Why I Will Always Talk About Being Trans and How ME/CFS is Making Me Do Things Differently

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

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[@jelliemish]

Speaking of your trans content and you saying you wanted to do this because you didn't see people your age transitioning on youtube: I found you specifically because of this. I'm relatively young (discovered I was trans at 23, I'm approaching 30 now) but what your channel gave me was, it showed me that I as a trans person have a future. And to see that was very important for me. So thank you for sharing that! Now with M.E./CFS being (frankly very understandably) your main focus, I feel like I am learning a ton about a condition I didn't know before. And it turns out the mother of a good friend has M.E. and was amazed when I knew what it was. And it allowed me to understand her, which is also thanks to you. You're an amazing educator, no matter which topic you tackle. And you not putting out as much content as before or as varied as before (again, very understandably) doesn't make what you put out less valuable. It just means you're taking care of yourself and that is an achievement in and of itself. Take care!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh bloody hell that got me right in the feels! This just makes all the crap of being a visible trans person, so very worthwhile! To know that my being older helped you in that way, wow, l hadn't thought about it like that! And how amazing that now what I'm sharing is useful for you in other ways! Honestly, there are not enough words to say how special this comment is! Thank you!

[@jelliemish]

@@FinnTheInfinncible And touché, you got me right back in the feels!! It's great to know my comment was something special for you today! So thank you too! Have a great evening! :D

[@HielanYorkie]

You make Finn content and that is what is important. Do what you can when you can, many of us will still be here because we care about the human being behind all the videos no matter what they are about :)

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

You have no Idea how much that means to me thank you so.much!

[@BeverleyButterfly]

I’m here cheering you on my friend no matter what you talk about it’s important and matters to you so it matters to me xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless your heart that means the absolute world thank you for being here!

[@EarlCornbread]

I love ALL of you, dear Finn. You are amazing. I have had depression all my life and was recently diagnosed bipolar for the third time. I appreciate everything you discuss. I didn't want to be honest about my mental health for many reasons but foremost I was afraid it would somehow interfere with my transition and gate keepers. Mushroom farming is healing me. It is the most wonderful therapy. I know it's perhaps particular to me, but I feel so happy and connected as I work with the rhythm of the mushrooms. I do the next right thing for them and we are connected. We should all feel free to talk about our lives. How we are. What helps us. Keep doing you, my friend. I know you will. I'm not going anywhere. LOVE

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh my friend that makes me all warm and fuzzy! Thank you. Im sorry to hear of what you are going through, and I completely understand your worries about being open. Most gender specialists do understand, and even expect MH challenges to be present in trans folks and it shouldnt hold anything back, if anything its a reason to help people transition, so that MH is improved. But, the fear is valis as MH is still so misunderstood, especially when it crosses over with a trans identity. I absolutely LOVE your mushroom self care! Ive been ding something similar with houseplants. Taking care of them, noticing their nees, the payback of glorious growth, its a wonderful rythum and connection that soothes the soul! I appreciate you so very very much!

[@EarlCornbread]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank you, buddy. Mutual appreciation society. Thank you for this. I hope your day is splendid.

[@innisneill7510]

I don‘t comment usually, but I still watch & enjoy your videos. :-). The trans education videos were great, thanks for those. But I did enjoy your virtual walking shorts a lot after a stressful work day haha They were my little guilty pleasure. I was very interested in the ME/CFS videos, because it sounded so similar to the chronic fatigue syndrom some young people experience after a covid infection. I often wondered, how can one manage living with only a few productive hours a day? Seeing how you searched for answers and solutions was amazing. Thanks a lot for sharing. I hope now that you got a diagnosis things will somehow improve. It must be a challenge not just for your youtube career, but also managing a relationship around it. Wishing you two all the best!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you for commenting! This feedback is honestly gold to me.im so glad you enjoy all my content! The shorts are still happening, I'm just a little behind with them but I have a few that'll likely go up the end of this week. I love that they are your guilty pleasure! And yes long COVID is very similar to ME/CFS. It is a challenge every single day to manage limited energy. You don't realise how much you do each day until you no longer have unlimited energy! I plan to speak more about this because I think it's often misunderstood. It's everything, mental and physical energy, from getting out of bed, making breakfast, answering a text message this all adds up fast! I often have to weigh up whether to shower or whether to eat. It's madness but gradually im getting the hang of this....mostly! And yes support from specialists will definitely help! I'm very lucky to have Chris and for him to be so understanding. Even when l get grumpy about living with Fred! Thank you so much for your kindness! 💜🙏

[@chodpants]

Still one the best KZbin channels no matter what you post. You are open and honest this is why I relate too your content. I'm sorry too hear about your diognosis and I feel for you. I've got fibromyalgia and other diognosed mental health stuff and it floors me. I get stuck in bed alot and have just a flare recently highly likely caused by recent attack on Trans people. Thank you for being you! Thank you for sharing content thats sooo personal for being a voice in a world where there needs too be someone talking about stuff that needs talking. I always have alot of love in my heart for you in how much your content helped me through the begining off my transition and I know if some thing else trans related I need to reserch I will search your content because you articulate in away I understand. Much love too you! 💖💖💖

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh buddy! How lovely! Thank you for those lovely words. Being as open as I am leaves me very vulnerable, but I continue to do it because Im so sick of all the stuff we are told we shouldnt talk about, why?! Nobody should ever feel the need to feel shame and hide. To know my sharing helps makes the vulnerability worthwhile. Sorry you have fibro, and goodness yes, the stress just makes these chronic conditions so much worse. Much much much love in return to you!

[@iquestionexistence8730]

just recently discovered this content and i love this guy, just seems so lovely and been very helpful in educating myself

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah bless you what a lovely compliment, thank you!

[@flowersstorms8863]

As an English teacher of *mumble-it's-a-lot-of* years' standing, I hereby declare "exhaustedly fatigued" to be a correct, legitimate and accurate phrase😁 In all seriousness though, m'love, your health and wellbeing must always come first - and as we both know only too well, if we don't look after ourselves our bodies force us to stop. You, like every other person on this planet, are a complex, multifaceted, unique and beautiful soul, and your life's journey has & will continue to develop & evolve. Thank you for sharing your experience and for all that you put out into the worldxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Im glad my word is approved! Thank you for your lovely reassurance, Ive been blessed to connect with such an incredible community here. I am gradually growing in acceptance of all that I cant do, its tough! But yes, me first is the only way, way!

[@misshapenbox7074]

Hey Finn, I've watched your content for a little while now. You've been a tremendous help with my anxiety about the thought of my own surgeries, and I'm actually moving forward with some that I didn't think I'd have the confidence to do for another decade. I hope you know that you have a community here for you, regardless of the content you make down the road. You're a wonderful person and I hope you take the time you need between making content and working so you can keep yourself as healthy as you can. We will all be here when you are able to update us! I showed up for your trans content, but I'll be staying to hear more about you. Please take care of yourself!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh this comment got me in the feels! You are so incredibly kind, thank you. I am so thrilled to know Ive helped you on your way, that makes me a very very happy man!

[@ConradTwigs]

People have multitudes so I'm here for whatever content you bring out. I will admit as trans person I did come for trans content initially but I'm here to stay for whatever content will come even if you don't talk about trans issues I'm here whatever is next. It's wonderful to see a older trans person just live his life it gives me so much hope. Thank you for being you and sharing with us all. 💙

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

My dear friend this means the world, thank you! Im glad to give you hope, yes having ME is a challenge I could have done without, but my word even with this, life is a million times better than it was before I transitioned! There will be more trans content soon though I promise! Thank you for being here

[@Moosh207]

It is so special of you to include us in your energy spend each day, when you have many other things that you need to be doing as well. I would miss you if I didn't get to see you at least sometimes. Even if you took a whole year off business planning and did spontaneous videos here and there instead, I would still be in the front row having fun along with you. You're a natural and I love everything you do. Having a trans history is the gift that brought you to all of us, and throughout the years we also get to see all the other gifts that you share and have knowledge of as well. Thank you for being one of the most real, balanced and down to earth, most relatable people on KZbin. Your channel is a really vibrant place to come and visit. Even when you share you're challenges I appreciate your frankness and it is so refreshing to hear someone speak who I can relate to easily on any topic that you talk about because you explain things so well. I'm sorry that your neurological system has been met with a trauma that you now need to unfold. You're worth doing the relaxation to uncover the many other gifts that are hidden underneath. I'm looking forward to your gifts unfolding that this experience is bringing to you. We are really blessed to have you in our lives 🙏💜

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I appreciate that so much. I've been so overwhelmed with the comments I've received on this video. I really am such a people pleaser, such a perfectionist, and here I am again being reassured that l don't need to have all these worries! I really need to do a lot more work on this, so that l am able to ' care less' but in a good way, if that makes sense?! I want to spend my energy on KZbin, as it is something l enjoy. I love making videos, l love these interactions in the comments. But, l don't have the energy to make 'perfect' videos, ever green content etc....I just want to make videos on topics I want to talk about, not because it makes business sense, but just for me. So, bearing so many people say, just make whatever you want Finn, really helps because that takes much less energy! Did that make sense?! Thank you for always being here xxx

[@Moosh207]

@@FinnTheInfinncible yes, I hear what you're saying and it makes total sense. The reason you were inspired to create a channel in the first place was for connection to yourself and others, and to document your growth as a person and your evolution. You've resolved alot of your inner turmoil that dysphoria produced, by seeking medical intervention to help heal. And now it makes sense to create freedom to experience you and have fun. You've left a trail of really good quality videos and resources,that you put your heart into, on trans mountain for others to learn from, identify with, and help heal by seeing what you've gone through and come out the other side as a person who is at peace from dysphoria for the most part, in a good balance. It makes sense to make this video though, to address the question that some people have been asking you. It's good of you to let people know where you're at and that you've communicated it to your audience and your subscribers. I hope you are doing ok xx

[@rileylittle4524]

Hey friend! I’ve struggled with fatigue for a while now but I can’t imagine what you’re going through😭🤗 I haven’t seen all your videos but I’ve seen a lot, and it’s been fun getting to know you. It sounds like you’ve had a lot of “volcanoes” in your life, big life changes, one right after another. To navigate such things and not fall to the darkness, and in fact bravely show up for millions to see, takes incredible strength. Strength that doesn’t leave you, even in your toughest moments✨ shine bright and beautiful Finn❤️

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh my friend, may I leap through the screen and give you a massive hug because this comment is absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much for your kind words. Dealing with fatigue of any level is awful. People really need to realise that fatigue is very very very different to tiredness, it takes over your entire body doesnt it? Im sorry you are struggling with it too. My volcanoes have been a lot! I love that you call them that! Pre recovery and pre transition, I used them as an excuse to self destruct, drink, take drugs etc. When I finally managed to get sober, and then transition, and discovered this new beutiful life, I felt so blessed to have found my way out of darkness that all I wanted to do was tell everyone! Now, I see all these volcanoes as a gift because I get to help others find their way too. Welcome to the FinnFam my friend!

[@rileylittle4524]

Yes please! 🤗 you’re so welcome friend! It is very different for sure. I haven’t been diagnosed with anything (yet), but i end up taking naps when i can so i can get through the day. Haha I’m glad you like the term. It seems fitting for how life gets🤣😐😂 you’ve been through so much in a relatively short period of time. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but i am happy for you in all the rest your body will get✨ I’m grateful for you, and your volcanoes, because you did share with the world and i know you’ve had a great impact on me🥰 and i know you’ve done that for others! Stay strong friend, you’ve got this! Your light shines too bright to be dimmed at this point! Happy to be a part of the FinnFam❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

@@rileylittle4524 Well then consider yourself hugged! Day naps are sometimes essential! I know there's many a day where I have to have two bedtimes! Thanks for being so blooming lovely!

[@clairek-s8918]

For me it’s the ME/CFS content that drew me to your channel. And now I’ve learned so much more. I hope you don’t feel you need to apologize because you amaze me every video with your strength and positivity. I know it’s hard and seeing when you struggle is also comforting and makes me feel less alone.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you what an absolutely lovely comment to find, thank you so very very much. This makes me so happy because I share in a a way that Im just a chap that happens to be trans , and I love that people find my content for all sorts of reasons and learn so much more! also love that it helps people feel less alone, because sharing and reading these lovely comments helps me feel less alone too. Thank you

[@amyayars-evans4666]

I love you so much. I am so honored to watch you evolve and be here, on any and every journey you choose to share, HOWEVER, you choose to share them. You are my brother, my friend and I love you and want you to be here and he ok. Your health must be first!!! You share as you always have abs Finn, your soul brings people in. Those that matter stay. Waves hands!!! You need unconditional, unwavering support for this tough hour and by golly I am here no matter and you take care of you. Kindly keep that oxygen mask firmly on your handsome cheeks. When you can, others can take a took of oxygen. As you were gentle, gentle man. ♥️

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I bloody love you so much! Its honestly been one of the biggest pleasures of my journey, to connect with you. Your kind words and appreciation are a balm for my tired soul, thank you!

[@amyayars-evans4666]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Awww Finn. Likewise my friend.

[@sebsensen]

So nice to find this. I'm also a transman and recently diagnosed with ME/CFS. Looking forward to hearing more from you.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello my friend, welcome to the FinnFam. I'm.sorru you have this too but it's good to connect with another trans chap with ME. There is a lot I have to say on this......but so little energy! Stick around......the vlogs are coming! Thanks for watching and for saying hello!

[@kikomartin-pr]

Finn, you talk about whatever you want to talk about. I’ll be here no matter what. I’m a cisgender, heterosexual man. I have a trans brother and when I found your page, you totally helped him and I completely thank you for that and admire you for all the help you give just by talking. And you being so open about being trans is amazing. Not sure if I told you but I had no idea you were trans. I thought you were a gay cisgender man. So that didn’t scare me off at all. I am amazed by your openness. You’re helping so many people even changed my life. You’ve helped me understand what my brother is going through. As strong as you are, you’ll get through M.E./CFS too. And your fiancé is amazing. He truly loves you. Hopefully you two can get married soon. May you both be blessed!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you for this lovely lovely lovely comment! This means so very much to me, to know I reach people who are not even trans, and then help, it makes me so very happy. Thank you! Love to you and your brother!

[@RubyPrice]

Thanks!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

💜💕💜💕💜🏳️‍⚧️

[@pmbluemoon]

You do what you want Finn, this is your channel! I personally am grateful that you share more than one subject of life. I have more than one thing going on with me, and it's helpful to not feel alone. I wish we all were born the way we want to be, but I think of a song lyric from Smashing Pumpkins "Could you believe in heaven, if heaven was all you had?" I'm glad to hear you're both taking care of each other, love you both!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I love that lyric, very apt! Life is suffering, as the wise Buddha said, but then that's what makes us appreciate the good stuff. Without darkness, there can be no light. I think it's up to us to find meaning, and when we do, even the shit can shimmer! I am struggling a lot with this illness, but I am also finding joy in it. In sitting still and just watching the world, in feeling almost cocooned and protected when the fatigue paralyzes me, in just surrendering and leaving stuff undone! Thank you for your kindness my dear dear friend and for following through it all! Life is multi-faceted, and I think this is why my content appeals to many, I don't share about being trans in a vacuum, I share my life around being trans, I am more than one thing! Love to you!

[@pmbluemoon]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Well put Finn 👍 I've been enjoying my cocoon lately as well. I get to have my tonsils taken out Monday, and I'm looking for ward to just telling people I'm taking time to take care of myself and heal. We are more than just our trans selves, we have other things in our lives I do agree! All of your facets are wonderful, as we learn, we grow, and we become even more well rounded humble people 😊

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

@@pmbluemoon absolutely! I'm sending you all the best for your surgery and recovery!

[@pmbluemoon]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank you! 🤞🙂

[@natashamason3328]

Here for you, whatever you want to talk about 😊 I always seem to learn something new. You know me, I love a good Finn waffle 🤣 (we need something about Finnwaffles on a Tshirt 👌) xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hahaha we do for sure! That's on my to do list! And thank you I'm so glad our paths crossed!

[@natashamason3328]

@@FinnTheInfinncible me too lovely xx

[@BryanPike]

It's your soap box, so make content that is engaging to you at the moment makes you happy now. Hugz!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Love that, thank you !

[@lizstubbs2969]

Your content is full of wisdom and love and it comes from the heart and that will keep your subscribers cus we love you 💕💕

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

What a lovely.comment. I'm so glad to be sharing this journey with you xx

[@lizstubbs2969]

@@FinnTheInfinncible 💕xxxx

[@amandaedmonds9602]

Hiya Finn I work with your other half. Loads of love to you, you are stronger than you know and you have helped so many people. Take care of you and listen to your body and your mind as you are doing. Huge love and respect x

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Well hello you! I've heard all about you! Thank you for your lovely comment, so very kind! Much love to you and your son. Happy Easter! 💜

[@amandaedmonds9602]

@@FinnTheInfinncible ❤️

[@acesolarwind7114]

Im gonna stay on this channel for you finn regardless of the theme. Love your content Finn, sending lots of love and energy !! 🌱❤️

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I am so happy to read that, it's made me grin! Thank you!

[@samduncan5472]

Whatever you talk about, people enjoy your videos because of you, so don't worry about what you 'should' do.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

What an absolutely wonderful comment, thank you so much! Sorry its taken me an AGE to reply! Yes, I am convinced I have POTS. But....my GP is old school, convinced that ME is just chronic fatigue and can be helped with therapy, ive tried to explain POTS but he insists my tachicadia/palpitations is in his words "unconcious stress". its is not stress. I can be sat happy as larry and my heart rate suddenly shoots to 160 for no reason and wont change until i lie down. But....just moved house so I am changing GP and hoping to find a GP who is more up to date on current thinking! Thank you so much for your kind words and advice!

[@coffeezombie6032]

Hey so this is the very first video of yours I'm watching. I'm very excited about this content because having chronic illness and being trans certainly has its own unique issues. Also... stigma... ya. So anyways. Looking forward to watching more of your channel

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah hello! Welcome to the FinnFam! Yep, trans + chronic illness = all manner of additional issues to navigate! And the additional stigma.....so much to say....so few spoons! But.....its all written down......and its coming! Thanks for tuning in and for leaving a comment!

[@mrsbabycakes5551]

Have you looked into speech to text? I use this a lot because I find typing really hard. So I use dictate on my phone and speech to text on my Laptop, say when I type a letter or email etc. it really helps me a lot.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes I've started experimenting with some but it's a bit hit and miss. What do you use?

[@americasariesson1862]

I’ve heard many incredible healing stories from people who have released trauma from the subconscious, Finn. I’ve found a couple of people who do this process and teach it as typical therapy doesn’t touch trauma for long term healing.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks my friend. My plan is to get this a little better managed and go through the ME service program, and then after I'm going to look at finding a suitable trauma therapist to work with.

[@ArtieCarden]

we are multi-dimensional people and should be able to talk about all parts of ourselves.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes we are!

[@wolfman75]

You do you!!!! I am sorry you have to go through this!!!! I will be playing catch up soon!!!! Take care of yourself!!!!! Thanks Brother!!!! 👍😎☹🙏😁💯💙🤘

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless your heart thank you my friend!

[@AliceLR]

I enjoy your vlogs xxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I am so pleased to hear that, thank you for letting me know!

[@DJTheBlondeSpirit]

I'm trans and have cfs too its quote common in our community

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hiya! Yes, it does seem to be and I do wonder if a big part of that is due to the hightened state of stress that so often goes hand in hand wth being trans and going through gender transition. This has a detrimental affect on our nervous system, making us espcially vulnerable to chronic illness like ME. Ive just made a video on this! kzbin.info/www/bejne/bmrOkH-FrbqNm6M

[@lizstubbs2969]

Yes this makes perfect sense, but remember progress not perfection 💕xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Absolutely!

[@lizstubbs2969]

@@FinnTheInfinncible ♥️xx

[@natashamason3328]

Woohoo! I now have Finn emojis 😊 xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh my god this makes me so happy!!!!!!!!!!!!! Welcome to Friends of Finn!!