Why Is Ghosting So Common And What You Should Do Instead

[@cappygurl]

I used to be heavily fearful avoidant 4 years ago. I would ghost friends a lot when triggered, I would not explain anything, I would do it for months or years. It was not good, I felt wounded and that would make me ghost. Fast forward to now I'm mostly secure with a little residual fearful avoidant after 4 years of intense therapy and trauma work. I no longer ghost or need to ghost because I am more stable feel good enough to address concerns or times when I am hurt by the actions or words of others. One friend tried to ghost me, I thought she was ill or something happened to her. She finally ended the friendship because I was present for myself and asked if she was okay. Needless to say ghosting is not good practice this coming from a previous serial ghoster. Let's try to end things amicable whether friendships or relationships. We owe that much respect to the people we surround ourselves with. ❤

[@realitytvtherapy]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. It means so much coming from someone who admits to ghosting and has learned to communicate better. Keep up the good work in therapy. I agree, let's end things amicably. Well Said!

[@TeeBreaksDown]

Can you please breakdown Baby Reindeer? I would love to hear your take on it, as many others dont seem to be doing it justice. I love your prospective. It is somewhat reality as the main actor is playing a character that is based on his real life experience.

[@realitytvtherapy]

Wow, just saw the trailer; looks like she becomes obsessed with him; how long is this series going on?

[@TeeBreaksDown]

@@realitytvtherapy only 7 part series. Trust me, it's much more going on. You would really enjoy it. Esp by episode 4.

[@rkeppel4243]

Are you still following Dave Neal? I have missed hearing your comments on Dave's You-Tube podcasts. I would like to hear your insight into Laura Owens and her multiple pregnancy scams.

[@realitytvtherapy]

Yes, I still follow Dave Neal. I've been worried about Laura's mental health the entire time-there is a thing. Called pseudocyesis, also known as false pregnancy or phantom pregnancy. It's a rare condition where a non-pregnant person firmly believes they are pregnant and experiences many pregnancy symptoms despite pregnancy tests and ultrasounds confirming otherwise. I'm pivoting shortly on my station to cover broader issues. But I will return for Jenn's season and the Golden Bachelorette.

[@ShellPatrow]

so I was texting this guy for about 1 month on a dating app we texted back and forth everyday I thought we were hitting it off I sent him a good morning text 4 days ago and havent herd anything . can i consider this ghosting?

[@EfraimNkengurutse]

from texting everyday to no text for 4 days... there is someting there. I mean text him again and ask him if he is ok to see what he has to say and if he doesn't respond you'll have your answer.

[@realitytvtherapy]

Technically, 'ghosting' is when a person you are in a relationship with disappears. I wouldn't focus too much on the term, but the behavior is that they have cooled off. With dating apps, no one feels obliged to tell you why- because they are slammed at work or met someone else. But my rule is don't text back and forth more than a few times. Say things like, 'I'll tell you more in person.' Otherwise, it's called 'saturation.' They get some of their needs met by texting and don't feel the need to meet. As time passes, you create a fantasy of who you think they are. Dating apps are for meetings, not texting.