Why is love so difficult for the HSP?

[@bertaengenendt701]

The way you open up about your experiences, for the benefit of other HSP's, is simply beautiful. Thank you.

[@reckless5683]

Hey, I just stumbled upon your channel and I rarely comment videos at all, but damn. As a male HSP this hit me like a truck. You perfectly described how I feel on daily basis, the fear of rejection/not being enough for someone you adore. I wanted to share one thing if I may. I was recently dating this extrovert girl, we've had fun together but after the last date I was so drained of energy all I wanted was going home to decompress. After that I told her that I've felt this sense being overwhelmed by her stories (she was really talking a lot 😅) and couldn't keep up with her to the point I wasn't even comprehending what she was saying to me no more. Her response was actually great, because she apologised to me, and that wasn't her intention to overwhelm me. We decided to end this and just be friends. Few weeks passed and I still think about her and things I could have done better or communicate better about my needs but every time I was doing so, I've felt like i was trying to change her personality so it could fit my needs. Damn, that was long 😅 Thank you in advance if you respond to this and have a great day 😊

[@OnTheSensitiveSide]

Thank you for sharing this. It's a good reminder to know the difference between meeting each other halfway and compromising to the point where we lose ourselves or try to change the other person. Beautiful ✨🧡

[@vernetta111]

I remember at one point in my life i was so obssesed with the mills and boon romance novels not for the sex but for the fantasy of the romantic stories especially at a time in my life when i was in such a loveless relationship

[@douglasdh12]

There is a benefit for me to listen to you and other HSPs. It is like a comradery at a distance. Thank you for your measured vulnerability. Part of me did not want to click on your video. I am thinking "Why let any part of my heart go there?"

[@OnTheSensitiveSide]

😌 I hear that... Hopefully you don't regret allowing yourself to go there! Thank you for your message🙏

[@user-tz7tg2nd7t]

Thank you…this is so wonderful!!!I am in love with a man who has expressive aphasia…due to a stroke….he travels a lot so I have been really getting to know myself…this has been the most challenging experience of my life but the first time i have actually loved someone. I believe he is an empath…(he can never say no to the people he works for) but doesn’t seem to be an hsp…(noise, stimuli, don’t seem to bother him). A non hsp can never understand how deeply we feel things.. Our vibrational levels are opposite. I love your openness and honesty!! So rare these days!

[@dutchymon]

To love with expectation is coercion, this is narcissism, where one person hijacks the relationship with their projected feelings and insecurities.

[@sakthic8866]

Thank god u came up with this ❤

[@The_HSP_Essays]

Enjoyed the video! :) Last time I checked your channel had about 650 subscribers, so congratulations! I remember you mentioning struggling with alcohol in a past video, but I don't think you mentioned alcoholism specifically. I know it must be a very personal topic and not easy to talk about, but anyway if you'd ever want to share I'd be very interested to hear that part of your life's story. All the best.

[@OnTheSensitiveSide]

Thank you, I appreciate that! About my struggles with alcohol: Did you watch the 3-part series about my sobriety journey? I divulge a lot in those about my alcoholism. They’re in a separate playlist called Sobriety Rocks.

[@The_HSP_Essays]

@@OnTheSensitiveSide Oh I didn't know you talked about alcoholism before. Thank you. I just finished watching them. I enjoyed all three. If you're ever interested in viewing alcoholism (or any other addiction) from a fresh perspective give IFS a try. A book that I got a couple weeks ago, but have yet to read is _Internal Family Systems: Therapy for Addictions_ by Cece Sykes, Martha Sweezy and Richard C. Schwartz. All the best.

[@ShadeCandle]

I just discoveredyour channel and have been really enjoying these videos. I relate so deeply to this, especially as a male HSP. As much as most women say they want a sensitive man, in my experience, most of them actually view sensitivity as weakness, and no matter how cautiously I have dared to be vulnerable, it has always led to my romantic interest getting turned off and rejecting me. While not wanting to be bitter, it seems that women just want a man who will be sensitive to their needs, but have no needs of his own.

[@OnTheSensitiveSide]

wow, this is such a powerful share. Thank you for stating this. I think that society needs a great shift in its expectations of the man-woman dynamic for the balance to be restored to a more harmonious one. Change starts with speaking up about it 😌 It's even difficult to find a male person to interview for my channel, because they are too well-hidden behind a shield of hiding-their-sensitivity-trait.

[@user-lm3lt4uo3u]

iam not a hsp person but my partner is and i wanted to understand him more as his type of personalities is quite different .. he didnot even know that he has this personality ...i find some difficulties treating with him i feel that he cant afford many situations and the tiniest situations can affect him badly ...it was easy treating with him when we where friends but now i dont feel safe with his kind ...i didnot even love him the same way he does which makes me feel guilty ...i hope your videos give me hope ...and i hope you understand as iam not pretty good in english 😅