Why Is Sex a Thing?

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Why does sex exist? You might think the obvious answer is “reproduction” but there are plenty of organisms on Earth that don’t require sex to reproduce. And the more that scientists examined sex, they more they realized that it’s an expensive and inefficient way to get your genes to the next generation. The true purpose of sex is actually one of the longest-standing mysteries in evolutionary biology. But scientists are closer than ever to finding the answer. Here’s what we know about the evolutionary enigma of sex.
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[@besmart]

As your neighborhood science dad, you knew this day was coming. It's time we had "the talk"… about why sex is even a thing, biologically speaking.

[@hungariancountryball2928]

Ok

[@gamerdorianyt1]

I literally just had this talk with my mom Joe

[@elementoproductions6005]

I think the video just got me thinking a little bit about my biology lessons that I learned.

[@Cliffordlonghead]

Awesome Video

[@flamewater6639]

Biology is just horny

[@Sanguiris]

"Sex is twice as costly as no sex" Truer words can never be spoken

[@literallya442ndclonetroope5]

I’m going to divide myself instead of partaking in enter-course in the future. Sorry girls, I do reproduction asexually.

[@joshthemann]

Especially for teens

[@miguelj.5292]

@@joshthemann Especially for middle age divorcees

[@mr_duckie8882]

Here before it blows up

[@Terratomere]

@@mr_duckie8882 too early

[@flingflong5853]

My new pick-up line: " i've got a healthy set of parasite resistant genes, wanna mate?"

[@aarushikishore1417]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@anti-dope9608]

I am sending this reply to all those who commented on this video. Please tell what is that music at 0:45. I can't sleep without answer. Please help.

[@leahdragon]

@@anti-dope9608 or you could just NOT harass everyone.

[@anti-dope9608]

@@leahdragon sorry if you feel this harassment. I just asked for help as a fellow human.

[@anti-dope9608]

Yes I tried shazam xenn4 but it seems too short of a clip. But I got answer. It is 1812 overture. Some guy bronk posted in some other comment. P.s : I'm sorry Mr. Dragon

[@FedericoZampese]

"Sex is twice as costly as no sex". I can assure you that the economic, social and business related outcome can be much, much worse than that

[@vzzniko]

As biologist I'm applauding you for your brilliant explanation and mentioning all important nuances! That's wonderful work! I wish there were more popular science resources like this which do not distort the original idea/concept.

[@justachameleon253]

Except that not all the information he is giving is accurate. There are not females in the asexual species.

[@wendy645]

Yes yes yes!!!

[@mercesletifer52]

both you and this delusional person in video believe in evolution so both of your lives/applauding are irrelevant

[@sntslilhlpr6601]

Agreed. Was brilliantly done and exceeded my expectations.

[@4124V4TA-SNPCA-x]

It was brilliant but he didn't mention sexual reproduction in prokaryotes and other asexually reproducing species. Horizontal gene transfer also exists is more complex multi cellular eukaryotes but less prevalent that sex makes sense of also a factor. But it was indeed brilliantly and concisely presented so hats off!

[@CypressKing]

So basically I’m not a genetic failure. Just a winning hand in the wrong game.

[@CarlosReghis]

@@Jacob-xs5yu I don’t disagree.

[@shalvitandel5566]

@@Jacob-xs5yu I agree.

[@brigidscaldron]

Ya! I wish I had not won the Rheumatology game but I did indeed get a free chronic illness for the rest of my life! Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@matheussanthiago9685]

I like to call it ''human evolutionary anachronisms'' you can use free of charge

[@eow4317]

Mood

[@bobthegoat7090]

The talk today goes like this: "Son we need to talk" "Dad we have the internet. I already know"

[@nishantray3207]

actually i first read about sex in TFIOS in the 4rth grade. and then i found out morre about it. in the internet. ok, nvm

[@whimsy-chan1188]

Lol this was how the talk worked for millennials getting the talk in the 90's. I'm just gonna go: Explain to me std prevention and birth control options.

[@thralldumehammer]

Been there done that lol

[@lettuce1626]

Truuuuuuu

[@zuggett]

I said that lol

[@lordofbacon1455]

„I mean, that‘s how we both got here“ Me who was cloned by the CIA:

The worst thing about this video is that I did not find it sooner. Great work. You got a new subscriber :D

[@Alias_Anybody]

Card tricks don't seem to be essential for survival in his environment.

[@tiyenin]

Bananas suffer from a lack of biodiversity. A single deadly mold threatened to decimate the entire cultivated banana population worldwide just a couple of years ago, because every single nanner is identically genetical.

[@mellie4174]

@@tiyenin yes but that didn't happen naturally. This happened because of industrial farming and thier propogation techniques.

[@Crazmuss]

@@tiyenin well first of all "decimate" means to kill 10%. And there are other sorts of bananas, so everything is fine.

[@alw2839]

@@Crazmuss Bitter bananas it's not fine, reeeeeeee. Seriously supermarkets will sell less bannaas, if any at all.

[@Crazmuss]

@@alw2839 I never tasted bitter banana, altho trying several sorts. In fact some are more sweet that most common ones. Shops will lose some revenue, but this is not a big deal in grand scheme. It is not like our grandchildren will not be able to taste banana.

[@korliyon2283]

"Why are you single?" "It's complicated"

[@ASMRJey]

„I just haven’t found an adequate partner to share my winning genes with yet“

[@em7pug26]

@@ASMRJey 🤣

[@MissCracker]

my genes arent parasite resistent

[@samuraiboi2735]

@@ASMRJey just keep your winning genes okay some people may take advantage of those winning genes😅

[@suhaneegupta814]

"My genes weren't resistant to parasites."

[@vanesslifeygo]

Love the parasite bit. The parasites that can be removed from small creatures like crabs or hornets are HUGE from the perspective of those creatures. Imagine such parasites having to be removed form humans. It's the stuff horror movies would feed on.

[@SpydersByte]

have you ever seen the Star Trek episode with the parasites that took over the fleet leaders? That was exactly this kind of nightmare fuel lol, especially the last one they blow apart

[@vanesslifeygo]

@@SpydersByte I bet it's inspired by real life, that's what I've seen parasites inside Also there are several parasite Yu-Gi-Oh cards but they haven't been as relevant as other vintage cards

[@Jebu911]

@@vanesslifeygo I mean we still can get parasites that are quite huge. Tapeworm can be 10meters (11 yards) long but it mostly just eats your food gives you diarrhea and hangs out inside you for couple of decades.

[@Chineseisntalanguageapparently]

You’d think the paradox was more like “why do we all like it and do it but it’s also the worst thing ever and no one should talk about it, especially if your family is religious”

[@darkleome5409]

"Sex is twice as costly as no sex" Well, yes, relationships do cost a lot of money

[@lordtraxroy]

But starting a relationship is free

[@darkleome5409]

@@lordtraxroymaybe, but it really depends on many things

[@doom-driveneap4569]

Money, headaches, worry, stress, trauma just to make some babies bruh 😂😂😂

[@lordtraxroy]

@@doom-driveneap4569 true if you f*ckt up once she or he hates or doomed you to death

[@lightningglovesproductions6484]

cost of the rubber, motel, (lube if you require it) sex is costly indeed

[@default632]

Me confessing to my crush: "It's not fate. It's evolution."

[@neptune0909]

🤣

[@LeonidaTastiera]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/mXmykIKtbqyfj5I

[@cameronschyuder9034]

Everything can be explained with “evolution” 😅

[@mcpaintcraft8709]

0:48 Don't forget to water it 😂💀

[@luthfimuhammad3068]

3:50 whoever put that subtitle is a man of culture

[@philcollinslover56705]

lmao alambama

[@jumpingcrazybanana]

"Species don't stop evolving just because they've succeeded in their environment." I love that!

[@catelynh1020]

Although a lack of environmental pressures can lead to apparent stagnation. Humans as an example, sure, but also a lot of deep sea creatures that basically haven't changed for a millenia

[@pijn2370]

@@catelynh1020 humans have constantly been under environmental pressures, the evolution of light skin for example is one of the recent evolutionary changes that many had

[@catelynh1020]

@@pijn2370 yes, and no. Let's take bad vision as an example. In ancient history, bad vision would generally come late in life, but if you were young and had bad vision, you would be more likely to die younger and not pass your bad eyesight on. As humans got more advanced and developed more tools and created a supportive society structure, the pressures to not have bad eyesight start to go away. Now, if your eyesight is pretty bad (say extremely nearsighted), you have the chance to have glasses or surgeries to help correct it. Many of the effects of being nearsighted are minimized or negated. Screens and cameras can take things that are far away and not visible and make it close enough to be focused on. There's also help we build in to our societies for people with poor eyesight, such as audio cues or tactile clues. Something detrimental is not detrimental enough to prevent it from continuing on in other generations.

[@catelynh1020]

@@pijn2370 i realize i didn't mention light skin in my reply, but i think it'd be a good example as well. Light skin is useful in areas where more vitamin d is needed drom the sun. Basically, colder and darker regions on the planet. But people wouldn't necessarily turn *more* white if they move from a warm climate to a cold because we keep ourselves more comfortable with our tools. Sun/uv lamps, vitamin supplements, even tanning salons, would start to negate the lack of sun from the environment. In other words, the environmental pressure of cold climates not having as much sun is more or less negated by our technology

[@giovannifrrri5495]

@@catelynh1020 how would white skin help with vitamin D production?

[@DIOsNotDead]

people who had "the talk" in school or at home are probably luckier than many of us living in conservative places where the only way for you to learn is porn and curiously researching it

[@mh4624]

Very much agreed brother

[@monticore1626]

In Australia it’s taught in primary school at year 5

[@michakrzyzanowski8554]

idk I've never had it (yet) but that's not a concern because I won't have sex anytime soon XD

[@Razor-gx2dq]

Yep, as I did

[@joshuaewalker]

Even liberal parents avoid "the talk".

[@emmettcasey8563]

“It’s a total paradox but this is exactly why it happens”💀

[@bessux1995]

The skull emoji sure makes you look smart.

[@KydroxHD]

This is the exact video i was looking for when I looked up this title. Thank you sir, this is gold

[@iForix]

"Son, we need to talk about sex..." "Thanks dad I'm good I watched a KZbin video"

[@dont9915]

It do be like that

[@turoni314]

There's always sexplanations

[@drxeno7816]

@Homie I- what's that ? it's annoying

[@analogicparadox]

@@drxeno7816 spam bot

[@daniellanctot6548]

That would be the PG-13 version of that annecdote...!

[@Sciguy95]

One good way to think of nature and evolution is that it's not necessarily survival of the "fittest" but instead it's survival of the "good enough." That's why you don't need a "winning hand" of genes, just a set that allows you to survive long enough to reproduce, even if you aren't perfect.

[@pranavflame]

Yep. Even a temporary evolutionary advantage will get passed on

[@purpleemerald5299]

Even traits that offer no advantage whatsoever often get passed on so long as they’re not detrimental. Hell, even negative traits can get passed on if they’re negligible enough. A truly perfect organism is simply impossible in an imperfect world.

[@nopenope4502]

@@purpleemerald5299 "Negative traits"... periods, for example. Most mammals reabsorb their uterus linings. Not us. Life's not fair.

[@purpleemerald5299]

@@nopenope4502 Compared to most mammals, we can barely even give birth. The amount of pain, stress and risk of death required just to pump out a single child makes it a miracle we didn’t go extinct sooner. Humans are basically eldritch beings that defy existence itself.

[@nopenope4502]

@@purpleemerald5299 I'm on my period right now and the pain - We need so much pain, stress and in some cases risk of death just to have the ABILITY to even be able to have kids in the first place, let alone go through the process of actually being pregnant and giving birth. I repeat my statement of life's not fair. Our success is... artificial. Take Chernobyl, for example. Nature is THRIVING over there, in a place where we cannot. In Chernobyl, it was a case of adapt genetically, or... die. Humans can adapt artificially, using technology to protect us (Like the radiation suits people visiting Chernobyl have to wear), but because of that we can't adapt very well physically anymore. Nature, however, can, because it doesn't have radiation suits to protect it. Plants and animals that had natural resistance to radiation are doing excellently, passing on genes and breeding generations of radiation-resistant creatures, whereas the ones that didn't probably died and didn't have chance to reproduce. I was having this conversation with my family on a 3-hour car journey in the middle of the night yesterday, and we all agreed that humankind is going to die out within the next 500 years, whether it's a war, climate change, a pandemic, a nuclear disaster, or some unpredicted event (Like Yellowstone erupting, though I'm pretty sure that's not due for thousands of years. If it does erupt, there'll be a mass extinction for sure.). It might even be a combination of multiple. Knowing humans, we'll have caused our own downfall in some shape or form. I'm rambling now so I should post this and go watch a different science video before I start spiralling. I hope your current week is better than mine has been, and that if you are someone who gets periods yours are not too heavy or painful.

[@moonkey2712]

Interesting topic and will explained. the poker metaphor was great to help wrap my mind around what you were saying. Great work

[@m39ap3dr0]

this is very good. sometimes i feel a lack of epistemological and ontological depth in the communication of science. you explained everything very simply without dumbing it down so much that you actually end up obscuring information or straight up lying.

[@orangiseng3155]

I'm newly married, now I'm going to use this phrase for my wife "hey let's shuffle some genes" *wink

[@reformedorthodoxmunmanquara]

Have fun lmao

[@Bell-wh4vm]

@@anti-dope9608 Some classical celebration music

[@rahuln5676]

@@anti-dope9608 kzbin.info/www/bejne/q2O6YoqfZ7psqbM Here you go!!

[@Existingua]

Technically you are not shuffling genes....um they are already shuffled in your own body and in case of your wife the genes are shuffled since she was a fetus in her mother's womb What you are doing during sex is "trying" to combine those shuffled genes to form a zygote But well you can say anything you want😂

[@slkjvlkfsvnlsdfhgdght5447]

@@Existingua no, you are shuffling them. recombination also occurs in the fertilized egg

[@jjohnston94]

We never had "the talk". Our "talk" was the ABC After School Special "My Mom's Having a Baby". My mom told my brother and me to watch it, then hightailed it to the grocery store. Never another word.

[@b.a.r.c.l.a.y9701]

@Homie I- what

[@silver17yearsago66]

@Homie I- wtf?

[@ironsnowflake1076]

@@b.a.r.c.l.a.y9701 dare I hit the link?

[@Diamondking599]

@@ironsnowflake1076 probably not, it’s just weird music

[@shilikonki2617]

Well, the only "the talk" situation my family and I ever had was when we watched "American pie" together...

[@leen8430]

At one minute in I already liked, subscribed and commented. You, sir, are unnervingly good.

[@AllytheGumby]

This channel is absolutely brilliant! i love how none of it is filled with filler words or roundabout ways of explaining things just to extend the video. there are plentiful, detailed explanations with extensive descriptions of everything, different theories and loose ends for you to try and piece together the parts that science couldnt yet.

[@FC-qc8fj]

I like that you mention how science doesn’t have the exact answer to everything. We’re always still learning more about the world

[@CuongNguyen-sw1eb]

@Wulfric you'll figure it out scientifically at some point. Just as I figuring out why every girl turns into lesbians the moment I ask them out. That might even be why you have no desire to have sex.

[@molybdaen11]

@Wulfric Probably you have not found the right mate yet. Or you are genetic perfect to be a support rather then a main? Who knows :)

[@molybdaen11]

@Wulfric Of course it's meant as a joke since I do not know you. But they are certain patters in human social life. They are like "jobs" people unconscious take if the group is large enough. For example there is always somebody who make others laugh, somebody who picks on others, the hero, the sweat heard, the nerd (wich job is to force others to decide on a opinion), the leader, the lover and so on. Mains would be the ones wich job is to duck each other and pass they genes. Supports are the ones who care for food, security, education, getting information, improving social life or care for the fire. In other words: Even if you have no desire to be with other people, does not mean that you can not help our species as a whole.

[@duskmallow]

@Wulfric You might want to look up asexuality! It's when you feel little to no sexual attraction towards any gender. I'm asexual too and it was such a relief to find out that I'm not broken and there are others like me. Not trying to push a label on you of course!

[@Dinoslay]

It is however a continuous process of learning. Sooner or later we’ll get there.

[@talkingshark9996]

The fact that you were able to make this video not cringe is amazing

[@lonesome1689]

It was kinda cringe

[@teagod2_214]

@@lonesome1689 your cringe....

[@cleverusernamenexttime2779]

I almost lost it at the 'spiky boi, danger noodle ' part. Like this is a science channel please use proper names.

[@violettvi1485]

@@cleverusernamenexttime2779 why? You don't know what they're called or smt? I mean the guy already does a lot of useful work by explaining this stuff and by adding in some jokes that keep your attention on the talk it's even better

[@cleverusernamenexttime2779]

@@violettvi1485 it's like when grown women use baby talk for attention. If you're interesting enough you don't need that garbage. I do appreciate this channel and ones like it. It's just slang like that is annoying and sounds dumb to me.

[@CalculusDaddy]

Imagine the first time it evolved. Microbe 1 to microbe 2: *You want to do WHAT to my chromosomes?*

[@2760ade]

I think your hand of cards analogy is really clever in explaining this so well! It just makes so much sense, without being overly technical!

[@beansworth5694]

It's technically a bad analogy, though. Since if the next hand to win is completely random, taking one hand over your current one has no statistical influence over the outcome- it just makes a bad decision a meaningless one from the hand-to-win's perspective

[@cameronschyuder9034]

@@beansworth5694isn’t there that game problem with the doors and the cars that basically suggests if you get the chance to switch your door, then always switch? I can’t really explain it that well but I’m sure if you search up something like “game problem 3 doors winning car” then the thing will pop up. Edit: it’s called the Monty Hall problem What I’m saying is I think probability would disagree with your perspective. Also, if an individual has sex multiple times (or if multiple people have sex), there are multiple more combinations that can be made, making it more likely that at least one of the offspring will survive even if the environment changes, so they can reproduce and so on You’re not switching hands once, and it’s not just one person involved either. It’s many card games playing by the same changing rules. Idk. I think the analogy is more accurate than inaccurate since, ofc, not all analogies are perfect, that’s just not possible

[@bellhel227]

“Don’t forget to water it” LOL-

[@Oh_Low]

remember to water ur babies, parents.

[@bellhel227]

@@Oh_Low important tip

[@jeromesuarez5293]

XD

[@SlickONick]

It's needs to stay hydrated, after all.

[@victoriasalter1701]

But babies can’t drink water!

[@vincecomuna]

Fun fact: being a son of two doctos (one is a gynecologist and the other is a obstetrician) I never really had "the talk". They just....treated me like an adult and assumed I was smart enough to understand the proper terms. And surprise surprise, I also became a doctor....a pediatrician. I suppose I'm a hybrid of my parent's academic lives.

[@couch_philosoph3325]

You really are half of each 😆 i think we do not need a talk if sex ed is taught well on different levels (i never had the talk and was quite well informed i think, we even learned which hormones affect the pill that i have since forgotten). My dad is in IT and my mum learned accounting. I study philosophy and work in philosophy. I am the alien

[@dafaeriequeene]

I see you inherited their smugness too

[@vincecomuna]

@@dafaeriequeene Do I know you?

[@TillTheLightTakesUs]

Fun fact: By being a son of two doctors you already have the winning hand, regardless of your genetic makeup. You can only go down from there.

[@vincecomuna]

@@TillTheLightTakesUs Not really. I chose to spend my time as a kid/teenager studying hard and preparing myself. Other guys started drinking very early on, skipping classes, fooling aroung. I never drank alcohol, had a disciplined life and put my efforts into studies. I didn't get things for free, I earned them. I didn't pay for my med school, I got invited. It's easy to say I have a confortable life when people don't know all the things I had to let go to achieve my goals. All the residency shifts and all the hours of dedication.

[@fenafea7287]

thanks for the video, it was literally a short iteration of my last ecology-evolution lecture in uni and it´s highly appreciated that i get to review the topic like this hahah

[@nailedii4118]

"Hey smart people..." Okay okay im leaving, shouldn't have come in the first place i understand, sorry.

[@thewarrior130]

XD

[@valeriejones8195]

As someone who majored in Genetics with a minor in psychology looking to do genetic counselling 30 years ago. I have to say this is probably the most concise easiest to understand way to explain the concept of genetics and biology driving our genetics to the average person. So kudos to you on this excellent video.

[@mahadrox]

Thankyou

[@peace606]

Genetics drive to the average person? Why?

[@tornadodee148]

well im screwed if this was the easiest: there are some parts I did NOT understand

[@xSwordLilyx]

What is genetic counselling?

[@valeriejones8195]

@@xSwordLilyx Looking at the genetic backgrounds of the parents and determining the probability that any future or currently unborn children the the couple will have a specific % of inheriting two recessive copies of the genes (one from each parent) for various medical conditions, i.e. Hemophilia, Sickle Cell Anemia, Down Syndrome, etc. That way can make in informed choice on whether or not to have children or if already pregnant they know what to expect before the child is born.

[@jcrochangliana9464]

Thankyou for a answering this question.. I've been asking about this for a very long time

[@pricefam4168]

I always learn something new from u it's awesome thank u for doing what u do keep coming up with new videos

[@justanothermortal1373]

Joe. I know this may not be worth replying to, but I just want you to know that I've been having an absolutely, undeniably crappy hell of a day and when I saw this new upload, clicked on it, heard you say "hey smart people", it made me feel a little better about myself and my situation. So thank you :) Never stop doing what you do.

[@charliebickerdike3216]

me personally im more interested in answering the questions his videos ask than hearing him call people smart

[@justanothermortal1373]

@@charliebickerdike3216 you do you my friend

[@lillys9876]

Same! I'm always like ''aw..'' when he doesn't start a video with it like in his older ones.

[@burg3r703]

@@justanothermortal1373 charlie moment

[@hdebbache2000]

@@charliebickerdike3216 you missed the point there buddy

[@Maxarcc]

This concept of "the talk" is really interesting to me. I come from The Netherlands and this isn't really a thing here. At least, not in mildly progressive families. We just pick up random stuff from lessons in school, friends and family until we have collected enough snippets of information to understand how it works and what it is. I think it works like that because people are generally just open about it, even to kids. At least, my family and my friends' family was.

[@LesoTheGamerboy]

I live in finland and i found "the talk" as a weird concept too because i never had it and it just seems so awkward for your parents to explain what sex is to you. Honestly i have no idea where i first learned it, i guess i was just curious as kids are and like you i got snippets of information here and there until i got a general idea what it was and then fully understood it during middle schools sex ed.

[@Scion141]

I find that concept weird too. I think "The Talk" is mostly an American thing. In my culture (perhaps even the whole country), we also just pick up random stuff from here and there until we have the whole picture. It's not that it's taboo to talk about it, it's just not a thing

[@vivientakacs5599]

I never had it explained either, I learned from school. I'm from Hungary, lol. Idk if it's the same with everyone else or not here, but I never even heard of "the talk" referred to it at all.

[@TheRealJetJaguar]

I'm 13 and from the UK and my parents haven't given me "the talk" i don't know if they ever will, but they don't really need to since i just picked up everything i know from the internet

[@Mark778.]

Im brazilian and i had "the talk", i guess i depends on the family really.

[@deusexmaximum8930]

How is the sex talk hard? Literally "we started learning about the reproductive system in school today" and go from there

[@RhythmAddictedState]

Some kids aren't as lucky with their parents as you were. There are families who don't *really* communicate with each other. Some parents have no clue how to talk about it because of their experiences or their own parents, so they don't know what "normal" is regarding sex. Some parents are conservative. Some parents come from a culture where sex is a touchier subject. Some parents just do the talk wrong because of false beliefs. In my case, my parents have always pretended sex doesn't exist. Despite being relatively open, feelings, affection, love and sex are things we never discuss. I don't know if it's because of culture, but they rarely show affection, whether physically or verbally (even as an adult I cringe when I hear someone say "I love you" to their parents). Do you honestly think "the talk" is an easy thing for parents who are like this?

[@TryWithKev]

What a wonderful explanation, thank you. I enjoyed it, especially the humor.

[@wholeNwon]

OK, seriously for a minute. I was talking with a young (21 yo) man about sex. He initiated the conversation. I soon discovered that he really knew very little about it. Sure, he had a pretty good idea of the basic mechanics and was more or less successful twice, but that was it. He knew very little about venereal diseases, effective contraception (even how to use a condom correctly), the emotional aspects of sex for both partners, etc. He had not been vaccinated against HPV. Well, the list could go on, but you get the point. There's more to "the talk" than anatomy. And there's a lot to becoming a good man that dad will always be proud of.

[@eoincampbell1584]

Yeah sex education in schools needs to be improved across the board.

[@moralkombat66]

@@eoincampbell1584 some schools don't have it

[@jimmytimmy3680]

Not everyone is "bright." Seems like you chose unwisely.

[@anti-dope9608]

I am sending this reply to all those who commented on this video. Please tell what is that music at 0:45. I can't sleep without answer. Please help.

[@bronkingrn]

@@anti-dope9608 kzbin.info/www/bejne/fXfOeXqgacqJp6c at 13:45 ish now shut up

[@jonasgenova]

Joe: Uses poker to explain Me: (who doesn't know the rules or how to play): hmmm... yes of course I get it

[@Daniela-nq3ig]

Same lol

[@harnes64]

Me and you both.

[@hittingyouoverthehead]

Poker is very easy. You should never call first because if you do, someone will always have a better hand and take away all your money. At least that's what Hollywood taught me.

[@harshitjaiswal5529]

Lol

[@A1Avishek]

That was incredibly illuminating thanks for all the hard thinking and research you put into making these videos!

[@pmccarthy001]

Like so many of your videos really very interesting... you help me make connections I've never made before. Thanks for all your educational work here.

[@arandomcatheehee]

My mom gave me the talk when I started puberty, but I always had a decent idea of how babies start out since I was very small. I'm adopted, and my mom wanted me to never feel like it was hidden from me, so she'd frequently tell me, "You're not from my belly, but that doesn't change how much I love you." I basically knew that babies were in "bellies", and that they did not come from supernatural means xd

[@iw9472]

Saaame!!! My mom told me that I wasn't from her womb but from her heart. So I guess it wasn't so surprising for me.

[@lenaramoon4617]

that's lovely guys

[@Chiara_Elena]

That is so beautiful!

[@foekaiser3938]

That is wholesome!

[@beepbeep670]

That’s so beautiful, bless you ❤️

[@syedushherahmad311]

Dad: Son, we need to have "the Talk" Joe: Sure, ask away dad

[@supercanonx]

@@anti-dope9608 1812 overture

[@kepspark3362]

😂🤣🤣

[@derfuchs3296]

Joe mama?

[@pierre1069.]

Joe mama

[@rsnr234]

Who’s Joe?

[@DarkSide-dd2nz]

Joeee, I havent seen you're channel in so long, ima do a marathon now

[@isaacatt7719]

Thanks for the very informative video!

[@hellomoron]

"Why is sex a thing?" Lol, Asexuals have been asking ourselves this for eons! Great video, thanks for making it.

[@kaatlauwers2473]

I was scrolling through this comment section just to find ace comments and I found one 🥳

[@wsellias7360]

Yes lmao

[@skyvideos8246]

Truth lol

[@gocha7955]

Yeah exacly

[@my_head_is_broken9999]

was looking for exactly this comment bc i knew it was going to be here

[@joezcool]

instructions unclear, I'm now standing next to three identical clones who are fighting over which is the evil one.

[@spacetechempire510]

I got ya. Just grab three cups and write good on two and evil on one.

[@ad-skyobsidion4267]

Draw straws

[@erezsolomon3838]

Mad, Rad and Billy are good kids. keep them around and then take them to a cheap rest-or-rant

[@matheussanthiago9685]

instructions unclear; peepee got stuck in clone number 3, that is clearly evil

[@garethbaus5471]

Why can't all 3 be evil?

[@emergentform1188]

Insightful and entertaining af dude, bravo.

[@mellissadalby1402]

This one is a lot more involved than I expected it to be. Very interesting.

[@diggydog95ify]

Whenever hear him say "Hey smart people" all my brain thinks is "Hey small people!"

[@YaBoiMemo313]

Now u made me have the same issue XD

[@thecalham]

We are all but small people in comparison

[@lorrieannesilvey474]

@@anti-dope9608, it is a classic piece like Bach. I will look it up.

[@anti-dope9608]

@@lorrieannesilvey474 thanks mate. But some guy bronk answered it in some other comment. It is 1812 overture.

[@nicholasneyhart396]

Most people are.small compared to Joe.

[@ashen_dawn]

Yeah my parents were so embarrassed about "the talk" that they didn't bother sitting me down to have it until I was already married.

[@erpmo3326]

How's the s3x? Boring right? Purity culture is toxic af

[@robo-roger7815]

If it wasn't for the internet, I'm not sure I would know what it was at 21 years old

[@Catastropheshe]

🤣🤣🤣

[@wokery]

LMFAO

[@princesseville6889]

thats a little late, dont they think?

[@kyril9945]

How did this video stay hidden this long? Great explanation

[@hiselbii5326]

Funfact: Very important genes are "conserved" in the DNA, meaning they are located very close to each other on the chromosome. When the genes are "shuffled" in Meiosis, they will be more likely to stay together and the baby will have all the basic functions to survive. So the shuffling is a lot safer for organims than is sounds.

[@mroverdose14]

Was just about to say. Introns and Exons during transcription has shown this plus you want to mix two winning hands to have the best combo. This is why we spend to much time is finding the right mates.

[@ROaxel]

You said "Fun Fact". Didn't laugh.

[@MeesterG]

@@ROaxel people don't have to laugh at every fun thing. Otherwise sex wouldn't be a fun thing anymore.

[@Saladassu]

does it ever happen that they dont i wonder? by sheer badluck, their genes means they develop without skin for example. though i guess thats just like normal conditions like allergies and that vein of things outside of your control that you're born with

[@UnchosenMountainBerry]

@@ROaxel Most people think sex as fun thing. But they don't laugh having one. Or, they do.

[@Kaylakaze]

I don't remember ever having "the talk." It just seems like something I've always known.

[@aster2157]

Same.

[@derigel9783]

My father tryed to talk to me when I was 13-14. He came into my room (He never did without reason), and said 'son you have a girlfriend. Lets talk.' And I'm just like 'You are almost 5 years too late for that. I already know everything I want and need to know.' When he left, I felt that releave coming from him, for sparing us both for the embarresment.

[@nehankaranch2149]

I was like 9 yrs old at a school camp and we were watching tv when an episode of friends came up and it said sum about 2 charectars tryna have a baby and most people were confused but one guy who knew told us all in our cabin

[@dr.schuusch9142]

I never had "the talk" too, my brother told me lmao

[@davegoldspink5354]

I never had “the talk” growing up in the 60s and 70s and going to all boys Catholic school my family was absolutely no help and my school teachers always told us when it came to sex if it felt good it was a sin. 😂🤣😂 Am always grateful I discovered porn.

[@ellevenn0132]

This is significantly more interesting than I thought it would be. I am pleasantly surprised

[@copyrightdragon7244]

I do recall reading something a while back about how liking another person's scent is supposed to be a strong indicator that your immune systems are sufficiently different as to be compatible. Always fascinating to see how these things intertwine. Great video!

[@hellajellatv9418]

What if their personality gives you the shits though lmao Edit: Nevermind I was the problem 😂

[@NiLem98]

@@hellajellatv9418 Yeah, had that recently. Trying to get over it now xD

[@kitsune7229]

Thanks! I'm gonna use this as a compliment, and leave them so confused, that I could leave without giving them explanation

[@TheFantazingo]

And if you think someone smells bad, you're a bad match. Modern anti-perspirents and perfumes throws off that whole pheromone filter

[@AnnoyingNewsletters]

It's not just antiperspirant and perfumes causing these problems. Hormonal birth control can make a woman more attracted to someone with similar scents as their family because it's tricking their body into thinking that they're pregnant, leading to seeking familial protection. Ever see a couple arguing like siblings or parents and children? That could be part of the reason.

[@jedidiahcarmichael5747]

My mom had the "talk" with me VERY early. It was simple: sex makes children. If you have a kid that's 18 years of your life and 3/4 of your allowance to feed, clothe, and shelter that kid; and you BETTER take care of your RESPONSIBILITIES!! I knew the "cost" of sex. She implied it was 2 minutes = 18 years of your life (LOL?). When you look at sex like that you tend to make better, more informed decisions. I am 43 with no kids, never married. For me, the right woman was always a person worth 18+ years of my life. You have no clue how glad I am for the perspective she gave me.

[@daviddicusara6523]

It s kind of sad that you are now 43 and probably still have no child and wife

[@jedidiahcarmichael5747]

@@daviddicusara6523 not really. happiness is a matter of perspective.

[@daviddicusara6523]

@@jedidiahcarmichael5747 And are you happy ?

[@jedidiahcarmichael5747]

@@daviddicusara6523 yeah.

[@LarryWater]

The best way to avoid divorce is not marrying

[@kaj0t]

2:29 thanks this helped me alot in my self confidence

[@TURBOMIKEIFY]

When I had the talk with my dad, he was so upfront and blunt with his terminology- he didn't use any analogies either. That it helped me so much in my sexual endeavors.

[@sparkysparky999]

How old were you?

[@TURBOMIKEIFY]

@@sparkysparky999 Adult.

[@eoincampbell1584]

I think that's absolutely the best way to do it. I also don't see why parent's wait until their kid is already old enough that they could be having sex (or at least looking up porn and getting misconceptions). Plus the placeholders of storks or finding babies in cabbage patches are just stupid. I think best way to go is Adams Family style, as soon as the kid is old enough to understand the explanation you explain it.

[@j.l.atheprodigy]

That's good. No beating around the bush...

[@TheSwauzz]

@@eoincampbell1584 I don't know about anyone still talking about storks and cabbage patches anymore. I completely forgot about those things.

[@Elomentoplayz]

Ah, now I fully understand why Scott the Woz has a strictly no sex policy.

[@THEBACONATOR20]

@@anti-dope9608 Go forth and return with answers don't disappoint us.

[@anti-dope9608]

It is 1812 overture. Some guy bronk in other comment helped me.

[@_alc.v]

quite the happy ending; kudos to you my internet friend

[@Elomentoplayz]

@@anti-dope9608 no

[@THEBACONATOR20]

@@Elomentoplayz no u

[@the_cringe_nerd]

Honestly, I never had "The Talk" cause by the time I came of age (no pun intended) I already knew what was what because the internet existed

[@FizzyToni]

"Hmm, I wonder why was this video recommended to me? Oh, there is a poker analogy mentioned multiple times during the video, that makes sense."

[@hungariancountryball2928]

"Are ya winning, son?" *The son:Playing minecraft with his online GF*

[@birb9041]

Lol

[@notsiddhi2820]

lol

[@AquaticFlapper125]

Yes

[@Raccon_Detective.]

Then it turns out to be a his uncle.

[@midloran]

@@Raccon_Detective. What the hecc

[@MaartenVanderCruyssen]

I never had 'the talk' with my parents. In a lot of European countries it's very normal to have Sex Education in School. It teaches young people about the physical aspects of reproduction, but also about sexual relationships, pleasure, orientation, and birth control methods. Studies find that Sex Education can reduce: teenage pregnancies, abortions, sexually transmitted infections, irresponsible sexual behavior, sexual intimidation and abusive relationships. Disclaimer: I know things are different in the USA. And that's fine.

[@langohr9613ify]

"And sex forces you to shuffle your hand"

[@fra93ilgrande]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@franziskaw.3167]

Great video,! Thanks:)

[@mfn1311]

The only thing I could think of is that sex allows for more genetic variations, speeding up the efficiency of evolution by ensuring there are more variations that could have beneficial mutations. It seems he came to the same conclusion as well.

[@zafraz1077]

Or you came to the same conclusion as him. Or maybe that guy that explained the red queen theory. But you still could make another groundbreaking theory though. Heres to hoping.

[@DLCS-2]

@@zafraz1077 Ted Ed has something like this . The five fingers of evolution. It was published 9 years ago.

[@MissMiserize]

I also think that the existence of sexual dimorphism in more complex species like mammals or birds allows one species to focus on survival while the other can reproduce. Women being physically weaker than men makes them "more valuable" biologically. Testosterone is what causes muscle mass to develop easily, and too much of it makes women infertile. Human women have a hard enough time giving birth as it is, so you don't bother. The propagation of species is more important than muscle mass, women are strong enough to survive on their own anyway, and if men die sperm is cheap and donors are willing. Same with peafowl. Peahens are beautiful in their own right, but peacocks look like a giant bullseye in the wild. If they survive existing to adulthood, they might be worthy of female attention. I know that's a *really* abrasive way of looking at it, but women are just DNA trying to clone itself too, so that's reality.

[@drdingaling]

wow you're sooooo smart

[@mfn1311]

@@drdingaling and you’re sooooo mean. /:

[@Meghan2219]

I feel like at school, they waited until we were at peak awkwardness and then decided to give us “the talk”. They gave us deodorant and pads )for the girls). Then, in high school, we had to watch a woman giving birth…school sex Ed was weird and unhelpful.

[@lyndsaybrown8471]

Same. We watched the woman giving birth video in 8th grade. It was super awkward for the girls.

[@garethbaus5471]

@@javierramirez4065 the basic concepts should probably be explained before the kids are old enough to use them so they can at least have half an idea what their actions can cause and what they can do about it.

[@DeckerStarWhy]

Did the boys had something to be embarrassed about? Or they just tortured the girls...

[@bilbobaginutopi2284]

@@DeckerStarWhy should have shown prostate examination for the boys xd

[@DeckerStarWhy]

@@bilbobaginutopi2284 LMAO yeah. Embarrass both if u r gonna do it. 😂

[@disappointeddog7094]

I love watching videos about things that I don’t know, or will never experience in my life.

[@3DJapan]

I never had "the talk". However I did find an illustrated book that my older sister left behind that had way more info than a parent could give.

[@georgplaz]

I can already see myself explaining this paradox to a friend in the future, remembering only half of the story and having a paradox that doesn't really seem paradoxical.. '^^

[@HyperionCaelestis]

exactly my same thought xD how is this possible

[@ih8stuff3]

"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."

[@SuperMario1111]

awesome video !!

[@gotamekanicole]

This is really really cool. I love this channel.

[@brandondennis4369]

"Sex is twice as costly as no sex." I felt that.

[@dizzytitan8481]

Yess! I've read both The Selfish Gene and The Red Queen: sex and the evolution of human nature, and this video basically soft summarized both of them! Love it!

[@SpartanFunnyProyect]

Horrific books 10/10

[@thehandsomeknight9449]

@@SpartanFunnyProyect wdym

[@lastyhopper2792]

@@thehandsomeknight9449 he meant terrific probably... nvm it doesn't make sense

[@thehandsomeknight9449]

@@lastyhopper2792 maybe auto correct if he was typing really fast

[@FirefulXD]

oooh i've read the ancestor's tale by the same author! incredible book

[@user-pz2lt7ox1r]

Thank you for this video

[@try_Acid]

0:48 "Dont forget to water it!" Got me lying on the floor 🤣

[@nealwhaley63]

My father never had the talk with me. I don’t think he could have. I was in high school and still being ordered to leave the room when nudity was in a film or TV scene. Needless to say, I was on my own.

[@hazel2343]

When a mommy and daddy love each other very much.....

[@bigbalticbox]

@@hazel2343 They bake a cake in bed... With each other...

[@hazel2343]

@@bigbalticbox they use lots of eggs...

[@vivientakacs5599]

@@hazel2343 Wait is this really how it goes??? That sounds so confusing 😭

[@hazel2343]

@@vivientakacs5599 you'll understand how to make bed cake when you're older 💕

[@lychee.smiles]

you're telling me there were over 8 million ways I could have come out of the womb but I came out looking like this -_-

[@legrandliseurtri7495]

Who gave internet access to a cat?

[@lisastenzel5713]

9:55 😂Those animations are hilarious! That weren't just fish right now leaving behind clouds of dust 😂😂😂 😆

[@in1]

I don't know why, but your face expression on the thumbnail is amazing

[@rainy619]

"Sex is twice as expensive as *no* sex" Yeah, biologically *AND* financially speaking

[@rishabhgoel3861]

I am from India. The only talk we had was awkward pauses when sex scenes came onto movies and everybody suddenly very interested in their phones or even feet xD

[@theuniverse3782]

Lol that's relatable

[@learnmaths3329]

Relateable

[@learnmaths3329]

@Homie I- ???????

[@theuniverse3782]

@Homie I- ???

[@aanyakohli9798]

Ikr our country wrote the first sex based book the kamasutra in the 1400s and we still do not have the talk

[@Mankeysbankeys]

My parents just asked if I learned about it in health and if they needed to explain it to me. So I’m very lucky that I didn’t need to go through that talk.

[@Tera_GX]

Something I don't see come up in these topics is "Why do humans seemingly find more pleasure in sex than other species do?" My guess is that we would have been too caught up in intellectual curiosities to give proper attention to reproduction.

[@esshor.]

My parents never “had the talk” with me. It was something I just came to understand. Whenever my parents door was locked, my whole family knew what was going on

[@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago]

😂 I'm so frickin thankful that to my knowledge my parents never had sex when I was in the house. Eternally eternally grateful 😂😂

[@hman6159]

@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago lol

[@jojom.9545]

@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago so i see, ur a lucky one. I sadly didnt have that much luck. Instead i was scared by it multiple Times.

[@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago]

@@jojom.9545 Oh no 😂😂 I'm sorry to hear that. That is no good.

[@jojom.9545]

@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago xD

[@nigerianprincess101]

“Bites fish, scaly pals and danger noodles”. Best. Phrase. Ever.

[@gameboy-nq7je]

wait for people in 30+ years to try to understand it

[@KOKO-uu7yd]

@@gameboy-nq7je has it been 30 yrs already? (I'm afraid I don't get it)😞🤷‍♀️

[@joemyers5302]

@@KOKO-uu7yd Modern simplified slang for Sharks, Lizards, and Snakes.

[@blackpurple9163]

I'm glad I found out about it through trial and error and not a planned parental discussion

[@pedrosabino8751]

0:03 I didn't had, i just "started to know" 🤔

[@annleytonlord]

Is it just me, or did anyone else just kinda automatically understand what sex is? Like, I don't remember any time someone explained it to me, whether in school or by my parents, where I thought it was something I didn't already know. It sorta just was ingrained in my brain from the start, ig... 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@olaoluwafaleye4043]

Same lol

[@emperorlizZ]

Same

[@LePenseurThinksALOT]

"The rules of life's poker game, don't stay the same, from game to game." - Joe Hanson

[@tanm6907]

loved the content and can relate to it. Hugs Guys