Why Kids Need Grandparents

[@heidiholom8086]

Just ordered the book thanks so much

[@TeachingSelfGovernment]

Hope you enjoy it!

[@carleyohare6694]

This is a great video. Makes me sad though. Grandparent want nothing to do with my Children ever since Covid. So hard

[@TeachingSelfGovernment]

I'm so sorry to hear that! If you think a relationship with them is important and needed for your children, then you and your family might have to be the one to initiate that relationship. That's how it goes sometimes.

[@danip7714]

What about kids whose grandparents are selfish, judgmental, and overall problematic?

[@TeachingSelfGovernment]

Great question! I actually answered a similar question on my weekly Support Group call, which is part of my support group. Biggest thing: pre-teach your children (give them a heads-up) when grandparents that are problematic are going to be present and clue them in to what they need to know in order to not get sucked into manipulations or power struggles. Also, help your children analyze why the grandparents might be acting the way they are, making sure there is no judgement. Just logical deduction and reasoning. This can help you and them see the grandparents in a different light. If need be, it's okay to set boundaries with grandparents, letting them know your reasoning if you decide to say "no" to a visit from them or mountains of toys from them. Pre-teach them as well, saying that you are still working on learning and teaching skills and aren't quite ready for others to enter or influence your family system yet. I wouldn't completely shut them out, though. Lastly, find and focus on the good things these grandparents say/do. Praise behavior promotes that behavior.

[@uanip1341]

Not my son’s grandparents lol. I think I will have to keep him away from them lol

[@TeachingSelfGovernment]

I'm sad his grandparents aren't ideal. Sometimes, despite all of our best efforts, other people do not fit into the ideal relationships we want for our children. Keep analyzing!

[@melissaa2337]

Hi nicholeen, I suggest you change your thumbnail.

[@TeachingSelfGovernment]

Thank you for your feedback. You're not the first one to say something about my thumbnails. :) I have a team of people who put my videos together and they do the thumbnails. Some of them look a little wacky, but they've told me the reason why and I'm alright with their reasoning.