WHY Japan Boys WHY!? Japanese girls are SHOCKED that Japanese boys do this

Japanese girls are shocked and sad that Japanese boys do these things. Let's find out what Japanese girls don't understand about boys.
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[@NK-rf4db]

I'll never forget how last year when I visited Japan,as I was walking in the evening back to my rented apartment, there where bunch of men who walked together from work(I assume they were heading to a bar or something)and as they were walking on the sidewalk they literally blocked the entire road for everyone(mind you there was an elder lady who was trying to pass them but couldn't). They were laughing so loudly and they weren't drunk ,they were perfectly sober! they walked slowly and it was so evident that they were doing it on purpose,they saw that people were trying to pass them but they didn't even budge and I was hurrying to get back to the place I was staying at. Eventually the hot blooded middle-eastern me didn't gave a single f*ck and I just pushed right through them(really hard!),they were astonished and got all quiet.. served them right!

[@jameshiawo2771]

Anastasia Kr I heard Japanese are non-confrontational people.

[@NK-rf4db]

@@jameshiawo2771 ..and?

[@dcardigan13]

@@NK-rf4db which was why nobody (no other Japanese people) aside from you, who was Middle Eastern, pushed passed them or told them off. If they did that in other places where people were confrontational, a literal fight would have broken out.

[@NK-rf4db]

@@dcardigan13 Not true at all!!lol I've been to Japan for a long period of times and I've been a witness to arguments that occurred between Japanese people who were complete strangers to each other and one time 2 men were on the verge to actually fight each other.

[@dcardigan13]

@@NK-rf4db just saying that's what James Hiawo meant.

[@LenaleeLee]

I used to work for a Japanese game company in Tokyo and my boss (a Japanese man) also took me, a foreign male co-worker, a foreign female co-worker, and a couple more Japanese female co-workers to a hostess bar once. My female co-workers and I ended up talking about anime with one of the hostesses, and it was just a fun lighthearted conversation basically. I think my boss took us there because he probably enjoys hostess clubs and found it a nice excuse to go there with us simply to show us what it's like. I had some other foreign male co-workers and plenty of Japanese male co-workers there, but those weren't invited, just us. I don't know if he ever took them to one or not. Anyway, just a funny memory I thought of when the girl said some people go there with their company.

[@anadd6195]

Yeah, some of those places are chill

[@AaronMetallion]

I can't wrap my head around how cheating is ok in Japanese culture, or even how married men go to host clubs, or how about 40% of women said they did casual prostitution / sex-work at some point. In a similar experiment about 50% of men said they would be ok with cheating, but their wives aren't allowed to. But that isn't the point, being South Asian (Indian), where commitment and integrity is paramount, my gut would be upset if I even entertained the thought of cheating on my girlfriend. It's really hard to comprehend, and a genuine fear tbh xD.

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

Married men in the u.S. take their men clients to nudie bars. Get over it.

[@elleofhearts8471]

ew^ that's not acceptable or normal

[@Meimoons]

It’s the same kind of peer pressure they face at work for drinking with your company or fellow staff. As a employee, you may not want to but it’s also considered rude to turn down a boss’ invitation to group outings. It can be hard to reject that despite how clear it is you’re uncomfortable at the thought of cheating by going. Also, it wouldn’t be surprising if your boss was an older man (cus that’s how Japan is) and with the old generation they have that same old mentality that it’s okay to cheat on wives. I don’t support the notion of cheating on your spouses or using the excuse of your boss peer pressuring it and I don’t empathize with spouses who cheat on their SO’s, but I understand why and would be very pissed at their boss.

[@dcardigan13]

In the Philippines, this double standard in cheating exists too. I mean, cheating is not treated lightly at all here - a literal fight would happen between married couples if this happened and may result to annulment. But the general rule is that it's more normal (or it's better) for men to cheat on their partners than for a woman to cheat on her husband/boyfriend. There is shame when men cheat, but there's more judgement and shame placed on women who cheat - cheating women are considered as a disgrace. And sometimes, it's humiliating for women when their husbands or boyfriends cheat on them as this insults their womanhood (but this may be the same for other cultures as well?). But bottomline is, cheating, whether you're a man or woman, is disgraceful and shouldn't be tolerated in the first place.

[@Keiotaka]

ikr i dont get it. why cheat and not just go out with the person youre cheating with

[@cutsceneenjoyerzz]

Don't be rude or mess with people who make food you eat. Plus being nice us easier, " thank you very much" takes little effort

[@THETRIVIALTHINGS]

Agreed. As someone who used to work in the service industry, I can say that a good or a bad customer, can make the difference between "Meh...Life isn't so bad" and "I hate humans and want all of them to die" mentality. Being polite, and saying thanks never kills anyone.

[@keito-kun6618]

right. kindness is free

[@MrSpartanspud]

I always say please and thank you. But if I thought someone was going to make a veiled threat about spitting in my food if I didn't, I'd skelp them.

[@breakfestbob579]

@@THETRIVIALTHINGS dude I feel this on a spiritual level. Used to have this one guy come into the restaurant I worked at and he would for example order a cheeseburger and then request his beef patty to be burnt or as he put it "I want it to look like a piece of charcoal" and then he would have the audacity to say it wasn't burnt enough and would send it back multiple times or just decide all of the sudden that he doesn't want it burnt anymore so we'd have to remake it not to mention he was super rude.

[@brocolitta]

That pink-haired girl is my heroine

[@mattm4497]

She's awesome, right?

[@64bitUnity]

yeah she is a great example of a not too distant future, gotta she´s pretty too.. so that´s also nice to see

[@kunstderfugue]

僕も

[@MoiraMcGill]

She clearly knows her stuff

[@PpAirO5]

She's amazing 👍

[@gAbbYrOckzz]

Not allowed to pick up money from the floor? ...but it's your coin, like who else will get it for you? o_O

[@hory-portier]

That's where a gentleman would strike (Or a thief) .

[@user-zq7vi8lm4z]

5:13 how about both gender should not cheating? i find "if my partner cheat i should cheat too" is stupid. If your partner cheat just leave him/her. cheating is not okay regardless the gender

[@GenerationNextNextNext]

That's true, but it's just the fact the one carries more stigma than the other. Honestly, some people believe men will always cheat and that you have to deal with it in relationships. But no one considers that with women.

[@thisisntallowed9560]

Some people will cheat on their partner because they THINK that their partner cheated. And when the partner in fact didn't cheat so the partner get angry then goodbye couples. Confidence is great

[@atashikokoni]

I think what she's saying is that if the relationship isn't exclusive, it should be open for both partners. I like that attitude, even though I'm male.

[@NaohMkS]

Sora Gen Next i think that’s sad even from the male perspective. Why am I assumed to be a cheating ass just because I’m a man? Cheating is not nice for both genders :/

[@eggchi5159]

Rulliyana Fajri I think she meant if her significant other is cheating on her with someone, then it’s also okay with her to do the same. Not literally cheating on them, she’s implying it’s ‘okay’ to cheat on them if they are cheating on her too. Like an open relationship, she’s saying some Japanese boyfriends think it’s okay for them to see another woman but not okay for their girlfriend to see another man.

[@Thiink2ice]

One things I noticed as a foreigner travelling japan is that Japanese men mostly don't properly wash their hands when leaving a public restroom. They often only put two fingers (I guess the two they used to hold their thing) under the water for less than a second and go out immediately without drying hands. It's weird to me since Japanese are very clean and sanitary in general.

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

You should only be concerned if they are washing before they take a leak.

[@LilMissNintendo]

Would you be surprised to hear that Japanese women are mostly the same?

[@sumandhabolkar2819]

@@LilMissNintendo Why would japanese women use 2 fingers to hold their 'thing'. They don't have the 'thing'.

[@Citex61]

Wtf ? is this real

[@LilMissNintendo]

You are all welcome to see for yourselves, I'm just telling you what I see all the time: women exiting the stall, maybe passing their hand under the faucet, checking their hair, and leaving.

[@cesiuuu2890]

Japan- people mistreat waitress nothing happens USA - people mistreat waitress you get spit on your food 😂

[@jackychen7769]

@ I mean, the fact that it bothers you is the point of doing that. Why would you pick a fight that you don't want to be in against a guy asking for it? After all, if you act rude back, then you risk losing your job (happens in some places in the US, not sure about other countries) and your manager usually sucks up to the customers with free crap. All risk, no reward (aside from a small, prideful "even though I lost my job, I sure told him off"). Pick your battles.

[@MrSpartanspud]

Anyone who spits in anyone's food deserves to be beaten. If someone's acting like a cunt then be a man and confront them. If you can't be an adult then get on welfar.

[@yardencalif241]

--There's a double standard when it comes to cheating Yes! --Men are allowed to cheat while women must stay faithful, it's unfair! YES! --I mean, if the guy is allowed to cheat, I want to cheat too!! YE-- wait, what?

[@odizzido]

If they both agree to that then that's fine and wouldn't be cheating anymore. Seems perfectly fine to me.

[@shukrantpatil]

There’s a biological factor here ma’am , it has to do with the hormone cycle and the natural male instinct - of mating with as many females as possible in his life time :) I would have explained in detail , but I’m lazy ...

[@sh6161]

@@shukrantpatil biology is not an excuse to be an asshole

[@nigsbalchin226]

It's interesting that whenever this subject comes up that everyone seems to forget that it is with other women that men cheat. Apparently around 40% of young Japanese women are involved in prostitution. This tells me that the cheat-culture of Japan is a culture that involves both sexes, not just men. Cheat culture isn't a specifically men's problem, it's a Japanese cultural problem, and it needs to be addressed as such.

[@MrSpartanspud]

It does actually make more sense for men to cheat. But in a lot of countries it's actually more common for women to do so. Especially in "fairer" societies. Because in "fairer" societies women didn't have their privileges taken away from them when they were also given the privileges men had. Such as preferrential treatment in courts, especially marital and custodial courts.

[@Dusty_Inkwell]

I love that girl with the pinkish bob hair. She seemed very smart and damn i love her hair! xD

[@dreadogastusf3548]

I agree. Pink-bob is thoughtful and well spoken. I hope she runs for political office someday. "Mr. President. Prime Minister Pink-bob of Japan has arrived."

[@piachrisitian6794]

i think so ---------CHINA

[@Strawberry-zb9mz]

I had such a crush on her

[@SharifSourour]

Agreed!

[@placebo4874]

it was weird tho for her to say that cheating should be alright for both instead of saying nobody should do it.

[@megahomo8275]

Lmao my mom is mean to store workers too Pisses me off Like, theyr just doing their job, be nice Sometimes i have to go back and apologise afterward rip

[@lilyolmedo3773]

ikr it's always something they can't control too, im like mom stopp

[@anadd6195]

In Portugal the staff will scold her and she may get kicked out of the store or restaurant. In our culture we don't allow that.

[@robertadams8094]

Being rude to the wait staff in the US pretty much guarantees an unwanted substance in your food .

[@teary3109]

Yea..if someone treated me like that I would just ignore them

[@grzyruth9205]

Shows what you know about working a basic job lol

[@robertadams8094]

@@grzyruth9205 worked In a steel mill right out of high school at 18 for 10 years .

[@anadd6195]

In Portugal you get scolded or kicked out. We don't accept that behaviour in our culture.

[@MrSpartanspud]

Anyone who spits into food because someone was rude deserves their head kicked in. Refuse them service like an adult.

[@xtam]

Demn.. love these street interviews

[@Buzzramjet]

This is a VERY commen thread you have had before. The boys in Japan are rude and not polite to the girls. The Japanese girls like how Western boys and men are polite t them and t the wait staff. Hold doors for them, open doors for them. Let them in first, etc. AND maybe that is why the population of Japan is dropping. The young women are just tired of that attitude and won't put up with it. Well that and why lose your job because you are married or having a baby. So stay single and have your own money and job and tell the young men and boys to GFT. Which is why HOST BOY clubs do so well. THEY KNOW how to treat young women. Pay attention and be polite. Boy think doing that is a sign of weakness and as such won't be nice. Like I said the girls are just saying SCREW THEM.

[@Alternatives_Universum]

I hink the reason why the population is decreasing in Japan is because Japanese men have to dedicate their whole life to their company so there is no time to engage with females. In the end they don´t know how to interact with women and no babies are born. Also women study which is why they don´t think about getting children until they finish their studies.

[@Kotoamatsukami6910]

What you said is partly true, but does not effect that much. Italy, Spain and Germany have similar birth rate. The low birth rate is mainly because of the job culture in Japan

[@vanderbam2741]

@@Kotoamatsukami6910 there are plenty of interviews with Japanese women on KZbin who say this is exactly why. They are expected to give up their jobs if they marry, do all housework etc.

[@Kotoamatsukami6910]

@@vanderbam2741 Read my comment again

[@PpAirO5]

The best thing is when Cathy Cat says "Let's go ask Japanese" ✌😊

[@SkreD]

I'm pretty sure the "they always talk about important stuff never chat" it's because men do that with other men a lot (even more than girls i think) i'm assume she doesn't have a lot of male friends. And about double standards when I traveled to Japan whit friends my friend (who is a girl) stop at a store and i kept going further down the street by myself and passed in front of an elementary school. I looked inside while passing by and the policeman nearby stoped me and started talking to me with very firm and loud voice. Then when my female friend (who speaks a bit of japanese) catch up he immediately stoped because "there is no way a woman could do that".

[@sameera6255]

do what?

[@ghanaria7996]

sameera I’m pretty sure he was implying stalking/ watching elementary kids. Since his friend that was a girl caught up to him, the policeman thought he must be no harm because a girl was with him. Just my interpretation though.

[@sameera6255]

@@ghanaria7996 ohh ok gotcha

[@madao2794]

Yeah they view women as weak meek creature being, women purpose only being pretty and cute which again, sexist for women

[@Chanti0666]

Girl with pink hair ❤️ She would pair up nicely with the equality boy from 'Why girl Why' ^_^

[@nafslee]

They'd make the perfect power couple

[@Raquel96]

I totally agree about the double standards, it can be so frustrating like we wanna be free to whatever we’d like as well!

[@bobbiusshadow6985]

Let me ask you something, on dinner dates or whatever, do you expect the guy to pay the bill(s)? Real question, cuz lots of girls say they hate double standards, yet they use some of them to their advantage.

[@Raquel96]

@@bobbiusshadow6985 1000% I'd prefer to split it, that's what I'm comfortable with

[@evewhoo]

Raquel I'd split it too. That's only fair.

[@Billy-rr7re]

and what about a woman touching a man? if they do it is ok, if a man does it, it is rape what about women hitting men? if they do it is ok, he probably did something very bad to her but, if it is a man it is automatically abuse / rape what about, only men paying alimony ? what about spousal support? only men have to do it. if a woman has to, it is totally wrong and unacceptable what about women calling the police because a man hit her, the police take the man without evidence other than her word. guilty until proven innocent. what about men staring at a woman, creepy he is instantly creepy, a rapist but, if it is a woman, all is ok. nothing wrong there what about men ignoring ugly women, the man is shallow. when a woman does it, the man is a loser breast cancer funding is twice prostate cancer funding a man rapes a woman, full punishment is applied. woman does it to a boy, a couple of days in prison if she goes to prison at all. a woman cheats on her husband, he probably deserved it. a man does it, he is just a pig

[@fishmusic9395]

Dude wtf, if you want to live with double standards then it’s your problem but she never said that they only be established in a way that favors her

[@Mari-hb5do]

the first girl, yes, same. but I’ve seen people of both genders doing it, though yes you tend to see some guys treating waitresses as if they’re lower than them. in my case, I still fail a bit at using keigo sometimes since I’m still learning how to use the polite forms in japanese, but always try to be nice and respectful to people, regardless of the setting. also, the girl in pink, short hair is my spirit animal.

[@dandan7884]

"But boys will just say the most important things." hmmm hello??? what am i missing here

[@leisiyox]

Maybe she is refering to the fact that boys are more "direct" and "straight to the point" with their conversation topics and dont go on tangents so much.

[@MrVegiroth]

Hmm, she mentioned being too logically thinking. Maybe she means someone that may speak or act with more creativity or imagination? I like logical things, but there are times when I like to talk about things that don't make sense or are completely illogical. Or she could be referring to people who only talk when necessary. Not sure really, it's rather vague.

[@alcatrazvongola]

She means girls often make a lot of small talk to spend time while boys don't often like to waste time and cut to the chase in conversations.

[@Buzzramjet]

I think she is being somewhat sarcastic. That boys THINK what they say is more important and should be considered worth listening too whereas girls just gossip and have nothing of importance to say as far as boys are concerned. THAT is the problem with Japan that even in this modern age men treat women STILL as 2nd Class.

[@publicvoidmain]

​@@Buzzramjet Haha... but it's also somewhat true. I usually don't speak much, so when I do, it matters, it's got content. It's not often that I'm in the mood of "talking trash", i.e. chatting about pointless things. I'm definitely not a small talk guy, and usually go straight to the point... Well, I'm German, so that actually might be a cultural thing - and most women I met in Germany do chat/small talk more than the men I met here. Of course, there are exceptions. Interestingly, in other European countries I found a complete different situation. (Do the French guys EVER shut up?)

[@xxwallzxx4509]

Another great vid! Love the channel!! 🤗

[@Directgamez28]

Hi , love your channel am glad that i can learn alot more about japan and the people experince living in Japan. Also it great to hear the Japanese point of view what it like living there. 🤗🤗🤗 I hope to visit soon maybe even meet you. When can be good friends.

[@katrinawheatley5413]

I don't like double standards as well. I have changed a few tires in my day and sometimes women will come up to me and ask why I don't have a man change it for me. Who has time to wait around for a man to save me? If I know how to change it then let me do what I have to do so I can get back on he road. I have changed 5 tires in my life, it is a wonderful skill to know if you drive a car. (I can also change my own oil as well) My mom and dad instilled a great need of independence in me so I can navigate in this cold, hard, cruel world. I hope to instill these same values in both my little boy amd little girl. Great video as always! 🤗 Love the content and the perspectives. Have a great day! 🤗🤗🤗

[@Truepk]

This type of standard doesn't really bother the MAJORITY of women. Men tend to have bigger skeletal structures than women meaning the majority of men are stronger than the majority of women.

[@sumandhabolkar2819]

You are saying cold hard cruel world like you just came home from fighting the 2nd world war. Get off your high horse lady. You don't even know half of the hardships in this world. Big deal you changed your tires. School kids aged 10 died because of US missiles.

[@garciadimasnini]

@@sumandhabolkar2819 calm down

[@OllamhDrab]

@@Truepk That really only counts for so much. I mean, I've rebuilt *cars,* and sure, I'm stronger than a fair number of guys that still assume the opposite even if they never do anything physical, but there's usually a workaround. (And a lot of times there's helpful stronger people around but they don't have the *skills* to do anything requiring more finesse than 'push here' just cause they never practiced. ) I do hate it when they're like 'Women can't do this,' and I have to be like, 'Well, watch, why don't you.' On the other hand it's often a real good team-up to have me and stronger guy mechanics on something, (Most guy *mechanics* actually are stronger than me,) cause often I can get my hands or self in somewhere bigger people can't, which can mean a whole lot less disassembly to get at various bolts and fittings that could otherwise mean pulling off manifolds and maybe even removing engines and stuff. On the other hand, especially as I get older, ....am I ever going to get that crankshaft pulley off without making room for an impact wrench? Probably not. :) Now, am I in the 'majority,?' In a lot of ways, maybe not. But since when does 'majority' become 'Absolutes you must conform to' in the first place?

[@OllamhDrab]

@@sumandhabolkar2819 Oh, dry up. You're the only one comparing changing tires to war in the first place.

[@user-uj5pv6ph1p]

I Love your Channel so much :3

[@oceankai811]

The pink hair lady is real life waifu :3 work at the bar inside airport, I havent served any Jp man yet. most of the Jp girls I encountered are shy but they try their best to talk to us and their attitudes make the bar less chaotic.

[@brettrohlfingvideo]

Just a technical camera question for the camera operator, if they happen to read this: What lens and f-stop are you using, and are you using a tilt-shift or blurring in post? I ask because in some scenes it will look like Cathy is standing at a similar distance from the camera (focal plane) as the person speaking, but she will become very out of focus when the guest is speaking, which makes me think you are using like a f1.4, but then like at 0:44 of this video, the other guest is standing behind both of them, which really looks like she would be much further back than both of the others, so she would be even more out of focus than Cathy, but she isn't. I've seen these things a lot that don't seem to make sense considering normal rules of cameras, which is why I wondered about a tilt shift, but even sometimes I'm not sure if that explains it. If you read this and answer, thank you!

[@publicvoidmain]

I totally get that clothes thing. I don't wear the same things every day. I have everything (comfy) ten times... But it definitely IS stylish. In my weird gothic-metal-steampunky kind of way.

[@1sexymary]

It was interesting to hear what Japanese girls think of hostess bar girls

[@ikiyou]

where does Cathy get her sailor clothes? she has such cute fashion!

[@alexanderg8466]

According to both videos, japanese man hate usually the behaviour of women, while japanese women hate clothing and cheating.. :/

[@assholic666]

didn't the girls also say bad manners?

[@andrefurlan]

3:31 The orange hair girl rocks!!!

[@SaturnCrashing]

Agreed! Everything she said is on point

[@Wolfspaule]

Fortune telling is a thing in Japan? I mean, paying for someone lying to you about everything by saying what they think you want to hear. I can´t understand that.

[@kevinbaconwasntinfootloose1742]

When she said that I was like yeah you should listen to your male friend 🤣

[@MrSpartanspud]

It's even worse because she seems to know she is paying for someone to lie to her.

[@Dreaded88]

@Ask Japanese: Try to get more of these guys to watch the Japanese-translated version of the movie: *Waiting!* That'll get 'em to start being nicer to wait-staff real quick!!! *_>:)_*

[@user-vg2fm7zy4s]

I like the pink hair girl~ Love how she pointed out for both sides, yeah~~ \^O^/

[@doggypi1532]

The first one just from that I totes guessed it was a beer house lol~ I expected nothing less~

[@draconic367]

I love the black outfit. Do you ever wear a black or dark version of your usual interview clothes?

[@CHixon]

I have 10 identical shirts and 10 identical pants and always wear the same thing. I think it is strange that many people wear different things every day.

[@arieswildchild]

I like what the pink haired one said, she is so right.

[@rabbitandderbear]

Not sure who does the Thai subtitle, anyway there’s one bit around minute 5 that the girl mentions about cheating, it’s translated into “การโกง” which doesn’t sound right in this context (it only covers stuff like money or exam not relationship). I normally watch videos with English sub but this time I tried Thai sub and literally had no idea what she talked about so I changed back to English then finally found out, I’d recommend using “การนอกใจ” instead. Just a little thing to fix, the clip and content are great as always. Keep up!

[@cherrydaisuki]

i love what reddish pink hair girl said !!

[@anau7870]

Very educational 😤

[@kentot2position]

1:42 i like her smile

[@nyuchu]

cathy is the best host!

[@Mecks089]

Wait, now that I actually got time to finish the vid, that last girl,what's wrong with logic? I'm assuming she meant men who are too serious and in general, but there's nothing wrong with having a realistic mindset.

[@evewhoo]

Mecks089 Maybe she means she wants to talk more freely, and not focus on logic all the time. Like loosen up and have a little fun, or something like that. I don't think it has anything to do with having a realistic mindset.

[@NaohMkS]

I’m a guilty party in that. I enjoy talking about logic things, even in games what I enjoy most is either dissecting the plot or discussing about how to best play. If it’s not a goal oriented chat I struggle to stay engaged.

[@gobrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr]

Japan is a great destination to travel, but not easy for women to work/ live in there

[@MrSpartanspud]

It isn't that easy for me either.

[@xxjxxn6734]

I can relate to the not-so-fashionable guys and the fashionable guys. Because i went from wearing baggy jeans and some ugly ass shirt with random words on it or some random sports team to being fashionable just because i simply became friends with a model. I used to be insecure and didnt have a fashion sense. I used to think "wow this outfit looks too fashionable" "this outfit looks too good for me to wear" etc etc

[@Mecks089]

See with me it's quite the opposite, I'd prefer comfort over quality, nothing too comforting, but just casual enough to get by. Fashionable clothing oftened means heavy maintenance, and awareness of what you are wearing, I'd rather not have to deal with that, plus some clothing would feel too flashy or uncomfortable, and that'll just set me off in a foul mood the longer I'd wear it.

[@catpaws1913]

Same. I prefer being comfortable more than being flashy. If I want flashy and fashionable I'll need to hunt for a comfortable outfit that I can actually sleep in lol, if it's restricting and uncomfortable it not only makes yourself conscious of your outfit and it makes you feel less confident in that outfit so it basically defeats the purpose of having a great outfit if you can't feel confident in yourself and can't have fun because you keep worrying about your clothes.

[@Someone-uz5hr]

@@Mecks089 See i used to think before that fashion clothes were not comfortable and easy to maintain but that not true , there are many clothes Fashionable-comfortable-formal even easy to maintain 1 in 4 , you just need to search well and you will find .

[@Truepk]

@@Someone-uz5hr You also need to pay 2-3 times as much. Usually plaid does well for casual dress up on first meet ups.

[@azimpetra]

The difference is, men dedicate time, women multitask. Pretty sure this is why, even for me, I dislike empty conversation. If we’re going shopping, why don’t you know what you want to buy. Most of the time, men will get in-and-out. While women would go first, and then find out what they feel like buying. Wasting time, isn’t rewarding. Empty conversation isn’t fun, especially when people play along and keeps up with the conversation. In the end, when the same topic is brought up, the one who started the topic didn’t even remember what they said previously. I hate it, i don’t show it, its not for me and why i chose to stay away. - The way men are portrayed based on this video, seems like its a herd mentality. They have to be, to be accepted by their friends.

[@zenzenitha]

A lot of time men didn't even show the interest in the conversation at all when hanging out. It could goes lonely and distant fast. I think for couple the interaction itself is important, not a waste of time at all. The basic important information only kind of convo is fine for most ppl, at the same time developing more topics could give us better understanding of each other. Of course it have to be a convo where both could indulge in, that's why similar interests is important for longevity. And where there are no similar interests they in turn try to indulge in each other interest, not because the topic itself is exciting to them but because their partner excited about it and thus seeing them enjoy themselves is not a waste of time. As for similar interests for example some of my friends find food talk is a waste of time but for my other friend it's *the* conversation because we both love food. Some people find gossip interesting , some think it's a waste of time. It's less about men are x women are y, but more about the compatibility of each couple.

[@rameshhydbd]

For men process is work and completion is liberation. Thats why they get screwed in divorce battles. They want the process to get over quickly.

[@user-cx2if6xo8y]

Adoreable Next video’s should be add indonesian subtitle 🙌👌

[@jola6527]

A lot of boys/men say "it's gay" when it comes to fashion, beauty and such. I just can't understand that, because IT'S NOT.

[@restpack]

it's gay af. men are supposed to be men. leave the fake appearance and make up to insecure girls

[@darkwowpg]

Sure it is gay.

[@W.T.F599]

I can see why when it comes to certain things like make up.

[@MrVegiroth]

Sounds like they may be insecure or think that interests are what "make a man". My opinion is let people like what they like. If a guy wants to like fashion, just let him like it without the need to call him gay. If he is gay, so what? If he is not, so what? I personally don't care what someone else's sexual orientation is unless it's the person I'm dating.

[@jola6527]

@@restpack If I'm not mistaken, and I'm not, "gay" means that a man is sexually atracted to another man. It has nothing to do with washing your face in the evening or wearing fashionable clothes.

[@victoriairias7703]

One thing i cant wrap my head around is that a lote of people in the usa and other cuntries like to go to bars and clubs with stipers and stuff when they are realationships or married,even married coupls go together and stuff, for me that is chaating even tho they both decided to do it becayse you are constantly looking at guy or girls and desiring them and that is already cheating, i think doung that and going to those places is you being with arms wide open rto the posibility or cheating.

[@ylvabrandt6767]

Happy to see some girls standing up against the girl bars.. I absolutely hate the dynamics of these industries, including brothels and such as well ofc :/

[@AaronMetallion]

I relate, Ylva. End all human and non-human commodification and exploitation.

[@ylvabrandt6767]

@@AaronMetallion 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@meomann3980]

cool

[@hitler69]

メンズファッションに疑問持ってる人はまずメンズコーナーに行ってみるといいよ まず同じような服しか置いてない

[@dipashreeroy2836]

Same in India .

[@SelphieFairy]

8:28 I THINK THIS ALL THE TIME. Personally, I think it's because most guys don't pay that much attention to fashion, but to the ones who do, it's because they've recognized what a huge difference it makes. It's so funny, cause most of the shlobby guys probably don't even have to do that much to look better, because the standards are so low lmao.

[@woqui1023]

good

[@D3athW1ng]

You know 😚, the first girl that started talking is cute. She is my type and I like her frank attitude about this issue 😍. だが！ I have a rebutle. Some of us are the exact opposite of this type of guy she describes and we get chided for being too friendly by Japanese girls 😤. Being friendly to people that stand all day at work in any culture is a given. It's not specific to Japanese men only IMO. 🤔 I've seen my friends here in NY get smacked by their girls for being rude and friendly lol. 🤣

[@daniyalk713]

That girl who talked about cheating is so stupid and arrogant no one should cheat regardless of gender and if one does the other shouldn't just for the sake of it

[@xYonowaaru]

That's a pretty western point of view. You need to see her statement in the cultural context. Men cheating on Women is rather seen as something "normal", especially when no emotions (i.e. with prostitutes) are involved often it's kinda accepted/tolerated and the woman often would rather turn a blind eye and pretend it didn't happen/she doesn't know if she finds out. It's also not unusual that the man is working far away in another town, while the woman is staying at home with their kids, so they hardly see each other.

[@Nobody46890]

I guess I’ve seen this video on this channel before

[@manaoharsam4211]

Very interesting video. These women looking for real love, but appears that many men not aware to understand it. Having a life parter is a good choice.

[@gustavokobayashi2548]

Interesante la cultura de los ponjas.

[@anadd6195]

Companies and hostess bars - I definitely knew that side of the Japanese culture. Have heard about it.

[@bostontracy5151]

I agree with that confusion on disrespecting service staff (waiters, waitresses, etc.). They get your food when you can’t see it! As far as you know, they or the chefs haucked a lugie in it when it was being prepared or gave you some dandruff seasoning and you’re none the wiser!!! If they’re acting a bit short with you, perhaps they had a bad day. They work hard, so appreciate your wait-staff, tip well (here in the states), and ALWAYS thank them. As for cheating, that’s a dealbreaker. If either he or she cheats (it doesn’t matter which), that’s a permanent relationship ender. If he goes to some sexy bar, she can do the same. Here in the states, we try to treat both genders equally respectfully (I do, at least). There are physically some things men can do that are physically impossible or near-impossible for ladies, and there are some things women can do that are impossible or near-impossible for men; men and women are supposed to cover and make up for each other’s shortcomings. That can make them unstoppable.

[@OllamhDrab]

I think in the US some people are under the mistaken impression that treating working people like lackeys makes you come off like a higher-status individual (than maybe you even are,) but the reality's quite the opposite. That's why manners to all are called 'classy,' and all, whether you're rich or not. (It's been commonly remarked that a lot of very rude people elected the current President here cause he's really a boor's idea of what rich people get to act like, ...but it just shows money can't buy taste or class or for that matter competence. Not to get political, but that's some folks' idea of 'rich,' tacky gilt on everything and calling people names and trying to push people around all you want, as if you should want that anyway.) (And as cheating goes, I saw on one of these things that the definition of what 'cheating' even *is* differs between Japan and the West, some things being fine in one place and horrible betrayals in another, ...I think they key point there is double standards about some of those things. Not necessarily that everyone's sleeping around, as we'd assume, for instance. )

[@drinkyourtea]

Well being rude to waiters is rude no matter where it is though you should never be rude to wait staff they are just trying their hardest.

[@user-md5fo4jy6t]

タメ語で店員さんに話す日本の男性いるんだ。知らなかった。

[@txfreethinker]

It would be easier to remember the name of this channel if you changed the name to simply "Cathy Cat"! Please consider it. 🙂 Love you channel regardless. By the way, the girl, @ the 2:10 mark, who was talking about her good friend turned boyfriend who started calling her every 30 while she was at work, that's scary shit, ladies. That constant calling and asking "where are you at? What are you doing? Are you still at work? Who are you talking to?" shit. That's classic behavior of guys who are controlling and abusive. Get them out of your life, even if it means getting law enforcement involved. Be safe! And she was very wise and smart to break it off with that creep. "Scary" is an accurate way to describe him.

[@naomi-ot9tp]

am i the only one whos totally jealous of Japanese girls beauty?

[@innnn663]

no lol

[@alexandracharlton5092]

asians are jealous about westerners beauty as well, it's kinda funny really.

[@boboboy8189]

Are they really beauty? For me Japanese girl is far from others beauty

[@breakfestbob579]

Cheating on your partner is absolutely repulsive behavior no matter what culture or nation the individuals come from. I've also worked in food service off and on for a decade so I go out of my way to be as polite and easy on the staff as possible. Some customers have a total God complex and it's so unbelievably annoying.

[@TheQuestionmarkstudi]

What’s your favorite video game Cathy Cat?

[@armait7213]

Judul bahasa indonesia translate indonesia ga ada

[@peggsterc8749]

the thing about japanese idols is so true!!

[@MrSpartanspud]

It's because generally speaking young men aren't worth much. A man's value increases over time. Women are generally regarded as starting with high value which lowers as time goes on. Women have it easier for the first 30 or so years and guys have it easier from about 35+ when they start to actually be considered as worth something by society.

[@Ilicia_08]

So you were just supposed to leave your coin there? 😅 What the heck lol.

[@godmarzpopy362]

I don't follow the translation , is sexy bar just like a club where you can book a girl for drinks and chatting ?

[@OllamhDrab]

I gather as much, but I think there's more of a partying/entertaining sort of thing about it, whichever sex is doing the entertaining. Sort of like fairly sedate bachelor/bachelorette parties without the stripping, just social stuff and paying attention to people? I dunno if there's a direct equivalent here, ...escort work in a club setting, basically? (I've occasionally been discreet security for gals actually doing stuff like these things, and on the guys' side, I know some who did some dancing for the ladies and often found they just wanted to hang out and party, and/or chat, have someone pay attention to them, that sort of thing. I guess some of those places over there are seamier/sketchier than others, but closer in concept to a geisha place where there's company and maybe fantasy but not actually a brothel or something. just in this case more modern club atmosphere.

[@raulandrea9608]

i dont understand japanese, is possible subtitles in english? thanks

[@sgtpavlov]

click the cc button on the bottom of the video screen, to turn them on

[@kotominakano2843]

Well that's stupid to be so rude, sure your paying but meh. Still is treat others how you want be treated is the golden rule even tho yes it isnt always returned. In USA, I treat servers nice so they dont want to spit in my food or drink. Which happens a lot rather ur nice or not but nice does help ur chance of no spit

[@MadIIMike]

@7:30 Is it just my imagination or does the girl in red look like she's sad about getting too old to be or become an idol while the one in white talks about it? xD Also... : can someone please tell me what they mean with "Johnys"? I always tought it's just a slang for americans or westerners... a bunch of japanese girls were sitting on a table near me and while I was out with a japanese friend and he told me they think I'm a Johny... As for the outro, I'm now stuck between imagining cathy picking up a coin in typical anime fanservice fashion and her raging at the noobs on her team in online gaming.

[@kiana5650]

johnnys is a talent agency where basically all the male idols come from

[@MadIIMike]

@@kiana5650 Well, they must have been blind, drunk or both then... xD

[@quintrankid8045]

This was like a lesson in Human Reproductive Strategies. But... Men and women can have the same skills and interests. It's not clear to me that the double standards we have are to prevent that. It might be interesting to ask the ladies who work at those clubs what they think of the men who frequent them and one wonders if the men who go to the clubs could formulate an an answer if they were asked why they go, or in the case of people who go with their companies why their companies take them there, as opposed to just going to a bar or a restaurant. It should be no mystery that men who treat waitstaff badly are judged harshly by women. One quibble, I'm not so sure that all men are direct and only talk about 'important' things. Maybe I should be more emphatic? Besides, where I live the sun is setting behind scattered cold weather clouds. I think we should take some time to watch it go down and see the sky change from blue to red to purple. Kirei desu ne。

[@MrVegiroth]

Good video, but I feel I've seen these interviews before. Is it just me?

[@NaohMkS]

I had to recheck the title midvideo, I was hoping to have a good, lighthearted experience. Boy I was wrong.

[@dreamadventure8220]

i think clothing thing is universal for men around the world not just to japanese

[@Billy-rr7re]

7:56 they should ask women about that

[@baconpancakes8899]

Cuz girls dont really go for guys younger than them but older than them, hence male idols stay popular even when they get older. Guys generally come to reality more sooner than girls when it comes to idols and they can only date girls who are younger than them? Sometimes it not about wanting to make the girl feel weak but wanting to remind her about how much she is being cared for. But it can sometimes almost feel like parenting.

[@01marth]

By standard seem normal in any relationship i see before. What else is new?

[@brandydeleon3764]

Is it hot in Japan ?bcs in Europe is it cold

[@manaoharsam4211]

Yes double standards exist. Not only boys vs girls. It is weakness in our human nature . We must overcome such weakness. This is why Buddha spread Buddhism. I am not saying get to serious about Buddhist Philosophy, but it does give you ingredients for a happier life.

[@Kurayamiblack]

10:22 So... Did those boys bend down and get the coin for you like men, or did they just tell you to leave it and then walked away? 🤔

[@staringanime]

💜💙

[@fieryelf]

Either guys are rude to the staff in restaurants or the staff does a shitty job because they’re not getting a dime of tip in Japan.

[@alextamas3778]

quite in contrast, anime characters are really polite

[@user-mm9kv9nn5w]

Subaru: yes

[@roxassimmonds8291]

Oww he shocking moment who never against the people?

[@theshut-in1097]

Should ask a few boys on the behalf of the girls you questioned. The girl who stood in center nearing end brought up a point about men obsessing over the same pair of pants, but it could be the opposite and they just don't care what there wearing. All my jeans are the same type is denim blue jeans in different shades, i wear dark blue jeans to funerals and weddings! Eyes above the belt you fiends, I have feelings too!

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

You wear jeans to funerals. Hm where did you get such class?

[@BoxOfGod]

Emphasis is on the word - boys.

[@fekalistagrzybowory7619]

So, bist du kleine Frau, Cathy Cat??

[@user-ng1go1st6r]

on the nut-jod boys i know that pain the guy dose a 180 its a big turn off

[@lilpancake4393]

Whyyy! xdd

[@ruki4585]

2019?

[@wonderman7788]

The basic instincts of men and women are not equal and same. This is why the different mentality or perspective in both sexes. The efforts from both sides to get together is called 'love' .. Everything is about balance ,not equal

[@wildankiddrock4671]

Please use the Indonesian meaning

[@Terrakinetic]

That is depressing.