worry a lot about money but it isn't my number one priority. Helping people is. Of course, I'd never say you're a bad person for not wanting to be broke!!! I'm not asking anyone to put others needs before theirs... but it does make me sad that good people won't go into/drop out of the industry because who does that leave behind? Who's actually there to help these people? And how can we change what is happening? I hope that even the people who can't become therapists because of this issue will still get the word out about what's actually happening in the mental health world to put a stop to this madness.

@enough1494 Жыл бұрын

I am 66. Never could afford any therapy. Have had two brake downs in my life. One landed me the label of DID in 1998, which in 2019 became BPD. Isolation is my saving grace. But as I get older I am frightened by accidents and who will care for me when I am really old? Mental illness is so painful, so very painful!

@Roni5 11 ай бұрын

you and i always affect our enviroment and the enviroment affects us. you're ultimately in charge of NOT your destiny but how you live through the shit you're given

@spirituallysafe 11 ай бұрын

Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.

@enough1494 11 ай бұрын

@@spirituallysafe lord poor, Jesus! Jesus, watched for 5-6 years. I begged, I cried, I hid, I prayed….nothing. When ai told, I was called a liar and sent away. Jesus knew that a little girl would be hurt for years. Jesus knew that it would cause serious mental health issues. He did NOTHING for that little girl. Now she is grown. A widow, In 1998 she lost her husband and toddler son. Jesus knew the drunk pastor would kill them and seriously injure her. Jesus did nothing. She raised 4 kids and taught for years. Freewill ma’am…..FREEWILL. Jesus is nice and all but to me more like a spiritual teacher, or some cruel idea of god

@enough1494 11 ай бұрын

@@spirituallysafe btw, I am not saying Jesus was or is negative. Just know he is not the way to anything we can not survive.

@spirituallysafe 11 ай бұрын

@@enough1494 Jesus did nothing for you?! He died a torturous death on the cross as a sacrifice for all our sins. Turn to Him in trust before it is too late and be saved. He is not responsible for your trauma. Evil humans are.

@thezzach 11 ай бұрын

This is exactly why I quit seeing therapists. I could see that they were the sick ones, not me. The sad irony of paying sick people who masquerade as healers to help me heal myself. I wasted decades of time and a lot of blood, sweat and tears on these lost fools. I started learning how to love myself again. I quickly remembered that one of my dreams is to learn how to play guitar. After a year of playing I’ve made a lot of progress, have my own KZbin Music channel, and it feels great. it’s really amazing to know that people like you, Daniel, are out there with such a similar perception as mine, which often feels lonely. How can i find more people like you?

@Mang-ej5ul Жыл бұрын

I have taken a break from my therapy degree. After listening to you discuss vicarious traumatizing and getting sick, I don’t think I want to go back. I want to help people (and myself) through joyful activities instead. Like communal drumming classes. I want to spend my time celebrating life not mourning it.

@englishbreno7659 Жыл бұрын

I'm in my first year of psychology degree but I keep thinking if that's what I really wanna follow in my life bc maybe can bring much more problems and stress so I don't really know.

@maxalberts2003 Жыл бұрын

Drumming? Really? Really? No wonder you've "taken a break." It appears you've suffered one too.

@Mang-ej5ul Жыл бұрын

@@maxalberts2003 yes communal drumming therapy has been used in prisons, PTSD of veterans at the VA, cancer patients in hospitals, and for developmentally challenged. There is a ton of research out there for how healing it is for the brain on a neurological level.

@Mang-ej5ul Жыл бұрын

@@MichaelDamianPHD Drumming is therapy. It’s somatic. Talk therapy does not help everyone.

@Mang-ej5ul Жыл бұрын

@@MichaelDamianPHD I did not say that. I said communal drumming is used as a somatic therapy ( Peter Levine bottom up theory). It has a lot of neuroscience research behind it. It has been used in various settings for various issues. Such as: at the VA hospitals for veterans pain management. Found to lower need for opioids. many of whom have ptsd. It has also been used in Hospitals for cancer patients. It’s also been utilized in Prisons as communal aspect shows that it increases Emotional Intelligence & cooperation skills. It helps with co-regulation and grounding, which is good for anxiety. It has also been utilized to help increase communication skills for non-verbal population. Talk therapy can be handled in addition to somatic therapy, but that person doesn’t have to be me!

@Nappystorm 2 жыл бұрын

I have been a therapist for 10 years and I relate to this video 100%. I don't even know how it came on my suggestions other than it's a sign that it's time to transition out.

@wendy6698 Жыл бұрын

Same

@saida817 Жыл бұрын

Oh wow, I came across this video because I was actually searching information to become a therapist, now I’m not sure what road to take

@Shila799 Жыл бұрын

Before making a decision, listen to other therapists experiences. It doesn’t have to be a complete burnout. You can chose a specialty and environment you feel comfortable with. I’ve been a therapist for many years in different systems. It depends on you, your gifts and your chosen Journey. ❤😊

@fabe8947 11 ай бұрын

@elaineroddy9958 11 ай бұрын

Amen! I, too, many years ago wanted to be a therapist, a "different" type of therapist than l had experienced. One who was "real" , authentically caring. I so agree with your assessment of our mental health"care" system.

@auntymoi 10 ай бұрын

Oh brother, I feel you so hard w that vicarious trauma thing, and I work in physical therapy. I had a traumatic childhood. It gave me issues and gave me gifts; empathy being the greatest gift and yeah, pain, constant pain, its an issue. Ive broken down and wept with patients over their loss of health, wellness, the ability to walk. It makes you a superior clinician, but yes, ulcers hurt, dont they??! ❤❤❤

@sophiakh9590 Жыл бұрын

I find comfort in your talks. You're so real.

@lydiarosario7114 6 жыл бұрын

I am a therapist and I have been in therapy..its unique to be in both sides. I think the biggest concern is too many people enter the field to "help others" and burn out when they realize they are not superheros and can not "cure" thier clients. I also think burn out is huge in therapy when therapists take on thier clients issues. Also you would be surprised how many therapists are "wounded heros" and are really just reliving their own issues through thier clients. I think another shocking aspect is how many therpaists do not like people and do not actually think therapy works! As a therapist my main goal is to get the client to a place where they are able to live a life that is the best it can be for them. I work with adults and truama but I am able to set it aside once the session is over..how? I relealized this is thier journey not mine..I am simply there to give that unconditional postive regard . Also I went through trauma myself as a child and through that I think I lost my sympathy for trauma and developed empathy which let me let it go after the session. Now the responsibilty is a hard one..I tell clients to tell me ..tell me when I am wrong..tell me when I do wrong but so many clients lack this skill..hence why they seek therapy. Also the assessing for suicudal or homidical ideation is that hardest part!! That is that one I struggle with the most and I try to error on the side of caution but thats not always 100%. I am human I can make a mistake..have an off day and to think the result could be a client killing themselves..its a huge burden to carry. However I still truly believe in the therapeutic process..I might not always..but for now I still do.

@urboideath_6662 6 жыл бұрын

Lydia Rosario I just hate it when a therapist changes the medication or doesn't give u what works for u. Like u said, u only help them cope with their daily problems and its up to the person to make life changes. Yet some therapist don't even want to help with the medication one is comfortable taking. Especially a patient that's been around the medication and knows what does and doesn't work for them and the therapist ignores the patient like we are stupid and don't know anything. Its like the therapist wants the satisfaction of saying "everything worked cuz I did it my way", that is dangerous by playing with a persons livelihood by ignoring them just to get a self satisfaction of accomplishment to throw in our faces which never happens. They make medication for a reason, IDC what it is, they make it for a purpose, not to keep it from people. Don't be prick and listen to your patients and don't withhold prescriptions because of the dangers, like I said, they make meds for a reason, not to withhold them from someone who needs it

@Sausahgagutz 6 жыл бұрын

+Andres Torres It seems that every med-dispensing psych doc feels some tremendous self-validating need to alter the meds previously prescribed by another psych doc as if they want to brand you with their own formulation. There's somehow a need to put their own signature on you they see as "my brand, not someone else's."

@martinyes9788 5 жыл бұрын

Good input

@OMEGALFA. 11 ай бұрын

True therapists, like true teachers quit because the environment they have to work in is dysfunctional, unhealthy, manipulative, aggressive, controlling, arrogant and dishonest. The primary reasons I completed my teaching career were 2 seemingly polar opposite reasons: First, I enjoyed my time in the classroom and began understanding and fighting FOR the students. Secondly, I needed a job so that I could support myself and be independent and successful and fight the system from the inside.

@hulasantabarbara2719 11 ай бұрын

Wow, this is so sad, beautiful and moving. The mirroring from your clients that were touched by your truly caring moved me deeply. I read somewhere that a truly good therapist shows their clients love, which you obviously did. Thank you so much for sharing this. I always thought it was weird that people need so much training to be a licensed therapist, when all people really need is someone to listen and care. I have felt like I missed my calling, but you have made it very clear to me that I did not and I'm very grateful. I'm glad you got out of it and I hope you are recovered physically, as well as emotionally.

@sheryn6922 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Daniel: I left the field, as well for the very same reasons. I just wish I had done it earlier. Your video should be a "gotta see" for all college students in Psych 101. Thanks for the validation AND the TRUTH!

@marisaviteritti5836 5 жыл бұрын

Sheryn B definitely helped me realize I can help people without the “title”.

@sheryn6922 5 жыл бұрын

Legal Assistant.

@truth431 5 жыл бұрын

@@sheryn6922 eats mostly off food stamps and currently works part time as a street hustler / begs for spare change and also collects bottles on the side all to pay for them costly therapist sessions never mind the matter of paying back his college tuition ! yes i loved my job because it taught me how to go insane caring more for people with mental health problems then as the majority of therapist who get paid far greater to remain sane in mental health practices beyond the educative means as more so suggestive thought based practices trained to what to think never the wiser practices how to think correct within values or ones moral causes to do the right thing for all the right people for all the right of all minds matters within reaching the people never the less those who want needless when fools taught what to think is the effect of cause to becoming of human thoughtless disregard for humanity as to become of all suroundings of mental heath related practices thus how mindless and dismiss this matter of counter intuitive effect creates for to actually cause conflicts out of human state of confusion all as by permitting others to do ones own thinking for them are those cheating themselves as by effect few evil minds involved created by the uses of power of suggestion brain washing conditioning minds to become of ignorance one who does as told do as or say to follow becoming as so deceiving misleading careless in the effect caused by these evil minded practices without anything of self control within mindful host as morals for guidance within the values of their life in areas of practices of mental health as if it were all a social engineering concept developed by a mad science as that within the effect is the cause that answers as all minds matter of actual truthful fact as stems from the hidden secrets behind the big picture as few but them could see as to think correct through its makers design practice as it was based as evil to be so dam self defeating its actually a setup to drive the world in our masses us all as people been cheated blind on both sides beyond point becoming mad scientist while people seeking truthful help never mind how to think correct so no mind nothing can actually matter be of help as to prove will actually benefit the clients or the therapist till both sides clearly see beyond the illusion of progress that intentionally is setup to confuse the masses ! i hope your up for this hard read i am nearly blind i can no longer make out the punctuation keys just a natural part of life getting old but i swear given as my life to god i host this answer to a major world wide masses minds controlled by a few evil minds own conspiracy thus as i practice as an actual conspiracy realist i no the answers in need not as one who blindly does as fools who wants doing as deceived unwitting to the effect cheating them all blind as simple minding matters do as told as followers never seeing through their lies I CAN AND IT IS ACTUALLY MORE SCARY THEN PEOPLE COULD FOUND OF THE MEANS AS I HAVE TO SET IN PLACE OF THE RIGHT MINDS POSSIBLE AS TO IMAGINE JUST WHAT MADE THESE MATTERS OCCUR TO REACH MY MIND AS THAT ANSWER STRICTLY TO A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITHIN MY THOUGHT PRACTICES A SIMPLE WELL KEPT OPEN MINDED VIEW AS MY OWN HOST GUIDE I FOUND THE ANSWER THANK YOU AND PLEASE DO AS BEST TO THINK CORRECT BY AS I SAY DO NOT OVERLOOK THE DEVIL IN THE DETAILS AND YOU WILL BECOME VERY IMPRESSED AS A MATTER OF FACT ITS UNDENIABLE TRUTH AS I NEED NOT EVER TELL SUCH LIES AS SUCH WOULD DEFEAT THE PRACTICE

@rubina1868 5 жыл бұрын

It should be shown in pharmacy school

@Jasmyne444 5 жыл бұрын

I completely agree, I think anyone considering going to the Psych field for any career should watch this video first because it is incredibly accurate and thorough.

@yummyjackalmeat 6 жыл бұрын

you know he was a therapist because he puts the tips of his fingers together in front of him when he speaks.

@Quinefan 6 жыл бұрын

Apparently it's a signifier of technical confidence

@ReenyNY 6 жыл бұрын

yummyjackalmeat cute!

@help8help 6 жыл бұрын

It's also the thing the Evil Mr. Burns does in the Simpsons as he says "Excellent." It's just a gesture he picked up, probably by watching other therapists.

@utubewatcher806 6 жыл бұрын

@Quinefan nope, it's a sign of dominance and control.. thus, the sheeple who come to visit fall into "follow-the-leader" lockstep. He seems to be a psychotherapist but doesn't cover behavioral or cognitive modes of treatment which often do not use chemicals.

@YEC999 5 жыл бұрын

So Angela Merkel (chancellor of Germany) is a psychoptherapist then?

@GRagnarock 10 ай бұрын

I am an MD and I like your out of the box thought process. Responsible and caring people like you are only around to do good to others but I can tell how much of a burden this must have been on you. Thank you for your service these 10 years. Now keep enjoying life the way you like it.

@SomethingWet 9 ай бұрын

Do you often work with patients who have diagnosed mental illness? Just curious

@soundwave9560 10 ай бұрын

Many therapists are exactly the kinds of people who should not be therapists. Paternalizing, "I know better than you," "I'm not allowed to do this," middle of the road IQ types who have no emotional or intellectual capacity to really be with someone who suffers. The best thing anyone can do for their mental health is: 1. Realize you suffer alone. The therapeutic relationship is unreal. Your therapist doesn't care about you. It's strictly a business relationship. 2. Go and find resources written about the problems you have by people who have successfully solved them. 3. Apply what you learn. People don't need "therapy" (which is predatory due to all of the various agencies that can pry into client records and the ways therapists comply with them, and the ways therapists have the legal ability to force you into hospitalization simply for disclosing the very feelings you are seeking their help to work through). People need supportive relationships. Therapy is a simulacrum of a supportive relationship, not an actual supportive relationship.

@sealluv 7 ай бұрын

very well put

@thenewyorkcitizen 5 жыл бұрын

I admire your honesty Daniel. I have always suspected that the Mental Health industry is corrupt.

@chrisg9358 4 жыл бұрын

N M me too and they are.

@kcmaldonado3948 3 жыл бұрын

It's not an "industry"

@geoffcaflisch1352 3 жыл бұрын

Please know that this is one person's perspective.

@true5911 3 жыл бұрын

@@geoffcaflisch1352 and that yours is simply one other

@rockingtundra2830 3 жыл бұрын

So where do we go now?

@linda_sue 5 жыл бұрын

Welcome back to life, Daniel! Thank you for your service on the battlefield. So glad you survived!

@lorileewhitbord8260 11 ай бұрын

An excellent video. I always believed I had missed my calling, in not becoming a therapist. There is a dark and unfulfilled side to every career. Thank you for allowing me to l let that dream go.

@Jcarp1989 11 ай бұрын

You are such a beautiful soul! You saved so many hearts while you were a therapist! You give me hope. I recently suffered severe burn out as a counselor because of the broken system. I felt so alone because my style of counseling is similar to yours but is widely unacceptable for some reason. I agree with everything you said. I hope the system will one day be broken down and rebuilt how it should be! Anyway, you are amazing! Never change! Keep spreading your love!❤

@Sigalhodbh Жыл бұрын

You are simply an empathic human being. And very wise. ❤

@kacystuart622 Жыл бұрын

Your comments totally resonate with me. I was a court reporter in a state District Court for 10 years. I loved my job and worked hard to get there, but the stories I heard on a daily basis began to break me down over time. Fortunately, I wasn't asked to fix any problems as you were, or I certainly wouldn't have lasted as long as I did. In addition, I was exposed to abused children, really little children, which was even worse. I couldn't unhear what I heard over and over. I thought I would get more calloused over time as most of my colleagues seemed to be, but it worked in the complete opposite for me. I ultimately made the decision to pursue other interests.

@alexikilikian248 11 ай бұрын

What a kind person he is. A true therapist with empathy who couldn't survive in a savage world and make a living.

@pysq8 10 ай бұрын

...without selling his soul.

@francis5518 10 ай бұрын

As a psy student, I really appreciate your video, very refreshing and helps to keep the mind and the heart open and interconnected.

@patriziaderungs6088 Жыл бұрын

Respect man! Not many people have such a high level of integrity like you do!

@Sigalhodbh 5 жыл бұрын

You are amazing. To cry in therapy, is absolutely humane and empathic. It's amazing. It's a loss off a good person in therapy...

@Deborahlevy1 Жыл бұрын

I came across your KZbin site accidentally and was blown away. You basically validated what I've been saying since I've been in the field of social work. We are greatly devalued and under paid for the work we do. One thing you said, and it was hard to pick just one thing lol, was that there is nothing amazing about what we do. Theories have their place and value but that is not what helps people get better, it's knowing they are cared for and listened to. There's so much more I can go into but since I found you, I'm going to review your other KZbin videos.

@sukhmanicambridge Жыл бұрын

You are so clearly a man of high Integrity and not operating through rules in order to keep everything safe, which is impossible.

@tamaraslay 4 жыл бұрын

I’m a quarter into this video and I already love it. I quit social work 5 months after graduating with my masters bc of the crazy unethical things I witnessed. Two years later, I re-entered the field and it’s the same old story. I’m 6 months away in terms of supervision hours to getting my LCSW and I really don’t want to. I’m just have lots of student loan debt and I’m not really sure what to do next regarding career. Pray for me please.🙏🏽

@babyboylovesmusic 3 жыл бұрын

I've been in it for some years. I'm preparing for career change.

@kathyd6714 3 жыл бұрын

Instead of quitting, be better and be the best . It’s not a waste , just be the diamond in the rust. You can’t just stop because you realize something is harder or that seeing that the people working in mental health don’t actually care. If this is your passion why don’t you work to not be like that? Almost every career is like that especially when it’s about helping others because of similar reasons that he says. It’s like being a teacher and the school system. It’s corrupt and there’s still horrible teachers but you still see a few that are amazing and they are the ones that give students hope.

@KiwiWithAHatF8F 3 жыл бұрын

How is your search going? Please update me!

@kennethkotelo893 2 жыл бұрын

Become a consultant and advise people on how to solve their mental problems and actually solve them for a fee

@FlourishingMoss 2 жыл бұрын

What did you end up doing? @Tamara Slay Im in a similar position right now..

@happytrails699 5 жыл бұрын

No doctor has ever wanted to help my son get OFF his meds. They don't even know how to taper the meds properly. They just want you on them.

@jadedfox4680 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah i've had that experience. I've been severely depressed since I was a teen and ever since doctors have done nothing but try to put me on a bunch of meds which didn't help the depression just made me worse. And it's true it's like they just want to put you on a bunch of crap and they don't ever stop to consider that meds don't work for everyone and that there are other treatment methods but insurance rarely covers them and theyre expensive. And they never bother to understand what's at the root of your depression or anxiety like what could be causing it they just stamp a generic label on you and don't even bothering understand you or your unique issues.

@Shasha8674 5 жыл бұрын

No gluten/dairy/soy/sugar/GMO/food with a label...taking vitamins/good oils/minerals...probiotic...LDN..detoxing....Zn/Mg/fish oil/evening primrose oil/lecithin/HCl and enzymes with meals/strong probiotic before a meal/Nature's plus- Source of life multiple/rhodiola/coenzyme Q10/folate/ 5000mcg of biotin/Vit B12 with intrinsic factor. Gluten is wheat/barley/rye..oats/corn/rice. Rice is low in gluten. Grain free may help people/pets fast. LDN helps block hidden gluten. Vit D3/sunlight/grounding/sweating to detox then sea salt to restore good minerals/eating organic /no vaccines and more may help ADD/ADHD. No gluten/GMO may help intestines heal so more nutrients absorb that rebuild cells in the brain/body to work right.

@nofurtherwest3474 5 жыл бұрын

Shasha what you're spouting is too complicated. Try just eliminating everything except broccoli and chicken... see how you feel then. OR just eat beef. Often people feel better on meat because they are getting the B vitamins which help with mood.

@jennifercowden502 5 жыл бұрын

Marla Robinson that's because your son is a cash cow to then most physc doctors receive some sort of kick back & are very found of prescribing meds to counter side effects , are you aware that cat scans have shown the exact same type of brain damage in both long term hradcore durg users and long term physicotrophic Durg users , are you aware that your poisoning your son , was it a feminist teacher that pressured you to posin your son simply because he's a boy ? In ethier case mabey you should stop giving your son the meds and strat taking them after what's sauce for the gose is sauce for the gander

@happytrails699 5 жыл бұрын

Can you refer me to the study that showed that?

@rivieraparadiseman 3 ай бұрын

Dx “Adjustment Disorder Unspecified”. Harmless, neutral, no problem. I don’t push meds or hospitals. I’m able to detach from their trauma and still be connected. I’ve cried. I’ve been overwhelmed. I go to the gym, listen to music, live whenever possible, hangout with friends, nature, family, work on myself. I’m open with clients. I do energy work, stay out of the box. I love my work. May do it to 85+ years old.

@finefaseeh1972 2 ай бұрын

I was looking for a comment like this. Im still doing my degree but Im incredibly nervous to know so many people are disheartened